Thanks for watching this week's bm break! this episode was a bit sad, but i think it is important to talk about. Feel free to leave any suggestions or thoughts :D
Good topic, kinda bumming out when it was the first real one you got into, but at the same time, it was an important one, so nicely done.... Suggestion for another topic, I think would be a good branch off from this one..... Friendship, more specifically "finding your people." You mentioned your friends were further away, and you spoke of your friend that you gamed with on the other channel, do you feel like you've found your people, are you still searching for your people? Do you think it's hard or easy to find your own people? etc.
i want to say i think youre very brave for being able to share this here, and i think its important because i think a lot of people feel the same way. i struggle with a lot of paranoia and anxiety, and it makes it extremely hard to truly connect with people or share things. regardless of anxiety or anything else, people are the hardest, most scary thing to deal with in life. thats because in order to truly connect we have to be open: open to being hurt, rejected, embarrassed, and everything else that can go wrong. the important things to remember though are that 1.youre not alone in your sadness or loneliness, and 2. theres hope. the reason i love games is because its a place where i can meet and hang with people without the anxiety of real life. in the past ive being lucky to find friends online who became like family to me, friends who i could be my hyper, idiot self with and share feelings i never thought i could. i got to meet some of them irl and i even ended up being coworkers with one:). they all helped me be able to go outside and move forward with my life, and without them i wouldnt be here today. so moral of the story: push through that fear and keep trying, because there are friends out there for you sorry for the essay lol
I'll tell you as someone in my 30s that this has been a continuous pattern my whole life. I've searched for close friends my whole life. I've had close bonds with people here and there that I knew for short periods. Ive also luckily got friends I've known most of my life (but never get to see because I moved and we live in different states) The best advice I can give is to accept how things are, and be kind and loving and understanding towards the friends you do have in your life, whether irl or online. Cultivate wisdom in how you interact in groups and how you act when you're alone... I'm not saying you're not doing that I'm just saying it always serves everyone who practices it. Embracing and cherishing SOLITUDE changed my whole outlook in life, and a healthy appreciation of solitude makes those social moments more rich. Idk everything for everyone but this is MY experience. I crave social interactions but I really love my alone time a lot and it's necessary for my mental health 😅 This is another thing that I hope helps anyone reading this, that whats more important than spending lots of time with a group of friends, or just anyone, is having a handful or even one friend that you know knows you and understands you and appreciates you for who you are, no matter how often you get to spend time together. That's more fulfilling than having 10,000 friends. Figure out who has your best interests at heart, and when you can't find that friend, be that friend. One true faithful friend > 10,000 fake friends any day. Also you, bm, are really kind for sharing this video 😊 Alright, have a great day everyone 😌
i feel incredibly similar. it kind of refreshing to hear someone share the same sentiment!! i love that you are so open to talking about deeper subjects, its super important that people discuss things like this
@ 6:45 The Shyness shows in your tone. You mentioned earlier in the video that you don't touch grass.... Have you tried? And I'm going to take it to a more literal sense.... I'm allergic to grass, so I can't do this anymore, but maybe some day when you're feeling off either after work, or on a day you have off, go outside, take a seat on your lawn, if you don't have a lawn, go to the park, and just watch the world around you. Look up at the clouds, listen to the birds, close your eyes and just enjoy the breeze. Take a few minutes out for you, and only you, where you can watch the world pass you by. I know it sounds a bit sad, but the reality of it is, it can be uplifting. Give you a new look at life, to truly embrace the world around you. It may help you for those off days. And if it doesn't... You don't have to do it again, but try it, at least once. You might be surprised.
i met my best friend irl , and it the 7 years i've know him , we met like maximum 10 times , we play games and talk on discord A LOT , to this day , and i don't feel that lonely because i know we're genuinely good friends and not the kind you meet at school and forget abt when you go home , also if we're all kinda lonely why not just talk to each other ? yk since we understand how the other person feels
I'm a a bit (read a lot) older, and it's not just you who feels this way sometimes. I'm married and have 2 adult kids still at home. There are times I feel exactly like what you are describing. Talking about our struggles openly will (in the long run) help us all. Even though it can be hard and society looks down on people for having and sharing feelings. A lot of times people don't know you are even struggling. Even if you share that with your community here I think it helps. Keep up the videos. I have enjoyed them.
I get it. I'm 55 and my kids are grown and doing their own thing. I isolate. Then I get lonely. I plan on creating a local community to get me out more.
It is nice to look at your mining, but i think you lost a Amethyst Geode, it was at 12:03, the dark blocks at the brance you are going down to looks like basalt
I think no matter what accomplishment it may be, if it makes you genuinely happy, it’s ok to share it with others who will be happy for you. If they judge you for it maybe they aren’t worth your time and friendship. You have to start somewhere, right? This is just your new beginning. Be proud of it❤
I may do a lot of these, because I'm doing them as I watch. For example this is my second one and I am only at 3:50 right now. I want to say this stuff though, and I hope you get the chance to read it. I am an online roleplayer. For those who don't know what it is, it's best described as acting, but typing it out instead of being in front of a screen. We're writers, but we interact. So I'll write for my character, and someone else will write for theirs. A lot of people in the 'real world' (I say it that way because I'm rather tired of people treating the internet like it's fake, abusing people like they're not REAL people behind their screens, it's crap thinking and the way I see it, if you have that attitude online, why should I believe you're a good person off, you know? anyway, back to my point), they don't understand what I do. They don't always get that I take great pride in creating a massive story, in a pretend world, with fake characters and people that I've never seen at my local grocery store. So I get that feeling all too well, feeling like you can't talk to people, but the reality of it is, this is something that you take joy in, something you want to do. The people who care about you, they're going to support you. So, when you finish an episode, if you feel pride in it.... Tell them. If it makes you feel better lead with a "So I'm sure this isn't a big deal to you guys so please don't laugh at me but.... I did a youtube episode today and I felt really good about it afterwards, I felt like I connected with the people who watched it and I got comments that made me smile, and I feel like I may just be making a difference, even if it is a little one." Because the reality is? These episodes, they are empowering, and they can make a difference, because even if you reach only one person BM.... You could have changed that one person's entire life.
Watching UA-camrs always made me feel happy during my low points when I was younger, and that’s why I wanted to start content creation myself. In that regard, it seems as though we wanted to start for similar reasons! I have a really hard time making friends because I’ve never really felt like I fit in any where, and after I moved away from my hometown, I didn’t make any friends for years. Thanks to my channel, I was able to meet some awesome people online who have now become some of my best friends - which is still so crazy to me haha, who would’ve thought I’d make friends through UA-cam? They’re some of the only people I’m able to be myself around, and it’s been nice to slowly break down my walls and really be true to myself.
My biggest advice to beat loneliness, be the social person you want to be … don’t be what others expect you to be. You’ll find people will naturally gravitate to you, you don’t need to prove yourself to others. Be chill!!
Unfortunately, social media, has not done for society what it should, it has instead turned to a very negative road. So many times people tend to forget this is the WORLD WIDE web. We're not all of us from the same country. We don't all of us speak the same language. We're not all the same color. We don't all have the same religious beliefs.... etc. Where people should be uniting and embracing differences, people are instead judging others for it, and that is causing a ripple effect that is forcing people to feel they can't be themselves, even towards those who have never made them question themselves before.
I can kinda relate to this I leave my room and touch grass fairly regularly and am allways active and sporty outside but it allways fells like a chore to talk to anyone and be social irl and I always get social anxiety and just brush of anything that I wanna talk about but then online I fell like I can just yap away and talk about my problems a bit more and I can just be myself but I can’t irl and I’m super introverted but I wanna be more extroverted so that I don’t fell as Lonely and man plying geometry dash has felt like a huge chore for me recently I’m just not having fun and I’m struggling with pressure irl for a lot of things.
Weeeeeeee. already 100thound subs from just two vids (4 if ya count main) your video are so cool and calming. Keep it up. Rember guys talk care of your slef and drink water. its fine to want to be alone we all human. Have a good day/night yall.
Now i'm sad because i didn't find this gem before right now. this is a gold mine. this is kinda selfish but i kinda want this all for myself (like this not growing) but at the same time i would love to see you grow. Regarding the topic, meeting up with people in real life is definitely more fun, but trust me, it's not about whether you hang out in real life or online, it's about who you hang out with, you can have more fun with people online than you'll ever be in real life. You will meet up someone who will make you forget what sadness is, and will even make you excited to go out and hanging out with them, or even online you'd feel so much fun you will forget you're even living. note: (content creators having a lot of friends doesn't mean anything, those are all fake friends or only friends for benefits)
I want you to know that I don't know you, and across the infinite internet, never will. You were randomly recommended to me while I was searching at 3 am for videos made by former friends of mine on a Minecraft server I played when I was 13 in the far-off year of 2015. What I want to say is, even though I was a kid then, I lost a lot of friendships over time because I let them lapse. Is that because they didn't matter to me? No. People drift into and out of our lives like tidal waves. The loneliness we feel in the interim between friendships doesn't take away the meaning that those connections used to bring, and I've never fully forgotten them. It's okay to feel sad sometimes, and want to stay in bed. You can't have all those happy moments and all those connections if you don't spend some time by yourself thinking and forgetting. The sadness makes the happiness have meaning. It makes you a well-rounded, and more fully fleshed out human being, too. A character in a movie that's always happy go-lucky, or always sad and depressed, is not as good of a character as a real human being, like yourself. Do not be afraid to speak truthfully about your emotions - they're who you really are.
you are the realest person ever. i feel so seen & i know exactly what you mean. maybe it’s because i feel like we’re similar in age but i think you’re cool. keep it up :)
Thanks for watching this week's bm break! this episode was a bit sad, but i think it is important to talk about. Feel free to leave any suggestions or thoughts :D
Good topic, kinda bumming out when it was the first real one you got into, but at the same time, it was an important one, so nicely done.... Suggestion for another topic, I think would be a good branch off from this one..... Friendship, more specifically "finding your people." You mentioned your friends were further away, and you spoke of your friend that you gamed with on the other channel, do you feel like you've found your people, are you still searching for your people? Do you think it's hard or easy to find your own people? etc.
i want to say i think youre very brave for being able to share this here, and i think its important because i think a lot of people feel the same way. i struggle with a lot of paranoia and anxiety, and it makes it extremely hard to truly connect with people or share things. regardless of anxiety or anything else, people are the hardest, most scary thing to deal with in life. thats because in order to truly connect we have to be open: open to being hurt, rejected, embarrassed, and everything else that can go wrong. the important things to remember though are that 1.youre not alone in your sadness or loneliness, and 2. theres hope. the reason i love games is because its a place where i can meet and hang with people without the anxiety of real life. in the past ive being lucky to find friends online who became like family to me, friends who i could be my hyper, idiot self with and share feelings i never thought i could. i got to meet some of them irl and i even ended up being coworkers with one:). they all helped me be able to go outside and move forward with my life, and without them i wouldnt be here today. so moral of the story: push through that fear and keep trying, because there are friends out there for you
sorry for the essay lol
I'll tell you as someone in my 30s that this has been a continuous pattern my whole life. I've searched for close friends my whole life. I've had close bonds with people here and there that I knew for short periods. Ive also luckily got friends I've known most of my life (but never get to see because I moved and we live in different states)
The best advice I can give is to accept how things are, and be kind and loving and understanding towards the friends you do have in your life, whether irl or online. Cultivate wisdom in how you interact in groups and how you act when you're alone... I'm not saying you're not doing that I'm just saying it always serves everyone who practices it.
Embracing and cherishing SOLITUDE changed my whole outlook in life, and a healthy appreciation of solitude makes those social moments more rich. Idk everything for everyone but this is MY experience. I crave social interactions but I really love my alone time a lot and it's necessary for my mental health 😅
This is another thing that I hope helps anyone reading this, that whats more important than spending lots of time with a group of friends, or just anyone, is having a handful or even one friend that you know knows you and understands you and appreciates you for who you are, no matter how often you get to spend time together. That's more fulfilling than having 10,000 friends. Figure out who has your best interests at heart, and when you can't find that friend, be that friend. One true faithful friend > 10,000 fake friends any day.
Also you, bm, are really kind for sharing this video 😊
Alright, have a great day everyone 😌
I relate to this well… you have good advice
i feel incredibly similar. it kind of refreshing to hear someone share the same sentiment!! i love that you are so open to talking about deeper subjects, its super important that people discuss things like this
@ 6:45 The Shyness shows in your tone. You mentioned earlier in the video that you don't touch grass.... Have you tried? And I'm going to take it to a more literal sense.... I'm allergic to grass, so I can't do this anymore, but maybe some day when you're feeling off either after work, or on a day you have off, go outside, take a seat on your lawn, if you don't have a lawn, go to the park, and just watch the world around you. Look up at the clouds, listen to the birds, close your eyes and just enjoy the breeze. Take a few minutes out for you, and only you, where you can watch the world pass you by. I know it sounds a bit sad, but the reality of it is, it can be uplifting. Give you a new look at life, to truly embrace the world around you. It may help you for those off days. And if it doesn't... You don't have to do it again, but try it, at least once. You might be surprised.
i met my best friend irl , and it the 7 years i've know him , we met like maximum 10 times , we play games and talk on discord A LOT , to this day , and i don't feel that lonely because i know we're genuinely good friends and not the kind you meet at school and forget abt when you go home , also if we're all kinda lonely why not just talk to each other ? yk since we understand how the other person feels
I'm a a bit (read a lot) older, and it's not just you who feels this way sometimes. I'm married and have 2 adult kids still at home. There are times I feel exactly like what you are describing. Talking about our struggles openly will (in the long run) help us all. Even though it can be hard and society looks down on people for having and sharing feelings. A lot of times people don't know you are even struggling. Even if you share that with your community here I think it helps. Keep up the videos. I have enjoyed them.
I get it. I'm 55 and my kids are grown and doing their own thing. I isolate. Then I get lonely. I plan on creating a local community to get me out more.
It is nice to look at your mining, but i think you lost a Amethyst Geode, it was at 12:03, the dark blocks at the brance you are going down to looks like basalt
I think no matter what accomplishment it may be, if it makes you genuinely happy, it’s ok to share it with others who will be happy for you. If they judge you for it maybe they aren’t worth your time and friendship. You have to start somewhere, right? This is just your new beginning. Be proud of it❤
I may do a lot of these, because I'm doing them as I watch. For example this is my second one and I am only at 3:50 right now. I want to say this stuff though, and I hope you get the chance to read it.
I am an online roleplayer. For those who don't know what it is, it's best described as acting, but typing it out instead of being in front of a screen. We're writers, but we interact. So I'll write for my character, and someone else will write for theirs.
A lot of people in the 'real world' (I say it that way because I'm rather tired of people treating the internet like it's fake, abusing people like they're not REAL people behind their screens, it's crap thinking and the way I see it, if you have that attitude online, why should I believe you're a good person off, you know? anyway, back to my point), they don't understand what I do. They don't always get that I take great pride in creating a massive story, in a pretend world, with fake characters and people that I've never seen at my local grocery store. So I get that feeling all too well, feeling like you can't talk to people, but the reality of it is, this is something that you take joy in, something you want to do.
The people who care about you, they're going to support you. So, when you finish an episode, if you feel pride in it.... Tell them. If it makes you feel better lead with a "So I'm sure this isn't a big deal to you guys so please don't laugh at me but.... I did a youtube episode today and I felt really good about it afterwards, I felt like I connected with the people who watched it and I got comments that made me smile, and I feel like I may just be making a difference, even if it is a little one." Because the reality is? These episodes, they are empowering, and they can make a difference, because even if you reach only one person BM.... You could have changed that one person's entire life.
Watching UA-camrs always made me feel happy during my low points when I was younger, and that’s why I wanted to start content creation myself. In that regard, it seems as though we wanted to start for similar reasons!
I have a really hard time making friends because I’ve never really felt like I fit in any where, and after I moved away from my hometown, I didn’t make any friends for years. Thanks to my channel, I was able to meet some awesome people online who have now become some of my best friends - which is still so crazy to me haha, who would’ve thought I’d make friends through UA-cam? They’re some of the only people I’m able to be myself around, and it’s been nice to slowly break down my walls and really be true to myself.
My biggest advice to beat loneliness, be the social person you want to be … don’t be what others expect you to be. You’ll find people will naturally gravitate to you, you don’t need to prove yourself to others. Be chill!!
Unfortunately, social media, has not done for society what it should, it has instead turned to a very negative road.
So many times people tend to forget this is the WORLD WIDE web.
We're not all of us from the same country. We don't all of us speak the same language. We're not all the same color. We don't all have the same religious beliefs.... etc.
Where people should be uniting and embracing differences, people are instead judging others for it, and that is causing a ripple effect that is forcing people to feel they can't be themselves, even towards those who have never made them question themselves before.
I can kinda relate to this I leave my room and touch grass fairly regularly and am allways active and sporty outside but it allways fells like a chore to talk to anyone and be social irl and I always get social anxiety and just brush of anything that I wanna talk about but then online I fell like I can just yap away and talk about my problems a bit more and I can just be myself but I can’t irl and I’m super introverted but I wanna be more extroverted so that I don’t fell as Lonely and man plying geometry dash has felt like a huge chore for me recently I’m just not having fun and I’m struggling with pressure irl for a lot of things.
Weeeeeeee. already 100thound subs from just two vids (4 if ya count main) your video are so cool and calming. Keep it up. Rember guys talk care of your slef and drink water. its fine to want to be alone we all human. Have a good day/night yall.
Also want to add that I admire your braveness and openness.
yay another bm video!
I love your videos❤ Can't wait to watch this in the background as I play hollow knight :D
Thank you so much, that means so much to me
Great game choice :)
Mankind may figure out how to beat loneliness before Silksong releases😂
Now i'm sad because i didn't find this gem before right now. this is a gold mine. this is kinda selfish but i kinda want this all for myself (like this not growing) but at the same time i would love to see you grow.
Regarding the topic, meeting up with people in real life is definitely more fun, but trust me, it's not about whether you hang out in real life or online, it's about who you hang out with, you can have more fun with people online than you'll ever be in real life. You will meet up someone who will make you forget what sadness is, and will even make you excited to go out and hanging out with them, or even online you'd feel so much fun you will forget you're even living.
note: (content creators having a lot of friends doesn't mean anything, those are all fake friends or only friends for benefits)
it was posted an hour ago so you kinda did find it pretty early
I want you to know that I don't know you, and across the infinite internet, never will. You were randomly recommended to me while I was searching at 3 am for videos made by former friends of mine on a Minecraft server I played when I was 13 in the far-off year of 2015. What I want to say is, even though I was a kid then, I lost a lot of friendships over time because I let them lapse. Is that because they didn't matter to me? No. People drift into and out of our lives like tidal waves. The loneliness we feel in the interim between friendships doesn't take away the meaning that those connections used to bring, and I've never fully forgotten them. It's okay to feel sad sometimes, and want to stay in bed. You can't have all those happy moments and all those connections if you don't spend some time by yourself thinking and forgetting. The sadness makes the happiness have meaning. It makes you a well-rounded, and more fully fleshed out human being, too. A character in a movie that's always happy go-lucky, or always sad and depressed, is not as good of a character as a real human being, like yourself. Do not be afraid to speak truthfully about your emotions - they're who you really are.
Yay Bm’s back🦦
you are the realest person ever. i feel so seen & i know exactly what you mean. maybe it’s because i feel like we’re similar in age but i think you’re cool. keep it up :)
4:36 we are the same person
another great video kepp it up anf its nice to know that there are more pepole like this
Thank you!!
boutta listen and gts
sorry to double comment but your discord invite doesn't work !!
Oh no!! I just fixed it :D
@@HeyImMB thank you!!