Yeah its really ironic since China has around 40-50 million more men than women who physically can't be in a monogamous relationship due to pure math. Wonder what the leftover men are called over there?
@@henrytep8884they are simply called men. Men should be begging for Chinese women to marry them, if they want a wife, not calling 30 years old women "left over". But instead of stepping up their game to try to convince women to marry them they prefer to insult women and traffick women from other countries to supply their demand.
It is disgusting... As you heard the old man. Leftover women are like leftover food; no one wants a leftover.. Being treated less than a person is one of the worst treatments you will receive from others
In China people who have advanced degrees are essentially given a pass on the whole age expectation. However there is a nasty perception of women who go down this route, enough to create the stereotype of "three genders" - Men, Women, and PhD Women.
My parents expecting me to focus on study and do not spend time on relationships before I graduate of master program and get married as soon as possible after that. I told my parents to have a nice dream because nothing is impossible in dream.😹
Being financially independent and having a stable career at the age of 24??? Me: Preparing for my exams tomorrow and waiting to play the new Call of duty game.
@@henrytep8884 I get what you're saying. Personally, I haven't played advanced warfare and black ops 3 for being over the top. But the new game has a nostalgia factor for me as modern warfare series is still my favourite FPS series.
It’s so easy for people to decide what age OTHERS should get married lol. Old people say women should bear child before 25 but if the wife is not bringing any income because she is carrying a child since 20 years old these same old people would say the wives are useless and should take care of every need of her husband as her husband is earning money.theres no right or wrong just live your life the way you want
yes, and because she's jobless, in causes by raising child and doing household, the man will treat her like his nanny or maid to ask anything to serve him and never helping with the family business like raising children and doing wifey things. and the mother in law correct the man actions.
@Blackpilled Saint to raise one kid is hard enough not to mention more. Just the fact that girl bring one life in life is so hard and no men can understand that. This days womens are indepedent , work and do housework. But boys still lazzyass who are tired just cuz they work 7 hours in day. To be mother mean to work 24/24 ( ofc there are so many men who do both , all arent the same.)
@Blackpilled Saint Same for you no one force men to work. But instead you force girls to get pregnant ( if one of them dont want , u will call her shamless , b*tch etc etc) In the end from one girl come u to this world, from one girl u will be able to be parent. And that your work 7 hours cant be comparet with work of wife. She work for family 24/7 dont forget.
The Screaming Banana I think one of important reasons is normal people would not make such comments like you said, then the left are all negative.Really, sometimes it's annoying to see these kind of comments, you know the impression of whole Chinese is affected by the little part of people.
Yu have to know who you are. Your identity as nothing to do with your parents. Know who you and you will find the same person who knows exactly who they are.
Chinese parents before you graduate college: I'll break your bones if you date someone Chinese parents on your graduation day: now give birth to my boy and girl twin grandchildren. immediately.
Blackpilled Saint it is a fact that biologically, healthy women at the age of 28 are suited best for childbearing. any age lower is most definitely untrue. simply not factual but a myth. now take ur fetish elsewhere
Honestly I feel like in ur twenties, u have to live for unselfish not ur baby. In ur 20s ur establishing ur career, taking risks, studying and also having fun. It’s important. And sacrificing it for a child? No for me
@Blackpilled Saint they all want to follow their actress/singer that have multiple of plastic surgery and bait the young people with money to form the marriage.
They do exist because there are less women than men in China because female babies have been killed for decades because of their misogynistic culture. But they solve this problem by trafficking women from other countries.
I had this mindset during my grade school days, almost 15 years had passed and I am in my late 20s and still single and loving it. Though, I admit that I’ve been asked by close family members when to settle down. I love them but I want to live my life according to my own timeline. No need to rush. It will come naturally. If not, at least I live happily 😘🥰❤️
Leftover women, that's so bad to say. Basically it's like saying women are only good for having children. I respect all cultures but it's just so hard to hear these things
@@anonymousdude7 Not only those, but by his height also! Waiting for the gynocentric Asian Boss to delete my comment in 5.....4.....3.......2.......1.............
@@Matthew-qt3jk Why employers do not solely hire women if they could save the 30% pay gap? The answer is because of male privilege! There were literally thousands of women who could've done much better job than George Washington in battling the Brits, he was picked solely due to his gender. Also, America could've saved 30% and could have founding mothers instead of founding fathers.
Actually men might not be as badly leftovered after 30 because they might be working for their value, whereas for women their value are already innate because they are born with their beauty hence if they don't get married by 28 or 30 they really are leftovers as they have nothing else to give in the dating market besides their beauty.
I'm in my twenties, my girlfriend is in her thirties. We're not married yet but have been happily for 3.5 years together already. We're both Asians. So, see girls, no need to worry. Just live your life and move on once you feel ready. Don't pressure yourself. :-)
It's funny they say 24? Are they didn't see the real life, In China those are still 24 are still struggling with their own self and life. Funny hahahaha
I don’t think they’ve interviewed right person, usually it will be 28... 24 is soooo early. For students many of them are still in process of postgraduate study... those who don’t go to uni will get married early
I’m a Chineses girl .I’m 23 now. I don’t want to get married and nowadays more and more Chinese girls think that we have to focus on ourselves than find a man to get married. Although we’re small amount of girls in China, but I think it will be a trend in the future.
Yeah fr I am 18 and I’m pretty much taking a gap year. Well I’m in a uni and major I don’t like so I’m trying dropout and go abroad to China and there ill prob spend 1-2 years learning the language so I feel like being financially independent at 24 is impossible for me and maybe I’m making a wrong choice losing these years. I’m from a third-world country but my big sister at 23 already had a dual degree, became a successful ceo and already had a baby so it just makes me even more scared of the future. But I still want to go abroad for better learning experience and make use of the privilege my family have.
Out of all 3 countries these answers feels the most traditional and out of date, perhaps it is because most of the people getting interviewed are of a different generation.
@B3llet Truth but women participation and entrepreneurship in China is higher than Korea and Japan.Self-made female billionaires in China ranked first .Husbands in China are eager to lend a helping hand when it comes to domestic duties.
@@npcimknot958 I'm pretty sure there are a lot more less educated countries than China. U can't really call China the least educated country when they have the most STEM graduates out of any country in the world. The older generation is definitely less educated due China being one of the poorest countries back in the 20th century. Now that it industrialised and became richer, the younger generation are much more educated.
To that one man that said 20 years old what?! A person literally just came out of their teens and is in college and he expects them to get married and have a baby? NO!
They are deemed leftovers because they are no longer ideal mates if the guy wants to have children. At that age, it is more likely for the girl to find a life partner rather than to start a family. You need to study more about human biology, especially on the risk of conceiving a child after 35 for females. Apart from increasing chances of the child having genetic defects and down syndrome, the mother also risks higher complications during delivery.
@Laviana Lavender *andartu* is a shortform of *"ANDAR"* from the word *"ANak DARa"* while *"TU"* is from *"TUa"* so it became *ANDARTU* Ps; *anak* *dara* means a girl or young woman *tua* means old. So it's like they combined the words and this use like a shortform or something with the meaning of *an old woman* . i hope it helps! :)
the mama on 1:55, that's the kind of parent young ppl fear the most...the smile basically tells u "if u dont get married before 24, i'm gonna find u a partner n force u to marry him!"
"By the age of 24 a woman's ambition ad direction of her profession should be clear." Yes, maybe, for some lucky ones. but after you gave birth your carreer slows down. For a 24 year old it hasn't even started yet. So what are these old people are talking about? This is a path of a stay-home mum.
The last lady nailed it. My older brother always said it unfair that our society immediately judging an older lady married man which younger than her age. But never side eye to those older men married younger lady.
Seriously, the "Leftover Woman" term is just as misogynistic as Japan's "Christmas Cake". It's not like marriage makes a woman's life complete or will guarantee her everlasting happiness. Society shouldn't pressure women to get married since marriage is serious business. It's about commitment. Not everyone is for marriage and there's no choice for society to accept that fact. Sadly, though, most people in society are morons.
society won't care about a single woman's happiness when their birth rate are low as hell and their population are keep aging. unless you could find a way to counter the negative aspect of an aging population society. not saying this is right but that's what happens there
Hello my friend, one day you will realize there are no more young people (coz all dun marry have kids) when you're old, then you will start to wonder.. Thinking out of the box, there is aging population problem. China still not yet in the top 10 list now thankfully due to still have traditional beliefs. Country and Society CANNOT prosper with aging population. You are right that there is no choice for society to accept fact that marriage is not for everyone but that is a SOCIETY PROBLEM.
Great Video! It would be interesting to see if these parents would think the same way if the girl is financially successful and making a lot of $$$ and supporting her family. Would she still be as pressured to be married and have children, or would parents be more supportive of her own personal success and happiness?
Nope. Well, my parents are because they are very open minded and I've been Americanized, but to my conservative grandparents and other family members living in China, they think my PhD interfered with my marriage potential. Financial success is fine, but at end of the day, your loved ones provide you with more happiness than your job, and marriage means finding a love one that can accompany you through life but I wasted that time getting a PhD instead, lol. Fortunately I live in US and don't plan to date/live in China so there's a bit less of that mentality. I am a little intimidated by my upcoming trip back home to China tho, lol, because it will be a week of various relatives asking me why I'm not married and leftover women blah blah blah. I'll probably *have* to treat myself to a trip to Universal Studio once I'm back to destress. :P
There is one female CEO in china who is financially stable and has a baby wo a husband like she went to a place to get sperms inside her and her mom is pretty chill tbh there are many in china and I know one single father who’s a ceo and raised a daughter who just went to college overseas and the friend told me how he broke down crying after his daughter called him mom and thanked him for all his hard work
@@adandelionwish At the end of the day marriage provides as much happiness as a job does, not more not less. Don't worry too much, I always tell anyone who asks me about getting married: marriage life is not for me and your views on life is not my views on life.
@@adandelionwish You can find love at any age, even when you are not looking or dating. People can get married at any age. Just enjoy life and never say never!
Fanya_Gyu No worries you’re doing great! It is their traditional mind that has to change. Tbh when I go back I always avoid Chinese New Year just so I don’t need to face the entire family lol.
It's remarkable that a lot of older people based on their answers on ideal child-bearing ages, yet none of the younger people interviewed mentioned it.
This video feature interviews with the older generation and their opinions on the topic. The previous videos in Japan and South Korea didn't have that.
This video is very unfair to the Chinese ppl . You go interview young women in Japan and Korea, then suddenly decide to interview concerned parents and grandparents in China? This gives me the feeling your trying to give viewers a certain perspective about the Chinese society . Not cool Asian Boss. Not cool.
You are right. There is a truly huge gap between the elder generations and younger generations, which make all viewers at Asian boss think that all Chinese support what those elderly people said in this video clip.
3:35 that guy was spitting facts, and it's honestly not a matter of age it's a matter of maturity. Some who reach that supposed age will still be in that immature state so that's just facts he was saying, kudos to him on and you don't mature over the years you mature over the situation, that's growth and maturity
Women can't wait though. The older they are the higher risks they carry when conceiving a child. After the age of 35, the chances of the child having genetic defects and down syndrome increases severely and the mother also risks higher complications during delivery.
That one woman already told us, to "repay" the state but more importantly, the parents. And this is how it works: Earn good money and marry soon so you can (have to) move in with your parents into the house your husband is supposed to buy and babysit them for the rest of their lives. There is no social security in China, together you're expected to care for your child/children, parents and grandparents. Parents in that case don't necessarily care about their child to get married, they're thinking about their own future
That's why living your life as you want it, be financially independent and getting away from toxic ppl is so important. I don't give a f about what others say and think about me. If I'm a "left over" woman, I'm proud of it! As long as women are healthy and wealthy, nothing else has to matter.
The older generations still think the average lifespan is around 50. Seriously, marriage is not a joke and only choose to do so if you had found your soulmate! If not, you will have a bad relationship with your other ones.
You need to study more about human biology, especially on the risk of conceiving a child after 35 for females. Apart from increasing chances of the child having genetic defects and down syndrome, the mother also risks higher complications during delivery.
Jay Sern Tan I am sorry to say but I do know that. I am not necessarily talking about childbirth here because not all marriages results in a child. I am just talking about relationship. No matter how early you marry and have a kid, if your relationship is bad, it will cause stress. That is why I reject early marriages unless you known the partner since a long time and knows he or she is your right one.
@@Tingling10 25 to 35 aren't considered early anymore. By early, people normally meant 18-24 (basically the college-age/just started working age). Not saying that everyone has to get married before the age of 35 but due to biological reasoning, females after the age of 35 would be considered to be the least ideal mate especially for guys that want to start a family. Like the video says "leftovers".
24? I'm 23 and my salary can't even cover my living expenses. I don't have an expensive lifestyle. I think the right time to get married would be when we are financially and psychologically ready.
Times have changed already = practicality. Nowadays, if you wanna get married and start a family, the big question is: Can I afford it????? Raising a family above the average standard is quite hard to reach. It is unfair not to give the next generation the same quality life that was given to you by your parents. Therefore, forget about it if you don’t have enough savings.
Out of the 3 countries Japan-South Korea-China, this one is the most extreme one. I feel so sad hearing those old people's opinions and demands. Hope Chinese matured women out there finds their happiness not only based on age and relationship things, but being truth to themselves.
This one is also the one where they interviewed old people, so no wonder. But I bet even if you interview old people in Japan, they're better at putting things more subtly
There are so many interview videos on this topic tbh. Asian Boss should also ask this same question to the men in Japan, Korea, and China to see how they compare.
@@cooliipie Exactly correct! And the Chinese have known this reality long before Modern Science was invented. Younger and more vigorous wombs and eggs produce healthy offspring. Older and less vigorous wombs and eggs produce defective offspring. By mating and procreating at the best breeding age, females put themselves in a position to produce robust offspring, which is like winning the lottery. It is a waste of life and of time to be investing in defective offspring if and when they can be avoided by mating before wombs and eggs are practically worthless.
I think this is interesting. The older generation seems to go more on the traditional route of marrying young, whereas the younger generations seem to be more focused on their careers and want to marry later in life.
the "leftover" word seems to put women in a passive position where it's as if women are born to be selected by men. They forget that women can still be autonomous.
One of the interviewees literally said "leftover man, leftover woman" so the label is applied to both sexes but you will never catch the media picking this up, cause China bad.
Please next episode: -Gaming culture in Southeast Asia I'm so curious how many hours they spend on games a day. some people prefer gaming more than anything.
I enjoy learning about aspects of contemporary Asian cultures, and have found “Asian Boss” informative and entertaining. Could you prepare more videos along these lines for Taiwan, Hong Kong and Singapore as these are majority-Chinese societies that are evolving along different trajectories than PRC (China)? Thanks
My Family might be called leftover family then. Because: My Father and My Mother married at age 29 and 28 My older siister married at age 25 My older brother and I still doesn married even we are 29 and 23 years old
Didn't feel like the interviewees had a Shanghainese accent. SH is like New York, a lot of the ppl living there don't have a native accent. Like there are a ton of ppl who live in New York w/o a New York accent.
I've not decided if the term "left over woman " is offensive yet. When your 21 your in college or starting your career you haven't started to live yet why tie yourself down to a man?
Well said. So honest. I was married at 27 and regret it so bad. My ethnicity is Chinese but i don't live in China. Should have chased my dream. Should have lived for myself. Should have pursue my career. Should have carved my path with my own tools. Instead of tying myself down to a man and waste my life living for his purpose.
@@lizliz8195 I hope you can do both. Funny thing is that I am free and it's still a challenge to face all the "should haves" and "could haves" of what I'm not indulging in while I'm free. Wishing you assertiveness and whatever you need to live a life that feels right to you.
I'm a asian woman and evertime I told my friends if I don't wanna get married, they always looking me like "Do you wanna live alone forever? And if you die soon there's no family in your funeral ". Is that matter if you wanna get married or not, just do whatever you want, I hope family can support too
I watched all 3 videos. Japan and Korea is similar, however China feels different from the two. I wanna hear what people would say in Taiwan and Hong Kong.
If the goal of marriage is to produce children then before 30 is best. If it is to produce a happy loving couple that can provide a loving home to children then after 30 is better. That is true everywhere including China. In reality in China it is men that are being leftover more than women. That is primarily happening not because of successful career women but because of China's One Child Policy.
According to the most recent census, there are more women than men in my country so some women are bound to stay unmarried or single, I'll just count myself in with the extras.
Mallaマヤ you could just date men from other countries or move to another country if you want to unless you come from somewhere your not allowed to leave
"By the age of 24, you are financially independent. And you basically have a stable career."
Me, 24 years old: extremely triggered
Hi. 😂
@@flsaurus HI GUGA! :) How are you?
different cultures，diffferent expectations。i think its better to marry between 28-31 both men and women
Almost everyone Pretty much.
Aléxia Teles I am chinese and I feel attacked LMAO
using the term "leftover" to define other human beings is so degrading.
Yeah its really ironic since China has around 40-50 million more men than women who physically can't be in a monogamous relationship due to pure math. Wonder what the leftover men are called over there?
@@henrytep8884they are simply called men. Men should be begging for Chinese women to marry them, if they want a wife, not calling 30 years old women "left over". But instead of stepping up their game to try to convince women to marry them they prefer to insult women and traffick women from other countries to supply their demand.
It is disgusting... As you heard the old man. Leftover women are like leftover food; no one wants a leftover..
Being treated less than a person is one of the worst treatments you will receive from others
@@henrytep8884 They're called meat shields. For the army. :O
It is not you left over piece of meat.
I'm glad you guys are diversifying and covering the same topic in different asian countries. Good job!
@@arthurfleck1254 based
Asian boss thinks there are only 7, 8 countries in Asia.
@@nf-ru2qj don't u think operating in a new country cost nothing? They are expanding for sure. but hey, U can donate to help.
im loving it too and they added opinions of parents
@@nf-ru2qj 100%
at 24 you are financially independent and have a stable career...
laughs in medical school :l
Blaire 101 and architecture school...
and law =/
In China people who have advanced degrees are essentially given a pass on the whole age expectation. However there is a nasty perception of women who go down this route, enough to create the stereotype of "three genders" - Men, Women, and PhD Women.
Same law school
@@ruedelta That's sad to hear.
Asian parents: They should bare a child at the age of 20
Also them to their 18 year old children: You have to be home by 8PM
definitely right
Felicia Wang Sure. Not all of them. Things are definitely getting better, but it's still kinda a common thought among elder generations
because in some asian countries having a child before marriage is not right/accepted
Give them a break. Their just want to protect their kids. Beside it's reasonable. Many bad things happen after dark. Assault, robbery. Name it!
My parents expecting me to focus on study and do not spend time on relationships before I graduate of master program and get married as soon as possible after that. I told my parents to have a nice dream because nothing is impossible in dream.😹
Being financially independent and having a stable career at the age of 24???
Me: Preparing for my exams tomorrow and waiting to play the new Call of duty game.
Haha feeling the same
Me 26 and still can't find a career after college.
Yeah there's your problem, you still play COD? Wouldn't touch that franchise with a 100 foot pole.
@@henrytep8884 I get what you're saying.
Personally, I haven't played advanced warfare and black ops 3 for being over the top.
But the new game has a nostalgia factor for me as modern warfare series is still my favourite FPS series.
@@himanshusoni1422 This is called a healthy discussion.
It’s so easy for people to decide what age OTHERS should get married lol. Old people say women should bear child before 25 but if the wife is not bringing any income because she is carrying a child since 20 years old these same old people would say the wives are useless and should take care of every need of her husband as her husband is earning money.theres no right or wrong just live your life the way you want
Sad but true
yes, and because she's jobless, in causes by raising child and doing household, the man will treat her like his nanny or maid to ask anything to serve him and never helping with the family business like raising children and doing wifey things. and the mother in law correct the man actions.
@Blackpilled Saint cool
@Blackpilled Saint to raise one kid is hard enough not to mention more. Just the fact that girl bring one life in life is so hard and no men can understand that. This days womens are indepedent , work and do housework. But boys still lazzyass who are tired just cuz they work 7 hours in day. To be mother mean to work 24/24 ( ofc there are so many men who do both , all arent the same.)
@Blackpilled Saint Same for you no one force men to work. But instead you force girls to get pregnant ( if one of them dont want , u will call her shamless , b*tch etc etc) In the end from one girl come u to this world, from one girl u will be able to be parent.
And that your work 7 hours cant be comparet with work of wife. She work for family 24/7 dont forget.
Financially independent? My student loans tell me otherwise.
inspiritedchristian shanghai people r rich that why
More like Chinese college students don’t graduate with massive debts
the us is really the only place with such astronomically high college tuitions, so the rest of the world doesn't have our problems lol
There is no such a thing as student loans in China.
😭
I hope people in China would care more about themselves, instead of others, even your children. Everyone should have their own life, happy life.
That is indeed a conflict between the western individualistic culture and the collective culture of the east ... it takes time
The funny thing is that I see comments about Chinese being selfish and greedy, and this comment is saying that they SHOULD care about themselves.
@@windywendi a healthy balance between these two ideals would be nice
That's it omg, i live in a chinese family and they care too much about others opinions
The Screaming Banana I think one of important reasons is normal people would not make such comments like you said, then the left are all negative.Really, sometimes it's annoying to see these kind of comments, you know the impression of whole Chinese is affected by the little part of people.
I love this "what is the ideal age ... " series.
Yeah. This series is really interesting.
Marry when you're READY (financial,mentality,emotional), not when your parents wants you to married then you'll be more happy
Hey Michael i live in Istanbul i agree your opinion im 24 years old i dont have a job and mentally i dont think im grown 😂😂😂👍
Yu have to know who you are. Your identity as nothing to do with your parents. Know who you and you will find the same person who knows exactly who they are.
Chinese parents before you graduate college: I'll break your bones if you date someone
Chinese parents on your graduation day: now give birth to my boy and girl twin grandchildren. immediately.
That is very similar to many Indian parents.
Indians too
I would say “before you graduate Hahn school” is more appropriate, while you are in college , parents are actually encouraging you to date
The dude said “ 20 years old , when she is young and vigorous ” I sometimes forget to eat because of college...
Blackpilled Saint oh
@Blackpilled Saint You psycho lol
@Blackpilled Saint It's not what you said. It's the way you said it lol
Blackpilled Saint it is a fact that biologically, healthy women at the age of 28 are suited best for childbearing. any age lower is most definitely untrue. simply not factual but a myth. now take ur fetish elsewhere
Honestly I feel like in ur twenties, u have to live for unselfish not ur baby. In ur 20s ur establishing ur career, taking risks, studying and also having fun. It’s important. And sacrificing it for a child? No for me
I feel like out of the 3 countries, so far Korea's label "Golden Miss" sounds more positive than the other 3.
@Blackpilled Saint they all want to follow their actress/singer that have multiple of plastic surgery and bait the young people with money to form the marriage.
Ya, you could get and Golden Miss tattoo and wear it with pride. I don't think the other two would work.
Why do "leftover men" not exist?
It actually exists
Unfortunately it's bc guys don't have a biological clock and concept of double standards doesnt exist LOL
Because women aren't fertile forever. While a man can constantly produce into his elderly years.
They do exist because there are less women than men in China because female babies have been killed for decades because of their misogynistic culture. But they solve this problem by trafficking women from other countries.
Cause a men of any age can get pregnant a woman, while the woman is the one carries the baby, and can get infertile sooner.
I had this mindset during my grade school days, almost 15 years had passed and I am in my late 20s and still single and loving it. Though, I admit that I’ve been asked by close family members when to settle down. I love them but I want to live my life according to my own timeline. No need to rush. It will come naturally. If not, at least I live happily 😘🥰❤️
Leftover women, that's so bad to say. Basically it's like saying women are only good for having children. I respect all cultures but it's just so hard to hear these things
Do you think it is OK to judge a man by his wealth & status ?!...
@@anonymousdude7 Not only those, but by his height also! Waiting for the gynocentric Asian Boss to delete my comment in 5.....4.....3.......2.......1.............
@@WalkerTexasWanker lmao ive been shadowbanned every time i tell someone to stop listening to their feminist propaganda in college
@@anonymousdude7 no, it's not ok. I know they do that in Asia too.
@@Matthew-qt3jk Why employers do not solely hire women if they could save the 30% pay gap?
The answer is because of male privilege! There were literally thousands of women who could've done much better job than George Washington in battling the Brits, he was picked solely due to his gender.
Also, America could've saved 30% and could have founding mothers instead of founding fathers.
Do one on the men.
yen xion
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Chinese dudes are literally screwed by the numbers AND a culture that views them as disposable/ATMs
@@shortchubbyneckbeard1681 THAT'S THE IRONY I LOVE🤣🤣🤣
Actually men might not be as badly leftovered after 30 because they might be working for their value, whereas for women their value are already innate because they are born with their beauty hence if they don't get married by 28 or 30 they really are leftovers as they have nothing else to give in the dating market besides their beauty.
I'm in my twenties, my girlfriend is in her thirties. We're not married yet but have been happily for 3.5 years together already. We're both Asians. So, see girls, no need to worry. Just live your life and move on once you feel ready. Don't pressure yourself. :-)
It's funny they say 24? Are they didn't see the real life, In China those are still 24 are still struggling with their own self and life. Funny hahahaha
I don’t think they’ve interviewed right person, usually it will be 28... 24 is soooo early. For students many of them are still in process of postgraduate study... those who don’t go to uni will get married early
26 and still figuring out what to do with my life lol..
i'd like to know if the elders interviewd here are in a happy marriage
I’m a Chineses girl .I’m 23 now. I don’t want to get married and nowadays more and more Chinese girls think that we have to focus on ourselves than find a man to get married. Although we’re small amount of girls in China, but I think it will be a trend in the future.
Good luck
@Melodyqtt now 3 years later this is really happening
I'm a 26-year-old guy and hearing that lady said by the age of 24 one is financially stable made me even more depressed.
Yeah fr I am 18 and I’m pretty much taking a gap year. Well I’m in a uni and major I don’t like so I’m trying dropout and go abroad to China and there ill prob spend 1-2 years learning the language so I feel like being financially independent at 24 is impossible for me and maybe I’m making a wrong choice losing these years. I’m from a third-world country but my big sister at 23 already had a dual degree, became a successful ceo and already had a baby so it just makes me even more scared of the future. But I still want to go abroad for better learning experience and make use of the privilege my family have.
Out of all 3 countries these answers feels the most traditional and out of date, perhaps it is because most of the people getting interviewed are of a different generation.
everlilies least educated in the modern times
@B3llet Truth true
@B3llet Truth but women participation and entrepreneurship in China is higher than Korea and Japan.Self-made female billionaires in China ranked first .Husbands in China are eager to lend a helping hand when it comes to domestic duties.
China is traditional
@@npcimknot958 I'm pretty sure there are a lot more less educated countries than China. U can't really call China the least educated country when they have the most STEM graduates out of any country in the world. The older generation is definitely less educated due China being one of the poorest countries back in the 20th century. Now that it industrialised and became richer, the younger generation are much more educated.
"The perfect age to get married is between 25 and 30".
Me: 24, still single and play 24/7 Minecraft.
Just a brotip. Dont waste your 20s on minecraft. Youll really regret it
And there’s nothing wrong with that :) (coming from a single 20 year old)
wtf minecraft? Played it in 2010, thought it was neat, then stopped, same age.
Minecraft is awesome. Don't feel bad.
@@catzrulez5233 LOL dude hahha.
To that one man that said 20 years old what?! A person literally just came out of their teens and is in college and he expects them to get married and have a baby? NO!
春华 In their times, very few women went to university
J C that’s true but I’m sure he knows most people go to college now a days so he should know his standard is unrealistic
Wasn't that guy like 70 years old? He practically grew up in a different era. Not surprising he'd say that, to be fair
Women over 35 no need to be so unconfident. And they are absolutely NOT leftovers.
45 YO is waaay to young to marry. The ideal marriage for women is 65-70 YO. Whereas for men is 25-30 YO.
They are at higher risk for birth complications and the health of their children, but they should be respected yes..
BossWafflez wtf. What if the woman doesn’t want to marry. And what about men older than 25, aren’t they leftovers too
@@user-ke5rz1cw5d Kinda yea, but their Seed stays more healthy longer than a Females Egg, so it's not the same.
They are deemed leftovers because they are no longer ideal mates if the guy wants to have children. At that age, it is more likely for the girl to find a life partner rather than to start a family. You need to study more about human biology, especially on the risk of conceiving a child after 35 for females. Apart from increasing chances of the child having genetic defects and down syndrome, the mother also risks higher complications during delivery.
I'm 24 and still got panic when I lose my mom in supermarket.
That’s why no one will want to marry you
Ikr
@Allen Kryie I'm a girl btw 😊
@@MoARlnd High five!
At least you have a sense loft humor about it
Gold Miss : Korea
Christmas Cake : Japan
Leftover Women : China
Meanwhile in Malaysia is Andartu lol.
wait really i havent heard that lmao
@Laviana Lavender *andartu* is a shortform of *"ANDAR"* from the word *"ANak DARa"* while *"TU"* is from *"TUa"* so it became *ANDARTU*
Ps; *anak* *dara* means a girl or young woman
*tua* means old. So it's like they combined the words and this use like a shortform or something with the meaning of *an old woman* . i hope it helps! :)
@@annurm4787 lol malaysian too? Well this andartu is like everywhere for a woman who is old and havent married yet.
No Asian boss representative in Malaysia :(
in the philippines we call it *matandang dalaga*
To the girl at 6:46 - YOU GO GIRL!!! TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!
My Relatives : When r u going to get married ?
Me: May
Also Me: May be yes , May be no
Thank you, this is great, does not work for my language unfortunately :D
im going to try this on my people😋
the mama on 1:55, that's the kind of parent young ppl fear the most...the smile basically tells u "if u dont get married before 24, i'm gonna find u a partner n force u to marry him!"
"By the age of 24 a woman's ambition ad direction of her profession should be clear." Yes, maybe, for some lucky ones. but after you gave birth your carreer slows down. For a 24 year old it hasn't even started yet. So what are these old people are talking about? This is a path of a stay-home mum.
Yes, so hopefully her husband doesn't die or get hurt. The "stay at home mom" won't have any money to keep the family going if that happens.
Because they will take care of their Children's kids😂
Nothing wrong with stay home moms
"By the time they graduate college they have a stable career path"
Laughs in crippling economy
It is unrealistic in any country.
"By the age of 24, you are financially independent. And you basically have a stable career."
*sweats in 30 year old american*
Lots of people in China are addicted to the idea of stability...
... and the government loves them to think in that way
The last lady nailed it. My older brother always said it unfair that our society immediately judging an older lady married man which younger than her age. But never side eye to those older men married younger lady.
There’s also a difference- having a grandkid vs marriage. Most of these peeps want offspring not happiness for their kid
Seriously, the "Leftover Woman" term is just as misogynistic as Japan's "Christmas Cake". It's not like marriage makes a woman's life complete or will guarantee her everlasting happiness. Society shouldn't pressure women to get married since marriage is serious business. It's about commitment. Not everyone is for marriage and there's no choice for society to accept that fact. Sadly, though, most people in society are morons.
Unfortunately it's still a very Confucian society, so values are very patriarchal and male-centric
society won't care about a single woman's happiness when their birth rate are low as hell and their population are keep aging. unless you could find a way to counter the negative aspect of an aging population society. not saying this is right but that's what happens there
Can I print your comment and give it to my family and relatives?
@@blulai sure thing 👍
Hello my friend, one day you will realize there are no more young people (coz all dun marry have kids) when you're old, then you will start to wonder..
Thinking out of the box, there is aging population problem.
China still not yet in the top 10 list now thankfully due to still have traditional beliefs.
Country and Society CANNOT prosper with aging population.
You are right that there is no choice for society to accept fact that marriage is not for everyone but that is a SOCIETY PROBLEM.
Love the comment of the woman with the glasses at the very end of the video 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💖💖💖💖💖
I wonder why you didn't interview older people in Korea and Japan for this topic.
Li Yang a lot of people suggested it in the past videos, maybe they listened
Maybe none were willing to speak on camera about this topic. Who knows
They did. Korea and Japan were first to be posted
@zigyzigy13 what an interesting place to find a wu mao. Put your tin foil hat back on and go hide from the mole ppl
zigyzigy13 Shut up racist
Do one of those in India!
Even if they do.. i feel evry country is same and its just ppl choice we to get married..
It a tragedy to be a woman in India.
@@tsyngiautan5201 thats wat uneducated ppl like you speak... get ur education completed first and dont waste ur time on UA-cam
@@tsyngiautan5201 learn to respect evry country...
@@tsyngiautan5201 you know what is tragedy..?people like yu are still alive..how dare you to diss India stupid .
Great Video! It would be interesting to see if these parents would think the same way if the girl is financially successful and making a lot of $$$ and supporting her family. Would she still be as pressured to be married and have children, or would parents be more supportive of her own personal success and happiness?
Nope. Well, my parents are because they are very open minded and I've been Americanized, but to my conservative grandparents and other family members living in China, they think my PhD interfered with my marriage potential. Financial success is fine, but at end of the day, your loved ones provide you with more happiness than your job, and marriage means finding a love one that can accompany you through life but I wasted that time getting a PhD instead, lol. Fortunately I live in US and don't plan to date/live in China so there's a bit less of that mentality. I am a little intimidated by my upcoming trip back home to China tho, lol, because it will be a week of various relatives asking me why I'm not married and leftover women blah blah blah. I'll probably *have* to treat myself to a trip to Universal Studio once I'm back to destress. :P
There is one female CEO in china who is financially stable and has a baby wo a husband like she went to a place to get sperms inside her and her mom is pretty chill tbh there are many in china and I know one single father who’s a ceo and raised a daughter who just went to college overseas and the friend told me how he broke down crying after his daughter called him mom and thanked him for all his hard work
@@adandelionwish At the end of the day marriage provides as much happiness as a job does, not more not less. Don't worry too much, I always tell anyone who asks me about getting married: marriage life is not for me and your views on life is not my views on life.
@@adandelionwish You can find love at any age, even when you are not looking or dating. People can get married at any age. Just enjoy life and never say never!
Fanya_Gyu No worries you’re doing great! It is their traditional mind that has to change. Tbh when I go back I always avoid Chinese New Year just so I don’t need to face the entire family lol.
It's remarkable that a lot of older people based on their answers on ideal child-bearing ages, yet none of the younger people interviewed mentioned it.
yukuhana because the younger person in this video are leftovers.
5:55 Is anyone going to talk about how pretty this girl is?! Her hair and skin are gorgeous 😍
She would be considered average in China tbh
@@GorditoCrunch343U are wrong. She is a beauty.
Her hair is everything 💅
She’s considered not pretty (not ugly but maybe a 4) in China
This video feature interviews with the older generation and their opinions on the topic.
The previous videos in Japan and South Korea didn't have that.
20 years old??? Oh hell no I’ll be doing my bachelor’s lolllll
got so excited when i saw 唐嫣 and 罗晋 on the thumbnail!!
My dad married his high school sweetheart. Together 22 years
This video is very unfair to the Chinese ppl . You go interview young women in Japan and Korea, then suddenly decide to interview concerned parents and grandparents in China? This gives me the feeling your trying to give viewers a certain perspective about the Chinese society . Not cool Asian Boss. Not cool.
ok China Numba Wan!!
@@mariaz2207 this isn't a matter of nationalism, it's news outlets unfair criticism of a certain society
You are right. There is a truly huge gap between the elder generations and younger generations, which make all viewers at Asian boss think that all Chinese support what those elderly people said in this video clip.
3:35 that guy was spitting facts, and it's honestly not a matter of age it's a matter of maturity. Some who reach that supposed age will still be in that immature state so that's just facts he was saying, kudos to him on and you don't mature over the years you mature over the situation, that's growth and maturity
Career Is Always Important. There is no Harm in delaying your Marriage. Marriage can Wait Oppurtunities Can"t.
Women can't wait though. The older they are the higher risks they carry when conceiving a child. After the age of 35, the chances of the child having genetic defects and down syndrome increases severely and the mother also risks higher complications during delivery.
That one woman already told us, to "repay" the state but more importantly, the parents. And this is how it works: Earn good money and marry soon so you can (have to) move in with your parents into the house your husband is supposed to buy and babysit them for the rest of their lives. There is no social security in China, together you're expected to care for your child/children, parents and grandparents. Parents in that case don't necessarily care about their child to get married, they're thinking about their own future
That's why living your life as you want it, be financially independent and getting away from toxic ppl is so important. I don't give a f about what others say and think about me. If I'm a "left over" woman, I'm proud of it! As long as women are healthy and wealthy, nothing else has to matter.
these middle and old aged folks are delusional.
It's what they grew up with, so you can't exactly blame them. But I see what you're talking about though.
Yes. That old hag i mean old grandpa at the beginning is simply unacceptable. Smh.
I agree with you!
A bit harsh, but...yeah. They're a product of their time.
Please do an interview about the korean feminist film Kim Ji-Young, Born 1982 - even if you have to blur faces in order to get honest opinions
Glad to also hear the elderly perspective this time. They looked strict tho so scary 😂😂😂
The older generations still think the average lifespan is around 50. Seriously, marriage is not a joke and only choose to do so if you had found your soulmate! If not, you will have a bad relationship with your other ones.
You need to study more about human biology, especially on the risk of conceiving a child after 35 for females. Apart from increasing chances of the child having genetic defects and down syndrome, the mother also risks higher complications during delivery.
Jay Sern Tan
I am sorry to say but I do know that. I am not necessarily talking about childbirth here because not all marriages results in a child. I am just talking about relationship. No matter how early you marry and have a kid, if your relationship is bad, it will cause stress. That is why I reject early marriages unless you known the partner since a long time and knows he or she is your right one.
@@Tingling10 25 to 35 aren't considered early anymore. By early, people normally meant 18-24 (basically the college-age/just started working age). Not saying that everyone has to get married before the age of 35 but due to biological reasoning, females after the age of 35 would be considered to be the least ideal mate especially for guys that want to start a family. Like the video says "leftovers".
@@holypredator u say that to a woman u will die a very lonely man in ur 70s .U would know who is a leftover
;O I saw the thumbnail, and I’m actually so happy for the two! First saw them on Princess Weiyoung.
For the rapid development recent years，the society of China has changed a lot. There seems big gap between the olders and the young generation.
yeah ,you're right
Ita good that here you asked people of all ages, and men also. You didnt do this in the japan and korea video
24? I'm 23 and my salary can't even cover my living expenses. I don't have an expensive lifestyle. I think the right time to get married would be when we are financially and psychologically ready.
Times have changed already = practicality.
Nowadays, if you wanna get married and start a family, the big question is:
Can I afford it?????
Raising a family above the average standard is quite hard to reach.
It is unfair not to give the next generation the same quality life that was given to you by your parents.
Therefore, forget about it if you don’t have enough savings.
This one was the more wholesome interview among the three countries, (Korea, Japan & China). It had the views from a wider age group.
Out of the 3 countries Japan-South Korea-China, this one is the most extreme one. I feel so sad hearing those old people's opinions and demands. Hope Chinese matured women out there finds their happiness not only based on age and relationship things, but being truth to themselves.
This one is also the one where they interviewed old people, so no wonder. But I bet even if you interview old people in Japan, they're better at putting things more subtly
that old men "you shuld have babies by 20, no more than 25", dude, i'm 29 and still feel a baby, how can i have one?!
29 are serious years ,you can't afford to be a child at that age
Lol this is crazy. I’m 26 and I’m barely making ends meet. I’ll take being leftover but financially stable over being married and barely scrapping by.
Why would marriage harm you financially? You get to share so many costs.
There are so many interview videos on this topic tbh. Asian Boss should also ask this same question to the men in Japan, Korea, and China to see how they compare.
At 25, this gives me major anxiety. I'm already "old" for my non-asian family's standard age range to get married.
20 is way to early ... getting married during your late 20's to mid 30's is perfect
Feels like I’m watching an ancient philosophy. Sorry.
🎯 💯 😊
Feels more like an ancient superstition.
Science says women go infertile
@@cooliipie
Exactly correct!
And the Chinese have known this reality long before Modern Science was invented.
Younger and more vigorous wombs and eggs produce healthy offspring.
Older and less vigorous wombs and eggs produce defective offspring.
By mating and procreating at the best breeding age, females put themselves in a position to produce robust offspring, which is like winning the lottery.
It is a waste of life and of time to be investing in defective offspring if and when they can be avoided by mating before wombs and eggs are practically worthless.
@@nirbija lol wut
We all have our own timeline, so marry when it's yours and your significant other's time to say "I do." That's the true beauty of life.
I think this is interesting. The older generation seems to go more on the traditional route of marrying young, whereas the younger generations seem to be more focused on their careers and want to marry later in life.
the "leftover" word seems to put women in a passive position where it's as if women are born to be selected by men. They forget that women can still be autonomous.
One of the interviewees literally said "leftover man, leftover woman" so the label is applied to both sexes but you will never catch the media picking this up, cause China bad.
Chinese wedding dresses are so beautiful!!
marry a fob chinese guy and youll wear one on yours hahahhah
i seriously waited for this ep to come out after watching the previous one lol
Please next episode:
-Gaming culture in Southeast Asia
I'm so curious how many hours they spend on games a day. some people prefer gaming more than anything.
OMG the lady in the thumbnail is one of my favorite Chinese actresses 😍 Tifanny Tang!
this video clearly shows the different mentalities between 2 generations.
I enjoy learning about aspects of contemporary Asian cultures, and have found “Asian Boss” informative and entertaining. Could you prepare more videos along these lines for Taiwan, Hong Kong and Singapore as these are majority-Chinese societies that are evolving along different trajectories than PRC (China)? Thanks
Hi Steve, you could still find Chinese population in Malaysia too ! Food, schools &temples etc.
My Family might be called leftover family then. Because:
My Father and My Mother married at age 29 and 28
My older siister married at age 25
My older brother and I still doesn married even we are 29 and 23 years old
Luo jin and Tiffany Tang one of my favourite chinese couple in the thumbnail😍❤️
Ooooo this is MEGA interesting and shanghai dialect accent sounds swag
Didn't feel like the interviewees had a Shanghainese accent. SH is like New York, a lot of the ppl living there don't have a native accent.
Like there are a ton of ppl who live in New York w/o a New York accent.
It’s better to slowly find the right person than to rushly choose just because you’re almost at the “left over” age
I've not decided if the term "left over woman " is offensive yet. When your 21 your in college or starting your career you haven't started to live yet why tie yourself down to a man?
Well said. So honest. I was married at 27 and regret it so bad. My ethnicity is Chinese but i don't live in China. Should have chased my dream. Should have lived for myself. Should have pursue my career. Should have carved my path with my own tools. Instead of tying myself down to a man and waste my life living for his purpose.
Juliana Silva your talking about a place were they tell you how many kids you can have they are not free people
@@lizliz8195 I hope you can do both. Funny thing is that I am free and it's still a challenge to face all the "should haves" and "could haves" of what I'm not indulging in while I'm free. Wishing you assertiveness and whatever you need to live a life that feels right to you.
The term left over woman is absolutely degrading
A T Would you like men to use the term wh0re instead? Pick one or the other.
I'm a asian woman and evertime I told my friends if I don't wanna get married, they always looking me like "Do you wanna live alone forever? And if you die soon there's no family in your funeral ".
Is that matter if you wanna get married or not, just do whatever you want, I hope family can support too
I watched all 3 videos. Japan and Korea is similar, however China feels different from the two. I wanna hear what people would say in Taiwan and Hong Kong.
I really loved the responses from the girl with glasses. So confident!
In my country at 25 were still at home, with no job, maybe still studying and as as a mayor thought what game buy for the playstation
Love the video, but I prefer a clear backgound and lighter denoise. That makes interview videos more lively.
My mom got married at 32 and had me at 38 and I'm fine lol
Would be interesting if you do some interviews to men who prefer younger women, and how they see women around thirties that are still unmarried
WOW, Marie from Asian Boss is gorgeous..😻❤😻
Finally another China video, there is more to Asia than just Korea XD
Yeah,
But India is scary.
@@Skweepa As an Indian I agree with what you said
If the goal of marriage is to produce children then before 30 is best. If it is to produce a happy loving couple that can provide a loving home to children then after 30 is better. That is true everywhere including China. In reality in China it is men that are being leftover more than women. That is primarily happening not because of successful career women but because of China's One Child Policy.
Excellent!
The Chinese is always the most blunt Asian 😂
That amount of bluntness comes with its benefits and downfalls haha
i wish Asian Boss did more videos in Taiwan.
According to the most recent census, there are more women than men in my country so some women are bound to stay unmarried or single, I'll just count myself in with the extras.
Mallaマヤ you could just date men from other countries or move to another country if you want to unless you come from somewhere your not allowed to leave
coolzredz it's not like we're not allowed to leave, I'm just using it as an excuse since I don't see the appeal of dating and marriage, that's all.
Asian boss should do the same interview in India. It will be interesting hearing all the gossip aunties view point.
True. I'm curious about their answers too
The last girl seemed really furious :D lol