What I LEARNED from 5 years of THERAPY | TRAUMA & TOXIC PARENT

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  • Опубліковано 18 лис 2024

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  • @MsHill79
    @MsHill79 3 роки тому +5

    🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I am in this phase of my life now and I'm almost 42 🥺 🤦🏽‍♀️ I just started therapy. This is something I should have done as a 8 yr old.

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +2

      I am so proud that you are starting now! ❤️

  • @annecurtin336
    @annecurtin336 3 роки тому +3

    I feel so honored that you chose to share such personal & moving things about yourself with this community - & my hope is that you will get NO negative backlash for this!
    I continue to struggle with the whole concept of forgiveness, so anything you have about that would be very helpful.

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому

      Thank you Anne! I appreciate your kind words! Yes, I will definitely talk more about forgiveness in a video :)

  • @pockahantiss
    @pockahantiss 3 роки тому +6

    Ms. Rashawnda, I’m so happy that you’ve decided to share your story. I appreciate that. It makes me feel connected to you- through UA-cam😉😉😉. I’ll continue to support you the way you’ve supported me through these videos. Salute queen 👑!

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      Omg! You watched it to the end! This means so much to me 🥲 I really appreciate you Pockahuntiss

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 3 роки тому

      A great watch on how bad parents are made ua-cam.com/video/vdwR6sVRulk/v-deo.html

  • @JournalingWithNadia
    @JournalingWithNadia 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey, I recently started my healing journey for the past year and this gives me so much hope and inspiration. I still struggle with setting boundaries and saying no as well, that's definitely something I want to get better at

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      Oh Nadia, this makes me smile! Boundaries are always a difficult thing to navigate in life ❤️ I am cheering for you!

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 3 роки тому

      A great watch on how bad parents are made ua-cam.com/video/vdwR6sVRulk/v-deo.html

  • @luuklemmens
    @luuklemmens 3 роки тому +1

    Courageous of you to share this! 💪🏻 Very helpful as well, thank you!

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      It is courageous acts that are helpful with creating change! I am glad that it was helpful😊

  • @Lawdgawd
    @Lawdgawd 3 роки тому +1

    Yasss girl yass!! Thank you for sharing. The childhood trauma , daily stress, anxiety have caused us all to need to talk and express our self!! I’m new here and I love your channel !

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому

      Welcome! I hope to continue providing value!

  • @ashleyleblanc7140
    @ashleyleblanc7140 3 роки тому +1

    Rashawnda, thank you for sharing. I have missed your videos a lot. I found this really helpful because I'm a psychology undergraduate student who also happens to be going through some messy and difficult family situations

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому

      I am glad that it was helpful Ashley. Find your happy place ❤️❤️

  • @tinalee889
    @tinalee889 3 роки тому

    I love this type of video! I need more of this you talking about the issue with your mom is helping me but I have got to figure out when and where to set boundaries or if to just walk away for my own mental health

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      Ok Tina! I will definitely make more videos about this

  • @DiaryOfABlackMuslimTherapist
    @DiaryOfABlackMuslimTherapist 3 роки тому +1

    Love this, Queen. 🥰 Thank you so much for sharing and allowing us in. I think its so important for people to know that we as therapist, even have our own journey to healing.
    Wish you well! LOVE YOUR CONTENT! ❤

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      I am glad that it is helpful. Thank you for the support ❤️

  • @rocketreindeer
    @rocketreindeer 3 роки тому +1

    Hell'z yeah I hear you. Thanks for sharing. It validates that there can be authentic reasons I don't feel super awesome about some people. It's okay to not love everyone, and I do practise forgiveness. It's about finding balance, not building giant walls but still having a safe fence. That may not have been your intended message but that's what it made me think of. Thank you sis

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      Listennnn…I was over here snapping my fingers! Love this!

  • @mylifeingeneral
    @mylifeingeneral 3 роки тому +1

    I’ve been in therapy for years it’s done wonders

  • @dylanrodrigues3743
    @dylanrodrigues3743 3 роки тому

    Thanks for sharing your story and also thanks for believing in me, forgiveness is the best remedy with people who may or may not like you.
    I sometimes say to myself Rashawnda believes in me so i can help myself get through the day.

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому

      I definitely am supporting you as you have with me on my channel!

  • @Nan7ae
    @Nan7ae 3 роки тому

    Watching your video comforted me in some way.. like i have had depression and anxiety like sometimes even now they come back like i felt like i was not normal at all...i couldnt do normal things too, it was hard.. but still the way you shared your story made me feel ITS OK... thats a very big thing! THANK YOU💗 Now i am again in the process of self love and healing!💕 Your soo gorgeous!!

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      This means alot! I’m so happy that I can be of help 🙏🏾

  • @WordsPictures997
    @WordsPictures997 3 роки тому +2

    Rashawnda you are such a gift! And your voice is soooo soothing. All my triggers just kept settling down as you spoke 😅.
    I really thank God for you and I'm super glad you got support and your Mum got help.
    QUESTION
    If you don't mind sharing
    1. How to graciously communicate your boundaries.
    2. How to handle those you can't necessarily have boundary conversations with because it would just be a mess, trigger and waste of time.
    3. Could you share on how to deal with the friction and guilt of having boundaries that some people once close to you catch feelings about.
    4. How to unapologetically stand by your boundaries and peacefully walk away from anyone who simply doesn't understand.

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +2

      Thanks you! Yes, it as hard but fruitful work with my mom and I.
      I will work on answering these in an upcoming video!

    • @Luminousone_624
      @Luminousone_624 3 роки тому

      @@RashawndaJames yes #2 esp plz

  • @OMGomfgxD
    @OMGomfgxD 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your story! This is helping me work through my relationships with parents 🙏🏼

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому

      You are so welcome Jennz! I am wishing you the best on your journey! I know what it is like so I am sending you virtual hugs ❤️

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 3 роки тому

      A great watch on how bad parents are made ua-cam.com/video/vdwR6sVRulk/v-deo.html

  • @louisa.w
    @louisa.w 2 роки тому

    Hey Rashawnda ♥️ very new subscriber here. I just wanted to share that I love the content you’re making and I really appreciate your authenticity. It’s a very special thing when you can help others feel relatable in sharing personal experiences - so thank you for this video in particular.
    You inspire me to look into a career as a therapist ☺️. Sending love!

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  2 роки тому +1

      Awww!! Your words mean so much to me 🧡🧡 Good luck on your journey!!

  • @louisnapolitano
    @louisnapolitano 3 роки тому

    After 17 years with my best friend my dog Parker his legs gave out from a stroke so I had to take him to the vet to sleep to end his suffering happy he is not in pain anymore and running around waiting for more kisses when I meet him again

  • @courtnichole8
    @courtnichole8 3 роки тому

    I feel like you just told my story. I'm still waiting for the day that I don't have to side eye people for trying to hug me.

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому

      I am happy that you can relate to this! I am sending you air hugs 🤗

  • @heysilly1341
    @heysilly1341 3 роки тому +1

    I love these types of videos♥

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      That’s what I needed to hear! Is it the topic or the style?

    • @heysilly1341
      @heysilly1341 3 роки тому +1

      @@RashawndaJames Honestly, I love the topic. I feel like I can learn so much from other people's wisdom

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 3 роки тому +1

      A great watch on how bad parents are made ua-cam.com/video/vdwR6sVRulk/v-deo.html

  • @ashleyb.8217
    @ashleyb.8217 3 роки тому +1

    I appreciated this video

  • @favored81
    @favored81 3 роки тому

    Thanks for this video I just started therapy I hope to continue to go and process some stuff that happened to me

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому

      This is amazing! Send you virtual hugs 🤗

  • @MsHill79
    @MsHill79 3 роки тому +1

    PS, if nobody ever tells you, you are Chardonnay vibes from The Game (Brandy Norwood) Absolutely beautiful

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +1

      Aww Thanks!!! This means alot! ❤️❤️

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 3 роки тому

      A great watch on how bad parents are made ua-cam.com/video/vdwR6sVRulk/v-deo.html

  • @paigeariellem
    @paigeariellem 3 роки тому

    I’m so grateful to have come across your channel. I love to learn from black women, and I especially love this type of content that centers around loving yourself and healing. Thank you so much for creating content like this 🤍
    In your video you mentioned how you had an unhealthy relationship with your mom, I do too. I am in therapy now for all the trauma I experienced. I’m realizing that I don’t desire a relationship with my mother, nor her time and attention. I really don’t want to dump on you at all, I just want to ask if you have any advice on dealing with unhealthy mother daughter relationships? How did you regain the courage to fix your relationship with your mom?

  • @521Mika
    @521Mika 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your story. I've been doing therapy about 5yrs and learned a lot. But, when do you think therapy ends up being a crutch vs a helpful aid?

    • @RashawndaJames
      @RashawndaJames  3 роки тому +2

      Great question. Of course this is just my opinion. Therapy can be a crutch if you are not working on applying things you learned from therapy, only processing things with your therapist without trying on your own, and building your support network. Of course, there are other factors, but I hope this is helpful.

    • @521Mika
      @521Mika 3 роки тому

      @@RashawndaJames This was really helpful. I've been applying what I learned but building a support network didn't cross my mind. Thank you!

  • @Lavidadeyari
    @Lavidadeyari 2 роки тому

    ❤️❤️🥰

  • @izoic
    @izoic 3 роки тому +1

    Hi