Because he is being filmed and on camera, who knows how he does this when the camera is turned off. People show their "professional" side when they are being recorded.....
You can see, this is not a job to this man, it's a compassion of love! Every movement he's so caring, gently wiping to casket, gently moving the flowers, notice he gently placed the flowers on the ground out of the way, DID NOT simply toss them to the ground! This is a wonderful man!
I worked at Wilbert burial vault for 10 years. I've buried probably close to 1000 people in my time. You don't understand how heavy that lowering device is and awkward to carry by yourself. And that Butyl tape that seals the cover to to the base is not letting water in that vault. What you don't see is the setup. What the CSRs go through to set a vault. In the rain, freezing cold, blistering heat and everything in between.
I can attest to everything you said because I worked for a Wilbert franchise for 8 years and the weather was absolutely awful to work in sometimes plus having to carry all that equipment to where the burial site was wasn't always flat and close. But I absolutely loved the job and treated every funeral like it was a member of my own family!
There are no words to describe what it feels like watching your son and only child be sealed in a box and lowered into the earth. I was as close to dead as I've ever felt that day. The people who did these necessary things for my wife and I will never know how much their compassion gave us comfort. ❤
Over here in Northern Ireland, we bury our loved ones without a vault, in a wooden coffin, straight into the earth...Regulations say that the grave must be sunk to a distance of 6 ft. On 14 April 2023, one day after my 50th birthday, my belovéd Mother was buried, thus. The agony of watching that moment of finality seemed absolutely surreal...I can only imagine your thoughts, emotions and inner feelings...It's like what You're watching isn't really happening! I hope and pray your life gets easier...😔
I sort of understand. I can't fathom losing my child but when I lost my husband I really didn't care if I died also but I had 2 boys to keep me focused.
Im 44 yrs old, I've done this since I was 17 yrs old Highland Park and Covington Cemetery. Even though it was apart of the Job I couldn't do it any more, I've work with people from Wilbert, and many other burial vault companies in Indiana just finally gets to you if not wears you down and out. Mostly kid/baby burials finally got to me.
Kids have to be the hardest their parents have to be watching I had a friend that was 14 years old I was in junior high we had a massive heart attack he died. 2 years later his sister had a heart attack and she died add your family to disease
A friend of mine was a mortician and funeral director for about 12 years. She’s been a pediatric nurse for about 16 years now and is getting ready to retire. The burn out is real. Physically, mentally and emotionally. She told me that her last 1 or 2 years as a funeral director she had more younger people than she’d ever thought possible. A lot of them were s*icides or from illnesses that mostly adults get. Then she had kids that the same ages as the kids she was taking care of. Now as a nurse she has grandkids the same ages as her patients. I don’t know how she’s done it.
I love to see the dearly departed treated with respect like this. If we only treated each other as respectfully while we’re still alive. At funerals I often show my respect to the deceased by bowing, Japanese-style. A sincere, deep bow.
I agree. Like you said "if only we treated each other respectfully while we're still alive" it's a shame. This man is a gem and treating the dearly departed with dignity & love
Rest in Peace, The older I get (66) and the closer I get to my last day, the more I realize just how frivolous all of this is. It is a great financial burden on those you leave behind, and for what? Your essence, your soul, has already left your body. All that remains is your lifeless shell which, despise all the expense, will eventually turn to dust. On the Last Day, the Father will raise us all up. Put me in a cheap wood box or just wrap me in a shroud, un-embalmed, and throw dirt on top of me.
That’s exactly how I feel. Funerals are way too expensive, so I’ve opted to be cremated. No matter if we’ve been buried, cremated or buried at sea, God will raise us to His glory! And, no matter how expensive the vault is, it does fill w/ water. My mother worked in the same building as an assistant chief firefighter, who had to be a witness at exhumations. It’s just wasted money. Vaults are meant to keep the ground from sinking.
We live way out in the country and can actually bury our family on our property. But we also have a lot of free cemeteries where folks have donated land for small cemeteries
These people are so respectful in their care of the deceased as demonstrated here. Someone’s loved one was cared for as an action of love. Thank you for sharing this video. ❤
I have much respect for the funeral director embalmer and staff and to see this man in a suit doing this may God bless you for being professional and looking the part too
WOW! This is so touching. The way he took extra care of a person he doesn't even know. Im sure the thought crosses his mind that he'd want or expect the same. A lot of ppl these days are cruel. Who'd actually take out the time, to spend invest a few more seconds, to wipe down the casket. Knowingly, its going to get dirty yes, but its the thought. The love and so much compassion he has ❤
Lowering a casket into a vault! This is how you love humanity! I remember this from my father's funeral! Beautiful good bye! It happens to all of us! Thank God for people like this that lays us to rest with respect, and love!
I have to say that this is a very respectable send off, it’s nice to know that there are still people who care kudos to this gentleman and all of those who help us say goodbye to our loved ones
Your one man show is impeccable. I have seen the level of personal care that you render to the vessel that you drop , and to your personal equipment . One would think that someone would be coming back next week to inspect the condition of the interior. I only hope that your employer is aware of your relentless dedication to your precession. It has been a pleasure watching you. Thanks for caring, and sharing.
When my Father a WW2 Vet passed in 2012, I watched the whole precedings. Since he was buried with honors, it meant when the time came my Mother would be buried with him on top. The graves were dug twice in feet, and then concrete for a vault! Her time came in 2022! I watched as they were so caring, not to rushed and they even explained what they were doing through every movement. It was beautiful, in it's own way! I thanked the staff at the mortuary and expressed my gratitude!
We buried my grandmother last September. Some of my family stayed to watch them lower her into the ground, the staff were very professional and caring. Looking forward for the glorious resurrection of the saints of God.
This young man is a true professional in all that i have watched. He not only display his professionalism but he wears it also. Congratulations to you my friend. A great asset to his job.
I worked in a cemetery one summer a long time and although the denominational cemeteries used backhoes, the city cemetery i was at, was pick & shovel, then after digging down about 5’, unless curved liners were used, it’d be about 5 and a half feet. The liners were of heavy black slate, i guess to protect the coffin when it was lowered. This convinced me that when it’s time to shed my mortal coil, i’ll get cremated.
The only thing I don’t miss about working for the cemetery I worked for years at. Mainly is just when the funeral is going on at the cemetery you just stand back and watch or talk with maybe one or two of your work crew guys there. But in the end that’s a heavy mental burden just watching families grieving daily and dealing with death and every single day 2-3 times a day. Great job but after a bit that’ll start getting to yo u a little . And no you also don’t have to crank the casket down into the vault hole which ever form of wording you prefer, the device can lower itself as well.
I don't know if I could have watched them lower my mom into the ground almost two years ago in late June 2022. She had a lot of health issues including lung, breathing, heart failure, swelling leg, back pains. She was on oxygen for several years at home and on portable battery units and tanks when going out. We actually did a few mini overnight trips and a few long steam train excursions and she took battery units with her and extra batteries. It could charge in the car, hotel, etc. Maybe she wasn't 100% up to it but she did those for me. I like to travel, go in hotel pools and hot tubs, and ride train excursions. Se started to get worse though in early 2022. My brother and I are disabled, don't drive, and I am 50 and my brother 46 next month on the 17th. We have a man living with us since early 1994 and he drives us. He got the title to my mom's 2013 Hyundai Sonata.
I went with a green burial (preneed) I have no desire to put any one through so much work when I'm gone. Throw me in a hole in a shroud, thats enough for me. much respect to the folks who do this work.
This is so completely different from the funerals I witnessed while living in Europe. This gentleman puts so much effort and care into his task; it feels that this is more to him than just a job.
@@Marina5311that's SO INCREDIBLY RUDE!! It's not bc he is on camera. He obviously takes great pride in his profession. In addition, idk how it is in other countries or where u are from, but this is the standard for most burials in the US. (For those who can afford it)
I love the way this is done by this cemetery, as it is not done like that in our cemetery. we bought a vault for our mother. the vault was put in the ground and her casket was lowered into the vault. then a truck came and lifted the cover and lowered it onto the vault. after seeing this I don't know how they can seal the vault the way they do it in our cemetery, but the way they do it in this video I can see the seal.
I wish our vault company used the Wilbert way. Your performance, display of respect to the deceased as well as your professionalism and passion for your calling. Behind a great funeral director is a great vault man (and you’re wearing a tie!). Thank you for better assisting us doing what we do. 🙏🏻❤
I'm at how compassionate these people show respect and dignity in their job. I go thru cemetery s still and which I could do this, knowa loved one is being treated even after ceremony for him or her is done . God Bless cemetery workers for wonderfully caring. They don't get told thank u for doing a great job. I tell these men ty in any cemetery they even show u where your marker is if u are walking endlessly in circles 😅, believe me,
These folks have the ultimate responsibility making sure our loved ones get to their final resting places safely , not a easy job emotionally or physically, and they are last person to be with your family member before the vault is sealed.
I respect that he wiped the casket down to look its best before going into the ground. But he also wiped away all his/her family, friends hand prints if they touched them for the last time...
Thank you for showing this . I have always wondered how the casket goes down but you can never see it when you're at the cemetery. You get kicked out during this part.Thank you for this information now I know a lot more.
In as much as it’s probably a little creepy to think about your body decaying or being eaten by worms, and even though I know burials like this as well as cemeteries are purely for the families, it just has always seemed like an incredibly huge waste to put all of that in the ground. As well as to take up huge amounts of space with cemeteries. I’m only 45, but more and more it makes so much more sense to me to just be cremated and not have all of that waste and expense. Personally I think it would be kind of neat to take my ashes, and have my family over time spread them in the 4-5 places I loved most in the world. Not only would it give them excuses to take some trips, and connect those places with you, but having your ashes in those places very literally makes you become part of them. But taking an expensive coffin and vault, and just burying it in the ground only to take up space in a cemetery for centuries? Eh…I just don’t know that it makes any sense.
I live in Puerto Rico 🇵🇷, burials are done differently. All family and friends stays in the cemetery until the burial is done with sealing. We see everything. After sealing, all the floral arrangements are put on top. Then visitors leaves. All burial plots are made of cement with different capacity of people who are buried. My family’s plot has for 6 (2 + 2 for the sides and 2 in the middle which adds to 6). Ones can buy for 1, 2, etc. if it’s a public cemetery, each family has to maintain it. Private cemeteries charges a maintenance fee for them to do. Family members are responsible in keeping all plots clean and painted. Well maintained. As the years goes by if the plot is needed, family members has to go to court to exhume remains. The remains will be moved to a small metal box with the name of deceased and buried together with recent deceased. They were charging $600.00 just to move remains aside from the burial cost of recent deceased. Don’t know now since prices has gone up.
My husband has family & ancestors from PR. Do the cemeteries there charge a fee for rental of the burial plot for the body that families have to pay or the body will get exhumed if the family is unable to pay? They don't do that here in the states, but they do in some Latin American countries & places in Europe. We have always wanted to take a trip to PR & see where his family & ancestors came from & are buried.
@@chrishernandez4266 i haven’t heard of rental. Each plot is sold. If there’s a case where family do not own plot they can make arrangements with family members who has a plot to bury the deceased. Will be there until moving it to another plot and will be placed in metal boxes with court orders. Many families gets ready by acquiring plots and paying for funeral arrangements ahead of time. My parents have everything ready. Plot and owners ships with documents.
@@evarodriguezalequin5705 that is a good thing to have. I have tried to get my parents to do that & have gotten a bit of push back. One parent wants to be buried in one cemetery bc our family for several generations are buried there & the other wants to be buried in a military cemetery bc of their veteran status. The two cannot seem to come to an agreement, so I guess it will depend on who goes first. In Mexico, I have heard that in some cemeteries, your family pays a fee for the plot one is buried in. Idk if this is a yearly thing or what, but should the family be unable to pay the fee when it comes time to renew, the body will get moved to a mass grave to be reinterred with others. We would love to visit y'all's cemeteries in Humacao, Gurabo & other places his family lives, but they were buried so long ago that who knows if they are even still there from the sound of it. What happens to the metal boxes of remains when a body is exhumed? Does someone in the family keep it or what? I can't remember if I asked you this or not. I'm just used to how we do it here in the states & think that wherever someone is laid to rest is where they should remain forever, but I understand that you guys may not be able to do that on a tiny island like PR.
@@chrishernandez4266 I live nearby these towns. You can ask in the cementery’s offices, they should have info as to whose interred there. When bodies are removed, they make sure it’s skeletons in order to be in small metal boxes.
In the past several decades , it seems like the industry has attempted to steer the suvivors away from this most important process by not completing this step until everyone has slipped away .
I'm really not sure what my UA-cam algorithm did to bring me here. But this is my 2nd video of yours I've watched. It's really humbling when you realize there is a career for every aspect in life, and in death. And you sir, do an incredible job doing this as professionally as you do. I couldn't imagine all the heartache you encounter doing these. You are a strong man, and I will say it again, a professional at that.
I remember my grandmothers funeral in 1995 she was the very first person in our family to pass away and it was very very hard on me I wanted to be buried with her I miss her soo much still to this day Its now 2024 and I still remember her funeral and how beautiful she looked 🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏😭😭😭
Annie’s in a suit doing that you know that’s uncomfortable and works hard. I never knew how they did it. A mother died due to suicide and I worried about her being lowered in the ground. I know that’s silly but now I don’t have to worry, but I still worry about it leaking and stuff like that that’s crazy, but I love my mom. She was my best friend, but this man takes pride and what he does.
Thanks for being very professional compassion it when do this! I am sorry for your loss of your family member! Fly high with the angels beautiful person! From ohio
My father bought burial plots and vaults in 1975 for approximately $1500 . When my mother died in 2014 the man at the funeral home told me it would cost $ 18000 in 2014 . Dad really made a wise decision to do that .
Same, my dear late dad had his plot headstone and vault completely paid for at his passing in 2010 in addition to four plots. I bought two plots of my own in the late 80s early 90s for 1,200 dollars. One for me and one for my only child a daughter. She just became 40 last week . Now I want to purchase my head stone and pay for my funeral before I go so my daughter won't have to worry about it . I did speak with the owners of the cemetery and got some figures about cost. Wow is all I can say 👀
Much more detailed and involved than I’d imagined; with many additional moving parts and procedures! Thank you for the film! This was oddly soothing, having lost the usual number of friends, family and even clients over the decades… I went to high school with a member of the family business whose product was utilized here, but I never knew that later in life I would wonder so much about the exact process of their product use. Thanks!
Just a guess, if family members are still around or close by, a hand crank is quieter and more professional and respectful than a drill gun or impact. Just a guess, though…
@MarkTEwing Makes sense, Mark. The hand crank is more traditional and quieter, with an element of sincere respect. The drill motor is so incorporated into modern practices that it seemed curious as to why it wasn't used here. If family is still present, you must convey respect.
I am 66 years old. The last time I stood and cried was watching the Funeral Directors lower my HS Football Coach into his final resting place. I was standing almost 200 feet away, but I could see it clearly.
When I did this job I never wiped it down (unless it got rained on) and left anything the family placed on it out of respect for them. Fingerprints and flowers were their last memory of their family member and I wanted that to remain for them!
The closing of the value was done in a very professional manner. Thank you. I wish that at our cemetery they were as professional and showed such compassion.
While the camera was running yeah. Do you really think a guy with a suit does that? Its probably some mexican in a sweat shirt that smells like a hoagie shop who hasnt had a bath in 5 days with dirt ground into his pants and alcohol on his breath while hes' scratching his balls.
It was definitely a very solemn moment seeing my dad lowered into the ground like this about four years ago from a distance. Job well done in making sure this family member was taken care to rest in eternity.
i really appreciate this video! very informative & very professional! tremendous amt of compassion shown! i never realized amt of work that went into preparation & presentation! such an amazing & beautiful job cleaning headstone! i can’t say enough about how this young man touched my heart! thank you!
I want this man to handle my remains at Beechwood Cemetery in Durham, North Carolina when God calls me on to glory. Watching his videos, he handles the remains with lovely care. Some undertakers after every leaves the cemetery takes the casket and throw it over into the grave.🤣And, sometimes they take the nice casket and resale it putting the remains in a box. 😊
I respect people who can work in this field. It must be very difficult and emotionally draining. I think we need to get away from this custom, but that is just my personal opinion. This guy was so respectful and professional.❤
You talk about, 'Clos phobic,' man! In 1985 I was in Cairo Egypt and went UP into a pyramid! I never knew how one gets up and down! Since then,’ I can't get on amusement park rides that closes one in!’
It is freaky that someday my body will be locked in a box and buried underground for centuries. Either that or being incinerated to powder in a cremation oven. The thoughts terrify me.
Very professionally done. This gentleman is great at his job & caring so much for the departed. After my father passed away in January 2006, I wanted to stick around after the services to see how it was done. Now I know. Thank you for this video
The hard fact is when the truck on the highway goes by while (2:50) this wonderful man is being so respectful. Life won't stop for any of us although we wish it could. A compassionate respectful lowering. RIP
I admire your thoughtfulness, sir. You do everything in your power to help make this as "pleasant " as possible for the family. I imagine you to be a loving husband and father. ❤
This is very educational and done very respectfully. I often wondered how this was done, and your video is very well done. Often some cemeteries do not give this level of compassion like you do.
@@RadioRich100 It’s not worth arguing over. The intent of the creator was to show to those who might want to know how it’s done. The creator has succeeded.
Trust me, they don’t dress like that when they lower the casket and do all that and if it’s the Wilbert Way, which this particular video is showing the person that is usually not alone
Ah, so this is how it's done: The straps that go under the casket are shimmied out. -I had wondered if they had one end that was wound around the turning mechanism, but not completely secured, so that one side could detach and be slid out. But now I know. Thank you for this.
@RadioRich100 Im sorry if my previous comment sounded insensitive. I'll try to explain. The part that hit most was when the casket and sarcophagus were lowered. A feeling on finality came over me and moved me to tears. It's that moment where the person is going out of sight permanently and I felt the loss hit me, even though I didn't know this person. I know that time might come where I watch my loved ones be incurred or in some similar fashion, go. It's a reminder to seize moments while they are still available. I apologize again for offending. I had a similar experience watching a simulation of the sinking of the Titanic. When the ship hit the bottom, it was again that finality feeling. God bless.
@RadioRich100 I'm sorry to hear that there's any chance any people who provide these services would take advantage of folks in a time of loss and emotional pain. I watch the Ask A Mortician channel on a regular basis. She has been campaigning for years for personal burial choice rights, has done stories on locations that have been unjust to their customers, and educates as many people as will listen on how to plan their own wills, funerals, etc. My own plan is a more green burial, but I respect the right for everyone to make their own choice on how they would like their remains to be deposited.
What happens after the vault is in the ground, do you have to do any other sealing on the vault? Someone in another comment mentioned tape? Also this looks like less than 6ft, do they really go only about 4ft? I would like to just see the rest of the process before the person leaves or like before the grass goes on.
This is so moving in a way, but I’m still trying to decide what I want done for myself. Someday I know it’s ridiculous but seeing this just kicks my cluster phobia and the high gear, I know it’s silly because I’d be dead. It’s just the thought of being underground in the cold in the dark forever.
To me, it is such a shame to spend all that money on a funeral. I don't want anybody to spend money on me after I am dead. What people should do is spend money on us while we are still alive, then we can enjoy it. Yes I know funeral home have to make money too.
@@kerrystiffler7735 Its a demo of what you want to see so they can suck all the money out of your wallet.You thought that was an actual burial with no body else there?
I agree the gentleman is kind, respectful, and professional, HOWEVER, i feel like funeral services are a scam and prey on families in their worst moments. Sure they have to make money like the rest of us but at whose expense? They've even caught onto the cheaper services like cremation and made those more expensive for those who need them as a cheaper option. I know Ill get serious backlash for my comments but I say these things from a point of someone who had to pay out of pocket for 4 relatives of whom had done no estate planning. all the best to this gentleman nothing against him just sharing experiences. cheers!
Having owned a burial vault company for many years, I can tell you that you are correct. Most funeral directors are merely salesmen, and they have the best customers in the world- grieving families with insurance policies.
Thank you for sharing this video. It was very educational. That young man was so thoughtful and caring. The company he works for is blessed to have such an asset amongst them. May God Always Bless him and his family 🙏🙏🙏
The amount of respect and professionalism shown by this gentleman is awe-inspiring. Thank you for your kindness.
I agree. I was just thinking the same thing. Very respectful and reverent.
Because he is being filmed and on camera, who knows how he does this when the camera is turned off. People show their "professional" side when they are being recorded.....
I totally agree he was very kind and caring
@@michaeljones4752ok Karen.
Well done respectfully. ✝️
You can see, this is not a job to this man, it's a compassion of love! Every movement he's so caring, gently wiping to casket, gently moving the flowers, notice he gently placed the flowers on the ground out of the way, DID NOT simply toss them to the ground! This is a wonderful man!
Oh my god how dumb are you?
wiping the casket was unnecessary. . It's about to get dirty again
@@jamedlock83 maggots, water, dirt formaldehyde. Yeah keep wiping it lol.
@@jamedlock83You miss the *entire* point.
@@Bob-lz4bzMy sentiments exactly.
I worked at Wilbert burial vault for 10 years. I've buried probably close to 1000 people in my time. You don't understand how heavy that lowering device is and awkward to carry by yourself. And that Butyl tape that seals the cover to to the base is not letting water in that vault. What you don't see is the setup. What the CSRs go through to set a vault. In the rain, freezing cold, blistering heat and everything in between.
Thank you for your 10 years in the industry sir!
Yeah and I can see why funerals are expensive too
@@Illianaheadstonecareofficial❤
Wondering if the family of this loved one plays this video... offten😮😢
I can attest to everything you said because I worked for a Wilbert franchise for 8 years and the weather was absolutely awful to work in sometimes plus having to carry all that equipment to where the burial site was wasn't always flat and close. But I absolutely loved the job and treated every funeral like it was a member of my own family!
There are no words to describe what it feels like watching your son and only child be sealed in a box and lowered into the earth. I was as close to dead as I've ever felt that day. The people who did these necessary things for my wife and I will never know how much their compassion gave us comfort. ❤
Over here in Northern Ireland, we bury our loved ones without a vault, in a wooden coffin, straight into the earth...Regulations say that the grave must be sunk to a distance of 6 ft. On 14 April 2023, one day after my 50th birthday, my belovéd Mother was buried, thus. The agony of watching that moment of finality seemed absolutely surreal...I can only imagine your thoughts, emotions and inner feelings...It's like what You're watching isn't really happening! I hope and pray your life gets easier...😔
So sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain. God bless.
Sorry for your loss.
I sort of understand. I can't fathom losing my child but when I lost my husband I really didn't care if I died also but I had 2 boys to keep me focused.
Sorry For Your Loss, 🙏🏽
Im 44 yrs old, I've done this since I was 17 yrs old Highland Park and Covington Cemetery. Even though it was apart of the Job I couldn't do it any more, I've work with people from Wilbert, and many other burial vault companies in Indiana just finally gets to you if not wears you down and out. Mostly kid/baby burials finally got to me.
Thank you, for your service, and giving loved ones a peace of mind.
I was sitting here thinking, babies and kids had to be the hardest. Thank you for your service.
Kids have to be the hardest their parents have to be watching I had a friend that was 14 years old I was in junior high we had a massive heart attack he died. 2 years later his sister had a heart attack and she died add your family to disease
Babies n kids is the hardest part of these people's job! Bless all that do this work!
A friend of mine was a mortician and funeral director for about 12 years. She’s been a pediatric nurse for about 16 years now and is getting ready to retire. The burn out is real. Physically, mentally and emotionally. She told me that her last 1 or 2 years as a funeral director she had more younger people than she’d ever thought possible. A lot of them were s*icides or from illnesses that mostly adults get. Then she had kids that the same ages as the kids she was taking care of. Now as a nurse she has grandkids the same ages as her patients. I don’t know how she’s done it.
I love to see the dearly departed treated with respect like this. If we only treated each other as respectfully while we’re still alive. At funerals I often show my respect to the deceased by bowing, Japanese-style. A sincere, deep bow.
I agree. Like you said "if only we treated each other respectfully while we're still alive" it's a shame. This man is a gem and treating the dearly departed with dignity & love
Rest in Peace, The older I get (66) and the closer I get to my last day, the more I realize just how frivolous all of this is. It is a great financial burden on those you leave behind, and for what? Your essence, your soul, has already left your body. All that remains is your lifeless shell which, despise all the expense, will eventually turn to dust. On the Last Day, the Father will raise us all up. Put me in a cheap wood box or just wrap me in a shroud, un-embalmed, and throw dirt on top of me.
That’s exactly how I feel. Funerals are way too expensive, so I’ve opted to be cremated. No matter if we’ve been buried, cremated or buried at sea, God will raise us to His glory! And, no matter how expensive the vault is, it does fill w/ water. My mother worked in the same building as an assistant chief firefighter, who had to be a witness at exhumations. It’s just wasted money. Vaults are meant to keep the ground from sinking.
You can actually have a 'green' burial. You'd have to search for it, but it is out there.
@@sallysmith8081 I know what it is, I have considered it
Amen brother 🙏🏼❤️✝️🕊️
We live way out in the country and can actually bury our family on our property. But we also have a lot of free cemeteries where folks have donated land for small cemeteries
These people are so respectful in their care of the deceased as demonstrated here. Someone’s loved one was cared for as an action of love. Thank you for sharing this video. ❤
This young man was very caring, respectful and reverent. Very nice demonstration.
And your a dope.
You’re (you are)
Yo yo yo be respectful@@RadioRich100
I have much respect for the funeral director embalmer and staff and to see this man in a suit doing this may God bless you for being professional and looking the part too
WOW! This is so touching. The way he took extra care of a person he doesn't even know. Im sure the thought crosses his mind that he'd want or expect the same. A lot of ppl these days are cruel. Who'd actually take out the time, to spend invest a few more seconds, to wipe down the casket. Knowingly, its going to get dirty yes, but its the thought. The love and so much compassion he has ❤
Lowering a casket into a vault! This is how you love humanity! I remember this from my father's funeral! Beautiful good bye! It happens to all of us! Thank God for people like this that lays us to rest with respect, and love!
Here in MA. they don't allow you to stay.
They wait until everyone is gone to begin the process.
@@theresaburek1460because in real life they don’t do it like this. It’s a job and they have to get it done as fast as possible.
I have to say that this is a very respectable send off, it’s nice to know that there are still people who care kudos to this gentleman and all of those who help us say goodbye to our loved ones
Oh please
Your one man show is impeccable. I have seen the level of personal care that you render to the vessel that you drop , and to your personal equipment .
One would think that someone would be coming back next week to inspect the condition of the interior.
I only hope that your employer is aware of your relentless dedication to your precession. It has been a pleasure watching you. Thanks for caring, and sharing.
When my Father a WW2 Vet passed in 2012, I watched the whole precedings. Since he was buried with honors, it meant when the time came my Mother would be buried with him on top. The graves were dug twice in feet, and then concrete for a vault! Her time came in 2022! I watched as they were so caring, not to rushed and they even explained what they were doing through every movement. It was beautiful, in it's own way! I thanked the staff at the mortuary and expressed my gratitude!
This guy is a professional and treated the dearly departed with so much respect
Yes he is
Yes he did
Well, he is being recorded.
Until the camera is shut off. Then he pissed on the casket.
@@RadioRich100yup!
We buried my grandmother last September. Some of my family stayed to watch them lower her into the ground, the staff were very professional and caring. Looking forward for the glorious resurrection of the saints of God.
This young man is a true professional in all that i have watched. He not only display his professionalism but he wears it also. Congratulations to you my friend. A great asset to his job.
May God bless this gentleman. It is very hard work, the rewards are few. But, this gracious man does this on a daily basis.
There’s a price for everything in life and grief is the price we pay for loving someone and that’s the highest price any of us will ever have to pay.
Thank you for your love and care and respect you give to each family ❤
I worked in a cemetery one summer a long time and although the denominational cemeteries used backhoes, the city cemetery i was at, was pick & shovel, then after digging down about 5’, unless curved liners were used, it’d be about 5 and a half feet. The liners were of heavy black slate, i guess to protect the coffin when it was lowered. This convinced me that when it’s time to shed my mortal coil, i’ll get cremated.
The only thing I don’t miss about working for the cemetery I worked for years at. Mainly is just when the funeral is going on at the cemetery you just stand back and watch or talk with maybe one or two of your work crew guys there. But in the end that’s a heavy mental burden just watching families grieving daily and dealing with death and every single day 2-3 times a day. Great job but after a bit that’ll start getting to yo u a little . And no you also don’t have to crank the casket down into the vault hole which ever form of wording you prefer, the device can lower itself as well.
I don't know if I could have watched them lower my mom into the ground almost two years ago in late June 2022. She had a lot of health issues including lung, breathing, heart failure, swelling leg, back pains. She was on oxygen for several years at home and on portable battery units and tanks when going out. We actually did a few mini overnight trips and a few long steam train excursions and she took battery units with her and extra batteries. It could charge in the car, hotel, etc. Maybe she wasn't 100% up to it but she did those for me. I like to travel, go in hotel pools and hot tubs, and ride train excursions. Se started to get worse though in early 2022. My brother and I are disabled, don't drive, and I am 50 and my brother 46 next month on the 17th. We have a man living with us since early 1994 and he drives us. He got the title to my mom's 2013 Hyundai Sonata.
I didn't know this person but watching this is just so humbling and quite sad 😢
Respect for all who work so diligently to bury the soul who has gone on.
I went with a green burial (preneed) I have no desire to put any one through so much work when I'm gone. Throw me in a hole in a shroud, thats enough for me. much respect to the folks who do this work.
This is so completely different from the funerals I witnessed while living in Europe. This gentleman puts so much effort and care into his task; it feels that this is more to him than just a job.
he's on camera, of course he's doing his best
@@Marina5311it's not bc he is on camera. This is the standard funeral service n process in the US (for those who can afford it)
@@Marina5311that's SO INCREDIBLY RUDE!! It's not bc he is on camera. He obviously takes great pride in his profession. In addition, idk how it is in other countries or where u are from, but this is the standard for most burials in the US. (For those who can afford it)
😢Watchinh your loved one being lowered into the grave is the hardest part of all
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I love the way this is done by this cemetery, as it is not done like that in our cemetery. we bought a vault for our mother. the vault was put in the ground and her casket was lowered into the vault. then a truck came and lifted the cover and lowered it onto the vault. after seeing this I don't know how they can seal the vault the way they do it in our cemetery, but the way they do it in this video I can see the seal.
I wish our vault company used the Wilbert way. Your performance, display of respect to the deceased as well as your professionalism and passion for your calling. Behind a great funeral director is a great vault man (and you’re wearing a tie!). Thank you for better assisting us doing what we do. 🙏🏻❤
Much appreciated and respect for the kind and caring for the departed.
I was not expecting this video to be a sad as it was. At the same time, this is a very beautiful video. Thank you for sharing.
I'm at how compassionate these people show respect and dignity in their job. I go thru cemetery s still and which I could do this, knowa loved one is being treated even after ceremony for him or her is done . God Bless cemetery workers for wonderfully caring. They don't get told thank u for doing a great job. I tell these men ty in any cemetery they even show u where your marker is if u are walking endlessly in circles 😅, believe me,
He’s the last man to ever let you down.
😂
Literally.
You bring a little humor to this...and its so healthy!!
Love the pun...but perhaps we shouldn't be joking about matters of such grave importance.
😂😂😂😂
The respect, dignity, and professionalism is palpable. God bless you for your care......
I think this is the saddest part! I am getting sad just watching it getting lowered into the ground and I don’t even know this person 💔
Yeah I agree. Very final.
Same here 😢😮😥
I am glad they had good equipment. Those vaults and caskets are very heavy.
Breaks my heart every time I see this occur for anyone. Makes me think of that song, "See you at the crossroads so you won't be lonely!"
These folks have the ultimate responsibility making sure our loved ones get to their final resting places safely , not a easy job emotionally or physically, and they are last person to be with your family member before the vault is sealed.
I respect that he wiped the casket down to look its best before going into the ground. But he also wiped away all his/her family, friends hand prints if they touched them for the last time...
Damn
The guy inside it is still dead.
My the Roman Catholic faith, the priest sprinkles Holy Water on a casket.
@@RadioRich100 we used to respect the dead.
@@briandfallon74 and when everybody leaves the 2 mexicans that bury it pissed on it.
This man is so caring and shows so much respect.
Respect and reverence were on the top of his list. True professional.
No, making you think thats what really happens.
@@RadioRich100 What are you a troll or a hater! How do know that this doesn’t happen?
@@christinalemmo2332 No, im not stupid or gullible like you. If you cant see what goes here then you will be a fool all your life.
@@christinalemmo2332 Guys wearing suits dont bury bodies. Simple deduction.
Sorry you are outnumbered here and your comment doesn’t count.
I’m from New Jersey and I never seen it done this way. So respectful.
Thats because it isnt done that way. It was just a dog and pony show.
Thank you for showing this . I have always wondered how the casket goes down but you can never see it when you're at the cemetery. You get kicked out during this part.Thank you for this information now I know a lot more.
In as much as it’s probably a little creepy to think about your body decaying or being eaten by worms, and even though I know burials like this as well as cemeteries are purely for the families, it just has always seemed like an incredibly huge waste to put all of that in the ground. As well as to take up huge amounts of space with cemeteries. I’m only 45, but more and more it makes so much more sense to me to just be cremated and not have all of that waste and expense. Personally I think it would be kind of neat to take my ashes, and have my family over time spread them in the 4-5 places I loved most in the world. Not only would it give them excuses to take some trips, and connect those places with you, but having your ashes in those places very literally makes you become part of them. But taking an expensive coffin and vault, and just burying it in the ground only to take up space in a cemetery for centuries? Eh…I just don’t know that it makes any sense.
The finality of it. . . 😢
You mean the bullshit surrounding it.
I live in Puerto Rico 🇵🇷, burials are done differently. All family and friends stays in the cemetery until the burial is done with sealing. We see everything. After sealing, all the floral arrangements are put on top. Then visitors leaves. All burial plots are made of cement with different capacity of people who are buried. My family’s plot has for 6 (2 + 2 for the sides and 2 in the middle which adds to 6). Ones can buy for 1, 2, etc. if it’s a public cemetery, each family has to maintain it. Private cemeteries charges a maintenance fee for them to do. Family members are responsible in keeping all plots clean and painted. Well maintained. As the years goes by if the plot is needed, family members has to go to court to exhume remains. The remains will be moved to a small metal box with the name of deceased and buried together with recent deceased. They were charging $600.00 just to move remains aside from the burial cost of recent deceased. Don’t know now since prices has gone up.
My husband has family & ancestors from PR. Do the cemeteries there charge a fee for rental of the burial plot for the body that families have to pay or the body will get exhumed if the family is unable to pay? They don't do that here in the states, but they do in some Latin American countries & places in Europe. We have always wanted to take a trip to PR & see where his family & ancestors came from & are buried.
@@chrishernandez4266 i haven’t heard of rental. Each plot is sold. If there’s a case where family do not own plot they can make arrangements with family members who has a plot to bury the deceased. Will be there until moving it to another plot and will be placed in metal boxes with court orders. Many families gets ready by acquiring plots and paying for funeral arrangements ahead of time. My parents have everything ready. Plot and owners ships with documents.
@@evarodriguezalequin5705 that is a good thing to have. I have tried to get my parents to do that & have gotten a bit of push back. One parent wants to be buried in one cemetery bc our family for several generations are buried there & the other wants to be buried in a military cemetery bc of their veteran status. The two cannot seem to come to an agreement, so I guess it will depend on who goes first. In Mexico, I have heard that in some cemeteries, your family pays a fee for the plot one is buried in. Idk if this is a yearly thing or what, but should the family be unable to pay the fee when it comes time to renew, the body will get moved to a mass grave to be reinterred with others. We would love to visit y'all's cemeteries in Humacao, Gurabo & other places his family lives, but they were buried so long ago that who knows if they are even still there from the sound of it. What happens to the metal boxes of remains when a body is exhumed? Does someone in the family keep it or what? I can't remember if I asked you this or not. I'm just used to how we do it here in the states & think that wherever someone is laid to rest is where they should remain forever, but I understand that you guys may not be able to do that on a tiny island like PR.
@@chrishernandez4266 I live nearby these towns. You can ask in the cementery’s offices, they should have info as to whose interred there. When bodies are removed, they make sure it’s skeletons in order to be in small metal boxes.
In the past several decades , it seems like the industry has attempted to steer the suvivors away from this most important process by not completing this step until everyone has slipped away .
I'm really not sure what my UA-cam algorithm did to bring me here. But this is my 2nd video of yours I've watched. It's really humbling when you realize there is a career for every aspect in life, and in death. And you sir, do an incredible job doing this as professionally as you do. I couldn't imagine all the heartache you encounter doing these. You are a strong man, and I will say it again, a professional at that.
I remember my grandmothers funeral in 1995 she was the very first person in our family to pass away and it was very very hard on me I wanted to be buried with her I miss her soo much still to this day Its now 2024 and I still remember her funeral and how beautiful she looked 🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏😭😭😭
Annie’s in a suit doing that you know that’s uncomfortable and works hard. I never knew how they did it. A mother died due to suicide and I worried about her being lowered in the ground. I know that’s silly but now I don’t have to worry, but I still worry about it leaking and stuff like that that’s crazy, but I love my mom. She was my best friend, but this man takes pride and what he does.
Thanks for being very professional compassion it when do this! I am sorry for your loss of your family member! Fly high with the angels beautiful person! From ohio
Life is short...make it count...this was a caring person who did this...the music fit the video perfectly.
It was a bullshit artist trying to get you to spend thousands more on a funeral then you need to.
My father bought burial plots and vaults in 1975 for approximately $1500 . When my mother died in 2014 the man at the funeral home told me it would cost $ 18000 in 2014 .
Dad really made a wise decision to do that .
Same, my dear late dad had his plot headstone and vault completely paid for at his passing in 2010 in addition to four plots. I bought two plots of my own in the late 80s early 90s for 1,200 dollars.
One for me and one for my only child a daughter. She just became 40 last week . Now I want to purchase my head stone and pay for my funeral before I go so my daughter won't have to worry about it .
I did speak with the owners of the cemetery and got some figures about cost. Wow is all I can say 👀
Much more detailed and involved than I’d imagined; with many additional moving parts and procedures! Thank you for the film! This was oddly soothing, having lost the usual number of friends, family and even clients over the decades…
I went to high school with a member of the family business whose product was utilized here, but I never knew that later in life I would wonder so much about the exact process of their product use. Thanks!
Had no idea how involved this process was. He does a respectful, professional job! Wonder why he doesn't use a power drill to turn all those cranks?
Just a guess, if family members are still around or close by, a hand crank is quieter and more professional and respectful than a drill gun or impact. Just a guess, though…
@MarkTEwing
Makes sense, Mark. The hand crank is more traditional and quieter, with an element of sincere respect. The drill motor is so incorporated into modern practices that it seemed curious as to why it wasn't used here. If family is still present, you must convey respect.
They can but its another $3000.00
@RadioRich100
Makes sense, it's always about the mammon!
wow hugs to all who pass away
Piss on em
Back in Nov18,23 ! My only was placed in a Vault how sad ! I will never forget him! Life is precious!
I am 66 years old. The last time I stood and cried was watching the Funeral Directors lower my HS Football Coach into his final resting place. I was standing almost 200 feet away, but I could see it clearly.
He even wiped the dust off the top of the casket, so much respect.
Oh please, you mean he didnt use car wax on it? Its going to be filled with dirt and water gets in. Its only because the camera was on.
When I did this job I never wiped it down (unless it got rained on) and left anything the family placed on it out of respect for them. Fingerprints and flowers were their last memory of their family member and I wanted that to remain for them!
@@RadioRich100 Why are you so cynical? I'm a cynical person. You, my friend, expect the worst out of everyone.
@@TheLordOfNothing Its just a cheap sales pitch. I call it the way I see it.
Hope, he put the flowers on the cascet. Thats much more respectful, than elsewhere in our World.
The closing of the value was done in a very professional manner. Thank you. I wish that at our cemetery they were as professional and showed such compassion.
While the camera was running yeah. Do you really think a guy with a suit does that? Its probably some mexican in a sweat shirt that smells like a hoagie shop who hasnt had a bath in 5 days with dirt ground into his pants and alcohol on his breath while hes' scratching his balls.
Depressing but incredibly peaceful.😢
It was definitely a very solemn moment seeing my dad lowered into the ground like this about four years ago from a distance. Job well done in making sure this family member was taken care to rest in eternity.
So depressing... watching them lower my mom... but she was 93 and ready for Heaven!😊
Ca-ching Ca-ching
@@RadioRich100 yea. Make an ASH out of me and go enjoy that waste of $$$... $4k coffin ground in 3 days....
I appreciate you doing this for them with courtesy
This profession takes a lot of compassion and respect!
Its all bullshit
i really appreciate this video! very informative & very professional! tremendous amt of compassion shown! i never realized amt of work that went into preparation & presentation! such an amazing & beautiful job cleaning headstone! i can’t say enough about how this young man touched my heart! thank you!
What a WONDERFUL man that did that! Thanks for sharing. A man who knows what he's doing. There are the worst of men - and the best of men.
I want this man to handle my remains at Beechwood Cemetery in Durham, North Carolina when God calls me on to glory. Watching his videos, he handles the remains with lovely care. Some undertakers after every leaves the cemetery takes the casket and throw it over into the grave.🤣And, sometimes they take the nice casket and resale it putting the remains in a box. 😊
respect for the way this man works...what good..
I respect people who can work in this field. It must be very difficult and emotionally draining. I think we need to get away from this custom, but that is just my personal opinion. This guy was so respectful and professional.❤
You talk about, 'Clos phobic,' man! In 1985 I was in Cairo Egypt and went UP into a pyramid! I never knew how one gets up and down! Since then,’ I can't get on amusement park rides that closes one in!’
It is freaky that someday my body will be locked in a box and buried underground for centuries.
Either that or being incinerated to powder in a cremation oven. The thoughts terrify me.
Very professionally done. This gentleman is great at his job & caring so much for the departed. After my father passed away in January 2006, I wanted to stick around after the services to see how it was done. Now I know. Thank you for this video
Get out your check book that will be $20,000 please.
@@RadioRich100 Ever so true. Keeps getting more & more expensive
To do this job or any at a funeral home takes a very special kind of person to do that job. I commend them on the services they do and perform 🙏🏼
The hard fact is when the truck on the highway goes by while (2:50) this wonderful man is being so respectful. Life won't stop for any of us although we wish it could. A compassionate respectful lowering. RIP
True😢
What you choose Eternity? Is up to you. Heaven or Hell.
I sincerely hope that person had a great life!!
As someone who took great honor in doing sympathy flowers, I respect your devotion to care and detail. A family only gets to say " good bye,", once.
$20,000 later
I admire your thoughtfulness, sir. You do everything in your power to help make this as "pleasant " as possible for the family. I imagine you to be a loving husband and father. ❤
This is very educational and done very respectfully. I often wondered how this was done, and your video is very well done. Often some cemeteries do not give this level of compassion like you do.
Dont be stupid its faked. He set it all up.
@@RadioRich100no reason for the use of the word stupid. People are allowed to wonder.
@@Mitch-sk1bn That kind of wondering will cost you thousands of dollars. Hows gullible sound?
@@RadioRich100 It’s not worth arguing over. The intent of the creator was to show to those who might want to know how it’s done. The creator has succeeded.
@@Mitch-sk1bn He succeeded in bullshitting the gullible like you
Beautiful casket. RIP fellow American. May God grant peace and comfort to those who you left behind.
Trust me, they don’t dress like that when they lower the casket and do all that and if it’s the Wilbert Way, which this particular video is showing the person that is usually not alone
When my parents went down, I’ll never forget or heal. 💔🙏🏻
Love the music... Heartbreaking 💔
Thats how they empty your pockets.
The Benny Hill theme would have just been silly.
The song made it so very special ❤
Lol get your checkbook out.
PUT ME IN THERE!!!😢
Ah, so this is how it's done: The straps that go under the casket are shimmied out. -I had wondered if they had one end that was wound around the turning mechanism, but not completely secured, so that one side could detach and be slid out. But now I know. Thank you for this.
Beautiful music choice. I was moved. God bless❤️
Oh please
@RadioRich100 Im sorry if my previous comment sounded insensitive. I'll try to explain. The part that hit most was when the casket and sarcophagus were lowered. A feeling on finality came over me and moved me to tears. It's that moment where the person is going out of sight permanently and I felt the loss hit me, even though I didn't know this person. I know that time might come where I watch my loved ones be incurred or in some similar fashion, go. It's a reminder to seize moments while they are still available. I apologize again for offending. I had a similar experience watching a simulation of the sinking of the Titanic. When the ship hit the bottom, it was again that finality feeling. God bless.
@@JohnnyQuaykersBelmont Your the type of person they will take advantage of.
@RadioRich100 I'm sorry to hear that there's any chance any people who provide these services would take advantage of folks in a time of loss and emotional pain. I watch the Ask A Mortician channel on a regular basis. She has been campaigning for years for personal burial choice rights, has done stories on locations that have been unjust to their customers, and educates as many people as will listen on how to plan their own wills, funerals, etc. My own plan is a more green burial, but I respect the right for everyone to make their own choice on how they would like their remains to be deposited.
@@JohnnyQuaykersBelmont Yes good choice
This guy was definitely not the vault guy! This man was very professional, however, definitely a polished video..
What happens after the vault is in the ground, do you have to do any other sealing on the vault? Someone in another comment mentioned tape? Also this looks like less than 6ft, do they really go only about 4ft? I would like to just see the rest of the process before the person leaves or like before the grass goes on.
Reminds me when I got to watch my last biological grandparent get lowered into the ground last year. I was glad I was able to observe as well.
I've wondered how this was done. Thank you for showing us in a professional and respectful manner.
I reported you@ErkanYildirim-ss4ww
This is so moving in a way, but I’m still trying to decide what I want done for myself. Someday I know it’s ridiculous but seeing this just kicks my cluster phobia and the high gear, I know it’s silly because I’d be dead. It’s just the thought of being underground in the cold in the dark forever.
To me, it is such a shame to spend all that money on a funeral. I don't want anybody to spend money on me after I am dead. What people should do is spend money on us while we are still alive, then we can enjoy it. Yes I know funeral home have to make money too.
That was very interesting thank you for showing that video
The respect you give is immeasurable and so appreciated, Thank You!!! 💥💥💥💥💥
Its B.S.
@@RadioRich100 really? How do you know?
@@kerrystiffler7735 Its a demo of what you want to see so they can suck all the money out of your wallet.You thought that was an actual burial with no body else there?
@@RadioRich100 well, when I have gone to a funeral absolutely nothing is done at the grave site until every one has left the cemetery.
@@RadioRich100 I guess I’m just naive.
I agree the gentleman is kind, respectful, and professional, HOWEVER, i feel like funeral services are a scam and prey on families in their worst moments. Sure they have to make money like the rest of us but at whose expense? They've even caught onto the cheaper services like cremation and made those more expensive for those who need them as a cheaper option. I know Ill get serious backlash for my comments but I say these things from a point of someone who had to pay out of pocket for 4 relatives of whom had done no estate planning. all the best to this gentleman nothing against him just sharing experiences. cheers!
Your right but remember hes on camera, notice he never looks at it.
Having owned a burial vault company for many years, I can tell you that you are correct. Most funeral directors are merely salesmen, and they have the best customers in the world- grieving families with insurance policies.
Thank you for sharing this video. It was very educational. That young man was so thoughtful and caring. The company he works for is blessed to have such an asset amongst them. May God Always Bless him and his family 🙏🙏🙏
Oh god how many fools watched this video and thinks its real? Raise your hand.
@@RadioRich100yo do not use the Lord's name in vain