I’m 5’9 but 6 feet on tinder. You’d be surprised how there are so many girls who don’t know the difference of 3 inches but it helps me out when in times of need
YES. Like, I was lowkey hoping they decide to keep the dynamic of matching after every new account just for the lols of it. Yeah, it might be boring after a while, but an "anonymous" online friend that you connect in a dating app after x amount of time to chat about what happened to you does sound like a rom-com w/o the actual partner/love
This is the reason-like Daniel brought up-young Millennials and Gen Z have significantly less relationships and sex than previous generations because y'all want everything to be friendship. 😂
@@cutienerdgirl lol then there's me, a polyamorous gen Z'er. I had two boyfriends at once last summer, but the first one I got with broke it off. We weren't really compatible, but I learned a lot. The other guy and I will have been together one and a half years next month though 😊 He has shown me everything a relationship should be, and I could see us staying together until we grow old. We've withstood so much turbulence because we handle everything as a team. It's amazing ❤ I've improved and grown so much as a person because of him too. Edit: although I forgot to mention that we still haven't had sex lol. The right time just hasn't arrived yet, and we're both fine with that. It's just not about that to us. Tbh, I feel like the lack of sex in our relationship proves just how compatible we are, because it isn't dependent on it. One day we will probably do it, and it will be a lovely experience. We could probably also never do it, and still be in love just as much as if we did. I love that about us tbh.
@@Vanziethel I'm 6"5.5 and the doctor said I'm not done growing and i have to say it's a pain sometimes. for instance i have to bend down to wash my hair. your pain is VARY relatable
Not to be a smartass, but was that word going to be “concussion” or “conclusion”? Either one would work in the context of the comment, and now I’m curious…
The unfortunate OTHER side to the "heightist" coin is now that men think most women care about their height, I had to swipe left on dozens of guys who ONLY put their height in their bio. I recognize this is likely a byproduct of being shot down by girls that care a lot about their partner's height, but man give me something to talk about. I eventually matched with a guy who was into Batman and dinosaurs and we're still going strong 5 years later. He is 5'10", and he is perfect the way he is.
@@autopsyblue i think another valid comparison point is boob size, i know quite a few fellas who will (almost) literally drool over some huge milkers, and ONLY date girls with big badonkers, it's not really something under the girls control (yes, i'm aware of silicone gazonkalizers) and it is a pretty big deal to a lot of very loud guys, the same with height to women, i know some who are very strict about only dating guys quite a bit taller than them, so yeah, i think it is a valid comparison point
@@San-lh8us Ye, but also penis size... though tbf that's really not readily apparent when you meet someone. Then again height isn't as apparent on dating apps as it is in person, so maybe that's why we're seeing people talk about all this more in the first place...
As a woman I don't understand the thinking that anything under 6' is short. I'm 5'6" and 5'10" is tall to me. If I can't kiss you without you craning your neck down and giving yourself back problems, that's probably not a healthy criteria for dating
@@JustAnziaI would not consider anything under 6’3” being short, and I’m a very tall woman (6’). 5’9” is the average height for men in the US, so anything taller than that is technically tall.
Exactly! I am 5’2 and I only want men below 5’9 preferably closer to 5’6. He’ll I could handle a man shorter than me. People always tell me I’d be perfect with a tall man cause it’d make me seem even smaller but that makes me so uncomfortable. Short men are more attractive than many give them credit for.
i mean, it's just the difference between the objective and subjective realities. objectively, any man above the statistically average height is tall. but in my case, i grew up in a family where the shortest man was 6'2" and the tallest was 7'0". my formative years were spent with this as my reference for height in men, so subjectively i view men who are under like 6'3" as short.
25:15 No romantic connection means just that. It's not something that needs to be changed. Women aren't NPCs that you need to figure out the secret sequence of moves to get your reward. She just isn't into you. That is not a reflection on you or her. It's literally chemical reactions. What are you going to do? Figure out a way to change your body chemistry. Quit trying to control everything and just understand it's not something you need to fix.
The part that icked me was him apologizing for being ugly. That just made her seem shallow and directed the blame onto her instead of accepting that it just wasn't going to work. Men like that creep me out.
Serial matcher OP wasn't necessarily too scared to shoot his shot. After she'd flaked on him multiple times before, it'd be pretty smart of him to hold back and see if she showed more initiative before he got his hopes up
I am a 5' 10" woman. There is something to be said about being held in a hug by someone taller than you, that being said I have almost exclusively dated men shorter than me and it's always more of a problem for them than for me.
It is really nice to be hugged by someone taller! However, I feel like a lot of really tall guys I’ve been with have made their height their personality, so they’re much more boring than the guys shorter than me. I totally agree with you, definitely more of a problem for them than for me (I’m 6’).
Absolutely, your animal brain grunts "me want tall & strong", but it's the much bigger & more active part, the developed brain, that you want to listen to. I was lucky, found a clever, funny and caring nerd.
There's a comedian who was on AGT who's 5'4" and he was saying a woman said she wanted to date someone taller than her because she wanted to feel protected and he said, "You are. You're tall."
@@rebeccat7912 Generally the tall people I've met are nice. I've never met him but Jonathan Frakes (Star Trek actor/director) seems like one of the nicest people and he's really tall. I've never noticed what you said about tall guys so maybe there was another common denominator.
@@crowbirdyWhile that could be the case, I have a tendency to put what I think is proper punctuation in most of my messages. Thus, it could also just be a writing style in a similar way that some people will write “u” as opposed to “you.”
@@crowbirdyi personally type without any capitals but i also use periods and commas when i write. it indicates sentences and makes reading the whole thing more understandable, especially when a lot of people use NO punctuation AT ALL when texting. however, at the end of a final sentence, i never put a period because of what you said - those are only for the end of a sentence before a new one. even on a new line, like this one. enough rambling, i think it's just because i used to always write with proper grammar and i love writing (creative writing, etc). it just depends on how the person is tbh
i had someone get pissed at me for spelling things correctly... she literally said "why do you have to spell things like that, are you trying to tell me im dumb?" sorry that i know how to spell?
@@sonofsparda657Ye it’s very strange for someone to get mad at writing with punctuation or taking the time to spellcheck haha. I tend to use exclamation marks to show friendliness or excitement but even without that punctuation marks don’t mean anything negatively unless the person never uses it normally.
@@autopsybluehmm do you think his opinions are wrong sometimes? Do you have any examples? I've always thought he's been pretty objective with his takes but I'm genuinely curious since the comment section is mostly laughing about the jokes and stuff
I’m a tall guy and I also don’t get the appeal of us. Being tall is not as great as it seems and my normal height wife has to deal with the constant inconvenience of me not being able to fit in things. When we were buying our house, we literally had to pass on perfectly good houses because showers were too short for me to stand in.
@@Just1Norayou must have an insane torso length to leg length ratio?! How are you 5”8 and don’t fit into things? I’m 5”11.5 and sometimes my knees hit the cockpit area, but I’ve never been literally too big to fit.
Just 6’7”, but the standard interior door height wasn’t set until the 1990s so houses built before then literally just have random doors that are like 6’2” and I would step in showers where the ceiling height would be around that height as well.
I get that it sucks to have things broken off after a few dates and be given no concrete reason that you could act on, cause it makes you feel like you can't control whether or not you find a romantic partner. But.... you *can't* fully control whether or not you find a person who you have chemistry, common interests, and common values with, who is also interested in you. Entering in a relationship, by definition, requires the choice of another person. Nothing you do will guarantee that they'll choose you. It isn't a test where if you get 100%, you get a girlfriend. It's a negotiation process with another person.
I can't speak for others in regard to tall guys, but I'm 5'9 and I like to wear shoes with heels. I don't care about the height of my partners but I do notice a lot of men don't like when I'm taller than them so I tend to gravitate toward taller guys because of this.
As someone who dated a tall guy, i 100% prefer my "short" boyfriend. It's easier, I don't have to break my neck to talk to/kiss him. I call him "me size"
I’m a 6’3 guy, and I understand having preferences for height, as an example I prefer taller women to make things less complicated, (my girlfriend is 5’11) but it shouldn’t be a dealbreaker or a requirement, especially when you’re just meeting your prospective partner. ALSO a ton of my friends are less than 6’0 and they are some of the sweetest guys. Stop the whole 6’0 requirement.
It’s really just an arbitrary number cause y’all don’t use the metric system, here in Europe nobody’s saying you have to be over 183 cm to be tall… I’m 182 cm and that’s average height for males in my country. Nobody ever has called me short while at this height.
Why should people stop? If it is their preference then its their preference. youcant make someone attracted to someone they are not into. If a guy turned down a girI for being overweight, no one would fault him for it because ultimately he just isnt into her. As long as people are nice about it, there is nothing wrong with having a physical preference
As a tall lady, I will anecdotally mention that there are some very insecure men who get pissy if you are taller than them on the date (heels or otherwise). There are also the short kings who are all for it tho so idk. PERSONAL PREFERENCES OR WHATEVER Edit: the girls under 5' 6" who make dating tall men their entire thing drove me and the rest of my giraffe squad volleyball team insane. Leave some tall guys for the rest of us lol
18:16 its like a romance show that just keeps it running on on untill the showw starts getting canceled and it has one of the most satisfying conclusions in media history.
"II'd almost prefer if a date told me I was rude, or something tangible I did wrong at times since that's actually something I can file away for the future" This guy is forgetting that we as women aren't going to do that and there's a reason. If/when we do that 8 times out of 10 we get RIPPED APART by said guy. They tell us off for our honesty. As much as we'd like to tell you what went wrong during a date, we CAN'T because we wind up fearing for our safety by an unstable guy that we didn't know was truly THAT unstable. Feedback is great but there's a reason women choose the bear...
They only really ask in order to debate you or tell you your reasoning is wrong/crazy. They really think it's an opportunity to haggle and convince you not to cut it off.
Idk I feel like it’s just common courtesy to tell someone what they did wrong so they can improve in the future. Guys like a problem to solve and if you don’t give them one then they’ll assume it was either the wrong thing that turned you off him or completely self destruct and assume it was everything
@@Ravelord_Nito-qm6ikThats not the woman’s responsibility though. If someone ‘self-destructs’ because they werent given specific enough reasons for why someone didnt want to date them, then that’s something they need to work on before continuing to date. Plus there might not have even been any tangible ‘wrong’ thing, some people just don’t connect and no amount of doing the ‘right’ things will change that. Dating involves individual human beings who are each gonna have their own preferences. It isn’t a puzzle to solve, imho treating it that way isnt a healthy outlook. It’s an individual’s responsibility to reflect on their own actions. Even if it feels frustrating that you don’t get to know what they really felt or thought, they still don’t owe that to you. I get it, when someone doesnt like me i often feel annoyed that i dont get to know exactly what i did or didnt do, but i remind myself they don’t owe me that and i can’t expect that from someone, and i try to move onwards and upwards.
@@AnEmu404As a woman, I’ve also been told by guys that they just didn’t feel anything, and I agree. Me wondering why and if I did something wrong isn’t his problem. Maybe he doesn’t know why either. But even if there was something that caused it, I wouldn’t expect the next person I go on a date with to have the same dating preferences anyway.
Yeah, I noticed that too. If I break things off with a guy and I don't specify WHY, it's because either: a.) I worry he's going to take that feedback, go "fix it," and then come back to me a week later to try to negotiate with me... And then potentially become scary when I don't want to give him a second chance despite the fact that he "applied my feedback." b.) there genuinely isn't anything specific or tangibly wrong, I just don't feel any chemistry. It also really rubbed me the wrong way when that commenter said "men are logical, we want to know how we can fix things." Buddy, that desire to fix is driven by your EMOTIONS - such as embarrassment or shame. You want to fix yourself so that you don't have to feel those feelings again. Not because of "logic" 🙄
My husband actually is 6’6” and he says being ultra tall means basically he goes through life knowing how dirty the tops of peoples refrigerators are and having everyone constantly comment on his height in public. Other than that, it seems like mostly a nuisance for him. His back always hurts from having to crouch constantly (cars, doorframes, etc.) and his feet hang off the end of the bed. My poor guy. LOL😂❤❤❤ 5:09
6’6” man here, can confirm there are tons of things that high that are gross. We don’t care. My mom used to make me clean the top of the fridge because “I’m the only one who can make sure it was clean” and I would respond with “who are you doing this for? In the only one in the family who can even see if it’s clean or not?” Usually I would just act like I was cleaning it and leave it dirty cuz she never knew 😂
Daniel has the prettiest emerald eyes. I’m 5’2”. I dated a guy 7’2”. He was really sweet. There was A LOT of him. Silly and smart man. Very good friend to this day.
I feel like every time there’s some intimidating looking person that’s nice everybody’s like oh my God they’re the nicest person ever but when you have somebody that looks nice and is nice nobody really cares
I'd be surprised if the guy who said, "I'm sorry about the way I look," was actually self conscious. A lot of people try to guilt the person that shot them down. She says, "I'm not into you," he says, "so I'm ugly?" She says, "noooo, it's not that! I didn't say that! You are attractive." He yells, "that's right! I'm a king! You're the ugly one, and I hope you never find anyone." etc. It's really common with the quote unquote 'nice guys'. I'll make you feel bad for me, feel bad about yourself or both. She was smart not to respond.
I feel like a lot of people do that, and it's kind of a bad, toxic habit. Especially women (with each other) because they might feel more self-conscious than men about their looks or because they feel uncomfortable giving themselves praise. "Oh I look so fat/ugly/old" can be ok I guess if thats the dynamic, but it basically puts the other person into a situation where they have to compliment you or be seen as rude.
I am also an old, though not a married old, and have dated both tall (6'8") and short (5'4") kings. Physical attraction-wise, the short kings rule! However, temperament-wise, I go with tall. In my experience, shorter men are more aggressive and looking for a fight, while taller men mostly try to avoid fighting
The surprise microphone is more of a close friend who always jumpscares you when enter a room so you know it’ll happen but pretend to be scared for their sake even if they know you’re not actually scared and you both laugh afterwards anyways the further cement that idea.
The one that devalued a woman due to clothing choice is a wonderful example of sexism- when men can post shirt off pics (clearly they are there proud of and want to show off a body) but if a woman wears something “skimpy” (for also the same reason) its seen as damaging to her reputation 🙄 double standards are wild
First guy fumbled because you’re supposed to say “No your forehead is fine. You’re pretty”. She was negging about an insecurity hoping for a compliment, and instead he joined in to tease her.
He could've done that, but also she seemed to be with it at first, he just took it too far. Like the comment said, how is she supposed to reply at that point? You make a joke, she responds, you move on.
Or be like “Sorry, I didn’t notice your forehead because your eyes are so stunning.” You can’t erase someone’s insecurity, but you can give them a compliment they’ll appreciate.
I had a guy on a dating app match with me start flattering me and then switched doctor Jekyll style and tell me I’m too short - I was like um boy byeeee
I would say the height-take is a hot one; because just like some ladies prefer tall men, some men only want to date blond women or with specific figure/weight. Its quite common to have our own preferences & everyone should feel safe about what they prefer & vocalize it (with kindness & consideration). And if u r on the other side & ur own specs don't fit the perceived common beauty standards in a specific area; that doesn't make u any less attractive because to the right person u will be a catch. Other peoples preference doesn't mean u r not enough, u r enough for the right fit.
23:23 I have never fallen for someone on the first date, I need to get to know you, trust you, like you. It takes time for me. If it’s a maybe, I'm going on a second date to find out if it’s a yes or a no. If it’s still a maybe, I'm going on a third date. I think that’s when I would call it off if I was still unsure? It’s never happened Edit: All of this provided we have a great connection through messages! If I want to keep talking to you, I want to see you again
Besides, first dates are always awkward. I'm awkward, you’re awkward, we’re not really getting to know each other yet. Of course if I know it’s a no I'm not going for a second date, but if it’s a maybe? Sure, let’s give it another shot.
Y'all remember the Global Trading System in Pokémon? Remember how everybody always offered a Magikarp or similar and wanted the box-facing legendary in return? Dating apps, man.
Just wanna say as a 5'2 woman, I don't get the height thing. I literally don't care how tall you are, and my friends call me a dwarf/leprechaun all the time lmfao ( call them trees/giants)
(About the capitalization one:) Its one thing to polietly ask someone to write your name a certain way (people should be called the way they want to be called), it is a whole other thing to break it off with a person over it when it has not been communicated. If you have talked to them about it and they still do it, then thats different as it would hint to a general lack of respect for your wishes.
I'm 5'3"ish and I have a hard time believing anyone is over 6'. I grew up believing the ideal height for a couple is the man is a couple inches taller at most. When my longtime crush got a growth spurt in high school, I was sad.
I understand your sentiment... but I dated a guy in middle school who later admitted he thought my friend was hot and knew he didnt have a chance with her so he went for me instead... I know the bigger part was that she was popular and I was the quiet shy friend, but it still hit like a brick hearing it.. thankfully I was in my "moving on from him" stage when he said it
1:08 I’m on a dating app only looking for women. Most of the time, they ghost you even if you didn’t fumble them. Women usually don’t spend as much time on dating apps as guys. It’s 99.9% never personal. Sometimes you have chemistry but she’s maybe not that serious yet. She also likely has multiple guys in her DMs
Honestly, sometimes depending on the app, my inbox will fill up so fast, I get overwhelmed and my social anxiety kicks in, and I feel bad for only replying to a few people, but that's the most I can handle, so it stresses me out and I delete the app like a coward 😂😅
What's the point getting mad about people being heightist though? Honestly, it means you get that red flag right out the gate instead of wasting your time. Also, it's just not a healthy headspace to be in, trying to control other people's preferences, which they ARE allowed to have, yes even if it doesn't include you. Complaining literally won't change anything, it'll just make you feel worse. Is it weird to be that strict about height specifically? Sure, but refer to above. They'll have issues other than that, so it's for the best to rule them out asap. If they wanna miss out, that's their problem.
Just go after tall girls, I swear. I am 5'9" and married a 5'7" guy. If I wear heels I literally tower over him. Dating apps are just filled to the brim with shallow people, honestly.
25:20 as a girl, if I think or say "I don't feel the connection" IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. yeah, i get that it suck cause you can't fix anything. but that's the whole point! you don't need to 'fix' anything! you're probably a great guy and you deserve a great girlfriend. but I'm not that. you don't have to have a flaw for the relationship not to work. heck, you can even get along great but if it's not meant to be romantic, it's not meant to be. nothing to fix there. and yes, it sucks, but if you're a grown person you can get over it. and at least you'll know that you don't need to change. you just don't fit with that person- and that's all
4:32 - My boyfriend is 6’2, I’m 5’2. And honestly it’s more annoying that he is a foot taller than me. Because if we want to kiss, he has to like squat down and I have to stand on my tippy toes. Still love him though and the height difference will not be in the way of our relationship lolll
I'm tall for a woman, but my bf is 6 ft 2. It's so nice to be closer in height, no one is squatting or reaching lol. The best hugs. My bf agrees. However, while height is just something that's nice as a taller woman, it's not mandatory for me.
Okay. As a member of the woman community, I will elaborate on the height thing. At least for ME it's a kink sorta thing. It's hot to have to look up at my partner. It's a mixture of intimidating and like... somn' else. HOWEVERRR I don't ask people their heights because A, that's rude, B, Hinge has heights listed there, and C, I can just tell if they give me the good vibes when in person. I don't need specifics. ALSO ALSO, 5'8 (the average height for men) works just fine for me. I'm 5'2 so that's 6 inches taller. Would I prefer 6'+? Yes but I'm not gonna fuckin' live my life ignoring all the good men out there just for a height preference. Idk what it is for other women but that's what it is for me. Although.. the fact that he would be able to grab things out of the high ass cabinets in my house would be a godsend for my short ass😭
@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon right??? Idk what it is but I get all flustered and shy n' stuff 😳 Maybe it's activating my inner sub whenever I look up at them 😂
@@OuchingTigerLimpingDragonSome women love the looming thing. I can attest the intimidation but also the security that comes with a guy taller than you? That certainly does do something. 😂😂 But also I'm shorter than most average women so 5'8" is tall to me.
I am a tall girl (5'9" I guess? 175 cm tall) and I prefer guys that are taller than me but not that much taller, so I could kiss and hug them comfortably. I do love guys that are taller than me but also wouldn't pass on guys that suit me just bc they are shorter. It is the matter of being suited for each other and feeling love for each other, respect and just being compatible, preferences are preferences, not requirements. Be it a guy of any height if we don't go well together in terms of worldview and our personalities, it just won't work no matter how the guy looks! I do love me guys that are taller than me tho ofc, I don't understand going after a guy a looot (too much) taller than your own height is tho :D
I don’t understand why short women prefer tall men but as a tall gal myself I just feel uncomfortable dating someone who’s below eye level. Not necessarily who are at my height, but It’s awkward when I’m the one looking down at them- yk?
13:20 I grew up an extreme pedant for grammar and punctuation, and things like capitalizing letters are built into my hands as muscle memory while typing. But, over the years, I have started caring less about the "proper" way to write as long as the person I'm typing to understands what I'm trying to communicate. And I gave myself chronic RSIs in both hands back in 2017, so sometimes i will switch to lowercase and chatspeak cuz its easier on my hands like this The way that person talks with perfect punctuation shows me they're pedantic too, and in this case probably extremely insecure. I overanalyze peoples' words and typing styles until I whip myself into anxious frenzies, but I have never once found it strange if someone stopped capitalizing my name. That's wild.
I'm a guy and average height. I don't mind if people ask about my height bc it's an easy block. I see it as filtering through the assholes. Saves me a lot of time. Regardless of gender opening a conversation with asking about looks is wild. Imagine a dude starting a convo with, what's your cup size? 😑
I've heard that some women are basically tortured by controlling guys when they are taller than their guys. My personal experience is tall guys make your neck hurt if you aren't within a certain height of them. He deserves love too. But neck still hurt.
I genuinely don’t get the height thing. I've never cared about it, I'm 5’6” and I've gone on dates with guys my height and taller. It’s so much easier kissing a guy that’s my height! I can never **just kiss** my 6 foot boyfriend, I have to ask for a kiss so he’ll bend down lmao
I'm 5'6 too and I prefer guys the same height or taller but not over 5'11 like 5'8-5'10 because I don't want hurt my neck trying to kiss or hug a guy so I prefer a guy not to be over 5'11, my bf is 5'9/5'10 and kissing and hugging him is so much easier because we're closer to eye level so I don't have to look up to him.
“Sorry about my looks” is an attempt to manipulate by pity. It confirmed for the woman that she was 100% right not to continue with the relationship. Gross.
There are so many things wrong with the "sorry about my looks" response and it really is just shooting yourself in the foot. I've heard this a couple times after turning someone down, despite explaining I didn't think our personalities were compatible or I was busy dealing with my own shit and needed more therapy before I could even consider dating anyone at all, and the biggest issue I have with it is that what I immediately get from that statement is that this person is convinced I'm just that shallow. First off if they believe that I'm that sort of person then why are they still interested, genuinely I don't understand that part because I sure wouldn't be, and from my side of it why would I want to have anything to do with them if that's their opinion of me? Even though it's always self-pitying and not intentionally malicious towards me, after a conversation like that I've gone from wanting to sort myself and circle back in a few weeks to being irrevocably put off them
Make a series, skit based, where you come up with hilarious (but kind of valid) reasons for why someone can't date you, or you have to be over 6'8" lmao id love that
18:20 I probably wouldn't be annoyed if I read it by myself (I have 0 relationship experience) But seeing it with the perspective you give from experience it does annoy me
I really don't understand why a lot of ppl obsess over height so much, I'm 5'7 and my husband is 5'10 so height has never been a thing with us but our love for each other has very much been a thing for us than just height, women who only want tall men are just missing out on a good man because personality and commitment are way more important to me in a relationship than height.
20:21 Idk bro, i think youre being too judgy. If i was the girl in that situation, i wouldve loved how he was keeping the joke running. And none of it really came off as desperate to me
Three dates makes sense. First date is short, in a public space where you can gauge if you feel safe continuing. A vibe check. Like meeting up for coffee. Second date, an activity fixed a fixed start and end. If things don't go well, there is a natural end to the activity giving you an easy out. The third date is the actual date that doesn't have a fixed end time. It could go on until dinner, or until breakfast, or until Monday.
someone who is 6 feet tall earns, on average, nearly $166,000 more during a 30-year career than someone who is 5 feet 5 inches--even when controlling for gender, age and weight. CEOs on average are at least three inches taller than average. They are less likely to suffer depression or be abusive, due to increased confidence and better treatment in general in social settings. Sad but true, maybe now that so much of our work is done while seated it will matter less?
Genuinely, with the matching again and again between the guy and the girl story, that's definitely something I would do, and that's 100% how i text. It's so young gen z coded, it's so incredibly my humor. The conversation is so much like how I talked to my now girlfriend where we joked about marriage and divorce before we even dated.
gay dating is nice because you don't get the weird height thing as much and when things go wrong you can analyze behavior as just person to person instead of worrying about what someone's gender has to do with the way they communicate
If you like to constantly warm up hot packs, tall guy is the way to go. I'm 6 foot 3 (which I don't consider tall because my dad is 6, 5 and my grandpa was 6, 9) but my wife is 13 inches shorter than me and she's always taking care of my constant hip, knee, and back pain. Because the bigger you are, the more life hurts. Look at how much pain Andre The Giant was in all the time.
I’m 5’4” and there I don’t really care about height but there’s something about having to look down at a man to make eye contact that makes me feel weird 😂
@@TheonlyteenagedKaren Don't get your facts mixed up Karen. Maybe stop harrassing managers everywhere and try to come up with some good clapbacks every once in a while
I think it would help in the dating scene if we reframe it as a compatibility search. Some people are great on paper but if you don't have chemistry, that can't be helped and you can't force that.
You know dating shorter guys yourself would solve your problem, the way I see it either all the shorter girls aim lower or you do and you actually have a choice in one of those scenarios. Take it from the guys, they tend to be more flexible with their preferences instead of expecting others to change to “widen the pool” for them.
15:38 when she said how she sees it playing out, i would have just said “if we both know how it’s gonna go why dont we jump to the end and meet up for coffee?” god i hope they go on a date, those two are literally starring in a rom com edit: LETS GOOOO IM SO HAPPY FOR THEM
I’m 4’11” and I genuinely don’t see the appeal of making the standard for guys’ attractiveness 6’. I used to date a tall guy. Not that he was ever dangerous by any means or ever did anything to make me feel this way, but there were times where the height distance actually made me feel unsafe. There is something really uncomfortable being in a relationship with someone significantly larger than you.
i'm just under 5'2" & i think it's so weird how other women care that much about height, especially when they're my size b/c like almost all guys are tall to women my size. like my bf is 5'11" i think but i didn't seek out a tall guy. i love him for him & when we first met it was the chemistry btwn us, not some weird superficial hangup. we met working retail when we were younger & everyone knew we liked each other, everyone. it was so obvious. like it should be about how well you click & how much you're attracted to each other. why limit yourself?
3:33 As a guy who always said he's 5'8, and got called out by fiancee saying I'm probably closer to 5'6 because shes 5'5, stand on business. I got measured without shoes for surgery back in June, and was told I'm 5'7 and 3/4. My fiancee is definitely closer to 5'7 than I am to 5'6.
I think covid really screwed lots of young people up. Because we've been isolated from the outside world with nothing to do, it's easier to become addicted to screens, making it easier to stay completely isolated even though people can go outside now, and we don't socialize as much, which is probably why it's a lot more difficult for younger people to "pull the trigger" and go on dates.
"If she doesn't want me at my silliest, she doesn't deserve me at my goofiest". I'm gonna use this to it's full extent
I love it! Sounds like something I would say, too 😂
The day Daniel stops doing the surprise microphone is the day we riot.
yes
ALL HAIL THE SURPRISE MICROPHONE🎤🎤🎤
I’m so happy because this is one of the only running jokes that I was there when it originated.
But wouldn't that mean the next time would be EXTREME SURPRISE MICROPHONE
Yes… BRING THE MIC!!!
Daniel: “this lady might be overthinking”
Daniel: *proceeds to overthink*
i mean, he was trying to understand her side, so it's the only logical step really
@@San-lh8us true!
That's the thing with overthinking. Even if you are aware of it, doesn't mean that you can stop yourself from doing it.
You missed a chance to write daniel with a lower case d for the lower one.
I am 4’11” there is too tall. When someone is wondering if I am his child from a distance or it affects intimacy in a negative way.
fr if you were dating a 7’ person y’all couldn’t even see eachother 💀💀
@@jamcosplaysnothing but looking at rib cage
I’m 5’9 but 6 feet on tinder. You’d be surprised how there are so many girls who don’t know the difference of 3 inches but it helps me out when in times of need
@@DjSicEm yeah I realize I couldn’t put an exact height in my example because anything above 5’7” does not compute for me. 🤣
@@DjSicEm There's definitely a joke to be said here about where those 3 inches went.
The conversation between OP and the woman who keeps remaking/deleting her account, they don't even need to be dating, just be FRIENDS!
This. I met someone on one of dating apps and we didn't click romantically but we're friends for about 10 years already lol
Oh, that's true! Or at least _consider_ it! There's so much comfortable banter between them already.
YES. Like, I was lowkey hoping they decide to keep the dynamic of matching after every new account just for the lols of it. Yeah, it might be boring after a while, but an "anonymous" online friend that you connect in a dating app after x amount of time to chat about what happened to you does sound like a rom-com w/o the actual partner/love
This is the reason-like Daniel brought up-young Millennials and Gen Z have significantly less relationships and sex than previous generations because y'all want everything to be friendship. 😂
@@cutienerdgirl lol then there's me, a polyamorous gen Z'er.
I had two boyfriends at once last summer, but the first one I got with broke it off. We weren't really compatible, but I learned a lot.
The other guy and I will have been together one and a half years next month though 😊 He has shown me everything a relationship should be, and I could see us staying together until we grow old. We've withstood so much turbulence because we handle everything as a team. It's amazing ❤ I've improved and grown so much as a person because of him too.
Edit: although I forgot to mention that we still haven't had sex lol. The right time just hasn't arrived yet, and we're both fine with that. It's just not about that to us.
Tbh, I feel like the lack of sex in our relationship proves just how compatible we are, because it isn't dependent on it.
One day we will probably do it, and it will be a lovely experience.
We could probably also never do it, and still be in love just as much as if we did. I love that about us tbh.
My brother is 6 ft 5. He was running to get the phone and brained himself on the top of a door frame. Concusion. Too tall.
As a longman myself, hitting my head is a constant threat. Also, my bathroom is too short for me. There is a point where tall is bad.
@@Vanziethel I'm 6"5.5 and the doctor said I'm not done growing and i have to say it's a pain sometimes. for instance i have to bend down to wash my hair. your pain is VARY relatable
Not to be a smartass, but was that word going to be “concussion” or “conclusion”? Either one would work in the context of the comment, and now I’m curious…
@themustar601 ha, yeah both would work. I meant concusion. X
The unfortunate OTHER side to the "heightist" coin is now that men think most women care about their height, I had to swipe left on dozens of guys who ONLY put their height in their bio. I recognize this is likely a byproduct of being shot down by girls that care a lot about their partner's height, but man give me something to talk about.
I eventually matched with a guy who was into Batman and dinosaurs and we're still going strong 5 years later. He is 5'10", and he is perfect the way he is.
There's an other other side where men say that women are too tall to date.
@@autopsyblue i think another valid comparison point is boob size, i know quite a few fellas who will (almost) literally drool over some huge milkers, and ONLY date girls with big badonkers, it's not really something under the girls control (yes, i'm aware of silicone gazonkalizers) and it is a pretty big deal to a lot of very loud guys, the same with height to women, i know some who are very strict about only dating guys quite a bit taller than them, so yeah, i think it is a valid comparison point
@@San-lh8us Ye, but also penis size... though tbf that's really not readily apparent when you meet someone. Then again height isn't as apparent on dating apps as it is in person, so maybe that's why we're seeing people talk about all this more in the first place...
@@San-lh8us love your comment for the word choice XD
@@autopsyblue consider: don't date people because of their body, date them because they like dinosaurs and that's fuckin awesome
As a woman I don't understand the thinking that anything under 6' is short. I'm 5'6" and 5'10" is tall to me. If I can't kiss you without you craning your neck down and giving yourself back problems, that's probably not a healthy criteria for dating
Anything under 6ft3 is short, but that's alright. People taller than me scare me, i prefer them short kings
@@JustAnziaI would not consider anything under 6’3” being short, and I’m a very tall woman (6’). 5’9” is the average height for men in the US, so anything taller than that is technically tall.
@@rebeccat7912 anyoner under 6ft3 is shorter than me... being short isn't bad...
Exactly! I am 5’2 and I only want men below 5’9 preferably closer to 5’6. He’ll I could handle a man shorter than me. People always tell me I’d be perfect with a tall man cause it’d make me seem even smaller but that makes me so uncomfortable. Short men are more attractive than many give them credit for.
i mean, it's just the difference between the objective and subjective realities. objectively, any man above the statistically average height is tall. but in my case, i grew up in a family where the shortest man was 6'2" and the tallest was 7'0". my formative years were spent with this as my reference for height in men, so subjectively i view men who are under like 6'3" as short.
Bro that guy that was scared genuinely had me tweaking HARD.
DON'T LET HER SLIP AWAAAAY
I read that as you twirking, like 3 times🤣
It has me twerking SO HARD. Clapping cheeks and everything 🔥🔥@@katrina3560
The story was actually two girls
@danskrita good for them!
Dude I'm a 5'7" woman. My husband is 5'5". He's wonderful and makes me happy and makes me laugh.
The Jessica and Roger Rabbit dynamic :)
Short kings are actually superior men 👏👏❤️
@K.C-2049This.
@K.C-2049 that’s super weird! I’ve only known short kings to be some of the very best people!
Yes! My husband and I are both 5'7. He's def touchy about his height, but I just think he's so hot! I think he's perfect the way he is. I love him!! ❤
25:15 No romantic connection means just that. It's not something that needs to be changed. Women aren't NPCs that you need to figure out the secret sequence of moves to get your reward. She just isn't into you. That is not a reflection on you or her. It's literally chemical reactions. What are you going to do? Figure out a way to change your body chemistry. Quit trying to control everything and just understand it's not something you need to fix.
Exactly! Sometimes you can do everything right, and the chemistry just ain’t there. And you gotta learn to deal with that and not take it personally
Yea that was such a weird comment. There is no correct way to forge that kind of connection. It's not about following a bunch of rules.
The part that icked me was him apologizing for being ugly. That just made her seem shallow and directed the blame onto her instead of accepting that it just wasn't going to work. Men like that creep me out.
Serial matcher OP wasn't necessarily too scared to shoot his shot. After she'd flaked on him multiple times before, it'd be pretty smart of him to hold back and see if she showed more initiative before he got his hopes up
They were both girls
@@danskrista Oh. That tracks actually. My lesbian friends have told me such stories.
He's so chill about the surprise microphone now it makes it even funnier
I am a 5' 10" woman. There is something to be said about being held in a hug by someone taller than you, that being said I have almost exclusively dated men shorter than me and it's always more of a problem for them than for me.
It is really nice to be hugged by someone taller! However, I feel like a lot of really tall guys I’ve been with have made their height their personality, so they’re much more boring than the guys shorter than me. I totally agree with you, definitely more of a problem for them than for me (I’m 6’).
Absolutely, your animal brain grunts "me want tall & strong", but it's the much bigger & more active part, the developed brain, that you want to listen to. I was lucky, found a clever, funny and caring nerd.
same experience. It’s not every shorter guy, but some guys it ends up being an issue for them that i’m taller.
There's a comedian who was on AGT who's 5'4" and he was saying a woman said she wanted to date someone taller than her because she wanted to feel protected and he said, "You are. You're tall."
@@rebeccat7912 Generally the tall people I've met are nice. I've never met him but Jonathan Frakes (Star Trek actor/director) seems like one of the nicest people and he's really tall. I've never noticed what you said about tall guys so maybe there was another common denominator.
I once had a girl be upset by how many periods I used when talking to her. You know just using regular punctuation like a literate person.
Mmmm, texting punctuation is different than writing sentences. They usually indicate a cold montone tone or that you're a bit mad
@@crowbirdyWhile that could be the case, I have a tendency to put what I think is proper punctuation in most of my messages. Thus, it could also just be a writing style in a similar way that some people will write “u” as opposed to “you.”
@@crowbirdyi personally type without any capitals but i also use periods and commas when i write. it indicates sentences and makes reading the whole thing more understandable, especially when a lot of people use NO punctuation AT ALL when texting. however, at the end of a final sentence, i never put a period because of what you said - those are only for the end of a sentence before a new one.
even on a new line, like this one. enough rambling, i think it's just because i used to always write with proper grammar and i love writing (creative writing, etc). it just depends on how the person is tbh
i had someone get pissed at me for spelling things correctly...
she literally said "why do you have to spell things like that, are you trying to tell me im dumb?"
sorry that i know how to spell?
@@sonofsparda657Ye it’s very strange for someone to get mad at writing with punctuation or taking the time to spellcheck haha. I tend to use exclamation marks to show friendliness or excitement but even without that punctuation marks don’t mean anything negatively unless the person never uses it normally.
i don’t understand how more people don’t watch this channel. literally just good commentary with the occasional ditty. what’s not to like?
Oh God Whenever I see "Diddy" I think of P Diddy
And then there's always a good SURRISE MICROPHONE!
Ehn. Honestly I think the commentary is kinda hit or miss. But he's still entertaining so I watch.
@@Marieschrader911That's primarily bc they misspelled it lolol it's "ditty" if you mean a short catchy song
@@autopsybluehmm do you think his opinions are wrong sometimes? Do you have any examples? I've always thought he's been pretty objective with his takes but I'm genuinely curious since the comment section is mostly laughing about the jokes and stuff
I’m a tall guy and I also don’t get the appeal of us. Being tall is not as great as it seems and my normal height wife has to deal with the constant inconvenience of me not being able to fit in things. When we were buying our house, we literally had to pass on perfectly good houses because showers were too short for me to stand in.
You’re like 7 foot tall?
@@Just1Norayou must have an insane torso length to leg length ratio?! How are you 5”8 and don’t fit into things? I’m 5”11.5 and sometimes my knees hit the cockpit area, but I’ve never been literally too big to fit.
Just 6’7”, but the standard interior door height wasn’t set until the 1990s so houses built before then literally just have random doors that are like 6’2” and I would step in showers where the ceiling height would be around that height as well.
Being 5'8 as a woman isn't necessarily fun either when you have size 10 1/2 in women's and have to buy men's socks lol.
@@jwilliams3170 damn 6’7 I’m only 6’1 and my whole family says I’m tall maybe it’s because they’re all short and I’m the only tall one?
That guy with the "i keep making new accounts" girl was INFURIATING
They were both girls
I get that it sucks to have things broken off after a few dates and be given no concrete reason that you could act on, cause it makes you feel like you can't control whether or not you find a romantic partner. But.... you *can't* fully control whether or not you find a person who you have chemistry, common interests, and common values with, who is also interested in you. Entering in a relationship, by definition, requires the choice of another person. Nothing you do will guarantee that they'll choose you. It isn't a test where if you get 100%, you get a girlfriend. It's a negotiation process with another person.
I only date tall women. Like, incredibly, stupidly, insanely tall.
Eldritch horror tall.
HMU.
Are you Markiplier?
_60‘0” or less swipe left..._
Rats, I'm 5'8" and happily single lol
Wendigoon? Is that you?
Short kings and tall queens are it. I like my men short but if I get a gf I want her to be able to throw me into the sun
I can't speak for others in regard to tall guys, but I'm 5'9 and I like to wear shoes with heels. I don't care about the height of my partners but I do notice a lot of men don't like when I'm taller than them so I tend to gravitate toward taller guys because of this.
my boyfriend is shorter than me, and when I'm wearing my heels he calls me his "kick ass amazon"
As someone who dated a tall guy, i 100% prefer my "short" boyfriend. It's easier, I don't have to break my neck to talk to/kiss him. I call him "me size"
I’m a 6’3 guy, and I understand having preferences for height, as an example I prefer taller women to make things less complicated, (my girlfriend is 5’11) but it shouldn’t be a dealbreaker or a requirement, especially when you’re just meeting your prospective partner. ALSO a ton of my friends are less than 6’0 and they are some of the sweetest guys. Stop the whole 6’0 requirement.
It’s really just an arbitrary number cause y’all don’t use the metric system, here in Europe nobody’s saying you have to be over 183 cm to be tall…
I’m 182 cm and that’s average height for males in my country. Nobody ever has called me short while at this height.
Why should people stop? If it is their preference then its their preference. youcant make someone attracted to someone they are not into. If a guy turned down a girI for being overweight, no one would fault him for it because ultimately he just isnt into her. As long as people are nice about it, there is nothing wrong with having a physical preference
As a tall lady, I will anecdotally mention that there are some very insecure men who get pissy if you are taller than them on the date (heels or otherwise). There are also the short kings who are all for it tho so idk. PERSONAL PREFERENCES OR WHATEVER
Edit: the girls under 5' 6" who make dating tall men their entire thing drove me and the rest of my giraffe squad volleyball team insane. Leave some tall guys for the rest of us lol
my boyfriend is shorter than me, and when I'm wearing my heels he calls me his "kick ass amazon"
18:16 its like a romance show that just keeps it running on on untill the showw starts getting canceled and it has one of the most satisfying conclusions in media history.
"II'd almost prefer if a date told me I was rude, or something tangible I did wrong at times since that's actually something I can file away for the future"
This guy is forgetting that we as women aren't going to do that and there's a reason. If/when we do that 8 times out of 10 we get RIPPED APART by said guy. They tell us off for our honesty. As much as we'd like to tell you what went wrong during a date, we CAN'T because we wind up fearing for our safety by an unstable guy that we didn't know was truly THAT unstable. Feedback is great but there's a reason women choose the bear...
They only really ask in order to debate you or tell you your reasoning is wrong/crazy. They really think it's an opportunity to haggle and convince you not to cut it off.
Idk I feel like it’s just common courtesy to tell someone what they did wrong so they can improve in the future. Guys like a problem to solve and if you don’t give them one then they’ll assume it was either the wrong thing that turned you off him or completely self destruct and assume it was everything
@@Ravelord_Nito-qm6ikThats not the woman’s responsibility though. If someone ‘self-destructs’ because they werent given specific enough reasons for why someone didnt want to date them, then that’s something they need to work on before continuing to date.
Plus there might not have even been any tangible ‘wrong’ thing, some people just don’t connect and no amount of doing the ‘right’ things will change that.
Dating involves individual human beings who are each gonna have their own preferences. It isn’t a puzzle to solve, imho treating it that way isnt a healthy outlook. It’s an individual’s responsibility to reflect on their own actions. Even if it feels frustrating that you don’t get to know what they really felt or thought, they still don’t owe that to you.
I get it, when someone doesnt like me i often feel annoyed that i dont get to know exactly what i did or didnt do, but i remind myself they don’t owe me that and i can’t expect that from someone, and i try to move onwards and upwards.
@@AnEmu404As a woman, I’ve also been told by guys that they just didn’t feel anything, and I agree. Me wondering why and if I did something wrong isn’t his problem. Maybe he doesn’t know why either. But even if there was something that caused it, I wouldn’t expect the next person I go on a date with to have the same dating preferences anyway.
Yeah, I noticed that too. If I break things off with a guy and I don't specify WHY, it's because either:
a.) I worry he's going to take that feedback, go "fix it," and then come back to me a week later to try to negotiate with me... And then potentially become scary when I don't want to give him a second chance despite the fact that he "applied my feedback."
b.) there genuinely isn't anything specific or tangibly wrong, I just don't feel any chemistry.
It also really rubbed me the wrong way when that commenter said "men are logical, we want to know how we can fix things." Buddy, that desire to fix is driven by your EMOTIONS - such as embarrassment or shame. You want to fix yourself so that you don't have to feel those feelings again. Not because of "logic" 🙄
My husband actually is 6’6” and he says being ultra tall means basically he goes through life knowing how dirty the tops of peoples refrigerators are and having everyone constantly comment on his height in public. Other than that, it seems like mostly a nuisance for him. His back always hurts from having to crouch constantly (cars, doorframes, etc.) and his feet hang off the end of the bed. My poor guy. LOL😂❤❤❤ 5:09
This actually made me feel much less insecure about the state of my fridge cause apparently everyone's tops are gross 😆
@@quichehappens1544 According to my husband, yes! LOL Your name is hilarious, btw.
6’6” man here, can confirm there are tons of things that high that are gross. We don’t care. My mom used to make me clean the top of the fridge because “I’m the only one who can make sure it was clean” and I would respond with “who are you doing this for? In the only one in the family who can even see if it’s clean or not?” Usually I would just act like I was cleaning it and leave it dirty cuz she never knew 😂
@@PetyrinaJaye I’m 6’1 and fifteen and I’m just about to be able to fully see over m6 fridge with ease but I can say it is dirty
@@hxh05g That's precious that you still pretended to make your mom feel better! LOL
My father is 7'2, and my mother 5'7. I'd say the only way height has affected their relationship is their choice in cars
Is your dad a giant
@@Asethill01well obviously
I read that as 72 and 57 . It was really confusing 😂
Using the Kendrick Drake beef as an example of why you shouldn't mess with short people is amazing 🤣🤣🤣
Daniel has the prettiest emerald eyes. I’m 5’2”. I dated a guy 7’2”. He was really sweet. There was A LOT of him. Silly and smart man. Very good friend to this day.
That could have been considered a long distance relationship
I feel like every time there’s some intimidating looking person that’s nice everybody’s like oh my God they’re the nicest person ever but when you have somebody that looks nice and is nice nobody really cares
@@DjSicEm what are you on about
@@DjSicEm Imagine if Shaq was a violent person
@@dewmilk17this comment wins the internet for today
I’ve never understood why women care so much about height. Whether or not you’re short, or tall, doesn’t matter, as long as you’re cute and caring.
Same. I once had a high school crush who was literally my height. I don’t remember even thinking about how tall he was.
I think it's because it makes us feel safe and protected. My ideal height for a man is around 5'9-5'10.
@@elin_ interesting - but 5’9 is about the average height, so you’re probably normal
@@sophiel787 I'm fine with anything between 5'8-5'11 tbh.. I'm not that super strict hahah.
@@sophiel787 i think average height for men in my country is 5'11
I'd be surprised if the guy who said, "I'm sorry about the way I look," was actually self conscious. A lot of people try to guilt the person that shot them down. She says, "I'm not into you," he says, "so I'm ugly?" She says, "noooo, it's not that! I didn't say that! You are attractive." He yells, "that's right! I'm a king! You're the ugly one, and I hope you never find anyone." etc. It's really common with the quote unquote 'nice guys'. I'll make you feel bad for me, feel bad about yourself or both. She was smart not to respond.
I feel like a lot of people do that, and it's kind of a bad, toxic habit. Especially women (with each other) because they might feel more self-conscious than men about their looks or because they feel uncomfortable giving themselves praise. "Oh I look so fat/ugly/old" can be ok I guess if thats the dynamic, but it basically puts the other person into a situation where they have to compliment you or be seen as rude.
I am also an old, though not a married old, and have dated both tall (6'8") and short (5'4") kings. Physical attraction-wise, the short kings rule! However, temperament-wise, I go with tall. In my experience, shorter men are more aggressive and looking for a fight, while taller men mostly try to avoid fighting
Yeah. I call it Chihuahua Syndrome.
The surprise microphone is more of a close friend who always jumpscares you when enter a room so you know it’ll happen but pretend to be scared for their sake even if they know you’re not actually scared and you both laugh afterwards anyways the further cement that idea.
The one that devalued a woman due to clothing choice is a wonderful example of sexism- when men can post shirt off pics (clearly they are there proud of and want to show off a body) but if a woman wears something “skimpy” (for also the same reason) its seen as damaging to her reputation 🙄 double standards are wild
True as a guy I never understand why that ‘s such a taboo for women but almost encouraged for men
SURPRISE COMMENT
HOLY SHIT!
jESUS CHRIST DON'T SCARE ME LIKE THAT
AAAHHH
OH GOD
GEEEEEEEZZZZZZZ YOU CAME OUT OF NOWHERE GODDAMN
I just spent half an hour listening to Daniel rant about cereal for women and pulling triggers. So good😂
First guy fumbled because you’re supposed to say “No your forehead is fine. You’re pretty”. She was negging about an insecurity hoping for a compliment, and instead he joined in to tease her.
He could've done that, but also she seemed to be with it at first, he just took it too far. Like the comment said, how is she supposed to reply at that point? You make a joke, she responds, you move on.
Or be like “Sorry, I didn’t notice your forehead because your eyes are so stunning.” You can’t erase someone’s insecurity, but you can give them a compliment they’ll appreciate.
If you can't take a light teasing,then you have no future as a wife. Sorry,not sorry.That's my opinion
People who never want this series to end
👇🏼
I had a guy on a dating app match with me start flattering me and then switched doctor Jekyll style and tell me I’m too short - I was like um boy byeeee
Girls say they want tall guys, so whenever I get asked my height I say I can extend my height by 4 ft cause I know how to walk on stilts😂
Ayyyy! 6' 3"! Nice!
I would say the height-take is a hot one; because just like some ladies prefer tall men, some men only want to date blond women or with specific figure/weight. Its quite common to have our own preferences & everyone should feel safe about what they prefer & vocalize it (with kindness & consideration). And if u r on the other side & ur own specs don't fit the perceived common beauty standards in a specific area; that doesn't make u any less attractive because to the right person u will be a catch. Other peoples preference doesn't mean u r not enough, u r enough for the right fit.
We are now dependent on the surprise microphone
23:23 I have never fallen for someone on the first date, I need to get to know you, trust you, like you. It takes time for me. If it’s a maybe, I'm going on a second date to find out if it’s a yes or a no. If it’s still a maybe, I'm going on a third date. I think that’s when I would call it off if I was still unsure? It’s never happened
Edit: All of this provided we have a great connection through messages! If I want to keep talking to you, I want to see you again
Besides, first dates are always awkward. I'm awkward, you’re awkward, we’re not really getting to know each other yet. Of course if I know it’s a no I'm not going for a second date, but if it’s a maybe? Sure, let’s give it another shot.
Bro I swear I just noticed his bruise and he’s like DONT WORRY ABOUT MY BRUISE! Lemme tell you how caught off guard I was 😂
Y'all remember the Global Trading System in Pokémon? Remember how everybody always offered a Magikarp or similar and wanted the box-facing legendary in return?
Dating apps, man.
I had trouble getting out of bed today, thank you for making my day brighter with the silliness! I really needed it lol
Just wanna say as a 5'2 woman, I don't get the height thing. I literally don't care how tall you are, and my friends call me a dwarf/leprechaun all the time lmfao ( call them trees/giants)
(About the capitalization one:) Its one thing to polietly ask someone to write your name a certain way (people should be called the way they want to be called), it is a whole other thing to break it off with a person over it when it has not been communicated. If you have talked to them about it and they still do it, then thats different as it would hint to a general lack of respect for your wishes.
I'm 5'3"ish and I have a hard time believing anyone is over 6'. I grew up believing the ideal height for a couple is the man is a couple inches taller at most. When my longtime crush got a growth spurt in high school, I was sad.
I understand your sentiment... but I dated a guy in middle school who later admitted he thought my friend was hot and knew he didnt have a chance with her so he went for me instead... I know the bigger part was that she was popular and I was the quiet shy friend, but it still hit like a brick hearing it.. thankfully I was in my "moving on from him" stage when he said it
ouch! good you were already on the way out mentally. what a douchcanoe!
5:37 You're describing a space marine.
1:08 I’m on a dating app only looking for women. Most of the time, they ghost you even if you didn’t fumble them. Women usually don’t spend as much time on dating apps as guys. It’s 99.9% never personal. Sometimes you have chemistry but she’s maybe not that serious yet. She also likely has multiple guys in her DMs
Honestly, sometimes depending on the app, my inbox will fill up so fast, I get overwhelmed and my social anxiety kicks in, and I feel bad for only replying to a few people, but that's the most I can handle, so it stresses me out and I delete the app like a coward 😂😅
I don't have super many in my dms, but I prefer to focus on getting to know one or two at the time. More than that and it becomes stressful
4:15 you are not average height. You are tall. Stop putting yourself down man.
What's the point getting mad about people being heightist though? Honestly, it means you get that red flag right out the gate instead of wasting your time. Also, it's just not a healthy headspace to be in, trying to control other people's preferences, which they ARE allowed to have, yes even if it doesn't include you. Complaining literally won't change anything, it'll just make you feel worse. Is it weird to be that strict about height specifically? Sure, but refer to above. They'll have issues other than that, so it's for the best to rule them out asap. If they wanna miss out, that's their problem.
Just go after tall girls, I swear. I am 5'9" and married a 5'7" guy. If I wear heels I literally tower over him. Dating apps are just filled to the brim with shallow people, honestly.
Daniel is really just ou here calling everyone a coward 😂
He's nice about it tho
I love the "What am I, an accountant?"
*plays a diddy to remind himself of who he is.*
25:20 as a girl, if I think or say "I don't feel the connection" IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. yeah, i get that it suck cause you can't fix anything. but that's the whole point! you don't need to 'fix' anything! you're probably a great guy and you deserve a great girlfriend. but I'm not that.
you don't have to have a flaw for the relationship not to work. heck, you can even get along great but if it's not meant to be romantic, it's not meant to be. nothing to fix there. and yes, it sucks, but if you're a grown person you can get over it. and at least you'll know that you don't need to change. you just don't fit with that person- and that's all
4:44 Daniel Has friends in high places😂
The man shouldn't always have to be the one to initiate asking for a date. Especially not in 2024. Equal opportunity asking in my opinion
4:32 - My boyfriend is 6’2, I’m 5’2. And honestly it’s more annoying that he is a foot taller than me. Because if we want to kiss, he has to like squat down and I have to stand on my tippy toes. Still love him though and the height difference will not be in the way of our relationship lolll
No for real. I'm 5'0 and my fiance is 6'7. Photos together are kind of ridiculous
I'm tall for a woman, but my bf is 6 ft 2. It's so nice to be closer in height, no one is squatting or reaching lol. The best hugs. My bf agrees. However, while height is just something that's nice as a taller woman, it's not mandatory for me.
Okay. As a member of the woman community, I will elaborate on the height thing. At least for ME it's a kink sorta thing. It's hot to have to look up at my partner. It's a mixture of intimidating and like... somn' else. HOWEVERRR I don't ask people their heights because A, that's rude, B, Hinge has heights listed there, and C, I can just tell if they give me the good vibes when in person. I don't need specifics. ALSO ALSO, 5'8 (the average height for men) works just fine for me. I'm 5'2 so that's 6 inches taller. Would I prefer 6'+? Yes but I'm not gonna fuckin' live my life ignoring all the good men out there just for a height preference. Idk what it is for other women but that's what it is for me. Although.. the fact that he would be able to grab things out of the high ass cabinets in my house would be a godsend for my short ass😭
I'm with you on how the sexy looming is just... sum'n else lol
@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon right??? Idk what it is but I get all flustered and shy n' stuff 😳 Maybe it's activating my inner sub whenever I look up at them 😂
@@OuchingTigerLimpingDragonSome women love the looming thing. I can attest the intimidation but also the security that comes with a guy taller than you? That certainly does do something. 😂😂 But also I'm shorter than most average women so 5'8" is tall to me.
I definitely don't see it as a kink. I just see it as safe and cozy to be held by someone who's taller than me (definitely doesn't have to be 6'0)
I am a tall girl (5'9" I guess? 175 cm tall) and I prefer guys that are taller than me but not that much taller, so I could kiss and hug them comfortably. I do love guys that are taller than me but also wouldn't pass on guys that suit me just bc they are shorter. It is the matter of being suited for each other and feeling love for each other, respect and just being compatible, preferences are preferences, not requirements. Be it a guy of any height if we don't go well together in terms of worldview and our personalities, it just won't work no matter how the guy looks!
I do love me guys that are taller than me tho ofc, I don't understand going after a guy a looot (too much) taller than your own height is tho :D
22:57 Daniel out here realizing he has pretty privilege? Also charisma???
I don’t understand why short women prefer tall men but as a tall gal myself I just feel uncomfortable dating someone who’s below eye level. Not necessarily who are at my height, but It’s awkward when I’m the one looking down at them- yk?
I'm so aware of the surprise microphone by now I get surprised whenever he reaches off screen and does not come back with a surprise microphone
13:20 I grew up an extreme pedant for grammar and punctuation, and things like capitalizing letters are built into my hands as muscle memory while typing. But, over the years, I have started caring less about the "proper" way to write as long as the person I'm typing to understands what I'm trying to communicate. And I gave myself chronic RSIs in both hands back in 2017, so sometimes i will switch to lowercase and chatspeak cuz its easier on my hands like this
The way that person talks with perfect punctuation shows me they're pedantic too, and in this case probably extremely insecure. I overanalyze peoples' words and typing styles until I whip myself into anxious frenzies, but I have never once found it strange if someone stopped capitalizing my name. That's wild.
@@CaitlinKoi oh no so sorry
I'm a guy and average height. I don't mind if people ask about my height bc it's an easy block. I see it as filtering through the assholes. Saves me a lot of time. Regardless of gender opening a conversation with asking about looks is wild. Imagine a dude starting a convo with, what's your cup size? 😑
I've heard that some women are basically tortured by controlling guys when they are taller than their guys. My personal experience is tall guys make your neck hurt if you aren't within a certain height of them. He deserves love too. But neck still hurt.
I genuinely don’t get the height thing. I've never cared about it, I'm 5’6” and I've gone on dates with guys my height and taller. It’s so much easier kissing a guy that’s my height! I can never **just kiss** my 6 foot boyfriend, I have to ask for a kiss so he’ll bend down lmao
I'm 5'6 too and my ideal height for a partner is 5'9-5'10. Taller than me, but not so tall so my neck hurts while kissing them.
I'm 5'6 too and I prefer guys the same height or taller but not over 5'11 like 5'8-5'10 because I don't want hurt my neck trying to kiss or hug a guy so I prefer a guy not to be over 5'11, my bf is 5'9/5'10 and kissing and hugging him is so much easier because we're closer to eye level so I don't have to look up to him.
thats really cute tho, "lemme kiss you" then he bends down and u give him a peck
“Sorry about my looks” is an attempt to manipulate by pity. It confirmed for the woman that she was 100% right not to continue with the relationship. Gross.
i live for this series of Daniel Reads Reddit
There are so many things wrong with the "sorry about my looks" response and it really is just shooting yourself in the foot. I've heard this a couple times after turning someone down, despite explaining I didn't think our personalities were compatible or I was busy dealing with my own shit and needed more therapy before I could even consider dating anyone at all, and the biggest issue I have with it is that what I immediately get from that statement is that this person is convinced I'm just that shallow. First off if they believe that I'm that sort of person then why are they still interested, genuinely I don't understand that part because I sure wouldn't be, and from my side of it why would I want to have anything to do with them if that's their opinion of me? Even though it's always self-pitying and not intentionally malicious towards me, after a conversation like that I've gone from wanting to sort myself and circle back in a few weeks to being irrevocably put off them
Make a series, skit based, where you come up with hilarious (but kind of valid) reasons for why someone can't date you, or you have to be over 6'8" lmao id love that
Omg yes please!!!
8 minutes is awesome. And as always Daniel is unhinged and wonderful.
18:20 I probably wouldn't be annoyed if I read it by myself (I have 0 relationship experience) But seeing it with the perspective you give from experience it does annoy me
I really don't understand why a lot of ppl obsess over height so much, I'm 5'7 and my husband is 5'10 so height has never been a thing with us but our love for each other has very much been a thing for us than just height, women who only want tall men are just missing out on a good man because personality and commitment are way more important to me in a relationship than height.
20:21 Idk bro, i think youre being too judgy. If i was the girl in that situation, i wouldve loved how he was keeping the joke running. And none of it really came off as desperate to me
As a 5'1 trans man I've had more women turn me down because of my height than the fact that I didnt have a penis. Do with that what you will
"...And now Drake is gone. And that's why you don't mess with short people."
Daniel Thrasher
"No ones pulling the trigger" WELCOME TO MY WORLD DANIEL 🤬🤬🤬
Yes another Daniel video!
Three dates makes sense. First date is short, in a public space where you can gauge if you feel safe continuing. A vibe check. Like meeting up for coffee. Second date, an activity fixed a fixed start and end. If things don't go well, there is a natural end to the activity giving you an easy out. The third date is the actual date that doesn't have a fixed end time. It could go on until dinner, or until breakfast, or until Monday.
someone who is 6 feet tall earns, on average, nearly $166,000 more during a 30-year career than someone who is 5 feet 5 inches--even when controlling for gender, age and weight.
CEOs on average are at least three inches taller than average.
They are less likely to suffer depression or be abusive, due to increased confidence and better treatment in general in social settings.
Sad but true, maybe now that so much of our work is done while seated it will matter less?
Genuinely, with the matching again and again between the guy and the girl story, that's definitely something I would do, and that's 100% how i text. It's so young gen z coded, it's so incredibly my humor. The conversation is so much like how I talked to my now girlfriend where we joked about marriage and divorce before we even dated.
gay dating is nice because you don't get the weird height thing as much and when things go wrong you can analyze behavior as just person to person instead of worrying about what someone's gender has to do with the way they communicate
Is *that* why homophobia exists? Because they’re jealous that they don’t have to put up with the height nonsense?
If you like to constantly warm up hot packs, tall guy is the way to go. I'm 6 foot 3 (which I don't consider tall because my dad is 6, 5 and my grandpa was 6, 9) but my wife is 13 inches shorter than me and she's always taking care of my constant hip, knee, and back pain. Because the bigger you are, the more life hurts. Look at how much pain Andre The Giant was in all the time.
I’m 5’4” and there I don’t really care about height but there’s something about having to look down at a man to make eye contact that makes me feel weird 😂
Oh the sweet smell of hypocrisy
@@SneakNationCEO you probably recognize it from your BO
@@TheonlyteenagedKaren Don't get your facts mixed up Karen. Maybe stop harrassing managers everywhere and try to come up with some good clapbacks every once in a while
I literally live for Daniel's improv songs every episode
2:51 Oh no! he accidentally made the power rangers theme!
(It is unique though and quite a vibe)
I think it would help in the dating scene if we reframe it as a compatibility search. Some people are great on paper but if you don't have chemistry, that can't be helped and you can't force that.
Tall girl here. Short girlies, I beg you: please leave some of the 6’+ men for me 😭 he doesn’t have to look like a skyscraper to you I promise
I love my sky scraper boyfriend 😭 (granted, height was never a thing for me, he just tall xD)
@@samfucyu6196 you're totally fine haha, it's just the people who are specifically after all the insanely tall dudes 😂
You know dating shorter guys yourself would solve your problem, the way I see it either all the shorter girls aim lower or you do and you actually have a choice in one of those scenarios. Take it from the guys, they tend to be more flexible with their preferences instead of expecting others to change to “widen the pool” for them.
15:38 when she said how she sees it playing out, i would have just said “if we both know how it’s gonna go why dont we jump to the end and meet up for coffee?” god i hope they go on a date, those two are literally starring in a rom com
edit: LETS GOOOO IM SO HAPPY FOR THEM
So much therapy needed in this video lol
I’m 4’11” and I genuinely don’t see the appeal of making the standard for guys’ attractiveness 6’. I used to date a tall guy. Not that he was ever dangerous by any means or ever did anything to make me feel this way, but there were times where the height distance actually made me feel unsafe. There is something really uncomfortable being in a relationship with someone significantly larger than you.
Daniel acts like a senile old man sometimes 😂 0:22
i'm just under 5'2" & i think it's so weird how other women care that much about height, especially when they're my size b/c like almost all guys are tall to women my size.
like my bf is 5'11" i think but i didn't seek out a tall guy. i love him for him & when we first met it was the chemistry btwn us, not some weird superficial hangup.
we met working retail when we were younger & everyone knew we liked each other, everyone. it was so obvious. like it should be about how well you click & how much you're attracted to each other. why limit yourself?
People are having less hokey pokey bc we're afraid of getting pregnant when we're already in dire financial straights 🤣
3:33 As a guy who always said he's 5'8, and got called out by fiancee saying I'm probably closer to 5'6 because shes 5'5, stand on business.
I got measured without shoes for surgery back in June, and was told I'm 5'7 and 3/4.
My fiancee is definitely closer to 5'7 than I am to 5'6.
I'm 5'10" and don't really care about height I swear it's all the girls who are 5'6" or shorter who go off about height I don't get it
I think covid really screwed lots of young people up. Because we've been isolated from the outside world with nothing to do, it's easier to become addicted to screens, making it easier to stay completely isolated even though people can go outside now, and we don't socialize as much, which is probably why it's a lot more difficult for younger people to "pull the trigger" and go on dates.