@@brandonmitchell7436 I know where you are right now. I've been thru this journey. I know it is easier to tell someone do stop doing it than actually doing it but what you are doing is just dragging yourself down. Find positivity and try to get on the same wave length with your inner self and make peace. Good luck!
"Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists." What a word. I've gone back in time so many times. I've beaten my old self up in my head to a bloody pulp for hurting the people I've loved and cared for. I've been so selfish and I struggle every day with forgiving myself.
The person i loved is harder on me then myself and i cant even describe how much i hate myself for the damage i have done to a sincere sweet and honest person. If it wouldnt hurt everyone around me even more (who dont know about the stuff i have done) i would unalive myself propably.
@martinmartin9084 it's been 4 months. I've lost my family, and I'm not even sure why. Every day is a struggle. There are 2 sides to every story, but sometimes, one person can be so toxic and spew such lies that I can't fight it. I just want to give up. 😔
Mate, you’ve really touched a nerve, my best friend died in a work accident that I could and should have prevented. It left his two young daughters orphaned and his family and our friends devastated. It’s a hell of a burden to live with but twenty two years later and the help from a wonderful wife I’m trying to forgive myself for a small mistake that had tragic consequences. Thank you for the video.
@@unknownwisdomm you’re welcome, I’ve only found your channel today, after I commented on the video I looked further at your channel and the next one I watched was you talking about your father’s passing. Just yesterday my wife was diagnosed with pulmonary hypertension which means the left side of her heart is failing. She is only forty six years old, I don’t know what’s ahead for us, I’m going to have to dig deep again but your pearls of wisdom will help me face this as a better man and husband.
Sometimes people hurt people on accident. Sometimes people hurt people on purpose but even that is an accident. I've been abused but I learned to forgive them. But now I have to learn to forgive myself. Real
If people aren't willing to forgive you leave them to their choices, accept that they won't forgive you and live happily knowing that you can forgive yourself.
I’ve tried to do right by those that i hurt but the done want it. All I can do is leave them be. It haunts me daily to not have their forgiveness and for them to not know just how sorry I am for the pain I caused them.
I feel the exact same way man. I wonder if somewhere they miss me as i miss them. If they were hurt as much as i'm hurting myself with the guilt and repent. They told me they don't want me in their lives. There's nothing more that being better. That is our true fight. And after all the years, all the guilt, pain and hardships, remember that you are the one living with yourself, but also the one that stands the force of pain and time. And after all the pain and fear, only you will remain, a different man, with different wisdom. Stay strong, it's hard, but it gets better, just don't stop trying.
@PRIDEALKIMIST I'm in the same boat. An argument with a family member has caused such incredible pain. I have reached out, with no response from them. What do you do when they won't forgive? This is hard. So very hard. Prayers to all in this situation. ❤
Im on the same boat as you bro. I still pray to this day that one day i can tell them how sorry i am for what I've done. But i have to move forward, be a better person, show kindness, compassion, understanding and truth.
I am also wondering about those things but i dont want to reach out because for once i want to respect their boundries. Theres no going back the damage is done i just dont know what to do anymore except for feeling the deserved torment.
Forgiving If something is too overwhelming for you to let go, if someone hurt you and you can’t let it go, it is for giving to God = forgiving. Give it to God, your sins, your pains, your everything and this is how He knows us.
When I was 13 I did something terrible beyond forgiveness, even worse when I may have ruined someone's life, I burn myself with cigarette buds till I feel something, I try to do good and use my wrong doings to help people where I can to atone for my wrong doings, I love you all whoever you are ❤
You were young, fullish and under an infinite amount of influences from others. You can't change that, you can just change yourself now. I know it sounds very simple although it may be quite hard, but you are the maker of your destiny right now, you can get out of this ❤ I'm 17 and have been drowning in regret for quite a while now, things will get better, never give up 🙏🏼🤜🏼🤛🏼
Same. I'm quite young but still drowning in regret quite often, I know it's not the smart thing to do, but still I stay there. Being in nature, walking and biking really helps me tremendously
I’ve been destroying myself for the last 2 years and it’s gotten me no where. I can’t even be angry anymore because I’ve used it all up. I’m a stubborn person who can’t seem to let my past actions go. God help us all.
I really needed to hear this. I did some things over these past months that just wasn’t right. These last couple days I’ve realised what I’ve done is completely wrong and I’m guilt ridden about it. The thing is though, is that no one got hurt. From my knowledge no one even knows about it yet I still regret it.
Thank you - I know I’m a good person, and I know that since I was able to be fully and legally responsible for myself as an adult that I’ve tried to step up and be better than the circumstances I was handed when a child. When I was a kid I did the best I could to survive and get through it with no guidance or help from my parents. They have to account for that. But I still struggle with guilt for my wrongdoings as a child and sometimes it just seems insurmountable.
Im 17, almost 18, i know quite young right. But life has just been passing me by. I regret so so many missed opportunities and im at one of the lowest points mentally ive ever been. Being in nature helps me tremendously tho, really really helps me quite a bit. Wish you thr best guys, dont give up, 🙏 i know its hard quite hard on my end as well, but if we should at least try our best and try to accept what happened and what is happening. We can get through this 🙏🙏🤜🏼🤛🏼
I just got prayer for this yesterday at church and woke up with peace. Now I'm seeing this video. I hadn't forgiven myself for how I treated someone for years. I was my biggest critic and finally I'm free 🙌🫶 we prayed for that guy too.
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” “Do not judge, and you will not be judged."
This is good advice and well meaning and I understand but I can say, that's it's a little more easily said than done, but I'm getting there with it. Your words help thank you. Best wishes to those also trying to be a better person. You can do it if you really want to.
You are so blessed with “wisdom” from the Great Lord Jesus my brother. Keep up all the “priceless” advise as much as possible. You are the “light” to so many out here in this very Tough life on Earth. 🙏🏻❤️✌️🌎🙏🏻💚🤗
Thanks for this post. I'm older than most of your guys. I've had so much hate for myself for being less than, inferior, not worthy for so many years. I had been my own worst enemy and my life showed it. I have been learning more about and getting more into alignment with God. They say Jesus said to love God with all your heart and your neighbor as yourself but I don't think either is possible without being able to love (in a righteous way) and forgive ourselves.
Thank you for this reminder... JESUS gives us permission to heal... and PAPA ABBA will do HIS wonderful miracles and glorification by HOLY SPIRIT. Yes. 🕊
Never have done wrong only seen that you will not stop ❤love live forever and the way of truth is light smile to see past the masks of all greatest men see past your number
Occasionally you have memories. You can still be friends and love them even your not living with them. God be with you and me ❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏 Love. Peace Forever ❤❤ Amen Amen 🙌🙌🙏
I wish I can show them I changed but, I can’t I still think of 1,000 ways I can fix it but, I can’t in truth they won’t let me. I’ve done what I can but, I struggle to forgive myself.
"I have accepted what I am, and I have forgiven you. Now you must forgive yourself. The world is changing once again, Hanzo, and it's time to pick a side."
God bless u my man, this is something I am working on with all my heart I appreciate you wisdom and u putting this on for everyone to see and get strong from God bless u ,and thank u
" they say life is like the ocean and you like throw a rock and how far can that rock go but nobody says When you are forgiven it's like the rock is floating back..... "
I ruined my 2 year relationship when i was in a long distance relationship when i started seeing a guy casually for a week or two. 2 months later my partner found out about it. He was devastated. I love him with my entire heart so i begged him to forgive me and give me a last chance. He eventually gave our relationship a chance and nothing wrong has happened since. But i don't think he'll ever forgive me for what I did and more so everyday my own guilt eats me up. How could I ever do that to him. I swear i m not a bad person. I hope he and god forgives me for the trauma that I gave him, which he did not deserve 1 percent of. I just can't help myself at this point.
@@rrinishasingh10tha5 you’re very welcome! Glad I could help! I KNOW what it is like! Once you forgive yourself, the world changes around you. What we internally believe gets projected out in front of us. Look up everyone is you pushed out on UA-cam. It makes a loooot of sense.
Sometimes the worst beating is what you give yourself .
That's not sometimes it's every time. Person themself are only capable of destroying or beating themselves nobody else is capable of such action
I’ve beating myself for my mistakes and others for years now.
@@brandonmitchell7436 I know where you are right now. I've been thru this journey. I know it is easier to tell someone do stop doing it than actually doing it but what you are doing is just dragging yourself down. Find positivity and try to get on the same wave length with your inner self and make peace. Good luck!
Good advice
"Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists." What a word. I've gone back in time so many times. I've beaten my old self up in my head to a bloody pulp for hurting the people I've loved and cared for. I've been so selfish and I struggle every day with forgiving myself.
❤️🙏🏼❤️
Sane
We all are
It’s alr jus become the Man U wanna be
WE WILL BE SET FREE FAMILY!!!
LORD JESUS CHRIST forgives me. Who am I not to forgive my self and others . AMEN
Forgive...... Today is a new day... A new you❤❤❤
No one is harder on me than myself. I am beating myself up daily. It's true.... this doesn't feel survivable. 😢
The person i loved is harder on me then myself and i cant even describe how much i hate myself for the damage i have done to a sincere sweet and honest person. If it wouldnt hurt everyone around me even more (who dont know about the stuff i have done) i would unalive myself propably.
I'm stopping sometimes those around you can help you u can go through it you're not alone we can do this
Give it some time ☺️
@martinmartin9084 it's been 4 months. I've lost my family, and I'm not even sure why. Every day is a struggle. There are 2 sides to every story, but sometimes, one person can be so toxic and spew such lies that I can't fight it. I just want to give up. 😔
@@kwester318
You better talk with someone, get things off your chest, things will get better, they always do ❤️
Mate, you’ve really touched a nerve, my best friend died in a work accident that I could and should have prevented. It left his two young daughters orphaned and his family and our friends devastated. It’s a hell of a burden to live with but twenty two years later and the help from a wonderful wife I’m trying to forgive myself for a small mistake that had tragic consequences. Thank you for the video.
No, thank YOU for sharing this with us! Maybe someone will see this who really needs to see it.
@@unknownwisdomm you’re welcome, I’ve only found your channel today, after I commented on the video I looked further at your channel and the next one I watched was you talking about your father’s passing. Just yesterday my wife was diagnosed with pulmonary hypertension which means the left side of her heart is failing. She is only forty six years old, I don’t know what’s ahead for us, I’m going to have to dig deep again but your pearls of wisdom will help me face this as a better man and husband.
@@craigjones2878Hang on there pal, you got good times ahead of you.
Hope you can meet your friend in another life. Until then I wish you the best.
@@craigjones2878this guy isn’t the guy on the video you should be thanking wrangler school he’s the actual owner of the clips
❤️🙏🏼❤️
You can forgive yourself, but the hardest part is gaining trust back after wrongdoing the people around you.
Surrender
We can not control that
Focus on yourself
Take care of number one
Everything else will happen in time
Sometimes people hurt people on accident. Sometimes people hurt people on purpose but even that is an accident.
I've been abused but I learned to forgive them. But now I have to learn to forgive myself. Real
If people aren't willing to forgive you leave them to their choices, accept that they won't forgive you and live happily knowing that you can forgive yourself.
I needed to hear this today
I could put a 👍🏻 on your comment making it 100 lol
Me too brother. Hope you find peace.
When you forgive yourself, you give yourself permission to let go of the past and focus on the present and future. It’s powerful.
I’ve tried to do right by those that i hurt but the done want it. All I can do is leave them be. It haunts me daily to not have their forgiveness and for them to not know just how sorry I am for the pain I caused them.
I feel the exact same way man.
I wonder if somewhere they miss me as i miss them. If they were hurt as much as i'm hurting myself with the guilt and repent.
They told me they don't want me in their lives.
There's nothing more that being better.
That is our true fight.
And after all the years, all the guilt, pain and hardships, remember that you are the one living with yourself, but also the one that stands the force of pain and time.
And after all the pain and fear, only you will remain, a different man, with different wisdom.
Stay strong, it's hard, but it gets better, just don't stop trying.
@PRIDEALKIMIST I'm in the same boat. An argument with a family member has caused such incredible pain. I have reached out, with no response from them. What do you do when they won't forgive? This is hard. So very hard. Prayers to all in this situation. ❤
Im on the same boat as you bro.
I still pray to this day that one day i can tell them how sorry i am for what I've done.
But i have to move forward, be a better person, show kindness, compassion, understanding and truth.
I am also wondering about those things but i dont want to reach out because for once i want to respect their boundries. Theres no going back the damage is done i just dont know what to do anymore except for feeling the deserved torment.
Forgiving
If something is too overwhelming for you to let go, if someone hurt you and you can’t let it go, it is for giving to God = forgiving. Give it to God, your sins, your pains, your everything and this is how He knows us.
When I was 13 I did something terrible beyond forgiveness, even worse when I may have ruined someone's life, I burn myself with cigarette buds till I feel something, I try to do good and use my wrong doings to help people where I can to atone for my wrong doings, I love you all whoever you are ❤
I love you
You were young, fullish and under an infinite amount of influences from others. You can't change that, you can just change yourself now. I know it sounds very simple although it may be quite hard, but you are the maker of your destiny right now, you can get out of this ❤ I'm 17 and have been drowning in regret for quite a while now, things will get better, never give up 🙏🏼🤜🏼🤛🏼
Jesus Christ’s forgiveness set me free
Did that? I've done that. Yes, embrace the new day and move forward, and make good decisions going forward.
When one of my best friends needed me the most, I was nowhere to be found. I think about it everyday.
10 YEARS OF DEPRESSION AND THIS IS ALL I NEEDED THANK YOU BROTHER I LOVE YOU 🙌🙌🙌🙌💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓
Keep strong 👊🏼
You got this dude💪
Keep standing strong
Stay strong💪🏻
You got this!!! 💯💯💯
Too late. I've been dead over 15 years and stuck in guilt. I wish I'd heard these words when it mattered.
It’s never too late man. Just don’t give up on yourself
same... now I'm here alone and life wasted...
Same. I'm quite young but still drowning in regret quite often, I know it's not the smart thing to do, but still I stay there. Being in nature, walking and biking really helps me tremendously
You can still do it better late than nevet
you still breath what the fuck are you talking about, CHANGE MAN CHANGE
Took years...but I did. The hardest honesty is the truth you don't want to face.
Do i have to tell everybody? Or what do you mean by this?
I’ve been destroying myself for the last 2 years and it’s gotten me no where. I can’t even be angry anymore because I’ve used it all up. I’m a stubborn person who can’t seem to let my past actions go. God help us all.
I really needed to hear this. I did some things over these past months that just wasn’t right. These last couple days I’ve realised what I’ve done is completely wrong and I’m guilt ridden about it. The thing is though, is that no one got hurt. From my knowledge no one even knows about it yet I still regret it.
Thank you - I know I’m a good person, and I know that since I was able to be fully and legally responsible for myself as an adult that I’ve tried to step up and be better than the circumstances I was handed when a child. When I was a kid I did the best I could to survive and get through it with no guidance or help from my parents. They have to account for that. But I still struggle with guilt for my wrongdoings as a child and sometimes it just seems insurmountable.
Listening to you is like a father I never had. Thank you
Im 17, almost 18, i know quite young right. But life has just been passing me by. I regret so so many missed opportunities and im at one of the lowest points mentally ive ever been. Being in nature helps me tremendously tho, really really helps me quite a bit. Wish you thr best guys, dont give up, 🙏 i know its hard quite hard on my end as well, but if we should at least try our best and try to accept what happened and what is happening. We can get through this 🙏🙏🤜🏼🤛🏼
I just got prayer for this yesterday at church and woke up with peace. Now I'm seeing this video. I hadn't forgiven myself for how I treated someone for years. I was my biggest critic and finally I'm free 🙌🫶 we prayed for that guy too.
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” “Do not judge, and you will not be judged."
Thank you for this.
Amen 🙏 ❤ Thank you for your post 🙏❤️
He is the wise grandpa I always needed
Thank you for your kind wisdom. My broken heart has taken a lot. Pray for me please. Melissa
Priorities are important. We waste our lives trying to be nice to everyone
You're a beautiful gift to the world. African American woman 50s generation.
This can be one of the hardest things to do
If there are people can't let something go then you need to let them go and work on YOU
That hit a note. Thank you.
I realised its hard to forgive ourselves,its not healthy or good to live with shame,guilt,regret its not good dragging it thru life.
Well that man exists in everyone else's eyes. Hard to do when left with absolutely no one
This man’s voice is soothing
Never give up trying even if it is hard. He is right.
This is good advice and well meaning and I understand but I can say, that's it's a little more easily said than done, but I'm getting there with it. Your words help thank you. Best wishes to those also trying to be a better person. You can do it if you really want to.
You are so blessed with “wisdom” from the Great Lord Jesus my brother. Keep up all the “priceless” advise as much as possible. You are the “light” to so many out here in this very Tough life on Earth. 🙏🏻❤️✌️🌎🙏🏻💚🤗
Wow, i just went through something that was eating me up inside over the last couple days. Thank you Lord for the good timing of the video haha
Thanks for this post. I'm older than most of your guys. I've had so much hate for myself for being less than, inferior, not worthy for so many years. I had been my own worst enemy and my life showed it. I have been learning more about and getting more into alignment with God. They say Jesus said to love God with all your heart and your neighbor as yourself but I don't think either is possible without being able to love (in a righteous way) and forgive ourselves.
Another Lifelong Milestone in just a few simple words! Thanks Bro so much!
So right 👍. Preach 🙏
I must forgive to myself and to learn control minds and actions❤❤ thank you for yours words
Thank you sir . Please keep doing what your doing... it helps . 🙏🏼⚓️✌🏼
I needed to hear this.
Thank you for this reminder... JESUS gives us permission to heal... and PAPA ABBA will do HIS wonderful miracles and glorification by HOLY SPIRIT. Yes. 🕊
Amen to that! I agree 👍 wholeheartedly we agree 👍
Shawn A Howell and Precious
Thank you 🙏 God bless you 🙏
Never have done wrong only seen that you will not stop ❤love live forever and the way of truth is light smile to see past the masks of all greatest men see past your number
Dude. That was for me. Ty!!!
this is the hardest thing to do
Occasionally you have memories. You can still be friends and love them even your not living with them. God be with you and me ❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏 Love. Peace Forever ❤❤ Amen Amen 🙌🙌🙏
I wish I can show them I changed but, I can’t I still think of 1,000 ways I can fix it but, I can’t in truth they won’t let me. I’ve done what I can but, I struggle to forgive myself.
The thing about this is we all know that this is what we need to do but it’s so fucking hard!
Thank you so much sir!
"I have accepted what I am, and I have forgiven you. Now you must forgive yourself. The world is changing once again, Hanzo, and it's time to pick a side."
Amen! I love this guy!
I love you sir. Below God, you helped save my life. God Bless You.
I'm really glad you've appeared here at this time. You are just who I need, I think. Love it. Thanks. Whoever you may be..❤
DEEP TRUTH !!!!!
I love this guy❤❤❤👍👍👍
Amen
Thank you for this.
Thank you for saying that I needed that
“That's not survivalble” damn! 😭
Good man, I appreciate this
Thank you brother v. Word's of wisdom ...
My Big Brother died in 2022 I needed to here this thank you
Dag Gon' boy i enjoy hearin ole timer wisdom 💯💪🙏
God bless u my man, this is something I am working on with all my heart I appreciate you wisdom and u putting this on for everyone to see and get strong from God bless u ,and thank u
"Do not destroy yourself ... " he says, while smoking a telegraph-pole of a cigar
These are really nice to hear
Needed to hear this thank you
Great advice. People should really take this advice.
Love this man
" they say life is like the ocean and you like throw a rock and how far can that rock go but nobody says
When you are forgiven it's like the rock is floating back..... "
Great to hear this....
Straight Up
Thank you❤
It’s hard though really hard I feel like I punish myself a lot
Thank you Sir & God bless you!
Ya your right the that most important
Thank you ❤
Yes your right.i do I'm always hurt myself.but I be good.❤
Thank you. I REALLY NEEDED this
I have! And so I try and not create more I need to apologize for.🙏 Once you learn the lesson, you no longer have to repeat the problem.😊
Thank you sir
I needed this to hear 😢
The hard choice is the right choice
I needed to hear this
Thanks again 😌
Absolutely true
Fuck- Hard to hear; even harder to do. Definitely something to think about.
I agree because I feel it inside me thank for reminded me to move stronger then ever to 4ever...
I ruined my 2 year relationship when i was in a long distance relationship when i started seeing a guy casually for a week or two. 2 months later my partner found out about it. He was devastated. I love him with my entire heart so i begged him to forgive me and give me a last chance. He eventually gave our relationship a chance and nothing wrong has happened since. But i don't think he'll ever forgive me for what I did and more so everyday my own guilt eats me up. How could I ever do that to him. I swear i m not a bad person. I hope he and god forgives me for the trauma that I gave him, which he did not deserve 1 percent of. I just can't help myself at this point.
Forgive yourself! The past is over and done with. Now that you know better, you can do better :)
@@happythoughts3630 thank you so much for your kind words. They are not just mere words. To me they mean a lot. They really do. ❤️🙏
@@rrinishasingh10tha5 you’re very welcome! Glad I could help! I KNOW what it is like! Once you forgive yourself, the world changes around you. What we internally believe gets projected out in front of us. Look up everyone is you pushed out on UA-cam. It makes a loooot of sense.
Another suggestion (hope you don’t mind)…Louise Haye! Get her book “you can heal your life” it is MAGICAL! It puts everything into perspective
@@happythoughts3630 oh thank you so much, i just saw it's available on Amazon. I just ordered it , it's definitely going to be my next read.
Preach it.
I would gladly buy this man dinner, just to hear his wisdom!!
god bless you man, this is what I and so many needed to hear to move on
Thanks for that Mister.
Yes you are so right amen 🙏 🙌
😊 Thank you 💓 I needed to hear that, not regarding a man but family✨ God bless you 🙏🏻 I love your videos 💕
I needed that.
Amen.