Every time Craig gives a tip like "try and figure out who they are before you get into a relationship" I feel like a survivor who learned their lesson, and I always think about my ex and how many red flags I ignored because I was completely blank relationship-wise
Yeah .... I think I agree that your needs was not met during your childhood , is you getting attached so quickly to the guy you think he was awesome , fantastic for you but in all of a sudden your bright sunshine has turned into an eclipse that last for couple of months to recover ... To see the bright sunshine again ....GRRRRR!!!!! that's so really really devastating .......likes your whole World had collapsed !!!!!!
When you meet someone new, pls tell them what you want before getting involved. There's nothing like getting too attached . That's for people who don't know what they want or they're doing. You're either hot or cold. There's no room for lukewarmness.
I think it's pretty normal to get attached after 4 months or so. I also think that proposing to someone after this same period of time is too early. We shouldn't mix the two. But really, I think that 3-4 months is pretty normal to get attached. We're human after all, not machines, and even kissing someone or making love does have a pretty profound effect on attachment. And I don't think that in 4 months those things don't happen.
Your videos are so helpful to me. I've realized I have an anxious attachment style and these videos have helped me make progress and work towards being a more secure person (it's not easy and taking work) and finally learn from my mistakes of the past. Thank you so much for these videos. Your channel has motivated me to do so much research and I've learned a lot about myself in the process.
Hey everybody great news! Look who's secretly started disliking videos again... Tequia Breath!!! He's back! He thought we would forget. I knew you were still out there! One dislike from Mexico! The only person to dislike every video and still watch every day... Hahahaha
I talked to a woman after a few days and already, she said she loved me. People said it's a red flag because she's projecting and it's a sign of an abuser.
I was with her hardly 3 months (and maybe a total of 30 days actually together) yet I fell hard for her and it seemed she was for me as well.... then came the last two weeks of cold distant behavior after our first argument.... then came the break.. It's been 1.5 months now and only chatted about returning her stuff two weeks ago... that's it. I am NC.
Hi Craig! You re the best. After talking to you yesterday I felt better. Even though I'm still feeling like crap and like a fool sometimes for being silly with my ex, you taught me what to do and I thank you so much for doing that for me. Means a lot. You re a professional and I will definitely will have another Skype coaching hopefully with better news about my improvement.
Hey coach, i love your videos im going through a break and i emailed you aswell. I love to hear you all d time it makes me feel so good. Everyday whenever im alone i watch your videos dat makes me comfortable and my pain reduces. Thanks for helping people like us much appreciated.
I couldn't have said it any better than you just did here Craig. You can't possibly know a person well enough in a month to want to get married to them and nor can you trust your own feelings at that time.. These people aren't building the relationship on a good solid foundation and that's why it crumbles so easily later on and they wonder what happened?
My situation is similar, i met my ex and it got so intense right away, he said he loved me at the 6th day we met, and even tho i was like mmm i need to be careful, i didn't listen to me and went with the "flow" and we even talked about marriage, but 5 months after that, he broke up with me, saying it was to much for him, i didn't beg or chase, i did cry and told him i loved him but that i understood, 2 months have passed and i still have days that i cry, even tho we didn't have a long relationship, it was so much fun, we had a great time, but couldn't handle our intense feelings, he is a good guy, respectful and caring, we just got carried away, and i do miss him
@@Techn1cian well, it was been a year and a half now, so im in a happy place, not in love with him anymore, we do talk from time to time, but i had moved on and im pretty happy, thank you for asking
Hi Craig this video has a lot of insight my ex dumped me hes reason is bcoz we’re in different religion, I am so devasted begged him so many times to come back to me but he block me on social media after breaking up for 2 months hes in a new relationship ang now engaged , hes so quick to get a new relationship but me until now is still crying coz I really love him but after I watched this video I felt somehow relief .
My ex gave up on me because i kept hurting kind of pushed her away at times didn't know she had an anxious attachment. I called her insecure. She felt offended. Been a week should i reach out and let her know how much ive learned from Craig and she could learn too and we should give it another shot with all this information?
question, so my ex got with someone after 5 months, and they live together,so it's been about 2 months since I decided to keep my distance,just messages about our kids, and things were short and respectful until about 2 weeks ago she suddenly went cold, I mean she even has her mom texting me about picking up the kids, even one time her mom said she wasnt going to be there when I was going to get the kids and my ex was there but never came out, she's avoiding me for some reason,I don't have a problem with my ex at all, she literally has the mom talking for her, kinda wierd. I don't text her either since I find no reason for it and like they said I can't control others ppls actions. and also she seems mad but just at me lol anyone that can have an idea of why of this?
Ha! Maybe she is watching “ get your ex back videos!? Doing no contact & trying to get you to reach out... I often wonder who is being coached. These directives can be used by both sides. Hopefully everyone will get some healing & better themselves.
Hey Craig or community I have a question to ask. So my ex messages me we make plans but they end up not being able to make it. The thing is when we talk she seems very engaged, but then a week before we're supposed to get together she messages me "hey I can't do this day anymore can we do this day" what is going on here?
2dramaNaijatv like what do you want to know? I haven't reached out at all in the last month. She's reached out 4 times and whenever we try and plan a date to meet up she pushes the date back.
I know people who got married after 3 months and they're living in harmony. I've seen people date for years and it's a disaster. The difference is choices people make.
I have this problem I fell in love with her outter appearance she's just so extremely beautiful to me like no other I can't fight this feeling. I'm usually somebody who takes it slow and I was showered with love all my childhood but there is just something about her.
Hi. I don't have any money to book a session. I'm 21, in another country I feel so alone after my breakup. I just want to end it... I need someone to help me. Or help me get him back. I'm struggling so bad
Woooow that is crazy your ex going all neurotic over something as simple as returning an item!!!! I cannot imagine reacting in such a childish way!!! Well on a positive note, that for sure gave you plenty of closure!! I bet after that you would have not wanted her back even if they gave you a million dollars to take her back :D
but some people are really broken and dont know it. i have done the same. Never proposed to a girl but always was the first to say i love you. I am a big fan of your attitude. keep it on.
I'm wondering what country this guy is from because in Islamic countries men propose marraige to women instead of asking them out on a date so if he waited a whole month then he was relatively patient.
I know people who got married after 3 months and they're living in harmony. I've seen people date for years and it's a disaster. The difference is choices people make.
Every time Craig gives a tip like "try and figure out who they are before you get into a relationship" I feel like a survivor who learned their lesson, and I always think about my ex and how many red flags I ignored because I was completely blank relationship-wise
The one who cares the least has the most power
Ok avoidant
What's better than seeking validation in trying to control others? Well to understand your self is a good starting point.
Always. I learnt that the hard way and first time around withought even trying.
He’s teaching people how to have a long healthy relationship.
That person who falls/gets feelings is the one that will end up getting hurt more.
Yeah .... I think I agree that your needs was not met during your childhood , is you getting attached so quickly to the guy you think he was awesome , fantastic for you but in all of a sudden your bright sunshine has turned into an eclipse that last for couple of months to recover ... To see the bright sunshine again ....GRRRRR!!!!! that's so really really devastating .......likes your whole World had collapsed !!!!!!
You think so....?????
When you meet someone new, pls tell them what you want before getting involved. There's nothing like getting too attached . That's for people who don't know what they want or they're doing. You're either hot or cold. There's no room for lukewarmness.
You are correct coach exes do show you who they really are during a break up .
That's a great way to describe a hungry heart. it's amazing how far we'll go to fill the void
I am one of those idiots who get attached in 3-4months 😑😑 not fun.
I think it's pretty normal to get attached after 4 months or so.
I also think that proposing to someone after this same period of time is too early. We shouldn't mix the two.
But really, I think that 3-4 months is pretty normal to get attached. We're human after all, not machines, and even kissing someone or making love does have a pretty profound effect on attachment. And I don't think that in 4 months those things don't happen.
Your videos are so helpful to me. I've realized I have an anxious attachment style and these videos have helped me make progress and work towards being a more secure person (it's not easy and taking work) and finally learn from my mistakes of the past. Thank you so much for these videos. Your channel has motivated me to do so much research and I've learned a lot about myself in the process.
You're welcome!
I only knew my wife for 2 weeks before proposing. Been married 18yrs. She was 18 at the time.
Thats why. You got her early and trained her.
Hey everybody great news! Look who's secretly started disliking videos again... Tequia Breath!!! He's back! He thought we would forget. I knew you were still out there!
One dislike from Mexico! The only person to dislike every video and still watch every day...
Hahahaha
love hate relationship......;)
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Joe Wandy hahahahahahaha 😂😂
Coach Craig Kenneth, seems petty to lash out. You're above that.;)
I call that "inverted afection".
I talked to a woman after a few days and already, she said she loved me. People said it's a red flag because she's projecting and it's a sign of an abuser.
I was with her hardly 3 months (and maybe a total of 30 days actually together) yet I fell hard for her and it seemed she was for me as well.... then came the last two weeks of cold distant behavior after our first argument.... then came the break.. It's been 1.5 months now and only chatted about returning her stuff two weeks ago... that's it. I am NC.
Did you guys got back together?
Yeah what happened?
@@jimmyp4510 1.5 years later, I've not heard from her... matter of fact she blocked me on IG and Facebook ..
Hi Craig! You re the best. After talking to you yesterday I felt better. Even though I'm still feeling like crap and like a fool sometimes for being silly with my ex, you taught me what to do and I thank you so much for doing that for me. Means a lot. You re a professional and I will definitely will have another Skype coaching hopefully with better news about my improvement.
Glad you're starting to feel better! Can't wait to hear the improvements:)
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Hey coach, i love your videos im going through a break and i emailed you aswell. I love to hear you all d time it makes me feel so good. Everyday whenever im alone i watch your videos dat makes me comfortable and my pain reduces. Thanks for helping people like us much appreciated.
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I couldn't have said it any better than you just did here Craig. You can't possibly know a person well enough in a month to want to get married to them and nor can you trust your own feelings at that time.. These people aren't building the relationship on a good solid foundation and that's why it crumbles so easily later on and they wonder what happened?
My situation is similar, i met my ex and it got so intense right away, he said he loved me at the 6th day we met, and even tho i was like mmm i need to be careful, i didn't listen to me and went with the "flow" and we even talked about marriage, but 5 months after that, he broke up with me, saying it was to much for him, i didn't beg or chase, i did cry and told him i loved him but that i understood, 2 months have passed and i still have days that i cry, even tho we didn't have a long relationship, it was so much fun, we had a great time, but couldn't handle our intense feelings, he is a good guy, respectful and caring, we just got carried away, and i do miss him
It's rough isn't it :/. how did things turn out for you?
@@Techn1cian well, it was been a year and a half now, so im in a happy place, not in love with him anymore, we do talk from time to time, but i had moved on and im pretty happy, thank you for asking
Not surprised to hear the channel is doing so well! :)
Thanks :)
"I really wasn't doing the indirect-direct approach...we needed the costume back." 😂
Great video, Craig. Appreciate all of them!
Hi Craig this video has a lot of insight my ex dumped me hes reason is bcoz we’re in different religion, I am so devasted begged him so many times to come back to me but he block me on social media after breaking up for 2 months hes in a new relationship ang now engaged , hes so quick to get a new relationship but me until now is still crying coz I really love him but after I watched this video I felt somehow relief .
Coach, you're friggin awesome. Thanks for all your advise!
You're welcome!
My ex gave up on me because i kept hurting kind of pushed her away at times didn't know she had an anxious attachment. I called her insecure. She felt offended. Been a week should i reach out and let her know how much ive learned from Craig and she could learn too and we should give it another shot with all this information?
question, so my ex got with someone after 5 months, and they live together,so it's been about 2 months since I decided to keep my distance,just messages about our kids, and things were short and respectful until about 2 weeks ago she suddenly went cold, I mean she even has her mom texting me about picking up the kids, even one time her mom said she wasnt going to be there when I was going to get the kids and my ex was there but never came out, she's avoiding me for some reason,I don't have a problem with my ex at all, she literally has the mom talking for her, kinda wierd. I don't text her either since I find no reason for it and like they said I can't control others ppls actions. and also she seems mad but just at me lol anyone that can have an idea of why of this?
her man is making her do that
Ha! Maybe she is watching “ get your ex back videos!? Doing no contact & trying to get you to reach out... I often wonder who is being coached. These directives can be used by both sides. Hopefully everyone will get some healing & better themselves.
I think shes distancing herself bcuz of the relationship with him. This happened to me when my ex moved in wih his new GF. He went NC.It hurts I know.
Ive gotten attached to guys within a few days smh help
Hey Craig or community I have a question to ask. So my ex messages me we make plans but they end up not being able to make it. The thing is when we talk she seems very engaged, but then a week before we're supposed to get together she messages me "hey I can't do this day anymore can we do this day" what is going on here?
2dramaNaijatv like what do you want to know? I haven't reached out at all in the last month. She's reached out 4 times and whenever we try and plan a date to meet up she pushes the date back.
Go back into no contact and stay there till she serious about meeting. Right now she is breadcrumbing you. Please check out videos about breadcrumbs
Consumed by it yet consuming it. I like how that came together. Neat.
Your best video yet!
I think internally I am like this, but externally I have learned to be slow in my actions
It's a constant fight though
I know people who got married after 3 months and they're living in harmony. I've seen people date for years and it's a disaster. The difference is choices people make.
How do you know they live in harmony? I presented my last relationship in harmony but behind closed doors we had a lot of disagreements
I have this problem I fell in love with her outter appearance she's just so extremely beautiful to me like no other I can't fight this feeling. I'm usually somebody who takes it slow and I was showered with love all my childhood but there is just something about her.
Yeah but only to be beautifull is not enough. It was the "ugly" girls with the good character that i loved the most.
How soon is too soon to get attached? I don't think I'm quick to attach but 🤷🏻♀️ .... what's normal? 3 months? 5 dates? 🤔
This is what exactly just happened to me..lol! So glad i got back on my feet..Thanks for this Craig!:)
I know I'm embarrassed.....I did the same thing too. I'm glad we are human and make the same mistakes sometimes.
Hi. I don't have any money to book a session. I'm 21, in another country I feel so alone after my breakup. I just want to end it...
I need someone to help me. Or help me get him back. I'm struggling so bad
You ok?
Love your videos! Can you discuss more about attachment fears and fear of intimacy please. How can we get past our fears to find love.
Good job I love your advice but to really good because it works with my relationship
Please Coach Craig, can you teach us how control the anxiety.
Craig you’re the best!
Woooow that is crazy your ex going all neurotic over something as simple as returning an item!!!! I cannot imagine reacting in such a childish way!!! Well on a positive note, that for sure gave you plenty of closure!! I bet after that you would have not wanted her back even if they gave you a million dollars to take her back :D
but some people are really broken and dont know it. i have done the same. Never proposed to a girl but always was the first to say i love you. I am a big fan of your attitude. keep it on.
I'm gonna be signing up with you soon!!
Craig!! its so funny when you shake your head and say "dude!" LOL!
I'm wondering what country this guy is from because in Islamic countries men propose marraige to women instead of asking them out on a date so if he waited a whole month then he was relatively patient.
Really love your humour coach 😂😂
It's amazing
I feel personally attacked
You are good with that math, hahah
A hungry wolf does not care where he gets his meat.
😉 amazing
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
i was 34 and she was 27.........too old? ha ha ha ha :)
I know people who got married after 3 months and they're living in harmony. I've seen people date for years and it's a disaster. The difference is choices people make.