Low key I hate her I wish she realized how hard it is to find a love like that. We’re all sucky people don’t take it out on him while you still have him just let yourself heal
@@mikkim7275 yeah I get that but you don’t know how she felt growing up without a father and constantly hearing negative things about him growing up. Knowing that he went to jail on the day she was born makes it even worse; like she wishes all her life he could’ve got his shit together to provide for her. There are a lot of jaded moments that came from years of him missing out. And, though addiction is a health issue and not a crime, she still has every right to not accept him after his failures. She’ll get there eventually to where she can say she loves him, and I can tell she still held a lot of things back in the interview for his sake, so I completely understand her side.
@@mikkim7275 Its not even that she doesn't love him. To this DAY as an adult I find it hard to say those words to some family members even though I love them very much. I am not sure why, but its a thing. All the way back from my childhood it was just impossible to say it even if someone said it to me first. Try to understand her inability to say the words as more of a mental block than her true feelings.
@@mikkim7275 Imagine growing up without your dad and the only thing you really know about him is the negative bias information you heard from your mother your whole life. Now with the opportunity to have a relationship with him, you would take it because ultimately- you WANT to love your dad, but you can't always love someone you just met, especially when you have such a negatively built perception of him. Think about that a little bit. I admire her father for respecting her honest answer the way he did.
My sister can be a heartless bitch sometimes but I’ve always known it has to do with our absent drug addicted father she sometimes resent me because I look like him and compares me to him which hurts me but it’s not her fault
@@davidakateddy6647 I feel this my twin brother does the same thing, he treats me like shit all the time because we grew up with an abusive dad, and he had a lot of pent up anger towards him that he takes out on me
But also her relationship with the family she did have in her life probably effected more then someone who wasn’t there.. Like he was arrested before she was even born ..who chooses to go to prison...he may have been making stupid decisions but that doesn’t mean he wanted to go to prison so he couldn’t be there...honestly it sounds pretty ignorant to say he chose prison over a life with me & by extension you..like who tells there kid your dad would have rather gone to prison then be in your life...and considering he mentioned addiction he probably was sent to prison over something he was addicted to, there are ways to explain an absent parent without making the kid feel like shit.
That is definitely me. It’s so awkward to even hug my mom so I love her buying her things she wants, taking her to travel with me, I love her to death but I feel like I’m purchasing her love and guess that’s just how I cope with it. (Dad left her life when she got pregnant)
I don't even know why he asked her that. I thought it was pretty obvious neither of them have said it. It was a dick move. The father responded with, "I adore you... Yes.", not just, "Yes", and they were both clearly uncomfortable.
It’s unfortunate what drugs do to people, the long term effects on the relationships with others as well as ourselves :( they both seem like great people, I hope they figure it all out.
@@keenanslittlesister4604 so glad my situation was switched. When I went off the deep end my parents already had unconditional love for me. Doesn't happen like that when it's the other way around.
@@danielfernandez7752 except she wasn't joking, just framing the issue as a joke (as so many people do). She should have clarified how his talking so much was the issue though. Is it because he talks so much about nothing, avoiding substance in the conversation, does he talk over her, so she can't get her points across? That is what she should have detailed, so he would understand why it was an issue. Of course that's easier said than done in most relationships.
I asked this once in a conversation and was told it’s not their responsibility to teach me and I need to educate myself. It was really hurtful and stuck with me.
Can we appreciate the fact that this topic is getting recognition it deserves. Not all prisoners are bad people, and they can be amazing parent figures. Good job on this one, Cut
You could tell it really hurt her admitting she couldn’t say “I love you” to her father. I hope the both of them continue to strengthen their relationship and that she can overcome that pain she’s holding onto.
I don’t even think it was cause of her father. It sounds as though she has a hard time with love regardless. I see that look when she started crying tho. She was in her head reflecting on why she has a hard time with it and that’s right where you have to be. Reflection is really rough.
The dad wants to be apart of his daughter's life but I can see that she still has some heavy walls up when dealing with him. If her dad continues being this open, I'm sure that they will continue to bond more. Good luck Dad!
@@namenl2205 how tf is she selfish? Not growing up with him and being constantly told he was a bad man must’ve left many wounds and scars. She’s not gonna randomly heal overnight and love him in the blink of an eye. I didn’t grow up with a dad until I was 8 and to this day it all those years still hurt.
To be fair it sounds like he had more than the personal consumption amount. Dealing should 100% send you to prison. Personal use should be fined but not jailed.
In Norway, you dont go to fucking prison for duing stupid shit while high or drunk, u can one question, DO U ... NEED any help? Say yes and u dont get any prison time :)
When he says "that's ok mama" is the best moment because he's validating all her feelings towards him, it's like sayin it's ok don't worry i know i fucked up, but we get there eventually, i will fix it, and it's the most beautiful thing ever, RESPECT MAN.
When he said thats omay mama" I don't cry at all really and I didn't cry when he said that,I got a little sad because I have a feeling my dad will only say that type of stuff to me when Im much older and hes dying.
@@jamila8255 wait so why couldn't she say "I love you"? cause she has had issues with love with other people in the past? or does it have to do with him? im confused
@@barrettrichardson1406 honestly I don't know if it was family issues or love issues but all I know is that she said she had trust issues but it might be a mixture of both
@@barrettrichardson1406 I’ve learned that sometimes people are very guarded about expressing their love for people. Not that they don’t care about them, but that saying ‘I love you’ needs to be from the bottom of their heart, not out of obligation.
they both are so genuine and her dad seems to be so caring and the fact that he wasn't there for her prolly hurts him to the core. i hope their relationship gets better
I broke when she couldn’t tell him she loves him. The plexiglass between them is the perfect metaphor for how abandoned she felt growing up. He’s trying to right his wrongs and he loves her very much, but she is broken. I wish her family had done better to protect her by not speaking badly about him, regardless of the pain he put them through by being arrested. Addiction is no joke, and I hope that their relationship grows stronger through communication.
Mama dukes the villain for this im sorry. I dont care about none of that personal vendetta shit just like she your daughter THATS HIS DAUGHTER AS WELL. You'd rather brainwash her into thinking he a piece of shit then let shit go or do whats necessary for the child regardless y'all personal problems. That shit disgusts me. I had some taste to this and also had homies who been thru this. Its disturbing how people think this is ok let alone her family letting the mother do that.
That’s so true, her mother is the bad one in this one, she fucked up her daughter by saying this, she could have made in impossible for her daughter to ever want to talk to him and that’s really fucked up of her, I would never do this to my child, it would be another thing if the dad now was an abuser and would do something to her that’s not okay, but he’s here for her and wants to be a part of her life.
It seemed kind of like even though she couldnt express it she still loves him. Clearly its complicated, but if I were in her place I think I would find it pretty damn hard to say something like that in front of a camera that goes out to the whole world
@Matthew Allcock Hey , that doesn't mean anything. Some people just CAN'T say it, because we're too hard on ourselves and we fail to express out feelings. I've never said it , even if I do care for the person. It's just too hard to do... Even if I try to, my tongue gets tied up and I just can't do it.
Sameee. I usually watch these to laugh and shit but this one hurt. You fen tell the father loves his daughter and made a mistake and the daughter just hurting too but won’t show it.
This man truly loves his daughter and the toxic shit her family has said about him has ruined her perception on him and she can't even feel the love. And now they both suffer. This is so fucking sad
I'm sorry but no her mother has every right to be mad at him , just imagine that your partner goes to jail the day your child is born , obviously you don't want to raise your child all by yourself . He acted irresponsibly and he's almost like a stranger to her .
It's sad. I stayed in contact with my family member that went to prison. It's her families fault for putting all this shit into her head. I bet when she said that she couldn't say "I love you", his heart sank. He probably got in his car afterwards and bawled. I would have 😭 I have 3 kids of my own and I cannot imagine them saying they didn't love me. I've had my ups and downs with addiction too. I agree with him saying it's wrong to lock people up just because of addictions. I know there's programs in prison that help people get on the right track, but we need easier access for help for people outside of prison.
She definitely loves him man, there are some issues she’s dealing with that makes it hard for her to say it because it will make her feel vulnerable or dredge something up
@@inco31 i doubt she even knows him. And after all the stuff her moms family probably told her she might still have some prejudices against him that shes getting over. It’s possible she will love him in the future but i think it’s obvious she doesn’t love him at the moment.
Yeah but I think as a father he doesn’t really care about that, he cares more about the fact that she struggles with love and feelings, and just wishes that she gets over that so they can be more affectionate.
That ending...idk. You can tell he’s trying. He’s made his mistakes. She’s been toyed with emotionally so much. It’s heartbreaking from both sides. But I’m sure that hurt him extremely bad. If my child ever couldn’t say I love you to me...my entire existence would have zero point.
@Flash ’ some day I reckon she will but it takes time to make up for everything, and you're right she doesn't owe him but I'm sure he will earn that with time
yes. but he made mistakes and he needs to work harder to get back her trust and her love. from the video it looks like they both want that. i really hope they will reach to that point.
@@barbart_ why the but? No one said anyone was in the wrong. No one said it was wrong of her to not say I love you. No one said they didn’t understand. Someone simply said it would hurt to have their child be unable to tell them they love them. Did you not see the father’s face? It hurt him, too. Did you see the daughter’s face? It hurt her, too. No need to argue about what a parent would feel if their child couldn’t say they loved em.
@Flash ’ who said it was her fault?😂 why you gotta act like we’re saying either of them are bad people? Are you that uneducated that you can’t understand what “it’s heartbreaking from both sides” means?😂 some people sure do know how to type but can’t seem to understand how to read. No one said she owed him anything for what ever reason. No one said it was anyone’s fault. You’re just trying to start something, but you look plain stupid doing it.
@@elkellenhabla I meant that she never saw him as a dad cause he wasn't there when she was a kid, although he's here now, it could be hard to think of him as of her dad, he's just an adult for her
You hit the nail on the head. This relationship is clearly overly strained due to what her family told her about him and that is SICK and TOXIC cause the dad seems so genuine. All that matters though is he’s trying and I hope he continues to.
I feel like people influenced her to be like "dont let your dad come in and tell you about 'life'" since she was little so she just puts walls around her. Its sad to see people manipulate kids to feel a certain way :/
She’s been alienated from him and that is not right! They should not have done that to her. The family aside from him hurt her more than he could have by not being there when he is clearly trying so hard to let her heal with him now. I hope and pray they can be close and have a good relationship
The “don’t pressure her” made it for me. Obviously they’re both they’re to have fun but he made it known don’t ask my baby nothin she don’t wanna answer 😤 so pure
The fact that the father wanted to be strong in front of her; *for her* ;despite breaking inside is what caught me..... I hope their bond grows over time
"Don't pressure her" I love the way this dad treats his daughter. He's very understanding of the struggles she has because of his absence, and he's willing to put aside his emotions to make sure his daughter feels comfortable.
It's a bit in the middle, you know? It's not his business, but you could see that as this is a sensitive topic for them, it might work as a push in the right direction. That's what I think at least.
@@philipgiovanniemmer2452 agreed, it’s challenging questions like that that might push the people in the dynamic to come to conclusions they may not have on their own, at least in that time frame. But there’s definitely like a pull of tension in the questions because if I were up there, Id probably be guarded like the daughter was doing ~
Its truth or drink. Drink if you dont want to answer dumbass. It's a game designed to get people to "open up" and push the boundaries of what is comfortable to an individual. When it goes "too far" (which is subjective obviously) then you drink to pass.
@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow yea honestly the situation is everything but people shouldn’t get hard time sentences for petty offenses like small possession, maybe some sorta mandatory mental health or addiction help center would be a better for of rehabilitation especially when dealing with the youth and younger adults like in this situation
99.9% of the people you see in jail for drugs aren't there for just a minor possession in their pocket because they're addicted. We don't throw people in jail for 12 years for a little baggie of crack in their pocket. The people who are in jail are the people who are selling/distributing, which this man himself said he did. Because these are the people who ruin communities by getting others hooked on drugs. This man whether he likes to admit it or not, contributed to ruining other family's lives and potentially killed others with his actions. He served his time and that's all anyone can ask of him but it doesn't mean what he did didn't have consequences.
@@Dylandesuu Because the war on drugs really helps right? Drugs will always stay no matter what the punishment is. Look at asian country's where they have death penalty or lifetime prison as punishment, even there drugs is still a common market. Legalize and control it like alcohol because its a war the government will never win.
Parts of this I feel like I wasn't supposed to see. Their reconnection is beautiful but there were definitely some tough and intimate moments here. I only hope that they continue to grow closer and their bond continues to grow stronger. Tough watch...but genuine.
Yeah I found the ending hard to watch - I had the video full screen but when the "Can you say I love you?" question came out I exited full screen cause I got super uncomfortable about what an intimate question it was, almost closed the video. Not uncomfortable like it bothered me, but uncomfortable like I just walked in on them having a private conversation and heard something they wouldn't have wanted me to hear.
it hurt him so badly that she couldn’t say it. she was taught her whole life to despise a man who probably tried the best he could at the time with being in prison and all. shame on her mom for hiding her from him and feeding those kind of lies.
@@diegoborlini6840 her dad said and she even agreed he tried reaching out to her while she was growing up. she knew her mom hid him from her. yes he was in prison, but that was no excuse to separate her child from their parent. she clearly has issues to this day due to it, which is why she’s emotionally unattached.
@@diegoborlini6840 bro he didn’t do anything like killing someone, he was a drug addict, it’s not his fault it’s completely her moms family for destroying their relationship like that, he wanted to be there for her, but he mom wouldn’t let her, that’s fucked up of the mom, she’d shouldn’t brain wash her daughter to think something about her father, her daughter should have been able to decide for herself what she wants, the mother can’t decide if she wants to be with her dad or not, the MOM is the fucked up
@@aloowalia2849 no it’s not, not all prisoners are bad people, he was addicted to drug, he got out of it, he even tried to reach out, that just shows he wanted to be there for his daughter, and he obvs could now and he is happy about it and he loves her very much, you’re dumb if u thin being a prisoner for something like drug addict is something to hide your child from, like no.
Almost started crying when he said "don't pressure her". This guy has a good heart fr. And in my opinion (I don't know him tho) it's not his fault. And I think it's so disgusting to criminalize people for being sick
This hits different having an absent parent and trying to connect as adults. I love my dad now but there were many years I resented him for everything he didn't do in my life.
You can definitely see he learned from his mistakes and he's trying to make things better. She was clearly affected by not only him not being there but by the way her family spoke about him in a negative light. Yeah he fucked up but doesn't mean he didn't love or wanted to get to know her sooner.
Yeah I mean who tells their kid you’re dad chose prison over you that’s fucked up ...who would chose prison...and if he was struggling with addiction that doesn’t mean he chose prison over his family people just Villainize those with addiction, think they should be able to control themselves and think rationally. It took my grandfather his whole life until his 50s to kick his addiction and my parents spoke horribly of him made me scared of him when he hasn’t ever done anything to hurt me or anyone in our family the mans a pacifist ..funnily enough guess who is the one who is still in my & my brothers life.
Awe, she wants to love her father but her mom has tainted that image for her. It'll come, I too have a hard time connecting with my own father so i empathize with her.
@@cassandrarichardson2467 he said he made a mistake and had an addiction, our parents are human and nobody is perfect but the mother spoke badly on him to her child, which was from her own experience instead of allowing the daughter to form her own opinion about her father! Thats folks problem, you can't put your hurt on your children and make them feel from your experience, two totally different relationships. But you're allowed to see it your way. GOOD DAY. ✌🏾🤷🏽♀️
@Evan Anderson its a process, choose whats best for you for your own peace of mind! Parents mess up and you can either allow her to explain why she chose to lie and move forward or harbor that hurt. Either way you got this. 💪🏽
4:12 TRUTH! It's a health issue NOT a criminal issue, and people should know that the system failed them because it didn't help them, it punished them for something unjust.
Nice comeback from dad when she called him weird 😂 I almost cried. Hope they get to bond more. Dad seems to be respectful of the circumstances and was very open. I'm 31 and haven't seen my dad ever. I never got the chance
I disagree, I think this channel is just trying to open up the conversation between parents and their children and just people in general to the topic of sex. It's a hard subject for some and can be a little uncomfortable at times but it's still important.
Usually the reply's are humorous, which they look for to bring in an audience. They ask uncomfortable questions for a comical response, which veiwers at home usually find funny.
Couldn’t help but get emotional watching this one. I feel her pain so much and I see her desperately trying to protect herself with her mask just afraid of so much on the inside, things that no one should be afraid of. There’s nothing more important than a relationship between a parent and their child, especially a father and a daughter. You can tell how beautiful she is inside and out and she just needs to be loved :,( loved this video and love that these topics are getting more recognition that they deserve.
Okay, this was so sweet. It’s awful that he was unable to fully be in her life while a child but the fact that he is and seems to be trying is amazing. I can completely understand her inability to say “I love you” because it’s most likely to anyone and not just her father. However if he proves to be in her life and proves himself a true father to her over time she will get there, they will get there and she will... all things take time and with time all things are possible. This one was definitely a bit heart shaking! Good episode Edit: I for real for real think that they should have not done that little side not “challenge” that was too far! Telling her “the real challenge is can you tell him you love him”. It shouldn’t matter and should have been skipped over and not even posted. That is and will be a special moment between them and not the entire world in a UA-cam video. One day with time she will feel and be able to say those words((given all goes well throughout life with them))
I wish I could talk to this girl. Felt this one. Every answer. Every look. Every story. I really felt the dads laugh instead of tears, making the awkward moments lighter. Just lost my dad last year to cancer after a few years of loving him finally, which was the follow up from many years trying to hate him. If anyone is reading this who is struggling, only the love is real. Never the hate. Please realize that before they’re gone. All my love! Such a difficult trauma to live through. 💚
@@liastaxx18 if I’m being honest, you seem like you’re a wonderful person on your own; if people don’t want to stick around it’s their loss. Keep kicking arse bro 😎!
I appreciate how accepting he was of her admitting her hurts and not being able to say she loved him, even though it clearly hurt to hear. He still defended her and said not to pressure her. Clearly now he has the chance hes willing to do anything to show her he cares and didn't mean to hurt her. I hope they can heal and she one day can safely say she loves him.
Her dad looks like he SO wanted to hear her say "I love you" when she couldn't, idk how he held up strong. he was 🤏 this close to crying, like hes sad for both her and himself. I wonder how long she's been around her dad for.. she obviously cares about him. When she cried I got the sense of "i wish I could but I can't right now." Got me like: 🤧😢 I had a good relationship with my dad growing up. He divorced my mom when I was 17 and quickly rushed into a marriage with a woman from his childhood. My dad destroyed our relationship over that woman who came with intentions of ruining our relationship. I Didnt meet her until after they were married.. She had her own kids and wanted my dad to abandon me and my brothers completely. I hardly saw my dad for 8 years. Every time I was with him, his wife and her daughter were near and I could not even talk to my dad. The mother & daughter were always scheming behind my dads back he would work crazy hours as a truck driver making good money and when he was asleep during the day, they would steal money or go on shopping sprees with his card. They got worse and opened credit cards in his name, maxed them out, and now his credit is shot. They divorced last year. My dad was always making excuses to keep her even knowing that she was stealing money. He caught her on the phone with a man saying "I love you, babe" and that was the final straw for him 🙄. We found out she was always trying to get with other men..flirting with men at work, and had an affair with a married man that had kids. She wanted that man to leave his family for her and he told her he wasnt gonna do that. She married the old man she was talking to after my dad divorced her (she thought he had a bunch of assets thats why she was messing around with him) apparently he doesn't have much and is a cheapskate. I felt like a stranger when my dad was with that woman. I cried for years when he got with her. I have big trust issues with my dad after all that. My heart has become cold to him. I realized how easily he would chose a woman over his family. He is selfish, and has poor judgment.
@@PandaChef21 Thank you. I like to share. It might help people. Maybe some might relate. It was traumatic for me. My dad was (and still is) like a superhero, a "jack of all trades" type... I just can't fully respect him. I grew up as "daddies girl" im the only daughter. my mom never treated me well, so I was really attached to my dad. Had I known at a young age that my dad could betray/hurt me emotionally and become a whole stranger, I probably wouldn't have been as affected as bad. I physically became sick after confronting my dad and his wife in 2012. Depression & severe psoriasis from stress at age 19, and a year or two after I developed severe arthritis, I was around ages 20-21 I was in crippling pain, depressed, lossed appetite & lots of weight.. I had to be put on disability. A good father is so important to have. I would hope more people would be mindful about the partners they choose, mindful about how their actions or choices may affect their kids. I hope the dads (or parents in general) would teach their kids whatever skills they know. I hope the kids (whatever age) would be strong enough to move on when parents let them down or abandon them.
@Amber OTL thank you for sharing. that sounds so painful and sad... My good wishes to you, and I hope you meet some more truly loyal people in the future
@@amberotl5276 🥺 I straight up cried reading this. Sometimes I am so scared to meet someone and I don’t know how I’m going to marry a man when I have so many fears of how it will end up. I also don’t trust myself to raise children; I don’t want any chance of fucking up their lives as a parent. I’m just not good enough to have close relationships with people, it’s always been this way
He does love the hell out of her, but you can see he’s letting her make her own decisions and choices. Not pressuring her or asking a million questions. Respect man. Y’all two have a lot of making up to do but clearly there’s potential here for a solid relationship between y’all. Hope all is well, stay blessed
Or pushing his feelings on her like I love you so you have to love me...really respected that but she might need it if her mom really convinced her his addiction meant he didn’t love her...because that’s Bull.
i pray they’re relationship is healed. my dad got out of prison and was in my life for only 3 years before he passed away. i would do anything to have even a little bit more time with him
Does anyone else feel uncomfortable with the way CUT asks Leah “can you say I love you?” I feel as though she was put on the spot, in a situation she was not comfortable with. I understand the point of the video, which is coming out with your feelings, and some which you may have held back. But that specific question felt as though it was stepping a boundary.
I agree, in my opinion it was inappropriate and rude to ask her to do that. I'm happy her dad asked them to stop pressuring her, he seemed more in tune with her feelings and was really supportive.
What a great father, I am proud of them both for reuniting and making special, positive moments together. Everyone deserves love, forgiveness and acceptance.
Ending hit kinda. Dad seems really educated and laid back. Sadly he hung around the wrong crowd but you can’t blame him, at least he learned from his past and looks to be doing better now.
My dad was also in incarcerated for a large majority of my life and was addicted to meth. Over the years his addiction ebbed and flowed. Watching this really affected me emotionally although I’m not 100 percent sure what I am feeling. I think we all want to be loved and some time it’s the most empathetic people who can’t deal with this life who turn to drugs. It’s awful that most of these people end up in the prison system. These are still beautiful, big hearted, smart people with a lot of potential. My dad died and luckily I was able to be there for the last few months of his life. My biggest fear was that he would die alone on skid row. But there is still hope for change for the millions of other people who are affected by addiction, the failures of our incarceration system and mental health care system and just plain broken hearts. I hope this little family gets to heal and my heart goes out to both of them. Stay strong. Don’t attach to emotions. Grow through them. Eat healthy. Nutrition has so much to do with mental health. Just trying to pass on what I have learned. Much love.
this was an amazing experience to watch. a dismissive avoidant woman, her acknowledging her relationship issues as an adult (with vulnerability), and seeing the pain, the origins of the pain. all of her previous relationships should see this video and know how challenging it was, and I applaud her for having the courage to really delve deep into her own feelings
She loves him.... She definitely does love the hell out of her dad.... She's just scared and needs time.... He wasn't there for soo much, they need time....
“don’t pressure her” that’s beautiful
Low key I hate her I wish she realized how hard it is to find a love like that. We’re all sucky people don’t take it out on him while you still have him just let yourself heal
@@mikkim7275 agreed
@@mikkim7275 yeah I get that but you don’t know how she felt growing up without a father and constantly hearing negative things about him growing up. Knowing that he went to jail on the day she was born makes it even worse; like she wishes all her life he could’ve got his shit together to provide for her. There are a lot of jaded moments that came from years of him missing out. And, though addiction is a health issue and not a crime, she still has every right to not accept him after his failures. She’ll get there eventually to where she can say she loves him, and I can tell she still held a lot of things back in the interview for his sake, so I completely understand her side.
@@mikkim7275 Its not even that she doesn't love him. To this DAY as an adult I find it hard to say those words to some family members even though I love them very much. I am not sure why, but its a thing. All the way back from my childhood it was just impossible to say it even if someone said it to me first. Try to understand her inability to say the words as more of a mental block than her true feelings.
@@mikkim7275 Imagine growing up without your dad and the only thing you really know about him is the negative bias information you heard from your mother your whole life. Now with the opportunity to have a relationship with him, you would take it because ultimately- you WANT to love your dad, but you can't always love someone you just met, especially when you have such a negatively built perception of him. Think about that a little bit. I admire her father for respecting her honest answer the way he did.
Can we appreciate the fact that this man is actually trying to have a relationship with her daughter and wants to learn like fr
i give him that... a lot of us will never have this closure
@@gissellerein330 you got that right.
Full marks for that.
Father of the year and goes to this man really trying the boundaries of this new generation
I’m tearing 🥺
“You’re weird.”
“At least I don’t have orange hair.”
Like father, like daughter 😂
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@@maxbennett2596 lol he got you on that one
Her awkwardness with affection says a lot about how his absence probably affected her. I totally get it.
My sister can be a heartless bitch sometimes but I’ve always known it has to do with our absent drug addicted father she sometimes resent me because I look like him and compares me to him which hurts me but it’s not her fault
@@davidakateddy6647 I feel this my twin brother does the same thing, he treats me like shit all the time because we grew up with an abusive dad, and he had a lot of pent up anger towards him that he takes out on me
But also her relationship with the family she did have in her life probably effected more then someone who wasn’t there.. Like he was arrested before she was even born ..who chooses to go to prison...he may have been making stupid decisions but that doesn’t mean he wanted to go to prison so he couldn’t be there...honestly it sounds pretty ignorant to say he chose prison over a life with me & by extension you..like who tells there kid your dad would have rather gone to prison then be in your life...and considering he mentioned addiction he probably was sent to prison over something he was addicted to, there are ways to explain an absent parent without making the kid feel like shit.
That is definitely me. It’s so awkward to even hug my mom so I love her buying her things she wants, taking her to travel with me, I love her to death but I feel like I’m purchasing her love and guess that’s just how I cope with it. (Dad left her life when she got pregnant)
I dont
"I was a mistake... I was a mistake."
"No, I think the mistake was thinking we could use a child to find love. But you, not a mistake."
G O D D A M N
That hit HARD...
That’s the answer of a Father. Period. Not a dad, a father. He made mistakes , but that speaks to his character. Bravo 👏 on that response.
He's a OG
Damn..
@@brianamurray7966 these line can literally used in a good drama mogie
The “dont pressure her” at the end was real love. There was pain in that
i agree, he was right too
I saw that too! Gosh they're so lovely.
I cried no lie I feel her pain.
I don't even know why he asked her that. I thought it was pretty obvious neither of them have said it. It was a dick move. The father responded with, "I adore you... Yes.", not just, "Yes", and they were both clearly uncomfortable.
almost like he was trying to tell himself as well, to be patient with her 🤧
"The mistake was thinking we could use a child to find love."
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this hit me a lot
right people do that shit all the time.
A lot of people made that mistake. 😕
the pain in his eyes when she couldn’t tell him she loved him was heartbreaking 😢
yes! but I also think he knows that it will take time and she will probably come around some day
sucks to hear your own daughter say I don't love you
@@VegasBubba565 i don’t think it was her saying she didn’t love him, but it’s hard for her to express how she feels
As heartbreaking as it is, it’s also warming to see him trying to push through and build that connection.
Nad the pain in hers...
I feel for this man so bad, but her too - she’s so hurt
It's heartbreaking seeing two hurt and broken people try not to hold the past against eachother while trying to let eachother in.
It’s unfortunate what drugs do to people, the long term effects on the relationships with others as well as ourselves :( they both seem like great people, I hope they figure it all out.
@@keenanslittlesister4604 so glad my situation was switched. When I went off the deep end my parents already had unconditional love for me. Doesn't happen like that when it's the other way around.
joe barra im happy you’re here
@@keenanslittlesister4604 you mean jail
“Can you give me an example so I can have a learning moment?” THAT is healthy communication & effective listening 🙌🏽💗
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Yes am very impressed by his personality, hope they both heal from the past
And the she literally uses that moment to joke about him taking a lot smh…
@@danielfernandez7752 except she wasn't joking, just framing the issue as a joke (as so many people do). She should have clarified how his talking so much was the issue though. Is it because he talks so much about nothing, avoiding substance in the conversation, does he talk over her, so she can't get her points across? That is what she should have detailed, so he would understand why it was an issue. Of course that's easier said than done in most relationships.
I asked this once in a conversation and was told it’s not their responsibility to teach me and I need to educate myself. It was really hurtful and stuck with me.
Can we appreciate the fact that this topic is getting recognition it deserves. Not all prisoners are bad people, and they can be amazing parent figures. Good job on this one, Cut
You can still tell this dude has anger issues tho
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@@TheseYeahThese stop the cap u don’t know him and neither do we
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You could tell it really hurt her admitting she couldn’t say “I love you” to her father. I hope the both of them continue to strengthen their relationship and that she can overcome that pain she’s holding onto.
Same, I have hope!
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I don’t even think it was cause of her father. It sounds as though she has a hard time with love regardless. I see that look when she started crying tho. She was in her head reflecting on why she has a hard time with it and that’s right where you have to be. Reflection is really rough.
The dad wants to be apart of his daughter's life but I can see that she still has some heavy walls up when dealing with him. If her dad continues being this open, I'm sure that they will continue to bond more. Good luck Dad!
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She selfish af
@@namenl2205 Shes not
@@namenl2205 how tf is she selfish? Not growing up with him and being constantly told he was a bad man must’ve left many wounds and scars. She’s not gonna randomly heal overnight and love him in the blink of an eye. I didn’t grow up with a dad until I was 8 and to this day it all those years still hurt.
Omg for real
Can we talk about him spitting facts about our prison system punishing individuals for addiction instead of treating it as a health issue
Oregon just passed the law to decriminalize all drugs which I think will help so much!
yess!!
To be fair it sounds like he had more than the personal consumption amount. Dealing should 100% send you to prison. Personal use should be fined but not jailed.
In Norway, you dont go to fucking prison for duing stupid shit while high or drunk, u can one question, DO U ... NEED any help? Say yes and u dont get any prison time :)
a-fucking-men. i was just about to comment about it
When he says "that's ok mama" is the best moment because he's validating all her feelings towards him, it's like sayin it's ok don't worry i know i fucked up, but we get there eventually, i will fix it, and it's the most beautiful thing ever, RESPECT MAN.
When he said thats omay mama" I don't cry at all really and I didn't cry when he said that,I got a little sad because I have a feeling my dad will only say that type of stuff to me when Im much older and hes dying.
This dad is the coolest. Just a couple of bad decisions he made in life. Still a great guy
Agreed
Very true.
Ikr! I kept thinking that same thing
Obito was the coolest
@@DeAvinMitchell for real just bad choices
It seems strained but he seems to have a good heart and JESUS THAT ENDING
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You can tell that she loves him it's just her anxiety is holding her back from expressing it
@@jamila8255 wait so why couldn't she say "I love you"? cause she has had issues with love with other people in the past? or does it have to do with him? im confused
@@barrettrichardson1406 honestly I don't know if it was family issues or love issues but all I know is that she said she had trust issues but it might be a mixture of both
@@barrettrichardson1406 I’ve learned that sometimes people are very guarded about expressing their love for people. Not that they don’t care about them, but that saying ‘I love you’ needs to be from the bottom of their heart, not out of obligation.
they both are so genuine and her dad seems to be so caring and the fact that he wasn't there for her prolly hurts him to the core. i hope their relationship gets better
I broke when she couldn’t tell him she loves him. The plexiglass between them is the perfect metaphor for how abandoned she felt growing up. He’s trying to right his wrongs and he loves her very much, but she is broken. I wish her family had done better to protect her by not speaking badly about him, regardless of the pain he put them through by being arrested. Addiction is no joke, and I hope that their relationship grows stronger through communication.
Mama dukes the villain for this im sorry. I dont care about none of that personal vendetta shit just like she your daughter THATS HIS DAUGHTER AS WELL. You'd rather brainwash her into thinking he a piece of shit then let shit go or do whats necessary for the child regardless y'all personal problems. That shit disgusts me. I had some taste to this and also had homies who been thru this. Its disturbing how people think this is ok let alone her family letting the mother do that.
That’s so true, her mother is the bad one in this one, she fucked up her daughter by saying this, she could have made in impossible for her daughter to ever want to talk to him and that’s really fucked up of her, I would never do this to my child, it would be another thing if the dad now was an abuser and would do something to her that’s not okay, but he’s here for her and wants to be a part of her life.
It seemed kind of like even though she couldnt express it she still loves him. Clearly its complicated, but if I were in her place I think I would find it pretty damn hard to say something like that in front of a camera that goes out to the whole world
It was at the end that I figured out why the Producer had to explain what the plexiglass was for.
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man, the pain in his eyes when she couldn't say "I love you" damn..
omg that made me tear up so much
@@ForeverKissy it was painful to watch
@Matthew Allcock Hey , that doesn't mean anything. Some people just CAN'T say it, because we're too hard on ourselves and we fail to express out feelings. I've never said it , even if I do care for the person. It's just too hard to do... Even if I try to, my tongue gets tied up and I just can't do it.
so painful to watch
Im litterly crying
Someone pls sponsor her a therapist. I mean it in the nicest way. She's deserving of loveee, both of them do.
Agreed
I knowwww! I just wanted to tell her it's okay, you don't have to be ready to say that right now.
Ah, man. This one actually made me a little misty-eyed.
Misty eyed? IM BAWLING
Sameee. I usually watch these to laugh and shit but this one hurt. You fen tell the father loves his daughter and made a mistake and the daughter just hurting too but won’t show it.
Love it
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This man truly loves his daughter and the toxic shit her family has said about him has ruined her perception on him and she can't even feel the love. And now they both suffer. This is so fucking sad
Plus she feels she wasn’t loved by him because he sent to prison like no baby. It’s not like that ugh but at least now they have a chance
I'm sorry but no her mother has every right to be mad at him , just imagine that your partner goes to jail the day your child is born , obviously you don't want to raise your child all by yourself . He acted irresponsibly and he's almost like a stranger to her .
@@ramy8338 doesn't mean she has to project her hatred to manipulate her daughters thoughts without her developing her own opinion.
It's sad. I stayed in contact with my family member that went to prison. It's her families fault for putting all this shit into her head. I bet when she said that she couldn't say "I love you", his heart sank. He probably got in his car afterwards and bawled. I would have 😭 I have 3 kids of my own and I cannot imagine them saying they didn't love me. I've had my ups and downs with addiction too. I agree with him saying it's wrong to lock people up just because of addictions. I know there's programs in prison that help people get on the right track, but we need easier access for help for people outside of prison.
@@ramy8338 yee and raising human who has a lot of issues, that's so fucked up love for you.
He probably feels like she’s the only thing he has left and she doesn’t even love him. I know my man is hurting inside.
She loves him.
She definitely loves him man, there are some issues she’s dealing with that makes it hard for her to say it because it will make her feel vulnerable or dredge something up
@@inco31 i doubt she even knows him. And after all the stuff her moms family probably told her she might still have some prejudices against him that shes getting over. It’s possible she will love him in the future but i think it’s obvious she doesn’t love him at the moment.
Yes its mostly a love n hate relationship with her..
Yeah but I think as a father he doesn’t really care about that, he cares more about the fact that she struggles with love and feelings, and just wishes that she gets over that so they can be more affectionate.
Truly respect her saying "No" because.... when she says "I love you"..... they will both know that she means it. Ten thousand percent.
I dont respect that at all.
@@statixlaw5675 Well the other choice was to lie.
That ending...idk. You can tell he’s trying. He’s made his mistakes. She’s been toyed with emotionally so much. It’s heartbreaking from both sides. But I’m sure that hurt him extremely bad. If my child ever couldn’t say I love you to me...my entire existence would have zero point.
@Flash ’ some day I reckon she will but it takes time to make up for everything, and you're right she doesn't owe him but I'm sure he will earn that with time
@Flash ’ no one said it was her fault
yes. but he made mistakes and he needs to work harder to get back her trust and her love. from the video it looks like they both want that. i really hope they will reach to that point.
@@barbart_ why the but? No one said anyone was in the wrong. No one said it was wrong of her to not say I love you. No one said they didn’t understand. Someone simply said it would hurt to have their child be unable to tell them they love them. Did you not see the father’s face? It hurt him, too. Did you see the daughter’s face? It hurt her, too. No need to argue about what a parent would feel if their child couldn’t say they loved em.
@Flash ’ who said it was her fault?😂 why you gotta act like we’re saying either of them are bad people? Are you that uneducated that you can’t understand what “it’s heartbreaking from both sides” means?😂 some people sure do know how to type but can’t seem to understand how to read. No one said she owed him anything for what ever reason. No one said it was anyone’s fault. You’re just trying to start something, but you look plain stupid doing it.
She sees him as some grown man that she's supposed to call "dad" and he sees his daughter
That’s true as hell
Wow
And that’s on daddy issues :(
This comment getting a lot of likes but everyone’s dad becomes a grown man (unless they die young)
@@elkellenhabla I meant that she never saw him as a dad cause he wasn't there when she was a kid, although he's here now, it could be hard to think of him as of her dad, he's just an adult for her
Moral of the story, it's never too late to reach out to those you've fallen out with.
Only if both parties are willing. Sometimes it is too late. Can only fuck around for so long.
Fuck that if my dad ever tried reaching out to him im beating his ass
When the daughter says "I'm a mistake" and the dad immediately corrected her, that's some love only dad could give you
“I would have modeled it “ everyone does the eyebrow raise 😂😂 “that sounded weird” 😂😂
My mans hella funny
Her dad wants to be closer but she still has some walls up from everything she has been told about him growing up
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@@yoshzlac2429 dude stop
You hit the nail on the head. This relationship is clearly overly strained due to what her family told her about him and that is SICK and TOXIC cause the dad seems so genuine. All that matters though is he’s trying and I hope he continues to.
I feel like people influenced her to be like "dont let your dad come in and tell you about 'life'" since she was little so she just puts walls around her. Its sad to see people manipulate kids to feel a certain way :/
She’s been alienated from him and that is not right! They should not have done that to her. The family aside from him hurt her more than he could have by not being there when he is clearly trying so hard to let her heal with him now. I hope and pray they can be close and have a good relationship
I like his vibe. You can see he matured and he now has a positive vibe.:)
@rachel wynn that is very true. I am guitly of assuming that so thankyou for openning that posibblitly
you’re so very polite
we kinda speak/type the same! that's pretty cool :)
The “don’t pressure her” made it for me. Obviously they’re both they’re to have fun but he made it known don’t ask my baby nothin she don’t wanna answer 😤 so pure
She loves him, it's just that it's really uncomfortable verbalizing that sometimes. From one girl with daddy issues to another, I feel that, girl.
Thanks Peter Griffin
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I was bawling 😭
@@alphaarsenic8323 Jessica's thumbnail is Peter Griffin, from Family Guy.
i’m crying cause that baby is hurt. she’s in pain and she needs therapy and id love to hear that they both go to sessions together
*Deep conversation almost bringing them to tears*
Backround music: BWENENENENE NENENE BWEEEEEEENENENEEEE
Lmaoo
Literally 🤣🤣🤣 it’s their Truth or Drink music, but at one point it was definitely inappropriate hahaha
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I like it
Omg fucking literally so awkward
The fact that the father wanted to be strong in front of her; *for her* ;despite breaking inside is what caught me..... I hope their bond grows over time
Right! I want a follow up video for them 🖤
The way she broke down when asked to say “I love you” is extremely and unfortunately relatable
I felt it in my soul 🥺
"Don't pressure her" I love the way this dad treats his daughter. He's very understanding of the struggles she has because of his absence, and he's willing to put aside his emotions to make sure his daughter feels comfortable.
The interviewer needs to know when to stop
i mean it was a good question
It's a bit in the middle, you know? It's not his business, but you could see that as this is a sensitive topic for them, it might work as a push in the right direction. That's what I think at least.
@@philipgiovanniemmer2452 agreed, it’s challenging questions like that that might push the people in the dynamic to come to conclusions they may not have on their own, at least in that time frame. But there’s definitely like a pull of tension in the questions because if I were up there, Id probably be guarded like the daughter was doing ~
Its truth or drink. Drink if you dont want to answer dumbass. It's a game designed to get people to "open up" and push the boundaries of what is comfortable to an individual. When it goes "too far" (which is subjective obviously) then you drink to pass.
@@johngreene8510 don’t be rude. yes, that’s true, but the questions were getting way too personal and they both clearly felt pressured to answer
The dad seems so mature and so well-spoken
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@@heehee5472 did you not hear what age he did it? mans is in his 40s now. people change and mature.
@@heehee5472 Grow up dude, seems like this man has...
@@kirbyeaterofworlds facts
@@heehee5472 drug dealers can't be well spoken? Interesting
I loved the “can I have a learning moment?” Part.
Same, that was so sweet 🥺
U can tell he wants to move forward and try to be a good dad
“Are you glad you two are in each other’s lives right now?”
Yes
The way they both turned and looked at each other & said it synchronously 😭
Scrolled way too far for this comment! They didn’t get me until that very last little moment🥺
“Can you give me an example so I can have a learning moment” this was unreal.
Drug charges shouldn’t be treated the way they are. I wish one of our leaders would change that.
well it depends, selling? owning a metric shit tonne? context matters, but doing them shouldn't be treated like criminality
@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow I mean being buster with about under a kilo, or 500 grams over that is dealing.
@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow yea honestly the situation is everything but people shouldn’t get hard time sentences for petty offenses like small possession, maybe some sorta mandatory mental health or addiction help center would be a better for of rehabilitation especially when dealing with the youth and younger adults like in this situation
99.9% of the people you see in jail for drugs aren't there for just a minor possession in their pocket because they're addicted. We don't throw people in jail for 12 years for a little baggie of crack in their pocket. The people who are in jail are the people who are selling/distributing, which this man himself said he did. Because these are the people who ruin communities by getting others hooked on drugs. This man whether he likes to admit it or not, contributed to ruining other family's lives and potentially killed others with his actions. He served his time and that's all anyone can ask of him but it doesn't mean what he did didn't have consequences.
@@Dylandesuu Because the war on drugs really helps right? Drugs will always stay no matter what the punishment is. Look at asian country's where they have death penalty or lifetime prison as punishment, even there drugs is still a common market. Legalize and control it like alcohol because its a war the government will never win.
Parts of this I feel like I wasn't supposed to see. Their reconnection is beautiful but there were definitely some tough and intimate moments here. I only hope that they continue to grow closer and their bond continues to grow stronger. Tough watch...but genuine.
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Yeah I found the ending hard to watch - I had the video full screen but when the "Can you say I love you?" question came out I exited full screen cause I got super uncomfortable about what an intimate question it was, almost closed the video. Not uncomfortable like it bothered me, but uncomfortable like I just walked in on them having a private conversation and heard something they wouldn't have wanted me to hear.
“It feels like home” SIRRR🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm crying. I wish I could have a talk with my dad like this.
I hope you can settle your issues one day. Love and solidarity from Finland.
@@TheAxeaman very much appreciated. ❣
Ditto
@@juliangriffin4789 edi wow
it hurt him so badly that she couldn’t say it. she was taught her whole life to despise a man who probably tried the best he could at the time with being in prison and all. shame on her mom for hiding her from him and feeding those kind of lies.
You are not seeing the whole picture, stop blaming her mom for trying to protect her from a man in prison. It's not fair.
@@diegoborlini6840 her dad said and she even agreed he tried reaching out to her while she was growing up. she knew her mom hid him from her. yes he was in prison, but that was no excuse to separate her child from their parent. she clearly has issues to this day due to it, which is why she’s emotionally unattached.
@@alissahowdy if your ex is a prisoner it's valid to hide your child from him
@@diegoborlini6840 bro he didn’t do anything like killing someone, he was a drug addict, it’s not his fault it’s completely her moms family for destroying their relationship like that, he wanted to be there for her, but he mom wouldn’t let her, that’s fucked up of the mom, she’d shouldn’t brain wash her daughter to think something about her father, her daughter should have been able to decide for herself what she wants, the mother can’t decide if she wants to be with her dad or not, the MOM is the fucked up
@@aloowalia2849 no it’s not, not all prisoners are bad people, he was addicted to drug, he got out of it, he even tried to reach out, that just shows he wanted to be there for his daughter, and he obvs could now and he is happy about it and he loves her very much, you’re dumb if u thin being a prisoner for something like drug addict is something to hide your child from, like no.
Almost started crying when he said "don't pressure her". This guy has a good heart fr. And in my opinion (I don't know him tho) it's not his fault. And I think it's so disgusting to criminalize people for being sick
This hits different having an absent parent and trying to connect as adults. I love my dad now but there were many years I resented him for everything he didn't do in my life.
Did you find him attractive sexually
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Me too
He really hit her with the Master Oogway quote "there are no accidents"😂😂
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Man's honest and wise.
I thought that was nice and very sweet
This series never disappoints me
You can definitely see he learned from his mistakes and he's trying to make things better. She was clearly affected by not only him not being there but by the way her family spoke about him in a negative light. Yeah he fucked up but doesn't mean he didn't love or wanted to get to know her sooner.
Yeah I mean who tells their kid you’re dad chose prison over you that’s fucked up ...who would chose prison...and if he was struggling with addiction that doesn’t mean he chose prison over his family people just Villainize those with addiction, think they should be able to control themselves and think rationally. It took my grandfather his whole life until his 50s to kick his addiction and my parents spoke horribly of him made me scared of him when he hasn’t ever done anything to hurt me or anyone in our family the mans a pacifist ..funnily enough guess who is the one who is still in my & my brothers life.
"since you missed giving me the talk"
"what talk"
"the talk"
"this one 👌🏽👈🏽?"
Awe, she wants to love her father but her mom has tainted that image for her. It'll come, I too have a hard time connecting with my own father so i empathize with her.
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He tainted his own image.
@@cassandrarichardson2467 he said he made a mistake and had an addiction, our parents are human and nobody is perfect but the mother spoke badly on him to her child, which was from her own experience instead of allowing the daughter to form her own opinion about her father! Thats folks problem, you can't put your hurt on your children and make them feel from your experience, two totally different relationships. But you're allowed to see it your way. GOOD DAY. ✌🏾🤷🏽♀️
@Evan Anderson its a process, choose whats best for you for your own peace of mind! Parents mess up and you can either allow her to explain why she chose to lie and move forward or harbor that hurt. Either way you got this. 💪🏽
she didn't say she doesn't love him. she simply said she couldn't say that she loves him. she clearly loves him. just can't bring her self to say it
They are both still adjusting and coping up with their emotion detachment.
4:12 TRUTH! It's a health issue NOT a criminal issue, and people should know that the system failed them because it didn't help them, it punished them for something unjust.
this is what i always say!!! people who take drugs should not be punished!!! addiction needs help not punishment wtf !!!!
The way he said “It was a bold artistic expression tho ! “ so cute !!
You can tell she loves him, in some way at least. She's just too scared to commit to saying it. And that's ok. Love is a vulnerable thing.
He seems sincere and full of words
Nice comeback from dad when she called him weird 😂 I almost cried. Hope they get to bond more. Dad seems to be respectful of the circumstances and was very open. I'm 31 and haven't seen my dad ever. I never got the chance
they actually never answer to each other, they are always talking to the camera and she with "he/she" instead of "you"
That's an interesting point. Perhaps it is a reflection of the mental distance and barriers between them?
Wow
I noticed that too... they still got a ways to go but they're so aware of the other too.
@@suqmaddiqq oo good point
Ye story did
This show is way too obsessed with sex it's uncomfortable.
They bring it up so often even when it's entirety out of place.
true
I agree
It’s made for a certain demographic 18-24! Do you remember being that old?
I disagree, I think this channel is just trying to open up the conversation between parents and their children and just people in general to the topic of sex. It's a hard subject for some and can be a little uncomfortable at times but it's still important.
Usually the reply's are humorous, which they look for to bring in an audience. They ask uncomfortable questions for a comical response, which veiwers at home usually find funny.
Couldn’t help but get emotional watching this one. I feel her pain so much and I see her desperately trying to protect herself with her mask just afraid of so much on the inside, things that no one should be afraid of. There’s nothing more important than a relationship between a parent and their child, especially a father and a daughter. You can tell how beautiful she is inside and out and she just needs to be loved :,( loved this video and love that these topics are getting more recognition that they deserve.
This relationship is incredibly real.
“No cause you’re weird”
“Well I don’t have orange hair”🤣🤣🤣🤣
Im so sorry but am I the only one that finds him VERY attractive.. idk could be my daddy issues speaking
fuck I feel it
No he’s fine as hellllll
I feel you lol. He s really attractive
I agree, intellectually and he is an attractive guy
Agreed, I wanna see what he looked like when she was born because you can tell he was something hot back in his day👀
Okay, this was so sweet. It’s awful that he was unable to fully be in her life while a child but the fact that he is and seems to be trying is amazing. I can completely understand her inability to say “I love you” because it’s most likely to anyone and not just her father. However if he proves to be in her life and proves himself a true father to her over time she will get there, they will get there and she will... all things take time and with time all things are possible. This one was definitely a bit heart shaking! Good episode
Edit: I for real for real think that they should have not done that little side not “challenge” that was too far! Telling her “the real challenge is can you tell him you love him”. It shouldn’t matter and should have been skipped over and not even posted. That is and will be a special moment between them and not the entire world in a UA-cam video. One day with time she will feel and be able to say those words((given all goes well throughout life with them))
I wish I could talk to this girl. Felt this one. Every answer. Every look. Every story. I really felt the dads laugh instead of tears, making the awkward moments lighter. Just lost my dad last year to cancer after a few years of loving him finally, which was the follow up from many years trying to hate him. If anyone is reading this who is struggling, only the love is real. Never the hate. Please realize that before they’re gone. All my love! Such a difficult trauma to live through. 💚
She seems like the sort of person who shows love through action instead of saying it
Def!
@@liastaxx18 if you don’t mind me asking, what’s happened since your video?
@@SquigglyCarton8 I haven't spoken to him since- he went M.I.A per usual🤦🏽♀️😂 the dude is not what he seems trust me lol.
@@liastaxx18 if I’m being honest, you seem like you’re a wonderful person on your own; if people don’t want to stick around it’s their loss. Keep kicking arse bro 😎!
@@SquigglyCarton8 I think I'm pretty rad myself! Thank you! @iamliastaxx
I appreciate how accepting he was of her admitting her hurts and not being able to say she loved him, even though it clearly hurt to hear. He still defended her and said not to pressure her. Clearly now he has the chance hes willing to do anything to show her he cares and didn't mean to hurt her. I hope they can heal and she one day can safely say she loves him.
She's a spitting image of her dad. So cute!
"can you give me an example, so I can have a learning moment" that's deep.
“Did u get it?”
“No cuz your weird”
“Well I don’t have orange hair”
😂😂😂 dead
Her dad looks like he SO wanted to hear her say "I love you"
when she couldn't, idk how he held up strong. he was 🤏 this close to crying, like hes sad for both her and himself.
I wonder how long she's been around her dad for.. she obviously cares about him. When she cried I got the sense of "i wish I could but I can't right now."
Got me like: 🤧😢
I had a good relationship with my dad growing up. He divorced my mom when I was 17 and quickly rushed into a marriage with a woman from his childhood. My dad destroyed our relationship over that woman who came with intentions of ruining our relationship. I Didnt meet her until after they were married.. She had her own kids and wanted my dad to abandon me and my brothers completely. I hardly saw my dad for 8 years. Every time I was with him, his wife and her daughter were near and I could not even talk to my dad. The mother & daughter were always scheming behind my dads back he would work crazy hours as a truck driver making good money and when he was asleep during the day, they would steal money or go on shopping sprees with his card. They got worse and opened credit cards in his name, maxed them out, and now his credit is shot. They divorced last year. My dad was always making excuses to keep her even knowing that she was stealing money. He caught her on the phone with a man saying "I love you, babe" and that was the final straw for him 🙄.
We found out she was always trying to get with other men..flirting with men at work, and had an affair with a married man that had kids. She wanted that man to leave his family for her and he told her he wasnt gonna do that. She married the old man she was talking to after my dad divorced her (she thought he had a bunch of assets thats why she was messing around with him) apparently he doesn't have much and is a cheapskate.
I felt like a stranger when my dad was with that woman. I cried for years when he got with her. I have big trust issues with my dad after all that. My heart has become cold to him. I realized how easily he would chose a woman over his family. He is selfish, and has poor judgment.
Wow this may not mean much coming from a stranger on the internet but I appreciate your openness
@@PandaChef21 Thank you. I like to share. It might help people. Maybe some might relate.
It was traumatic for me. My dad was (and still is) like a superhero, a "jack of all trades" type... I just can't fully respect him.
I grew up as "daddies girl" im the only daughter. my mom never treated me well, so I was really attached to my dad. Had I known at a young age that my dad could betray/hurt me emotionally and become a whole stranger, I probably wouldn't have been as affected as bad. I physically became sick after confronting my dad and his wife in 2012. Depression & severe psoriasis from stress at age 19, and a year or two after I developed severe arthritis, I was around ages 20-21 I was in crippling pain, depressed, lossed appetite & lots of weight.. I had to be put on disability.
A good father is so important to have.
I would hope more people would be mindful about the partners they choose,
mindful about how their actions or choices may affect their kids.
I hope the dads (or parents in general) would teach their kids whatever skills they know.
I hope the kids (whatever age) would be strong enough to move on when parents let them down or abandon them.
@@gangatalishis Thank you for reading! 😊
@Amber OTL thank you for sharing. that sounds so painful and sad... My good wishes to you, and I hope you meet some more truly loyal people in the future
@@amberotl5276 🥺 I straight up cried reading this. Sometimes I am so scared to meet someone and I don’t know how I’m going to marry a man when I have so many fears of how it will end up. I also don’t trust myself to raise children; I don’t want any chance of fucking up their lives as a parent. I’m just not good enough to have close relationships with people, it’s always been this way
I think her crying when she said that she didn’t love him was her saying that she wants to love him, she just doesn’t feel that way yet.
The guy actually seems like a really good person and seems like he's trying to be more involved in her life.
He does love the hell out of her, but you can see he’s letting her make her own decisions and choices. Not pressuring her or asking a million questions.
Respect man. Y’all two have a lot of making up to do but clearly there’s potential here for a solid relationship between y’all. Hope all is well, stay blessed
Or pushing his feelings on her like I love you so you have to love me...really respected that but she might need it if her mom really convinced her his addiction meant he didn’t love her...because that’s Bull.
i pray they’re relationship is healed. my dad got out of prison and was in my life for only 3 years before he passed away. i would do anything to have even a little bit more time with him
I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you are in a good place in your life right now.
Does anyone else feel uncomfortable with the way CUT asks Leah “can you say I love you?” I feel as though she was put on the spot, in a situation she was not comfortable with. I understand the point of the video, which is coming out with your feelings, and some which you may have held back. But that specific question felt as though it was stepping a boundary.
It ain’t that deep chief 😂😂
@@kagani6202 you have your opinions and I have mine
I agree, in my opinion it was inappropriate and rude to ask her to do that. I'm happy her dad asked them to stop pressuring her, he seemed more in tune with her feelings and was really supportive.
Wasn’t nothing wrong with the question it kinda fit in perfectly due to their relationship
Agreed
What a great father, I am proud of them both for reuniting and making special, positive moments together. Everyone deserves love, forgiveness and acceptance.
This man is so funny idk how everyone isn’t on the floor laughing lmao
I have daddy issues too and this is EXACTLY how I act. The awkwardness, not opening up, can’t even say “I love you” either
i feel the pain in his voice and i feel like he’s genuine with his feelings and i think he’s a nice man
This was so raw. For both of them to be so open is such an amazing thing. I’m literally crying I hope they get all the healing they deserve.
Bro that ending broke me in to pieces, you can see how hurt the dad was because she couldnt say she loved him. I just started to cry.
Ending hit kinda. Dad seems really educated and laid back. Sadly he hung around the wrong crowd but you can’t blame him, at least he learned from his past and looks to be doing better now.
She needed a hug when she couldn't say "I love you ". I cried with her and for her in solidarity
You can tell by his expressions how much he cares for her and how hard he is trying to be the dad she needs him to be.
This end was HEAVY
My dad was also in incarcerated for a large majority of my life and was addicted to meth. Over the years his addiction ebbed and flowed. Watching this really affected me emotionally although I’m not 100 percent sure what I am feeling. I think we all want to be loved and some time it’s the most empathetic people who can’t deal with this life who turn to drugs. It’s awful that most of these people end up in the prison system. These are still beautiful, big hearted, smart people with a lot of potential. My dad died and luckily I was able to be there for the last few months of his life. My biggest fear was that he would die alone on skid row. But there is still hope for change for the millions of other people who are affected by addiction, the failures of our incarceration system and mental health care system and just plain broken hearts. I hope this little family gets to heal and my heart goes out to both of them. Stay strong. Don’t attach to emotions. Grow through them. Eat healthy. Nutrition has so much to do with mental health. Just trying to pass on what I have learned. Much love.
I would have modeled it
Yeah that was some poor phrasing of words
lol seriously
I love how he immediately heard it once he said it lol 😂
can we get a video of him explaining his issues with the justice system and addiction? because im so here for it
actually her father is so adorable, we all can see how deep he loves her
" cause you are weird "
" well , i don't have orange hair "
Hahahaha😂
this was an amazing experience to watch. a dismissive avoidant woman, her acknowledging her relationship issues as an adult (with vulnerability), and seeing the pain, the origins of the pain. all of her previous relationships should see this video and know how challenging it was, and I applaud her for having the courage to really delve deep into her own feelings
woww ''i think the mistake was thinking we could use a child to find love''.. i thought of the same thing
Bro, I love them, she carries a lot of pain and I feel for her. Her dad adores her which was a big old spoonful of wholesome for me
She loves him.... She definitely does love the hell out of her dad.... She's just scared and needs time.... He wasn't there for soo much, they need time....