I moved here 11 years ago from the Caribbean (Aruba). And I think I was brought up to believe that the Dutch were going to be extremely cold. In my first year I got hit by a motorcycle while I was on my bike making a left turn, the motorbike sped up at the crossing and I ended up on the floor and my bikewheel got busted. A bunch of people came to the rescue, I was not hurt but a bit in shock. This was also a very warm welcome to me back then and since then I don't believe the Dutch are cold. During the pandemic I also fell off my bike while biking on ice in the winter, I had no idea it got so slippery since I didn't grow up with winter/snow, I slid on the ice and ended up on the floor, again, not hurt but the Dutch people ran to me to help me get up. This was also very touching to me bc it was during the pandemic when everyone was afraid of getting close to anyone, so yep, I can relate!
@@Lilygirl283 the directness is something that wasn't shocking to me, caribbean people are very direct as well. I think what people mean with cold is that in comparison people here are less in your personal space. In my other cultures we hug way more.
I just ❤to listen to you. I was born in the Netherlands in 1944, moved to Canada but did like living in the Netherlands it’s very cozy there we don’t have that here. Keep up with the good work girl. I can tell you enjoy living there. Like to see your next video. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
What an excellent video once again. I think #9 is a sum of all the previous points but you will make Dutch blush a bit. We don't see it as kindness in my opinion but as a part of life where we help and push each other forward to reach a goal or manage a situation asap and as well as possible and don't segregate society based on education, income, ethnicity, religion. For Dutch, it is just part of life, although, of course, there is always exceptions. But an exception it is. #10 surprised me and I love how clear you express that point and it opened my eyes a bit as well. It also made me realize that where I live now, all 10 points do not apply here and it is about time I move back home...
As a Dutch myself, I think the fact that we are more willing to help or intervene, isn't necessarily because we are kinder than people from other countries, at least not in sentiment. I think our directness or bluntness is a bigger factor. People from other countries seem to often have a bit more of a "I'll mind my own business" mentality, a kind of embarrassment or hesitation to intervene in other people's lives, which in my opinion seems to create a higher threshold for when people interact with strangers. For them the "mind your own business" might be a sign of respect, but the Dutch generally are more blunt and practical. So I think we have less hesitation intervening into a strangers life...
@@josphineogugua Brabants kwartiertje wordt het hier genoemd. Life’s a bit more relaxed here in the southeast (Brabant, Limburg, south of Gelderland) of the Netherlands.
if i want to live in a nice society, i have to be nice in the first place, then it comes back automatically. ofcourse nice have different meanings for different people. really wellthought out points you make, but on the time aspect, i wish we were a lil bit less strict, depending on circumstances of course.
Hi Josephine. Thanks for making these nice videos. In this one... I cannot stop looking at your beautiful shirt. Those colors are amazing!! Were did you get it? It's a musthave for me 💕🙏💕
my old friends laughed at me when i tolld them that every week by wednesday.... my weekend is set & booked😂 if u did not confirm anything eith me by wednesday, u wont find me in th wknd😆😆
@Josephine, this is the first time I'm commenting despite being a subscriber and regularly watching your videos. I'm Nigerian by birth and heritage, but one that has been raised and has lived in places other than Nigeria since early childhood, and hence for most of my life. As much as I agree with all your points regarding Dutchies, having had first-hand experience with them, growing up til now, as well as having a growing knowledge of their history, culture, mannerisms, etc. I disagree that Nigerians lack these habits as I myselt possess all thses habits and more. I was raised by Nigerian parents (from different ethnicities) to be all these and more. We know how to and actively do things for ourselves, I mean I wouldn't rely on a person to peal my black-eye beans that I would use to make moin-moin for myself---I learned from my Nigerian neighbours who recently moved to the UK where I'm currently based that this is often practiced back home, I'm not judging this practice as I understand that those that do the peeling or whatever are paid for the service as they should. I did not grow up with lots of Nigerians around me, in fact for many years my sister and I were the only Nigerian students at our school. It wasn't really an issue as most people can't guess out nationality...even Nigerians who are often surprised that we are Nigerians. I am still learning Nigerian ways and customs. Although I'm grateful to be Nigerian for many reasons (I prefer this nationality to all other African nationalities due to some of their achievements, the positive ones ofcourse, their work ethics and no-nonesense attitude---most other Africans are not as ambitious or outspoken as Nigerians, this has its pros and cons, naturally), I often clash with fellow Nigerians over differences, as my upbringing does not always align with the way many were raised. I find that some of them are too stuck in their ways, in the negative sense. To be honest I keep my distance. Also, I find that despite Nigerians claiming to be religious, especially adamantly professing Christ, they are a very hypocrital set of people who break most of His commandments and are unrepentant about a lot of things. The above said, however, there are many exceptions to this norm. My parents are exceptions! I am an exception. There are many exceptions among the many Nigerians that pack up and leave due to not being able to handle the situation as well as countless others that remain because they believe they can make a positive difference. I don't like when Nigerians underestimate Nigerians as a lot do. It's only when a.Nigerian makes it big that the average Nigerian begins to boast. Nigerians often look down on themselves when a lot of Africans look up to and even envy us. Our problem is that we judge without knowing the root cause of many things.The only difference really between Dutchies and Nigerians is that the Dutch learn good habits and unlearn bad ones faster that most Nigerians do. Having said that though, certain Nigerian ethnicities are more openminded and teachable than others. I do not wish to be tribalisitic, but that's what I've noticed. Nigerians should definitely practice what they preach. All in all, spot on video. The Dutchies are all you've described. I prefer them above ALL Europeans, point blank. Enjoy the Netherlands and maybe we'll meet someday there.
Was surprised by your number 10, for in fact it does explain many of the other 'habits'. The Netherlands once was a Christian nation. Alas, no longer. But there are still very many principles from the Bible found in the culture. To treat everyone alike, is a teaching from the Bible. To work hard, yet not worship money, is a teaching from the Bible. To let everyone know your kindness is a teaching from the Bible. To be true to your word (and thus also punctuality) is a principle of the Bible. Most Dutch people take it for granted and don't realize the roots. Well, there is one thing, which is in the Bible, that the Dutch on average still need to learn better: to be more hospitable. That part was numbed by being poor and living in a colder climate and living in a quite densely populated area. The being poor (hard to believe now, but yes, even but a century ago many people were living in small inadequate housing, some even huts) made them not have much to give out, nor have ample room to take in strangers. The colder climate made sure most of the year people live inside with their own family. And the quite densely populated area made sure guests didn't come from afar or there would be some paid lodging (hotels nowadays) close by. At least most Dutch people got rid of the one cookie rule by now :)
wees jezelf leef naar jou bijbel doe wat je kan maak je niet gek als je iets niet lukt er is altijd iemand die wil helpen dat is wat ik denk in nederland fijne week 🥰🙂😉
I think getting your nails done is nonsense! I grab some nail clippers and a file and I cut and file them into the shape I want. So I think having your nails done is pure (and unnecessary) luxury. If you never work with your hands (in the garden or something like that) and you really want to paint it, then that is also very easy to do yourself. I'm a bit vain, but I think that kind of thing is a waste of money!
Lol. Nonsense? Anyway I understand your point especially after reading beyond the first line. As I said in the video, it is therapeutic for me. It’s just me taking out time to do what I find relaxing.🫠
Not a Christian myself, but accepting and loving everyone regardless, wasn’t that supposed to be the core message of being Christian? I wonder why that part is so lost on a lot of the followers worldwide. For that reason when I hear people say “as a Christian “ I often tend to hear “as a hypocrite “ because most of the time a pretty harsh judgement follows that opening line. Very good to hear our little country is enriching your live in several ways. Dutch like to complain a lot, but it’s not all that bad…..😅
I moved here 11 years ago from the Caribbean (Aruba). And I think I was brought up to believe that the Dutch were going to be extremely cold. In my first year I got hit by a motorcycle while I was on my bike making a left turn, the motorbike sped up at the crossing and I ended up on the floor and my bikewheel got busted. A bunch of people came to the rescue, I was not hurt but a bit in shock. This was also a very warm welcome to me back then and since then I don't believe the Dutch are cold. During the pandemic I also fell off my bike while biking on ice in the winter, I had no idea it got so slippery since I didn't grow up with winter/snow, I slid on the ice and ended up on the floor, again, not hurt but the Dutch people ran to me to help me get up. This was also very touching to me bc it was during the pandemic when everyone was afraid of getting close to anyone, so yep, I can relate!
The Dutch are not cold, but direct, that is the difference, glad you had those good experiences wen people came to your rescue...😊
@@Lilygirl283 the directness is something that wasn't shocking to me, caribbean people are very direct as well. I think what people mean with cold is that in comparison people here are less in your personal space. In my other cultures we hug way more.
I just ❤to listen to you. I was born in the Netherlands in 1944, moved to Canada but did like living in the Netherlands it’s very cozy there we don’t have that here. Keep up with the good work girl.
I can tell you enjoy living there. Like to see your next video. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for your comment. It does mean a lot🫶. Do you get to visit the Netherlands often?
Like your take on the tolerance subject. I've been struggling to put it in words myself, but I think you did a great job of it.
Thank you Josphine.
You’re so welcome. Thanks for watching
What an excellent video once again.
I think #9 is a sum of all the previous points but you will make Dutch blush a bit. We don't see it as kindness in my opinion but as a part of life where we help and push each other forward to reach a goal or manage a situation asap and as well as possible and don't segregate society based on education, income, ethnicity, religion. For Dutch, it is just part of life, although, of course, there is always exceptions. But an exception it is.
#10 surprised me and I love how clear you express that point and it opened my eyes a bit as well. It also made me realize that where I live now, all 10 points do not apply here and it is about time I move back home...
Fijn dat je zoveel nieuwe inzichten hebt gekregen Josphine en dus goed dat je openstaat voor positieve veranderingen!❤️Hil
Bedankt voor uw vriendelijke woorden 🤗
As a Dutch myself, I think the fact that we are more willing to help or intervene, isn't necessarily because we are kinder than people from other countries, at least not in sentiment. I think our directness or bluntness is a bigger factor.
People from other countries seem to often have a bit more of a "I'll mind my own business" mentality, a kind of embarrassment or hesitation to intervene in other people's lives, which in my opinion seems to create a higher threshold for when people interact with strangers.
For them the "mind your own business" might be a sign of respect, but the Dutch generally are more blunt and practical. So I think we have less hesitation intervening into a strangers life...
Don’t worry about punctuality for informal appointments in Brabant or Limburg; they usually will be 15-30 minutes late.
Really? Didn’t know this 🫣
@@josphineogugua Brabants kwartiertje wordt het hier genoemd.
Life’s a bit more relaxed here in the southeast (Brabant, Limburg, south of Gelderland) of the Netherlands.
Great video Josephine.
Wise words spoken.... 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼
if i want to live in a nice society, i have to be nice in the first place, then it comes back automatically. ofcourse nice have different meanings for different people. really wellthought out points you make, but on the time aspect, i wish we were a lil bit less strict, depending on
circumstances of course.
Hi Josephine. Thanks for making these nice videos. In this one... I cannot stop looking at your beautiful shirt. Those colors are amazing!! Were did you get it? It's a musthave for me 💕🙏💕
my old friends laughed at me when i tolld them that every week by wednesday.... my weekend is set & booked😂
if u did not confirm anything eith me by wednesday, u wont find me in th wknd😆😆
@Josephine, this is the first time I'm commenting despite being a subscriber and regularly watching your videos. I'm Nigerian by birth and heritage, but one that has been raised and has lived in places other than Nigeria since early childhood, and hence for most of my life. As much as I agree with all your points regarding Dutchies, having had first-hand experience with them, growing up til now, as well as having a growing knowledge of their history, culture, mannerisms, etc. I disagree that Nigerians lack these habits as I myselt possess all thses habits and more. I was raised by Nigerian parents (from different ethnicities) to be all these and more. We know how to and actively do things for ourselves, I mean I wouldn't rely on a person to peal my black-eye beans that I would use to make moin-moin for myself---I learned from my Nigerian neighbours who recently moved to the UK where I'm currently based that this is often practiced back home, I'm not judging this practice as I understand that those that do the peeling or whatever are paid for the service as they should.
I did not grow up with lots of Nigerians around me, in fact for many years my sister and I were the only Nigerian students at our school. It wasn't really an issue as most people can't guess out nationality...even Nigerians who are often surprised that we are Nigerians. I am still learning Nigerian ways and customs. Although I'm grateful to be Nigerian for many reasons (I prefer this nationality to all other African nationalities due to some of their achievements, the positive ones ofcourse, their work ethics and no-nonesense attitude---most other Africans are not as ambitious or outspoken as Nigerians, this has its pros and cons, naturally), I often clash with fellow Nigerians over differences, as my upbringing does not always align with the way many were raised. I find that some of them are too stuck in their ways, in the negative sense. To be honest I keep my distance. Also, I find that despite Nigerians claiming to be religious, especially adamantly professing Christ, they are a very hypocrital set of people who break most of His commandments and are unrepentant about a lot of things.
The above said, however, there are many exceptions to this norm. My parents are exceptions! I am an exception. There are many exceptions among the many Nigerians that pack up and leave due to not being able to handle the situation as well as countless others that remain because they believe they can make a positive difference. I don't like when Nigerians underestimate Nigerians as a lot do. It's only when a.Nigerian makes it big that the average Nigerian begins to boast. Nigerians often look down on themselves when a lot of Africans look up to and even envy us. Our problem is that we judge without knowing the root cause of many things.The only difference really between Dutchies and Nigerians is that the Dutch learn good habits and unlearn bad ones faster that most Nigerians do. Having said that though, certain Nigerian ethnicities are more openminded and teachable than others. I do not wish to be tribalisitic, but that's what I've noticed. Nigerians should definitely practice what they preach. All in all, spot on video. The Dutchies are all you've described. I prefer them above ALL Europeans, point blank. Enjoy the Netherlands and maybe we'll meet someday there.
i was in Zurich for 3 months when I was in my early 30s. I felt absolutely invisible. Weirdest experience ever.
Was surprised by your number 10, for in fact it does explain many of the other 'habits'. The Netherlands once was a Christian nation. Alas, no longer. But there are still very many principles from the Bible found in the culture. To treat everyone alike, is a teaching from the Bible. To work hard, yet not worship money, is a teaching from the Bible. To let everyone know your kindness is a teaching from the Bible. To be true to your word (and thus also punctuality) is a principle of the Bible. Most Dutch people take it for granted and don't realize the roots.
Well, there is one thing, which is in the Bible, that the Dutch on average still need to learn better: to be more hospitable. That part was numbed by being poor and living in a colder climate and living in a quite densely populated area. The being poor (hard to believe now, but yes, even but a century ago many people were living in small inadequate housing, some even huts) made them not have much to give out, nor have ample room to take in strangers. The colder climate made sure most of the year people live inside with their own family. And the quite densely populated area made sure guests didn't come from afar or there would be some paid lodging (hotels nowadays) close by.
At least most Dutch people got rid of the one cookie rule by now :)
wees jezelf leef naar jou bijbel doe wat je kan maak je niet gek als je iets niet lukt er is altijd iemand die wil helpen dat is wat ik denk in nederland fijne week 🥰🙂😉
Well i never undertand why in some other cultures people dont even want to walk or go on bicycle i would make me really frustrated to be so lazy
Hi have you ever been in Israel
I think getting your nails done is nonsense! I grab some nail clippers and a file and I cut and file them into the shape I want. So I think having your nails done is pure (and unnecessary) luxury. If you never work with your hands (in the garden or something like that) and you really want to paint it, then that is also very easy to do yourself. I'm a bit vain, but I think that kind of thing is a waste of money!
Lol. Nonsense?
Anyway I understand your point especially after reading beyond the first line. As I said in the video, it is therapeutic for me. It’s just me taking out time to do what I find relaxing.🫠
@@josphineogugua just do it how you like to do it, some dutch are ons bent zuinig.
Not a Christian myself, but accepting and loving everyone regardless, wasn’t that supposed to be the core message of being Christian? I wonder why that part is so lost on a lot of the followers worldwide. For that reason when I hear people say “as a Christian “ I often tend to hear “as a hypocrite “ because most of the time a pretty harsh judgement follows that opening line. Very good to hear our little country is enriching your live in several ways. Dutch like to complain a lot, but it’s not all that bad…..😅
Point of correction formal or informal Nigerian don't attend or arrive 3 to 4 hears ahead of time to functions pls
I’m Nigerian and I have in the past. It is a very very common practice to do so and you would know if you were Nigerian. So please bye✌🏾