Year 1 of Marriage... “Ready to Love, but Not Ready to Lead” | Part 2

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  • @krissygirl2609
    @krissygirl2609 3 місяці тому +148

    i feel like josh craves his own identity outside of the relationship.
    and with him having mental health challenges, he would benefit from structure, routine and consistency. its completely normal and expected for a man to want his own.
    hopefully he can find the courage to pursue it ❤

    • @jadasjourney1433
      @jadasjourney1433 3 місяці тому +8

      This!! 🥹

    • @marianb2530
      @marianb2530 2 місяці тому +1

      I notice the same thing in another couple I watch on yt, Gabebabetv, with the husband wanting to contribute monetarily (spelling), or have his own identity, within the youtube realm. Because both women, Gabe and Isi, started their channel on their own. Just my thoughts...

    • @laceyveal8650
      @laceyveal8650 10 днів тому +1

      I 100% agree with this. If you listen deeper to what their saying and what is emphasized, this is so obvious. I do wish them the best, and he deserves to have his own identity, space, and ability to navigate his mental health in ways that are separate and apart from Isi...AND he can support her in healthy ways.

  • @damyabrown22
    @damyabrown22 3 місяці тому +65

    “Who’s gonna follow someone who doesn’t follow through” Josh is preachinggggg

  • @LaLa-gk6rd
    @LaLa-gk6rd 3 місяці тому +199

    The level of introspection demonstrated by Josh is admirable. I appreciate that you guys always allow one another to “own the mic” when necessary. Thank you both for being transparent and gracious with your personal and joint journeys.

  • @anneilia
    @anneilia 3 місяці тому +65

    I understand Josh so much in this. It’s normal as a man to want his own identity and achievements that’s not tied to your partner. Isi is the face of her brand but it’s a team effort. Her achievements are also a part of his effort but to the public it’s only her face that’s seen. So the human in me understands that need for his own “brand” maybe outside this space.

  • @godmomentswithtomi_
    @godmomentswithtomi_ 3 місяці тому +132

    This is so beautiful and I got emotional when Isi was trying to communicate that even if you(Josh) weren’t the leader you thought you were supposed to be ,you were still present in being the leader that God would have had you be in that season.
    I just wanted to encourage you Josh, don’t let the enemy distort the type of value that you bring.
    You still showed up!!!!!! That says a lot and that issss leadership right there. I think Isi was trying to reiterate this because she was a little sad that you couldn’t see that what you were doing was enough and she was grateful,she just wanted you to see it was well,that your provision in a different way was still enough ❤.

    • @Nikki_216
      @Nikki_216 3 місяці тому

      yessss that part made me tear up cuz u could she that she was really trying to show him how MUCH he really helped her and is PART of her success 🧡 you can feel the love through the screeennnn

  • @djaniquemoore
    @djaniquemoore 3 місяці тому +63

    Josh “Ready to love, but not ready to lead” speak volumes!!

  • @caveshaanderson3057
    @caveshaanderson3057 3 місяці тому +79

    As someone who is wrapping up their first year of marriage in 1 week, this is so relatable. Life’s events hit you outta nowhere sometimes and it can be easy to point the finger, get in your feelings, and hold resentment. But being able to fall back into each other and see each person’s positive contribution to the relationship and believing that your partner is doing their best is paramount. Agreeing that the ultimate goal is to remain HAPPILY & HEALTHFULLY married has helped my husband and I continue to work towards that everyday. Congrats to you two and thank you for this HOT conversation. It’s healing for so many! Here’s to year two and beyond!

    • @serenaelijah3490
      @serenaelijah3490 3 місяці тому +3

      Happily and healthfully married. I love that, having long relationships are talked about a lot but emphasizing the quality as the standard, chefs kisses.

  • @BlackPositivityChallenge
    @BlackPositivityChallenge 3 місяці тому +24

    I'd love for Josh to find a MENS CIRCLE💙👔 of other husbands or get a male-mentor because he has such a beautiful/sincere spirit but it can become too much for Isi to have to "figure him out", & "to make him feel confident in his masculine role".
    It will wear and tear on Isi's femininity🌸 and personal progress↗️.
    We have to normalize men doing their work in solitude bc no matter how a woman tries, ultimately the man would have to do daily study of positive masculinity and how relationships work. To learn HE has to study how to be a strong/trusted leader & lover.
    Loving the transparency. Subscribed!!💘💗😊

    • @lifeasjayalex
      @lifeasjayalex 3 місяці тому +2

      Listen. This. I so understand their perspective because I’m assuming every man experiences this. Great advice on finding more men to assist.

    • @BlackPositivityChallenge
      @BlackPositivityChallenge 2 місяці тому +3

      @@lifeasjayalex I'm glad my comment resonated with you.🙂
      It's a lesson that most women learn the hard way: Women CANT fix or heal men, they have to do the work and find other MEN that can guide them.
      The dynamic turns into a mother-son dynamic and the male will lean more and more towards the woman fixing and nurturing his mistakes and she will burn out and become masculine from having to lead & protect their union, protect their mental health and protect/grow finances.

  • @chussaboy6160
    @chussaboy6160 3 місяці тому +31

    27:52 “Me under promising so that my actions as a leader stand out” bro is cookin on 450 degrees. wow. just wow.

  • @lyricallynot
    @lyricallynot 3 місяці тому +27

    I tend to stay away from couple's content but I've been watching your channel on and off again for the past couple of years. The hardships and difficulties you've discussed throughout your relationship, and now your marriage are such a breath of fresh air. And please know I'm not meaning to trivialize them in the slightest by stating that, these are real hardships. It's just that in a sea of couple's content that conflate marital/relationship issues with severe foundational problems such as abuse, infidelity, neglect, disrespect, and god knows what else, it's just very nice to see two people with a healthy and loving foundation navigate marriage together. I love to see the introspection, accountability, care, and trust the two of you exhibit as you tackle the unknown and unexpected elements of life together. While I know in the moment of experiencing these issues, it wasn't easy nor fun, I'm happy to know that content like this exists. Kudos to you both.

  • @neydinehebbert7750
    @neydinehebbert7750 3 місяці тому +28

    The most real and transparent couple on the internet, that's what i love about you'll ❤🙏🏿

  • @ROCKHET
    @ROCKHET 3 місяці тому +29

    Hi Josh and Isi ! I teared up from the vulnerability. our communities truly need leaders like y'all both existing and sharing life perspectives. each one teaches one GOD lives in US ALL

  • @racheln.m6058
    @racheln.m6058 3 місяці тому +20

    Josh feeling not so proud also happened some time back during the UA-cam black event some years back. They mentioned it in a video back then.
    I feel like they're having this issue now coz of sth intrinsic in Josh just as he mentioned. A deep work really needs to be done about this.
    Am so happy to even get this update from you guys.
    Wishing you the very best in your marriage ❤.

  • @sheritamhuff1857
    @sheritamhuff1857 3 місяці тому +3

    What the two of you have is amazing. Some people have been married for years and don't have what the two of you do. You bless me and give me hope that true love is possible. May God continue to bless your marriage.

  • @tk2730
    @tk2730 3 місяці тому +6

    Love y’all! Josh I really feel you would be great a minister and mentor for believers or people seeking God on UA-cam! If you want to start your own thing, I’d really recommend teaching and breaking down the word. Especially for men who need guidance on biblical manhood, and understanding the benefit of having a strong relationship with God!

  • @ariemarie5279
    @ariemarie5279 3 місяці тому +5

    Wow, this is introspective is crazy. I pray God gives me this in-depth perspective for my life and those around me. I’m not married but in some ways this made me a little fearful to get married until I find a partner that is willing to this work with me through and through

  • @neetzo6421
    @neetzo6421 3 місяці тому +4

    Isi what you said about Josh leading y’all spiritually is so true. I’ve been watching you two for years and his spiritual leadership has permeated through the screen. Love you both, thank you for your transparency, and keeping y’all lifted in prayer! 🤎🙏🏾

  • @marcelinefaustin6515
    @marcelinefaustin6515 3 місяці тому +9

    When marriage becomes ministry!

  • @adepa_00
    @adepa_00 3 місяці тому +10

    "I was ready to love, but not ready to lead."
    That sentence struck with me. Especially coming from a man. It makes me realise that some men are not able to distinguish the two. Thinking of my own experience, a father who was present but absent because he simply did not know what it means to lead a family. Probably because he did not know how does even leadership look like, removing the society type of leadership, removing ego as it goes beyond that.
    I appreciate Josh expressing this and I greatly appreciate the two of your being so vulnerable with us. Some of us are not able to give an explanation to certain life situations and behaviours we have experienced. This definitely shed a light for me. Thank you.❤

  • @anotherwarren7994
    @anotherwarren7994 3 місяці тому +4

    This is beautiful and super powerful. Many men will insist on leading when they're not ready. To recognize and admit that you were not ready, is truly a marriage sustaining gift, Josh. In doing so, you actually provide the sacrifice of which you spoke. May this union thrive throughout many more years!

  • @lawrenceyoung1429
    @lawrenceyoung1429 3 місяці тому +8

    Myself being a single man who enjoys my space and solitude. Not being a “relationship type” of person, yall make me hopeful to someday have a union with someone. I can’t wait to have that feeling of love like y’all display.

  • @victoriawarren6197
    @victoriawarren6197 3 місяці тому +6

    I did not want this to end! So insightful and I am not even married!

  • @InspiredAlways11
    @InspiredAlways11 3 місяці тому +5

    I love how Isi gave Josh his flowers, because he truly deserves them. From a viewer’s perspective, he has been so present and involved. I started watching Isi for her hair content, and then guy talks, beaute and beau, qualitty conversations, eat & chills, vlogs and the years of our relationship…the list goes on. Josh, you have added so much value and had such a great impact, both in front of the camera and behind the scenes. In short, we are proud of YOU and ISI! I understand if you want to do something else, but I just wanted to let you know that you’re appreciated, as Isi mentioned.
    Side note: This video was great, as you touched on some great themes / topics i.e., sacrificial love, servant-leadership etc.
    Congrats on everything! 🥂✨
    From,
    An OG viewer (UK)

  • @sweetyellable
    @sweetyellable 3 місяці тому +18

    You’re going to use every experience you had for your ministry. I thank GOD, for you both. He’s preparing you for the doors are about to start opening for you.

  • @bnovick3194
    @bnovick3194 3 місяці тому +14

    I don’t know what to say or where to start because I am in awe! I just love the love you guys have and the respect you guys have for each other.
    I have watched you guys from the beginning-you guys have just evolved into more beautiful people every year!
    I love the wisdom is the video, the VULNERABILITY, the fucking realness, the heart, the humility:the sharing of mistakes in one self and as a couple, the forgiveness for one another, the kindness, compassion, the self-grace and grace for one another, the sheer unwavering LOVE! This is what love is about, this what human experience is about, making mistakes and rising as greater, better, stronger and emulating the light we were created by.
    You guys are amazing! Thank you for being so generous, brave and humble to get online and share, I am grateful for this deed because I have learned so much from you guys!
    Peace and light, always 🤍

  • @odetochef
    @odetochef 3 місяці тому +3

    Praying Josh finds his footing. Congratulations on year one of marriage.

  • @Sagieeee
    @Sagieeee 3 місяці тому +8

    Lord, This episode had me fighting tears 😭😭😭
    Josh, the devil is a liar. His whispers are a lie. I’m glad that Isi was able to reemphasize how important you are to her success. Y’all are one flesh.
    I also pray that if the roles were ever reversed in the future, and that that you (Josh) are on the mountain tops, that you will be able to look back at this moment and Isi will also support you (as I’m 110% sure she will).
    That’s for sharing some deep, beautiful and challenging parts of year 1 of marriage with us.

  • @Crynki09
    @Crynki09 3 місяці тому +19

    I was so happy to get this notification 😭

  • @ItsPersonalwithAshleyElle
    @ItsPersonalwithAshleyElle 3 місяці тому +5

    Naaah not me boohoo crying!!!! This part 2 hit me personally and I'm not even married

  • @patriciabradford1304
    @patriciabradford1304 3 місяці тому +11

    This transparency is mind-blowing!!! So grateful God has kept ya to share this testimony with us.

  • @mthom1106
    @mthom1106 3 місяці тому +2

    The level of transparency you guys share is everything!!! I appreciate yall so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @QueenZsWorld
    @QueenZsWorld 3 місяці тому +13

    Thanks for sharing, for your honesty, and for covering each other while you share. Isi, I love how you affirmed Josh even as he had to humble himself and publicly admit to getting things wrong. And Josh, I love how you said how proud you are of Isi for her accomplishments at that time.
    I've noticed, there's SOOOO much content for women on how to be a wife, how to submit in a healthy marriage, how to be a better wife (and not a second mother) to your husband, etc. but no content for men on what leadership is vs isn't, how to lead without overpowering, how to be a great husband etc. So a lot of men, in year 1, end up turning into a whole different person than the man someone was dating because they're trying to fit a role that they don't have understanding of... plus the pressure of getting everything right because now two people are involved (vs making mistakes on your own that only really affect you).
    I appreciate everyone who's vulnerable and brave enough to share their stories on what they learned in marriage. I'm not married yet but it's really giving me a lot of heads up ahead of time. As I'm dating, I've been asking men about what roles they'd take in marriage and challenging some of their thoughts (in a kind way... if you know me, I love deep convos so I always keep it hypothetical so no one feels personally attacked) that may not make sense ... ie wanting a college educated wife but not wanting a wife who works outside the home... in the field that she spent years studying for... at university / college.
    Obviously everyone's journey is different. But it's worth thinking about and affirming that their are many ways to lead. Providing doesn't always have to equal breadwinner; it could be creative director, or it could mean taking care of the kids so mommy can work on her things distraction-free, or it could be whatever. I'm going to start talking to the guys I date about this too, and just bringing up in convo that providing is multidimentional.
    I wish there was more mentorship between healthily married men and young men preparing for marriage. I empathize with y'all, because you're really starting from scratch. And sadly, there's a lot of garbage being fed to men about their role in romantic relationships. Thanks again for putting this out. It's great food for thought. May God continue growing each of you, may you both reflect the character of Christ to each other, and may He be glorified in everything you do moving forward, in Jesus name.

  • @TRJE114
    @TRJE114 3 місяці тому +31

    Respectfully, I think Josh was his best finding value working outside of this venture. Just my humble thoughts.

    • @godmomentswithtomi_
      @godmomentswithtomi_ 3 місяці тому +33

      Tbh, and I mean this respectfully but only Josh can determine that ,He’s the only one that can actually tell cuz we’re still all outsiders looking in.

    • @QueenZsWorld
      @QueenZsWorld 3 місяці тому +14

      ultimately, this is the life they chose to live together. I'm sure they'll both step into their purposes individually and as a couple with time

    • @Nenemarieeee
      @Nenemarieeee 3 місяці тому +18

      Finally someone said it! Josh seemed a lot happier and mentally stable when he worked at the restaurant probably because he was making his own money. Now he suppressing his own identity, purpose & self expression trying to "keep up" with Isi. I think he needs to branch out of the social media entrepreneurship & find his own path to put him back in his masculine energy.

    • @tiffanyjones6582
      @tiffanyjones6582 3 місяці тому +11

      I love how mature this audience is in their response- it shows that we are deeply interested in the very best for the both of them. Nice!

  • @lynnetopara
    @lynnetopara 3 місяці тому +10

    part 2 was very powerful wow

  • @kt5612
    @kt5612 3 місяці тому +1

    I’ve been married almost 14 years and the emotional maturity, self awareness and level of compassion you both showed each other in this video is something my husband and I have only recently been able to do. May God bless both of you and your union. Don’t let go of each and don’t let go of Him. Thank you for sharing and allowing yourselves to be vulnerable with us. Watching this blessed me.

  • @TheKaRenaLee
    @TheKaRenaLee 3 місяці тому +9

    Ooowwweee yall got me over here in tears !!! I know we’ve told you this time and time again Josh but YOU bring so much to this channel and this world !! God is working on , in and through you constantly ! I understand why yall are saying this is so complex because I truly understand what ISI means when she says you have been monumental to where she is right now !! Even at your lowest you gave your best and Isi is such an amazing woman, wife, person, and most importantly child of God for acknowledging that!! Love y’all deep. I know God will continue to cover yall as he also continues to grow yall !!

  • @shuvette1
    @shuvette1 13 днів тому

    Love these videos. I strongly see josh tapping into gifts like literature. I see josh writing stories, books, novels and comics he loves children I can see him creating a legacy and making such a huge impact in the lives of children boys and men. Keep your eyes fixed on God y'all! Ive been a follower since y'alls college years. I never felt heard until josh told his story about being homeless. Josh you don't get it yet, but you soon will! Love y'all!!!

  • @RaleighJaqraine
    @RaleighJaqraine 2 місяці тому

    I'm definitely waiting for the day yall are on the Black Love channel and shows. You've definitely been a great inspiration with your transparency surrounding your journey! I've been watching for a few years and am just not catching up on post marriage. But I say all of this to say, one of your mantra phrases/questions really helped me get out of a situation that was just another reaction of a cycle. "Is this as good as love can get for me?" I think for a lot of people and especially black people, we often don't know just how good love can get for us, and we never want to be seen giving up or leaving someone behind. But it all comes down to the contentment factor and if I'm not content and satisfied in the love im giving or receiving then it's time to step back and step somewhere else. So thank yall for continuously sharing your journey and doing at your own pace in the way that suits y'all's love and relationship. I know that I'm not the only one greatful!

  • @QuilaBee95
    @QuilaBee95 3 місяці тому +7

    No weapon formed against y'all will prosper! I decree and declare, by the power invested in me by Jesus, that you will prosper! You will be able to walk the walk that The Lord has set before you, be blessed with your hearts' desires along the way, and enter the Kingdom of Heaven when it's all said and done. Amen! See y'all in Heaven. 🙌❤❤❤

  • @marianb2530
    @marianb2530 2 місяці тому

    I am glad to hear Isi acknowledge Josh's efforts. He is the "behind the scenes" man...which is the WORK! I hope that Josh can see that and know his worth. TFS. Love the introspection and growth you two!

  • @LiikeAralleyrace
    @LiikeAralleyrace 2 місяці тому

    You guys are such amazing role models for people like me who haven't seen examples of what a healthy relationship looks like

  • @instrinsiclove
    @instrinsiclove 3 місяці тому +7

    I appreciate the intimacy of sharing this. Feeling super close to you all, and rooting for you even more.♥️

  • @nessaearthangel
    @nessaearthangel 3 місяці тому +4

    I’m so glad you’re creating your own rules in your relationship and redefining what certain roles look like based on your current seasons. Regardless, I pray that you both find contentment within your family 🙏🏾

  • @AfrosandHighHeels
    @AfrosandHighHeels 3 місяці тому +1

    Love you guys! Love the transparency Josh. Isi, you are beyond beautiful inside and out! 🥹

  • @iamBrianaMorris
    @iamBrianaMorris 3 місяці тому +1

    Such a great conversation. So honest. So transparent. So integral. So accountable. Such gems that don't often times get discussed in our society today, but you guys are stepping out on faith to discuss. Kudos to you for your vulnerability and bravery. May Gods glory continue to shine upon you as you illuminate our world with radiant love, self awareness and life ownership.

  • @jazmineolaya8875
    @jazmineolaya8875 3 місяці тому +1

    Such a beautiful convo between you all. This is what marriage is about, facing challenges and instead of turning on each other, fighting through them together. It's what a lot of marriages are missing in this time. We as people expect perfection in marriage but we ourselves aren't perfect, which is SO laughable because WHAAAT!? In marriage wives have to learn to submit to their husband and husband's have to learn to love their wife as Christ loves the church. Thank you all for sharing your testimony 💞

  • @ayannanzinga
    @ayannanzinga 3 місяці тому +1

    I understand these dynamics so deeply. And i think it’s more common than we realize. My partner and I have navigated similar thoughts, emotions and dynamics. And it’s so refreshing to grow together through those ebbs and flows as a team. ❤

  • @EileenHer
    @EileenHer 2 місяці тому +7

    Josh- You don’t have to be a leader. Isi needs a partner. You guys grew together and that’s why you have that foundation. I hope you remember to let leadership go, especially in the patriarchal light. You are human and you are valuable to Isi outside of just being a man.

  • @MissG40
    @MissG40 3 місяці тому +1

    Love / miss you guys.. you guys are one of the realest couples I know and / or follow. You guys always keep it 💯 . There are times I have say "wow so true " and it puts me back in check .

  • @adah555
    @adah555 3 місяці тому +1

    God’s will over this relationship has been so beautiful to watch unfold over the years. God is constantly using Josh (watch year 4). There is so much evidence of God’s hand in his life. It’s incredibly beautiful to watch him lift up Isi and in turn it makes him even stronger to rise and grow as a man and a husband. Wow, just wow!❤️

  • @cindyr1883
    @cindyr1883 3 місяці тому +2

    Thank you guys for this. I’ve been watching you guys for years and I always admired that you guys truly do fight for love!! I’m single but I do aspire to marry someone eventually and I feel like learning from you guys’ journey is one way to prepare to eventually become a wife. I too am a victim of accepting the world’s view of what being a provider is especially like Isi, I grew up with a single mother who always called the shots. With time I’ve realized it’s not just financial! It’s by example of every aspect in life

  • @classycase90
    @classycase90 3 місяці тому +2

    I LOVE THIS! And I thank you two for being vulnerable enough to let us in. And giving us insight of you guys first year of marriage. Although I'm not married yet, it is very inspiring to hear how you two follow God and apply his word to your individual lives and marriage. Keep being amazing. 💕

  • @Bribribri724
    @Bribribri724 3 місяці тому +4

    This one got me real emotional, love y’all both!❤❤❤

  • @mixxedclipz
    @mixxedclipz 3 місяці тому

    Yall are such a beautiful couple and your vulnerability is so precious. Thanks for always sharing your journey with us!

  • @drawmuhfree
    @drawmuhfree 3 місяці тому +1

    The “I need to receive so I can give”, mindset blew my mind because how dare I not be generous?! If I believe all my needs are already handled by my FATHER then I am focused on the wrong thing! The blessing of oil stop flowing when the widow stop bringing vessels to fill!!!(2Kings 4:1-5) Thank you both for sharing your story and being transparent

  • @trinandrealewis001
    @trinandrealewis001 3 місяці тому +1

    16:08 You've seen it before. I saw one of your videos.Where you talked about him experiencing difficulties when you were back in college. You were there for him then. Get some more counseling. 🎉 So proud of both of you.

  • @TheGeorgie94
    @TheGeorgie94 3 місяці тому +1

    The way this video was so beautifully done. You both communicate so openly and with such vulnerability, its awe-inspiring. Stay encouraged Josh, stay rooted in the truth and the lies won't stand a chance. Continue to be beautifully in love 😊

  • @ashleya2178
    @ashleya2178 3 місяці тому +3

    I love these conversations. Thank you for sharing

  • @debbieonzere
    @debbieonzere 3 місяці тому +1

    I am so encouraged by your leaning into scripture especially in the trials and sufferings of life! May the Lord continue to encourage you both in this union of marriage that ultimately represents the love of his bride, the Church and sacrifice he made for her on the Cross.

  • @queennyla1
    @queennyla1 3 місяці тому +3

    The love is so deep and authentic. Whew! The blessons are shining through y’all. Thanks for letting us learn from you guys. What a triumph!

  • @whereis333
    @whereis333 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for letting us into this healthy conversation of navigating not only marriage but life. Josh your wisdom that you’ve gained in your journey of kingdom husbandship is so warming and hopeful to witness. Please consider developing a course, a book, something to help more men develop these perspectives and lessons of Christ leading and loving the church in how it should be reflected in men/husbands to their women/wives and household. Isi thank you for helping show how a woman/wife can healthily support our men during their journeys of kingdomship. Y’all are really providing Quality content and I greatly appreciate how God is using y’all to help generations!❤

  • @naomilangford8259
    @naomilangford8259 23 дні тому

    Thank you for the healthy perspectives

  • @chloelof
    @chloelof 3 місяці тому +2

    When Josh said that his perspective was completely opposite from the Word of God, I heard that SO LOUD! Because how many times does the world and its cultures, and trends and ideas influence our thoughts for the worst ? Hence renewal of the mind being so important, so that real transformation in our lives can happen. Trials and tribulations are hard, but can really show Gods kindness and mercy for us, giving us the opportunity to try again and assure us that everything is going to be alright! I truly love this video and love you guys. May God continue to bless abundantly

  • @moniquemishelle
    @moniquemishelle 3 місяці тому +1

    You two are such a beautiful couple, and this isn't just based on looks, although that is obvious. You're a testament to the saying "Age ain't nothing but a number." The wisdom, transparency, emotional intelligence, compassion, grace, respect, etc. are some of the great qualities you two possess. Some married people older than you or who have been married longer struggle to communicate the way you do. I've been married for 10 years, and I still have problems resolving conflicts from time to time. It is obvious God is present in your lives. I have no doubt you two will grow old and gray together. I don't idolize celebrity couples because I feel a lot of them are for show. Instead, I root for people like you. Real people who put in the work and are open when you are facing trials and tribulations. God is doing something amazing in both of you, and I see great things for you. Keep showing the world that real love exists.

  • @katrinahicks7432
    @katrinahicks7432 3 місяці тому +1

    I appreciate you sharing and hope u share more. All of this resonates with me. Here’s what I’ll say… ISI is a boss in her own right and she will be fine. She does need a lot of emotional and mental support- I know cause my bday is September too.
    BUT, Josh you are a powerhouse and magnetic all by yourself. I’d watch videos w just you in them if you posted your workouts, morning routines, what you’re reading, doing mental wellness activities, like these are things that are naturally you but you excel at. Continue to get in your word and God will start to order your footsteps. There’s something specifically he’s gifted you w and a purpose he wants you to fulfill. Yal are two powerhouses coming together. Own what you bring and how you lead! Please share more!

  • @QueenRo
    @QueenRo 3 місяці тому +1

    Loving the transparency! Yes to the story timeeee

    • @QueenRo
      @QueenRo 3 місяці тому

      Mannn I’m finna cry with y’all 😢

  • @Daraax
    @Daraax 3 місяці тому

    Josh you had me sooo emotional man this was suchhh a great conversation. May God continue to have you both thrive in your marriage. I also loved the examples Isi gave as a provider too it's not just money.

  • @NoiseOfSea
    @NoiseOfSea 3 місяці тому +1

    This video really spoke to me in terms of fighting for love. This makes me want to work even harder in my relationship. Great video ! For people like me that can’t afford Patreon I am grateful that you are posting this here !

  • @nessaearthangel
    @nessaearthangel 3 місяці тому +2

    The vulnerability in this video is commendable. Thank you Josh and Isi, keep the faith and the love. May God bless your union.

  • @merillyouassenan8932
    @merillyouassenan8932 3 місяці тому

    I have no other words but to give more blessings to your marriage and send positive vibes your way. You guys are the big brothers I look up to, since 2017 I have been following your journey, and now helping me get in my spiritual bag, which I started with the daily devotional. Thank you so much guys, I love you ❤️

  • @miaofthekingdom
    @miaofthekingdom 3 місяці тому +2

    This was so necessary. Thank y'all for sharing your stories and testimonies. The world needs this. The world needs you two individually and as one. Keep working and allowing God to fight for your marriage. This was beautiful ❤

  • @BreBoogz_wentoff_
    @BreBoogz_wentoff_ 3 місяці тому

    Girllll I’m shedding tears of gratitude with you in this videooooo omg 🥹

  • @zaiparker5199
    @zaiparker5199 3 місяці тому

    14:00-17:00 reminds me of 1 Peter 3:1-4 AMP
    I’ve watched yall since 2019? It’s such a blessing to see the journey that the Lord has encouraged yall to film for all of us to watch and learn from your testimony. May the Lord bless you and keep you and make His face shine upon you. ❤ thank you so much for your ‘Yes’.

  • @rogeyyeast1500
    @rogeyyeast1500 3 місяці тому +4

    My partner is the same way Isi! There for me since literally day 1 & has definitely in every aspect & mostly spiritually. I got emotional 🤣

  • @Nikki_216
    @Nikki_216 3 місяці тому

    As someone who works in a hospital, part of the diagnosis of ADHD is the impulsiveness. Just hearing the intro I knew what was coming Josh and my heart goes out to you because it's sad seeing people make life-changing decisions because they were influenced and make an impulsive decision and its hard for them to resist because they don't even see the full picture. Glad u guys made it through that as a married couple. S/o to Isi for being understanding💙

  • @alexisdoss4765
    @alexisdoss4765 3 місяці тому

    I just love the transparency and self awareness❤. I really love how y’all can sit down and reflect on it in a mature way as well! A lot of married couples say marriage is hard or challenging but never say what about it can be a challenge. They never really give much insight. Thank y’all so much for this ❤

  • @theresalucas9477
    @theresalucas9477 3 місяці тому

    Josh you are a pivotal piece of your relationship. A leader can just be a strong steady presence. You’re right consistency is important, but don’t beat yourself up brother 😊 you are human. Continuing to be that solid, honest place for your wife to land means a lot . 🙌

  • @SandraWAsumu
    @SandraWAsumu 3 місяці тому

    Josh, Isi... Isi, Josh... I just want thank you THANK YOU. for various reasons. The main one being the fact that you are still trying to communicate this beautiful experience of being in a partnership as young people but as black young people. I conplain a lot about living in a time (and I am about your age) when everything seems so fake, produced, manufactured... but then I remember people like you guys exist. We don't know each other but I appreciate your effort in being honest, faithful, caring, understanding.
    Granted, we're all human and it gets difficult at times. It really does. However, you have made an important decision long time ago: you were going to live your lives according to your beliefs, to yoir christian beliefs. And that is monumental.
    Anyway, I'm a black woman born and raised in Spain and I keep appreciating the fact that I have the key to different languages and that led me to you and other people that I value very much in this space from a long time ago.
    I disconnected for personal reasons for a couple of years from your channel but I was so happy to find out that you eventually got married and not only that, but you keep redefining and redescovering what that means and you share it with us. It is so precious and for the last time I want to thank you for doing so.
    Much love and respect ❤❤❤❤

  • @butyoucancallmekayla
    @butyoucancallmekayla 3 місяці тому

    Definitely need that storytime

  • @mariacrudup2501
    @mariacrudup2501 3 місяці тому +1

    I just love the way you and Josh express your appreciation and thankfulness for each other. I just love how you guys are transparent with the mistakes you have made but are still working together to make your marriage work. So so proud of you both. Always putting God first works every time. God bless you guys.

  • @damyabrown22
    @damyabrown22 3 місяці тому

    I always admire y’all’s transparency and ability to learn and share. Missed yall on the tube!! People need to see healthy black relationships!

  • @onyinyeozoemena385
    @onyinyeozoemena385 3 місяці тому +1

    I cannot thank you two enough for continuously sharing your experience with us. The timing of this video for me is ridiculously impeccable. I've recently through deep thinking stemmed from multiple observations concluded that provision from men is multidimensional, not just financially as is traditionally taught and emphasized. As a man can you provide spiritually? Emotionally? Physically? Etc.? This realization has led to to believe and stand on business, TEN TOES DOWN on what my standards would look like if i consider dating. The provision God has provided healthy masculine men with to lead is what enables the women to relax in their femininity. Anything else is counterfeit.
    Y'all had me tearing up so bad! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
    I love you guys sooo much! Thank you and i can't wait for part 3 coming up on my brother's birthday!❤❤❤🎉

  • @jamaicanbeauty1588
    @jamaicanbeauty1588 3 місяці тому

    This was a very good conversation for all of us.... no matter the time frame of your relationship. Gems 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @WarmJustLove
    @WarmJustLove 3 місяці тому +2

    God bless ya! I know this marriage will flourish. Because the foundational balance you guys cultivated ( the overall transparency plus the authenticity in this video is inspiring and I really appreciate Josh's perspective as a man it reflects a key aspect of his vulnerability which in turn makes him a better leader/provider & protector of himself and his beautiful wife ) these types of videos are needed especially for introspection purposes for other husbands to internalize , so thank you its pretty cool to see. I think that this was a great blessoning as ya would say! ( Josh its in you not on you!... laugh at the devil )

  • @Alex-if8ux
    @Alex-if8ux 3 місяці тому +1

    Yesss please can we get the story time on the first fight
    Love you guys and your transparency 🙏🏽 😭

  • @downwiththeclique7239
    @downwiththeclique7239 3 місяці тому +13

    I will second Josh in not abruptly stopping your medication. You are supposed to taper off especially when you’re on a high dose or have been taking it for a while. I was put on Risperidone, hated how it made me feel, and made a quiet, independent decision to discontinue it. I was incredibly suicidal coming off the meds and did not tell anyone. In hindsight it was a very heavy time and very risky: I should’ve consulted with my doctor. Thankfully, I got over my depression and suicidal thoughts with time and without being on medication, but it was still very dangerous. I learned later that suicidal ideations won’t get you committed but having a plan will. I definitely had a plan, and they would’ve locked my ass up.

    • @niyahhbaby6616
      @niyahhbaby6616 3 місяці тому +1

      Thank you for sharing this! I had no idea about that type of thing

  • @deebwoy9291
    @deebwoy9291 3 місяці тому

    Hey Josh & Isi,
    Looking Well... ❣❣
    I find it very interesting.... that when some people get married they feel the need to change... when the path they were on was the foundation that lead to them getting married!
    Stay Blessed Beautiful People!🙏🙏

  • @brianabrown7644
    @brianabrown7644 3 місяці тому +1

    Not finished with video yet, but I just wanted to say I love you guys and your relationship. Especially being someone who hasn’t been in a relationship yet, I feel as though I’m always learning something new that I didn’t know I would need to consider in regards to being apart of a relationship. Seeing your love for each other through the years is so beautiful to experience. I appreciate you both❤

  • @marshae.theteacher
    @marshae.theteacher 3 місяці тому

    Definitely needed to see this as I'm preparing to get married on the 1st🙏🏾

  • @SandraFriththomas
    @SandraFriththomas 2 місяці тому

    This is the year for family add one I am praying

  • @camiAF246
    @camiAF246 3 місяці тому

    I really appreciate these conversations and I look forward to more content on YT now y'all are in a better place. A suggestion ....y'all should look into building a quality team and give Josh the opportunity to create his own lane. Yes he is good at social media and creative outlets but reality is he doesn't love it. He loves you so he shows up, but it's not his baby, or the recognition is not his. I could see him starting a mentorship program, starting an org for young men with creative minds, writing a book, doing short films etc. And another noteworthy thing, is a lot of relationships get hit with that one partner is winning while the other is down bad, but the major key here is that this man likes and loves you, cause I've witnessed men in that position sabotage their partners by leaning into the hater mode. Y'all are blessed to have each other fr

  • @SincerelyYahmina
    @SincerelyYahmina 3 місяці тому +1

    This is so beautiful to hear from watching all the years to the first year of marriage you guys just prove how everything isn’t sunshine and rainbows all the time and I really needed to understand that knowing how I am in relationships and how I allow myself to shut down and walk away rather than acknowledging things are gonna be hard and working on it is what makes you stronger so Thankyou

  • @Babygirl_inChrist
    @Babygirl_inChrist 3 місяці тому

    I'm over here like 😁😭😁😭😁😭😁😭😁😭. Love you both! It's so amazing to see what God has and is doing through your marriage! So encouraging and so needed! God bless you both ❤️

  • @trishrutendoganda8714
    @trishrutendoganda8714 3 місяці тому

    Yes we want a story time on that incident ❤ thank you for sharing

  • @AngelaElikya
    @AngelaElikya 3 місяці тому

    Thank you Josh and Isi for your testimonies , thank you for being great examples through your errors and achievements to people who desire to be healthy and married . May Jesus be the the Lord over your marriage ❤

  • @ItsEverythingEuodia
    @ItsEverythingEuodia 3 місяці тому +1

    Yeesss we want a storytime please
    Would be appreciated 🌷

  • @sarahmarfo3967
    @sarahmarfo3967 3 місяці тому +3

    Love this, learning for me and my boyfriend ❤

  • @breannelinton2400
    @breannelinton2400 3 місяці тому

    Whew 😮‍💨 the devil works hard and the fact that he attacked yall that way before even being married means this is EXACTLY where yall are supposed to be.
    This is the kind of content the internet needs. Thank you for your honesty, rawness and authenticity! The real ones will keep coming back.
    I’d be super excited to see a video where y’all talk about the vows you guys made and how yall have been walking that out throughout your marriage.

  • @fran9552
    @fran9552 3 місяці тому +3

    I am in my ghetto season but u guys give me hope that if God is in it, things will work out.

  • @saharrahlev
    @saharrahlev 3 місяці тому

    This is beautiful you guys! Thank you for sharing ❤️
    May the Lord continue to guide you.