Rt?! Absolutely can & are bc they KNOW 99% of the time they’ll get away with it! Mostly bc men are too ashamed that they didn’t fight back or couldn’t.
@@karas.6438 just make sure you know how that man got to the situation and again it would come into knowing all sides and not just wanting to believe one side. But I do agree men can be taken advantage of. But it's usually as a child not an adult unless in a sex worker situation.
Women are always seen as victims rather than the perpetrators of criminal acts, which is why women get away with almost everything or get lesser sentence than men who commit the same crime.
For anyone who may not be aware & needs an out…NDAs do NOT cover crimes, so even if you sign an NDA and something illegal goes down, you have the RIGHT to speak out about it!
Cause EVERYONE and EVERYTHING is trying to suppress us and slowly but surely take away and/or control our human rights and our ability to talk about shit on the internet!
Same reason why other slurs and explicit language is censored youtube isn't the government they don't have to protect free speech and can plays these explicit words as banned words. Idk why it's disgusting
Or said. You can’t even say it! Which, I gotta tell ya, was hard all on its own to say out loud. “I was raped. Took me twenty two years to say it! I was seven. So yeah, WE should be allowed to say it! No matter what platform we choose to share our stories! They keep saying it’s a trigger. But I am not responsible for YOUR triggers. You are! Grow up people! Sexual assault is a thing! No matter how you try to silence us!!
My sister was a gRapist. She did it to multiple ppl - but she was prom queen - beauty pageant winner. Beautiful - so no one believed her victims cause why does someone who looks like her need to do this. She was sExuaLly abused by my Mother and Father - we all were - along with physical violence from my Sister cause she was so damaged. Since no one believed the victims - my sister was able to assault multiple ppl through her lifetime. Needless to say - I have not talked to my family in YEARS!!! So sad, I believe you!!!❤ **Edit - to the dunce ppl - of course there were police involved and the law - but since police are so corrupt- kickbacks, money , and families who have friends in high places DO NOT get held to the same standards as others OR see the same “justice” system that others not so “fortunate” who DO NOT have money$$ to make things “go away” experience. I can not wait till they defund this worthless department - cause cops and corrupt ppl need to GTFO!
Nobody will ever truly know the truth even if it’s told to us In detail we’ll never truly know what’s what..! You hang in there.. Jesus has you and me as well as the rest of us! The vail has been lifted and we all are finding out the truth and will have a choice! Just because it’s our family doesn’t mean we have to put up with all that. If people haven’t been through it they just don’t know. No clue how old you are but you’ve got to be about my age or older I’m thinking. The way your taking sounds as if time has gone by and you’ve grown! I barely started talking to the females in my family recently. I just spent 10 years bedridden with summtin called RSDS it felt as of o had no skin and all kinds of other horror! The only people Ive met is my wife that hasn’t had hands put on her as a small child. Everyone in the 80’s and most of the 90’s were touched. Before that I’m thinking it was worse! I believe they tried to get rid of us because we were the worst mistake this country made at the time! We are the product of so called free love and a bunch of drugs.. people don’t believe that a female can do things like this. My sister was right there when things happened to me. I was the one who would fight back. I have some memories still but after ten years in bed going through that it doesn’t seem so bad anymore. It’s over and the people are dead. I’m very aware and so much so that I’m able to teach my kids properly. My wife still had sumtin happen though but not till she was older but still happened! I was beaten down pretty bad as a child by my mother. SHe’s a tiny little thing to. Maybe only 4 10” but to a small child that’s not to small. I truly believe we grow up and do this crap or we absolutely hate it ..! No middle ground! That baby blue and pink with white. That’s the MAPS flag and they are trying to say it’s for trans people. I remember when they brought it out it’s for those child molesters and people aren’t ok with that and they are trying to hide it now saying that’s not what it is. The baby blue is for a baby boy and a soft pink for a baby girl and the white is for the innocence! These people are Fckd in their heads for real! It’s in the open dude. It’s time for people to make a real choice! That’s how we know it’s all real! The apocalypse is real and not exactly a war but the truth coming out and with that war comes.. that’s what’s happening! Everyone with Jesus will suffer as written and Satan rules the word but not very long! We get to go home or come home however you take it I guess! Everyone is getting the truth. All over the world! Some are excepting it and others denying it. It’s going down. Down.. God bless friend and be safe out there. Sorry I started kinda babbling .! I’m proud of you my man. It’s not easy I know. It’s even harder for men to speak out about this crap. I do though. If I don’t how do I expect to ever help! 1 saved can equal 10,000..
@@BadCompany410dude you need some help no shame in it. You shouldnt say that about the flag tho just bc you think it doesnt make it real. I have been SA multiple times but I refuse to allow that to define who I am. You are pointing fingers the wrong way.
@@onlyhereforthecomments6367 not to sure where your coming from. I’m plenty old I’ve had much help. If you had read I had written that after 10 years going through what i did what I went though as a child doesn’t seem as bed but it always will be. Just because you can talk about it doesn’t mean you can’t or haven’t handled it. I also said at the start that nobody will ever know the truth. All side will say what they will be none of us will ever know the truth. You young lady should try to stop being an intellectual and actual ready about what your trying to have some sort of come back with. I’ve been counseling adults as well as children for more year than you e probably been out of grade-school. What I wrote pints at nobody but my own. I was also speaking to one person. You seem as if someone who’s never been through anything like this and if so that’s wonderful! The first thing you did was point the finger at me. I have been on my own two feet for sometime and 5 children one is new and I am 15 years married staring a new business and two weeks ago my wife drove home in a new Range Rover. Help comes from within not for text or UA-cam. I pray you let go and work on yourself and not worry about others. Life is short I promise! 10 years rolling around is now joke. I need no help young lady I’m living life like never before. I pray you do to one day. Maybe you need to get some help? God bless and be safe out there.
I believe the alleged victims. I was r-ped by a female coworker before. We were at her home smoking weed. She started French kissing me. I asked her what she was doing, is she bi? I can’t remember every detail, nor will I get into detail, but she basically had her way with me. I was too high to object. I thought we were just friends (weed buddies), but after this incident, we stopped communicating. Interestingly, she was SA-d by “a family friend” when she was 14, which explains a lot, as victims oftentimes become perpetrators. I think she thought the whole thing was consensual and she was a few years older than me. So yeah, it’s definitely possible for a woman to r-pe another woman.
@@AngelaWalker-uj5ufYou should learn a couple of things of psychology and body movements/gestures, microexpression aswell, especially when related to this topic since there is a variety of coping mechanism/defense mechanism and trauma response, before throwing up "psychotic" on a human being.
Yeah, she's definitely unstable. She's giving off vibes of Glenn Close in the movie "Fatal Attraction". Hide your rabbits everyone! 🐰🍲 That little dance at 3:22 just shows her intentions.
I was false reported, not of sexual assault though. In 2000 I was arrested on xmas eve for exposing myself to 3 underage kids which were the brother and sisters of the girl I was dating. I didn't do it and as they were taking me away and the sheriff seen her crying so stopped to see if she was ok and when she told hin "I just didnt want him to leave me cause I wont ever see him again" the sheriff said he knew she was lying. I was still charged but they let me leave for navy bootcamp on time which was day after xmas. They let my parents go to court for me which is where she recanted her story and admitted that she lied. She was correct about 1 thing though. She never seen me again. I was so fucking confused why the cops were at my door. She almost ruined my life just because she was selfish and didnt want me to leave for the navy which I joined to support the daughter I was soon to be having (she was born june 15 2001 same day I got home from A-school and got to be the first to hold her, she was a c-section baby so that is still so special to me) I will never forgive her for that. That being said I still believe victims unless they are proven to be liars. I still like proof though also.
Wow I’m so sorry that happened to you. You are right that evidence and proof is very helpful, but it’s difficult navigating SA cases when proof is limited and everything is based off versions of events.
@@ComaLies225 I totally agree with you because I do know that evidence sometimes doesnt exist making it harder, but if they have the evidence I think they should expose it. Also yes false accusers deserve to be charged and convicted because it can totally fuck up people's entire lives. That goes for anything really like the countless men a lot being people of color sitting in jail for crimes they did not commit like the innocent man in jail that the real criminal has already confessed but Sara sanders wont let him out or clear his name (i wonder why). Also SA assaulers need to stop getting off lightly like brock turner.
This is exactly what perpetrators do, they pretend that they don't understand that they did something wrong. They make sure you're completely out of it and after they're like "when can I see you again?" It f*cks with your head and that's their strategy. You'll doubt and blame yourself, cause you literally couldn't utter the word NO. And that was their plan all along. Many of us know from experience unfortunately.
The boyfriend of my then-best friend did this to me one night while she was out of town. I was so out of it I barely remembered it. I absolutely remembered waking up the next morning & feeling an all-encompassing dread, though. I just wanted to scrub it from my mind. He called me that day asking exactly that, “when can I see you again?” I told him never again, it was a mistake, pretend it never happened. I felt so ashamed. I fully blamed myself for being a bad friend & bad person. It took me YEARS to realize it was SA, and that he fully took advantage of me. He’d been the guy in his high school that all the girls obsessed over, too. A real catch🙄 It’s so sad that most women have a story like this.
@@missdenisebee I think they intentionally act like it was consensual so we second guess, self hate, or direct all guilt on us. It implies that did what they did because of something we did
I've also been a victim of being blamed for something I didn't do. No one believes a man can be a victim. There's no proof in my case. Allit was was hearsay I was railroaded into taking a plea deal. The justice system is really jacked up. The public embarrassment, lost of funds and peace of mind are all things I've had to take on for the last two+ years.
"Maybe I consented to it" 😢 that's the worse feeling. Trying to justify in your mind what someone did to you. Especially if you were under influence. It makes me so sick to this day when I think about how I confronted my abuser and he said, "you asked me to" umm.. no. I'm pretty sure I would never tell a neighbor to rip the crotch if my pants while I'm too inebriated to stand up.. pretty sure the crying in the middle of it would also negate whatever the hell you think I consented to. Any type of assault is not ok, but when it's a friend or someone you trusted, you gaslight yourself into believe their lies and excuses
Omg, I’m sorry. I’ve had this happen 2x and the 2nd time I question if I consented to it because I tried to make the best of it and agreed to see him a couple of times 🤦🏻♀️ I’ve since learned that quite common. I think because we try to justify it in our minds because who wants to admit someone violated them. For me they were both acquaintances who I did not trust or distrust. The 2nd one went to jail for r*pe of multiple other women (3-4?) and I still wonder. Also, I’m lucky because I forgot almost everything now. Disassociation for the win!
Literally why it was dropped in court for me. Aside from his parents having money. I ASKED HIM ON A DATE TO THE ART MUSEUM WITH MY DAD, BABY SISTER AND I, HE CHOSE TO NOT TAKE ME THERE. I SHOULDNT HAVE WAITED TO GO, I SHOULD HAVE LEFT WITH MY DAD AND SISTER. FUCK THE PEOPLE WHO DO THAT
Just recently I had a situation regarding a guy wanting to have sex. I told him no. At first he lead me to believe it was just hanging g out so I told him I would hang out with him, then as we continued to talk he started talking sexual. I said I'm seeing someone, I'm not into that. So I had went to the room with him and stayed by the door. I then left cuz he was starting to touch me. I told him no its not gonna happen. I feel bad cuz I said we could hang out but not to have sex. He blew up my phone when I left cuz he kept trying. We ended up texting more because he gaslit me for making him come out and being by himself. I went back but ONLY AFTER I made him promise to keep his hands to himself. He promised but he ended up taking advantage of me. I told my friend and she was a typical person "you never should have went there". I said " are you fucking kidding me?!" My person stops automatically whenever I say no to him for anything. No means no regardless I went or not. Doesn't give him the right to do what he did."
when someone you thought was a friend destroys your trust its inexcusable, yet some part of us wants to excuse it or make it make sense. So NOW on top of that trauma we can’t trust OURSELVES? F!K YOU! God that is so beyond evil. It’s a pain so profound it’s unlikely others can even grasp the way it turns your reality upside down and reverberates through everything after. The one silver lining is now, more than ever, victims Are able to speak up( with social media and less stigma surrounding topics that used to be more taboo ) Glad there are guys like Derek who know the importance of holding people accountable. Anyone wrestling with this kind of devastation, you are not alone. please take advantage of a free support group or two, journal and meditate at the very least. It’s not right or fair or easy, but it’s in your power to get help to heal and be back in control. Stay safe and take care.
@@korketamanigault765 people use them for that but they are not legally binding. NDA is supposed to protect private information and personal habits of rich and/or famous.
During one instance of SA, I continued talking to my “friend” afterwards because I didn’t want to believe that the person wanted to harm me. In a later conversation, they said they “couldn’t control” themself around a beautiful woman. It was then I really understood that I was not safe with that person. Denial is a powerful motivator to continue contact.
This. I went through this exact thing. And even convinced myself that maybe my friend was right and it was partially my fault so I did continue to talk to him and I also talked to him after the fact because I didn't want to feel how I was feeling, guilty ( how did I let what happen happen), ashamed, and just down right dirty and mad.
It truly is. I relate. /: You just want to live normally. I wasn’t friends with them anymore, but I saw them at parties and I even apologized to them once because I had friends that would be “rude” to them about the fact that they did what they did. I had literal eye witnesses but was pressured not to come forward and nobody believed it bc I wasn’t conventionally attractive or very popular. I don’t know what it is but the way everyone goes on treating them like they aren’t a monster makes you kinda do the same thing without even meaning to. Just like autopilot or something.
I continued to see my attacker. I thought no way it happened. I was tipsy and we met at church. No way he'd attempt a*al without asking me. No way. But he did.
I was SAed as a young girl and ended up pregnant. It has been the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in this life but the next thing to be the next hardest thing is being victim shamed too by people whom have no idea the horrible things I went through. There needs to be a whole lot more light about this whole issue but also about putting innocent people away. Thank you for sharing this incident. ❤
I'm so sorry to hear that... that must've so damn hard, like I couldn't ever imagine getting SA and then getting pregnant plus shamed, this is like hell. You're so friggen strong I respect 💯
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I can understand because I’ve been a victim of SA several times. I can’t imagine how much harder it is while you’re still a young girl. I can’t imagine becoming pregnant from my r*****t. I’m sending you all the love and support from afar.
I love all the fake poly relationships that always happen to be one man and multiple women. That just called catering to male fantasy, real poly relationships have multiple men and others as well, unless you just so happen to be multiple women and one man, of Course, but not by design
@@shannond1511Your description of a polyamorous relationship is absolutely wrong and shows a lack of knowledge on the topic. Not to mention equating it to a male fantasy shows that you have a prejudice against that way of life. A Poly relationship is not defined by race, creed, ethnicity, age nor gender. It's simply a loving relationship between at least 3 people but can be more. That's all. It's weird that you believe you have some authority or right to judge other's relationships as genuine or fake but I guess this world takes all types.
Can't wait for Swoop to get on this. She has no mercy when it comes to abusers and this chick is a predator. We need to normalize the understanding that women, even attractive women, CAN BE PREDATORS.
@@ChelNoelle she is a UA-camr that does hardcore deep dives exposing UA-camrs for their scams and lies. Her and her team get the hard to find dirt... They go back years on every social media platform of each person involved timelines and everything. They will even get text from anyone that has any proof. I promise you that you will enjoy her content of you like curlyboy chuck
Fawning is attempting to appease or placate an attacker. Freezing is literally not moving, not talking, not responding at all. They aren't the same thing.
@@charlenepahrue945in my experience, I froze and this is kind of true in hindsight but in the moment. It's sorta like you are having a hard time processing what happening and so you freeze physically and mentally.
One of my best friends in the entire world continually pressured me to "experiment." I thought she was just joking bc she had a very... odd sense of humor. It went on for a while and then she kind of stopped (i think she felt myself putting distance between us). She came to sleep over at my house when i was 15yo, nothing unusual. I woke up in the middle of the night and she was... Trying to do **that** to me. And you'd think I'd have freaked out and went off on her and never talked to her again, right? Nope... I'M the one that felt weird about it and just pulled away, went to the bathroom, and then pretended it never happened. Confused, and continued our friendship for many years. Our friendship ended, with her just stopping talking to me for no apparent reason, after she got married. I have since been in therapy and soooo much trauma came up when it came to talking about her. I didn't even realize it was SA back then... I'm 37 so we're talking 22 years ago. But, it was. I hate that it happens to anyone 😓
So sorry you experienced that I have experienced similar situation. My question is what do you do with that new found info? Do you speak out? Do you seek therapy? Or even label the person as a predator?
Cocsa is real. My cousin did the same to me, my sister and his sister for over 10 years. People don't think other children can sexually abuse or assualt other children
I have a similar experience and just like you I was the one to pull away from the situation and pretend it didn't happen and ever since id never be or go alone to her house nor invite her over mine ever unless I know she's not the last to leave I felt so uncomfortable for so many years, she was bi i expressed i am straight but it happened at least 3 times before she stopped and after we went to college it was the perfect excuse to pull away from that friendship and end it cause I was studying abroad, she tried to reach me multiple times and since 1 person only knew of the situation everytime I changed my number shed find me somehow until I told people to not share my number with anyone unless they ask me first.... then I sorts managed to get out of it
I too have a similar experience and when I told my friends years back (who aren't my friends now )...they didn't believe me ..because the one who SA'd me was a girl ....it really messed up with my mind a lot but I cut off contact with her and in a better place now . I'm sorry to hear you had to go through such things .
I am a survivor of S.A. & rape, so I know to well how she felt! You are 100% correct when you say some people,"freeze up" when their scared, I am one of these people🙋♀️ I am also one of those people who tend to "smile" when Im nervous and listen for people that dont have a clue. I have been diagnosed by a psychiatrist!
I disagree with a lot of what this generation is about, but things like this I am actually so proud to see cause in my generation, things like this were just a normal part of growing up. I have been SA'd soooo many times. Some I had even shrugged off bc I assumed it wasn't "that bad." Hearing these stories makes me sad, but also, I feel validated, and for that, I thank the brave young men and women for that 🙏 I am proud of y'all
Salah has disassociated with life a long time ago, she’s needs therapy. Victims sometimes become the victimizer. She has learned how to disassociate to survive and can toggle between victim or victimizer to adapt to any situation for survival. I can only imagine how intense her rationale and behaviors are impacted while under the influence of anything.
Yes!!! All of that!! People don't realize exactly what you happens more often than not - a victim will become the victimizer. When Salah was giving her response, I felt no sincerity or genuineness - just an empty vessel. So yeah, I strongly agree with you that she is detached.
That's what I thought, like wow really. She couldnt just say thank you & ect if she didnt know his name, she literally had to say "black man" just crazy.@@lubabe9969What's more crazy is her profile, she's the same color, so I'm shocked she was so disrespectful!!
She lost me at “to suggest that I’m capable of that”. Ma’am, being a human means you’re capable. And talking about the victims’ follower count and revenue makes you seem like a vindictive, money hungry predator, in my opinion. You could have left that part out. I only know about this Salah person from your videos but she comes off like an over-confident frat boy in her videos. I believe the victims. The fact that she can’t see how these interactions weren’t consensual is mind-blowing.
Nah, some people get very angry If lies are being spread. BC the audacity to suggest that someone would do something they would never. Humans are also capable of eating arse, doesn't mean they do.
@@yagirltones8748I am only going to say this part to say that the other girl has nothing to lose and everything to gain is really ignorant when you come out and admit something like that has happened people treat you differently they talk to you differently they act differently towards you sometimes positive as a supporter or those that will straight up talk s*** to you or do it behind you're back there is a lot that a person can lose by coming forward animating something like that happen especially when it's someone with such a high following that people don't see the negative side of they only see a positive light of which is generally why a lot of people don't come out and say that something has happened to them I'm not saying that I trust the first chick in the video but the text messages clearly do state that she put her parts on her even though she was not giving permission as Petty as it sounds to anybody else permission is permission no means no and if you can't take no as an answer on something that little I'm pretty sure that there's a lot more that has been done when someone said no
If you put your boob on someone, purposefully without consent and the person you did that to is uncomfortable it can be sexual assault, it can be triggering for an already sexual abuse victim and it's no different than touching someone purposefully
The act itself isn’t hand but what it insinuates is a risk of sex and that is what we are all trying to prevent if that’s not their wishes. It’s like what it leads to is what makes it wrong but the act itself is hard to describe to ppl as problematic I notice.
I was SA’d by my kids father after we’d been separated for 18 months. He tried to say it was my fault cause he came and picked me up after my first ever time out at 26 and I was blackout drunk. I mean I spent the entire car ride vomiting. I had vomited all over myself and I went to his parents house to sleep and all I asked was “please help remove this dress” as it was soaked in vomit, he took that as an invitation. I passed out afterwards and don’t remember afterwards but he was dead sober. He knew what he was doing. I woke up naked and could clearly tell something had happened and felt sick then broke down sobbing. We now have no contact at all. I got blamed for the situation. Not him. A man I had trusted and given 6 years of my life and his firstborn child to did that to me and then denied he ever did anything wrong. It’s been nearly 3 years and I still have trauma from it.
God, I'm so sorry that happened to you 😔 I know it is really hard when someone you loved and had years with does something like that, it's the biggest violation of trust and everything you built w each other. I hope you're healing and wish you the best ❤
Sis, as someone who's been through SA please go to therapy if you haven't already. It genuinely helps, they can actually identify what harmful behavior arises due to your trauma and how to make it better. My life became so much more easier after i went to therapy. If you can't afford a therapist then go find a sexual violence help group, it helps having other people to relate too
@@Adam-mv4fw I saw a therapist for it and worked through the trauma of it. It wasn’t the first time I’d been SA’d so I knew how to handle it. It was more the ultimate betrayal of someone I trusted and nearly died for to then treat me like that and then disappear to not deal with any consequences.
Sir I respect you so much, your thoughts and awareness of other’s is so refreshing 🙏🏻 you can be so hilarious but I appreciate you getting serious when the topic requires it.
This is why i really like you and the way you share these stories. You always do it with respect, and you have these conversations intelligently, open-mindedly, and fair and balanced as possible❤ You do good work, Derrick.
Jade is shaky, and you can hear it in her voice that she was nervous and freaked out/scared. Everyone is different when it comes to emotions. We humans are not the same. How you react is not how the next person will react. Also, Salah learned this from somewhere.. either by choice or not by choice.
She could be talking like that because she's embarrassed and feels weird telling the story, a lot of people do things they don't really want to do or do things they think they want but while it's happening or after regret it so here in this situation listening to both sides it's hard to tell but it doesn't sound that traumatizing to me just some awkward thing that she hates thinking about. She stayed friends with her so if it was really bad I'm sure she wouldn't of been.. it's just a bunch of drama, in your 20s you're still so naive even though you think you're so mature and smart
@@LaylaOlsenwomen can easily access emotions to cry or have an emotional breakdown about something they are lying about. Not saying she is or isn’t lying but you cannot 100% tell by just her talking. False accusers are believed too and female abuser get away with it because they can convincingly lie too. SA is a complicated matter as it’s so hard to prove without proof.
@@brumtownmiller6130 Bruh, there are both women AND men in this world who can “easily access their emotions” (or you know, just act) and lie. Worth noting that. It’s not something related to gender. And then to add on, someone who can do this also has to be okay with lying about a serious topic-and something like this COULD see you with a legal charge if it’s false. Also worth noting. Like, I think most people don’t fall into the latter category but even fewer fall into both categories.
@@er-ha yes any can lie and mislead others but it’s more common for women to weaponise their emotions and “emotional state” to manipulate situations and gain sympathy, especially in situations when it’s one person’s words against anothers. Women are also more like to use that as a tactic and more likely to be believed. How often have to seen a man start crying or seeming emotional to win an argument or get out of situations that their in the wrong for, now compare that to women. Actually most women found to be making false accusations of this manner don’t get any negative consequences or prison time. It’s also ways best not to say i believe someone or someone is guilty without proof. Always investigate these claims but never judge until the case is closed. It hard but that’s fair
It’s definitely not 50%. It’s the vast majority. Rape and sexual assault are often crimes that are very hard to prove. And so most of the people accused will indeed be free
I didn't press charges because in my state, the punishment for him would have been a maximum of 180 DAYS. Days.... He'd already been accused by someone else and he got away with it. 180 days felt like a laugh by the system.
Yes coercing people into it is also raep. Stealthing (removing condom without the other’s knowledge) is also raep. Threatening with black mail is also raep. SA and Raep come in various forms. Some wives and girlfriends/boyfriends even end up having sex with their partners so they don’t become upset and hurt them through DV which is also raep.
Jades story really resonated with me. She was so honest and even went through all of the details how she didn’t even want to say this. It’s got to be so hard for her. So so hard. I’m so sorry to all of these women.
I froze. Im so happy you said it. So many people try to make it my fault that i know how to protect myself and instead i froze. Thank you for seeing us 😢😊
Thank you ! Salahs whole vibe owning a community of buses like a compound THATS WHAT SHE CALLS IT the compound… that’s literally what a cult is … and she’s profiting off it. Sick.
Nope, a compound and cult are not synonymous. People who are part of a cult may live on a compound but plenty of people live on compound enclosures and are not part of a cult.@@TheDessy4life
I don't think those women came forward with fake stories. If Salah truly believes she didn't assault anyone then she needs to take a step back and look at how she treats people in sexual situations. Just because someone has sex with you does not give you rights to their body at all times. Salah needs to do some soul searching and adjust her actions.
Salah is definitely lying. Too many facel cues indications, especially the last 2 or 3 sentences she shows pleasure in what she says with upturned corners of her mouth and puckered lips. She makes it clear it's all about her while not apologizing for any misunderstanding. There's a lot more going on here that's obvious but she thinks she's really smart. I feel for these girls! You can feel the stress and anxiety from them talking about it
Being someone who has been a victim of SA, R@p3 by my aunts bf I froze up. He knew me since I was 4 and I froze and after I went in a downward spiral. I ended up saying something but my family never believed me. 😢
I'm pretty sure something happened to me as a kid because there's a huge block of my life I don't remember and I had issues with s3xuality my whole life. My parents always acted like there was a big cover up. Now that im a parent of a teen, it's all starting to make sense why I acted the way I did. Something for sure happened to me.
I'm also a victim of early childhood SA and I still freeze in triggering situations just like I did when I was kid, it's a PTSD response. And I can't remember most of my childhood, because it was all blocked off by my brain 😔
@@januarybabysorry you went through that ❤ same happened to me as a child and I blacked it out until it came back while watching tv at 18, the mind is so incredible.
Derrick thank you so much , for always speaking up about matters like assualt suicide etc . With such gentleness and support. I can tell you really care for people and these type of matters are not a joke to you . Just wanted to say thank you and you're very much appreciated, more than you know ! 😏
That's sad asf you make this a race thing when its a SA thing color has no role in these stories.... it's jus like a black racist to blame one skin color when there were several but keep up yr racism I'm sure it will get you far in life n always be a victim which most y'all do the best @@Natnic778
That under arm scratch told me she was sweating a bit and that's what happens to me when I'm uncomfortable or recalling something unpleasant. I sweat n my under arms itch
I know I’m late but omg the way that poor girl Jade was struggling trying to tell the story.. her voice breaking and trembling.. absolutely heart wrenching. 💔
For anyone in a bad place - or who may one day be - an NDA, or any professional contract, isn't enforcable if it protects the violation of a law. So you can break that NDA/contract. Yes, they ight still try to sue, but the law will be more on your side than theirs. No one can say "Hey, we threw you into a real-life deathmatch and then had you sign an NDA, so you can never talk about it." No. Talk about it! Contracts/NDAs don't provide legal cover for illegal activities. That would be like a legal document protecting something illegal. That's not how it is.
The people on here disregarding someone's SA because "they had it worse" are gross, sorry I'm not sorry. You absolutely do not get to invalidate someone's elses SA just because you had it worse.
@@nutellabutt8104agreed, not to mention they’re both girls if she felt some type of way why not put hands on her? Plus someone putting a drug in your mouth? Spit that shit out lol n put hands on her…I don’t trust salah cus she does seem off but come on now if it’s the same gender don’t allow yourself to be pressured into shit y’all too grown to not know this
@@J.H.2.1oh shut uppppp. It was 3 years ago. She was younger and probably more insecure. The girl was kicked out of the house and in a very vulnerable position. People in strange situations do not always make rational decisions.
This story breaks my heart, and there was something that Derrick said that reminded me of something that happened to me as a child. My classmates were picking on me, i was scared but I was laughing, when my teacher saw what was happeneing she put a stop to it but told me I shouldn't laugh when I'm scared. That has stuck with me for 20 years, it is ok to freeze up, it is ok to laugh, it is ok to emote how you need to emote when talking about or experiencing something scary. I hope Jade didn't take any ignorant comments to heart because those people didn't experience what she did in that moment. I wish her peace and healing.
Honestly think she was trying to help you but didn’t communicate that properly. Your response is your response. But laughing and smiling are more often considered to be “positive” reactions. Makes the perpetrator not actually feel like they’re doing anything wrong. That’s why parents aren’t supposed to laugh or smile at their kids’ bad behaviour. Unfortunately that encourages them to continue doing it. So just be mindful about how you appear to others.
@@kikialeaki1850 Yeah see that doesn't help if you aren't neurotypical. She didn't help she just made me feel bad because my emotions and their outward appearence don't always mix nor will they. Imagine telling someone to be normal when that doesn't compute for them.
@@kikialeaki1850 That’s her body/brain’s coping mechanism. Any and every adult with common sense should realize that and not tell someone how to feel, even more so a teacher.
@@CelesteMinerva lmfaooo why are you making this about you being neurodivergent, babes?? First off I said “trying to help.” TRYING. The intent and the outcome don’t have to necessarily align here. Secondly, neurotypicals laugh and smile in uncomfortable situations as well. If you were typical, you’d get the same spiel from your teacher because it still holds true. Laughing and smiling are viewed as positive expressions, just as frowning and pouting are viewed as negative expressions.
@@tainadelcaribe are y’all (1) slow or (2) illiterate? The words are written clear as day, so what exactly is holding you back from correctly interpreting my comment?
We have GOTTA stop automatically and immediately saying "we do not "victim blame" here"...asking questions and trying to better understand a situation because ppl DO lie and DO make shit up! Sometimes right out of thin air!!
I feel like some ppl may not want to believe the original girl who came forward just bc of her demeanor in her tiktok. Not everyone handles SA the same way. There is a vast difference in the first and the second girl. Either way, i believe both of them. Edit: I am one of those ppl who freeze when something bad or uncomfortable happens. No flight or fight for me. I just freeze and can't even scream, which scares me bc if something happens, i can't scream for help.
the first girl. You can tell she’s so hurt by it but has to slightly detach from the situation in order to even tell the story.I feel like her hurt has even turned into anger :(
I believe anyone without proof. Anyone can lie and anyone can seem convincing, to me tho the 1st girl didn’t seem convincing at all. Innocent until proven guilty but all accusations to be taken seriously and investigated thoroughly
@@brumtownmiller6130 accused are innocent until proven guilty, accusation are right until wrong. It's a two way street, both of them need to be treated equally for a fair conviction. If not, the laws will be tip in the others favor which is not just.
Some feel scared, some feel defeated, some feel detached, some feel crazy, some feel dirty, some feel at fault, some feel rage. Some all the at different times. The first girl was going through like a giddy (nervous) rage. I've had that where like you can't sit still and nervously laugh as you are seething.
@@krystalynkerseywhat a stupid fucking way to think about SA. It has NOTHING to do with how attractive you are. No one's "too pretty" to SA or "too ugly" to be r*ped. Like that's a veeeeery poor comprehension of SA. Abusers don't abuse cos they're ugly or bc you're pretty 😂
@Spid4rsw3bz they're not saying she's so pretty she should have privileges. She's saying "she she's so pretty that many people are willing to sleep with her so there is no reason she needs to SA people" 🤦🏽♀️ how is that not very clear
Thanks for trigger warning ❤ 12:01 I think you did a great job explaining responses that people can have. Freezing up, nervous laughter Ciara breaking my heart, I hope she’s able to find some peace one day❤
Saw this video suggested to me on Facebook, I watched a minute of it, accidentally refreshed my page and the video was gone. Thank god I remembered Salah’s name and could find it here bc I knew this video was going to be very informative. Thank you for bringing awareness to this.
Sad part is, what these girls went through happens so much. I do hope these girls get their justice. I never got mine through the court but it felt so good to do it myself
I'm sorry you didn't get justice. You must be incredibly resilient to have taken it that far as not many take SA to a reporting stage. I sincerely hope that life is being kind to you now. Take care of yourself mentally and physically.
Don’t trust people. Plain and simple. Not victim blaming but there are bad people out there we have to build trust before being alone in rooms with ppl we don’t know.
i wish i had learned that earlier in life. i’ve always given the benefit of the doubt but unfortunately in most situations i assume the opposite mindset now.
I’ve been a victim, and also accused before. So, I have mixed emotions. Now, my “being accused” situation was simpler, because they came forward and told the truth. Even after that, one person felt they did so out of fear because of my position. Two years later the guy she was dating at the time tells me that she’d told him that I was full of myself and she was going to knock me down a peg. But, she didn’t realize they were going to take her so serious and she got scared. As far as being the victim, sometimes I feel my mouth was the reason I went through that. I will say, I’ve become an introvert when I was once extremely outgoing. Being a victim can be life altering… even when it leaves no physical evidence.
Those two are so weird. Prime example of why attention is not always good. There are lot of creepy people out there in the world and TikTok is no different. Just because someone has a lot of followers doesn’t indicate anything about their true character.
I choose to hear these women out without judgement. But I also will not accuse anyone without proof. Sometimes just listening and waiting is the best we can do for victims. It’s incredibly difficult to prove something like this but that in no way has anything to do with whether or not it happened. I can’t prove my assaults but THEY HAPPENED! I also am very aware (like many of you are) that people DO LIE. And that’s what’s makes this so hard. I wish healing and truth on this situation.
With SA, it's not always the 'thing' that's hard to talk about or that caused the trauma but the situation, coercion, pressure, etc. that makes you feel uncomfortable and unsafe
Did you just say that it's not always the assault that's hard to talk about?? Yes it is. Yes it is. Yes it is. It's always hard for everyone to talk about SA. Always.
Anyone is capable of the situation, the coercion, pressure etc. and it's actually the assault part that significantly changes the dynamics of the rest. Therefore, there's no separation from it all and ALL of it is part of the assault.
@@NativeVirgo no, that is a blanket statement that isn't true. You can speak FOR YOURSELF only. I have experienced SA and I am fine talking about it. And it certainly wasn't a fucking boob touching me. So please, speak only for yourself. Not all people have the same issues. I hope you learn that soon, because lumping everyone in one basket is wrong.
As a victim of sa, my therapist has made note of my facial expressions and behavior when speaking about that situation. I have smiled and nervously laughed not because I find it funny but because it helps me maintain some sort of control over my emotions. Instead of crying, I'd rather smile 🙂👍🏽
I've had this happen to me and I can tell you that when you wake up and automatically feel scared and uneasy, its for a reason and that comes with thinking if you say no you wont be able to leave. I feel for these ladies. 😢
I believe something off has happened. From what the girls are saying Salah was on drugs so she may not even remember violating them. Unfortunately, I've been around many addicts and in most cases when they come down they barely remember any of the awful things they do or say while high. I'm a plus sized girl that has been violated several times in the way sis in the video has, so I totally understand. Sometimes, we are a target by really poppin/attractive/powerful/well known people because they know others won't take our word over theirs. I hope every party involved gets healing.
To stand up for her, I do that nervous laughing when someone is clearly breaking my sexual boundaries so I do understand her appearance when speaking. I also laugh nervously when describing the horrors of my childhood
When Selah said “I was sa’d I would never” I had to ignore her because she turned into what she endured. It’s sad but it happens very often that a person hurt will hurt others. Like 5 ppl ? Ma’am, no ma’am. She uses her stays as a way to threaten them into silence. I’m glad it’s no longer working
Poor victims! To the second gal..it's ok. I've got your back as do many others. I hear the anxiety and ptsd in your shaking voice. I'm so sorry. I believe you all, and I'm sad about how scared you all were to speak up. Sending love
But supporting a victim who is lying is supporting an abuser.. and sending the victim to jail? It’s such a sensitive issue and lots of nuance. You can’t just believe a person unfortunately either cause they could be the abuser, making up lies to make the victim look like the abuser. Just imagine sending the victim to jail because you believed the abusers lies..
@@karas.6438yeah it's Been proven it's very rare for false accusations it's just more are being well known cause of social media where there was no social media back then or very little of it
@@karas.6438 again then you would have to have proof to show that it’s true, if most cases don’t have evidence then we are going on assumption that most cases are true. And if they have evidence then that debunks the theory that most cases don’t have evidence. We have to make it make sense.
@@mbooks5777 damn, that’s fkd up! Did you ever say anything? Ik of ppl that have done that too…bc they were embarrassed or ashamed the nxt day. In that case, the accuser should be put in prison for ruining someone’s life! For wasting the offers & the courts time, etc. wow!
It’s really sad that people are afraid to come out bc of the fear of being victimized again on apps and websites. Much love to all victims. Much Much love! 💕
Anytime I hear a story like this I just sit back and I'll be quiet I don't know if it's true I don't know if it's false all I can honestly tell you is that wasn't there I'm not involved so I don't have an opinion on it but if this honestly happened my heart goes out to the victim because that's traumatizing people don't understand you are affecting that person's life forever probably we don't know. But I do not blame the victim that's not a good thing to do nor do I automatically accuse the other person and say you are guilty I just sit back and be quiet because you never know
It's all about reasonable assumption. If multiple people have claimed that these people did some evil stuff, it's probably true. Plus, why would the victims lie? Most of them have decent followings and would only gain minimal benefits in return. After careful examination, theo and sallah are scumbags that deserve jail time
The shaking while telling the story of Jade is Legit, I also feel this when i wanted to tell all the story that i kept for so long. Well specially for her the story is traumatizing..
these kind of people have no consequences til they do, I'm not a faithful tiktoker but know their type. this is pitiful and degrading as I'm a survivor of sexual abuse and incest myself. This is why we never get the justice we deserve because people make it a game 😢
False Accusations can ruin ppl - which is the point I suppose. Because I wouldn't let someone live with me I found myself arrested, fired, threatened, and my license to teach was revoked. I would never blame the victim but experience has taught me to reserve my opinion/judgment until I get the whole story and some type of proof even if it doesn't relate to the crime - bread crumbs
Note: ANY unwanted sexual attention is an assault, whether verbal and/or physical, if it’s unwanted it’s assault. Consent: requires voluntary, sober, enthusiastic, creative, informed, mutual, honest, and verbal agreement. Consent is ongoing and must be asked for every step of the way. If you want to move to the next level of sexual intimacy, ask. Last: if you ask and are answered by anything less than the above, do not proceed to discuss and never touch. Just stop, make sure that person is emotionally and physically safe, and separate from that person.
The girl with the dark curly hair who almost got a apartment with the accused, you can actually hear her voice shaking as she is trying to tell her truth 😢
Hey everyone, please stay safe. If you ever come across an unfortunate situation like this, please report it to the authorities. Even if you choose not to take it further, a paper trail is very helpful. My heart goes out to the young woman. She was very brave in telling her story and I hope she can find peace❤
That's an awfully huge ask, no victim wants to relive the experience. And once you report it, you will be asked to repeatedly tell your story and at times in detail ... an awfully big and bordering on inconsiderate ask when you really think about it.
@@rodneymercado7195 Also police don't believe victims either. They probably shrug their shoulders and ask "ok what do u want us to do?" Many go unreported because of the police is very unhelpful
@@rodneymercado7195 i regret not reporting my rapist, not a day goes by where i think of how many other kids were assaulted by him that came after me. If you have the opportunity, ALWAYS report it even if you have to relive it because you're saving future victims from going through what you've experienced.
The way she’s jiggling and laughing uncomfortably lets me know it’s true… I’ve reacted the same way when telling someone about my assault.. the anxiety of recounting the whole thing made me ridiculously nervous and anxious
I love Salahs content but it’s things about her personality/mental health that never really sat right with me. Especially since her and Theos break up. I can totally see based on her personality and posible mental health issues she believing her approach to things was consensual when in fact she was the only one having fun 🤦🏽♀️ I’ve also questioned if she has borderline
@@momstreet5916 oh I wasn’t suggesting that her possibly having BPD is what’s causing her to be shitty to people and SA people. I was just wondering if she was a candidate to have it. It was an unrelated thought. Sorry I should’ve worded that better
Ive always thought about coming out and say what my ex did to me. All the SA that happened to me the physical abuse. Part of me is terrified that he will try and come for me and my son. This is all I can do for now. Prays to those hurting.
From personal experience, you absolutely do not know how you will react with this type of situation. I never thought I would freeze up when I was r***d almost 50 years ago. It was the first time it was tried in my teen years. I barely escaped a friend once. I glad you mentioned that you never know if you will freeze up. Sorry, it wasn't the first time it was attempted. Every woman I know has their own story.
I just don't understand how they are smiling or laughing when I had to tell my story I was in tears. It's just sad I hope they can heal I couldn't vent or pit this on tiktok so I hoped this helped them heal from it
I’ve always hated the fact that some people really think a woman can’t be a rapist😭
It makes you wonder how much people really pay attention in the world that's for sure.
Rt?! Absolutely can & are bc they KNOW 99% of the time they’ll get away with it! Mostly bc men are too ashamed that they didn’t fight back or couldn’t.
@@karas.6438 just make sure you know how that man got to the situation and again it would come into knowing all sides and not just wanting to believe one side. But I do agree men can be taken advantage of. But it's usually as a child not an adult unless in a sex worker situation.
Women are always seen as victims rather than the perpetrators of criminal acts, which is why women get away with almost everything or get lesser sentence than men who commit the same crime.
She's a serial rapist too
For anyone who may not be aware & needs an out…NDAs do NOT cover crimes, so even if you sign an NDA and something illegal goes down, you have the RIGHT to speak out about it!
Doesn’t this depend by state?? Like how about NY?
@@hellochristimbouttasinagainno
Add another charge of intimidation..
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@@hellochristimbouttasinagainlol why do you ask about NYC? 😂😂😂
The fact that we have to sensor S A .. is disgusting .. why can't this be talked about regularly
Cause EVERYONE and EVERYTHING is trying to suppress us and slowly but surely take away and/or control our human rights and our ability to talk about shit on the internet!
Same reason why other slurs and explicit language is censored youtube isn't the government they don't have to protect free speech and can plays these explicit words as banned words. Idk why it's disgusting
Or said. You can’t even say it! Which, I gotta tell ya, was hard all on its own to say out loud. “I was raped. Took me twenty two years to say it! I was seven. So yeah, WE should be allowed to say it! No matter what platform we choose to share our stories! They keep saying it’s a trigger. But I am not responsible for YOUR triggers. You are! Grow up people! Sexual assault is a thing! No matter how you try to silence us!!
I think it mainly started with tiktok. They over censor things under the guise of protection.
My sister was a gRapist.
She did it to multiple ppl - but she was prom queen - beauty pageant winner.
Beautiful - so no one believed her victims cause why does someone who looks like her need to do this.
She was sExuaLly abused by my Mother and Father - we all were - along with physical violence from my Sister cause she was so damaged.
Since no one believed the victims - my sister was able to assault multiple ppl through her lifetime.
Needless to say - I have not talked to my family in YEARS!!!
So sad, I believe you!!!❤
**Edit - to the dunce ppl - of course there were police involved and the law - but since police are so corrupt- kickbacks, money , and families who have friends in high places DO NOT get held to the same standards as others OR see the same “justice” system that others not so “fortunate” who DO NOT have money$$ to make things “go away” experience.
I can not wait till they defund this worthless department - cause cops and corrupt ppl need to GTFO!
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Nobody will ever truly know the truth even if it’s told to us In detail we’ll never truly know what’s what..! You hang in there.. Jesus has you and me as well as the rest of us! The vail has been lifted and we all are finding out the truth and will have a choice! Just because it’s our family doesn’t mean we have to put up with all that. If people haven’t been through it they just don’t know. No clue how old you are but you’ve got to be about my age or older I’m thinking. The way your taking sounds as if time has gone by and you’ve grown! I barely started talking to the females in my family recently. I just spent 10 years bedridden with summtin called RSDS it felt as of o had no skin and all kinds of other horror! The only people Ive met is my wife that hasn’t had hands put on her as a small child. Everyone in the 80’s and most of the 90’s were touched. Before that I’m thinking it was worse! I believe they tried to get rid of us because we were the worst mistake this country made at the time! We are the product of so called free love and a bunch of drugs.. people don’t believe that a female can do things like this. My sister was right there when things happened to me. I was the one who would fight back. I have some memories still but after ten years in bed going through that it doesn’t seem so bad anymore. It’s over and the people are dead. I’m very aware and so much so that I’m able to teach my kids properly. My wife still had sumtin happen though but not till she was older but still happened! I was beaten down pretty bad as a child by my mother. SHe’s a tiny little thing to. Maybe only 4 10” but to a small child that’s not to small. I truly believe we grow up and do this crap or we absolutely hate it ..! No middle ground! That baby blue and pink with white. That’s the MAPS flag and they are trying to say it’s for trans people. I remember when they brought it out it’s for those child molesters and people aren’t ok with that and they are trying to hide it now saying that’s not what it is. The baby blue is for a baby boy and a soft pink for a baby girl and the white is for the innocence! These people are Fckd in their heads for real! It’s in the open dude. It’s time for people to make a real choice! That’s how we know it’s all real! The apocalypse is real and not exactly a war but the truth coming out and with that war comes.. that’s what’s happening! Everyone with Jesus will suffer as written and Satan rules the word but not very long! We get to go home or come home however you take it I guess! Everyone is getting the truth. All over the world! Some are excepting it and others denying it. It’s going down. Down..
God bless friend and be safe out there. Sorry I started kinda babbling .! I’m proud of you my man. It’s not easy I know. It’s even harder for men to speak out about this crap. I do though. If I don’t how do I expect to ever help! 1 saved can equal 10,000..
Feel you. My fathers in prison but he will be released and it wont go unnoticed. Stay vigilant
@@BadCompany410dude you need some help no shame in it. You shouldnt say that about the flag tho just bc you think it doesnt make it real. I have been SA multiple times but I refuse to allow that to define who I am. You are pointing fingers the wrong way.
@@onlyhereforthecomments6367 not to sure where your coming from. I’m plenty old I’ve had much help. If you had read I had written that after 10 years going through what i did what I went though as a child doesn’t seem as bed but it always will be. Just because you can talk about it doesn’t mean you can’t or haven’t handled it. I also said at the start that nobody will ever know the truth. All side will say what they will be none of us will ever know the truth. You young lady should try to stop being an intellectual and actual ready about what your trying to have some sort of come back with. I’ve been counseling adults as well as children for more year than you e probably been out of grade-school. What I wrote pints at nobody but my own. I was also speaking to one person. You seem as if someone who’s never been through anything like this and if so that’s wonderful! The first thing you did was point the finger at me. I have been on my own two feet for sometime and 5 children one is new and I am 15 years married staring a new business and two weeks ago my wife drove home in a new Range Rover. Help comes from within not for text or UA-cam. I pray you let go and work on yourself and not worry about others. Life is short I promise! 10 years rolling around is now joke. I need no help young lady I’m living life like never before. I pray you do to one day. Maybe you need to get some help?
God bless and be safe out there.
I believe the alleged victims. I was r-ped by a female coworker before. We were at her home smoking weed. She started French kissing me. I asked her what she was doing, is she bi? I can’t remember every detail, nor will I get into detail, but she basically had her way with me. I was too high to object. I thought we were just friends (weed buddies), but after this incident, we stopped communicating. Interestingly, she was SA-d by “a family friend” when she was 14, which explains a lot, as victims oftentimes become perpetrators. I think she thought the whole thing was consensual and she was a few years older than me. So yeah, it’s definitely possible for a woman to r-pe another woman.
Not often times. It's 50/50
No you're wrong for this comment@@nineteen96
I'm sorry u had 2 go through this hope you heal in time
What???
Doesn't matter whether you're high or not by kissing another girl. By let it happen it means you like girls too
Her sharpening the knife 🔪 while discussing her att*cker sent me....
Yeah she seemed a little psychotic to me
@@AngelaWalker-uj5uf nah not really but you seem like the type to protect abusers
@@AngelaWalker-uj5ufYou should learn a couple of things of psychology and body movements/gestures, microexpression aswell, especially when related to this topic since there is a variety of coping mechanism/defense mechanism and trauma response, before throwing up "psychotic" on a human being.
@@chaos.5736 did I touch a nerve 🥱
Yeah, she's definitely unstable. She's giving off vibes of Glenn Close in the movie "Fatal Attraction". Hide your rabbits everyone! 🐰🍲
That little dance at 3:22 just shows her intentions.
I was false reported, not of sexual assault though. In 2000 I was arrested on xmas eve for exposing myself to 3 underage kids which were the brother and sisters of the girl I was dating. I didn't do it and as they were taking me away and the sheriff seen her crying so stopped to see if she was ok and when she told hin "I just didnt want him to leave me cause I wont ever see him again" the sheriff said he knew she was lying. I was still charged but they let me leave for navy bootcamp on time which was day after xmas. They let my parents go to court for me which is where she recanted her story and admitted that she lied. She was correct about 1 thing though. She never seen me again. I was so fucking confused why the cops were at my door. She almost ruined my life just because she was selfish and didnt want me to leave for the navy which I joined to support the daughter I was soon to be having (she was born june 15 2001 same day I got home from A-school and got to be the first to hold her, she was a c-section baby so that is still so special to me) I will never forgive her for that. That being said I still believe victims unless they are proven to be liars. I still like proof though also.
Wow I’m so sorry that happened to you.
You are right that evidence and proof is very helpful, but it’s difficult navigating SA cases when proof is limited and everything is based off versions of events.
If the officer knew she was lying and charged you anywyas than he should be reported. She should of been arrested for making a false report
You sound like a really great guy. So sorry that happened to you!
That still
Doesn’t discount that most accusers are telling the truth statistically. False accusations are very low
@@ComaLies225 I totally agree with you because I do know that evidence sometimes doesnt exist making it harder, but if they have the evidence I think they should expose it. Also yes false accusers deserve to be charged and convicted because it can totally fuck up people's entire lives. That goes for anything really like the countless men a lot being people of color sitting in jail for crimes they did not commit like the innocent man in jail that the real criminal has already confessed but Sara sanders wont let him out or clear his name (i wonder why). Also SA assaulers need to stop getting off lightly like brock turner.
This is exactly what perpetrators do, they pretend that they don't understand that they did something wrong. They make sure you're completely out of it and after they're like "when can I see you again?" It f*cks with your head and that's their strategy. You'll doubt and blame yourself, cause you literally couldn't utter the word NO. And that was their plan all along. Many of us know from experience unfortunately.
That's how I ended up in a relationship of sorts with my abuser.
@@MphoenixE That sucks. 😔
@@Tubifia on so many levels
The boyfriend of my then-best friend did this to me one night while she was out of town. I was so out of it I barely remembered it. I absolutely remembered waking up the next morning & feeling an all-encompassing dread, though. I just wanted to scrub it from my mind. He called me that day asking exactly that, “when can I see you again?” I told him never again, it was a mistake, pretend it never happened. I felt so ashamed. I fully blamed myself for being a bad friend & bad person. It took me YEARS to realize it was SA, and that he fully took advantage of me. He’d been the guy in his high school that all the girls obsessed over, too. A real catch🙄 It’s so sad that most women have a story like this.
@@missdenisebee I think they intentionally act like it was consensual so we second guess, self hate, or direct all guilt on us. It implies that did what they did because of something we did
Boy the victim blaming thing. Thank you for saying that 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I've also been a victim of being blamed for something I didn't do. No one believes a man can be a victim. There's no proof in my case. Allit was was hearsay I was railroaded into taking a plea deal. The justice system is really jacked up. The public embarrassment, lost of funds and peace of mind are all things I've had to take on for the last two+ years.
Social media is window into the worst of humanity.
So true.😒
How sad and true 😔
And that’s why my family is not on it.
If what you're referencing to here is false allegations and clout chasing, then yes, correct
Agree - I've deleted all of my socials - UA-cam is the only app I have left 😅
"Maybe I consented to it" 😢 that's the worse feeling. Trying to justify in your mind what someone did to you. Especially if you were under influence. It makes me so sick to this day when I think about how I confronted my abuser and he said, "you asked me to" umm.. no. I'm pretty sure I would never tell a neighbor to rip the crotch if my pants while I'm too inebriated to stand up.. pretty sure the crying in the middle of it would also negate whatever the hell you think I consented to. Any type of assault is not ok, but when it's a friend or someone you trusted, you gaslight yourself into believe their lies and excuses
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I could never imagine something like that happening to me or my family. I hope you are doing better now ❤
Omg, I’m sorry. I’ve had this happen 2x and the 2nd time I question if I consented to it because I tried to make the best of it and agreed to see him a couple of times 🤦🏻♀️ I’ve since learned that quite common. I think because we try to justify it in our minds because who wants to admit someone violated them. For me they were both acquaintances who I did not trust or distrust. The 2nd one went to jail for r*pe of multiple other women (3-4?) and I still wonder. Also, I’m lucky because I forgot almost everything now. Disassociation for the win!
Literally why it was dropped in court for me. Aside from his parents having money. I ASKED HIM ON A DATE TO THE ART MUSEUM WITH MY DAD, BABY SISTER AND I, HE CHOSE TO NOT TAKE ME THERE. I SHOULDNT HAVE WAITED TO GO, I SHOULD HAVE LEFT WITH MY DAD AND SISTER.
FUCK THE PEOPLE WHO DO THAT
Just recently I had a situation regarding a guy wanting to have sex. I told him no. At first he lead me to believe it was just hanging g out so I told him I would hang out with him, then as we continued to talk he started talking sexual. I said I'm seeing someone, I'm not into that. So I had went to the room with him and stayed by the door. I then left cuz he was starting to touch me. I told him no its not gonna happen. I feel bad cuz I said we could hang out but not to have sex. He blew up my phone when I left cuz he kept trying. We ended up texting more because he gaslit me for making him come out and being by himself. I went back but ONLY AFTER I made him promise to keep his hands to himself. He promised but he ended up taking advantage of me. I told my friend and she was a typical person "you never should have went there". I said " are you fucking kidding me?!" My person stops automatically whenever I say no to him for anything. No means no regardless I went or not. Doesn't give him the right to do what he did."
when someone you thought was a friend destroys your trust its inexcusable, yet some part of us wants to excuse it or make it make sense. So NOW on top of that trauma we can’t trust OURSELVES? F!K YOU! God that is so beyond evil. It’s a pain so profound it’s unlikely others can even grasp the way it turns your reality upside down and reverberates through everything after. The one silver lining is now, more than ever, victims Are able to speak up( with social media and less stigma surrounding topics that used to be more taboo ) Glad there are guys like Derek who know the importance of holding people accountable. Anyone wrestling with this kind of devastation, you are not alone. please take advantage of a free support group or two, journal and meditate at the very least. It’s not right or fair or easy, but it’s in your power to get help to heal and be back in control. Stay safe and take care.
NDA does not apply to crimes committed.
I didn’t know that, I thought that was why nda’s were created.
@@korketamanigault765 people use them for that but they are not legally binding. NDA is supposed to protect private information and personal habits of rich and/or famous.
@@korketamanigault765anytime a crime is committed the nda is no good
Nda are to protect other people's privacy and personal data. Not to cover up crimes or abuse
@@korketamanigault765which is why Cassie was able to sue Diddy regardless of whatever NDA she had
NDA doesn't have a stand where there is a crime!
People need to know this.
I'm glad you are learning, and sharing, details about nervous laughter and freeze responses to traumatic events.
During one instance of SA, I continued talking to my “friend” afterwards because I didn’t want to believe that the person wanted to harm me. In a later conversation, they said they “couldn’t control” themself around a beautiful woman. It was then I really understood that I was not safe with that person. Denial is a powerful motivator to continue contact.
This. I went through this exact thing. And even convinced myself that maybe my friend was right and it was partially my fault so I did continue to talk to him and I also talked to him after the fact because I didn't want to feel how I was feeling, guilty ( how did I let what happen happen), ashamed, and just down right dirty and mad.
It truly is. I relate. /: You just want to live normally. I wasn’t friends with them anymore, but I saw them at parties and I even apologized to them once because I had friends that would be “rude” to them about the fact that they did what they did. I had literal eye witnesses but was pressured not to come forward and nobody believed it bc I wasn’t conventionally attractive or very popular. I don’t know what it is but the way everyone goes on treating them like they aren’t a monster makes you kinda do the same thing without even meaning to. Just like autopilot or something.
@@fruityblue9784 well said. The depravity is just so normalized 😔
I continued to see my attacker. I thought no way it happened. I was tipsy and we met at church. No way he'd attempt a*al without asking me. No way. But he did.
My husband asked why I continued contact. I felt crazy trying to explain. Thank you for putting it into words.
I was SAed as a young girl and ended up pregnant. It has been the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in this life but the next thing to be the next hardest thing is being victim shamed too by people whom have no idea the horrible things I went through. There needs to be a whole lot more light about this whole issue but also about putting innocent people away. Thank you for sharing this incident. ❤
That’s not SA if you got pregnant mf you got violated.
I'm so sorry to hear that... that must've so damn hard, like I couldn't ever imagine getting SA and then getting pregnant plus shamed, this is like hell. You're so friggen strong I respect 💯
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I can understand because I’ve been a victim of SA several times. I can’t imagine how much harder it is while you’re still a young girl. I can’t imagine becoming pregnant from my r*****t. I’m sending you all the love and support from afar.
I believe in due process I don't JUST BELIEVE anyone but I will say after working in a shelter full of women victims, she sounds truthful to me.
It’s a very real and common situation unfortunately. Idk how someone would think this sounds too far fetched tbh
I love all the fake poly relationships that always happen to be one man and multiple women. That just called catering to male fantasy, real poly relationships have multiple men and others as well, unless you just so happen to be multiple women and one man, of
Course, but not by design
This gon be interesting.I just got put on to this lady a week ago . Now here she is again. Keep getting pulled to her🤔❤️
Working in the courts and with youth with men and young men and boys been lied on.
I don’t believe in the idea of sounding truthful
@@shannond1511Your description of a polyamorous relationship is absolutely wrong and shows a lack of knowledge on the topic.
Not to mention equating it to a male fantasy shows that you have a prejudice against that way of life.
A Poly relationship is not defined by race, creed, ethnicity, age nor gender. It's simply a loving relationship between at least 3 people but can be more. That's all.
It's weird that you believe you have some authority or right to judge other's relationships as genuine or fake but I guess this world takes all types.
The aggressive and angrily manner that the suspect speaks also makes her look kind of guilty. She seems like a bully.
She's tryna find girls for her & her bf! Don't know her but sensed her creepy vibes.
Can't wait for Swoop to get on this. She has no mercy when it comes to abusers and this chick is a predator. We need to normalize the understanding that women, even attractive women, CAN BE PREDATORS.
Who is swoop?
😂💯 I'm right there with you. You know Swoop gonna go deep😂 n get the truth out on everyone involved 😂
@@ChelNoelle she is a UA-camr that does hardcore deep dives exposing UA-camrs for their scams and lies. Her and her team get the hard to find dirt... They go back years on every social media platform of each person involved timelines and everything. They will even get text from anyone that has any proof. I promise you that you will enjoy her content of you like curlyboy chuck
@@420MamaBear is she in UA-cam? What's her channel? Is it just swoop?
@@patricewilliams2998 yes Ma'am
When ppl freeze up or dissociate, it's called fawning and it's a real thing
Yeah, very true.
Fawning is attempting to appease or placate an attacker. Freezing is literally not moving, not talking, not responding at all. They aren't the same thing.
@saushakamara sometimes, and I don't know if this is the case, but when ppl say they freeze up they mean the didn't respond how they wanted to. Js
@@charlenepahrue945in my experience, I froze and this is kind of true in hindsight but in the moment. It's sorta like you are having a hard time processing what happening and so you freeze physically and mentally.
Yess it’s in your fight or flight. Sometimes it’s fawn. At least for me it was
One of my best friends in the entire world continually pressured me to "experiment." I thought she was just joking bc she had a very... odd sense of humor. It went on for a while and then she kind of stopped (i think she felt myself putting distance between us). She came to sleep over at my house when i was 15yo, nothing unusual. I woke up in the middle of the night and she was... Trying to do **that** to me. And you'd think I'd have freaked out and went off on her and never talked to her again, right? Nope... I'M the one that felt weird about it and just pulled away, went to the bathroom, and then pretended it never happened. Confused, and continued our friendship for many years. Our friendship ended, with her just stopping talking to me for no apparent reason, after she got married. I have since been in therapy and soooo much trauma came up when it came to talking about her. I didn't even realize it was SA back then... I'm 37 so we're talking 22 years ago. But, it was. I hate that it happens to anyone 😓
So sorry you experienced that
I have experienced similar situation. My question is what do you do with that new found info? Do you speak out? Do you seek therapy? Or even label the person as a predator?
Same but it was like a decade ago I’m thinking about reporting her bc I was only able to stop it once I saw she was doing it to other people
Cocsa is real. My cousin did the same to me, my sister and his sister for over 10 years.
People don't think other children can sexually abuse or assualt other children
I have a similar experience and just like you I was the one to pull away from the situation and pretend it didn't happen and ever since id never be or go alone to her house nor invite her over mine ever unless I know she's not the last to leave I felt so uncomfortable for so many years, she was bi i expressed i am straight but it happened at least 3 times before she stopped and after we went to college it was the perfect excuse to pull away from that friendship and end it cause I was studying abroad, she tried to reach me multiple times and since 1 person only knew of the situation everytime I changed my number shed find me somehow until I told people to not share my number with anyone unless they ask me first.... then I sorts managed to get out of it
I too have a similar experience and when I told my friends years back (who aren't my friends now )...they didn't believe me ..because the one who SA'd me was a girl ....it really messed up with my mind a lot but I cut off contact with her and in a better place now .
I'm sorry to hear you had to go through such things .
I am a survivor of S.A. & rape, so I know to well how she felt! You are 100% correct when you say some people,"freeze up" when their scared, I am one of these people🙋♀️ I am also one of those people who tend to "smile" when Im nervous and listen for people that dont have a clue. I have been diagnosed by a psychiatrist!
I disagree with a lot of what this generation is about, but things like this I am actually so proud to see cause in my generation, things like this were just a normal part of growing up. I have been SA'd soooo many times. Some I had even shrugged off bc I assumed it wasn't "that bad." Hearing these stories makes me sad, but also, I feel validated, and for that, I thank the brave young men and women for that 🙏 I am proud of y'all
God the way these poor women are just shaking and crying, I feel so terrible for them. I hope they're all safe and okay now.
Shaking and crying cuz a boob touched them?
😅😅😅😅
Women can do that regardless if it’s real or fake. 😂😂😂 Dis mf never been in a bad relationship
I missed something, I didn’t see anyone crying or shaking
@@raysellers8049shut up numnuts
@@eyeroglyph4274I thought it was just me. I was like, did I miss something 😂😂😂
WE DO NOT VICTIM BLAME HERE
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Amen 🙌
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Amen
Just curious who victim blamed? I didn’t see it so I’m just curious.
Salah has disassociated with life a long time ago, she’s needs therapy. Victims sometimes become the victimizer. She has learned how to disassociate to survive and can toggle between victim or victimizer to adapt to any situation for survival. I can only imagine how intense her rationale and behaviors are impacted while under the influence of anything.
Yes!!! All of that!! People don't realize exactly what you happens more often than not - a victim will become the victimizer. When Salah was giving her response, I felt no sincerity or genuineness - just an empty vessel. So yeah, I strongly agree with you that she is detached.
verything you described are signs of a classic narc and or sociopathic behavior
Best response to describe her
But it doesn’t mean that what she did when in a disassociated state isn’t against the law or wrong.
@@amkali24completely agree
Thank you black man for the amount of empathy you have and not victim blaming while telling us these stories 🙏🏽
His name is Derrick, show a little respect for another human. 😊
That's what I thought, like wow really. She couldnt just say thank you & ect if she didnt know his name, she literally had to say "black man" just crazy.@@lubabe9969What's more crazy is her profile, she's the same color, so I'm shocked she was so disrespectful!!
Thank you black lady for noticing😂
Dude, I jus discovered your page and been binge watching your videos. You are so genuine and different and it's refreshing, so keep em coming please!
She lost me at “to suggest that I’m capable of that”. Ma’am, being a human means you’re capable. And talking about the victims’ follower count and revenue makes you seem like a vindictive, money hungry predator, in my opinion. You could have left that part out. I only know about this Salah person from your videos but she comes off like an over-confident frat boy in her videos. I believe the victims. The fact that she can’t see how these interactions weren’t consensual is mind-blowing.
Nah, some people get very angry If lies are being spread. BC the audacity to suggest that someone would do something they would never.
Humans are also capable of eating arse, doesn't mean they do.
Facts
I disagree. We have no idea who is telling the truth one has nothing to lose and everything to gain and it matters with a horrible personallity
@@yagirltones8748I am only going to say this part to say that the other girl has nothing to lose and everything to gain is really ignorant when you come out and admit something like that has happened people treat you differently they talk to you differently they act differently towards you sometimes positive as a supporter or those that will straight up talk s*** to you or do it behind you're back there is a lot that a person can lose by coming forward animating something like that happen especially when it's someone with such a high following that people don't see the negative side of they only see a positive light of which is generally why a lot of people don't come out and say that something has happened to them I'm not saying that I trust the first chick in the video but the text messages clearly do state that she put her parts on her even though she was not giving permission as Petty as it sounds to anybody else permission is permission no means no and if you can't take no as an answer on something that little I'm pretty sure that there's a lot more that has been done when someone said no
No the reverse.
If you put your boob on someone, purposefully without consent and the person you did that to is uncomfortable it can be sexual assault, it can be triggering for an already sexual abuse victim and it's no different than touching someone purposefully
100%. IMO Salah was testing the victim's boundaries for another possible assault.
If you think someone putting your boob on as assault you have not experienced any hardships
I just saw police cam where they arrested a 40+ female who did this (.) (.) to an 18 year old young man. They caught it on security video.
Exactly. Anything of that nature that makes someone uncomfortable is inappropriate and can def be classified as SA.
The act itself isn’t hand but what it insinuates is a risk of sex and that is what we are all trying to prevent if that’s not their wishes. It’s like what it leads to is what makes it wrong but the act itself is hard to describe to ppl as problematic I notice.
I was SA’d by my kids father after we’d been separated for 18 months. He tried to say it was my fault cause he came and picked me up after my first ever time out at 26 and I was blackout drunk. I mean I spent the entire car ride vomiting. I had vomited all over myself and I went to his parents house to sleep and all I asked was “please help remove this dress” as it was soaked in vomit, he took that as an invitation. I passed out afterwards and don’t remember afterwards but he was dead sober. He knew what he was doing. I woke up naked and could clearly tell something had happened and felt sick then broke down sobbing. We now have no contact at all.
I got blamed for the situation. Not him. A man I had trusted and given 6 years of my life and his firstborn child to did that to me and then denied he ever did anything wrong.
It’s been nearly 3 years and I still have trauma from it.
God, I'm so sorry that happened to you 😔 I know it is really hard when someone you loved and had years with does something like that, it's the biggest violation of trust and everything you built w each other. I hope you're healing and wish you the best ❤
Sounds like they were in a safe environment if there was drugs they werent harming all she did was tried to make love to dopey people
Sis, as someone who's been through SA please go to therapy if you haven't already. It genuinely helps, they can actually identify what harmful behavior arises due to your trauma and how to make it better. My life became so much more easier after i went to therapy. If you can't afford a therapist then go find a sexual violence help group, it helps having other people to relate too
@@Adam-mv4fw I saw a therapist for it and worked through the trauma of it. It wasn’t the first time I’d been SA’d so I knew how to handle it. It was more the ultimate betrayal of someone I trusted and nearly died for to then treat me like that and then disappear to not deal with any consequences.
Leave the alcohol alone. A sober mind knows what they are doing.
Sir I respect you so much, your thoughts and awareness of other’s is so refreshing 🙏🏻 you can be so hilarious but I appreciate you getting serious when the topic requires it.
This is why i really like you and the way you share these stories. You always do it with respect, and you have these conversations intelligently, open-mindedly, and fair and balanced as possible❤ You do good work, Derrick.
Jade is shaky, and you can hear it in her voice that she was nervous and freaked out/scared. Everyone is different when it comes to emotions. We humans are not the same. How you react is not how the next person will react. Also, Salah learned this from somewhere.. either by choice or not by choice.
My thoughts exactly. This was done to her.
She could be talking like that because she's embarrassed and feels weird telling the story, a lot of people do things they don't really want to do or do things they think they want but while it's happening or after regret it so here in this situation listening to both sides it's hard to tell but it doesn't sound that traumatizing to me just some awkward thing that she hates thinking about. She stayed friends with her so if it was really bad I'm sure she wouldn't of been.. it's just a bunch of drama, in your 20s you're still so naive even though you think you're so mature and smart
@@LaylaOlsenwomen can easily access emotions to cry or have an emotional breakdown about something they are lying about. Not saying she is or isn’t lying but you cannot 100% tell by just her talking. False accusers are believed too and female abuser get away with it because they can convincingly lie too. SA is a complicated matter as it’s so hard to prove without proof.
@@brumtownmiller6130 Bruh, there are both women AND men in this world who can “easily access their emotions” (or you know, just act) and lie. Worth noting that. It’s not something related to gender. And then to add on, someone who can do this also has to be okay with lying about a serious topic-and something like this COULD see you with a legal charge if it’s false. Also worth noting. Like, I think most people don’t fall into the latter category but even fewer fall into both categories.
@@er-ha yes any can lie and mislead others but it’s more common for women to weaponise their emotions and “emotional state” to manipulate situations and gain sympathy, especially in situations when it’s one person’s words against anothers. Women are also more like to use that as a tactic and more likely to be believed. How often have to seen a man start crying or seeming emotional to win an argument or get out of situations that their in the wrong for, now compare that to women. Actually most women found to be making false accusations of this manner don’t get any negative consequences or prison time. It’s also ways best not to say i believe someone or someone is guilty without proof. Always investigate these claims but never judge until the case is closed. It hard but that’s fair
It’s definitely not 50%. It’s the vast majority. Rape and sexual assault are often crimes that are very hard to prove. And so most of the people accused will indeed be free
Unfortunately true
Nice to see you beloved. You’re absolutely right…it’s far from 50%, most are getting away with it unfortunately
I didn't press charges because in my state, the punishment for him would have been a maximum of 180 DAYS. Days.... He'd already been accused by someone else and he got away with it. 180 days felt like a laugh by the system.
97% never spend a night in jail even IF they are charged/convicted.
Yes coercing people into it is also raep. Stealthing (removing condom without the other’s knowledge) is also raep. Threatening with black mail is also raep. SA and Raep come in various forms. Some wives and girlfriends/boyfriends even end up having sex with their partners so they don’t become upset and hurt them through DV which is also raep.
Im the person that smiled and laughed whenever I became nervous in certain situations. It's a way for me to get out of the situation. ASAP 😢
Jades story really resonated with me. She was so honest and even went through all of the details how she didn’t even want to say this. It’s got to be so hard for her. So so hard. I’m so sorry to all of these women.
I froze. Im so happy you said it. So many people try to make it my fault that i know how to protect myself and instead i froze.
Thank you for seeing us 😢😊
Sounds like a cult
Thank you ! Salahs whole vibe owning a community of buses like a compound THATS WHAT SHE CALLS IT the compound… that’s literally what a cult is … and she’s profiting off it. Sick.
Nope, a compound and cult are not synonymous. People who are part of a cult may live on a compound but plenty of people live on compound enclosures and are not part of a cult.@@TheDessy4life
I don't think those women came forward with fake stories. If Salah truly believes she didn't assault anyone then she needs to take a step back and look at how she treats people in sexual situations. Just because someone has sex with you does not give you rights to their body at all times. Salah needs to do some soul searching and adjust her actions.
Salah is definitely lying. Too many facel cues indications, especially the last 2 or 3 sentences she shows pleasure in what she says with upturned corners of her mouth and puckered lips. She makes it clear it's all about her while not apologizing for any misunderstanding. There's a lot more going on here that's obvious but she thinks she's really smart.
I feel for these girls! You can feel the stress and anxiety from them talking about it
Right. Meep sounded like she was going to cry and the other one was crying.
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Being someone who has been a victim of SA, R@p3 by my aunts bf I froze up. He knew me since I was 4 and I froze and after I went in a downward spiral. I ended up saying something but my family never believed me. 😢
I'm pretty sure something happened to me as a kid because there's a huge block of my life I don't remember and I had issues with s3xuality my whole life. My parents always acted like there was a big cover up. Now that im a parent of a teen, it's all starting to make sense why I acted the way I did. Something for sure happened to me.
I'm also a victim of early childhood SA and I still freeze in triggering situations just like I did when I was kid, it's a PTSD response. And I can't remember most of my childhood, because it was all blocked off by my brain 😔
@@januarybabysorry you went through that ❤ same happened to me as a child and I blacked it out until it came back while watching tv at 18, the mind is so incredible.
I'm sorry to hear that hope you make it thru that situation.
The fact she's smirking in her reply tells me all I need to know. Demons come in many forms
Derrick thank you so much , for always speaking up about matters like assualt suicide etc . With such gentleness and support. I can tell you really care for people and these type of matters are not a joke to you . Just wanted to say thank you and you're very much appreciated, more than you know ! 😏
To fillet a fish, it is easier to have the skin down. I feel for her and I believe she is a victim. NDA…Bring that up and you know it is shady AF.
I was triggered by how she filleted that fish…. I do feel bad for her with the whole situation tho :/
Yoooo as a cook, I was heated but yeah this whole situation is insane
@@kohvuu I swear tho, she lost so much salmon meat from doing what she did 😭😭😭😭 sigh
You're so right about the fish. It kinda bother me.
We were all triggered by the fish, and this story
She was fiddling with her hair, shaky voice, extremely nervous. Not lying just anxiety trying to go public. Embarrassed.
Were we watching the same shit.
Exactly! 😢
4 victims
@@Ruinedtri what?
I feel so bad for Jade. The way her voice was shaky while telling her SA story.. 😢 omg, I’m heartbroken for this girl
Same. I hope she's doing okay.
Keep falling for the yt girl tears if you want!!
That's sad asf you make this a race thing when its a SA thing color has no role in these stories.... it's jus like a black racist to blame one skin color when there were several but keep up yr racism I'm sure it will get you far in life n always be a victim which most y'all do the best @@Natnic778
@@circlecityzombie wtf are you talking about? Nobody made it about race but you ya race baiting weirdo
That under arm scratch told me she was sweating a bit and that's what happens to me when I'm uncomfortable or recalling something unpleasant. I sweat n my under arms itch
I know I’m late but omg the way that poor girl Jade was struggling trying to tell the story.. her voice breaking and trembling.. absolutely heart wrenching. 💔
For anyone in a bad place - or who may one day be - an NDA, or any professional contract, isn't enforcable if it protects the violation of a law. So you can break that NDA/contract. Yes, they ight still try to sue, but the law will be more on your side than theirs.
No one can say "Hey, we threw you into a real-life deathmatch and then had you sign an NDA, so you can never talk about it." No. Talk about it! Contracts/NDAs don't provide legal cover for illegal activities. That would be like a legal document protecting something illegal. That's not how it is.
The people on here disregarding someone's SA because "they had it worse" are gross, sorry I'm not sorry. You absolutely do not get to invalidate someone's elses SA just because you had it worse.
Jokingly plopping a boob on someone’s head is not SA. It’s dramatic af to label it as that.
Agreed! Are we supposed to rank other peoples experiences? People are sick who does that.
Agree… complete weirdos
@@nutellabutt8104agreed, not to mention they’re both girls if she felt some type of way why not put hands on her? Plus someone putting a drug in your mouth? Spit that shit out lol n put hands on her…I don’t trust salah cus she does seem off but come on now if it’s the same gender don’t allow yourself to be pressured into shit y’all too grown to not know this
@@J.H.2.1oh shut uppppp. It was 3 years ago. She was younger and probably more insecure. The girl was kicked out of the house and in a very vulnerable position. People in strange situations do not always make rational decisions.
This is too messy to figure out imma go watch cartoons and they can figure out things for themselves
I hear ya there! 💯
Lmaoooo
Relatable 😂
That part 😂I'm sceptical of them all
Girl I'm on my way, lets watch samurai Jack 😂
This story breaks my heart, and there was something that Derrick said that reminded me of something that happened to me as a child. My classmates were picking on me, i was scared but I was laughing, when my teacher saw what was happeneing she put a stop to it but told me I shouldn't laugh when I'm scared. That has stuck with me for 20 years, it is ok to freeze up, it is ok to laugh, it is ok to emote how you need to emote when talking about or experiencing something scary. I hope Jade didn't take any ignorant comments to heart because those people didn't experience what she did in that moment. I wish her peace and healing.
Honestly think she was trying to help you but didn’t communicate that properly. Your response is your response. But laughing and smiling are more often considered to be “positive” reactions. Makes the perpetrator not actually feel like they’re doing anything wrong. That’s why parents aren’t supposed to laugh or smile at their kids’ bad behaviour. Unfortunately that encourages them to continue doing it. So just be mindful about how you appear to others.
@@kikialeaki1850 Yeah see that doesn't help if you aren't neurotypical. She didn't help she just made me feel bad because my emotions and their outward appearence don't always mix nor will they. Imagine telling someone to be normal when that doesn't compute for them.
@@kikialeaki1850 That’s her body/brain’s coping mechanism. Any and every adult with common sense should realize that and not tell someone how to feel, even more so a teacher.
@@CelesteMinerva lmfaooo why are you making this about you being neurodivergent, babes?? First off I said “trying to help.” TRYING. The intent and the outcome don’t have to necessarily align here. Secondly, neurotypicals laugh and smile in uncomfortable situations as well. If you were typical, you’d get the same spiel from your teacher because it still holds true. Laughing and smiling are viewed as positive expressions, just as frowning and pouting are viewed as negative expressions.
@@tainadelcaribe are y’all (1) slow or (2) illiterate? The words are written clear as day, so what exactly is holding you back from correctly interpreting my comment?
We have GOTTA stop automatically and immediately saying "we do not "victim blame" here"...asking questions and trying to better understand a situation because ppl DO lie and DO make shit up! Sometimes right out of thin air!!
I just love your content and how genuine you are! Thank you
I feel like some ppl may not want to believe the original girl who came forward just bc of her demeanor in her tiktok. Not everyone handles SA the same way. There is a vast difference in the first and the second girl. Either way, i believe both of them. Edit: I am one of those ppl who freeze when something bad or uncomfortable happens. No flight or fight for me. I just freeze and can't even scream, which scares me bc if something happens, i can't scream for help.
the first girl. You can tell she’s so hurt by it but has to slightly detach from the situation in order to even tell the story.I feel like her hurt has even turned into anger :(
I believe anyone without proof. Anyone can lie and anyone can seem convincing, to me tho the 1st girl didn’t seem convincing at all. Innocent until proven guilty but all accusations to be taken seriously and investigated thoroughly
@@brumtownmiller6130 accused are innocent until proven guilty, accusation are right until wrong.
It's a two way street, both of them need to be treated equally for a fair conviction. If not, the laws will be tip in the others favor which is not just.
Some feel scared, some feel defeated, some feel detached, some feel crazy, some feel dirty, some feel at fault, some feel rage. Some all the at different times. The first girl was going through like a giddy (nervous) rage. I've had that where like you can't sit still and nervously laugh as you are seething.
@@brumtownmiller6130innocent until proven guilty only applies to a court of law. We can believe victims even if they don't get legal justice 🤷♀️
She’s aesthetically a preference to most people so I feel like she may have used her “pretty privilege” to take advantage of people. Gross.
I agree with you... I thought the same thing.
I was thinking the exact opposite. She's way too pretty to be SAing people..
@@krystalynkerseywhat a stupid fucking way to think about SA. It has NOTHING to do with how attractive you are. No one's "too pretty" to SA or "too ugly" to be r*ped. Like that's a veeeeery poor comprehension of SA. Abusers don't abuse cos they're ugly or bc you're pretty 😂
@Spid4rsw3bz they're not saying she's so pretty she should have privileges. She's saying "she she's so pretty that many people are willing to sleep with her so there is no reason she needs to SA people" 🤦🏽♀️ how is that not very clear
@@Quice_Love because bringing looks into this is fucking stupid?
Thanks for trigger warning ❤
12:01 I think you did a great job explaining responses that people can have. Freezing up, nervous laughter
Ciara breaking my heart, I hope she’s able to find some peace one day❤
Yes! I was so touched by this.
You can hear it in her voice. She’d have to be a psychopath to fake that anxiety she’s clearly feeling.
Ik none of these girls deserved what happened to them and it’s honestly disgusting and heartbreaking to know how common sa and grape are
It’s always good that Derrik can always tackle topics like these❤
I mean to be fair, he gave one at the beginning and said what would be discussed so. There ya go.
Saw this video suggested to me on Facebook, I watched a minute of it, accidentally refreshed my page and the video was gone. Thank god I remembered Salah’s name and could find it here bc I knew this video was going to be very informative. Thank you for bringing awareness to this.
That girl and her boyfriend need to be put in jail ASAP these girls for sure were targeted because ain’t no way she just randomly just chose them 💔
WHO The Actual Hell Is Salah Brooks?…
Edit:Can U Guys Really Please Look At Comments Below Mine?.. There’s Other Peoples On Here RN!
Fr lol😂😂😂😂
Seriously
I know. Never heard of any of them.
If you use TikTok, you must be on the other side of the algorithm. She lives in a van, there’s nothing more to it 😂
@@A__Minadown by the river? 😂🤣😂
Sad part is, what these girls went through happens so much. I do hope these girls get their justice. I never got mine through the court but it felt so good to do it myself
I'm sorry you didn't get justice. You must be incredibly resilient to have taken it that far as not many take SA to a reporting stage. I sincerely hope that life is being kind to you now. Take care of yourself mentally and physically.
Don’t trust people. Plain and simple. Not victim blaming but there are bad people out there we have to build trust before being alone in rooms with ppl we don’t know.
i wish i had learned that earlier in life. i’ve always given the benefit of the doubt but unfortunately in most situations i assume the opposite mindset now.
Yup, the burden of proof lies on adults
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Not even. Because ppl you know will betray you 💯
I knew the ppl who SAed me 💯
I’ve been a victim, and also accused before. So, I have mixed emotions.
Now, my “being accused” situation was simpler, because they came forward and told the truth. Even after that, one person felt they did so out of fear because of my position. Two years later the guy she was dating at the time tells me that she’d told him that I was full of myself and she was going to knock me down a peg. But, she didn’t realize they were going to take her so serious and she got scared.
As far as being the victim, sometimes I feel my mouth was the reason I went through that. I will say, I’ve become an introvert when I was once extremely outgoing. Being a victim can be life altering… even when it leaves no physical evidence.
Those two are so weird. Prime example of why attention is not always good. There are lot of creepy people out there in the world and TikTok is no different. Just because someone has a lot of followers doesn’t indicate anything about their true character.
I choose to hear these women out without judgement. But I also will not accuse anyone without proof. Sometimes just listening and waiting is the best we can do for victims. It’s incredibly difficult to prove something like this but that in no way has anything to do with whether or not it happened. I can’t prove my assaults but THEY HAPPENED! I also am very aware (like many of you are) that people DO LIE. And that’s what’s makes this so hard. I wish healing and truth on this situation.
With SA, it's not always the 'thing' that's hard to talk about or that caused the trauma but the situation, coercion, pressure, etc. that makes you feel uncomfortable and unsafe
Did you just say that it's not always the assault that's hard to talk about?? Yes it is. Yes it is. Yes it is. It's always hard for everyone to talk about SA. Always.
Anyone is capable of the situation, the coercion, pressure etc. and it's actually the assault part that significantly changes the dynamics of the rest. Therefore, there's no separation from it all and ALL of it is part of the assault.
@@NativeVirgo no, that is a blanket statement that isn't true.
You can speak FOR YOURSELF only.
I have experienced SA and I am fine talking about it.
And it certainly wasn't a fucking boob touching me.
So please, speak only for yourself. Not all people have the same issues. I hope you learn that soon, because lumping everyone in one basket is wrong.
As a victim of sa, my therapist has made note of my facial expressions and behavior when speaking about that situation. I have smiled and nervously laughed not because I find it funny but because it helps me maintain some sort of control over my emotions. Instead of crying, I'd rather smile 🙂👍🏽
I've had this happen to me and I can tell you that when you wake up and automatically feel scared and uneasy, its for a reason and that comes with thinking if you say no you wont be able to leave. I feel for these ladies. 😢
This needs to go to the police not the internet
Anything for likes
I believe something off has happened. From what the girls are saying Salah was on drugs so she may not even remember violating them. Unfortunately, I've been around many addicts and in most cases when they come down they barely remember any of the awful things they do or say while high. I'm a plus sized girl that has been violated several times in the way sis in the video has, so I totally understand. Sometimes, we are a target by really poppin/attractive/powerful/well known people because they know others won't take our word over theirs. I hope every party involved gets healing.
That’s definitely a nervous smile, if someone can’t see that, they are completely socially inept
To stand up for her, I do that nervous laughing when someone is clearly breaking my sexual boundaries so I do understand her appearance when speaking. I also laugh nervously when describing the horrors of my childhood
When Selah said “I was sa’d I would never” I had to ignore her because she turned into what she endured. It’s sad but it happens very often that a person hurt will hurt others. Like 5 ppl ? Ma’am, no ma’am. She uses her stays as a way to threaten them into silence. I’m glad it’s no longer working
Poor victims!
To the second gal..it's ok. I've got your back as do many others. I hear the anxiety and ptsd in your shaking voice. I'm so sorry.
I believe you all, and I'm sad about how scared you all were to speak up. Sending love
But supporting a victim who is lying is supporting an abuser.. and sending the victim to jail? It’s such a sensitive issue and lots of nuance. You can’t just believe a person unfortunately either cause they could be the abuser, making up lies to make the victim look like the abuser.
Just imagine sending the victim to jail because you believed the abusers lies..
Honestly, most women & men are not lying about it. No, I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but, most of the time it’s a true accusation.
@@karas.6438yeah it's Been proven it's very rare for false accusations it's just more are being well known cause of social media where there was no social media back then or very little of it
@@mbooks5777 I’m sorry to hear that, it would be hard especially coming from family. Can I ask how you knew she was lying?
@@karas.6438 again then you would have to have proof to show that it’s true, if most cases don’t have evidence then we are going on assumption that most cases are true. And if they have evidence then that debunks the theory that most cases don’t have evidence. We have to make it make sense.
@@mbooks5777 damn, that’s fkd up! Did you ever say anything?
Ik of ppl that have done that too…bc they were embarrassed or ashamed the nxt day. In that case, the accuser should be put in prison for ruining someone’s life! For wasting the offers & the courts time, etc. wow!
It’s really sad that people are afraid to come out bc of the fear of being victimized again on apps and websites. Much love to all victims. Much Much love! 💕
Anytime I hear a story like this I just sit back and I'll be quiet I don't know if it's true I don't know if it's false all I can honestly tell you is that wasn't there I'm not involved so I don't have an opinion on it but if this honestly happened my heart goes out to the victim because that's traumatizing people don't understand you are affecting that person's life forever probably we don't know. But I do not blame the victim that's not a good thing to do nor do I automatically accuse the other person and say you are guilty I just sit back and be quiet because you never know
Me too until I'm absolutely sure I have facts!
But you didn't stay quiet....
It's all about reasonable assumption. If multiple people have claimed that these people did some evil stuff, it's probably true. Plus, why would the victims lie? Most of them have decent followings and would only gain minimal benefits in return. After careful examination, theo and sallah are scumbags that deserve jail time
The shaking while telling the story of Jade is Legit, I also feel this when i wanted to tell all the story that i kept for so long. Well specially for her the story is traumatizing..
these kind of people have no consequences til they do, I'm not a faithful tiktoker but know their type. this is pitiful and degrading as I'm a survivor of sexual abuse and incest myself. This is why we never get the justice we deserve because people make it a game 😢
False Accusations can ruin ppl - which is the point I suppose. Because I wouldn't let someone live with me I found myself arrested, fired, threatened, and my license to teach was revoked. I would never blame the victim but experience has taught me to reserve my opinion/judgment until I get the whole story and some type of proof even if it doesn't relate to the crime - bread crumbs
Note: ANY unwanted sexual attention is an assault, whether verbal and/or physical, if it’s unwanted it’s assault.
Consent: requires voluntary, sober, enthusiastic, creative, informed, mutual, honest, and verbal agreement. Consent is ongoing and must be asked for every step of the way. If you want to move to the next level of sexual intimacy, ask.
Last: if you ask and are answered by anything less than the above, do not proceed to discuss and never touch. Just stop, make sure that person is emotionally and physically safe, and separate from that person.
I think it’s sad. Salah needs help. Whatever is happening behind closed doors is wrong if it’s traumatic to others. Prayers sent.
She needs to be helped to prison.
@@NatureFreak1127Precisely.
You are so right about the nervous laughter and smiling thing I do the same thing
Your channle is one of the best youtube has to offer bro... never stop exposing these people
The girl with the dark curly hair who almost got a apartment with the accused, you can actually hear her voice shaking as she is trying to tell her truth 😢
Hey everyone, please stay safe. If you ever come across an unfortunate situation like this, please report it to the authorities. Even if you choose not to take it further, a paper trail is very helpful.
My heart goes out to the young woman. She was very brave in telling her story and I hope she can find peace❤
That's an awfully huge ask, no victim wants to relive the experience. And once you report it, you will be asked to repeatedly tell your story and at times in detail ... an awfully big and bordering on inconsiderate ask when you really think about it.
@@rodneymercado7195 weigh the pros and cons for you personally. But they’re not wrong that a paper trail is important.
@@rodneymercado7195 Also police don't believe victims either. They probably shrug their shoulders and ask "ok what do u want us to do?" Many go unreported because of the police is very unhelpful
@@rodneymercado7195 i regret not reporting my rapist, not a day goes by where i think of how many other kids were assaulted by him that came after me. If you have the opportunity, ALWAYS report it even if you have to relive it because you're saving future victims from going through what you've experienced.
@@Adam-mv4fw okay ... and why didn't you report it?
The way she’s jiggling and laughing uncomfortably lets me know it’s true… I’ve reacted the same way when telling someone about my assault.. the anxiety of recounting the whole thing made me ridiculously nervous and anxious
Nahhh, cause that’s an instant follow for the respect you had❤
Thanks dude
I love Salahs content but it’s things about her personality/mental health that never really sat right with me. Especially since her and Theos break up. I can totally see based on her personality and posible mental health issues she believing her approach to things was consensual when in fact she was the only one having fun 🤦🏽♀️ I’ve also questioned if she has borderline
I have bpd and have never put people in situations to SA them so. I think plain and simple she’s a spoiled predator that’s never been told no.
@@momstreet5916 oh I wasn’t suggesting that her possibly having BPD is what’s causing her to be shitty to people and SA people. I was just wondering if she was a candidate to have it. It was an unrelated thought. Sorry I should’ve worded that better
@user-dx6sv9zh2y I already addressed and clarified what I meant by my statement. I wasn’t implying anything.
Predator behaviour to young ones who are just starting out to experience paving their own journeys is dangerous and rampant.
Her sharping the knives while smiling... I honestly got scared
Ive always thought about coming out and say what my ex did to me. All the SA that happened to me the physical abuse. Part of me is terrified that he will try and come for me and my son. This is all I can do for now. Prays to those hurting.
Girl trauma dumped all this while cooking a piece of salmon 💀
The way the story is told alone is giving dramatic.
From personal experience, you absolutely do not know how you will react with this type of situation. I never thought I would freeze up when I was r***d almost 50 years ago. It was the first time it was tried in my teen years. I barely escaped a friend once. I glad you mentioned that you never know if you will freeze up. Sorry, it wasn't the first time it was attempted. Every woman I know has their own story.
Is this a response to the text messages at the end where we learn that the salmon filet lady was talking about Salah putting a boob on her?
@@KachiOkoronkwo what? 🧐
Hi derek , Wow i'm glad she's finally speaking out about it!!
Being involved in something like this before.... I can tell she's truly being honest........ SMH.......
I just don't understand how they are smiling or laughing when I had to tell my story I was in tears. It's just sad I hope they can heal I couldn't vent or pit this on tiktok so I hoped this helped them heal from it
Instead of me being pissed off at these women. I’m just gonna go ahead and let it go because you can’t save the world. But smh