Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Trauma Bonding: Know The Signs

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  • @MoosaGrace
    @MoosaGrace 4 місяці тому +68

    " the standard of how you love yourself should reflect in your partner" yes lebo yes 🙌🏽🙌🏽❤😊

  • @mphomomokheseng
    @mphomomokheseng 4 місяці тому +77

    Thato has definitely been bitten by the fashion bug, His fits are fire nowadays 🔥

  • @nolwazijele1280
    @nolwazijele1280 4 місяці тому +86

    The way I jump when you guys release an episode should be studied🤣

  • @KgosatsanaMahlohonolo
    @KgosatsanaMahlohonolo 4 місяці тому +82

    Can we have Lucas and Tladi back😭 even if it's once

  • @HealthFirstThenThem
    @HealthFirstThenThem 4 місяці тому +19

    These gents finish each others sentences 🤣🤣🙏🏽

  • @zekhethelongobese9530
    @zekhethelongobese9530 4 місяці тому +76

    On that point of having considerate partners, i feel like you guys need to raise the bar a little higher for yourselves (and i am saying this as a woman). A lady deciding to pay for 1 meal after you bought the last 5 isn't fair long term. If we quantify that in terms of percentage, thats roughly a 15/85 split. You're pouring in 85% and only getting 15% back? Aowa guys, i need you guys to experience the soft men era too. I also think our generation needs to start moving towards having these financial conversations when in relationships, women aren't exempt from Cyril's economy, a conversation about realistic financials regarding dates, food, outings, baecations etc needs to be had. Its always lowkey sad when i hear these scenarios where men spend sooooooooo much with little consideration from their partners

    • @kobebennette
      @kobebennette 4 місяці тому +2

      👏👏👏

    • @Channyy956
      @Channyy956 4 місяці тому +7

      Men are providers finish and klaar. If that dynamic works for u good for u. But there’s men that actually like being providers

    • @amogelanglegodi
      @amogelanglegodi 4 місяці тому +7

      @@Channyy956there are areas where women can put that 85% and men will have 15%. It can’t be balanced everywhere. So it isn’t low standards if a guy pays for more dates.

    • @palesaramo4839
      @palesaramo4839 4 місяці тому

      I honestly agree with you and this is why we get guys who are depressed and drained from relationships and end up just being smash and pass niggas only to avoid the spending because as ladies we don't want to be realistic and fair because you can't build with someone who is always expecting the nigga to do 85%
      I believe in spoiling a gent and giving him soft life and having financial talks

  • @maps6283
    @maps6283 4 місяці тому +37

    I felt like Thato is venting today🔥🔥

  • @kuts.thwala
    @kuts.thwala 4 місяці тому +97

    From Lebo not really showing appreciation to his content (last episode) to him reversing the negative chat and actually appreciating his content and realising that his content eats is nice to witness. Self cav is the best cav, shout out to him for that. (and shout out to Thato for always reassuring his brother) Annnnnd please carry on recommending more anime!!!! 🫶

  • @lifewithqueenSolo
    @lifewithqueenSolo 3 місяці тому +3

    I'm also a love bomber, but I maintain it, for years. It's just how I love. I'm just a romantic lover. I love closeness. I then get frustrated when it's not reciprocated & it's the main reason for my break ups. Then I have exe lovers who constantly want love back... And I don't know how to tone it down...

  • @_snakho9717
    @_snakho9717 4 місяці тому +30

    Please, I'm so guilty of laughing during confrontation/conflict as well😭 like wooooow re mo for real for real

    • @MoosaGrace
      @MoosaGrace 4 місяці тому +3

      If there's anything I hate as a shy person/ introvert is confrontation, because I don't know know how deal or feel about it 😩 😢😔

  • @KgahlisoNkosi-v6y
    @KgahlisoNkosi-v6y 3 місяці тому +2

    By far the best male podcast I've come across😩😩😂❤

  • @Lelo-of4rq
    @Lelo-of4rq 4 місяці тому +11

    Y’all please never stop making these kind of videos I am learning so much thank you so much for the amount of effort you put in this ❤

  • @rvlng7265
    @rvlng7265 4 місяці тому +9

    19:11 i don’t think it comes from a place of judging people for how quickly they’re moving on but it rather comes more from the fact that we all need time to grieve certain people and certain times in our lives. the emotions we don’t allow ourselves to fully experience always catch up with us one day.

  • @Andile-j53
    @Andile-j53 4 місяці тому +42

    Always spend below 200 😂
    I don't like to spend much on junk food ..I just consume it as reward for a monthly hardwork ❤

  • @banyanam100
    @banyanam100 4 місяці тому +6

    This gave me insight into a man’s world ❤️ well a good man that is

  • @kabomorolong197
    @kabomorolong197 4 місяці тому +13

    You gents are one of the Pods that can have a live audience show🤌🏾
    Topics are very engaging.

  • @MaleboD
    @MaleboD 4 місяці тому +10

    Thato, thank you for not holding back today, you should speak more, your feelings, where you at & & & Thank you Malume

  • @NaleZwane
    @NaleZwane 3 місяці тому +1

    There was so much in this that I feel like I need to listen twice !

  • @olgatalksmotlhabane8206
    @olgatalksmotlhabane8206 3 місяці тому +1

    These 2 balance each other out🙂Love them together ❤️

  • @italiatsotetsi8347
    @italiatsotetsi8347 4 місяці тому +7

    Therapy session in progress 😅😅❤️❤️❤️❤️Love you guys so much 📍

  • @thapiem9461
    @thapiem9461 4 місяці тому +8

    great seeing both of you on one screen 🌼

  • @cynthytlotlokgaileng7977
    @cynthytlotlokgaileng7977 4 місяці тому +19

    Seated with the favs!❤🥹

  • @lesegomalakalaka4914
    @lesegomalakalaka4914 4 місяці тому +2

    What a fire episode episode , thanks Rampedi brothers!✨I noticed that Thato kept interrupting Lebo ( I know it’s probably not deliberate but please be mindful next time ) he didn’t even get to ask the bonus question because he got cut, nonetheless thank you guys for this 🔥

  • @HareaiphaJack
    @HareaiphaJack 4 місяці тому +6

    While at university I used to have standards and dated people within a certain bracket, and I can attest when y'all talk about it backfiring. I think as broers we should try broadening the brackets we date into, for the experience and fun in general.

  • @philiswasithole1604
    @philiswasithole1604 4 місяці тому +3

    You guys are such a ball of sunshine ♥️🥹….. continue doing what you doing 🫶🏽

  • @vuyelobaloyi
    @vuyelobaloyi 3 місяці тому

    Lol came here from Spotify to tell Thato that the partner that you described is my friend, word for word from the ambition to how you describe consideration… I had to stop halfway cause your description without a doubt was her… hope when you ready for a relationship the universe leads you guys to meet❤

  • @Itsurshawdyboii
    @Itsurshawdyboii 4 місяці тому +3

    Lebo: “love is transactional.”
    Uhmm unfortunately it is very conditional too

  • @asandamabanga9246
    @asandamabanga9246 4 місяці тому +20

    “Gaslighting is a woman s favourite word” 😂😂😂 . Factss

    • @MoosaGrace
      @MoosaGrace 4 місяці тому

      Yeses 😭 😭 😭

  • @sellwanemacnolia2705
    @sellwanemacnolia2705 4 місяці тому +1

    I should be studying. Currently my Favorite Podcast.

  • @beautykakuwa
    @beautykakuwa 4 місяці тому +3

    All American best series ever❤

  • @enoch_adeyanju
    @enoch_adeyanju 3 місяці тому +1

    😂😂😂I'm new here. This is my first episode, and I just wanna say, you guys are amazing and funny 🙌🏽💪🏾
    Keep up the good work

  • @siyamajay
    @siyamajay 3 місяці тому

    You guys have really improved soo much when it comes to podcasting. Enjoyed every minute of it ❤

  • @Emmanuelk_
    @Emmanuelk_ 4 місяці тому +18

    Word of the podcast is “papa”🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @nokwandamagwaza8961
    @nokwandamagwaza8961 4 місяці тому +1

    I love you guys and I wish more men or guys were more open like this also women are learning a lot about guys ❤ and also learning a lot about how you should love yourself as a person ❤️ 🎉🎉🎉more love for you guyz really appreciate what you doing ❤️

  • @reamorena3509
    @reamorena3509 4 місяці тому +5

    On a genuine level, though. The vibrancy in this video in comparison to the last video shows that you are both resting. Burnout is a thing and it is real. As you're managing your 10,000 business ventures, remember to take care of yourselves and your minds.

  • @lindokuhle5468
    @lindokuhle5468 4 місяці тому +1

    I know I’m sitting on the other side but I’d love to have a conversation with you guys. The way you guys observe each other and are so honest without being afraid to hurt each other’s feelings is admirable.
    Also , I’m stuck on “you are not compatable with everyone “. I have Lebo's tendencies 🤭 and I’m just going to sit with that for now.
    Thank you ❤️

  • @Andile-j53
    @Andile-j53 4 місяці тому +5

    Saving the podcast for later ❤

  • @SimplyMondy
    @SimplyMondy 4 місяці тому +4

    Where do we draw the line between being strategic with someone’s child & so called “setting boundaries for yourself”

  • @austin_XXV
    @austin_XXV 4 місяці тому +18

    Oh so you guys are alive, wena where is As Majita?

  • @dineomashao4840
    @dineomashao4840 3 місяці тому

    Rampedi brothers this whole episode was fire okay!!🔥🔥❤️

  • @girly_kaise
    @girly_kaise 4 місяці тому +2

    Always looking forward to watching you guys😊

  • @zamambele9830
    @zamambele9830 4 місяці тому +1

    Thato ukhulile bandla 😊 wish y'all all the best on your journey of self discovery.

  • @latitalaselo
    @latitalaselo 4 місяці тому +2

    Lebo & Yanda Woods would really make a good couple ❤

  • @Ole_Mooketsii
    @Ole_Mooketsii 4 місяці тому +1

    Love you guys so much!! You're both doing amazing!! 💋❤🐐

  • @ThandoN-jc5yf
    @ThandoN-jc5yf 4 місяці тому +12

    "'i love to start the season strong'"😭😭😭

  • @debraphiri644
    @debraphiri644 4 місяці тому

    I absolutely enjoy this podcast and get to learn a lot about myself too

  • @SincerelyPearlM
    @SincerelyPearlM 4 місяці тому +3

    The Rampedi brothers 🔥🔥🔥

  • @thembangubeni99
    @thembangubeni99 4 місяці тому +1

    Great episode guys🙏🏼

  • @MoetK21
    @MoetK21 4 місяці тому +6

    Our big brothers 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

  • @nonhlethubelihlemlotshwa3154
    @nonhlethubelihlemlotshwa3154 3 місяці тому

    I honestly watch this for Lebo🥹🥹

  • @Dimphokruger
    @Dimphokruger 3 місяці тому

    Thanks a lot for this podcast ❤love it

  • @kobebennette
    @kobebennette 4 місяці тому +4

    Looks great to have a brother ...... Big ups bros ❤

  • @GracefulYvonne
    @GracefulYvonne 4 місяці тому

    Just do what you want, isss your life bro!!!! ❤❤

  • @lindokuhle5468
    @lindokuhle5468 4 місяці тому +6

    Thanks

  • @KgahlisoNkosi-v6y
    @KgahlisoNkosi-v6y 3 місяці тому

    Bathong I love these brothers hle😩❤

  • @Gigi_Mabii
    @Gigi_Mabii 4 місяці тому +2

    I love it over here ❤️

  • @mpumidlamini_5
    @mpumidlamini_5 4 місяці тому +18

    R400 on uber eats is crazy😂😂talk about being greedy.....R200 for my meal is enough and that R200 includes service fee and wat not. R200 isharp

  • @nolwazizondi1306
    @nolwazizondi1306 4 місяці тому +1

    Khona into ekhona la!!!👏🏾🔥

  • @nellykekana3829
    @nellykekana3829 4 місяці тому +5

    the way i jumped?!😭

  • @malwandesimelane6140
    @malwandesimelane6140 4 місяці тому +3

    Most people bread crumb the opposite of love bombing.

  • @lethabo_m1532
    @lethabo_m1532 4 місяці тому +3

    38:40 I cried😭

  • @LettaNoge
    @LettaNoge 4 місяці тому +2

    I know when Lebo spoke about his friend who loves love but acts like a "F-boy" he was talking about Gontse and i also love when Thato finishes a sentence and your like, "papa".😂😂😂

  • @SibsM93
    @SibsM93 4 місяці тому +1

    Great talk gents

  • @nokwandamathebula7952
    @nokwandamathebula7952 4 місяці тому +3

    Haibo Thato and Kamo broke up😢?

  • @siphiwayinkhositfwala1436
    @siphiwayinkhositfwala1436 4 місяці тому

    I feel like Lebo, I’ve watched everything.

  • @everythang.irie.
    @everythang.irie. 4 місяці тому +3

    I don’t really spend that much on Uber Eats. KFC All Star Box then I’m good. That’s less than R120 btw

  • @sthembilembatha280
    @sthembilembatha280 4 місяці тому

    Im not even deep into anime like that but demon slayer was soo fire🔥🔥🔥

  • @juniormanyokole42
    @juniormanyokole42 3 місяці тому

    This was great

  • @Ayoo-n14
    @Ayoo-n14 4 місяці тому +1

    "Yes papa"😂❤

  • @cecilia28548
    @cecilia28548 4 місяці тому +2

    My faves🥺❤️

  • @dayzwcherrybaby
    @dayzwcherrybaby 3 місяці тому

    “mama”🥺

  • @zox.music.006
    @zox.music.006 4 місяці тому

    Am learning a lot W

  • @zainRaphael
    @zainRaphael 4 місяці тому +1

    seated makes me question my relationships with people and my compatibility, and if I truly do love myself🥲.

  • @mihlaliiii
    @mihlaliiii 4 місяці тому +2

    The boys❤

  • @itumelengmabuya9644
    @itumelengmabuya9644 4 місяці тому +1

    "Gaslight'nyana... it's a braai Papa"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @leratorosemary9513
    @leratorosemary9513 4 місяці тому

    BARS!!!

  • @melaluxe8195
    @melaluxe8195 4 місяці тому +6

    Lebo reka sofa😂😂😂😂

  • @Svuyo
    @Svuyo 4 місяці тому

    Ey the way i relate with this episode

  • @reamorena3509
    @reamorena3509 4 місяці тому +1

    Let me save this video as a reference for the future because the golden tips lie here. Y'all came for us, though; clearly, that AirBnB did you well.
    Ba re "ladies love dating broke gents" "they love build-a-gent"......
    "Ladies, don't give this guy things that you struggle to give to yourself, and don't give this guy things he wouldn't even, on a normal day, give himself."

  • @Sage_Blaq
    @Sage_Blaq 4 місяці тому +22

    Did I miss something or is Thato is single now?

    • @mmatsietumiso7842
      @mmatsietumiso7842 4 місяці тому +3

      Bruh I'm also asking myself the same thing

    • @GefteMachivene17
      @GefteMachivene17 4 місяці тому +7

      I heard rumors on Twitter but now I see that he's dropping hints that the allegations are true

  • @LaoTheDesigner
    @LaoTheDesigner 4 місяці тому +8

    dammmmn Lebo is funny

  • @Zanele-pk8ty
    @Zanele-pk8ty 4 місяці тому +1

    Quick question
    How do get the Voda bundles

  • @boipelommileng
    @boipelommileng Місяць тому

    41:29 Thato is describing reciprocation. You're constantly initiating and bringing them into your world, but they're just not that into you. It's that simple.

  • @Pleasantgirly
    @Pleasantgirly 3 місяці тому

    Lebo and Yanda🥰🥰🥰I can see it 😂❤❤

  • @thandekabhengu3313
    @thandekabhengu3313 4 місяці тому

    Oh I love All Americans 😭❤️

  • @zox.music.006
    @zox.music.006 4 місяці тому

    Crazy that am also in a break 😂😂

  • @LelowMokoena
    @LelowMokoena 3 місяці тому

    I heard that ....😂😂😂 25:54

  • @pinkhappynesslady5331
    @pinkhappynesslady5331 4 місяці тому +2

    Thato is really sweet

  • @thapelo8058
    @thapelo8058 4 місяці тому

    Lebo ,no you can't be single,what????😮 aowa wena wa rata ,I'm sure there are lovely ladies that would appreciate and respect you,aker men does the loving ..😊nah

  • @ELAMANDLOVU
    @ELAMANDLOVU 4 місяці тому

    After all American, watch All American:homecoming

  • @Svuyo
    @Svuyo 4 місяці тому

    Haibo I've been single for 5 years

  • @EduGlad.
    @EduGlad. 4 місяці тому +4

    To be honest Thato and Lebo, this is unprofessional broelas. Being quiet about AS MAJITA knowing very well that Sunday has long passed and you haven’t uploaded anything and you don’t say anything? Y’all should do better.
    This started as a joke, moving from Sundays to Mondays, from Mondays to Tuesdays. From Tuesdays to Nondays. We are your followers and we deserve the heads up on whether content is dropping or not.

  • @malwandlesyabonga7787
    @malwandlesyabonga7787 4 місяці тому

  • @ZusipheFokazana
    @ZusipheFokazana 4 місяці тому +1

    ❤😊😊

  • @iMbaulaPodcast
    @iMbaulaPodcast 4 місяці тому

    🙏☺️✊🏾

  • @thatommamohau
    @thatommamohau 4 місяці тому

    9:29 😂😂😂

  • @mahtlisto1083
    @mahtlisto1083 4 місяці тому +11

    I think respecting your Subscribers is important, AS MAJITA didn't post and you guys are just silent, would we be wrong to unsubscribe??

    • @mashotomalatsi7101
      @mashotomalatsi7101 4 місяці тому +4

      They went on a trip. They are obviously working on content.
      But each to their own

    • @mahtlisto1083
      @mahtlisto1083 4 місяці тому

      ​@@mashotomalatsi7101okay since u r part of As Majita group

    • @GefteMachivene17
      @GefteMachivene17 4 місяці тому

      ​@@mahtlisto1083if you've been following their IG you'd see that they traveled. But I think the problem here is them not letting people know that they won't be uploading and keeping people in the loop

    • @italiatsotetsi8347
      @italiatsotetsi8347 4 місяці тому +7

      It’s your entitlement for me 😞and the threat to unsubscribe that is so Low😢

    • @mahtlisto1083
      @mahtlisto1083 4 місяці тому

      @@italiatsotetsi8347 it's my time that I use to watch them, so yes I am entitled.

  • @Lethabo-591
    @Lethabo-591 4 місяці тому

    Atleast R250 is fine R400 is way too much

  • @keo9179
    @keo9179 4 місяці тому +2

    Manje where is Caiah & Mpho ? y’all hogging the platform

  • @ThatoRammela
    @ThatoRammela 4 місяці тому +11

    29:16 nna I feel like when someone gaslights me, they are insulting my intelligence, like what do you mean what saw is not what I saw and then that person says I’m crazy, okay wena psychologist ka di diagnosis 😂😭