How ‘Parental Burnout’ Is Affecting Families Across US
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- The results from a new study from Ohio State University shows 66% of parents feel burned out right now. NBC’s Morgan Radford reports for TODAY on spotting the signs and how to handle the stress.
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Try being a teacher and trying to manage 25+ of them at one time while actually trying to TEACH. Behaviors have gotten so bad in classrooms, teachers are leaving in droves.
Because most teachers are weak, authoritarians and they don't want to be indoctrinated by public school BS. Behavior is bad yes, but good teachers know how to relate to their students and gain their respect. Let the bad teachers leave. Parents also need to raise their kids better and have a bigger part in classrooms.
Teaching is not appreciated anymore and parents push the parenting responsibility on schools. Thanks for serving our American children.
I was a teacher with 40 well behaved children in the classroom. No problems-it's ALL YOU.
Maybe not a bad thing since they aren’t afraid to groom the kids and teach them things they have zero business talking about. What happened to reading, writing, math….skills they actually need in life? Instead they are learning how have fake genders and pronouns and CRT crap.
@@chrissyellem7397 Clearly you haven't stepped foot in a classroom recently. Why don't you go back now and report back to us with your findings.
_Not_ becoming a parent was the *single best decision* I ever made. As my mother once said “having children is a thankless job that never ends.”
I respect that you made such a decision. More people need to realize the don't actually want kids or don't have it in them to raise a child to adulthood. There is no shame in it. So many ppl are pressured by society and family to have kids then regret it, though the will never admit it.
That's good you chose that path for you... but there is thanks it comes in many ways eventually but it comes ❤️
Same! Best decision.
Definitely advantages and disadvantages! I love it, but 100% know it takes the right kinda of person just like most jobs! Seriously good on you for knowing what let's you live your best life!! ❤
@@daebak_hana Hana it's no shama have kids and no shame on not having kids at all in your life. One of them is me I don't want kids right now but due to health issues that I have. I don't want my kids to have the sme problems for them. Plus the time and hardsip that you have to deal with kids from baby to adulthood. Plus the cost of everything for a single person is so much, I can't have one more parent to feed right now. Plus I am legal adult under the law but ethic I am a kids.
To be honest, most grandparents and family members choose to be absent not only from their adult children's lives but their grandchildrens. No one wants to be a grandparent anymore. The famous quote, "I raised my kids already" but they forget they had free child care from their parents... the nerve. Generations are changing and the whole hating kids agenda is starting to really bug me.
I’m sure our culture of living individually (as opposed to with grandparents or aunts/uncles) plays a big role in this. It takes a village to raise a child.
Yep….cultures in Africa, Asia, & Middle East live with or near extended families. Grandparents, aunts, & uncles help raise kids in other cultures. The western world is bent on the single family lifestyle, meanwhile it’s totally normal to live near relatives who can help burn out parents in other nations.
But these days, women choose to have at a much order age too etc. Also back in the day, couples could survive on one salary. Now in most cases, parents need to work.
Bingo. I was mainly raises by my Grandmother, stayed around cousins, great-uncle, Great-grandmother, several different family members as an only child. Flash forward to today, I'm essentially raising 2 all by myself while my husband is working around the clock. Mom often wonders why I'm so burned out. You can't fathom until you've experienced it.
It also takes an active and involved FATHER. Most men think the woman should do most of the work of parenting AND running the household! That's not only impractical but unfair!😐
Now you a single mom
Nobody is going to raise your kids for you
This made me feel SO validated. Thank you for speaking about this. This is definitely a public health problem
This isn't new but now it's a public health issue because it's affecting a certain group
Exactly
Who might that group be
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Facts!
No it's because that certain group put their older parents in homes instead of living together. The grandparents help raise children in Latino families so the load isn't so bad. Not to mention the fact that families used to be able to survive on one income and now they can't.
We have 1 child he’s almost 4, we work full time and grandparents help babysit here and there. Honestly this is perfect for us. We have all the joy of having a child, and we’re not killing ourselves with stress because we have help. However we have decided not to have more, it will be unbearable. I don’t know why people put them through so much misery to have kids that they clearly can’t handle.
I don’t know why people choose to have only one child. Only children are the worst. They require 100% attention. Drain everyone’s energy in the room. Cannot self sooth it entertain self or play quietly without a device in hand. Very selfish of you not to give your child a lifelong playmate and teammate.
@@elizabethmonsell1847what a stupid and insensitive comment. It’s up to each family to decide the size of their families for God s sake!!!
@@elizabethmonsell1847 do you have any data that only children behave worse that children with siblings? Any studies at all?
I have a sibling. My parents accidentally got pregnant with her. It would have been better for them to have one child. They had the finances but they didn't have the parenting bandwidth
A sibling is NOT "lifelong playmate and teammate" the people who think that another human is a playmate for another are immature. For one thing, my sibling and I have lived in different countries since college (17 years old for me and 14 years old for her). 14 years is not "lifelong" and she also had friends her age when she was little
I have no kids and I get to do whatever I want everyday
Don’t have kids. Problem solved.
Literally was just in my car crying, stressed and over it.. contemplating either running away or ending it all. So glad I found this video.
You are enough! It's okay to ask for help! It's okay to miss an event of your childs. Let someone take that responsibility. You got this !
It will get better.
Sending love and prayers your way💞💞. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you are overwhelmed. You are not alone.
@@tanyaborden2621 Thank you!🙏🏾
@@leahabenyam8915 yes it will , thank you 🙏🏾
I don’t understand why people choose to have so many kids. 4 kids is a lot for anyone, but it’s absurd for a working parent. This is why so many kids act like lunatics in school. Parents are too overwhelmed to guide their children to be successful. Not all parents, but too many…
Agreed and it creates a community of socially indept children. Especially when they are now raised by tablets and TV.
Yep
Who is asking us to do 'all these different things'? Some of it is needs, some of it is choice and priorities and the amount of community we've managed to build up around us.
As teachers we are seeing this as well..... I have many students that their parents have checked out. Many of the behavior problems with my students link to parenting issues. 😢
Wow that is so sad
When women entered the workforce the household and children suffered.
@@kimkaragiannis848 no societies expectations of women because increasingly unrealistic. No one wants the 50’s back…
@@kimkaragiannis848💯
Kids are given no chores, no responsibilities and then parents push these same kids into sports, wrestling, karate, basketball, etc. Helicopter parents are causing this. My grandparents had 11 children and they all had to do something to help out around the house. Yes, a three year old can do chores.
Totally agreed. My kiddo was 1 and a half when they started helping emptying the dishwasher and folding laundry(hand towels). Back in the farmer days, they had to help as early as possible. Even if its filling the water to the chickens, they needed to do it. Give them some responsibility!
Chores are very important for skill building we don't realize the disadvantage of not doing chores
My great-grand parents had 14 and they certainly didn’t put up with the things that do-called “modern day” parents do now. And it’s not their faults really, but at the same time we need to do better not just for ourselves but for our children and future generations.
This is why...I choose to live in poverty over working full-time and raising 3 kids on my own. We have everything we need. Our house is old but my kids are emotionally healthy and we love one another....I don't even work anymore and I am still exhausted every day.
How about having less children 🤔 or an education!
@Home super weak
Information load and not enough sleep makes me feel like that. I try to rest ad much as possible and my energy comes back. Also faith and rest in God takes so much pressure off. Jesus sees all you go through, you are not alone!! Come to Him and He will give you rest for your weary soul. God bless you and your family!! 💜💜
You work a lot mom but not for money… God bless your family
Wow that is quite a choice I do applaud you
What exactly did you think being a parent was like? Unicorns and rainbows? Maybe society should flat-out be honest and not lie to people about the "joys" of parenthood. Truth is it sucks.
It only sucks when you don’t have a man bringing home money
It can be very difficult, but my experience of raising five children is one of incredible thankfulness and joy in the relationships we have with one another.
According to the data, that's true
Exactly happy im childfree
It only sucks if you don't have traditional values and skills to pass on to your offspring. This country has turned its tide.
I'm a Gen-Xer with no kids. My parents are boomers with big families (6 and 7 kids). I have so much respect and admiration for the family dynamic of my parents, aunts and uncles. It seems so much has changed now. Why is everyone competing for a "busy badge of honor?" Is there some kind of award for putting your kids in 500 activities and trying to appear like a super mom or dad? Why does everyone have to fill their calendars with 5,000 things to do??????
I have never wanted kids, and even less so now. Hats off to those of you raising your kids the right way in these crazy times. Things sure have changed!
Not to mention the pressure of using social media to prove to everyone you have the perfect kids/families AKA "Highlight reel syndrome." Meanwhile s*it is hitting the fan. Yikes!
It’s all a scam and a farce. I was having this conversation with a client of mine where both of us aren’t having kids until we have fully dealt with the woes of our dysfunctional childhoods. And then we’re still at a loss because we don’t have a village (I saw your comment on another’s post). These achievers of seemingly perfect parenting as you have described above haven’t done the work and are simply trying to outrun the fact that they must prove and show off their worth in some form or another because their parents really had no clue to pass on. All the while they are perpetuating a cycle that isn’t sustainable for our country. I’m not worried about a viral pandemic like the next COVID. Your body can fend off viruses and diseases if your mental health is in order. Our biggest threat isn’t external. I fear we’re going to self sabotage and implode. I’m a Millennial by the way.
@@user-ajp-4891 So well said. Sad but true! The real pandemic is mental health!
Well nobody forced you to have children
Years ago a Saintly woman / coworker told me she got a cleaning team ….and it saved her marriage !
This has been going on since America started I used to babysit myself at nine years old now that’s not even legal
Us 70's kids never acted like these spoiled children of today. We had daily chores, helped our parents out with younger siblings, had a set time for homework, dinner, and 8 pm bedtime. We got up early, had breakfast, got dressed by OURSELVES perfectly fine. We had time for FUN on weekends when all of our chores were done. We knew how to read, write, and do math because we actually attended school daily and on time.
I got happy just reading this I thought of my child hood
Life has changed very much so
@@shannonjohnson4314 Yes I live in the past it's better memories.
It's the television. Parents are exposing kids to television as young as 5 months old. The kids are getting tablets and phones. They watch these happy go lucky cartoons they call "educational" but really it's deprogramming their minds from reality. They will then expect their parents to behave like the little characters on the toons and when they don't, they act out. I see kids in 3rd world countries as young as 2 doing chores and being mild mannered helping parents. It's not child abuse it's a way of life. We could learn a thing or 2. We want to give our kids what we never had but now they're becoming spoiled and entitled with 0 work ethic. Then when they grow up they resent their parents for not teaching them how to live on their own.
@@velfcookie4734 Exactly.
That’s why I’m so happy with my one child. It really is the best of both worlds.
I'm so happy to be childfree!!!
Stay that way. Or have one and be done lol
@@victoria-qq4jr nah imma stay that way...i like my sleep...and peace lol
@@saramatthews7159 lol 😂 even better
@@victoria-qq4jr lol
Ditto. I'm still raising myself. I can't imagine. LOL
I am a homemaker and homeschool our 3 children. We have peaceful, wonderful days. Never feel burned out. We live within our means on my husbands modest salary of $53k. Women can do anything, but not everything. God, husband, children, home… in that exact order.
Idk where you live but that would be impossible for most, And some people like to work and be a mom.
Where do you live? I am a homemaker and homeschooler and I’m so burned out. But I love homemaking and homeschooling…. But I do have high expectations and am not kind to myself. I never sit down and just live in the moment.
Plus In California, we can’t just live in a simple income. That’s stressful.
@@kita3256 We live in Ohio, just outside of Cleveland. We bought our home during the last recession for pennys on the dollar. My husband is also a state government employee so we have great health insurance for $198/mon for family of 5. His job limits where we can move though and though he could make more somewhere else the insurance is why w3 have chosen this path. I recognize a smaller mortgage and affordable insurance make it easier for us but there’s many things we don’t do like car loans, smartphones, eating out, buy new, etc. I stay within a grocery budget and our spending is well below my husbands net income. I highly recommend Mom Delights for homeschooling inspiration. We school for an hour or 2 a day.
@@katiejane6761 I think it’s more possible than anyone would think. It’s not how much money you make but how you choose to spend it. I don’t have an iPhone but I do get to stay home with my kids.
@@Rootsofgrace I agree with you 100%. Started homeschooling this year (kindergarten and 1st grade) and it has been a complete joy. We finish by lunch time, then go to swim class or the park to get those jiggles out. I used to work, then I got to stay home and I love it, it's way more stressful "doing it all" no wonder these moms are so burnt out. I get date nights with my husband, go to Bible study for some "me-time" so I'm always checking off my boxes to make sure I take care of my self and my relationships. What you said about not owning an I-phone is spot on. We also don't own "new cars" and shop at consignment stores sometimes, we are able to save college funds for our kids and are close to paying off our home all with just 1 salary. It takes some determination and planning, but it can be done. Staying home to raise our 2 has been a privilege and a blessing and i wouldn't have it any other way.
Watching this while sipping my latte in child-free 👀👀
Parental burnout? Just don’t have kids. This is what comes along with the job.
I disciplined my 3 children. They never behaved like this. I worked and got 2 degrees because my household was decent and in order.
Sounds like you had help
@@winning3329 my family was the same as this and they didn’t have “help”.
And your point is? That's good for you but it is completely irrelevant and it sounds like you are trying to shame people who are struggling which is pretty toxic. Do you have any helpful advice on how to be perfect or were you just born that way?
Congrats lol
Discipline is important especially at a very young agen
I homeschool my 5 kids (one with special needs). The problem is that most parents dont actually parent anymore they depend on teachers and daycares to be their parent. I actually like being around my kids and choose them over a career
Back in the day, parents used to tell their kids to hush up or go outside if they were getting out of hand. Which I actually appreciate now because it forced us to become more independent and learn how to entertain/fend for ourselves. There seems to be an awful lot of neurotic overcoddling going on and I wonder what this generation is going to be like as adults.
My husband is like that. He won’t let them do anything unless he’s hovering over them. I grew up the same way you descibe. I had to get out, ride my bike around the trailer park, and look for friends. My parents would see me later.
Can't be a modern woman and have a good experience being a mom. They are incongruent. Leave the office and raise yo kids, mommies!
😂…wait, let me catch my breath… oh thank you for that laugh. Now, wanna know why you can’t have a good experience as a “modern woman”? Because so called modern times, have forgotten that not just women but the entire family unit lacks proper social support. Heck, you noticed the father wasn’t sitting there echoing the same thing right? Because how dare women want to be fulfilled not just by being a parent, but also productive and educated outside the home. So what happens, she takes on that infamous second shift. Women can have good experiences as modern women and in fact do, when they have equal partnerships and strong familial and social supports. But thank you for trying to further that patriarchal BS that keeps these unhealthy cycles of burnout alive 🙄.
@@nikkids4266 you sound like a joy to be around.😊🙄🙄
@@mermaidmomma3696 actually I am, thank you.
Bingo!
@@nikkids4266 beautifully said! Your comment filled my heart with JOY!
Its excuses and these parents not tryingto be accountable.
my hubby and I are full time workers, take care of our 2 kids full time, doing our Bachelors degree full time and homeschooling our kindergarter full time and im pregnant with my 3rd.
You have to be organized and diaspline your child.
Your children NEED a routine. You have to put them on a routine.
ALSO DELET SOCIAL MEDIA. I ONLY use youtube. I deleted the rest. I bet you she uses at least 2 hours of her day being online... not productive.
Since when is being a parent newsworthy?
I'm a mother of 2 and my oldest is autistic and my 3 year old is still in his terrible 2s. We live below the poverty line, so yeah I get overwhelmed a lot but I also have so much joy in my life. It's because of God!!!! I thank God everyday for my beautiful babies and our life we are blessed with.
Thank God for you
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Becoming a parent has taught me so much about giving things up. You learn to fill your life with those spiritual things to have faith and ask God for help. Thanks for your comment.
No one is addressing the elephant in the room.
Which is?
Solution…don’t have kids, it saves money, sleep, plenty of trips, plenty of self care time, no body fat from parenting.
I want to feel compassion for the people experiencing this but I keep thinking; nobody forced you to have children? Work on the other hand is inevitable for living, bringing children in your life is in most cases a choice you only made to make yourself more happy..
With appropriate planning, expectations, and frugal living, families can give their children nurture, care, and protection raising them at home. Children naturally want and need their mothers, not hired care givers. Children were not meant to grow up in 'centers,' they were given to parents whose parental instincts were to guide and equip them into loving and serving their children in the intimate setting of the home.
Motherhood is a full-time job and responsibility, especially during a child's formative years. Children want and need much one-on-one attention from their parents. Their misbehavior is a cry for help. Perpetually stressed parents is an indicator that the modern-day two-income model is not serving us well. Traditional roles in marriage and the home serve everyone well. Simplify. Declutter. Scale-down. Be thrifty and creative. De-stress. Prioritize time with and the nurture of the children during their fleeting formative years. Enjoy your children.
I def agree. And it proves substantive because the state of society. Though history proves it was not like this for everyone, there was a time when some enjoyed these efforts, while others were forcibly and intentionally denied.
Due to GREED ppl want(ed) more than they need.
Now even the climate is out of whack.
YES you said it well.
Your message is good and appropriate. Unfortunately modern parents want to have it all. All! Without realizing we don't get to have it all without someone suffering for it
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Totally agree! Both parents working and not giving children attention is not productive to child rearing. If you can't commit to raising kids with all the time and resources that are required. You shouldn't have kids. It's selfish to do so just because you want to be a parent.
Its called being a parent, not easy.
I think this is also what happens when everyone is expected to have children. I want kids but I'm not going to be rushed to do it. But there's always that pressure from your family, friends and society. You have so many parents who never actually wanted kids, had them, now they're miserable and so is the child. If you don't want kids or aren't ready, just don't have them. You'll truly be doing the world, the child and yourself a favor.
Discipline is needed.
That's motherhood, no one said is was easy.
Teach children at a young age to do chores.
Father's need to play a bigger role in house chores.
I was wondering why they didn't interview the father too. Is he feeling burnt out? If not, maybe mom and dad need to be sharing the load more. You're spot on about discipline and teaching the kids to contribute. Little ones don't need to go out and get a job, but if they don't learn to wash a dish or fold some laundry now (which would help with "parental burnout," when are they going to learn these skills?
@@letmeapologize I wondered that as well.
I have two kids, I talk with them about life as a adult, that is every one lives together and need to work together as a unit to accomplish set goals.
They are adults who work hard, can cook very well, they tend to household chores and they don't mind it.
As a parent, boundaries are needed, moral values instilled, and no excuse for bad behavior.
Most of all, I walk the ways of Jesus.
Got to walk the talk.
I was disciplined to the point I had PTSD
@@winning3329 almost isn't the same as having PTSD.
Discipline is key in not having farel children.
I don't know your situation, but parents are usually trying to stop the children from misbehaving.
My mom wasn't afraid of tanning our bottoms, glad she did, it kept me on a good path .
I rather hurt a bottom then see that child self destruct.
@@winning3329 Oof! That's not discipline, that's abuse. Sorry to hear you went through that. Hope you're doing better now.
I am single mom and no child support and work 10 hour days most weeks. I think it also goes into work environments as well. It is more demand to be superhuman at work and take on more stress due to low staff or higher expectations from employers. With the inflation it is even more stressful to be able to afford to live even frugally. I have to take on more hours and taht takes from time with my son or even just to relax. I do not feel it is parents being lazy but more to trying to provide and survive right now. Even schools are putting unrealistic demands on children and teens that is leading to anxiety and depression and even suicide statics on the rise. We live in a much harder time and its impact are leading to this. I do agree with a comment I read here about kids in the 70s and even 80s that were expected to be more responsible at home. I think it is really important to teach our children how to be responsible and help out. Many kids nowadays are link to video games or cell phones. Not saying that they do not need to have fun but to also learn to help more even if cleaning up their room or helping with dishes.
Call me crazy, but I truly believe this is what has led to the recent surge of parents killing their children. Parental burnout is bad enough. Add a traumatic event and mental instability, you have the perfect conditions for somebody to snap. I know people are so quick to judge the parents, but unless you've ever experienced some very serious and difficult situations, or have had a nervous breakdown, you can't possibly understand what drives people to commit heinous acts. I'm not excusing or condoning it! I'm just acknowledging that when people are faced with difficulties they've never experienced before (such as single parenting) and don't have the appropriate support systems in place, or they don't have a resilient spirit, all too often there are tragic outcomes.
The truth is this pandemic was unpresidented and everyone including children were met with confusing and sometimes unhappy feelings never felt.
I feel burnt out every day and have one toddler. It's crazy to see only 66 percent experience it sometimes. I thought everyone was like me...
A lot of burnout people don't realize they are burnout. A lot of people are walking this earth unaware of their own emotions. A lot of people are achievement oriented and would never admit to themselves that they have failed (as they see it) by being burnout. They suffer, keep it all inside, and get the job done. And unfortunately they usually take a deep pride in that and ridicule and shame others who do not.
@@kathleenkathleen6381yes the ambitious ones tend to be the shamers
this is why it once you had a village to raise kids maybe?
Lol I'm just curious did they get a understanding of the parents parenting style, how old the kids were, the socioeconomic, the education level, race, how much their partner is involved? Cause let's be honest that all plays a role.
Why are we calling it "parental" burnout when EVERYONE KNOWS IT'S "MOTHERING" BURNOUT? DADDIES, WHERE ARE YOU? YOU NEED TO HELP RAISE YOUR CHILDREN!!! THE KIDS ARE HALF YOURS, DO YOUR SHARE OF THE PARENTING DUTIES!! BRING THE DISCIPLINE(NO VIOLENCE, PLEASE)! Also, 5 minute breaks aren't going to cut it...Moms need a wife, too!🤷🏾♀️😐
I don't even have kids but my nephews are too much especially the toddler I thank God every day that I don't have any kids such a burden.
Every single parent and their circumstances are different, so cut the judgmental Supermom bullsh*t. Nobody has a right to judge these parents if they’re trying their best with what they have. You critics
It’s interesting how they didn’t mention the whereabouts of the 4 children’s father???????
WOW! Thinking about my ancestors who had to work 23 hours in a day, forced to take care entire families and their own... Even bathing and dressing grown, healthy women and men. Never getting a break(or compensation) for centuries.
Pains my heart😪
Today is NOTHING like it was even 40 years ago, our parents kicked us out of the house to play lol, you can't do that today... There used to be COMMUNITIES that watched children collectively...
Does anyone happen to remember "mother's little helper" back then? As in XANAX...
THIS is not a new problem... All I hear from you is virtue signaling
@@theWinterWalker All I hear from you is reading but not comprehending.
I'm sure they did not work 23 hours a day. They would be useless, hallucinating and much more. Humans can not survive with that little of sleep. Based on your name I'm sure you also believe they lived to be 900?
I'm so glad I found this video. I'm recovered from postpartum depression after having my son almost 8 months ago. I definitely lack the village. Lost my father 5 years ago today and my mother while I was pregnant with my other baby almost 3 years ago. Everyone is so run down that we all just want a collective break. Parenting is hard and even more so with all the inflation of everything lately. I'm heading back to work as a caregiver to pull 10 hour shifts and my kids will be out for the Summer with me because childcare is too expensive for us. Praying for all parents feeling burnt out.
I had postpartum depression with both of my kids and my ex husband was in the navy for twenty years so I know what it’s like to not have any family to help.
@@reneeschnarr6260 oh wow, I know that was very hard for you! Glad you made it through.
They had the kids didn't they? Now they complain that it's too much work. Why do they act surprised?
Yes, they had the kids but no one was prepared for the world to shut down. I only have one and being at home with him full time 24/7 can be a lot some days. Stop judging and realize that we may all need help at some point or one day.
@@tk6160 Tired of breeders complaining because they bred.
@@tk6160 sorry, YOUR choices and YOUR actions produce results.
They are her kids...Why 4?
Where the baby daddy (s) ?
So happy I’m child free 🥰✨
Yes! Same here.
This is why birthrates are down.
Both parents can not work and take care of the children. One must stay home.
This isn’t 1950! Maybe not be outnumbered by kids. 🤷🏼♀️
@@absatwell8163 So, why can the old generation parents handle large number of kids while we can't? So it's not necessarily because they "outnumbered"
Exactly! Some one needs to be home,
@@millionsofmarks2266 Because if inflation, saving for college and possibly still paying off our own student debt. Making sure our aging parents are taken care of etc.
@@millionsofmarks2266 There were alot less laws and social expectations on parents back then. The freedom to parent almost any way they wanted to was alright for the most part. It was easier in general.
Kinda amazing how we now have washing machines, dish washers, all these gadgets to help us save time with our daily chores yet we are busier than ever. Dishes can wait, your child is growing up. One day they will be too busy for you, love them today. The lady is right, live in the present.
Think everything through before willingly bringing children into this world. Paternal instincts can cloud your judgment like it clouded my own parents.
When mothers had to enter the workforce is why this happened too much to do on top of working. This is my opinion that I have the right to have please don't throw hate at me.
It’s obvious.
I gave up a high paying engineering career to be a stay at home mom.
No amount of money is worth it to have strangers raise (ruin) my kids.
Count your blessings? Go back to work and juggling it all?
Why not mention how other first world nations have subsided child care and comprehensive preK? They have paid leave that isn’t linked to employment?
It's okay to tell them NO and set BOUNDARIES.
It would be nice if once and for all we stopped pretending parenting is easy "you're just doing it wrong" just because today happened to be a good day in your parenting don't forget the bad ones. Also I really dislike talking bad about other generations but older generations didn't have some of the struggles we have nowadays like online bullying and other issues. Tell the truth. It sucks. Also I stopped at 2. That helps too but it's still insane.
We sure didn't have ONLINE bullying we had IN YOUR FACE bullying and you had to stand up for yourself. These are skills that are not taught anymore.
It's sad when people turn against each other. We need more compassion. We need more community. More elders who share hard earned wisdom instead of rude, judgemental comments about how weak or lazy people are nowadays. More mutual respect and appreciation.
@@chrissyellem7397 Let parents teach self-defense, ppl demonize kids standing up for themselves too much because of the zero tolerance policy bs and there are parents who let their kids abuse other kids too and then they wonder why there so many so shooters and rise in depression in the youth.
In today’s world
Most people shouldn’t have children
Too expensive
And adults can’t handle it
Kids use to play outside for hours
And parents could get some peace and quite
But now
The kids stay inside way too much
On tv, video games
Needing constant attention from the parents or parent
The outside world is so dangerous now
That kids don’t go play with neighbor kids
And use their imagination like they should
Every other kids in my neighborhood is in a full time child care
Unpopular opinion but very true!
The mom was feeling burnt out so she decided to add a study to her already overloaded schedule? 🤦🏽♀️
Simplify. Drop the excess. Spend time and enjoy your children that you chose to have.
The excess may not seem to be excess to her but constantly taking care of children may be the excess. That's why when women are childfree just don't say sh*t
I’m not understanding the purpose of this. She feels FORCED to be all that she is, but all of this is because of her choices. She has a career, a family, a spouse, and a middle class lifestyle by choice. She’s whining because it’s hard and stressful trying to have it all at the same time? She wants pity? Sympathy? I’m confused…but not really. Some people are doing more and better with much less than she has.
NEVER entered my mind for a split second to have kids! When l see them screaming and throw tantrums in public makes me know l made the right decision !
This kinda makes me angry, THIS is not a "new" problem....
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As a neurodivergent mother with 4 neurodivergent kids who was working full-time, PLUS 3 side jobs and STILL couldn't pay the bills who was hospitalized twice for mental health and coped using alcohol FINALLY succumbed to "burnout" 4 years ago right before COVID even hit,.... So burned out I abandoned my job, became estranged from my parents and my now adult eldest daughter and am CLINICALLY disABLED, have spent the last 4 years so depressed and self loathing I can't get out of bed to shower, clean, or prepare meals....
I terribly dislike the notion this is because of COVID, BECAUSE it's NOT....
So sorry❤
Why did you have so many kids!
What do you do when "staying in the moment" is not enough?
People 30 and under have the attention span of gnats and the mental capacity of a spongebob episode. Turn off the tv, read a real book and THINK about things.
Take two minutes and have a hot drink.... Most parents have never considered that right??
I just read some comments… some people are sick and toxic. If your can’t be kind specially with you don’t have any child I suggest you don’t leave a comment and go ahead with your choices
4 deep breathes to alleviate burnout? Wow they’ve really figured it out….
When did people become so fragile ?
This is a great topic to discuss.
Motherhood becomes your only career. You cannot balance it all without the burnout. I quit my full-time job when my oldest turned 6-months. I figured out quickly, I would never benefit from pretending to be a superwoman. This had been womens struggle since the dawn of time. It’s quite lonely at times, but all round rewarding. Next year my youngest starts school, and I plan on going back to work after a nearly 7 year gap.
I think parenting is the strategic balance of loving & teaching your kids & knowing when & how to ignore & humble ‘em. Most burn outs come from spoiled children.
She's killing herself. My father told me being a professor or teacher is harder. Teacher's job can't worry about their own kid, they worry about other people's children. Students from other families must be taken care of. Now she has to deal with both side. Lastly, she had multiple kids she raise.
Who knew being a parent was hard lol..... I'm called selfish for not wanting or having kids smh
You made the right decision for yourself. Kudos for not giving into societal pressure!
Women had 5-8-9. Kids years ago. Boomers were from large families
They kept going, did what they had to do
You had kids, you take on responsibility. At least for 18 years
Cupcakes need to get a grip, and grow up. WW2 generation just got on with it.
They also disciplined their children though.
People now want to wait until the kid is freaking 5 years old to put them in line AT ALL and then wonder why they’re so tired and can’t stand their own children.
Parents who are burnt out:
We're stoked thay y'all come to the library, truly. Kids' behavior benefits from intellectual stimulation and social interaction in a controlled environment. That said, maintaining acceptable behavior within that controlled environment can be a challenge for some kiddos. That's where staff step in.
Some parents are awesome - grateful for the help, and engaged in behavioral regulation strategies. Others are happy to fall asleep as soon as they see another adult step in, while still others can become defensive.
Can y'all give some tips on how to approach and assist in a way that engages parents rather than dissuading or triggering?
Right now, I only intervene when behaviors are causing broad library disruption, usually by introducing myself, letting them know we're happy they're there, and saying something like, "Ya know, in a library, books are for looking at, reading, and even stacking, they love that! But you know what books don't like? Being thrown. Yeah. That makes books sad. Can you help me keep the books happy by not throwing them?" and then I thank the parent and the kid. If there's an ongoing problem, I might ask mom if we can offer an incentive (just like a sticker or something) and then give mome credit for the offering of said sticker.
Seems like the blame shifts to issue after issue? Also, some parents assume teachers are nannies, work at etiquette schools and teach discipline. These traits are to be taught at home not at school. To avoid these burnout situations and prior to conceiving a child. Parents should be required to take mandatory early childhood education, emotional intelligence training, meditation and time management courses. This would set them up for success. The knowledge and tools acquired would assist in less blowups, burn outs and negative parenting.
I'd like to add to that mandatory list. Community service.
If someone wants to bring children into the world they should have to invest at least an hour a week getting to know their community, building ties while cleaning up or enhancing in some assorted ways the society they want their kids born into.
@@VeginMatt Very true. I agree 👍💯
I didn’t have burnout the pandemic I had prozac and started day drinking 🤪
Blame this burnt out on the feminist movement who expects American women to work fulltime, raise children, educate children as well as do all domestic responsibilities. SMH
More like male expectations that mom do it all.
Men should share the load with their children. Men need to step up in the home
Why do you have 4 kids?!
Thats what happens when we have kids!!
“I had to be a spouse”. Wow. Your husband must have loved hearing that.
Online learning a little kid was the worst. And high school kids developed mental issues during to the lockdown. Too much prison time. Check out the Shanghai videos of people screaming from high rise buildings.
Yeh 2 minutes a day is gonna fix it 😑
There's a toxic mentality to have all your kids back to back so they're all raised together and you get through the mother phase all in one, but it's not worth it. I'd rather have one good child than divide my attention up and get stressed out and ultimately have a favorite.
I don’t think when we had kids we were expected to go through a pandemic. I was working and taking care of my 3 year old with no help and was completely isolated so it does take a toll on you.
That's why I don't have kids. You can't complain about the obvious!
Lol i just keep remembering how smug and excited a lot of these women were during their first pregnancies and baby showers. During that time people cater to you and adore you and validate you for ticking off a societal milestone. They had no idea what was to come and a lot weren't prepared for it. Heads up people, parenting is a lot more than matching outfit Christmas pictures to post on your social media.
Why I only had 2.
Yet, they want women to have more babies. Smh.........
Asking for help is useless nowadays.everyone so busy working and surviving
How about we get back the basics and put first things first instead of running raged all day ? We can’t keep this rat race going and expect to feel fine and able to control it all .
While it's normal to be stressed out from time to time. I feel like parents today complain a lot more than they did in years past.... I feel like people back then just sucked it up and did what they were supposed to do.
My grandparents were both 1st generation and came from large families who lived through war(s) and worked hard for what they had - yet they never seemed to complain …””pARenTAl BUrNoUt””
HOW CAN YOU TAKE A BREAK IF NO ONE TAKES THE CHILDREN FOR YOU TO HAVE A BREAK!!! OR PEOPLE EXPECT PAY TO HELP YOU
Al Roker is amazing!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣