Intimacy as an Interabled Couple *Let's Talk*

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  • @mariemm200
    @mariemm200 6 років тому +7685

    She looks at him the way I looked at my last ice-cream sandwich this afternoon. It's so sweet.

  • @kymberlyp4056
    @kymberlyp4056 6 років тому +7582

    True intimacy has very little to do with sex, and EVERYTHING to do with personal connection.💚🌺💚

    • @shayvidatv
      @shayvidatv 6 років тому +207

      Your post should be in all caps since you made a very important point that so many clueless idiot's don't realize!

    • @kymberlyp4056
      @kymberlyp4056 6 років тому +55

      Shay Vida ~ I have a feeling that I’m a lot older than many on this fabulous channel. Especially if this was a frequently asked question. 😁

    • @joicewinslow8889
      @joicewinslow8889 6 років тому +32

      Awesome statement girlfriend......

    • @gwenmarie7311
      @gwenmarie7311 6 років тому +19

      Exactly👍👍

    • @triniintoronto240
      @triniintoronto240 6 років тому +24

      @@shayvidatv Well said, Shay. I am an older subbie too. There are a few of us. 😁😁

  • @pameliacouncil
    @pameliacouncil 4 роки тому +2739

    I love your story. Iwas married for 37 years and the last 7 years my husband was in a wheelchair. He was a Quadriplegic. I loved my husband so much. We did everything together. He gave me four beautiful children. He passed away 4 years ago and i miss him every second of my life. Continue to love each other and share your love with the world.

    • @pollywanjiru1742
      @pollywanjiru1742 4 роки тому +39

      Sorry about that

    • @tnzem2917
      @tnzem2917 4 роки тому +37

      just sending a big hug 🌺

    • @jesuslovesyou916
      @jesuslovesyou916 4 роки тому +31

      Sorry for your lost. I'm happy that you have beautiful memories to reminisce on. I'm glad to know you have found your soul mate and can share your happy memories with us. Be bless!

    • @MrSMEMEGANGSTAA
      @MrSMEMEGANGSTAA 4 роки тому +8

      Beautiful

    • @snootie3969
      @snootie3969 4 роки тому +8

      So sad

  • @ajaydwayne5586
    @ajaydwayne5586 6 років тому +3345

    Cole look like he went to the hood to get tha fresh fade it’s pretty lit lol

    • @Bandon17
      @Bandon17 5 років тому +21

      😂🤣😂

    • @mrrpswife
      @mrrpswife 5 років тому +33

      His beard, too😉

    • @idacooper625
      @idacooper625 5 років тому +23

      They are a cute couple. When is baby comeing

    • @aquilaclark814
      @aquilaclark814 5 років тому +18

      We love that haircut..cole. .. do it again!!!! .. you two are such an inspiration. .

    • @hellaSwankkyToo
      @hellaSwankkyToo 5 років тому +54

      LMAAAAO! OK so it’s not just me! i was like, “OK Cole! i see you.” LOL! i see the lineup, i see the fade, i see the taper, i see the beard cleanup. my mans, Cole, lookin mighty fresh.

  • @lifewithsuzzyq2039
    @lifewithsuzzyq2039 3 роки тому +349

    I’m so jealous because when I was married, I didn’t experience that much intimacy, we hardly cuddled at all, we didn’t even looked into each other’s eyes, you are so blessed to have each other.

    • @Windsor.royals
      @Windsor.royals 2 роки тому +9

      You didn't initiate or he was the wrong one.

    • @nnatalie50nn
      @nnatalie50nn 2 роки тому +4

      It’s no one’s business.
      You love each other that’s what’s important

    • @yolandajohnson8685
      @yolandajohnson8685 Рік тому +2

      ❤❤yup, I hear you!!!!❤❤

  • @rollingwithmoore
    @rollingwithmoore 2 роки тому +209

    My girlfriend met me online and she messaged me first. When she found out I was disabled, she's still wanted to get with me. She was the first one to bring up marriage and having kids with me. She didn't ask that annoying question; "does it work?" She figured out it does. We have had discussed sex a lot and not once has she asked me does it work. She's into me and only me. Intimacy means much more than just sex and people need to know that

    • @NiNiTheWarrior
      @NiNiTheWarrior Рік тому +7

      I’m so happy for you 😊

    • @lakshmikothapalli3954
      @lakshmikothapalli3954 Рік тому +4

      Is it just me or what
      I never met anybody who who talks anything except sex online 😢
      I'm 20 and I'm not so much into sex. I mean I Would do it one day but If I ever imagine my life in a relationship, or fantasize about someone... My brain goes playing cuddling or kissing one each other but people I ever met seems to think intimacy means only having sex 😢
      They don't care much for a kiss on cheek.
      Then I started to think Maybe having sex is the major part in a relationship and that's what intimacy Is... And I Just didn't know cuz I've never been in a real relationship.
      You know what... I even stopped thinking about dating anybody any sooon cuz I'm insecure and not ready to have sex 😢
      I'm not very articulate so it might not Even make sense to you.. And there is just so much that I'm not able to put into words here. but one thing I'm scared 😭
      Thx for reading tho ❤

    • @rollingwithmoore
      @rollingwithmoore Рік тому

      @@lakshmikothapalli3954 having a relationship is more than just sex. I’ve never had a relationship at all. That was just a girl I was talking to. We never met. I wanted to, but she didn’t

    • @rollingwithmoore
      @rollingwithmoore Рік тому

      @@NiNiTheWarrior I was happy for me too, but it she never wanted to meet me so she was just a girl I was talking to online

    • @101nevergiveup
      @101nevergiveup Рік тому

      ​@@lakshmikothapalli3954you're not alone ❤

  • @nnekaowens1325
    @nnekaowens1325 6 років тому +824

    I understand the curiosity, but so respect setting standards for what you want to disclose. Very smart!

  • @ericaford4808
    @ericaford4808 5 років тому +1965

    I had a boyfriend in a wheelchair when I was younger and I loved him so much. We had true intimacy. We broke up because of his own personal issues. However, I never forgot about him and think of him often. My best boyfriend.

  • @amandakimbrough2862
    @amandakimbrough2862 4 роки тому +852

    Honestly, half the world would kill to have what yall have

    • @mbpresentsanonymous1337
      @mbpresentsanonymous1337 4 роки тому +11

      pssst don’t tell him we are literally potential murderers waiting for the shot! huehue but yeee i want a charisma and a cole in my life :(( feeling lonely af

    • @yvonneboaten8289
      @yvonneboaten8289 3 роки тому +13

      I fully agree. What they have is priceless and Charisma is a wise girl for choosing that and placing value on that. Sex has been cheapened by people who place no value on it. As they indicated, there are ways of offer pleasure to your spouse. I learn every day. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us. Age is nothing but a number.

    • @ClaraKay4001
      @ClaraKay4001 3 роки тому +1

      Exactly!

    • @esthermwaura3175
      @esthermwaura3175 2 роки тому +1

      Very true

    • @naomizulu3976
      @naomizulu3976 2 роки тому

      Exactly

  • @b.c.s7861
    @b.c.s7861 4 роки тому +992

    Most people will never experience this kind of intimacy in their lifetime. Bless you both. ✌

    • @BrianaLynn7
      @BrianaLynn7 4 роки тому +24

      Yes! I think a lot of couples/people focus too much on just sex and not the rest. Clearly these two are madly in love, he finds her smoking hot (you can see it in his eyes) and she finds him absolutely adorable. But their trust and ability to relate to each other is what makes their intimacy so much better.

    • @naturalTJ
      @naturalTJ 4 роки тому +20

      I sooooooo agree!!! Sex is soooooo over rated in relationships.

    • @silk510
      @silk510 4 роки тому +2

      So true

    • @NaptuRo90
      @NaptuRo90 4 роки тому +9

      This is what true relationships are really about not just the physical

    • @edwinhargrave679
      @edwinhargrave679 3 роки тому +4

      This is true unconditional beautiful godly agape love.wishing you both the very best in life enjoy.

  • @NoodlesMomma27
    @NoodlesMomma27 4 роки тому +664

    People nosey. I like the way you addressed the issue. Intimacy is not just sex. You guys are awesome.

    • @EarthgoddessRaye
      @EarthgoddessRaye 4 роки тому +37

      I don’t know if people are nosey. Just curious about things they don’t understand.

    • @siribaimusic
      @siribaimusic 4 роки тому +22

      @@EarthgoddessRaye I think people want to know about sex as it's an often misunderstood thing about paraplegic and quadriplegic people being asexual/not able to have pleasurable intercourse/etc and the internet doesn't have a ton of resources.

    • @siribaimusic
      @siribaimusic 4 роки тому +18

      (but of course it isn't people's business whether and how any couple does it in the bedroom, lol)

    • @gamingkitty1461
      @gamingkitty1461 4 роки тому +23

      I wouldn't call it nosey, it's curiousity if and how it's possible. I wondered the same thing tbh tho, I never asked xD

    • @ActiveEve
      @ActiveEve 3 роки тому +4

      Of course people are curious, but they really want them to describe WHAT it is they do and HOW they do it! But if we are able bodied and can use our imagination while being intimate, why can’t they? Sex is sex whether you are able bodied or disabled. Trust me, they enjoy themselves! Just look at and observe them together. (So very 🧑🏼‍🦼🧍🏾‍♀️🥰sweet!) God Bless C&C)

  • @meiqueoonixzjaz03
    @meiqueoonixzjaz03 4 роки тому +379

    Ok.. first of all.. Cole is so freaking handsome and Charisma is absolutely beautiful!! They have a beautiful relationship that is far more than surface deep! Looooovvveeee it!

  • @shaunlundathomas9284
    @shaunlundathomas9284 6 років тому +445

    Cuddling is the best part of being intimate

    • @olafl7
      @olafl7 6 років тому +5

      I couldn't agree more!

    • @DamonCassada345
      @DamonCassada345 5 років тому

      Plus you can do it with everyone

  • @warrenjeffreys8
    @warrenjeffreys8 6 років тому +4960

    Black women are so amazing

  • @milawka375
    @milawka375 4 роки тому +625

    She absolutely suits for her name! She is Charisma! Her energy, her optimism is inspiring!
    Cole is very beautiful 😍

    • @shredman59
      @shredman59 3 роки тому +4

      So true!

    • @mrs1975brown
      @mrs1975brown 3 роки тому +4

      Absolutely

    • @gracemac994
      @gracemac994 3 роки тому +2

      My guess is they do kkkk

    • @sylviareid3240
      @sylviareid3240 2 роки тому +2

      Cant wait for you guys to have children,love you

    • @OneMoreRedNightmare
      @OneMoreRedNightmare 2 роки тому +1

      In some cultures (Japanese and Native American comes to mind) it's much more popular for people to have names of tangible things. Like Charisma, Lily, Ruby, etc. instead of common names that don't really mean anything. I feel like that's starting to become more popular and I like that. Maybe it's a subtle shift in society towards bringing more meaningfulness into our lives.

  • @lifewithklc
    @lifewithklc 6 років тому +543

    FINALLY, a couple who doesn’t tell ALL their business in the guise of “keeping it 💯”.

    • @sandradanessa369
      @sandradanessa369 5 років тому +6

      yes, thank you that a great example

    • @mrrpswife
      @mrrpswife 5 років тому +4

      Exactly

    • @michellejones4110
      @michellejones4110 3 роки тому +6

      Exactly. Why do people feel they need to know. Do people say to their friends, tell me about your intimacy.

  • @vanessadunlap6931
    @vanessadunlap6931 5 років тому +1368

    Holy moly he is soo handsome!! She is absolutely beautiful for the way she loves him unconditionally!

    • @mirandabisnou1307
      @mirandabisnou1307 5 років тому +113

      She's beautiful in more ways than one💓

    • @claratheodore1932
      @claratheodore1932 5 років тому +7

      vanessa dunlap she looks like Lela Rochon

    • @thelovewitch3607
      @thelovewitch3607 4 роки тому +71

      you think this is a supportive comment but it’s actually a very VERY ableist thing to say that loving him makes her beautiful...you only think her love for him is commendable because you subconsciously think disabled people are less desirable. she is a normal human and so is he and her love is not any different or any more praise worthy than any other love.

    • @joanntirado1799
      @joanntirado1799 4 роки тому +10

      She is a beauty! He is a Looker!

    • @solianathomas6877
      @solianathomas6877 4 роки тому +15

      Both of them are beutiful.

  • @sunkissed1974
    @sunkissed1974 2 роки тому +65

    The intimacy that you two share as an interabled couple is on a deeper level than abled bodied people will ever know. The daily activities and the shower program and the dependence that you have on each other will make you closer than most people will ever know.

  • @marilynhemingway7326
    @marilynhemingway7326 6 років тому +946

    Thank you for stating your boundaries and limits. Quite frankly it is none of our business. I enjoy your beautiful relationship without knowing about the "intimacy". I don't want anyone to know about mine so I need to also respect the wishes of others. You gave great advice.

  • @Dlovesyou1
    @Dlovesyou1 6 років тому +242

    There’s so much sexual tension in this video😭 you guys are so cute!!!!

  • @דבורהמדינה
    @דבורהמדינה 4 роки тому +265

    They are so honest and respectful, not just OTHER couple that plays pranks on each other and tests the love.... really loving and caring

  • @doraagyapong1659
    @doraagyapong1659 4 роки тому +2014

    I laugh so hard when Charisma couldn't say "SEX"and then Cole comes out as the man and say it.."whether we have sex"

    • @fatimazahramarah2634
      @fatimazahramarah2634 4 роки тому +52

      same
      carisma is a bit shy when it comes to such topic

    • @geaj4214
      @geaj4214 4 роки тому +13

      I was cracking up too funny😁😁😁😁😁😅🤣😂

    • @josss_ie8083
      @josss_ie8083 4 роки тому +34

      Homegirl was a struggling 😭

    • @Sweetdee28
      @Sweetdee28 4 роки тому +14

      I noticed that😂😂😂Cole had to come out and say it !!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤣🤣🤣

    • @Samwise_92
      @Samwise_92 4 роки тому +25

      Shes trying to have discretion. Shes being polite

  • @jeneanicole4261
    @jeneanicole4261 6 років тому +401

    This is actually really refreshing! Seeing a couple keep their private lives PRIVATE! I'm so over seeing couples talking about and posting what they do all over social media. I don't know whatever happened to keeping your business as your own and shame when private details are discussed publicly, but it needs to come back!

    • @DamonCassada345
      @DamonCassada345 5 років тому

      There is no ultimate secret to having a relationship, it is what is made of it

    • @junbh2
      @junbh2 5 років тому +3

      I understand why people don't want to share that (I wouldn't want to share it about my own life) but I can also respect that for some people, talking about it feels better than not talking about it, so I would hope every couple thinks about it and deals with it however works best for them. It's great that we have all kinds in the world.

    • @TilTheBreakADawn
      @TilTheBreakADawn 5 років тому +3

      Jenea Nicole Sooo true. But in a culture where reality tv/celebrity-seeking and pornography have become so commonplace, people don't even know what boundaries are. This couple has the absolute right idea. I have ZERO interest in seeing or even hearing about other folk's intimate details because the very nature of intimacy is that it requires deep bond of trust. By sharing intimate things (from, say, a home birth , to sexual practices, to a personal trauma) the teller is becoming vulnerable with the listener(s). The problem with sharing intimate matters on the internet is that one risks becoming vulnerable with people (potentially in the BILLIONS) who not only don't know you, but could violate your trust in so many ways.

  • @yvonneharris5911
    @yvonneharris5911 4 роки тому +92

    It took me to become an old woman to appreciate intimacy as opposed to sex! These two give me hope for the future and what can be!!!

  • @Kuzakistheone
    @Kuzakistheone 6 років тому +1917

    Cole is too handsome I can’t handle it! 😅

  • @lynnmking3008
    @lynnmking3008 6 років тому +262

    You two are so classy! How can we not love you guys! My Pastor always taught us that intimacy means " See - into - Me". Meaning, you allow your partner to see the inner heart and soul of who you are rather than hiding behind masks and internal defense structures.

    • @lynnmking3008
      @lynnmking3008 6 років тому +6

      @@coleandcharisma That's great!

    • @triniintoronto240
      @triniintoronto240 6 років тому +8

      Yeah... my pastor says "Into me you see"

    • @robinbutler4515
      @robinbutler4515 6 років тому +1

      Lynn King357 well said!👍

    • @lynnmking3008
      @lynnmking3008 6 років тому +1

      @@robinbutler4515 Thank you!

    • @DamonCassada345
      @DamonCassada345 5 років тому +3

      Unfortunately the average person tends to look elsewhere with that X-ray vision

  • @florenceflowers2983
    @florenceflowers2983 4 роки тому +125

    Charisma, you are such a loving and caring person. Cole is so blessed to have you in his life.

    • @doreenmorrison2941
      @doreenmorrison2941 3 роки тому +13

      O yes. And i would say the same for her too. Cole is a great guy too.

  • @jonaHISTS
    @jonaHISTS 6 років тому +80

    I'm happy y'all went this route for this subject. People assume that being curious gives them the right ask very personal questions they wouldn't ask normally.

  • @tashibiachambers7993
    @tashibiachambers7993 6 років тому +155

    I love them the way they look at each other is full of love and understanding

  • @gerrikamonique2951
    @gerrikamonique2951 4 роки тому +524

    I love y’all! Cole is 100% MAN he’s not playing no games 🤣.

    • @504CreoleCrystal
      @504CreoleCrystal 4 роки тому +18

      NONE 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @504CreoleCrystal
      @504CreoleCrystal 4 роки тому +3

      trinityc1970 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @johnspanks2828
      @johnspanks2828 4 роки тому +1

      You are so nasty

    • @heartstrings110
      @heartstrings110 4 роки тому +31

      LISTEN! 😂 We all know that look. Something is working very well for them. 😂😂😂

    • @MissHannah2036
      @MissHannah2036 3 роки тому +8

      lol, he's very affectionate 😁

  • @nazzynaz1905
    @nazzynaz1905 6 років тому +148

    I got a good feeling Cole will walk again 🤞

  • @ON-gq8ej
    @ON-gq8ej 6 років тому +20

    I love that they allow each other to talk without cutting each other. Such level of respect

  • @erbodyluvschoc
    @erbodyluvschoc 4 роки тому +214

    She's so in love with him I can tell the way she looks at him.

    • @summerbreeze5758
      @summerbreeze5758 3 роки тому +5

      I cried when I saw how she looks at him. You can tell she loves him so much. Very very much.

  • @judyshelby1416
    @judyshelby1416 6 років тому +495

    Y'all are so cute. There's a difference in being curious and being nosey. Some people are just nosey. You re handling things the way you should. People know what's appropriate and what's not when they ask. They're just trying to see how far they can go. Some things are just not their business. Keep doing what you do and stay positive. Much love to you. 💕

    • @simonebelgrave795
      @simonebelgrave795 6 років тому +11

      Love how you reponded to questions about personal intimacy. It's no one's business what you do behind close doors but your own. People are just too nosy at times.
      Continue to stay positive. Yours is a beautiful love story that offers the world a glimpse of what is possible despite life's challenges.

    • @afrocentricallyshakina
      @afrocentricallyshakina 6 років тому +1

      Judy Shelby I agree

    • @onlylikemindedbw
      @onlylikemindedbw 6 років тому +1

      Yep I’m nosey and?

    • @yvonnedcave6394
      @yvonnedcave6394 6 років тому +1

      Yes being nosy is not cool

    • @onlylikemindedbw
      @onlylikemindedbw 6 років тому +3

      @@yvonnedcave6394 so ... I'm nosey ..just like a lot of other ppl that clicked on the video that wanted to hear something juicy... I'm just saying what everyone else is thinking ...so stop with the bs

  • @katinaleon2526
    @katinaleon2526 4 роки тому +186

    I’m smiling at my phone like crazy right now because it makes me so happy to see you guys and how perfect you are together!

  • @rebeccalindsay5795
    @rebeccalindsay5795 4 роки тому +45

    I love the way you addressed this! Also, not enough people realise intimacy does not equal sex

  • @gazpen1978
    @gazpen1978 6 років тому +91

    this was perfectly approached as a wheelchair user myself I sometimes get the same kind of questions why would you tell a stranger your personal business as a side note you both cuddling on the couch was super cute

  • @samanthasunshine1766
    @samanthasunshine1766 6 років тому +147

    I don't blame you. Its no ones business! LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU KIDS!! I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST!!

  • @tomoyat727
    @tomoyat727 4 роки тому +57

    I'm literally smiling like a goofball while watching this. I love the love between the two of you!!!

  • @KpTheG
    @KpTheG 6 років тому +2115

    Cole is going to walk again, in Jesus name. I can feel it. Remember this comment lol this is my first video of you guys I've seen and I'm hooked.

    • @cassiejen7480
      @cassiejen7480 5 років тому +33

      They loved all the comments but this one maybe they don't believe in Jesus

    • @KpTheG
      @KpTheG 5 років тому +68

      Cassie Jen that’s fine if they don’t. Just thought I’d offer some encouragement.

    • @soulsmusic15
      @soulsmusic15 5 років тому +186

      @@KpTheG
      Thats not encouragement.
      That can be really harmful.
      You are not a doctor, you have not seen the XRAY's of his spinal cord, you are not in his place and knows his body.
      There are some people who will NEVER walk again, so comments like that are just bible trumping bs.

    • @KpTheG
      @KpTheG 5 років тому +133

      soulsmusic15 wow, it must suck being that negative. Have a great week though.

    • @broccolincarrots4124
      @broccolincarrots4124 5 років тому +100

      @@soulsmusic15 Sorry, I have to disagree with your comment. "There are life and death in the power of the tongue" and Cole's miracles just began. Stay positive!!

  • @alisonjane2025
    @alisonjane2025 5 років тому +792

    The 171 people who down thumbed this video must have some internal issues. This beautiful couple can teach many of us out there with their intelligent, loving and positive attitude towards life. Thank you for sharing your videos. You are an inspiration to not only full able body human beings but also non fully able body human beings. You are more than likely helping thousands of people feel that the world is their oyster. 💚💚

    • @amber_Forever16
      @amber_Forever16 5 років тому +2

      Alison Kershaw they probably didn’t watch it and thought they really talked/showed the dirty deeds, a lot of people didn’t watch at first because of that but read the comments from others saying they’re glad they didn’t show the dirty stuff

    • @ogunsanya1320
      @ogunsanya1320 5 років тому +1

      Nice comment !!!

    • @mariamin272
      @mariamin272 5 років тому +1

      😂😂😂 i agree!!

    • @amischair
      @amischair 5 років тому +1

      Yeah, I felt the same way. Love this couple! 😍 ❤️

    • @myaamorlenina938
      @myaamorlenina938 4 роки тому +4

      People thumbs down a kitten video! Let alone a beautiful couple in love.

  • @shannonmonahan603
    @shannonmonahan603 3 роки тому +34

    I can’t get enough of you two! Such a genuine, beautiful, wholesome couple!

  • @TheeMademoiselle
    @TheeMademoiselle 5 років тому +450

    You guys are so adorable😭💕

  • @deuce07er
    @deuce07er 5 років тому +459

    You are truly blessed Cole, Charisma is an amazing woman. You guys were made for each other, God bless both of you

    • @ibrahim-8332
      @ibrahim-8332 4 роки тому +5

      isn´t she blessed to? y only her man? you can see the quality in his personality and inteligence. although he come in a diffrent package.

    • @vivianatvivian4340
      @vivianatvivian4340 3 роки тому +1

      True God continue blessing them and give them everything they need on this planet

  • @zkart8038
    @zkart8038 4 роки тому +97

    As much as I love them setting their boundaries and be upfront about not wanting to talk about sex. As much as I admire their self advocacy. ...on the other hand we all know Cole is gettin' it lol

    • @tulsacaupain2882
      @tulsacaupain2882 2 роки тому +1

      Funny.

    • @Hallo81398
      @Hallo81398 2 роки тому

      true. He's getting it while there are millions of incels like myself who don't
      I mean good for Cole regardless but just saying

    • @zkart8038
      @zkart8038 2 роки тому +12

      @@Hallo81398 work on yourself. You will attract worthy people.
      Throwing a pity party to someone who doesn't know you is enough to turn everybody off. Be confident in who you are ..and if you aren't, build yourself so that you will be.

  • @julliette24
    @julliette24 6 років тому +1419

    As foreplay Cole punches Charisma in the face 😊 just like any other couple. Lol

    • @wynetteabc
      @wynetteabc 6 років тому +59

      Yeah;and I like how she slapped that "stay positive!" on him. :). They are truly meant for each other. We love y'all.

    • @anitraholmes8461
      @anitraholmes8461 6 років тому +5

      😂😂

    • @pinkrainn8904
      @pinkrainn8904 6 років тому +3

      😂🥰

    • @DamonCassada345
      @DamonCassada345 5 років тому +1

      I remember my first kiss

    • @christlegreen9458
      @christlegreen9458 5 років тому +2

      julliette24 Lol! Yeah, that's step one.

  • @roseiam
    @roseiam 6 років тому +66

    I'm sorry you guys felt the need to address this issue. People are hella rude to be asking you what goes on behind closed doors. You guys kept it so classy. I'm impressed! The C&C Fam love you just as much!

  • @nbdontgiveup128
    @nbdontgiveup128 3 роки тому +10

    He is such a guy. I love it. When he said I think it will look great, I knew that they have no problem with intimacy. They got this!

  • @shaonibanerjee8042
    @shaonibanerjee8042 4 роки тому +23

    her laugh is beautiful. it's like she completely lets go laughs her heart out. there is so much innocence and pure joy in her laugh.

  • @kendrajones3919
    @kendrajones3919 6 років тому +60

    I legit love their relationship. Goals. I love how y'all like don't let any limitations into your relationship. I LOVE that you guys try to educate others about certain things as well. I love it. You guys are great.

  • @shawnakimbrough8295
    @shawnakimbrough8295 2 роки тому +17

    Im so grateful for your response. So many people put TOO much of their life online. Your response in keeping those "none of your business", stuff to yourselves is beautiful. I absolutely love your respect for the most sacred part of a marriage; true intimacy. May Father God bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you His Peace!

  • @Melisblessed
    @Melisblessed 6 років тому +113

    You two are so cute 🥰. Don’t tell them nothing. It’s your business. As long as you love each other that’s all that’s matter.

  • @tshepomorapedi9048
    @tshepomorapedi9048 6 років тому +120

    You two are mature. You are young but knows how to give right answers and keep loving each other. Love is not all about sex but being one another's companion, Whether disabled or not

  • @larkhughes9740
    @larkhughes9740 3 роки тому +22

    Sex is 75 percent mental anyway. Intimacy is touching, hugging, laughing together, quiet moments, respectful of each other in small and not so small ways. Gratitude and appreciation of each other. Love is a verb.

  • @yarekim5932
    @yarekim5932 6 років тому +127

    Y'all are a beautiful couple , and even though it is tough , your love shines through .

  • @fionagal123
    @fionagal123 6 років тому +52

    All the moments sent together can be intimate, it isn't just the act of sex. That is only one part of intimacy. The connection you make outside of the act makes it even better.

  • @tracigreen4786
    @tracigreen4786 4 роки тому +70

    These two are literally the most inspiring couple that I’ve ever seen. I so hope that neither one of them ever has to say goodbye to the other. You guys have won my heart as well as gained a new subscriber.Because this here is what love is all about

  • @sarahkelly3234
    @sarahkelly3234 6 років тому +201

    Big respect for you guys. Keeping it 💯. We are adults and really don't need details of your private life . You are sharing a lot C&C. Thanks.

    • @malkahbraun626
      @malkahbraun626 6 років тому

      👎🏻

    • @yeshua8892
      @yeshua8892 6 років тому +4

      Finally i came across such a nice comment.
      True true true
      We may be curious..but they dont have to share everything with us....dats their right 😉

  • @nanuq83
    @nanuq83 4 роки тому +438

    It's natural to be curious but I get it, not everyone wants to talk about it. From the look of you two though, you guys look satisfied to me. 😉

  • @YourzTruly917
    @YourzTruly917 2 роки тому +12

    You guys are absolutely disgustingly, atrociously, despicably, horrendously ADORABLE! I love how you guys love each other ✨🤍💯🥰

  • @lucindagray8882
    @lucindagray8882 4 роки тому +288

    If they ever do an Eartha Kitt story, Charisma, you need to definitely tryout for the younger version of her!!! #naturalbeauty

    • @favouredbymycreator9032
      @favouredbymycreator9032 4 роки тому +3

      She could really pass for her daughter in looks. Her own daughter doesn't look one bit like her.

    • @rerelevelingup2364
      @rerelevelingup2364 3 роки тому +1

      Yes for real

    • @GrowingGoodHair
      @GrowingGoodHair 3 роки тому +4

      Nailed it ..was trying hard to think who she reminded me of. She is a beauty! ✨

    • @darlenewaters3338
      @darlenewaters3338 2 роки тому +1

      I agree! So beautiful 😊

    • @queenvic83
      @queenvic83 2 роки тому

      Yooooo, haha, as I was starting to watch their video and was watching her speak I literally thought of that in my head LOL 😂👍

  • @ammaarahisaacs8129
    @ammaarahisaacs8129 4 роки тому +469

    He looks a bit like Chriss Pratt and gives off a similar vibe to his character in parks n rec

  • @joannaflores7483
    @joannaflores7483 4 роки тому +65

    “Sit and chat” how many couples can say that. That is true “intimacy”

  • @indraforeva3311
    @indraforeva3311 6 років тому +275

    When Cole pulled you on to him..!😌😍Get ittt Cole & Charismaaaa!!😉😉🙌🙌😝😁❤❤❤❤

    • @vmmcknight2501
      @vmmcknight2501 6 років тому +6

      True guys keep it. That's your personal life. I just love you guys

    • @gathoninjuguna6375
      @gathoninjuguna6375 6 років тому +1

      😀😀😀❤❤❤

    • @doberdawgs4me
      @doberdawgs4me 5 років тому +24

      Heck I grabbed some popcorn 😂😂😂😂 I didn't know where the video was going 😂😂😂

    • @glowupjess
      @glowupjess 5 років тому +8

      Girrrrrl I was like yassss

    • @Reignedayz
      @Reignedayz 5 років тому +2

      @@doberdawgs4me 😁🤣

  • @lilianmartin1959
    @lilianmartin1959 6 років тому +291

    I think the intimacy should be kept a secret between the two of you. I enjoy watching the PDA the two of you show.

    • @cgvalle11
      @cgvalle11 6 років тому +4

      Agreed!

    • @alemat897
      @alemat897 6 років тому +2

      Me too

    • @iristorred345
      @iristorred345 6 років тому +1

      I agreed should be kept between both of you.🙏

    • @MzVonnie4187
      @MzVonnie4187 6 років тому +4

      Agreed ... some things should be kept private ... you share so much of your lives and relationship with us and that's good enough for me! Thank you for inviting us into your world and journey! GOD Bless your union!

  • @riselle1
    @riselle1 4 роки тому +34

    Lots of chemistry here. You guys are BLESSED!!!

  • @KayBmor
    @KayBmor 5 років тому +90

    My new favorite UA-cam couple. Your love for each other is breathtaking.

    • @theresaoppong7100
      @theresaoppong7100 5 років тому +2

      You guys are so smart ,I like the way you Express yourselves. May the good Lord continue to strengthen you physically and spiritually .I love you guys I really do.

  • @awcrosby
    @awcrosby 5 років тому +1284

    6:35 Charisma: This isn't appropriate...
    6:41 Cole: 😈😈
    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @adventureswashley
      @adventureswashley 5 років тому +91

      What he says at 6:52 had me dead 😂😭🤣🤪

    • @deborahdebooth5103
      @deborahdebooth5103 5 років тому +14

      😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🍿🍿🍿

    • @kathleenevers7016
      @kathleenevers7016 5 років тому +3

      Neutraliser Jan o-o moment what moments 😳🤣😂

    • @savannahrose4447
      @savannahrose4447 4 роки тому +127

      Hollering “we won’t say if we have sex or not” *literally sits cowgirl style in front of the camera* 😂😂😂

    • @thecoi7672
      @thecoi7672 4 роки тому +13

      This is most people with their spouse at one point or another. I love how they are just able to be themselves.

  • @slcncr
    @slcncr 4 роки тому +21

    5:40 seeing them experience this "togetherness" as Charisma calls it makes me realize that i have never had that in my entire life.

  • @alailabalderas1811
    @alailabalderas1811 6 років тому +219

    I’m excited for this video idk why maybe it’s because I have cerebral palsy lol but yeah that part scares me as a quadriplegic wheelchair user myself

    • @sophiarose7610
      @sophiarose7610 6 років тому +16

      Alaila Balderas you’ll find this kind of love. Stay faithful and prayerful.

    • @alailabalderas1811
      @alailabalderas1811 6 років тому +7

      Miss S always 💕

    • @samuelrosemary5854
      @samuelrosemary5854 6 років тому +6

      Just know you are loved and not alone, sending you all my love xoxo

    • @alailabalderas1811
      @alailabalderas1811 6 років тому +5

      Samuel Rosemary thank you I found UA-cam very helpful it’s my escape

    • @vernelllevingston1800
      @vernelllevingston1800 6 років тому +2

      Miss bald are you a person with several Posley or are you a paraplegic or both if you don't mind me asking Miss Vernell

  • @ikamustika3504
    @ikamustika3504 6 років тому +88

    He really does love her

  • @monicawilemon8654
    @monicawilemon8654 4 роки тому +77

    my boyfriend and I's favorite thing to do is just cuddle and lay together. we could be doing absolutely nothing and its the most amazing feeling to be so content with someone who you're the most comfortable with. we don't even have to be talking, just being in each other's presence is more than enough. I admire Cole and Charisma's relationship so much. The love between them is so pure.

    • @NimbuCB
      @NimbuCB 4 роки тому

      You are so lucky

  • @patriceb1274
    @patriceb1274 4 роки тому +9

    New to your channel while surfing UA-cam during the current pandemic.
    As a 50 yo women, real intimacy in a relationship is not just sex. It truly is respect, kindness, & putting that person 1st ❤️

  • @mercedesreyes4061
    @mercedesreyes4061 6 років тому +194

    Wherever you do behind your room doors is your business. Glad you keep it that way. 😘😘😘

  • @amim4701
    @amim4701 4 роки тому +20

    Such an adorable couple. The babies will have the same adorable dimples as parents.

  • @mjjm5511
    @mjjm5511 5 років тому +195

    Itis?🤣🤣🤣 Cole is definitely invited to the cookout 👍🏼👍🏼

  • @triniintoronto240
    @triniintoronto240 6 років тому +52

    Cole and Charisma, you guys are AMAZING!!!! What a classy way to handle the subject of intimacy!!! Love you both!!!

  • @karenleblanc5781
    @karenleblanc5781 4 роки тому +12

    This is the most beautiful love story of all times, you guys can teach other people the REAL meaning of love. You guys are rockstars!!

  • @1rage17
    @1rage17 5 років тому +115

    Man you guys are a gorgeous a$$ couple! The chemistry is *too* real with you two.

  • @klienbeautymakeup6065
    @klienbeautymakeup6065 6 років тому +80

    Cole your hair cut looks so cool... Charisma your beautiful girl with a sunflower soul and spirit .. we love you ..

  • @deed1436
    @deed1436 4 роки тому +16

    Both of them are very attractive people anyway. I see how this relationship can work. She’s already beautiful so he’s always going to feel super lucky being with her. And she gets to have a man that’s less likely going to be out dogging her and cheating so she’s able to really let her guard down and love him with all her heart because its safe to. The more she loves him the more he’s going to fall deeply in love with her because he’ll always have a higher level of appreciation for her. This is like a match made in heaven.

    • @Orangenkraft
      @Orangenkraft Рік тому +2

      I know you probably didn’t mean it like that, but he didn’t need to be disabled for her to know for certain he wouldn't cheat. That's a sad thing to say.
      Also, diasabled people can cheat just like anyone else.

  • @mardyandie3027
    @mardyandie3027 6 років тому +118

    BOUNDARIES! BOUNDARIES! BOUNDARIES! You both have my full support! 💕

    • @anneandersen1797
      @anneandersen1797 6 років тому +1

      Say it louder mardy

    • @shelcybrown4349
      @shelcybrown4349 6 років тому

      I agree. Some people just don't know when to quit.

    • @deloresmaybeck2912
      @deloresmaybeck2912 6 років тому

      Amen to this.

    • @mardyandie3027
      @mardyandie3027 6 років тому

      Roll with Cole & Charisma 💞

    • @kareenwatson6084
      @kareenwatson6084 6 років тому

      It's their business and they might be uncomfortable speaking about. However for those who want to be further enlightened check out Kassy & Kevin in the life of K & K.

  • @lifewithnancie9926
    @lifewithnancie9926 6 років тому +243

    I respect that you guys want to keep this part of y’all lives private 😉 I really enjoy that video too😉🥰🥰🥰

  • @tuesdayabdullahi1278
    @tuesdayabdullahi1278 4 роки тому +89

    1) you two are just the cutest ever
    2) I love how Cole looks at you like you're the last supper and he's got the munchies
    3) you two give me hope for humanity and love..

    • @GrowingGoodHair
      @GrowingGoodHair 3 роки тому +1

      #2 😭🤣🤣🥰👌🏽

    • @BLOVES
      @BLOVES 3 роки тому +3

      I was thinking the same thing - they over there eating each other up! - it’s so sweet & awesome!

  • @horseluver629
    @horseluver629 6 років тому +294

    "I think it's gonna look great"
    It looked great.

  • @specialevents9879
    @specialevents9879 6 років тому +158

    Thank you so much for keeping this aspect of your lives private🤓

    • @paulawalters5476
      @paulawalters5476 6 років тому +2

      I love you guys 💕

    • @bBrain
      @bBrain 6 років тому +1

      I know right? Like that's NONE of our business... Some things should be private and personal

  • @nadea2645
    @nadea2645 Рік тому +2

    Oh my gosh the way he just lifted her and put her on top of him❤.you guys just showed us how you do it 😅.its like i am watching the most beautiful romantic movie❤

  • @hersheychocolate7717
    @hersheychocolate7717 6 років тому +55

    I don't know why others wonder about intimacy with you 2, you can see the love and connection in every video, true love is what matters most before and after marriage, God made you for each other, and he has blessed you Cole in finding a very special lady, her price is far above rubies,blessings to both of you

    • @jokramo6989
      @jokramo6989 6 років тому

      Love watching you guys. True love

    • @tennehbility6528
      @tennehbility6528 6 років тому

      That’s right

    • @kellykujawa89
      @kellykujawa89 5 років тому

      Hershey chocolate you were obviously wondering about intimacy between the 2 of them as well. Why else would you watch the video?

    • @hersheychocolate7717
      @hersheychocolate7717 5 років тому

      @@kellykujawa89 I love following them, and watch all there videos, not just because I wondered about this topic, but cause I am subscribed and a true fan of them

    • @kellykujawa89
      @kellykujawa89 5 років тому

      @@hersheychocolate7717 I get it, but why can't people wonder about their lives? That doesn't make you a bad person it just makes you human.

  • @gaill7908
    @gaill7908 6 років тому +84

    Cole = typical guy lol 😂 Such a normal couple. Loved this vid. 😊❤️

  • @alyssa7464
    @alyssa7464 3 роки тому +13

    Oh my gosh you guys are so adorable I love the way you guys are with each other it’s so refreshing to see a couple who truly is compatible and loves cares and wants to be around the other one

  • @Linabina2142
    @Linabina2142 4 роки тому +20

    I think you guys made a good point at the fact that intimacy isn’t just sex but more of showing each other care and love. Y’all are awesome! Much love❤️😍

  • @valerypacheco7832
    @valerypacheco7832 6 років тому +47

    In love with all the positivity on this channel! You two are amazing and so inspirational 💕

  • @mishminahandrew4790
    @mishminahandrew4790 4 роки тому +27

    I ABSOLUTELY APPRECIATE AND RESPECTFULLY ACCEPT THE FACT THAT Y'ALL KEEP YOUR"BEDROOMS WHATEVERS" PERSONAL!
    THAT'S TOTALLY A FIRM FOUNDATION OF YOUR MARRIAGE...Ty

  • @candiceboyd5948
    @candiceboyd5948 6 років тому +36

    This is my favorite video for sure, I’m glad someone is talking about this and this video is out there, because my fiancé and I are in an interable relationship I have Cerebral Palsy and he is able bodied. So to see things I can completely relate with is great. ❤️

  • @takwaxaweelew8017
    @takwaxaweelew8017 5 років тому +60

    You’re such a blessing to each other.

  • @gracefulros3
    @gracefulros3 3 роки тому +5

    The way they’re into each other is to dieeee for 🥰

  • @rickbrosky3544
    @rickbrosky3544 6 років тому +91

    Cole your haircut is awesome,nice fade,loved the video guys

  • @jslack8973
    @jslack8973 4 роки тому +207

    You know he worked out a lot and was very athletic because his legs still look strong . Wow

    • @ruyuxi
      @ruyuxi 4 роки тому +16

      He was a lacrosse 🥍 player

  • @zwiebster63
    @zwiebster63 3 роки тому +5

    You are both sooooo clever and made the best decision in bringing this subject that way. I know what it means because my husband had a cauda equina trauma few years ago and that trauma has disabled plenty of things in his body. It was a difficult time for both of us. We also had several consultations at the urologist for his blather and in the meantime, that doctor started taking about intimacy. He said: in the beginning after the trauma you won’t know what will get better or what will work again after some time. So you will have to wait and see. The most important thing a couple has to do at that time is talk about it and start to know how the “changed body” is working. You will have a different bonding which can be very deep and beautiful too!!