A good man is well, well, well below the average woman. Men think they are good as long as he isn’t abusing a woman. The bar is way lower for a man than it is for women.
So true! There’s a huge gap between average women and average men. In every aspect women much more progressive than men. I made peace with the fact that I probably won’t find a partner.
@@reemhell8083 Yeah unfortunately if women dated only our equals Intellectually, Emotionally, Educationally, Financially that would disqualify like 80 percent of men.
@@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld men are dropping out of higher education, dont exactly know reason why, and they dont tend to challenge them selves intellectually or expand their knowledge otherwise. like reading a book, literally any book. last time the average man actually read anything was when he was forced to do so in school. emotionally men tend to be immature and almost stunted, retaining some 12 year old mindset to their 30s and 40s and worse yet is if they bought into some podcast bros who give the dumbest fucking "advice" on the planet. financially there is no question about it with the rising number of neets. "hobosexuality" seems to be on the rise and many men live at home with parents with no plans for the future or desires to find even minimum wage work. so a woman would be the one providing literally everything while they refuse to even do their own laundry. a great example of this is def my friend who hits all of these boxes and yet dares to whine how "life is unfair" well anything I say to him will be less than what his ex said to him when the broke up. she got fed up with his bullshit, and my therapist recommends I distance my self from him as well instead of take on any emotional burden on his part. last time I talked with him I gave him a simplified list of things he needs to do to improve his situation. I doubt he has done even one thing in 10 years and hes gonna be 40 then.
Tf?! Have you been asleep through all of society? This exactly thing you mention has been happening for centuries! Leaders in society and communities with shit personal lives. Because people put religious, political, and celebrity figures in pedestals forgetting that they too are human and fuck up too. So they dont vet them.
this has been the case throughout history! men leading religions and cults and systems with shit home and personal lives. what is surprising about this to you?
Conflict avoidant men are EXHAUSTING, they implicitly want you to fight all their battles for them and do all the emotional labor for the relationship, but then they get to turn around a backbite whenever they feel insecure with the zinger of 'you're so controlling and uptight!'
Yeah they use words to describe their personality like "easy going", "chill" go with the flow" and "live in the moment" and looking for the same.... But it just means you'll be the one who has to do the mental labor of anticipating, planning, thinking ahead, taking care of most responsibilities.... While he just kicks back and "LiVeS iN tHe mOmEnT"
They also don't target men. So men don't watch them. So while women are over there longing for what they see in them men are not. So they're a whole setup for the downfall of impressionable girls who try to enact them as women.
@nzingahoney This! Never truly hit me til recently, and I always balked at the comparison of romance books/movies for women like porn for men (still don't agree there, at least in terms of one being a much larger societal ill), but it's true: men and women have totally different "languages" and realities for relationships based on the different media consumed and how expectations are shaped.
PSA: BREAKS from dating is essential for you to keep reasonable standards for your treatment as a woman, because it is so helpful to have recent memory of what the baseline of 'alone' is like. I have known SO many women, such as the woman on this show, be so used to dating that all they can emotionally do is compare one man to another man's treatment, and that will just drain life from you, because the vast majority of men are a net negative for women's energy and self esteem. Walking away is easy when you have a clear memory of how good you treat yourself, walking away is very hard if you are comparing a new guy to your most recent ex.
Thank you for saying this! I often take long breaks from dating and people think it's weird or sad! I enjoy my time to myself and I have no interest in jumping from man to man.
Excellent comment! You’re so right! It’s at the point where it’s about a man who will treat me as good as I treat myself. If not, I’d be happy to tell him to kick rocks.
Sadly, all the information we have about Kristen Bell's actual marriage points toward a dynamic very similar to this; she is framed as 'too much' and constantly crowd sourcing approval, and Dax, despite being less successful than her, dragged his feet on committing to her and constantly publicly negs her.
I found it so disrespectful when he showed up at the Spotify meeting to try to “swoop her off her feet” at this major job meeting it literally made me so sick. Not even that, he makes a huge scene and is loud about it in front of her possible bosses. If you actually cared about me you would show up and apologize at a different time. That part pissed me right off. Had a woman done that to a man he would literally kick them out of the restaurant and then call her crazy and never see her again.
The trope of being an AH as a man, then coming up with some grand gesture (that is most probably highly problematic) and should be immediately forgiven, no communication whatsoever is just horrible. Wtf.
The healthiest relationships are what people consider as "boring" and would not make for a good romcom. That said, I've actually stopped watching romcoms written by men or based on books written by men.. But even romcoms written by women can also risk perpetuating unhealthy beliefs about relationships.
Because the conditioning is not just in men. Women are part of the cycle perpetuating too. Anyone unhealed is going to be coming from a place inside the cycle and thus perpetuating the same bs.
@@lNowHerelas the mom of a 20yr old son that I love but don’t always like I agree completely. I grew up in a very destructive ab*sive home so my 90’s claiming to be a feminist boyfriend really had no trouble falling into a cycle that we shouldn’t have as we raised our kids in. We are both in therapy now but I see how we made a very kind daughter and an iffy son. On paper my son looks ideal but based on his last two relationships I know I failed as a parent. If your spouse doesn’t respect their mom boys won’t respect women. I am not just blaming my spouse it is a cycle I fully participated in. I was clueless and he was clueless so we messed the heck up.
I watched the trailer, and I cringed sooo hard at the scene with the synagogue where she's wearing a red dress and he doesn't want to acknowledge her in front of everyone. Like this guy doesn't love her! The title is correct. NOBODY wants this, not even HIM or the viewers!!😭😭
My amazing partner and I have a complex and interesting story, but it is one largely void of angst... and full of character!! Like I truly believe our story could be an epic novel.... but it probably wouldn't sell well, because it isn't a love that has ever hurt in a toxic way or been confusing. We met in college and fell in love but didn't know the other felt that way. Decades later we found our way back together and now live a near-dream life! In college this man was in the crowd for every talk I gave to my university about my own sexual assault. He has always been my biggest supporter!! I used to believe love had to hurt for it to be irressitably good... thank god I now know a love so much bigger and grander that doesn't ever have to hurt in the way I once expected!
You might be surprised. If there was access to more healthy stories people might appreciate them. The problem is that they are never given a chance WHILE, simultaneously, the seed that they are boring is planted. Its like telling a child that they cannot play a piano and never letting them see or try one. Tf? NEVER hold back from sharing yourself or what you think could help others based on a mainstream narrative or based on anything outside of you. If YOU want to share it then do it and trust that the people who need and want to will find it. The bs that if 10s of millions of people dont find you and your work then you’re cant be successful is the perfect way to keep people docile and behind desks working for pennies instead of perusing passions. There are infinite possibilities in this world. You could only reach 10 people with your creations and all 10 are millionaires or have things to give you that could forever change your life. But creating with expectations puts limits on what’s possible. They keep telling you that thoughts are powerfully and you all keep ignoring it. Stop. Limiting the limitless! And i am talking about YOU limiting YOU.
Women converting an entire religion just for their boyfriend is already doing way too much. Only convert post engagement with clear plans from him for a lifelong commitment, and even then, it's probably best to date someone more compatible
Just don’t convert. If a guy demands conversion in order to be with him, he’s already telling you he isn’t worth being around, much less being in a relationship with. Listen to what he’s saying about himself and walk away.
@@skylar_kada Eh, some people such as myself are pretty flexible on religion, so would be willing to convert if their partner was willing to do equal levels of work and investment in other areas. For instance, let's say I own an antiques shop. If my partner helps out at my shop for ten hours or so on the weekend, and shows a lot of passion for learning about and helping my work, I could see it as reasonable to devote a similar amount of time to learning about and embracing their religion. All relationships require some compromise, and I do know people who happily converted for their partners. However, a woman doing THAT much that early, as with this show, does scream doing it for the wrong reasons, and it's not shown to be reciprocal, like it's all about her proving she's good enough for him, and not the other way around.
@@FishareFriendsNotFood972 see, but you can get a partner who shares work with you, reciprocates everything you do for them, AND doesn’t demand that you convert to their religion. Learning about their religion/culture is a completely different thing from having to convert to it in order to be with them. Conversion isn’t a half and half thing. Either you convert and leave behind what you were raised in, or you don’t convert at all. Expecting someone to convert isn’t asking them to “compromise”, it’s telling them that the religion is more important than they are and that’s how it’ll always be. People like that are not worth being with, and they should know better than to date outside their community if they don’t want someone from outside their community.
It’s so funny bc I clicked the preview for this show and it was an immediate no for me. So glad to come across your review. I’m always appreciative of your thorough assessments. These toxic love stories and dating shows have got to go
one thing did bother me is how less we get to see rebecca. she's clearly an improtant charecter but she's barely in it. like, you break up a 6 year old relationship, rebecca deserves an apology. a good man would. there's litrally no scenes of them together post break up. the real villain is the mother (who's a surviver so understandable) but i was expecting something with more depth.
I must admit I disliked Rebecca as one should not do what she did and they portrayed her that she is in love with idea marrying rabbi rather than rabbi himself... however I completely overlooked how he dragged her along!!! They never explained why he broke up with her.
I mean...she put on her engagement ring before he even proposed. She literally tried to skip the proposal to get straight into the title of Mrs Head Rabbi. To me it was the first sign that she didn't care about him, she just liked the idea of being with the head rabbi. Edit: to be clear though, I actually liked Rebecca and found the show did a good job portraying her as fairly reasonable with a few lapses in judgement. Also, it showed her having a backbone(lying for kicks) despite trying to be "the good girl ".
They did explain, they just didn't spell it out for the audience. She 1. skipped the proposal entirely, as the comment above said and 2. she invaded his privacy, thus breaking his trust (locked drawer that the ring was in). Basically she took away his agency in the relationship.
Thanks for highlighting this! Totally spot on. The only thing I m suprised no one is talking about, is why is this show so heavy on educating and selling Joanna on being Jewish? It felt so pushy to the point that It was really uncomfortable to watch. They seemed to spend more time on that storyline than developing the characters. After episode 3 It felt like the plot shifted from a love story into to convert or not to covert. Anyone else ?!
I’ve been raging against this show since I watched it. ‘I can handle you’ sent me over the edge. I thought everyone would shit on it but then all these posts on instagram starting popping up raving about a healthy relationship. Where healthy relationship??
This breakdown is on on point regarding the fact that most movies/shows like this is propaganda! Thank the Goddess I did not waste my time to watch this movie/show. I just watched the title and thought I agree I dont want this. Romance movies and shows are mostly trash with trashy men so why bother watch? Those red flags would have had me annoyed.
I seriously can‘t believe this is written by a woman and that it‘s based on someone‘s actual love story. The whole time I was thinking „who wrote this drivel?!“ - and only kept watching because I was hoping they‘d steer in into a warning tale territory (and because I wanted to watch it before watching your take on it). If I were to take a guess this was some 14 year old‘s first attempt at creative writing. The way the lack of boundaries and toxicity being presented as normal in this series is straight up concerning. You mention him being a pushover, yes, AND, because he‘s a pushover to everyone else, but feels superior to her, and is super insecure, he‘ll start trying to control her. He‘s already started with the converting, then it‘ll be little things, pretty innocuous (he‘s only concerned about her!), then it‘ll always be something else until she‘s quitting her podcast because God forbid a head Rabbi‘s girlfriend would do a sex podcast. It‘ll never end. And she lacks all self image and molds into whatever he wants her to be in a desperate attempt to be accepted. We saw straight away how he isn‘t interested in her inner life, he‘s only intersted in her propping him up, and projecting his own ideas onto her emotional life (hello gaslighting „I can handle you moment - what.. the effing… f…). I want the sequel. I want them a few years down the path, in a complete shit storm of a relationship, where he‘s been texting Rebecca on the downlow while gaslighting her to think it‘s „just her issues“ (like he did when she was gonna break up with him), his standards are impossible to live up to, bending over backwards trying to be someone she isn‘t, getting broken dreams, PTSD and autoimmune disorders in the process.
As always, you’ve given us an EXCELLENT breakdown. I’m ashamed to admit that I saw less than half the red flags you mentioned, but geezlouise! Well Netflix did indicate that a new season was approved, and you’re saying this show is its creator’s love story and who almost got divorced herself, leads me to believe (hope) that we see their breakdown. (Sad to say). But I thought so after learning about S2, because I DID NOT APPRECIATE how this season ended. At ALL.
And the fact that she was vulnerable and asked him if he was going to break her heart? Yikes.... I was thinking: yes. Yes, he's going to break your heart; but you have a choice to LET him.
thanx for the video cause I felt like I was going mad, why is everyone raving about this terrible series who already has a second season. It's super white, and apparently inspired by the creator (a nepo baby) of the show and her now husband (who is a film executive and who adam brody's character is based on). I could only watch one episode of that 💩 and it told me everything I needed 🤮not only it's bad and super white (thank you netflix, again), but it's again romanticizing toxic relationship, terrible men, pick me women, and unhealthy family systems.
Thank you, I’m hopeful more and more people will flock to videos like this bc deep rooted misogyny is still constantly slipping through the cracks even in seemingly benign movies like this and it’s important to raise as much awareness as possible
Wow. I'm so impressed by your analysis here. If you haven't written a book you should. It would be a great book for mothers (and fathers) to give to their daughters before they start dating.
Idea: I’d love it if you made another video about the lack mindset with accompanying statistics to prove that it’s actually bullshit! Would be so so helpful
I shut off the show halfway through the second episode, but then much like Lisa, I thought maybe it could be the type of show where someone - any of the characters on this show - learn what the title implies, that “nobody wants this.” I decided to resume and watched this dumpster fire. Just before the ending, I felt like I could have been right. Now I’m wondering how romance could possibly be incorporated into a second season because the only two ways I can see this going is he either strings Joann along until it finally ends horribly or he ends up depending on her because he leaves his job. I suppose the third option is that they do end up together but it continues to be something no healthy person would actually want in a romantic partnership. Lisa, thank you for covering this!
😬 cringe af Stop. Us lesbians already know not to engage with your damaged type. Just heal and attract healed men. But dont switch teams and bring your bs onto others because you fail to see that youre part of the fucking problem too. Your conditioning plays a role too. Sit down.
This is like Carrie/Big 2.0 I’ve only watched up to him ignoring her texts and then showing up at 2 a.m., but that gave me those vibes. Good on you for calling this out! I WISH I would have had the tools and knowledge back in the aughts when SatC and those toxic relationship shows were the only entertainment young women could really access. It screwed up a lot of our perspectives at the time and kind of set us up to accept toxic behavior as love.
When you were going through the red flags I was thibking, “i bet the shows creator has shit relationships,” and then you touched on her own dysfunction lmao. I bet she is a wealthy white women who things she has some elite relationship and everyone around her can see its shit but she is a “cool girl” who no one tells the truth to. But since she had the Jewish factor and its SLIGHTLY improved over other patriarchal bs, netflix saw a cash cow for their political and women audiences. And i am here for all kinds of representation but when its so blatantly a manipulation its sick af
I saw a preview for this show and it looked horrible. So many issues in the seconds of clips alone felt so gross to me. Even the friend talking sh*t about his wife who's waiting in the car?? This is so 🤢
I had to learn enmeshment the hard way... I advise people to pay attention. My mental health and my partner's mental health suffered a great deal. I am now no contact and he is limited contract with his family. Honestly, we are hanging on by a thread. He couldn't see what was infront of him until it was too late.
Yeah a lot of them are LAZY so they’ll hang around, compliment, and watch you. Doing all this in hopes you’ll initiate everything. DONT these men are lazy in EVERYTHING including their own life!
Thank you for your video. I have been ruining the show for my fiancé cause I can’t stop complaining about how ridiculous this plot is. To me, the show is very sexist and glorifies the guy just for being mild mannered. But really if you watch the show, he’s a complete POS. He lets his mom belittle his girlfriend multiple times, he pressured her to switch religions, and then the show glorifies him for not making her switch religions. I was shocked by the amount of women I saw say he’s their dream man. He’s basically a child that is not held accountable for anything because he’s a rabbi. Also, the show is about like 45-year-old rich white people dealing with high school drama. The comedy is really cringe too. It’s like if they made that movie ‘you people’ into a series.
I haven’t even heard of this show until I saw your video! Now I’ll have to check it out and list everything I caught hahaha. Also the part about her converting to Judaism reminds me of Charlotte from SATC. Are you interested in talking about more of that content? Although Charlotte got the best outcome, I still feel like she could do better lmao.
This is the BEST breakdown on this show I’ve heard yet! I was rooting for them to realise their incompatibility and amicably breakup. Everything you raised is spot on. 👏 May we never settle for such garbage romance ladies.
and yes, family enmeshment is not closeness. it's a sign of dysfunction and that everyone is assigned unwritten script and role to play out that they cannot defer from.
he somewhat sees himself superior to her in the relationship, even though he does compliments her... respectfully, your job title doesn't necessarily make you a saintly character, calm down.
@@leendsmin yesss.. i didn't even make the connection because in terms of execution and storyline Fleabag is on a whole other level, but a lot of people are saying that he is the "Hot Rabbi" similar to the "Hot Priest" and i dont get at all...
God. Adam Brody was in another movie where he visits/encounters women from his past and hes close to getting married but as the movie progresses you start to see how many people hes wronged and hes an irredeemable p o s
I really love this video. I enjoyed the show mainly because I like the actors and their chemistry but several things bothered me and you listed them and so much more. The bar truly is in hell. I also hate what they're trying to do with the siblings, Sacha is annoying and I hate how the women are portrayed.
Reading your comments in your videos, have you considered making some kind of course(s) or book for women? To help them grow confidence and different awarenesses (self, relational, workplace, society, entertainment, political…)?
I started watching this because I heard the leads had great chemistry. I did not get that at all. I think it would've been better if Kristen Bell played the sister and the sister played the lead. Idk. Something to watch for now.
I actually really liked this show. I think it was lighthearted, but tackled some pretty serious issues well. It also didn't seem to make any of the women villains. Everyone had every good reasons for being who they are and their POV. But I appreciate an alternate view.
I'd love to be able to enjoy your video. But since I haven't seen this show and don't intend to watch it, it's just a bit too difficult to follow after a while. Which btw is fine, it is very valid to make videos for people who watched the show you are critiquing.
What tf was the point of this clmment? To give a creator permission to create even if you dont know what their content is about😂 Most self centered shit ive ever fucking seen
Thank you for dragging this bad show. all your points are correct about the romantic lead in it. this whole show reeked of LA stink so much i couldn't get past episode 3 . Everyone was so self absorbed and image-focused in that LA people way. Like 'this is funny we are self-absorbed and neurotic' but it's not funny as it thinks it is. it's just watching annoying people with fake jobs make sure their status's line up enough to invest romantically for the next 5-10 years until they inevitably cant commit for any number of selfish reasons. A way better show is "you're the worst" on fx which has the same type of characters but actually commits to the characters being obnoxious LA people while making it funny.
Would you consider making videos about how humor is a form of conditioning used to make women docile and keep them “dumb” and “weak”? One example: I remember a USA teen show from the 90s where a boy used to climb through the main characters window, who was a girl, and even when she would occasionally tell him not too a joke would be made that basically said “no, i wont stop” and then fake laughter was inserted. Basically saying when women put their foot down it should not be taken seriously even when there is clear violation occurring. And women should just not speak up because you will just be laughed at. And our society keeps telling ppl that if its a joke then you need to accept it. Like the whole, if a comedian says or does it they get a pass because jokes are ok. I would love a break down of this kind of behavior/conditioning from your perspective.
Good topic. I watched a show last night where the male romantic partner kept saying things that were low key negative or (wink, wink 😜 ) insensitive and we are supposed to think he’s such a cute lil’ rascal 🤢This needs to stop. Boys that use teasing to avoid being sincere always blame the partner for the lack of emotional connection. But TV writers just love to write these characters because it’s their fantasy to be in a relationship where they never have to be vulnerable or do emotional labor
YES. My thoughts exactly while watching this cringy show. I also hated how Johanna was basically portrayed as almost a hooker compared to ‘good Jewish ladies’. This show is yet another misogynistic trash.
Are you here to help people or just keep pushing negative thoughts? Im not attacking you as i feel completely attacked by you. I dont believe in eye for an eye response. I never got anywhere with love in life when i was negative. My unhealthy emotions hurt others severely and i learned to open my heart to GOD and be a positive person that attracts. Manifest positive reactions and you will live the life you wanted to live
@bdott1538 I understand. We have to remember that we as a human race never would have learned to ride horse if we didn't get back on after being bucked off. Including myself, we all need to be stronger than the force that brought us down, or brought us here to begin with. I still pray for all of you. 🙏
@@funkysawmanwright5077 that’s nice, I’m following Jesus‘ example though, and remaining single while choosing women friends to share life with. No complaints about these wonderful relationships.
glad she’s breaking it down so i don’t have to waste my time watching it. i think the point is that a lot of ppl are swooning over how their relationship is represented without recognizing the serious issues and problematic messaging in the show (this coming from someone who hasn’t seen it)
It's nature and natural that most women are attracted to toxic masculine men. Ohh the tough guy that holds himself well and has the alluring voice to make you melt. Yea I can spot these men instantly and every single one of them will harm you emotionally and possibly physically. But just know there are true men out there that can love in ways you never dreamed about, and protect your emotions and feelings, Showing you a steadfast love that make you forever feel like the most important person in his life.
You basing anything irl in any tv characters, especially animated, is disturbing and literally part of the point here. Stop taking cues from fucking tv
@@sumairshirazi if you're not. You say… I just don't care about a woman's education or if she's a waitress. It doesn't matter. That really means you're looking for control and power in most relationships.
My ex husband repeatedly told me, “I’m mean to you because I’m jealous that you’re a better Army officer than I was at your age.” So it’s men who say they’re jealous.
I liked the show, but I told the friend who recommended it to me that it made me sad-- because while Noah indeed has the bare minimum level of maturity and emotional intelligence for an adult, most men don't even have a fraction of THAT small amount. 🥲
The brother and his wife’s relationship dynamic was odd. She was a pickme to the WAGs and entangled her sister in the mess. The sister and the brother being weird too. I enjoyed the show but it was definitely odd situations
You know what's sad, a"Good Man" in reality is just the average women.
A good man is well, well, well below the average woman. Men think they are good as long as he isn’t abusing a woman. The bar is way lower for a man than it is for women.
So true! There’s a huge gap between average women and average men. In every aspect women much more progressive than men. I made peace with the fact that I probably won’t find a partner.
in reality, the average women are a bad man, callous, narcissistic, hypocritical
and I'm saying this as a woman
@@reemhell8083 Yeah unfortunately if women dated only our equals Intellectually, Emotionally, Educationally, Financially that would disqualify like 80 percent of men.
@@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld
men are dropping out of higher education, dont exactly know reason why, and they dont tend to challenge them selves intellectually or expand their knowledge otherwise. like reading a book, literally any book. last time the average man actually read anything was when he was forced to do so in school.
emotionally men tend to be immature and almost stunted, retaining some 12 year old mindset to their 30s and 40s and worse yet is if they bought into some podcast bros who give the dumbest fucking "advice" on the planet.
financially there is no question about it with the rising number of neets. "hobosexuality" seems to be on the rise and many men live at home with parents with no plans for the future or desires to find even minimum wage work. so a woman would be the one providing literally everything while they refuse to even do their own laundry.
a great example of this is def my friend who hits all of these boxes and yet dares to whine how "life is unfair" well anything I say to him will be less than what his ex said to him when the broke up. she got fed up with his bullshit, and my therapist recommends I distance my self from him as well instead of take on any emotional burden on his part.
last time I talked with him I gave him a simplified list of things he needs to do to improve his situation. I doubt he has done even one thing in 10 years and hes gonna be 40 then.
How can a man lead a religious community if he can't even lead himself through his own life?
they are called "bread priests" they are just doing it for a job like everyone else works for a living.
religous communities always uplift mediocre men under the term "man of God" more time it's just charisma and convincing speach
Tf?!
Have you been asleep through all of society? This exactly thing you mention has been happening for centuries! Leaders in society and communities with shit personal lives. Because people put religious, political, and celebrity figures in pedestals forgetting that they too are human and fuck up too. So they dont vet them.
this has been the case throughout history! men leading religions and cults and systems with shit home and personal lives. what is surprising about this to you?
@@KossolaxtheForesworn This part. Some people forget that there are folks out here that are just doing the job - no more, no less.
Conflict avoidant men are EXHAUSTING, they implicitly want you to fight all their battles for them and do all the emotional labor for the relationship, but then they get to turn around a backbite whenever they feel insecure with the zinger of 'you're so controlling and uptight!'
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litteraly my dad,
@@charlikuran286 Yeah, mine too.......I'm sorry. Sending virtual hugs, internet friend, we deserved better. ❤
So basically, you met my brother and you are here to snitch on him!!!!
Okie dokie 🤭
Yeah they use words to describe their personality like "easy going", "chill" go with the flow" and "live in the moment" and looking for the same....
But it just means you'll be the one who has to do the mental labor of anticipating, planning, thinking ahead, taking care of most responsibilities....
While he just kicks back and "LiVeS iN tHe mOmEnT"
Your sharp eye for seeing through bullshit is *chef's kiss* A true gift to the universe.
right??? i want her commentary on every show lol
You can be this too. Hopefully you’re learning
I don't like romantic movies because they always portray women as pickmes. They also promote hook up culture..
They also don't target men. So men don't watch them. So while women are over there longing for what they see in them men are not. So they're a whole setup for the downfall of impressionable girls who try to enact them as women.
Because its propaganda written by men to brainwash women
@nzingahoney This! Never truly hit me til recently, and I always balked at the comparison of romance books/movies for women like porn for men (still don't agree there, at least in terms of one being a much larger societal ill), but it's true: men and women have totally different "languages" and realities for relationships based on the different media consumed and how expectations are shaped.
Seriously! They slept together on their first official date? No!!!
"Dorky guy turned hot" characters are Adam Brody's entire career
Of what I’ve seen of his work, his characters are usually self absorbed and pretty horrible too.
ENTIRE!
PSA: BREAKS from dating is essential for you to keep reasonable standards for your treatment as a woman, because it is so helpful to have recent memory of what the baseline of 'alone' is like. I have known SO many women, such as the woman on this show, be so used to dating that all they can emotionally do is compare one man to another man's treatment, and that will just drain life from you, because the vast majority of men are a net negative for women's energy and self esteem. Walking away is easy when you have a clear memory of how good you treat yourself, walking away is very hard if you are comparing a new guy to your most recent ex.
Wow! Never heard it like that. Thanks!
Thank you for saying this! I often take long breaks from dating and people think it's weird or sad! I enjoy my time to myself and I have no interest in jumping from man to man.
Excellent comment! You’re so right! It’s at the point where it’s about a man who will treat me as good as I treat myself. If not, I’d be happy to tell him to kick rocks.
Sadly, all the information we have about Kristen Bell's actual marriage points toward a dynamic very similar to this; she is framed as 'too much' and constantly crowd sourcing approval, and Dax, despite being less successful than her, dragged his feet on committing to her and constantly publicly negs her.
She is a living cool girl. Which makes me sad because I love her snarky way of acting.
My thoughts exactly. I have always found her personal life to be exactly that.
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She is too good for him
I found it so disrespectful when he showed up at the Spotify meeting to try to “swoop her off her feet” at this major job meeting it literally made me so sick. Not even that, he makes a huge scene and is loud about it in front of her possible bosses. If you actually cared about me you would show up and apologize at a different time. That part pissed me right off. Had a woman done that to a man he would literally kick them out of the restaurant and then call her crazy and never see her again.
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Too right. that’s the scene that decided it for me.bleh
I really appreciate you saying that you shouldn't romanticize romantic shows/movies. That needs to be common knowledge.
Or use any media as a standard of living…should be an obvious NO!
I’m glad you watched that show for us, because it’s certainly something I’d never watch.😂
Same. I stopped watching romance shows/movies years ago. When they're picked apart they're all so gross and toxic.
Riiiiiight. We thank her for her service 🙏🏽
The trope of being an AH as a man, then coming up with some grand gesture (that is most probably highly problematic) and should be immediately forgiven, no communication whatsoever is just horrible. Wtf.
Im guessing they learned that from sitcoms.
The healthiest relationships are what people consider as "boring" and would not make for a good romcom.
That said, I've actually stopped watching romcoms written by men or based on books written by men.. But even romcoms written by women can also risk perpetuating unhealthy beliefs about relationships.
yup. music too. feels like these dudes create “art” to (at least in part) manipulate women en masse and reinforce patriarchal values
Because the conditioning is not just in men. Women are part of the cycle perpetuating too. Anyone unhealed is going to be coming from a place inside the cycle and thus perpetuating the same bs.
@@lNowHerelas the mom of a 20yr old son that I love but don’t always like I agree completely. I grew up in a very destructive ab*sive home so my 90’s claiming to be a feminist boyfriend really had no trouble falling into a cycle that we shouldn’t have as we raised our kids in. We are both in therapy now but I see how we made a very kind daughter and an iffy son. On paper my son looks ideal but based on his last two relationships I know I failed as a parent. If your spouse doesn’t respect their mom boys won’t respect women. I am not just blaming my spouse it is a cycle I fully participated in. I was clueless and he was clueless so we messed the heck up.
I watched the trailer, and I cringed sooo hard at the scene with the synagogue where she's wearing a red dress and he doesn't want to acknowledge her in front of everyone. Like this guy doesn't love her! The title is correct. NOBODY wants this, not even HIM or the viewers!!😭😭
My amazing partner and I have a complex and interesting story, but it is one largely void of angst... and full of character!!
Like I truly believe our story could be an epic novel.... but it probably wouldn't sell well, because it isn't a love that has ever hurt in a toxic way or been confusing.
We met in college and fell in love but didn't know the other felt that way. Decades later we found our way back together and now live a near-dream life! In college this man was in the crowd for every talk I gave to my university about my own sexual assault. He has always been my biggest supporter!!
I used to believe love had to hurt for it to be irressitably good... thank god I now know a love so much bigger and grander that doesn't ever have to hurt in the way I once expected!
You might be surprised. If there was access to more healthy stories people might appreciate them. The problem is that they are never given a chance WHILE, simultaneously, the seed that they are boring is planted.
Its like telling a child that they cannot play a piano and never letting them see or try one. Tf?
NEVER hold back from sharing yourself or what you think could help others based on a mainstream narrative or based on anything outside of you. If YOU want to share it then do it and trust that the people who need and want to will find it.
The bs that if 10s of millions of people dont find you and your work then you’re cant be successful is the perfect way to keep people docile and behind desks working for pennies instead of perusing passions. There are infinite possibilities in this world. You could only reach 10 people with your creations and all 10 are millionaires or have things to give you that could forever change your life. But creating with expectations puts limits on what’s possible. They keep telling you that thoughts are powerfully and you all keep ignoring it. Stop. Limiting the limitless! And i am talking about YOU limiting YOU.
@@lNowHerel I REALLY appreciate this reminder!! Thank you so much for taking the time to write it out. 💗
Women converting an entire religion just for their boyfriend is already doing way too much. Only convert post engagement with clear plans from him for a lifelong commitment, and even then, it's probably best to date someone more compatible
Or dont convert. Or let him convert to your religion🤷♀️
Just don’t convert. If a guy demands conversion in order to be with him, he’s already telling you he isn’t worth being around, much less being in a relationship with. Listen to what he’s saying about himself and walk away.
@@skylar_kada Eh, some people such as myself are pretty flexible on religion, so would be willing to convert if their partner was willing to do equal levels of work and investment in other areas. For instance, let's say I own an antiques shop. If my partner helps out at my shop for ten hours or so on the weekend, and shows a lot of passion for learning about and helping my work, I could see it as reasonable to devote a similar amount of time to learning about and embracing their religion. All relationships require some compromise, and I do know people who happily converted for their partners. However, a woman doing THAT much that early, as with this show, does scream doing it for the wrong reasons, and it's not shown to be reciprocal, like it's all about her proving she's good enough for him, and not the other way around.
Like Shera would say she ain't converting to sh** 😂. She's the religion herself.
I see we're she's coming from though with that talking point.
@@FishareFriendsNotFood972 see, but you can get a partner who shares work with you, reciprocates everything you do for them, AND doesn’t demand that you convert to their religion. Learning about their religion/culture is a completely different thing from having to convert to it in order to be with them. Conversion isn’t a half and half thing. Either you convert and leave behind what you were raised in, or you don’t convert at all. Expecting someone to convert isn’t asking them to “compromise”, it’s telling them that the religion is more important than they are and that’s how it’ll always be. People like that are not worth being with, and they should know better than to date outside their community if they don’t want someone from outside their community.
Wow, haven't seen this yet but knowing this is based on a woman's memoir of meeting her husband is giving me the extra ick!
It’s so funny bc I clicked the preview for this show and it was an immediate no for me. So glad to come across your review. I’m always appreciative of your thorough assessments. These toxic love stories and dating shows have got to go
one thing did bother me is how less we get to see rebecca. she's clearly an improtant charecter but she's barely in it. like, you break up a 6 year old relationship, rebecca deserves an apology. a good man would. there's litrally no scenes of them together post break up. the real villain is the mother (who's a surviver so understandable) but i was expecting something with more depth.
I must admit I disliked Rebecca as one should not do what she did and they portrayed her that she is in love with idea marrying rabbi rather than rabbi himself... however I completely overlooked how he dragged her along!!! They never explained why he broke up with her.
I mean...she put on her engagement ring before he even proposed. She literally tried to skip the proposal to get straight into the title of Mrs Head Rabbi. To me it was the first sign that she didn't care about him, she just liked the idea of being with the head rabbi.
Edit: to be clear though, I actually liked Rebecca and found the show did a good job portraying her as fairly reasonable with a few lapses in judgement. Also, it showed her having a backbone(lying for kicks) despite trying to be "the good girl ".
They did explain, they just didn't spell it out for the audience. She 1. skipped the proposal entirely, as the comment above said and 2. she invaded his privacy, thus breaking his trust (locked drawer that the ring was in). Basically she took away his agency in the relationship.
A few seconds in and I already vote the video up cause I know it will be good.
I knew this show would not be good by his stubble 😭
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Thanks for highlighting this! Totally spot on. The only thing I m suprised no one is talking about, is why is this show so heavy on educating and selling Joanna on being Jewish? It felt so pushy to the point that It was really uncomfortable to watch. They seemed to spend more time on that storyline than developing the characters. After episode 3 It felt like the plot shifted from a love story into to convert or not to covert. Anyone else ?!
I’ve been raging against this show since I watched it. ‘I can handle you’ sent me over the edge. I thought everyone would shit on it but then all these posts on instagram starting popping up raving about a healthy relationship. Where healthy relationship??
Honestly. People are so fucking damaged they will take even 1% better. As you can see from this trash
I'm watching Dr House again, it has become my comfort show now. No romantic bs whatsoever. Pure realism. Love it.
Thank you for making this video. I was shocked by the amount of red flags that Adam’s character had on full display before the end of episode one.
This breakdown is on on point regarding the fact that most movies/shows like this is propaganda! Thank the Goddess I did not waste my time to watch this movie/show. I just watched the title and thought I agree I dont want this. Romance movies and shows are mostly trash with trashy men so why bother watch? Those red flags would have had me annoyed.
I seriously can‘t believe this is written by a woman and that it‘s based on someone‘s actual love story. The whole time I was thinking „who wrote this drivel?!“ - and only kept watching because I was hoping they‘d steer in into a warning tale territory (and because I wanted to watch it before watching your take on it). If I were to take a guess this was some 14 year old‘s first attempt at creative writing.
The way the lack of boundaries and toxicity being presented as normal in this series is straight up concerning.
You mention him being a pushover, yes, AND, because he‘s a pushover to everyone else, but feels superior to her, and is super insecure, he‘ll start trying to control her. He‘s already started with the converting, then it‘ll be little things, pretty innocuous (he‘s only concerned about her!), then it‘ll always be something else until she‘s quitting her podcast because God forbid a head Rabbi‘s girlfriend would do a sex podcast. It‘ll never end. And she lacks all self image and molds into whatever he wants her to be in a desperate attempt to be accepted. We saw straight away how he isn‘t interested in her inner life, he‘s only intersted in her propping him up, and projecting his own ideas onto her emotional life (hello gaslighting „I can handle you moment - what.. the effing… f…).
I want the sequel. I want them a few years down the path, in a complete shit storm of a relationship, where he‘s been texting Rebecca on the downlow while gaslighting her to think it‘s „just her issues“ (like he did when she was gonna break up with him), his standards are impossible to live up to, bending over backwards trying to be someone she isn‘t, getting broken dreams, PTSD and autoimmune disorders in the process.
As always, you’ve given us an EXCELLENT breakdown. I’m ashamed to admit that I saw less than half the red flags you mentioned, but geezlouise! Well Netflix did indicate that a new season was approved, and you’re saying this show is its creator’s love story and who almost got divorced herself, leads me to believe (hope) that we see their breakdown. (Sad to say). But I thought so after learning about S2, because I DID NOT APPRECIATE how this season ended. At ALL.
Omgawdddddd i cannot watch dumb Hollywood brainwashing " Romantic" love story .. yawn . Thank you YV for saving us all from the brain rot.
My husband and I started watching this last night and boy, the red flags from both sides that we were catching! It could be a game of sorts 😑
And the fact that she was vulnerable and asked him if he was going to break her heart? Yikes....
I was thinking: yes. Yes, he's going to break your heart; but you have a choice to LET him.
Really good analysis and very helpful for confused, love-addicted women!
thanx for the video cause I felt like I was going mad, why is everyone raving about this terrible series who already has a second season. It's super white, and apparently inspired by the creator (a nepo baby) of the show and her now husband (who is a film executive and who adam brody's character is based on). I could only watch one episode of that 💩 and it told me everything I needed 🤮not only it's bad and super white (thank you netflix, again), but it's again romanticizing toxic relationship, terrible men, pick me women, and unhealthy family systems.
well now that just gives a whole different realm of hatred for this show.
Thank you, I’m hopeful more and more people will flock to videos like this bc deep rooted misogyny is still constantly slipping through the cracks even in seemingly benign movies like this and it’s important to raise as much awareness as possible
A 30 minute count down? OK. I'll wait.
Wow. I'm so impressed by your analysis here. If you haven't written a book you should. It would be a great book for mothers (and fathers) to give to their daughters before they start dating.
Whew! you nailed it
Before i watched this review, i thought this was the greatest modern lovestory ever!!!😊❤... Thank you for grounding me😅
Thank you for opening my eyes 🙏🏾
Idea: I’d love it if you made another video about the lack mindset with accompanying statistics to prove that it’s actually bullshit! Would be so so helpful
second this!
I shut off the show halfway through the second episode, but then much like Lisa, I thought maybe it could be the type of show where someone - any of the characters on this show - learn what the title implies, that “nobody wants this.” I decided to resume and watched this dumpster fire. Just before the ending, I felt like I could have been right. Now I’m wondering how romance could possibly be incorporated into a second season because the only two ways I can see this going is he either strings Joann along until it finally ends horribly or he ends up depending on her because he leaves his job. I suppose the third option is that they do end up together but it continues to be something no healthy person would actually want in a romantic partnership. Lisa, thank you for covering this!
Yes! Almost all american media shows love stories as a goddamn roller coaster and never stable.
what a detailed and insightful analysis. thanks for this.
it was super healing to hear that women are NOT too much if anything they are more emotionally intelligent and have more personality
I'm a reformed straight woman who now wants to date a woman-- Who also wants to marry this youtuber for so many reasons 😂❤🎉
😬 cringe af
Stop. Us lesbians already know not to engage with your damaged type. Just heal and attract healed men. But dont switch teams and bring your bs onto others because you fail to see that youre part of the fucking problem too. Your conditioning plays a role too. Sit down.
damn. even my c-ptsd aint got this many red flags.
Your insights and your wisdom is ❤️❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯💯👑🙌🏻⭐
Again showing us why no man is worth the time or effort 💅🏻 Can’t meet me on my level, stay down
This is like Carrie/Big 2.0
I’ve only watched up to him ignoring her texts and then showing up at 2 a.m., but that gave me those vibes.
Good on you for calling this out! I WISH I would have had the tools and knowledge back in the aughts when SatC and those toxic relationship shows were the only entertainment young women could really access. It screwed up a lot of our perspectives at the time and kind of set us up to accept toxic behavior as love.
When you were going through the red flags I was thibking, “i bet the shows creator has shit relationships,” and then you touched on her own dysfunction lmao. I bet she is a wealthy white women who things she has some elite relationship and everyone around her can see its shit but she is a “cool girl” who no one tells the truth to. But since she had the Jewish factor and its SLIGHTLY improved over other patriarchal bs, netflix saw a cash cow for their political and women audiences.
And i am here for all kinds of representation but when its so blatantly a manipulation its sick af
I saw a preview for this show and it looked horrible. So many issues in the seconds of clips alone felt so gross to me. Even the friend talking sh*t about his wife who's waiting in the car?? This is so 🤢
I had to learn enmeshment the hard way... I advise people to pay attention. My mental health and my partner's mental health suffered a great deal. I am now no contact and he is limited contract with his family. Honestly, we are hanging on by a thread. He couldn't see what was infront of him until it was too late.
Yeah a lot of them are LAZY so they’ll hang around, compliment, and watch you. Doing all this in hopes you’ll initiate everything. DONT these men are lazy in EVERYTHING including their own life!
Thank you for your video. I have been ruining the show for my fiancé cause I can’t stop complaining about how ridiculous this plot is. To me, the show is very sexist and glorifies the guy just for being mild mannered. But really if you watch the show, he’s a complete POS. He lets his mom belittle his girlfriend multiple times, he pressured her to switch religions, and then the show glorifies him for not making her switch religions. I was shocked by the amount of women I saw say he’s their dream man. He’s basically a child that is not held accountable for anything because he’s a rabbi. Also, the show is about like 45-year-old rich white people dealing with high school drama. The comedy is really cringe too. It’s like if they made that movie ‘you people’ into a series.
I haven’t even heard of this show until I saw your video! Now I’ll have to check it out and list everything I caught hahaha.
Also the part about her converting to Judaism reminds me of Charlotte from SATC. Are you interested in talking about more of that content? Although Charlotte got the best outcome, I still feel like she could do better lmao.
This is the BEST breakdown on this show I’ve heard yet! I was rooting for them to realise their incompatibility and amicably breakup. Everything you raised is spot on. 👏 May we never settle for such garbage romance ladies.
i dont know why people swoon over the seriessss :( i can like fleabag without romanticizing the priest lol he was a mess too.
and yes, family enmeshment is not closeness. it's a sign of dysfunction and that everyone is assigned unwritten script and role to play out that they cannot defer from.
he somewhat sees himself superior to her in the relationship, even though he does compliments her... respectfully, your job title doesn't necessarily make you a saintly character, calm down.
I mean, at least Fleabag wasn't pretending to be aspirational. And if we are being honest, it's actually the realistic one of the two series.
@@leendsmin yesss.. i didn't even make the connection because in terms of execution and storyline Fleabag is on a whole other level, but a lot of people are saying that he is the "Hot Rabbi" similar to the "Hot Priest" and i dont get at all...
God. Adam Brody was in another movie where he visits/encounters women from his past and hes close to getting married but as the movie progresses you start to see how many people hes wronged and hes an irredeemable p o s
So it's the romance version of Scrooge
I really love this video.
I enjoyed the show mainly because I like the actors and their chemistry but several things bothered me and you listed them and so much more.
The bar truly is in hell.
I also hate what they're trying to do with the siblings, Sacha is annoying and I hate how the women are portrayed.
Reading your comments in your videos, have you considered making some kind of course(s) or book for women? To help them grow confidence and different awarenesses (self, relational, workplace, society, entertainment, political…)?
I started watching this because I heard the leads had great chemistry. I did not get that at all. I think it would've been better if Kristen Bell played the sister and the sister played the lead. Idk. Something to watch for now.
Yes! They had no romantic chemistry. It felt like I was watching two friends hang out.
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I agree 100%. Terrible example of how to date and have a relationship. I was so disappointed given all the hype about this show.
I actually really liked this show. I think it was lighthearted, but tackled some pretty serious issues well. It also didn't seem to make any of the women villains. Everyone had every good reasons for being who they are and their POV. But I appreciate an alternate view.
Definitely made women villains, including his ex, his mother and in some ways her sister.
I'd love to be able to enjoy your video. But since I haven't seen this show and don't intend to watch it, it's just a bit too difficult to follow after a while.
Which btw is fine, it is very valid to make videos for people who watched the show you are critiquing.
What tf was the point of this clmment? To give a creator permission to create even if you dont know what their content is about😂
Most self centered shit ive ever fucking seen
third eye activated 🤌🏼
Sister u r a very insightful woman thank u ! Make more videos on ur life philosophy etc
TikTok girlies were extremely triggered by the truths posted on this vid on that platform. It is really essential viewing and a careful analysis.
I couldnt continue Watching. Too cringe and bad 😫
I love u.. I will watch it first and then listen to u...
Thank you for dragging this bad show. all your points are correct about the romantic lead in it.
this whole show reeked of LA stink so much i couldn't get past episode 3 . Everyone was so self absorbed and image-focused in that LA people way. Like 'this is funny we are self-absorbed and neurotic' but it's not funny as it thinks it is. it's just watching annoying people with fake jobs make sure their status's line up enough to invest romantically for the next 5-10 years until they inevitably cant commit for any number of selfish reasons. A way better show is "you're the worst" on fx which has the same type of characters but actually commits to the characters being obnoxious LA people while making it funny.
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Would you consider making videos about how humor is a form of conditioning used to make women docile and keep them “dumb” and “weak”?
One example: I remember a USA teen show from the 90s where a boy used to climb through the main characters window, who was a girl, and even when she would occasionally tell him not too a joke would be made that basically said “no, i wont stop” and then fake laughter was inserted. Basically saying when women put their foot down it should not be taken seriously even when there is clear violation occurring. And women should just not speak up because you will just be laughed at. And our society keeps telling ppl that if its a joke then you need to accept it. Like the whole, if a comedian says or does it they get a pass because jokes are ok.
I would love a break down of this kind of behavior/conditioning from your perspective.
Good topic. I watched a show last night where the male romantic partner kept saying things that were low key negative or (wink, wink 😜 ) insensitive and we are supposed to think he’s such a cute lil’ rascal 🤢This needs to stop. Boys that use teasing to avoid being sincere always blame the partner for the lack of emotional connection. But TV writers just love to write these characters because it’s their fantasy to be in a relationship where they never have to be vulnerable or do emotional labor
Have you seen 'It's What's Inside'? It's a fun watch and lots to unpack
lol I just can't do romantic comedies. I only watch horror LMAO.
I truly hate this show… pickmes redflag men.. lile wth
What about jim and pam? Could u cover that pwease
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They should teach these things at school.
YES. My thoughts exactly while watching this cringy show. I also hated how Johanna was basically portrayed as almost a hooker compared to ‘good Jewish ladies’. This show is yet another misogynistic trash.
am i an idiot? i just saw this, i thought it was good
are there any movies or series where a woman isn't a pick me?
I didn't watch the show, but I already hate it, especially this male character.
Who hurt you?😂😂😂😂😂😂
The man hassss to be more into it
Are you here to help people or just keep pushing negative thoughts?
Im not attacking you as i feel completely attacked by you. I dont believe in eye for an eye response.
I never got anywhere with love in life when i was negative. My unhealthy emotions hurt others severely and i learned to open my heart to GOD and be a positive person that attracts.
Manifest positive reactions and you will live the life you wanted to live
Shes not pushing negative thoughts, she’s just telling the truth.
@bdott1538 I understand.
We have to remember that we as a human race never would have learned to ride horse if we didn't get back on after being bucked off.
Including myself, we all need to be stronger than the force that brought us down, or brought us here to begin with. I still pray for all of you. 🙏
@@funkysawmanwright5077 that’s nice, I’m following Jesus‘ example though, and remaining single while choosing women friends to share life with.
No complaints about these wonderful relationships.
@bdott1538 through Jesus you will be healed. Time helps also
@@funkysawmanwright5077im following Jesus‘ example, no need to gaslight my dude.
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I watched the first episode, it was very The OC and 7th Heaven propaganda vibes. Brody is cute but I couldn't reverse all the brainwashing
What show is this? Is everyone just supposed to know?
glad she’s breaking it down so i don’t have to waste my time watching it. i think the point is that a lot of ppl are swooning over how their relationship is represented without recognizing the serious issues and problematic messaging in the show (this coming from someone who hasn’t seen it)
It is in the thumbnail and intro
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It's nature and natural that most women are attracted to toxic masculine men. Ohh the tough guy that holds himself well and has the alluring voice to make you melt.
Yea I can spot these men instantly and every single one of them will harm you emotionally and possibly physically.
But just know there are true men out there that can love in ways you never dreamed about, and protect your emotions and feelings, Showing you a steadfast love that make you forever feel like the most important person in his life.
Is this satire?
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I don’t think love at first sight stories are boring at all. They’re so beautiful.
The only good man on TV is Ralph from Bojack Horseman. 🙌🏻
You basing anything irl in any tv characters, especially animated, is disturbing and literally part of the point here. Stop taking cues from fucking tv
Who says men are jealous of thriving women
Bc you guys are going overseas for women in abstract poverty
@@Gigi-rl2hl not really
@@sumairshirazi if you're not. You say… I just don't care about a woman's education or if she's a waitress. It doesn't matter. That really means you're looking for control and power in most relationships.
@@Gigi-rl2hl it's not control or power in relationship
My ex husband repeatedly told me, “I’m mean to you because I’m jealous that you’re a better Army officer than I was at your age.” So it’s men who say they’re jealous.
I liked the show, but I told the friend who recommended it to me that it made me sad-- because while Noah indeed has the bare minimum level of maturity and emotional intelligence for an adult, most men don't even have a fraction of THAT small amount. 🥲
But also yes the family enmeshment would be a turn-off for me. I can't stand the idea of someone else trying to micromanage my romantic relationship.
The brother and his wife’s relationship dynamic was odd. She was a pickme to the WAGs and entangled her sister in the mess. The sister and the brother being weird too. I enjoyed the show but it was definitely odd situations
So…what did you like about it?
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