3 Positive Ways To Say NO to kids!! Positive Discipline & Setting Loving Limits | SJ Strum
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I'm not an expert I just love reading up on this style of parenting and have found 'loving limits' really helpful to describe how I prefer to discipline. I've included 3 examples for different ages as I always find it helpful when it's applied to real life!! Let me know more videos you'd like to see in this series below and I love hearing from you. (I'm on holiday this week so might be next week I get back to you!) SJ xxx
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Love this! Thank you! I had heard to be careful with how much you say "no" or it becomes one of baby's first words and they just start saying no to everything! I have an 8 month old baby girl and these are great tips to diversify my responses to her. ❤️ She only says dadadada so far so I think I'm in time to curb the "no" habit lol
Shauna Goodridge not for babies worked so well for mine! I think it’s more logical for them somehow xxx
Hahahaha i didn't say no to her but my mistake was saying no no no to respond to my mum or husband just clarifying what i meant or disagreeing with something not even arguing i didn't realise i was saying this until my toddler started to say no just copying but then i accepted the fact she can say it and taught her what it means she says no as a first response but i have patience for her choices hahaha not so much for others in my life. To me its important i respect her choices from now so that i can have practice with doing so for the more difficult times. I only present her with yes or no questions rarely because offering 2 choices im happy with is far more beneficial to everyone. Hahahaha
Yay for Respectful parenting.
I’m loving this series of videos. We are currently expecting our first child and my husband and I are enjoying chatting about these ideas whilst we eat our dinner and get excited about our parenting journey ahead! X
Hannah Elizabeth ah that’s so nice to imagine you doing that Hannah!!! Xxx
Please continue the gentle parenting Videos I love them soooo much thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️
Tami C ah great! I will tami; I love making them x
Love this video SJ! I am not a parent (I hope I will be one day) but I am a teacher, and it’s important to try and be consistent with how you discipline children. Normally when you discipline a child, for any reason, it is for their safety or the safety of another child. It’s so important that you’re able to remain fairly calm and in control (but believe me, I know it’s hard!). It’s crucial for children to maintain a positive relationship with you. I will keep these phrases in mind - thank you!
It’s Sarahjane it’s tough isn’t it when it’s dangerous and I feel like health and safety monitor all the time!!! Especially as my older one can do things the little ones aren’t allowed to; like run ahead in the park. Not for babies helps me a lot to be more careful with their feelings x
I say “I won’t let you because...” and also “I don’t want you to do that/touch that/etc because” and my 17 month old really is respectful of those limits unless we are having a hard day. I am always pleasantly surprised by how effective it is to speak to even a very young kiddo this way. I love gentle parenting so much!
Hosanna Lorenzen ah so glad you like these too; these are definitely my top three x
Nice 👍
Thank you thank you so much for posting this! I have a 10 month old and I’ve been wanting to say something different then “No.” to him. Perfect timing.
Could you do a baby name list for names with important meanings to parents about to have their rainbow baby? Or of a baby that's come out of IVF? Names that mean things like "miracle" or "loved" or "hope/hoped for"? I love your lists so much! Xx
I think that's a great idea . Im hoping my sis in law gets pregnant and gets to have a healthy baby. She has had 7 miscarriages and is having trouble conceiving.
Love this idea. 🌈
Looove i can't let you ... already started using it with my 18 month old for the past 6 months hahahaha i think she's starting to catch on.
Also from that book which i really loved was;
'Even though you know...'
It gives them the benefit of having Knowledge and understanding of the situation and still accepting their difficulties with their feelings towards it.
Loved this!!!
Really needed to see this today. Thank you! X
This is really helpful I’m definitely going to try these x x
SJ this video is brilliant. I find myself saying ‘No’ much too often lately. You’re suggestions are great (and you don’t come across like a know-it-all/perfect parent. So relatable!) I’ll definitely try some of these.
cheri d ah thank you Cheri; I love making these videos as I keep little lists and quotes on my phone and love chatting about them!! Thanks so much for watching and the lovely message xxx
Lovely video such a better way to live a calmer life please make more videos. Xx
I love this, so calming watching these videos
lilyimogensass ah thank you xx
Thank you! Your UA-cam job is really really valued! Please, keep going! You're amazing mom! Thank you for inspiration!
I find it cute when you say "Really, really"!
So helpful and so important, thank you x
Felicity Legg thanks felicity xx
thankyou for this
Love this one!
Kirie Plante ah that’s great! Thank you xx
Thank you so much for these positive discipline/gentle parenting videos. Your real life examples are so helpful. I will definitely be trying these phrases out on my 14 month old!
Carla Landreth they really work for me; I just like having things up my sleeve when it gets tough!!! X
You are always on over here. It's gotta be tough to keep coming up with new ideas - but somehow you do it. 8-)
Hi SJ, thank you so much for your videos on this topic! I work as an Au Pair and enjoy hearing your thoughts and opinions to parenting. Especially your video on things to tell your kid has helped me in taking care of my three year old boy here in Australia. Much love from Brisbane
Jona Kalinka ah how cool! So funny to imagine this being watched in Australia! Xxxx
I have a dilemma for you if you wouldn’t mind, my friend is pregnant with 3 baby girls and are stuck with names. They have a tradition of using family names as middle names, they’ve changed them so they’re a bit more modern, and have settled with either Marie Mai Elizabeth (or a derivation of Elizabeth) or Alice. As a first name they like Olive Marie, Ayva Eliza and Indi Mai but haven’t settled and don’t think they sound quite right yet. They like unique names that begin with vowels and bold but not too out there. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated but enjoy your holiday first! Xxx
Love this series, thanks so much! Would you be able to share with us the podcasts you've been listening to with regards to gentle parenting? Or have you done do in a previous video?
Thanks SJ x
Sophie Whitworth not yet but I will do; it’s mainly the one book I linked that you can get as a podcast too x
Boundaries gives security
One thing I do with eating is I tell them. You don’t have to rest but you won’t get big and strong like me. Then I eat and lift something heavy. Now she’s eating everything.
I like that idea because emmalina is 9 months and touching things well touching everything . That's a great idea thanks so much .
phantomvampyress shadowkissed it worked so well for me xx
@@SJ_Strum that's great i have been doing that saying not for babies
Thanks for these tips and I follow that i won't let you but what to do if they keep doing it and they don't take what we say? She keep doing it for long time and I end up losing my patience.
Since our move in stuggling with Laurènt he’s so demanding and bossy and isnt really listening so I will try this xx
please do a list of strong sounding female baby names that aren't unisex! so hard to find nice ones but I think they're so important and empowering
Could you help me and do a list of names for girls that end with line, Lynn or Lin. And boy names ending in bastin. I already have Thomas and marilynn
This video is so underrated, i love these suggestions!! 💝 What do you do when your children use your techniques on you? 😹 Like saying 'I won't let you' to you, etc? X
Just ignore and stay with what you are doing
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hi amelie xxxx
I really found this interesting! :) thank you, my question is what do you say/do when the behaviour persists? Say a toddler is biting and you say “I won’t let you” but they carry on, what’s the next step?
You should not only say I won’t let you but you must act in terms of really not letting them so remove them or yourself