Dedicated to this cruel 🌎 who gave me abusive parents, mental illness, eye issues, health issues of all sorts. I was cursed since birth, always different from my peers, and wish I never existed. Even stupid demons attacked me in dreams, walk through me daily, etc. Too bad life is not fair, but I hope you all are blessed with a more satisfactory life, than I ever will get.
Wow, that's alot, can only pray that it got better....those are major problems & that's a bad hand, & yeah u had it much worse but hear is my sister's words last year, my worst bday--> called, wish me a happy bday, asks how am I... I just started crying it was the most horrible birthday I could remember she paused as if to say something smart, but instead said something so real..."sometimes ur bdays just suck, they are not ALL great bc I've had a few wish cud 4get myself..." In that moment, I realized she didn't know whole story, but cud relate herself the feeling-- I myself rt now realized I'm going thru a depression again-- been on lexapro b4 so I know, but THIS feeling is a NUMB TO EVERYTHING thing...41yrs old (7/5), just lost job, single, no kids, live @ moms, (dad died in my college yrs)-- job thing, then an ex making me feel very unwanted were last things broke me, and the 1st time in a long time I had NO PLAN....I only know going 1 day, try2 make it 2 end of week & try in-between to make it better 🤟💖✨️ Seether's song "Fine" helped me alot
whatever you are is good enough! I'm not sure if youve heard that enough but depression stinks. you've got to find a light and grab hold of it. even if its a 10 minute nike ride or a 2 hour hike with your favorite music in your ear or your favorite podcast. it could be sitting under a tree with a good book. its enough to be yourself. Do you find yourself wanting more than you had before? Love has shown you a rainbow. ~Children of the sun by Mandril
I'm sorry for what you went through your here for a reason don't ever feel like you should not be here you're parents shouldn't be here but you know what idk your religion but god seen them and the devil gonna love them in hell where they deserve to be
This song may work in many situations, parental, domestic abuse,people trying to tell you how to live ... but word for word its how i feel towards the negitave voice in my head. When im depressed it feels like a different person in my head but when im singing this song aimed at the other side of myself it feels the most accurate and real
Well most people are there neighbor and the spectrum is wide when I m thinking of my parents singing this I feel kinda shame in expecting them to be civialized I mean Africa aint that far away and i know what my parents nature is ... Hearing you reflect it to your other side tho makes me kinda feel as tho the song then turns away from parental towards child and is a inner conflict so many anti Christian foneys preaching wrong or Paul's word and not focused on god I almost feel like everything hostile is directed at me and they think I m their dad
Adam's writing and that mix of great riffs plus kind of a sad ballad is just great. We tried to do a mix of rock and power ballad with one of our latest song, would love your views on it. Return from people liking the same music is always great. stay safe in the meantime : ua-cam.com/video/RCZScxA1Hk4/v-deo.html
As a parent this song resonates harder than when I wasn’t a parent cuz after being called ugly fat stupid worthless by my mother I would listen to this as well as other TDG songs and cry about it, vowing to never make my own child feel the way I did. So music like this never has to become her therapy.
This song is directed to his parents but can be applied to every other type of relationship that exsists. Sung with so much passion & conviction. As are all his songs. There's always a song by them that at some point always seems to fit into my life. Thank you Adam I love you. You always seem to find my nerve and touch it. Never stop making your music.Xxxx 🌬️🎤
It wasn't directed toward his parents. "It's about being told how to live your life. When we were growing up, we saw it sort of first hand. A lot of our friends were pushed into doing jobs their parents were telling them to do. It's about being pushed around and told how to live your life and standing up for yourself."
Yeah it's also about people accusing you of being what they are. For instance someone says you're stupid they may actually be the stupid one and you need to separate from them to show the contrast.
For me this song is about my abusive parents. I was so close to ending up just like them but I chose to live a better life. I chose not to let those experiences hold me back from being a good woman. I'm nothing like them. I'm proud of that ❤
So glad to hear Lindsey, very sorry to hear that's your experience with those who are meant to bring you up with love and care. But I'm glad you know that no matter what no one defines you, only you.
@@solarxffect_8623 late 2000s/2010s were my preteen and teen years haha the perfect age for all the best emo/pop punk bands oh my god. Still listen to them all. No shame. All my other favourite bands are mostly 90s so I feel like I was born in the wrong era sometimes lol
Im with you, about a year ago i attenpted suicide over a stupid fuckin reason and this band helped threw that stuggle and im so grateful that i discoved this band
+Sam Larsen When I'm sitting alone I like to imagine all the people who fake having problems or actually pretend that they have them. I find there is a lot of them.
Lyrics: I could be mean I could be angry You know I could be just like you I could be fake I could be stupid You know I could be just like you You thought you were standing beside me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you) You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you) You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you I could be cold I could be ruthless You know I could be just like you I could be weak I could be senseless You know I could be just like you You thought you were standing beside me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you) You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you) You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you On my own 'Cause I can't take living with you I'm alone So I won't turn out like you want me to You thought you were standing beside me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you) You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you) You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you I could be mean I could be angry You know I could be just like you
Came back after the announcement just to say, this is where it all began for me at 6 years old. My mom got this cd when it came out an we watched the dvd that came with it of the making of the videos over and over again! Got to see them on the One X tour in Charlotte in 2007 an that was the greatest!! No offense to Matt but that’s just not TDG to me so I’ve been out of the loop since 2013 but I couldn’t be more excited! Welcome home Adam! 🙌 first TDG show at 10 years old, next one I’ll be 27 😭🤘🏻
every time I was ready to end it, if you know what I mean, I listen to them and this song just makes me feel so energetic and I sing along, it tells about my life. These guys, they don't realize how many people they support, it's like they are our voice. I will always love them, they reach out to my heart and give me hope. A person who doesn't know what thats like, doesn't understand.
This should become an anthem for all those who are bullied for whatever reason and no matter who it is bullying them, jerks, "friends", family, because they get good grades, they are simply smaller, their gender, transgender, sexuality, who cares. Be yourself, prove them wrong, be better than them.
Once there was an ugly barnacle I'm assuming you are wearing clothes you bought at a store right now, and because of the way modern clothing is made you are also sinning by wearing cloth of multiple types of thread. I don't give a shit if you want to hide your hate of gays behind the Bible, but you may want to start actually following the thing if you want to use it as an excuse. That also meaning killing women who have sex before marriage and killing women who have a divorce. Read up, friend.
TheDireLynx I've read up friend. Christians do not have to adhere to Jewish secular law. I'm not sinning by wearing clothes I bought at a store. You're just ignorant.
Once there was an ugly barnacle That's just the tip of the iceberg. Now that we can both agree that the Bible and variants of it aren't always moral, do you understand that morality comes from those around us and what influences us, meaning society around us? This is how Atheists can still have morals without believing the bible. By the way, do you happen to know what bible you follow? King James perhaps?
TheDireLynx The Bible is not just a religious book, but also a historical one. The Church has made its dogmas based off of the teachings from the Bible. Jewish secular law had nothing to do with the teachings of Jesus Christ. It just happened to be part of the lives of those who lived in that time. Morality certainly does not come from those around us. Right is always right and wrong is always wrong. They never change because they were defined by God. Atheists cannot have morals because they're constantly changing and based off mere opinions. What was wrong yesterday could be right today and vise versa. That isn't morality. That's stupidity. I use the Douay-Rheims Bible.
Holy moly… this song has been in the background of my head for over 10 years. I tried finding this song so many times because it was a childhood favorite and I could never find it because I couldn’t remember the lyrics. After arguing with chatGPT for 30 minutes trying to find and search the song I finally found it. The dopamine rush was crazy😂😂glad I found this gem of a song again!
Three Days Grace, Breaking Benjamin, RED, POD, Drowning Pool, Papa Roach, System Of A Down, Saliva, Seether, etc. I miss the 2000's. EDIT: Thanks for 4k likes everyone! Here are some more bands: 12 Stones, Godsmack, Linkin Park, Crossfade, SpineShank, Disturbed, Nonpoint, Trust Company, Cold, Evans Blue, Limp Bizkit, Tool, Korn, Mudvayne, Adema, Staind, Puddle of Mudd. Also, check out underrated 90s band Engine and their album also called Engine.
lost a parent to addiction, losing another to alcohol, this song has resonated with me for 20 years and freed a generation of victims of narcissists. thank you tdg.
So many bands like this would help me when I was having an episode, to many times I had a knife to close to me and just having these words shouted into my ear to never face that pain again, saved my life to many times...
This tune helped me vent thru a rough patch, surrounded by phony, manipulative, conformist narcissists. Tx! One of my fave bands. Luv the unique sound and overall relatability, as well as emo behind it. Hope more songs coming
Its crazy how these great songs find their way back into your life after years of being forgotten. This one really hits home! Great band, with a great song! Bunch of songs!
I was about to comment something similar! I keep seeing compilations of music from around this same time but none of them seem to include this song. I'm glad I'm not the only one who remembers this song, it just feels like it had no cultural impact and like... how? It's so raw and so real!
The "you" in this song, the one who thought I could be just like it, in my take of this song, is just the void, the abandonment, the turned back, the despise, the act of letting one behind, the negligence. Sometimes the person who hurts you the most is the one who you never see, never talk to, it's someone who totally despised you and turned their back on you. They're not trying to mold you into aything, they're just ppl who don't care and if asked why they would answer "it's been like that, it will continue to be like that, nobody cares", so that's what they mean by "expect to be just like you". The one who turn his/her back on you expects you to lso be someone who never gives a shit about anyone. Someone who doesn't care about other people's feelings. Nothing hurts more than ignoring who loves you. Nothing says a person is cruel more than showing they don't care. A father that leaves his family, a romantic love that was never mutual, a selfish "friend". What your enemies wish for you really don't matter, but what those you care about mean or do to you, that's fucked up and when they actually don't care, that is where the most pain is.
This song is a reflection of my life. From many years of verbal and physical abuse living under my mother's roof using fear to control me. I could have ended up like her, but despite everything, i'm the complete opposite of her. And I'll never change who I am.
Three Days Grace's first ever number one hit on the Billboard Modern Rock Tracks and Hot Mainstream Rock Tracks charts. Adam Gontier reflected on the meaning behind this song; he said: "It's about being told how to live your life. When we were growing up, we saw it sort of first hand. A lot of our friends were pushed into doing jobs their parents were telling them to do. It's about being pushed around and told how to live your life and standing up for yourself." FULL SONG LYRICS I could be mean I could be angry You know I could be just like you I could be fake I could be stupid You know I could be just like you You thought you were standing beside me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you I could be cold I could be ruthless You know I could be just like you I could be weak I could be senseless You know I could be just like you You thought you were standing beside me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you On my own, because I can't take living with you I'm alone, so I won't turn out like you Want me to You thought you were standing beside me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you I could be mean I could be angry You know I could be just like you
Yeah grew up in the same town as them went to the same high school lots of us wised up to the world at an early age. We like to just be ourselves where we come from.
Omg. I remember in 2005 (or maybe 2006) coming home from work during my summer break from school, sitting at in ac at home and watching the Fuel channel and seeing this when it was brand new.
My favourite song by Three Days Grace just for how relateable it comes across as my whole life I've been worried about the opinions of others and as a result I haven't been living the life I wanted but instead the life other's Insist I lead basically be just like them. This song showed me that I'm not alone and that there are many others who think just like me and the lyrics show me that Inspite of what everyone thinks of me and what they want me to do I can say no to them and live life on my own terms and have the courage to stay true to my principles and core values despite pressure from the external world to conform to the values of the majority of people but at the expense of losing my unique qualities and all the things that made up my authentic self. Thank you Three Days Grace for not only making great music with passion put into it but also music that speaks the truth not only for my life but also for the life of many others. Three Days Grace rule!
I broke my mom's heart. She wanted to know what song reminded me of her. So I sent this to her. But she did more than break my heart. She broke my will an spirit to the point I didn't even feel like I was human. At 18 I had enough an left and I have done everything in my power to not be a bitter person that does nothing but drive everyone away. I wonder of bamds know how much their music actually helps people...
Many people also over exaggerate or misinterpret their parents intentions, it comes with being young. Though I don't know your personal experiences and I would never downplay anything you've been through, its just a general statement. Some things aren't only what we see, and they aren't always how we feel
@@-8h- Not exaggerating anything. She messed me up mentally. There was no more to the picture. I seen her get into knockdown drag outs with my younger sister. Now it wasn't all bad. She did teach me not to judge others be it by race, sexual preference and all that. But she damaged me horridly more than helped.
I know that I am just a stranger who you don't know from Adam but I hope it helps to tell you that you are stunning beautiful. I can't fix anyting going on in your life and the problems between you and your mother but I hope she sees what I see and what I'm sure anybody who looks at you sees, that you are absolutely perfect and gorgeous. Please don't ever forget that!
I remember TDG opening up for Nickelback, early 2000s, in North Bay, ON. I recall liking them more than the headline, and they became one of my fav bands. I am pumped to see Adam possibly coming back! It is hard, at times, to recall that those in the spotlight are normal people, too. I am glad that he seems like things are coming together so that he can be the voice, again.
John McClane I think some bands have changed more but still, all bands change somewhat. I think that even though they haven't changed as much as many other bands have, people will still want the old stuff back. Always.
Adam McCann Point taken. Even so, I'll never understand this "I miss the old [insert group here]" comment, as the new music does not replace the old. You're very very rarely going to find a group that consistently releases albums with similar quality and nearly similar sound. Musical evolution is inevitable, so any hopes for congruity is simply a pipe dream. And when you do have congruity, more often than not it just starts to stagnate. Such is the case for me and Three Days Grace, among other groups. I should probably add that I haven't been a huge fan of three days grace, I mostly just think their music is... averagely decent? I guess I would say.
Not every single music video, just between the albums. He looks so different in the One X album compared to their self titled Three Days Grace album. Then came Transit of Venus and now he's in Saint Asonia and Matt Walst is trying to copy him
Actually, it's not just this song, their old songs have the highest view count in their channel, after Adam left, the band want to shit. Their new songs are "ok" with Matt (I think that is what his name is.)
I could be mean I could be angry You know I could be just like you I could be fake I could be stupid You know I could be just like you You thought you were standing beside me You were onlyin my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you hello from greece
Never try to be like someone else but learn from then. When two people live together I hear they become more alike, almost like brother and sister. Is that true?
I was in a music store when I picked up this album back when I use to carry a portable CD player that couldn't even fit in my jean pocket. I fell in love with this band and have followed Adam ever since, brings back memories
Who needs a therapist when you have music like this! Three Days Grace thank you! Some people don’t know how to put words let alone music into something phenomenal!
The lead singer Adam Gontier of Three Days Grace is so awesome looking. I've always been pleased with his voice and his hotness. I loved all of their songs. The band as a whole never disappointed me. But this lead singer is awesome. I miss him with the group.
There has only been two singers with the band, Adam and Brads brother Matt Waist. This is Adam singing here. Matt's first single with the band is I am machine.
I have seizures and this song explains how I feel everytime someone says they understand me but they don't understand the mental effects it has on someone who just wants the pain to end
I was going to comment my experience about relating this to my abusive parents but found comfort in all the other survivors here. I’m so proud of all of you, hold onto that as a badge of honor. You did something they couldn’t
I could be mean I could be angry You know I could be just like you I could be fake I could be stupid You know I could be just like you You thought you were standing beside me You were onlyin my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you You thought you were there to guide me You were only in my way You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You know for some reason, I feel like you can use this song against people nowadays who are leftist and coming up with pronouns and transitioning in gender in crazy ways and then expecting everyone in the world to accept that.
I rediscovered this song as it was the first song to play on the radio when the cop asked me what I would like to listen to after being falsely accused of something I didn't do by the former boss whom I once thought was the person I wanted to be until I learned I was very naive. It spoke to me and helped me in that moment so much and now I listen to it multiple times a day as I work to clear my name.
Anyone remember the days when this was on the radio? Those where the days. Now they that the broke up the days are gone... You will be missed Three Days Grace...
I never realized how much of a fan of 3 days grace I am. I've turned on 5 songs so far that I know every word to and with earbuds in I can the subtlety in the vocals.
Man my mom was an abusive alcoholic and I showed her this song at around maybe age 14 and told her it was how I felt about her and she said “I ain’t stupid” 😂😅
This song has hit me in a completely different way. I've had problems with my dad before but just a couple days ago he screamed and swore at me like nothing he's ever done before. I was told to get the f*** out of his house and not to talk to him. He's a great example of what not to do or how to live life. I'm going to choose to be happy in life and He's wrong if he thinks I'm going to be like him.
i first heard of three days grace at the age of 7 im now 18 going 19 and all of their songs past and present help me through my toughest times and i literally wanna meet them or just see them perform here at Austrralia
When you sit in the dark as long as I have….your eyes start to adjust to see what you couldn’t before.. the dark is a lonely place when you just arrive
Just a viewer of your stuff yeah man rlly sucks he left. I grew up on this stuff due to my older brothers where teens in the early 2000s and i loved all this stuff. I learned that he left a couple months ago and i was shocked, i lowkey thought "Chalk outline" was Adam... Smh lmao
Cuando sufría bullying durante mi adolescencia, escuchaba esta banda me refugiaba en sus canciones en las que me identificaba y después ayudarme ha encontrar la motivación para seguir adelante
You know for some reason, I feel like you can use this song against people nowadays who are leftist and coming up with pronouns and transitioning in gender in crazy ways and then expecting everyone in the world to accept that.
The fact that Adam is now officially back along with Mat is amazing.
Adam is the backbone of TDG
AND they're coming to Sonic Temple next year!!
@@stephanielangevin4769agreed! Hands down one of my favorite vocalists
I'm so jacked for this
Glad to hear that
Dedicated to this cruel 🌎 who gave me abusive parents, mental illness, eye issues, health issues of all sorts. I was cursed since birth, always different from my peers, and wish I never existed. Even stupid demons attacked me in dreams, walk through me daily, etc. Too bad life is not fair, but I hope you all are blessed with a more satisfactory life, than I ever will get.
I feel it.
Wow, that's alot, can only pray that it got better....those are major problems & that's a bad hand, & yeah u had it much worse but hear is my sister's words last year, my worst bday--> called, wish me a happy bday, asks how am I... I just started crying it was the most horrible birthday I could remember she paused as if to say something smart, but instead said something so real..."sometimes ur bdays just suck, they are not ALL great bc I've had a few wish cud 4get myself..."
In that moment, I realized she didn't know whole story, but cud relate herself the feeling-- I myself rt now realized I'm going thru a depression again-- been on lexapro b4 so I know, but THIS feeling is a NUMB TO EVERYTHING thing...41yrs old (7/5), just lost job, single, no kids, live @ moms, (dad died in my college yrs)-- job thing, then an ex making me feel very unwanted were last things broke me, and the 1st time in a long time I had NO PLAN....I only know going 1 day, try2 make it 2 end of week & try in-between to make it better 🤟💖✨️
Seether's song "Fine" helped me alot
whatever you are is good enough!
I'm not sure if youve heard that enough but depression stinks. you've got to find a light and grab hold of it. even if its a 10 minute nike ride or a 2 hour hike with your favorite music in your ear or your favorite podcast.
it could be sitting under a tree with a good book. its enough to be yourself.
Do you find yourself wanting more
than you had before?
Love has shown you a rainbow. ~Children of the sun by Mandril
You are beautiful and your soul is healing queen we got this!! 🤍🤍
I'm sorry for what you went through your here for a reason don't ever feel like you should not be here you're parents shouldn't be here but you know what idk your religion but god seen them and the devil gonna love them in hell where they deserve to be
This was the era of bands who’s music literally saved countless lives.
It really was
👍👍
Saved mine tonight
That's good
Glad you're still with us@@elijahgarrison2871
Whose
This song may work in many situations, parental, domestic abuse,people trying to tell you how to live ... but word for word its how i feel towards the negitave voice in my head. When im depressed it feels like a different person in my head but when im singing this song aimed at the other side of myself it feels the most accurate and real
Same.
This track is in my top 3 for Three Days Grace
Well most people are there neighbor and the spectrum is wide when I m thinking of my parents singing this I feel kinda shame in expecting them to be civialized I mean Africa aint that far away and i know what my parents nature is ... Hearing you reflect it to your other side tho makes me kinda feel as tho the song then turns away from parental towards child and is a inner conflict so many anti Christian foneys preaching wrong or Paul's word and not focused on god I almost feel like everything hostile is directed at me and they think I m their dad
It's pretty similar to Linkin Park's song "Numb" in my opinion. The overall message.
me too. i.. damn this hit hard
I miss this golden era of music
Adam's writing and that mix of great riffs plus kind of a sad ballad is just great.
We tried to do a mix of rock and power ballad with one of our latest song, would love your views on it. Return from people liking the same music is always great. stay safe in the meantime : ua-cam.com/video/RCZScxA1Hk4/v-deo.html
You'd think it's just nostalgia but I wasn't even alive back then and even I prefer it most of the time
@@whatispongebubdoin This album came out the same year I was born so Ik what you mean
agreed
As a parent this song resonates harder than when I wasn’t a parent cuz after being called ugly fat stupid worthless by my mother I would listen to this as well as other TDG songs and cry about it, vowing to never make my own child feel the way I did. So music like this never has to become her therapy.
The guitar tone, the rasp in the vocals. How I miss instruments like these being on mainstream rotation.
This song is directed to his parents but can be applied to every other type of relationship that exsists. Sung with so much passion & conviction. As are all his songs. There's always a song by them that at some point always seems to fit into my life. Thank you Adam I love you. You always seem to find my nerve and touch it. Never stop making your music.Xxxx 🌬️🎤
Thank you
And Bless you and may you inspire many more m
This is so good but you must hear “Whispering Wolf” or “The Wave” by SLT 🤘🐺 🤘🐺 🤘
Dude Adam has posted they he really loved his dad
Where have you heard that he directed this at his parents when all his parents did was support him
It wasn't directed toward his parents.
"It's about being told how to live your life. When we were growing up, we saw it sort of first hand. A lot of our friends were pushed into doing jobs their parents were telling them to do. It's about being pushed around and told how to live your life and standing up for yourself."
“You thought u were there to guide me , you were only in my way” just be hitting different now
time does wild things to one's perception eh?
" You thought you were sitting beside me, you were only in my way !.. " . 💛😪
This song is about being independent and being yourself regardless of what people try to change you into.
You looked it up on genius? Or did you find out somewhere else.
Honestly sounds more like he's talking to a parent
No most of Adams songs were about his dad.
Like my dad for example
Yeah it's also about people accusing you of being what they are. For instance someone says you're stupid they may actually be the stupid one and you need to separate from them to show the contrast.
For me this song is about my abusive parents. I was so close to ending up just like them but I chose to live a better life. I chose not to let those experiences hold me back from being a good woman. I'm nothing like them. I'm proud of that ❤
Your a goat 👏
I chose to not be like my parents. Alcoholic mother, angry abusive father.
@@historychannel2317 I’m a young father and I’m proud to say same , I’m breaking cycles forsure
So glad to hear Lindsey, very sorry to hear that's your experience with those who are meant to bring you up with love and care. But I'm glad you know that no matter what no one defines you, only you.
Same
This song gave me strength in my darkest days.
I see what you did there.
My darkest days is a good band check em out
@@solarxffect_8623 god they are peak 2010s ‘edgy preteen’ music. Love them😂
@@milkglassfairy7641 Yes! I swear sometimes I was born in the wrong era
@@solarxffect_8623 late 2000s/2010s were my preteen and teen years haha the perfect age for all the best emo/pop punk bands oh my god. Still listen to them all. No shame. All my other favourite bands are mostly 90s so I feel like I was born in the wrong era sometimes lol
Whenever I'm down there's always a three days grace song to save me :) they're my heroes:)
Im with you, about a year ago i attenpted suicide over a stupid fuckin reason and this band helped threw that stuggle and im so grateful that i discoved this band
im glad:) stay strong
*they're
+Phillip Lannoo Jr Nice correction.
+Sam Larsen When I'm sitting alone I like to imagine all the people who fake having problems or actually pretend that they have them. I find there is a lot of them.
Lyrics:
I could be mean
I could be angry
You know I could be just like you
I could be fake
I could be stupid
You know I could be just like you
You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you)
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you)
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
I could be cold
I could be ruthless
You know I could be just like you
I could be weak
I could be senseless
You know I could be just like you
You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you)
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you)
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
On my own
'Cause I can't take living with you
I'm alone
So I won't turn out like you want me to
You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you)
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you (just like you)
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
I could be mean
I could be angry
You know I could be just like you
This is so good but you must hear “Whispering Wolf” or “The Wave” by SLT 🤘🐺 🤘🐺 🤘🐺 🤘
@@beezybeez6285 Thanks for the recommendations, I've never heard them before.
This is the classroom
Came back after the announcement just to say, this is where it all began for me at 6 years old. My mom got this cd when it came out an we watched the dvd that came with it of the making of the videos over and over again! Got to see them on the One X tour in Charlotte in 2007 an that was the greatest!! No offense to Matt but that’s just not TDG to me so I’ve been out of the loop since 2013 but I couldn’t be more excited! Welcome home Adam! 🙌 first TDG show at 10 years old, next one I’ll be 27 😭🤘🏻
Forgot about the masterpiece. This song is so relatable with those who grew up with Abusive & Narcissistic parents
I used to think this song was lame as a kid, I’ve grown up and realized this song resonates with me.
This is so good but you must hear “Whispering Wolf” or “The Wave” by SLT 🤘🐺 🤘🐺 🤘🐺 🤘
Still after about 7 years, this band will forever be my idols. They saved my life
Shay Woger how
Shay Woger yeah I agree
every time I was ready to end it, if you know what I mean, I listen to them and this song just makes me feel so energetic and I sing along, it tells about my life. These guys, they don't realize how many people they support, it's like they are our voice. I will always love them, they reach out to my heart and give me hope. A person who doesn't know what thats like, doesn't understand.
Rip head singer 😢
mine to
Lived with a abusive father for 9 years and the scars are a constant reminder but this song is so relatable and it has helped me go through it all
This should become an anthem for all those who are bullied for whatever reason and no matter who it is bullying them, jerks, "friends", family, because they get good grades, they are simply smaller, their gender, transgender, sexuality, who cares. Be yourself, prove them wrong, be better than them.
or bully by shinedown haha. another solid band
Once there was an ugly barnacle I'm assuming you are wearing clothes you bought at a store right now, and because of the way modern clothing is made you are also sinning by wearing cloth of multiple types of thread.
I don't give a shit if you want to hide your hate of gays behind the Bible, but you may want to start actually following the thing if you want to use it as an excuse. That also meaning killing women who have sex before marriage and killing women who have a divorce. Read up, friend.
TheDireLynx I've read up friend. Christians do not have to adhere to Jewish secular law. I'm not sinning by wearing clothes I bought at a store. You're just ignorant.
Once there was an ugly barnacle That's just the tip of the iceberg. Now that we can both agree that the Bible and variants of it aren't always moral, do you understand that morality comes from those around us and what influences us, meaning society around us? This is how Atheists can still have morals without believing the bible. By the way, do you happen to know what bible you follow? King James perhaps?
TheDireLynx The Bible is not just a religious book, but also a historical one. The Church has made its dogmas based off of the teachings from the Bible. Jewish secular law had nothing to do with the teachings of Jesus Christ. It just happened to be part of the lives of those who lived in that time. Morality certainly does not come from those around us. Right is always right and wrong is always wrong. They never change because they were defined by God.
Atheists cannot have morals because they're constantly changing and based off mere opinions. What was wrong yesterday could be right today and vise versa. That isn't morality. That's stupidity.
I use the Douay-Rheims Bible.
Perfectly describes my feelings about my father. 😮
My aunt: "I'm helping you"
Me: "you thought you were there to guide me you were only in my way your wrong if you think that I'll be JUST LIKE YOU"
Same
Fr
dude literally
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Can't believe this song and album will be 20 years old this year 😳 I feel so old but Three Days Grace songs will never get old 🤘
Holy moly… this song has been in the background of my head for over 10 years. I tried finding this song so many times because it was a childhood favorite and I could never find it because I couldn’t remember the lyrics. After arguing with chatGPT for 30 minutes trying to find and search the song I finally found it. The dopamine rush was crazy😂😂glad I found this gem of a song again!
His voice is amazing. I love TDG so much ♡
Omg yes
I feel like this song's meaning is more relevant now than its ever been.
Svictor76s
@@nicotina1449 What?
I feel as if I have already seen you, maybe 5FDP ??
@@nicotina1449 Nah im not really into 5fdp
You can take that cookie and stick it up your yeah
Three Days Grace, Breaking Benjamin, RED, POD, Drowning Pool, Papa Roach, System Of A Down, Saliva, Seether, etc. I miss the 2000's.
EDIT: Thanks for 4k likes everyone! Here are some more bands: 12 Stones, Godsmack, Linkin Park, Crossfade, SpineShank, Disturbed, Nonpoint, Trust Company, Cold, Evans Blue, Limp Bizkit, Tool, Korn, Mudvayne, Adema, Staind, Puddle of Mudd. Also, check out underrated 90s band Engine and their album also called Engine.
Wolf Hound Thousand Foot Krutch???
Yup. Move is a great song.
Linkin park
Starset??
A lot of my favorite songs are from the the 90’s and early 2000’s
lost a parent to addiction, losing another to alcohol, this song has resonated with me for 20 years and freed a generation of victims of narcissists. thank you tdg.
This helped me quit self harm. I'm still about a month and a half clean
So many bands like this would help me when I was having an episode, to many times I had a knife to close to me and just having these words shouted into my ear to never face that pain again, saved my life to many times...
@@trivialmagick6216 glad you didn't continue. Its not worth it brother, believe me.
thats amazing omhhh !!
Yay! Great job bud, I proud of you :,) keep it up!!
Thanks for the peeps helping me out, lots of hip hop been helpin me out too. Two months clean :)
This tune helped me vent thru a rough patch, surrounded by phony, manipulative, conformist narcissists. Tx! One of my fave bands. Luv the unique sound and overall relatability, as well as emo behind it. Hope more songs coming
This song could my on my epitaph
Its crazy how these great songs find their way back into your life after years of being forgotten. This one really hits home! Great band, with a great song! Bunch of songs!
I was about to comment something similar! I keep seeing compilations of music from around this same time but none of them seem to include this song. I'm glad I'm not the only one who remembers this song, it just feels like it had no cultural impact and like... how? It's so raw and so real!
Vocal melodies in this are absolutely perfect
The "you" in this song, the one who thought I could be just like it, in my take of this song, is just the void, the abandonment, the turned back, the despise, the act of letting one behind, the negligence. Sometimes the person who hurts you the most is the one who you never see, never talk to, it's someone who totally despised you and turned their back on you. They're not trying to mold you into aything, they're just ppl who don't care and if asked why they would answer "it's been like that, it will continue to be like that, nobody cares", so that's what they mean by "expect to be just like you". The one who turn his/her back on you expects you to lso be someone who never gives a shit about anyone. Someone who doesn't care about other people's feelings. Nothing hurts more than ignoring who loves you. Nothing says a person is cruel more than showing they don't care. A father that leaves his family, a romantic love that was never mutual, a selfish "friend". What your enemies wish for you really don't matter, but what those you care about mean or do to you, that's fucked up and when they actually don't care, that is where the most pain is.
This song is a reflection of my life. From many years of verbal and physical abuse living under my mother's roof using fear to control me. I could have ended up like her, but despite everything, i'm the complete opposite of her. And I'll never change who I am.
I dedicated this song to my dad when I was still in his custody. I've been free since 15 and I still don't regret it.
Three Days Grace's first ever number one hit on the Billboard Modern Rock Tracks and Hot Mainstream Rock Tracks charts. Adam Gontier reflected on the meaning behind this song; he said:
"It's about being told how to live your life. When we were growing up, we saw it sort of first hand. A lot of our friends were pushed into doing jobs their parents were telling them to do. It's about being pushed around and told how to live your life and standing up for yourself."
FULL SONG LYRICS
I could be mean
I could be angry
You know I could be just like you
I could be fake
I could be stupid
You know I could be just like you
You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
I could be cold
I could be ruthless
You know I could be just like you
I could be weak
I could be senseless
You know I could be just like you
You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
On my own, because I can't take living with you
I'm alone, so I won't turn out like you
Want me to
You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
I could be mean
I could be angry
You know I could be just like you
Coolio
Yeah grew up in the same town as them went to the same high school lots of us wised up to the world at an early age. We like to just be ourselves where we come from.
I could eat meat, but I could be hungry.
Lyrics are so simple, but strong.
@@euphority_delay7978 haha hahahahaha hahahahaha
So comforting to hear Adam's voice he is basically telling you your not alone
Omg. I remember in 2005 (or maybe 2006) coming home from work during my summer break from school, sitting at in ac at home and watching the Fuel channel and seeing this when it was brand new.
Dude I have to say...Barry's energy i this video is like yes. I love it. He's like having the time of his life.
I miss when bands like three days grace breaking Benjamin and linkin park along with system of the down was at there prime
B.B. is still awesome
Same..
Got to see b.b.plenty of times they put on a awesome show
Check out Adam Gontier's band,Saint Asonia.Their new album coming this Fall
All these bands and countless other bands from that era are still awesome
My favourite song by Three Days Grace just for how relateable it comes across as my whole life I've been worried about the opinions of others and as a result I haven't been living the life I wanted but instead the life other's Insist I lead basically be just like them.
This song showed me that I'm not alone and that there are many others who think just like me and the lyrics show me that Inspite of what everyone thinks of me and what they want me to do I can say no to them and live life on my own terms and have the courage to stay true to my principles and core values despite pressure from the external world to conform to the values of the majority of people but at the expense of losing my unique qualities and all the things that made up my authentic self.
Thank you Three Days Grace for not only making great music with passion put into it but also music that speaks the truth not only for my life but also for the life of many others.
Three Days Grace rule!
Amen 🙏
Well said
This is so good but you must hear “Whispering Wolf” or “The Wave” by SLT 🤘🐺 🤘🐺 🤘
it's my favorite song from three days grace as well
This song is just so good! Can't stop listening to it
Yeah Three Days Grace are AWESOME ! ! !
i know
Haha you listen to heavy metal too?
Lol okay :D
Janette Light There not heavy metal more alternative rock
Congratulations to Nolan Smith singing this tune on stage as a special guest vocalist.
In Charlotte NC tonight
Three days grace with adam gontier is orobabky the greatest rock band to ever exist. Perfect voice for rock a unit of a band epitome of rock
I'm having a three days Grace kind of night
kristy Heineman I am having a three days grace kind of life
year for me
I'm having a three days grace depression (if that makes sense)
:,D
relatable
Sweetpea11 usually they're what helps people get out of depression not the cause
I broke my mom's heart. She wanted to know what song reminded me of her. So I sent this to her. But she did more than break my heart. She broke my will an spirit to the point I didn't even feel like I was human. At 18 I had enough an left and I have done everything in my power to not be a bitter person that does nothing but drive everyone away. I wonder of bamds know how much their music actually helps people...
Many people also over exaggerate or misinterpret their parents intentions, it comes with being young. Though I don't know your personal experiences and I would never downplay anything you've been through, its just a general statement. Some things aren't only what we see, and they aren't always how we feel
@@-8h- Not exaggerating anything. She messed me up mentally. There was no more to the picture. I seen her get into knockdown drag outs with my younger sister. Now it wasn't all bad. She did teach me not to judge others be it by race, sexual preference and all that. But she damaged me horridly more than helped.
Xei Zael same here same here
@@-8h- bruh we exaggerate our past?trauma will stay for ever and u remember details
I know that I am just a stranger who you don't know from Adam but I hope it helps to tell you that you are stunning beautiful. I can't fix anyting going on in your life and the problems between you and your mother but I hope she sees what I see and what I'm sure anybody who looks at you sees, that you are absolutely perfect and gorgeous. Please don't ever forget that!
This was my go to as a kid my dad was verbally and mentally abusive these songs helped me thru tough times 💔
This came out when I was 12, I am 26 now. Wow. Still loving it
I know how u feel am 31 now good time back then
well, if it came out when you were 12 then you're 22 now since it's been ten years xD
Vizor xD ye I read that and just look at when it came out and was like um ok but statistically speaking that not right
@@VizorOnUA-cam this came out in 2003 it published on UA-cam in 2009
@@VizorOnUA-cam bruh this came out in '03 this was 16 years ago check your math lmao
Crazy to think this song was in my playlist when I was lifting in 2003, and I’m still lifting and listening to it in 2024!
SAME ❤ hits diffrent now but in an even better way ❤A☆
All flesh filled desires will receive the fire. Guard your souls with the streets of gold and God's love for the Holy Spirit guidance.
I remember TDG opening up for Nickelback, early 2000s, in North Bay, ON. I recall liking them more than the headline, and they became one of my fav bands. I am pumped to see Adam possibly coming back! It is hard, at times, to recall that those in the spotlight are normal people, too. I am glad that he seems like things are coming together so that he can be the voice, again.
I miss this Three Days Grace.
i agree
willie torres wit this is a diff three days grace
Wait what? Their sound has hardly changed.
John McClane I think some bands have changed more but still, all bands change somewhat. I think that even though they haven't changed as much as many other bands have, people will still want the old stuff back. Always.
Adam McCann Point taken.
Even so, I'll never understand this "I miss the old [insert group here]" comment, as the new music does not replace the old.
You're very very rarely going to find a group that consistently releases albums with similar quality and nearly similar sound. Musical evolution is inevitable, so any hopes for congruity is simply a pipe dream.
And when you do have congruity, more often than not it just starts to stagnate. Such is the case for me and Three Days Grace, among other groups.
I should probably add that I haven't been a huge fan of three days grace, I mostly just think their music is... averagely decent? I guess I would say.
Honestly Adam looks different in every single music video...
When “I Hate Everything About You” came out, I thought it was Ewen McGregor
Carlo Toledo imagine replying to a 2 year old comment
Pamela Morris but his voice is still the same
Yep lol, I still miss him in the band but I think Matt is doing a good job :v
Not every single music video, just between the albums. He looks so different in the One X album compared to their self titled Three Days Grace album. Then came Transit of Venus and now he's in Saint Asonia and Matt Walst is trying to copy him
And a legendary rock band on UA-cam was born with this video. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Actually, it's not just this song, their old songs have the highest view count in their channel, after Adam left, the band want to shit. Their new songs are "ok" with Matt (I think that is what his name is.)
alternative rock*
+Ryan Boudreaux Not really video but song lol
Legendary! I remember when this came out! 3DG all day everyday
I could be mean
I could be angry
You know I could be just like you
I could be fake
I could be stupid
You know I could be just like you
You thought you were standing beside me
You were onlyin my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you hello from greece
Me to !⃣⃣⃣greece⃣⃣⃣
What if I told you I went on the video for Just Like You by Joyner Lucas and commented the first line of these lyrics
Never try to be like someone else but learn from then. When two people live together I hear they become more alike, almost like brother and sister. Is that true?
Three Days Grace is one of my Canadian Post-Grunge Post-Seattle bands🤘🤘🎸🎸👍👍
Hello from los Angeles
I never in my life realized how hard three days grace goes! ❤
Don't need you, I need a friend that cares about me. That takes my hand everytime i cry.
I was in a music store when I picked up this album back when I use to carry a portable CD player that couldn't even fit in my jean pocket. I fell in love with this band and have followed Adam ever since, brings back memories
Who needs a therapist when you have music like this! Three Days Grace thank you! Some people don’t know how to put words let alone music into something phenomenal!
Brilliant ❤️
The lead singer Adam Gontier of Three Days Grace is so awesome looking. I've always been pleased with his voice and his hotness. I loved all of their songs. The band as a whole never disappointed me. But this lead singer is awesome. I miss him with the group.
There has only been two singers with the band, Adam and Brads brother Matt Waist. This is Adam singing here. Matt's first single with the band is I am machine.
@@leroy470 His first song was "Painkiller".
And the last good song in my opinion.
@@dwrkurailied2265 what wrong so called life it's good in my opinion
I have seizures and this song explains how I feel everytime someone says they understand me but they don't understand the mental effects it has on someone who just wants the pain to end
I remember listening to this in middle school and now I’m close to hitting 30 and it is still so relatable to my life dealing with my parents…
This is so good but you must hear “Whispering Wolf” or “The Wave” by SLT 🤘🐺 🤘🐺 🤘🐺 🤘
11 years old song, still great, respect!
Lol this song was made when I was born
TDG was huge back in the early 2000's
Tiki Styles they still are
No durr lol today's songs about people on wrecking balls and loving coco and people going up on the Tuesday :3
Olds songs way better
The days when anime was on cartoon network and three days Grace got radio play are the days I wish I could go back to
I miss Adam
They still get radio play I hear them all the time. And Adam is in saint asonia making music from the heart
And toonami is still on cartoon network after midnight to this day
I was going to comment my experience about relating this to my abusive parents but found comfort in all the other survivors here. I’m so proud of all of you, hold onto that as a badge of honor. You did something they couldn’t
He's just soo good looking and a great singer.
Cindy Mcswain ❤️
He was just the boy next door in Norwood.
I could be mean
I could be angry
You know I could be just like you
I could be fake
I could be stupid
You know I could be just like you
You thought you were standing beside me
You were onlyin my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
soul eater 366 thanks!
You left out the second verse
You just copied the lyrics from the description some people might want the full complete lyrics
🤪🤪🤪🤪😇😇😇😇😙
Three Days Grace como siempre cada canción de esta banda es una joya🖤🎶🤘🏻
You know for some reason, I feel like you can use this song against people nowadays who are leftist and coming up with pronouns and transitioning in gender in crazy ways and then expecting everyone in the world to accept that.
I rediscovered this song as it was the first song to play on the radio when the cop asked me what I would like to listen to after being falsely accused of something I didn't do by the former boss whom I once thought was the person I wanted to be until I learned I was very naive. It spoke to me and helped me in that moment so much and now I listen to it multiple times a day as I work to clear my name.
Anyone remember the days when this was on the radio? Those where the days. Now they that the broke up the days are gone... You will be missed Three Days Grace...
They're not broken up though, Adam just left the band.
Without Adam its not Three days grace ( my opinion )
Who's here after hearing that Adam Gontier come back and officially reunites with Three Days Grace?
this is one of those songs that no matter how old i get still feels relevant to today
I never realized how much of a fan of 3 days grace I am. I've turned on 5 songs so far that I know every word to and with earbuds in I can the subtlety in the vocals.
Songs when people put emotions behind them. So different than the songs today.
Man my mom was an abusive alcoholic and I showed her this song at around maybe age 14 and told her it was how I felt about her and she said “I ain’t stupid” 😂😅
Gotta love the start of the three days Grace golden age
Where did the good 90's headbanger bands go? I miss this so much.
This is 2000s not 90s
This song is one of those songs that just stays in your memory, forever.
This song has hit me in a completely different way. I've had problems with my dad before but just a couple days ago he screamed and swore at me like nothing he's ever done before. I was told to get the f*** out of his house and not to talk to him. He's a great example of what not to do or how to live life. I'm going to choose to be happy in life and He's wrong if he thinks I'm going to be like him.
I owe this song and Numb by Linkin Park so much for helping me survive all the shit my parents put me through.
They both came out in 2003. 2003 was the true golden age of music.
Thanks, im listening now and still helping.
"They laugh at me because I'm different I laugh at them because they're all the same"
-Kurt Cobain
BE "JUST LIKE YOU" BUDDY
Jonathan Davis says that aswell
💯
If not having a massive shotgun-sized hole in my head makes me the same as everyone else, I'll gladly be like everyone else
Andrés Serrano you laugh because you think it's a joke...I laugh because you think I'm joking
Cobain's bullshit! I'm one of the "them", and each and everyone of "us" is different and we laugh at each other. And we all have fun!!!
i first heard of three days grace at the age of 7 im now 18 going 19 and all of their songs past and present help me through my toughest times and i literally wanna meet them or just see them perform here at Austrralia
I love the voice 0:36
When you sit in the dark as long as I have….your eyes start to adjust to see what you couldn’t before.. the dark is a lonely place when you just arrive
I haven't heard this song since like 2012. I'm so glad that i stumbled across it today. I absolutely love this song.
Can we all just appreciate how cool Barry is?
I wish Adam would return to the band. Good memories
I don't feel that way at ALL XDDDDDDDD
Why the hell not lol
Just a viewer of your stuff yeah man rlly sucks he left. I grew up on this stuff due to my older brothers where teens in the early 2000s and i loved all this stuff. I learned that he left a couple months ago and i was shocked, i lowkey thought "Chalk outline" was Adam... Smh lmao
It is Adam in Chalk Outline, he just cut his hair and put on a beard
CommanderCodyHD Oh my bad lmao
Takes me back to middle school days 07-09
" You thought you were there to guide me, you were only in my way. You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you. " 🤷🏻♀️
Cuando sufría bullying durante mi adolescencia, escuchaba esta banda me refugiaba en sus canciones en las que me identificaba y después ayudarme ha encontrar la motivación para seguir adelante
You can never beat Adam ❤️this man will go down as a legend his voice doesn’t need auto tune
When I finally found the song that has been stuck in my head for years. How did I forget this song!
Same?🎶🖤
I just found this song today and I love it, songs nowadays don't have this type of energy
You know for some reason, I feel like you can use this song against people nowadays who are leftist and coming up with pronouns and transitioning in gender in crazy ways and then expecting everyone in the world to accept that.
Adam is just... Ughhhhhh❤️
Indeed.
indeed he is i wish he had never eft the band in the first place
+Lilly Herrick he's got a new band now and they got good music too. saint asonia is the name
+topher 664 Even with Adam, Saint Asonia just fucking sucks compared to the new 3DG album with Matt.
maybe in your opinion but i personally dont like any of the new three days grace musi2
I honestly can’t relate to this song, maybe at some point in my life I will but I love how it sounds. Great song.
I am very happy that you haven’t had to relate to it and I hope you never do ❤️
Everyone already knew that Three Days Grace was my favorite rock and roll band.
I can listen to Three Days Grace, any day, any time, any mood. They are an amazing band.
For real my friend...
The girl signing to her deaf dad is so wholesome