Absolutely love your podcast! Every new episode I can’t wait to listen to. Thank you SO much for being such an amazing couple and producing this podcast! I have a 3 year old and 1 year old and had 4 miscarriages in my fertility journey and now am 27 weeks pregnant with a rainbow baby. God bless you and your sweet family! ❤
SO many things I could say about this episode, but here are the top 3: 1. “Survivor’s guilt” is real & is tough. Give yourselves grace. Anyone who is critical of this podcast is either deep in depression as they struggle with their own journey, or just a damn Grinch who likes joy-sucking. 2. It does not matter one whit who carries another child or if it’s even your DNA. That is your personal choice. HOWEVER…the PTSD you have lived through is huge and - you’re right - WILL be with you forever. You can barely talk through the fear surrounding your visceral memories of your infertility. If you can barely even think about trying to carry a baby & surviving a heartbeat scan and 40 long, terrifying weeks, don’t do it. Georgie needs mentally healthy parents. And I say this with love. They get harder to parent as they get older; you will need ALL of you to manage her. 3. Secondary infertility is terrible. My younger daughter struggled for 4 yrs and several chemical pregnancies. It was as awful as you said, and I agree with you. Finally, thank you both for the time you have given to this. Grandmarie of 5 & at least 4 angel babies here LOVING the light you are shining on this topic. Make taking care of YOUR family your first priority though. 😘
Please don't feel guilty or embarrassed that you have your Precious Georgie. After everything you went thru you are a BIG SUCCESS STORY and you should be very proud. That also gives people hope. You have every right to be happy and scared at the same time that you are ready to start your new journey for a second baby and all that could happen. You went thru hell and you have every right to be happy and scared at the same time. I wish you both the very best. And Sully might be a little jealous and wants to be around mom and dad. He was your first baby and he just might be feeling a little replaced. Thank you for sharing your story with us and all that you are doing to help people with fertility issues. You are both so awesome!,
Todd, get the ring re-sized! I married my husband in 2016, and had my engagement ring since 2015. I wrongfully took the advice of a very young jewelry clerk at the initial sizing that "you want them a little tight!" Ugh, regret from day one! But I kept trying to convince myself it was okay. It wasn't until early 2021 when I realized it was feeling more "squeezy" as time went on, and MUCH tougher to remove than even initially (I take off the diamond ring every day; I wear the wedding band 24/7.) Well I broke down and finally brought them in to a different jeweler. I ended up going up 3/4 of a full size, and that set has been my sizing dream come true! I LOVE them both now! You won't be sorry. DO IT! TODAY!
I just have to tell you both that I can see a true genuine best friendship between you two!! It's beautiful to see a husband and wife so genuinely and beautifully connected. It's refreshing and rare to see in today's day and age. Thank you for allowing me to follow along on this very personal journey you have been through.
Aw you two are the sweetest! God has his hands in this, y’all are helping others through the worst times in their lives❣️(on a side note, TK you crack me up with your clothing dilemmas haha 😆 Tara can you share where you got your beautiful sweater)? Luv u both🥰
This podcast has really cemented in my mind even more just the value of human life. The losses will always be with us because they weren't just hopes and dreams....they were life! Tiny precious lives. With all the promise and possibilities that life brings. Life is so precious. It is to be protected, cherished and enjoyed to the highest degree.
Again the married, choosing to be childless lady tuning in because I just adore you guys. For the criticism about being deceived … also to counter that - people also don’t want all doom and gloom. If you go 45 episodes without ANY hope or no win along the way, you’d lose people. And let me say, it’s your LIFE. It WAS doom and gloom for a bit. But people want a happy ending… a completely unrelated topic on UA-cam, we don’t like watching the slot players lose over and over. We need to see them win in a casino for HOPE. Same thing while so wildly different.
I am so very sorry for your losses and for any negative feedback (however little) about your podcast. Tara, bless you for cold-calling about the grants to help others make their dreams come true. Wishing you ALL the best as you continue your journey. And Todd, PLEASE get your ring re-sized!
I found your podcast while I was on infertility Reddit looking for answers about my own journey and someone comment about you guys podcast. Honestly not been able to be pregnant when is what you want the most is so devastating. In my case I do have a son almost 18 years old. I already experience pregnancy and been a mom. But you never know what life’s will bring you. I remarried at my 40’s and my new husband wanted to add to our family. Is been 2 years I had 1 miscarriage and we keep trying. The situation with us is the money we stared working with an infertility clinic and Doctors says our only option for me is egg donor and IVF and we can’t afford that. My husband is Veteran and we try to find help maybe grants or something and nothing. This podcast give me hopes I know you guys achieve the preganacy with a surrogacy but for me is the happy ending what matters 🙏🏼 I love you both you guys deserve your baby girl and know you guys are going to be the most wonderful parents ever! ❤ Thanks for sharing your story
I like this. Like Like Like. This episode shows what your future is and how the past is still not behind you. Anyway, for the next episode, you should have Conky the Robot from Pee Wees Playhouse come in and print out the secret word "Like" and everytime Todd says it, scream real loud.
I had twins then a singleton through surrogacy. You have to be strategic with surrogacy because of the cost and time involved. If u have a lot of normals on ice and given ur age (I'm in my early 40s too), I'd go for putting in 2 into a surrogate next.
You don’t have to feel bad about being happy! Thank you for sharing your lives with us! So glad you are continuing the podcast!!
Absolutely love your podcast! Every new episode I can’t wait to listen to. Thank you SO much for being such an amazing couple and producing this podcast! I have a 3 year old and 1 year old and had 4 miscarriages in my fertility journey and now am 27 weeks pregnant with a rainbow baby. God bless you and your sweet family! ❤
I'm so grateful for your podcast! Thank you both
Thank YOU for listening
SO many things I could say about this episode, but here are the top 3:
1. “Survivor’s guilt” is real & is tough. Give yourselves grace. Anyone who is critical of this podcast is either deep in depression as they struggle with their own journey, or just a damn Grinch who likes joy-sucking.
2. It does not matter one whit who carries another child or if it’s even your DNA. That is your personal choice. HOWEVER…the PTSD you have lived through is huge and - you’re right - WILL be with you forever. You can barely talk through the fear surrounding your visceral memories of your infertility. If you can barely even think about trying to carry a baby & surviving a heartbeat scan and 40 long, terrifying weeks, don’t do it. Georgie needs mentally healthy parents. And I say this with love. They get harder to parent as they get older; you will need ALL of you to manage her.
3. Secondary infertility is terrible. My younger daughter struggled for 4 yrs and several chemical pregnancies. It was as awful as you said, and I agree with you.
Finally, thank you both for the time you have given to this. Grandmarie of 5 & at least 4 angel babies here LOVING the light you are shining on this topic. Make taking care of YOUR family your first priority though. 😘
Please don't feel guilty or embarrassed that you have your Precious Georgie. After everything you went thru you are a BIG SUCCESS STORY and you should be very proud. That also gives people hope. You have every right to be happy and scared at the same time that you are ready to start your new journey for a second baby and all that could happen. You went thru hell and you have every right to be happy and scared at the same time. I wish you both the very best. And Sully might be a little jealous and wants to be around mom and dad. He was your first baby and he just might be feeling a little replaced. Thank you for sharing your story with us and all that you are doing to help people with fertility issues. You are both so awesome!,
Todd, get the ring re-sized! I married my husband in 2016, and had my engagement ring since 2015. I wrongfully took the advice of a very young jewelry clerk at the initial sizing that "you want them a little tight!" Ugh, regret from day one! But I kept trying to convince myself it was okay. It wasn't until early 2021 when I realized it was feeling more "squeezy" as time went on, and MUCH tougher to remove than even initially (I take off the diamond ring every day; I wear the wedding band 24/7.) Well I broke down and finally brought them in to a different jeweler. I ended up going up 3/4 of a full size, and that set has been my sizing dream come true! I LOVE them both now! You won't be sorry. DO IT! TODAY!
I just have to tell you both that I can see a true genuine best friendship between you two!! It's beautiful to see a husband and wife so genuinely and beautifully connected. It's refreshing and rare to see in today's day and age. Thank you for allowing me to follow along on this very personal journey you have been through.
Aw you two are the sweetest! God has his hands in this, y’all are helping others through the worst times in their lives❣️(on a side note, TK you crack me up with your clothing dilemmas haha 😆 Tara can you share where you got your beautiful sweater)? Luv u both🥰
This podcast has really cemented in my mind even more just the value of human life. The losses will always be with us because they weren't just hopes and dreams....they were life! Tiny precious lives. With all the promise and possibilities that life brings. Life is so precious. It is to be protected, cherished and enjoyed to the highest degree.
Again the married, choosing to be childless lady tuning in because I just adore you guys. For the criticism about being deceived … also to counter that - people also don’t want all doom and gloom. If you go 45 episodes without ANY hope or no win along the way, you’d lose people. And let me say, it’s your LIFE. It WAS doom and gloom for a bit. But people want a happy ending… a completely unrelated topic on UA-cam, we don’t like watching the slot players lose over and over. We need to see them win in a casino for HOPE. Same thing while so wildly different.
I am so very sorry for your losses and for any negative feedback (however little) about your podcast. Tara, bless you for cold-calling about the grants to help others make their dreams come true. Wishing you ALL the best as you continue your journey. And Todd, PLEASE get your ring re-sized!
I found your podcast while I was on infertility Reddit looking for answers about my own journey and someone comment about you guys podcast. Honestly not been able to be pregnant when is what you want the most is so devastating. In my case I do have a son almost 18 years old. I already experience pregnancy and been a mom. But you never know what life’s will bring you. I remarried at my 40’s and my new husband wanted to add to our family. Is been 2 years I had 1 miscarriage and we keep trying. The situation with us is the money we stared working with an infertility clinic and Doctors says our only option for me is egg donor and IVF and we can’t afford that. My husband is Veteran and we try to find help maybe grants or something and nothing. This podcast give me hopes I know you guys achieve the preganacy with a surrogacy but for me is the happy ending what matters 🙏🏼
I love you both you guys deserve your baby girl and know you guys are going to be the most wonderful parents ever! ❤
Thanks for sharing your story
I like this. Like Like Like. This episode shows what your future is and how the past is still not behind you. Anyway, for the next episode, you should have Conky the Robot from Pee Wees Playhouse come in and print out the secret word "Like" and everytime Todd says it, scream real loud.
Just finished listening to the podcast and had to come here to see the pants😂 Todd, get your ring resized! Get your pants tailored!
I had twins then a singleton through surrogacy. You have to be strategic with surrogacy because of the cost and time involved. If u have a lot of normals on ice and given ur age (I'm in my early 40s too), I'd go for putting in 2 into a surrogate next.
Sullivan is a cutie! I went back just to watch him be a good boy. I’m now going back to old episodes to look for Todd’s hemless pants