How To Kill Your Social Anxiety With Math
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- Опубліковано 5 тра 2024
- Here's how to beat social anxiety with math and logic. To improve your social skills, get rid of social anxiety and enter social flow with presence, since you're on self improvement. Being on self improvement you can improve yorself to become more popular and even stop being an introvert!
Do you dread interacting with strangers? Let's analyze the numbers to put things into perspective. Calculate the percentage of strangers' faces you can remember compared to the total number you encounter monthly. Remember, people remember actions, not faces. It's time to shatter those fears and step boldly into the world of social interaction.
Now, let's tackle the fear of social slip-ups. Calculate the likelihood of someone remembering your mistakes compared to the total number of interactions. Hint: It's minuscule! Embrace imperfection and watch your confidence soar.
Understand that overcoming social anxiety is a journey, not a destination. Embrace discomfort, push past the challenges, and watch as your confidence grows. Every moment of anxiety is a stepping stone to growth.
Timestamps:
0:00 intro
0:34 step 1
2:12 step 2
3:59 step 3
That's not fair I dont have "inner imaging" I have an "Inner Dialogue" meaning I can't even imagine what my own moms face looks like and you want me to remember a strangers face? I can remember people, names, actions, ect. damn near perfectly AND ACTIONS EFFECT PEOPLE...
"you could say the most vile thing and they probably wouldn't recognize your face" but why does that matter? im not anxious because im afraid someone will remember my face and call me out for the last time I was weird 😂 im anxious because of the CONSEQUENCES of being "weird" in the moment... People say/do violent/rude things, some people are openly racist/sexist/ableist... im not gonna just stop being anxious because they wont remember my face, because that doesn't stop THEIR ACTIONS in the moment nor does it stop how much their actions hurt, and you do know anxiety can come from the fear of an action right?
Like just because I cant pull their face from my memory bank doesn't mean I wont have an instant flooding of every bad memory involving them and every rude ACTION they've done once I see their face again, and it sure as hell doesnt mean that the action just didnt effect me because I couldnt remember their face. The only way you (permanently) forget the face of someone saying the most vile things to you is if you A.) have Alzheimer's or B.) just so happen to NEVER SEE THEM AGAIN because the second you see their face in real life you remember them and the things they did cause THATS HOW MEMORY WORKS. Like literally what does having the ability to see their face in your head have to do with anything at all tbh, like the real world exists and those people exist in the real world and so do their actions???
edit: I also live in a village of like 900 people spread across like 7 miles^2 and don't be leaving the house due to my social anxiety so I interact with like 5 strangers a month, while I do love the sentiment of this video it seems EXTREMELY individual and self-centered... This may be YOUR answer, it may even be the answer for many people in the comments but it sure as hell isnt THE answer, let alone MY answer.... this sucks😞😞
Hey, your situation seems really tough... Don't get discouraged though :) You've been dealt some bad cards in life, it's your responsability to make the best of them! Just to shatter some limiting befiefs you have (I'm not trying to defend what I said in the video, just helping you here).
1. You say that you're afraid of what will happen in the moment, but you do realize that the present moment is temporary, right? I'll tell you what isn't: regret. Being weird in the moment hurts, even for me, but after 10 seconds, it's gone. Regret is differet though. Imagine yourself in 10 years from now. You've gotten older, yor youth is gone. Will you regret the 10 years of social isolation you had and all of the missed friendships? I sure do. Because I was once like you. Talked to maybe a stranger per year (literally didn't even talk to cashiers, I just used to take self checkout). But when people tried to help me to get more social, I defended my position tooth and nail. I argued for hours and hours about how I'm an introvert, and have extreme social anxiety, and how I hated people and couldn't be helped. Don't listen to all of the excuses you have, avoid my mistake!
2. I'd actually argue that you do forget faces of people. Sometimes I even forget the faces of people I cold approach, so sometimes when I'm walking people just randomly wave or fistbump me, even though I don't remember them. When I ask them who they are, they tell me that I was the guy who talked to them literally 2 days ago.
3. You live in a village? that kind of sucks bro. Last summer I stayed at my grandma's house in a small village (probably 1000 people or less) and I just got super lonely after 2 months of being there. You've got some serious mental strenght to not go crazy in there. I'd say to just find ways around that. Maybe find a bike and pedal to the nearest city on a weekend day and socialize there. You can enter discord servers with like minded people, participate in group calls there, dm some, and so on. Try also walking around your village for fun to talk and be kind to everybody. Maybe if you find a group of people your age talk to them, exchange numbers, and organize stuff later on. In the meantime, make your life as fun as you can! Try working out, try a new hobby, get out into nature (one of the few things that I loved about my 2 month stay in the village was the incredible nature there), start eating clean and so on... (but no pressure tho)
Anyways, good luck on everything!
You don't see much content like this on UA-cam. Very underrated channel. Keep it up bro
So true...
I just hope you listen to your advice at the beginning of step three don't get discouraged by low views your content is great keep making more and more people will come
These vids are amazing, keep them coming, don't get discouraged by view count, one vid will blow up and ur channel will take over youtube.
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hi, I'm subscriber number 91.
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Bro this video was fire! I started cold approaching 1 or 2 months ago, and I think I'd recognise some people if I were to meet them again. But this video made me realise that I would never remember what they did or said to me.
Yep! That's exactly what I told my bro when we were out cold approaching a few days ago. I still remember how his eyes sparkled up when he realized that, and after literally 5 minutes, he went and asked a girl for her number like a chad (he got rejected). But even after that he was still excited because he got rid of his social anxiety just like that!
Bro did you cook those paintings? They are very good!
Thanks Igor! This video will prove a great resource for many im sure!
Also, the background images are ai? No?
you are my best friend
I didn't remember any face, so 0% for that, and I got a 0.00011% on the second one lol
Mine is 0.0019178022%
What was yours?
i thought it said meth for a second 💀
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Want to be friends on discord bro ? :). Btw I love this kind of content man. Keep up the good work 🎉.
sure, send the request
@@notigor1 Okay Bro 🔥. What's Your Discord ID ?
Already sent the request ;)
@@notigor1 Gotcha man. My Id is Phewboy