Well said. And I'll tell you, one thing: Samantha's marriage won't last very long; and when Samantha has a baby on the way, her husband Mark will cheat on her, and leave her to raise their baby as a single mother.⚠️
"I don't think she'll understand my point or my perspective." Actually, she doesn't give a schitt about his point or his perspective. He is just someone to be used and discarded.
Oh it is. This sounds like my husband's story. I was raised by a narcissist mom, but choosing my good father's memory and example, I could break down a lot of ways the ex wife and his adult daughter cruelly manipulated him. Now he remembers the little girl he once had fondly, but avoids the woman she became. Another low life in a family of low lives.
Why not? True NPD is a mental illness. Mental illnesses and disorders are primarily genetic. Although with some, the severity of it, can depend on the environment.
I think the OP has a really big chip on his shoulder at the very least. I understand that his daughter hurt him, and not helping her when Judith blew up the wedding is understandable. He took the low road, but I get it. I'd probably do the same. But when Sam reaches out again and he still rejects her, i start thinking he's being unnecessarily hard and cut that cord pretty easily. He keeps repeating that it's time he put himself first and then repeats it some more, and he can and should; but the healthy version of that is not thinking only of ourselves and never forgiving any one for any thing. And he seems very proud of himself for becoming a great deal like his ex-wife in several ways.
@@fighthypocrites7036 He put his daughter first for decades and got burnt. Now you want him to do it again. What's to stop the daughter from milking his support for another decade and then breaking his heart again?
😅 narcissism is a trauma response normally to something that happens during development years. I know I was raised by a covert narcissist... She was raised by an abusive alcoholic.... Therapy can teach you some cool stuff but it can't make you less of the scapegoat nor can I change a narcissist
If the wedding photographer had caught all that drama on a video I'd pay real $$$$ to watch that!! I'd have to watch it.... it's such a freaking epic wedding disaster I'd have to watch it just to see if it was real!
Good for the father to do exactly what he did because he showed his daughter exactly what ungrateful, shallow, selfish behaviour leads to: the loss of respect, and any kind of relationship. When you hurt someone that deeply don’t be expecting them to come back into your life. If I was OP, I would’ve twisted the knife deeper by telling her that “I raised you to be a good person, but it turns out that you turned exactly into your mother. Selfish, shallow, and materialistic.” Money can buy you lots of things, but it does not buy you class. What’s gets me more is that she expected him to come to her rescue when her mom proceeded to sabotage the wedding before it happened. But it looks like she learned her lesson years later when she married someone that was not as well off as the previous. But I doubt she’s going to contact her father to apologize and admit that he was right due to her own ego. The deterioration of the homewrecker and the 304 relationship does not come as a surprise. This is a statement towards the women: if you’re thinking of cheating on your husband with a wealthy man, rethink it. He is not going to commit to you. To the homewrecker, you will always just be a side piece to him because he has countless options. Also, relationships that were built on an affair don’t typically last long.
I like this channel, this video was definitely real - I say that bec I have come across loads of fakes. this one was organic. Plus this channel also puts timestamps for each update. I tip my hat to Red Diaries for that.
Not responding to the email is the BEST thing to do. There is no greater way to drive home the seriousness of a betrayal than going NC. Plus, there's no such thing as "closure" when you have been betrayed. Both the daughter and her mother betrayed him.
This is where that saying fits perfectly == (Everything happens for a Reason) == It's sad that she's your OWN daughter who decided that look & appearance is more important to your daughter than her own Father (smh). Sad to say it but... Your daughter deserved everything she got during her wedding and hope she lived to regret it, and realized that what she did to you (her own Father) was evil, toxic, and downright WRONG in every possible way. So again what happened to her during her own wedding is called == You Reap What You Sow == your daughter got EXACTLY what she DESERVED!!!!! Sad to say but living with Regret will continue to eat at her day by day, to the point where she'll need to see a Therapist to help straighten up her pathetic life...👊 👊 👊 👊 👊
The daughter needed to see the Reddit posts to understand his perspective. She was too wrapped up in her own world. As a parent he needed to be the better person. It would probably be different now if he had. Anyhow, good luck for the future, sounds bright.
False story. The new husband Steven was 60 when he married the mother. Then 15 years later it's time for the daughter's wedding = Steven is 75-76. Steven's parents at the wedding then need to be close to 100 years.
Not necessarily. My maternal grandmother died 11 years ago at the age of 106; my mother, her daughter, was 81 at the time; she is now 92. So it is possible.
@@jessicacornelius710 Odds aren't good, but it does happen. My mom made it to 93. Her brother 95. His wife, my aunt is 100. Had another aunt died about 2 years ago that made it to 100. At those ages though, they were pretty much house bound.
I agree with Op on everything but him blaming his wife for living a miserable life is on him. When his wife left he waited much later in life to start dating again he could've started dating right after she left him. Judith didn't wait his excuse was he didn't want to upset his daughter well his daughter would've had to accept the fact that her parents are leading different lives. I'm glad Mark left Samantha he saw how her mom reacted & his family probably told him that Sam would've ended up acting like her mom. As for Judith I'll bet her new hubby was the one who dumped her he probably got himself a younger & hotter woman. And left Judith with nothing as for OP he waited lated in life to find someone new but he did move on & left his daughter to deal with her own mess. She's an adult now so she has to deal with the consequences of her actions.
He dedicated himself to being a parent. It’s dangerous to bring in a third party when you have minors living with you, regardless whether that person is male or female. As a longtime former prosecutor I’m very familiar with those stats. He was her only source of emotional, mature stability and I find no fault with it. Life isn’t about getting some the second it’s legally possible; that’s a patently selfish and immature thing to do when you have kids at home. When my husband was killed in Iraq I focused my life on raising my kids and working (I’m also military), rather than dating. Divorce and death are obviously different but they share grief in common, grief for a partner lost, whether by tragedy or selfish choice. I didn’t date again until my youngest was about to graduate high school and I’m content with my choice. I met someone a few months later and we’ve been happily together for 2 years and plan to marry next year. But there were many times I was dejected, lonely and overwhelmed without a partner while raising 4 kids solo, so I understand the perspective.
The OP is pathetic because he keeps that woman on a pedestal as The Great Love. It was a red flag that has daughter everything to him. He comes across like the umbilical cord the mother cut off he had sewn on himself. You can tell he loves the drama of being a victim. The fiance is a giant simpleton because he doesn't realize that if his wife is capable of treating her own father that way who's to say she's not going to treat her husband that way? Especially with her mother as her role model. 🐸
"...she took away my right to walk her down the aisle..." Fk that noise. It's not your right. You're allowed to be upset and not attend, but you aren't entitled to the privilege.
Hey, he's her dad who pretty much raised her when his selfis, jezebel of a wife decided that she wanted riches & another man instead of a happy family. He did everything his wife should've done she pretty much poisoned his daughter against him. So he had a right to be upset that his daughter slapped his hand away & chose the step-dad to walk her sorry ass down the aisle.
Actually, it is his right because he was her father, and a father that loved her unconditionally. She lied to him about the traditional walk down the aisle. A father‘s biggest dream is to walk his little girl down the aisle at her wedding, but she crushed that dream based on shallow selfishness. She didn’t want her father to do it. She wanted the homewrecker to do it because she believed that he was more sophisticated due to him being wealthy. She showed her father that she’d rather have riches than the love and support of a parent.
After raising her by himself, it should have been his right to participate in her wedding, in whatever circumstance she decided - walk her down the aisle, a dance, or just a special spot to stand/sit. HE WASN'T EVEN INVITED. I can't believe you got hung up on a stupid phrase and didn't understand what he so obviously meant. Also, if he had said "Tinder" instead of the other app, would it still have been an ad for a dating app ? LOL ! Using your own brain seems to be out of fashion these days.
@@MdMzzz She is not his property, he has no right to anything. And why bring up tinder? It’s still an ad no matter which app he uses. Now crawl back into your hole.
@@DonWan47 LOL you're one of those people who can't see the forest for the trees. I hope your relationships with your family don't deteriorate because of words taken out of context. Good luck to you !
I was on OP'S side, even when he admitted to still hating Judith. But, when he said, "It's because of Judith that I lead a miserable life." OP isn't in prison. He chose to focus on work and his daughter. When his daughter was grown, he chose not to pursue personal interests. It was even his choice not to go to the wedding. If the choice is to be miserable than feel disrespected, then it is his choice.
If one makes a choice like not going, own it. If have a choice to make and you aren't sure of yes or no, the answer is no. A yes means you are on board. Anything else means you are not. Accept your choice and move on.
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Good for you OP, make a clean break. They were not your family.
Well said. And I'll tell you, one thing: Samantha's marriage won't last very long; and when Samantha has a baby on the way, her husband Mark will cheat on her, and leave her to raise their baby as a single mother.⚠️
"I don't think she'll understand my point or my perspective."
Actually, she doesn't give a schitt about his point or his perspective. He is just someone to be used and discarded.
I never thought narcissism could be hereditary but stories like this make me questions that.
Oh it is. This sounds like my husband's story. I was raised by a narcissist mom, but choosing my good father's memory and example, I could break down a lot of ways the ex wife and his adult daughter cruelly manipulated him.
Now he remembers the little girl he once had fondly, but avoids the woman she became. Another low life in a family of low lives.
Why not? True NPD is a mental illness. Mental illnesses and disorders are primarily genetic. Although with some, the severity of it, can depend on the environment.
I think the OP has a really big chip on his shoulder at the very least.
I understand that his daughter hurt him, and not helping her when Judith blew up the wedding is understandable. He took the low road, but I get it. I'd probably do the same.
But when Sam reaches out again and he still rejects her, i start thinking he's being unnecessarily hard and cut that cord pretty easily.
He keeps repeating that it's time he put himself first and then repeats it some more, and he can and should; but the healthy version of that is not thinking only of ourselves and never forgiving any one for any thing. And he seems very proud of himself for becoming a great deal like his ex-wife in several ways.
@@fighthypocrites7036 He put his daughter first for decades and got burnt. Now you want him to do it again. What's to stop the daughter from milking his support for another decade and then breaking his heart again?
😅 narcissism is a trauma response normally to something that happens during development years. I know I was raised by a covert narcissist... She was raised by an abusive alcoholic.... Therapy can teach you some cool stuff but it can't make you less of the scapegoat nor can I change a narcissist
I don't want to bore you with the details, proceeds to bore us with the details 😂
If the wedding photographer had caught all that drama on a video I'd pay real $$$$ to watch that!! I'd have to watch it.... it's such a freaking epic wedding disaster I'd have to watch it just to see if it was real!
Good for the father to do exactly what he did because he showed his daughter exactly what ungrateful, shallow, selfish behaviour leads to: the loss of respect, and any kind of relationship. When you hurt someone that deeply don’t be expecting them to come back into your life. If I was OP, I would’ve twisted the knife deeper by telling her that “I raised you to be a good person, but it turns out that you turned exactly into your mother. Selfish, shallow, and materialistic.” Money can buy you lots of things, but it does not buy you class. What’s gets me more is that she expected him to come to her rescue when her mom proceeded to sabotage the wedding before it happened. But it looks like she learned her lesson years later when she married someone that was not as well off as the previous. But I doubt she’s going to contact her father to apologize and admit that he was right due to her own ego.
The deterioration of the homewrecker and the 304 relationship does not come as a surprise. This is a statement towards the women: if you’re thinking of cheating on your husband with a wealthy man, rethink it. He is not going to commit to you. To the homewrecker, you will always just be a side piece to him because he has countless options. Also, relationships that were built on an affair don’t typically last long.
Of course she's going to apologize. How else can she get herself firmly back into his will?
I'm glad you're happy, OP.
I like this channel, this video was definitely real - I say that bec I have come across loads of fakes. this one was organic. Plus this channel also puts timestamps for each update. I tip my hat to Red Diaries for that.
This is fake. Nobody talks like this. It's clearly written by Ai
@@adamell5554 the story or my comment homie?
@@Quantum_Nebula both?
LOL 😆 yeah my comment does, now that I'm reading it again
It was nice to see an update to the story.
Congratulations on your better life O P! 🎉🤵♂️👰♀️
Not responding to the email is the BEST thing to do. There is no greater way to drive home the seriousness of a betrayal than going NC. Plus, there's no such thing as "closure" when you have been betrayed. Both the daughter and her mother betrayed him.
This is where that saying fits perfectly == (Everything happens for a Reason) == It's sad that she's your OWN daughter who decided that look & appearance is more important to your daughter than her own Father (smh). Sad to say it but... Your daughter deserved everything she got during her wedding and hope she lived to regret it, and realized that what she did to you (her own Father) was evil, toxic, and downright WRONG in every possible way. So again what happened to her during her own wedding is called == You Reap What You Sow == your daughter got EXACTLY what she DESERVED!!!!! Sad to say but living with Regret will continue to eat at her day by day, to the point where she'll need to see a Therapist to help straighten up her pathetic life...👊 👊 👊 👊 👊
You have great friends.
Just proceed with Casey and never look back. The ex and daughter are in the past. Let them stay there
The daughter needed to see the Reddit posts to understand his perspective. She was too wrapped up in her own world. As a parent he needed to be the better person. It would probably be different now if he had. Anyhow, good luck for the future, sounds bright.
D: Hello, dad, I ack you again
OP: Hello, who is this? My D is daid. She died when she cut me off. Bye!
Wth kind of minecraft "gameplay" is this?
Interesting story, entertaining, but the little details that don’t make sense suggest it’s just someone’s active imagination, or ChatGPT.
Apples, trees short distances and all that.
False story. The new husband Steven was 60 when he married the mother. Then 15 years later it's time for the daughter's wedding = Steven is 75-76. Steven's parents at the wedding then need to be close to 100 years.
Not necessarily. My maternal grandmother died 11 years ago at the age of 106; my mother, her daughter, was 81 at the time; she is now 92.
So it is possible.
Not saying it’s a true story but you act as tho it’s impossible to live to 100
@@jessicacornelius710 Odds aren't good, but it does happen. My mom made it to 93. Her brother 95. His wife, my aunt is 100. Had another aunt died about 2 years ago that made it to 100. At those ages though, they were pretty much house bound.
Did he not say Steven was 10 years older than the ex wife? So he was in his 40s at time of affair and is 60 now. That would make his parents 80ish
I’m good with petty 😊
I agree with Op on everything but him blaming his wife for living a miserable life is on him. When his wife left he waited much later in life to start dating again he could've started dating right after she left him. Judith didn't wait his excuse was he didn't want to upset his daughter well his daughter would've had to accept the fact that her parents are leading different lives. I'm glad Mark left Samantha he saw how her mom reacted & his family probably told him that Sam would've ended up acting like her mom. As for Judith I'll bet her new hubby was the one who dumped her he probably got himself a younger & hotter woman. And left Judith with nothing as for OP he waited lated in life to find someone new but he did move on & left his daughter to deal with her own mess. She's an adult now so she has to deal with the consequences of her actions.
He dedicated himself to being a parent. It’s dangerous to bring in a third party when you have minors living with you, regardless whether that person is male or female. As a longtime former prosecutor I’m very familiar with those stats. He was her only source of emotional, mature stability and I find no fault with it. Life isn’t about getting some the second it’s legally possible; that’s a patently selfish and immature thing to do when you have kids at home. When my husband was killed in Iraq I focused my life on raising my kids and working (I’m also military), rather than dating. Divorce and death are obviously different but they share grief in common, grief for a partner lost, whether by tragedy or selfish choice. I didn’t date again until my youngest was about to graduate high school and I’m content with my choice. I met someone a few months later and we’ve been happily together for 2 years and plan to marry next year. But there were many times I was dejected, lonely and overwhelmed without a partner while raising 4 kids solo, so I understand the perspective.
The OP is pathetic because he keeps that woman on a pedestal as The Great Love. It was a red flag that has daughter everything to him. He comes across like the umbilical cord the mother cut off he had sewn on himself. You can tell he loves the drama of being a victim.
The fiance is a giant simpleton because he doesn't realize that if his wife is capable of treating her own father that way who's to say she's not going to treat her husband that way?
Especially with her mother as her role model. 🐸
In family many times simple logic dosent make sense
"...she took away my right to walk her down the aisle..."
Fk that noise. It's not your right. You're allowed to be upset and not attend, but you aren't entitled to the privilege.
Hey, he's her dad who pretty much raised her when his selfis, jezebel of a wife decided that she wanted riches & another man instead of a happy family. He did everything his wife should've done she pretty much poisoned his daughter against him. So he had a right to be upset that his daughter slapped his hand away & chose the step-dad to walk her sorry ass down the aisle.
Actually, it is his right because he was her father, and a father that loved her unconditionally. She lied to him about the traditional walk down the aisle. A father‘s biggest dream is to walk his little girl down the aisle at her wedding, but she crushed that dream based on shallow selfishness. She didn’t want her father to do it. She wanted the homewrecker to do it because she believed that he was more sophisticated due to him being wealthy. She showed her father that she’d rather have riches than the love and support of a parent.
Lost me at “Took away my right”
Also an advert for dating apps.
Not really an ad
It feels real but it also feels like a trainee writer trying to make sure his writing is good
After raising her by himself, it should have been his right to participate in her wedding, in whatever circumstance she decided - walk her down the aisle, a dance, or just a special spot to stand/sit. HE WASN'T EVEN INVITED.
I can't believe you got hung up on a stupid phrase and didn't understand what he so obviously meant.
Also, if he had said "Tinder" instead of the other app, would it still have been an ad for a dating app ? LOL !
Using your own brain seems to be out of fashion these days.
@@MdMzzz She is not his property, he has no right to anything.
And why bring up tinder? It’s still an ad no matter which app he uses. Now crawl back into your hole.
@@DonWan47 LOL you're one of those people who can't see the forest for the trees.
I hope your relationships with your family don't deteriorate because of words taken out of context. Good luck to you !
@@MdMzzz And I hope you don’t have a family because you’re not right in the head.
I was on OP'S side, even when he admitted to still hating Judith. But, when he said, "It's because of Judith that I lead a miserable life." OP isn't in prison. He chose to focus on work and his daughter. When his daughter was grown, he chose not to pursue personal interests. It was even his choice not to go to the wedding. If the choice is to be miserable than feel disrespected, then it is his choice.
He has a martyr complex and I wonder how much of that he's inflicted on his daughter along with smothering her.
@@jujubees5855 She was "So Smother" that she cried for "THE SMOTHER" to go and saves her, go figure...
If one makes a choice like not going, own it. If have a choice to make and you aren't sure of yes or no, the answer is no. A yes means you are on board. Anything else means you are not. Accept your choice and move on.
Just proceed with Casey and never look back. The ex and daughter are in the past. Let them stay there
A carbon copy comment of nazli70 posted 1 day before. You a BOT?