When Latasha said “You’re the daughter I never had” that’s all I needed to hear . She is trying to support and live through this girl as if she’s her daughter instead of respecting her as an adult and her boundaries her mentee. She is unknowingly adding to that young girl’s stress.
Was thinking that...more like a mother daughter relationship the younger lady didn't ask for. Unfortunately most family relationships lack boundaries too.
Bonita you are beautiful inside out I’m 24 I’m learning how to drive i have disabilities and i have William syndrome and tick syndrome I’m going I’m moving out 26 I’m learning how to drive my dad been in and out of my life I’m moving on and me and my boyfriend are going to have our car and house and cats and get engaged after college and get married my friend passed away but my dad helped me god good to both of you
But it’s not like she wants control like she’s purposely trying to control her. She was controlling her because of the bad lifestyle she was living and she’s just trying to make sure she won’t fail again. I don’t think she’s trying to totally control her. And she’s not trying to control her mentally. And even the young lady is not really saying so for real. She’s just letting her know that she just need space so she can be free spiritually and that she at she could find her way. The other lady is just very concerned in my eyes and over protective. That’s all in my opinion.
@@prettygirltee8 thanks 🙏🏾 4 your comment it was very similar 2 my own.U definitely understood what u just watched. I hate when people see things and don’t understand what they just saw. Bad interpretation. Most of these comments r very delusional and judgmental towards the mentee. 🤦🏾♂️
I don’t think she’s living through her; I just think she’s trying to be there for her friend she sees that her friend is going through a tough time, and she’s dropping everything and moving somewhere random they say they care about each other multiple times throughout this show she cares for her she doesn’t want her to fuck up her life
This is why I always tell people be VERY careful who you allow to guide you. Some are doing it for their EGO only and this lady isn’t a great mentor at all. I’d ditch her, too.
I understand the lady is not a great mentor, but she's the one helping her after she's running around telling her business to social media, doing drugs, and crying 😭 so… it seems like this codependent relationship needs each other.
I think these two ladies love each-other a lot but the “mentor” just wasn’t loving her the right way. Since she’s younger she felt the need to protect her in the way she knew how which was via money and career advise. I’ve been there and you just have to realize that people need to make their own choices good and bad which is hard to accept when you love someone. Everyone need to stop dogging this woman, like you all are perfect.
I'm of two minds on this one. Let's start with the younger girl: yes, she is living her life and it's good that she's on a spiritual journey and that she's finding herself. She is STUNNINGLY beautiful and THE most beautiful guest that Karamo has had on this show. She's very articulate, well-spoken, sits upright, makes great eye contact. I find her intoxicating but...she's a bit lost at 27. She goes from place to place like a gypsy and at that age, this is not good. She needs more establishment and yes, a mentor. Younger people think that they can make mistakes and then have no consequence and this simply is not how life works. Once that bridge is burned then it's hard to get back to it..On the other hand, the mature lady comes across as an ACCOMPLISHED woman who took a younger sister in but I venture to say that there's not a lot going on in her own life to where she can separate herself from the younger woman. SHe's also very beautiful but she needs to learn to let go one she has led the younger lady to the water. She'll find that it's much easier once she sets boundaries. She's living through the other lady and I sense that she has a lot of regrets in her life on a personal level. Overall, she's just trying to help her. I didn't see anything malicious.
This woman gives me the heebie jeebies. What mentor forces herself on a mentee, while trying to be their friend, and in the same breath, says, "she's the daughter I never had!". Babygirl, she's unhealthy for you. Keep this "life coach" blocked and live your best life!
Honestly that's the same vibe I got. It sounded like mentor was upset about the girl moving which is understandable but it was still ultimately her decision to make. Then to make the girl "beg" was uncalled for. You want to lead her but you put her on the same level as a friend by going out with her? You can't have it both ways without problems occuring, simple as that
I kinda understand both sides. When she said " I see her as the daughter I never had" I felt a sudden sadness in my heart. Wishing both of the amazing sisters the best.
I felt her when she said she sees herself growing and spiritually I’m on my journey too the same life she was living I was too and I’m really just trying to reconnect with god regardless and not going back to abusive men doing drugs etc I literally understand her so well I’m so proud of your growth and I wish she was able to hear that more that she’s doing everything right people makes mistakes but you have to fight and she haves a fighting spirit
Karamo really hit the nail on the head with how he explained their relationship, I think most of us were thinking very similarly. I love his vibe, and he has a wonderful way of understanding & connecting with people. ❤️
Blurring the lines between mentor and friend is never okay. There will always be a power imbalance in one way or another. I think part of the reason Latasha wants a "friendship" with Bonita is because of the power imbalence. Any time Bonita goes against Latasha's wish she can bring up all she's done to build Bonita to where she is. These kinds of friendships can go sideways quickly.
Classic story of two folks who love each other. Mentor means well and has to learn to let her go if she wants to have a relationship. Young sis will continue learning how to set boundaries without cutting people off and running from conversation. I think they will be ok in the long term.
I'm of two minds on this one. Let's start with the younger girl: yes, she is living her life and it's good that she's on a spiritual journey and that she's finding herself. She is STUNNINGLY beautiful and THE most beautiful guest that Karamo has had on this show. She's very articulate, well-spoken, sits upright, makes great eye contact. I find her intoxicating but...she's a bit lost at 27. She goes from place to place like a gypsy and at that age, this is not good. She needs more establishment and yes, a mentor. Younger people think that they can make mistakes and then have no consequence and this simply is not how life works. Once that bridge is burned then it's hard to get back to it..On the other hand, the mature lady comes across as an ACCOMPLISHED woman who took a younger sister in but I venture to say that there's not a lot going on in her own life to where she can separate herself from the younger woman. SHe's also very beautiful but she needs to learn to let go one she has led the younger lady to the water. She'll find that it's much easier once she sets boundaries. She's living through the other lady and I sense that she has a lot of regrets in her life on a personal level. Overall, she's just trying to help her. I didn't see anything malicious.
I learnt the hard way, seeing things in people they did not see in themselves. Giving advice both solicited and unsolicited and becoming frustrated when people continued to do what did not serve them. This led to people being annoyed with me, disliking me, for wanting the best for them. I eventually realised that you have to leave people to do what they want to do, even if it leads to their demise. If people you like/love are making bad decisions, love them from a distance. Even if they ask for advice that doesn't mean they will take it. There are many people out there who will value your advice, guidance and support, don't waste too much energy on those who do not.
Sometimes you have to sit back and let them make their own decisions. Self experience is the best experience. Latasha should just support her despite how she really feels
I cannot believe this lady. You love unconditionally, when someone is going through something you do not put them down. She is going through something and we have to learn how to mentor not control or be a bad example. I don't think they should be anything.
Nope. Latasha is a Lifetime movie in the making. 😑 I believe that she does what she does out of love, however, I also believe that she has an unhealthy preoccupation with this young woman. Just listening to her speak about being “raged” when she found out that she’d been blocked, and then when Benita decided to go to Texas, she says *”Why would you leave ME once again”.* She also seemed really offended to find out that Benita no longer views her as a mentor. The reason why Benita waited until Latasha was on vacation to leave is because she didn’t want to deal with what would have come along with doing it while she was still there…drama. Almost like escaping an unhealthy relationship while your partner is at work. She needs to allow this young woman to find her own way, and make her own mistakes. Be there as a friend/big sister if she needs you, but stop trying to *CONTROL* her life!
The mentor is really confused more than this girl she said “you don’t see me as a mentor” then “as you should” (beg for my friendship back) and “I don’t buy your cocktails you’re grown” but also “I wanted her to change”. She’s a messy mess messssss! They have a toxic relationship and as someone who is a mentor she talks a hell of a lot over this poor girl who is talking about finding her way. This girl has love for the “mentor” because she helped her in some places but she is starting to add onto her stress. What’s the point in this job. Or even being her friend.
The mentor feels abandoned because the young lady has found her feet and wants to live her life in her own way. I'm happy she had the strength to make moves and better choices for herself. Mentor can now learn from the young lady.
If you’re not ok spiritually, it’s a problem and she said she sees more in herself spiritually. And it’s nothing wrong with that. If that’s where she need to be let her. If she has change let her be.
I completely understand Bonita because I see myself in her, i argued with friends family who thought they knew what was better for my life! Some of those people never left the state they live in or was able to be adventurous. I traveled, loved, lived in different states. I don’t regret none of it, now I’m 31 and have a career, experience, been to Europe and still traveling. Latarsha wish she could be as vibrant and adventurous as Bonita. Latarsha took the easy route in life that was cautious. She need to treat Bonita with respect and care for her as a friend
The mentor is really giving her business oppurtunities but the 27 year old want's to explore while she's ypung. The last thing on her mind is growing assests. But mental health wise, she is prospering! And if I had to choose, mental health would be it hunny. Money can't buy real happiness.
If I’m your good friend, and I know that you have a bad drinking problem, then I would be considerate enough and respectful enough, and responsible enough to refrain from doing so in your presence. I hope that I would understand that your drinking problem is just that - a problem. If you could use good judgment to say no, drinking would not be a problem. My behavior would influence you to slip back into that bad habit.
I hate commenters like u SMH That's all u got outta the whole show⁉️I see it as wanting the best for her so she be on top of her OUT OF LOVE though💯 she jus said she saw her as the daughter she never had didnt she? It ain't really bout control, dats a real one right dere
@@trenellcarter1663 that line alone of “you’re the daughter I never had” is an over step for a mentor and mentee relationship. Let’s not fall into delusion. The mentor is overstepping boundaries and wanting to have control which isn’t necessary. She is controlling
@@danielvidal46 thank you! There’s a limit to it. People just don’t understand that. That’s how you know comments like his overstep other peoples boundaries.
The mentor loves and cares for the young lady, but at a certain point you have to let people live their lives and love them and let them live the life they want.
If the mentor was real and ethical, she would have told that lady that they aren’t a good fit. She’s really overstepping the boundaries of a healthy mentor/mentee relationship and that’s a tragedy.
Mentors need help too. I think there is something Latasha needs that is unclear. It won’t work until she establishes barriers. I hope they make it. She has a good heart but her actions are misplaced at time.
the young ones live really fast. so their growth and turn around is really fast too. but that can be unsettling for older folks who were taught to be persistent to the point of toxicity
I had a best friend who disappeared for a year without telling me where she was, then she reappeared and texted me like nothing happened 😒 so I left her on read.
That’s silly. If she is your true friend find out why she “left” or at least give her grace if you sense hesitation when you ask her that question. Sometimes people go through difficult things they are ashamed of or depression and so it’s way more or completely about them than it is about you. The fact she reached out means she was thinking of you while she was going through her challenges and maybe doesn’t feel comfortable sharing what happened, so she’s just being casual about her absence. If you could get over your ego, you may find out one day what happened to her.
@Chichi Okolo well that's a lot. She not only did this to me she did it to others who cared about her. If you can't tell me what's up then it's not the friendship I want. A year is a long time, I thought she was dead. She said she was going on vacation and was gone for a year. I later found out she returned with a baby🙄
Sometimes we all feel we are ready to face the world but there are pitfalls we don't see. Having an experienced pair of hands to navigate makes more sense. The world is mess because everybody does what they want, not knowing the consequences.
Lovely ending with them making up. However, the older woman Latosha has to JUST ( learn to ) be a friend. That is hard because she started off as a mentor years ago. Bonita doesn't need that now, so the dynamics have changed and I think mentor feels unwanted and doesn't know what to do w/ herself now that she has no one to mentor. Shes a bit pushy and that' s concerning. Bonita is an adult now. Latosha needs to leave the mentor part alone and just be a friend, woman to woman but I don't think she can. I do not think their friendship will last because Latosha wont be able to resist mentoring, mothering, advising and in essence, smothering Bonita. Her overbearing nature will NOT allow it!!! I see trouble here for Bonita if Latosha doesn't come back to reality fast. She's overstepping her boundaries as a woman to another full grown (though young) woman. She needs to just STOP!!
This is weird. That old lady is trying her best to feel young by living vicariously through this young woman and by going out partying. She actually seems predatory. Something just is not right about her
This sounds like an ex friend of mine except she wasn’t trying to be like a mentor or mother figure; she was trying to control my narrative. She felt like the decisions I made for my son and I were wrong , meanwhile I had to remind her that she didn’t credible in telling me what’s right for my child and I when she doesn’t even know what’s in the best interest for herself. She was very judgmental towards my decision to forgive my child’s father and releasing the bitterness and resentment towards him so we can work together and be on one accord for our toddler child. I knew then and there that I needed to release her permanently. I could not keep allowing her immaturity to block my own intuition. I realized that she has not maturely evolved as I have and we are not in the same lane. She needs to release this woman and love her life as she see fits. People like this are usually trying to live through you, want to be you , or are trying to control your narrative to end up just like them .
I’m from the generation that comes before both of them….what I know is a 27 year old needs to carefully have their own experience so that she can learn life lessons for “herself” and grow into her true womanhood …. latosha needs to have a child to raise or something, because this young lady is not her responsibility and she’s a grown adult capable of making her own decisions whether they are bad or good ones,,,,it’s HER journey and holding her hand does her no favors, let her fall down and learn for herself ,,,, worry bout your own salvation Sis!!! Good luck Latosha
Wow ! I would have loved this mentor or mother figure ..I lost my mom at 21 like A WHOLE MONTH AFTER MY BDAY , IM 30 now and wish I had this guidance 😭, I'm Soo smart and needed a person to help amplify my talents and brains. That young girl doesn't understand how good she has it or had it ... 🙄 These guys will always be here , that's all she is chasing and delusion
I mean doesn’t a big sister mean mentorship as well? I think the older one needs to take a step back because Bonita clearly doesn’t feel like she needs her help in that way
You can talk to these young people, you can’t just send them money just because you thought about them, because they start calling and asking. I try and give that helping hand to all my nieces and nephews. They don’t understand a helping hand.
She's only a mentor, not a parent. You do your best to guide someone and move on. The young lady isn't your responsibility. She trying to find her way in the world, and if traveling and seeing different places is her way to do so; then let her be.
i think this is a case of right person wrong time. their age gap is the main problem and they are in two different places mentally which is okay. natasha just needs to accept that she’s on a journey right now.
I also wouldn’t consider the mentor her friend, either. She seems like the type of be jealous of the mentees growth - I’d move on and let her be her facetious bitter self alone
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We should not just talk off to the mentor...at least she's concerned about her future. Natasha give her a good space and treat her as a friend and little sister. It takes the grace of God for someone to help another to be upright in life. Natasha is a good woman/Sister. I see my self in her and my little sister in Benita. I just had to let her be without intruding in her life any more. I want the best of her but it always rough on and off in the relationship. Space at time is very important
Sometimes in helping someone, you can get all caught up in trying to steer them in th direction you think they should go and it don't always turn out that way. I believe the Mentor really had good intentions, but lost focus of the true purpose, due to her vision for the young ladies life. Hopefully the young lady will except the guidance, because it can only help her more than harm her. Hell, I wish I had someone to show me how to make money, etc... Lol!
They’re both weird. 27 is still young and she’s finding herself. The older lady was taken for granted but she made the right choice salvaging the friendship.
I agree 💯... This lady helps you leave then beg your way back cause your lonely ass needed something or someone for the moment then you leave again. That little girl was stealing from that older woman cup and that's fuked up too. They have grown apart at this point. I don't have anything else for her.
@@vickivalgal657 there is nothing wrong with girl moving the second time you can feel it's not a good idea but as a friend you can not control people let her do her I'm young but I one of those friends I'm going to tell you how I feel and what's up then what you do with that information is up to you so I would say the anger in your comment is uncalled for and has no bases and seems a little more personal cause that girl didn't warrant anything to make anyone as angry as you sound. Also this is not ment to offend you it's simply to say I don't understand your thoughts about her and if you would elaborate great if no then have a nice day wish you well.
When Latasha said “You’re the daughter I never had” that’s all I needed to hear . She is trying to support and live through this girl as if she’s her daughter instead of respecting her as an adult and her boundaries her mentee. She is unknowingly adding to that young girl’s stress.
agreed, I love the operative word " unknowingly"
Was thinking that...more like a mother daughter relationship the younger lady didn't ask for. Unfortunately most family relationships lack boundaries too.
Bonita you are beautiful inside out I’m 24 I’m learning how to drive i have disabilities and i have William syndrome and tick syndrome I’m going I’m moving out 26 I’m learning how to drive my dad been in and out of my life I’m moving on and me and my boyfriend are going to have our car and house and cats and get engaged after college and get married my friend passed away but my dad helped me god good to both of you
This mentor wants total control of this young lady's life.
But it’s not like she wants control like she’s purposely trying to control her. She was controlling her because of the bad lifestyle she was living and she’s just trying to make sure she won’t fail again. I don’t think she’s trying to totally control her. And she’s not trying to control her mentally. And even the young lady is not really saying so for real. She’s just letting her know that she just need space so she can be free spiritually and that she at she could find her way. The other lady is just very concerned in my eyes and over protective. That’s all in my opinion.
@@prettygirltee8 thanks 🙏🏾 4 your comment it was very similar 2 my own.U definitely understood what u just watched. I hate when people see things and don’t understand what they just saw. Bad interpretation. Most of these comments r very delusional and judgmental towards the mentee. 🤦🏾♂️
Get a life Latasha
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Mentorship is temporary. As Mentors gotta learn boundaries & to let go.
Amen
EXACTLY 🤓
I believe she’s living vicariously through her. She’s probably doesn’t have children of her own and took her in as her own
Yup she said it with in the first few minutes “ she seen herself in her”
She said she she’s her as a daughter as well,towards the end.
yep she said she's like the daughter I Never had. smh that's so sad 😒
@@michelleowens2737 😅 it’s not.
I don’t think she’s living through her; I just think she’s trying to be there for her friend she sees that her friend is going through a tough time, and she’s dropping everything and moving somewhere random they say they care about each other multiple times throughout this show she cares for her she doesn’t want her to fuck up her life
That lady is a control freak. Im proud of this young lady.
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Exactly what I said and they were not on point
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This is why I always tell people be VERY careful who you allow to guide you. Some are doing it for their EGO only and this lady isn’t a great mentor at all. I’d ditch her, too.
100% agree. I believe she should run from this Mentor because the Mentor comes across as a controlling person with a huge insatiable ego.
I understand the lady is not a great mentor, but she's the one helping her after she's running around telling her business to social media, doing drugs, and crying 😭 so… it seems like this codependent relationship needs each other.
I think these two ladies love each-other a lot but the “mentor” just wasn’t loving her the right way. Since she’s younger she felt the need to protect her in the way she knew how which was via money and career advise. I’ve been there and you just have to realize that people need to make their own choices good and bad which is hard to accept when you love someone. Everyone need to stop dogging this woman, like you all are perfect.
I'm of two minds on this one. Let's start with the younger girl: yes, she is living her life and it's good that she's on a spiritual journey and that she's finding herself. She is STUNNINGLY beautiful and THE most beautiful guest that Karamo has had on this show. She's very articulate, well-spoken, sits upright, makes great eye contact. I find her intoxicating but...she's a bit lost at 27. She goes from place to place like a gypsy and at that age, this is not good. She needs more establishment and yes, a mentor. Younger people think that they can make mistakes and then have no consequence and this simply is not how life works. Once that bridge is burned then it's hard to get back to it..On the other hand, the mature lady comes across as an ACCOMPLISHED woman who took a younger sister in but I venture to say that there's not a lot going on in her own life to where she can separate herself from the younger woman. SHe's also very beautiful but she needs to learn to let go one she has led the younger lady to the water. She'll find that it's much easier once she sets boundaries. She's living through the other lady and I sense that she has a lot of regrets in her life on a personal level. Overall, she's just trying to help her. I didn't see anything malicious.
@@b.u.dmusic9424 I totally agree with your assessment/comment 😊
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This woman gives me the heebie jeebies. What mentor forces herself on a mentee, while trying to be their friend, and in the same breath, says, "she's the daughter I never had!". Babygirl, she's unhealthy for you. Keep this "life coach" blocked and live your best life!
Honestly that's the same vibe I got. It sounded like mentor was upset about the girl moving which is understandable but it was still ultimately her decision to make. Then to make the girl "beg" was uncalled for. You want to lead her but you put her on the same level as a friend by going out with her? You can't have it both ways without problems occuring, simple as that
Tbh idk if it’s just me but it’s something really off about that lady
I know what you mean. I feel like she got skeletons in the closet.
Aw latosha seems obsessed. Let that girl live.
Very
I kinda understand both sides. When she said " I see her as the daughter I never had" I felt a sudden sadness in my heart. Wishing both of the amazing sisters the best.
I felt her when she said she sees herself growing and spiritually I’m on my journey too the same life she was living I was too and I’m really just trying to reconnect with god regardless and not going back to abusive men doing drugs etc I literally understand her so well I’m so proud of your growth and I wish she was able to hear that more that she’s doing everything right people makes mistakes but you have to fight and she haves a fighting spirit
AMEN 🤓
Amen and I pray that The lord Yahushua continues to guide you and keep you amen.
@@ladybug4896 amen
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Amen thank you 💖
I followed her on Tik Tok she used to have wild stories. I’m glad she getting her life together.
Yea thought she looked familiar
and has a youtube channel
Latosha is the perfect example of the story sounds good when you the only one telling it
I love how Benita jumped up to give her FRIEND a hug at the end. Yall beautiful.
Yeah... that mentor is delusional. She isn't a great listener or communicator. Her attitude is horrible towards the young lady.
No you're so WRONG. She just wants the best for her. She so protective it comes across as controlling but Latoya means well ultimately.❤👍
Karamo really hit the nail on the head with how he explained their relationship, I think most of us were thinking very similarly. I love his vibe, and he has a wonderful way of understanding & connecting with people. ❤️
She’s in her 20’s.
Blurring the lines between mentor and friend is never okay. There will always be a power imbalance in one way or another.
I think part of the reason Latasha wants a "friendship" with Bonita is because of the power imbalence. Any time Bonita goes against Latasha's wish she can bring up all she's done to build Bonita to where she is. These kinds of friendships can go sideways quickly.
Vicarious living. Latasha is in denial AF.
Classic story of two folks who love each other. Mentor means well and has to learn to let her go if she wants to have a relationship. Young sis will continue learning how to set boundaries without cutting people off and running from conversation. I think they will be ok in the long term.
I'm of two minds on this one. Let's start with the younger girl: yes, she is living her life and it's good that she's on a spiritual journey and that she's finding herself. She is STUNNINGLY beautiful and THE most beautiful guest that Karamo has had on this show. She's very articulate, well-spoken, sits upright, makes great eye contact. I find her intoxicating but...she's a bit lost at 27. She goes from place to place like a gypsy and at that age, this is not good. She needs more establishment and yes, a mentor. Younger people think that they can make mistakes and then have no consequence and this simply is not how life works. Once that bridge is burned then it's hard to get back to it..On the other hand, the mature lady comes across as an ACCOMPLISHED woman who took a younger sister in but I venture to say that there's not a lot going on in her own life to where she can separate herself from the younger woman. SHe's also very beautiful but she needs to learn to let go one she has led the younger lady to the water. She'll find that it's much easier once she sets boundaries. She's living through the other lady and I sense that she has a lot of regrets in her life on a personal level. Overall, she's just trying to help her. I didn't see anything malicious.
Very well said 🥰
I learnt the hard way, seeing things in people they did not see in themselves. Giving advice both solicited and unsolicited and becoming frustrated when people continued to do what did not serve them. This led to people being annoyed with me, disliking me, for wanting the best for them. I eventually realised that you have to leave people to do what they want to do, even if it leads to their demise. If people you like/love are making bad decisions, love them from a distance. Even if they ask for advice that doesn't mean they will take it. There are many people out there who will value your advice, guidance and support, don't waste too much energy on those who do not.
She is acting like she her mama the way she talk to her and keep saying groom her
Sometimes you have to sit back and let them make their own decisions. Self experience is the best experience. Latasha should just support her despite how she really feels
I cannot believe this lady. You love unconditionally, when someone is going through something you do not put them down. She is going through something and we have to learn how to mentor not control or be a bad example. I don't think they should be anything.
Nope. Latasha is a Lifetime movie in the making. 😑 I believe that she does what she does out of love, however, I also believe that she has an unhealthy preoccupation with this young woman. Just listening to her speak about being “raged” when she found out that she’d been blocked, and then when Benita decided to go to Texas, she says *”Why would you leave ME once again”.* She also seemed really offended to find out that Benita no longer views her as a mentor. The reason why Benita waited until Latasha was on vacation to leave is because she didn’t want to deal with what would have come along with doing it while she was still there…drama. Almost like escaping an unhealthy relationship while your partner is at work. She needs to allow this young woman to find her own way, and make her own mistakes. Be there as a friend/big sister if she needs you, but stop trying to *CONTROL* her life!
I wholeheartedly agree.
so sweet, you can tell she genuinely cares about her well being. wish them both luck!
The mentor is really confused more than this girl she said “you don’t see me as a mentor” then “as you should” (beg for my friendship back) and “I don’t buy your cocktails you’re grown” but also “I wanted her to change”. She’s a messy mess messssss! They have a toxic relationship and as someone who is a mentor she talks a hell of a lot over this poor girl who is talking about finding her way. This girl has love for the “mentor” because she helped her in some places but she is starting to add onto her stress. What’s the point in this job. Or even being her friend.
The mentor feels abandoned because the young lady has found her feet and wants to live her life in her own way. I'm happy she had the strength to make moves and better choices for herself. Mentor can now learn from the young lady.
If you’re not ok spiritually, it’s a problem and she said she sees more in herself spiritually. And it’s nothing wrong with that. If that’s where she need to be let her. If she has change let her be.
I completely understand Bonita because I see myself in her, i argued with friends family who thought they knew what was better for my life! Some of those people never left the state they live in or was able to be adventurous. I traveled, loved, lived in different states. I don’t regret none of it, now I’m 31 and have a career, experience, been to Europe and still traveling. Latarsha wish she could be as vibrant and adventurous as Bonita. Latarsha took the easy route in life that was cautious. She need to treat Bonita with respect and care for her as a friend
I’m very proud of Benita and her growth
Best segment! Great job Karamo you did with ease and love
“Your like the daughter I NEVER had” hit it right on the head ijs 🤷🏽♀️
If she say ‘groom’ one more time !!!
Crazy right
The mentor is really giving her business oppurtunities but the 27 year old want's to explore while she's ypung. The last thing on her mind is growing assests. But mental health wise, she is prospering! And if I had to choose, mental health would be it hunny. Money can't buy real happiness.
This episode made me miss my best friend of 23 years. We stopped talking due to her bad choice. We need you Karamo ❤❤❤❤
Get it touch with your bestie
The places God tells you to go, not EVERYONE can follow and people have to respect those boundaries.
If I’m your good friend, and I know that you have a bad drinking problem, then I would be considerate enough and respectful enough, and responsible enough to refrain from doing so in your presence. I hope that I would understand that your drinking problem is just that - a problem. If you could use good judgment to say no, drinking would not be a problem. My behavior would influence you to slip back into that bad habit.
She is trying to control the young lady! Let her live her life
I hate commenters like u SMH That's all u got outta the whole show⁉️I see it as wanting the best for her so she be on top of her OUT OF LOVE though💯 she jus said she saw her as the daughter she never had didnt she? It ain't really bout control, dats a real one right dere
@@trenellcarter1663 that line alone of “you’re the daughter I never had” is an over step for a mentor and mentee relationship. Let’s not fall into delusion. The mentor is overstepping boundaries and wanting to have control which isn’t necessary. She is controlling
@@danielvidal46 thank you! There’s a limit to it. People just don’t understand that. That’s how you know comments like his overstep other peoples boundaries.
@@trenellcarter1663 it’s control. she is 27! Let her live and learn. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink🤷🏽♀️
@@danielvidal46 Exactly
They definitely was in a MLM. She don't want her to leave because she want those overrides, residuals and commissions.
I was thinking that too!! Their relationship seems very predatory.
What's MLM
Hmmm come to think of it…
@@ashakih1649 multi-level marketing aka a pyramid scheme
Credit repair is scamming anyway
ooou, her jumbo invisible locs 🤩 I couldn’t stop staring. she’s healing and sprouting, finding herself. that woman is just holding her back.
The mentor loves and cares for the young lady, but at a certain point you have to let people live their lives and love them and let them live the life they want.
After scrolling through the comments, this is the most accurate and emotional intelligent comment I’ve read!!! Spot on 💯!!!
If the mentor was real and ethical, she would have told that lady that they aren’t a good fit. She’s really overstepping the boundaries of a healthy mentor/mentee relationship and that’s a tragedy.
How tf is dat a tragedy😭🤔 they end the show wit grace n hugging and u come commenting talkn bout sum a "Tragedy" if u dont worry bout ur own problems
@@trenellcarter1663 😂😂😂
@@trenellcarter1663 just like the “ mentor” she needs to worry about her own life.
Aimt no way I would try to salvage a friendship with that lady. She's too toxic!
What a moment. I wish them well in their friendship with new boundaries.
The one word she said that rang alarm bells for me was "I'm trying to groom her into the best she can be" groom her for what!!! Crazy
Wait a darn minute. Is that the TikTok gurl that be doing story time 🤨
yup
Beautiful chocolate skin tone. She is so pretty
Mentors need help too. I think there is something Latasha needs that is unclear. It won’t work until she establishes barriers. I hope they make it. She has a good heart but her actions are misplaced at time.
Looks like the mentor is 'inlove' with the young girl.. like there are feelings involved or so..
At this point she is 27! That’s grown asf!
Exactly I would understand if she was 17 or 19 how tf you gonna mentor someone who is almost 30 make it make sense!!!!
I’m 28 now & still a baby chile lol
Something seems off about this “mentorship”
She is obsessed with her.. people who aren’t married really fall in love with their friends!
She’s actually married Lmboo!
This was a refreshing episode 😌 its nice to see stories like these every once in a while.
the young ones live really fast. so their growth and turn around is really fast too.
but that can be unsettling for older folks who were taught to be persistent to the point of toxicity
I had a best friend who disappeared for a year without telling me where she was, then she reappeared and texted me like nothing happened 😒 so I left her on read.
That’s silly. If she is your true friend find out why she “left” or at least give her grace if you sense hesitation when you ask her that question.
Sometimes people go through difficult things they are ashamed of or depression and so it’s way more or completely about them than it is about you. The fact she reached out means she was thinking of you while she was going through her challenges and maybe doesn’t feel comfortable sharing what happened, so she’s just being casual about her absence. If you could get over your ego, you may find out one day what happened to her.
@Chichi Okolo well that's a lot. She not only did this to me she did it to others who cared about her. If you can't tell me what's up then it's not the friendship I want. A year is a long time, I thought she was dead. She said she was going on vacation and was gone for a year. I later found out she returned with a baby🙄
Sometimes we all feel we are ready to face the world but there are pitfalls we don't see. Having an experienced pair of hands to navigate makes more sense. The world is mess because everybody does what they want, not knowing the consequences.
I wish I had a mentor like that
Latasha everything can't stop for you
Lovely ending with them making up. However, the older woman Latosha has to JUST ( learn to ) be a friend. That is hard because she started off as a mentor years ago. Bonita doesn't need that now, so the dynamics have changed and I think mentor feels unwanted and doesn't know what to do w/ herself now that she has no one to mentor. Shes a bit pushy and that' s concerning. Bonita is an adult now. Latosha needs to leave the mentor part alone and just be a friend, woman to woman but I don't think she can. I do not think their friendship will last because Latosha wont be able to resist mentoring, mothering, advising and in essence, smothering Bonita. Her overbearing nature will NOT allow it!!! I see trouble here for Bonita if Latosha doesn't come back to reality fast. She's overstepping her boundaries as a woman to another full grown (though young) woman. She needs to just STOP!!
This is weird. That old lady is trying her best to feel young by living vicariously through this young woman and by going out partying. She actually seems predatory. Something just is not right about her
Agreed
@Keish how is she an old lady smh 🤦🏾♂️ your comment is redundant.
I agree
😂😂😂😂 girl stop playing with my friend like that lmbooo
This sounds like an ex friend of mine except she wasn’t trying to be like a mentor or mother figure; she was trying to control my narrative. She felt like the decisions I made for my son and I were wrong , meanwhile I had to remind her that she didn’t credible in telling me what’s right for my child and I when she doesn’t even know what’s in the best interest for herself. She was very judgmental towards my decision to forgive my child’s father and releasing the bitterness and resentment towards him so we can work together and be on one accord for our toddler child. I knew then and there that I needed to release her permanently. I could not keep allowing her immaturity to block my own intuition. I realized that she has not maturely evolved as I have and we are not in the same lane. She needs to release this woman and love her life as she see fits. People like this are usually trying to live through you, want to be you , or are trying to control your narrative to end up just like them .
Let be girlfriend and boyfriend babe
I’m from the generation that comes before both of them….what I know is a 27 year old needs to carefully have their own experience so that she can learn life lessons for “herself” and grow into her true womanhood …. latosha needs to have a child to raise or something, because this young lady is not her responsibility and she’s a grown adult capable of making her own decisions whether they are bad or good ones,,,,it’s HER journey and holding her hand does her no favors, let her fall down and learn for herself ,,,, worry bout your own salvation Sis!!! Good luck Latosha
She's lucky to have someone care about her the way that lady does. Not everyone has someone they can count on.
That mentor is shady A.F😒
Very
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Keep doing your thing. You are impacting so many including myself.
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I think sometimes we drag ppl up to be our age, unintentionally. I found no malice on either side
Karamo you're good. The way you just kryptonited that woman maan so articulate too
Wow ! I would have loved this mentor or mother figure ..I lost my mom at 21 like A WHOLE MONTH AFTER MY BDAY , IM 30 now and wish I had this guidance 😭, I'm Soo smart and needed a person to help amplify my talents and brains.
That young girl doesn't understand how good she has it or had it ... 🙄 These guys will always be here , that's all she is chasing and delusion
Don’t we all wish we just had the support to do and be better
I'm surprised at all the comments talking down to the lady in red
Ok but that's just your opinion. SHE'S NOT HER MOM!
I mean doesn’t a big sister mean mentorship as well? I think the older one needs to take a step back because Bonita clearly doesn’t feel like she needs her help in that way
I love the older woman she just want what’s best for her and she helped her out better than her last friends lol❤
that's true....the woman isn't using her ...she only wants the best for her
You can talk to these young people, you can’t just send them money just because you thought about them, because they start calling and asking. I try and give that helping hand to all my nieces and nephews. They don’t understand a helping hand.
@@viviandufe2247 I know right Using her 4 what the mentee is the 1 being used and abused in my opinion.
@@joncf3938 Exactly....the girl goes when she likes and return to ask for forgiveness...it's not everyone who will tolerate such attitude
She's only a mentor, not a parent. You do your best to guide someone and move on. The young lady isn't your responsibility. She trying to find her way in the world, and if traveling and seeing different places is her way to do so; then let her be.
It’s giving “I wanna be your mom”
i think this is a case of right person wrong time. their age gap is the main problem and they are in two different places mentally which is okay. natasha just needs to accept that she’s on a journey right now.
If your mentorship has ended,keep to your lane.She can't be your daughter.Don't control the young woman.
I'm thinking this girl is 19 lmao this girl is a grown ass woman 💯
Well said Karamo!
Latasha I would adopt a child someone you can love wholeheartedly... leave this lady her path is not yours and that’s ok
That child would be no contact in 20 years
y'all commenting against latasha....i wish i had such a friend in my corner......
The world is upside down
I also wouldn’t consider the mentor her friend, either. She seems like the type of be jealous of the mentees growth - I’d move on and let her be her facetious bitter self alone
That wannabe mentor is insane lol.
Where in the world did karamo comes from. USA karamo is a gift. So knowledgeable.
The lady in red is doing WAY TOO MUCH! Leave that girl alone! Stop controlling her & let her live her life!
I’m on Benita side!!! That generation SETTLED in jobs, relationships etc. I refuse
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Unpopular opinion I think she’s in love with her low-key
Seems to me like they’re growing apart just wanting different things in life
We should not just talk off to the mentor...at least she's concerned about her future. Natasha give her a good space and treat her as a friend and little sister. It takes the grace of God for someone to help another to be upright in life. Natasha is a good woman/Sister. I see my self in her and my little sister in Benita. I just had to let her be without intruding in her life any more. I want the best of her but it always rough on and off in the relationship. Space at time is very important
She wants to control her that’s it .
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Karamo just has so much insight
Mentor or tormentor?
Sometimes in helping someone, you can get all caught up in trying to steer them in th direction you think they should go and it don't always turn out that way. I believe the Mentor really had good intentions, but lost focus of the true purpose, due to her vision for the young ladies life. Hopefully the young lady will except the guidance, because it can only help her more than harm her. Hell, I wish I had someone to show me how to make money, etc... Lol!
Lady in red is in love with the tik tok lady
They’re both weird. 27 is still young and she’s finding herself. The older lady was taken for granted but she made the right choice salvaging the friendship.
I agree 💯... This lady helps you leave then beg your way back cause your lonely ass needed something or someone for the moment then you leave again. That little girl was stealing from that older woman cup and that's fuked up too. They have grown apart at this point. I don't have anything else for her.
@@vickivalgal657 there is nothing wrong with girl moving the second time you can feel it's not a good idea but as a friend you can not control people let her do her I'm young but I one of those friends I'm going to tell you how I feel and what's up then what you do with that information is up to you so I would say the anger in your comment is uncalled for and has no bases and seems a little more personal cause that girl didn't warrant anything to make anyone as angry as you sound.
Also this is not ment to offend you it's simply to say I don't understand your thoughts about her and if you would elaborate great if no then have a nice day wish you well.
THEY BOTH HAVE VALID POINT best advice pray and stay in your lane😢🎉🎉😊😊
Off topic, she looks like a real life Mirabel (Encanto).
.....who?
@@finnthehuman7159 One with the glasses.
This woman damn near 30 years old. That mentor needs to back off.