Hi Jack 🙂 I think you have a great thing going here and you’re reaching so many people and helping others as well as yourself. For me, it’s not quite the thing I’m looking for or needing so I’m going to bow out. I’ll find the help, I have no doubt. Thank you, for giving all these people an ear and some solid advice. Best wishes for you and your family ❤⭐️🇨🇦
Your amazing Jack! I truly believe you have got this you won't slip up. Thanks for the shout out!! Another great video , thank you for a real geniune insight into you 😊
Jack…. It takes alot for someone to admit to & try to make amends for their faults. Doing what you do & realizing you need to work on yourself everyday is part of what makes you so awesome. You’re really an inspiration to me. I struggle with feelings of inadequacy everyday. This is based on what most people have drilled inside my head since I was a child. Seeing & hearing you gives me inspiration. Hopefully I can control it very soon. As for Sunday, I won’t be able to tune in because of work. Good luck with that & I hope everything goes off without a hitch. I’ll see you next video.
Self-reception is an act of Love. We are generally more critical and strict with ourselves. Recognizing mistakes is very important. I see many people having difficulty doing this nowadays, regardless of the error. You are on the right track. Jesus bless You and Your family.
Jack, it takes a lifetime for most to truly find their self-worth. Mine was shot to hell for a long time (not through addiction, but loss of self-esteem). Now I’m facing a terminal illness and I’ve found a strength I never knew I had. The point is to always explore who you are and to love: yourself, others, nature, without ego.
jack - it's so crazy how you're able to hit on a core level. i watched this last night/friday night, and at one point it didn't even feel like i was watching a youtube video, it's like you were having a 1:1 conversation in my living room. your ability to break through the screen with just sincere thoughts and make your audience feel connection is remarkable. really hope youtube is just a jumping off point for a larger platform for you. i do think there are people out there who need to hear these types of messages coming from a guy like you. the comments show that your audience recognizes it. (appreciate the shoutout, you're too kind dood 👊) and for those that are in a position to support, it's heartwarming to read both the messages they write to you, and your genuine responses of gratitude (and surprise 🤣) each time 💙
Solo my dude!! Your continued support is on another level and there is no way for me to properly thank you. Just know I love all that you are doing, the help you have been providing in your emails are outstanding as well. Deeply grateful J.
Eddie! My man, thank you SO much. This type of support is so incredible and it’s really helping in a way I didn’t think would happen. Blessed and grateful to have you here.
I agree, 12 step programs aren’t the only way to get sober nor are they for everyone. However my 12 step program helped me get sober, helps me r stay sober, helps me function out in the world and has made my life better than I could have dreamed when I was drinking and using. I stay the corse and at 12+ years of sobriety still attend at least 3 meetings a week, at least. The program and the meetings work for me so I’m going to stay the corse, happy to hear you do as well. Hug to you brother.
I believe you are helping more than you will ever know or hear about. I think that a lot of us have that selfishness within, but probably cannot bring ourselves to admit to it. It helps hearing you talk about it. Thank you for what you are doing here. Hope you have a wonderful weekend!
Jack, what a truly epic confessional! You must have a background in the Catholic faith, and I am NOT throwing dumb back handed comments to you or being sarcastic. I loved this video and the depth of your honesty. I would say this proves that you are a good person by "confessing" instead of spending a lifetime of gaslighting your way out of any guilt. Among other good things, this video shows how addiction to dangerous drugs can change (hopefully temporarily) a good and normal person to narcissism to satisfy their desperate cravings. You have overcome this, and I pray you continue to stay on this path.
Jack.... There's not a word that you said here today that I cannot relate to. EVERYTHING. I'm not sure that I like myself that much but along the way I have learned to love myself and that stems from the unconditional love that (despite all the bad stuff that happened to me and I in turn inflicted on others) was gifted to me by truly beautiful people. I have never envied people their bigger houses, their Bentley's or their bulging bank balances, I envy people for their goodness and ability to love unconditionally. That is why I have an addiction today to be more empathetic, more nurturing and to live a life built on love. Love toward everyman, my animals and everything that is good in this world. So as always much love to you brother for articulating what so many are feeling and inspiring so many to move toward better things.🍀
@@jackunmasked I have quite a few my man. I take in a lot of rescue animals. I have seven dogs, donkeys, goats (they save me cutting all that grass), chickens and two old rescue horses.! I truly believe that we learn just as much from the four leggers as we do from our own two legged kind. These wise souls have taught me more about compassion, selfishness and unconditional love than I could ever quantify. Much more than I can ever give them.🍀
You are incredible Jack. Truly a beautiful soul. Your honest raw vulnerability will help so many. It would be easy to have a hardened heart - but to show such grace, strength and resilience is so inspiring. We need more of you in the world Jack. You matter. #belikejack #alwaysbeloving
You deserve alll the love and support! Your team, family, friends that keep your life balanced so you can do this! Sharing your message. You bring much inspiration. I have began being myself more. I give credit to you. It takes one person sometimes. Thank you Jack! The thing with inspiration is I’m like okay what’s next to make me better? So I can be better for others in my life? I pray more. Mostly for gratitude. Life is tough but a lot of it is how you look at it. And what you can take responsibility for but still be proud of who you are today and what you could bring into their life today. Again your words are helping me. Keep the videos coming ❤
Many of us have been abused in many ways, and we have done many mistakes in life. Let's forgive and try to be better souls. You're in the right track, try to keep clean. ❤❤❤
You are too hard on yourself, Jack. We all carry demons, to some degree and impact, which some people ignore with consequence, and others address as you are so admirably doing. I come from a great Catholic family who all love me but I was a very difficult teenager. I felt like a bad person and behaved that way. I did not like myself and was terrible with my parents and brothers and sister. Fortunately, I did not turn to drugs, but all this manifested itself in bad behavior. As an example, and probably the worst thing I did, to this day haunts me. My father was a naval officer and we were living in France. I had a motorbike which resulted in an accident where I hit a Frenchman whom I almost killed, and the accident was totally my fault. He was in a coma thirty days and almost died. Mercifully, he survived and became physically OK. I showed no empathy or real caring about his situation where all my family and friends were praying for his recovery. I was upset because my motorbike days were over by parental fiat. It was despicable on my part. During college I started changing and reflected on all of my bad ways, and, fortunately, started recognizing them. In my 20’s I changed through family and friends and started liking the part of me that was good. I apologized to those I had hurt verbally and through actions. I was able to put my demons at bay. I have had a blessed life and I now know it. With so much suffering in the world God has been very good to me and forgiving. Please stay on your path as the rewards are there. Your decency shows. Your work situation will correct itself. I have been there, too, and I hope my small contribution helps a little. People were good to me in this regard when I was there. To this day I say a prayer every night about this lovely Frenchman and always ask for forgiveness for the worst thing I ever did. The good rises to the surface if we let it. And you are letting it rise in your case. Lane.
Lane, what an amazingly generous contribution to what I’m doing. You sound like a great man, with God, and I’m so blessed to have you here sharing so candidly. Grateful for your kind words and extreme generosity.
Jack, God forgives just as soon as you are sorry for your sin. And there is no limit, as long as you're sorry--since He also gives the grace to be sorry. We all are tempted by our past bad habits. But temptation is not a sin. As long as we resist for a greater good, we are earning our way to happiness here and hereafter. Your love makes possible your gratitude to God and to your friends, since all true love is from God. Keep going, you'll get there, my friend. Take care & God bless.
great video/talk - something I struggle with, is that I know my deepest darkest secrets and misdeeds of course... they don't make me not love myself, or believe that I don't deserve anything. Rather, I tend to see myself in others. For instance, how can I possibly trust people when I know how I, myself am, in terms of being able to harbor so much darkness for so long? How can I ever trust people not to do what I've done? I feel like no matter what happens... I can never really trust people outside my inner most circle because of this. You know... "no new friends"... I dno man - its a hard one. thanks for the video.
@@jackunmasked true. Just so hard to accept sometimes when taking a chance can have such absolutely devastating consequences. Being a father for instance and taking a chance on trusting someone with your child in certain situations is definitely one of the most difficult things I’ve encountered, especially after hearing stories such as your own. Stories like your’s combined with my own experiences make me naturally distrust almost every adult (especially males) around my child. Recent news events have made me even start to distrust adult females around him too. At the same time I gotta let the kid live. Hardest part of being a father. I’m sure you can relate.
If I want to feel esteem, I must do estimable things. This is a behavior I am not used to because of my addiction and whatever I would do to feed that addiction. The more I practice altruism, the stronger that new neural pathway becomes and the old behavior fades. But it takes practice until it becomes more natural.
A W E S O M E. One commented "epic confessional" DITTO I'm glad I'm old. Exhausted. Sad to say I did not find the self love self forgiveness you are modeling. Barely tolerate myself, & that's progress. The power greater..., is impersonal with me. Not for the life of me... I do remember decades ago in a mtg, an old-timer saying "Y'know, when ya don't forgive yourself you're making too much of yourself" Now that is something. Hating oneself is narcissistic. When I am most productive & loving, I am unselfconscious, kinda unaware of Me, just in a state of action. I can't get behind deserving anything. Wait a minute. Since I core believe I deserve pain/deprivation/annihilation, maybe God is active in my life shielding me from those dreadful outcomes. Hey! I am grateful
I may be wrong, but I believe your birthday is in August (as is mine). Happy 40th Birthday Jack! 🎂🎈🎉🎁 So much has happened in 40 yrs........the good and the bad. You've matured greatly and now you have a voice and a channel from which you can help others. I'm no shrink, but you have to forgive yourself. J's death was not because of you and you didn't know exactly what was happening. Also, had you not been on that phone, the result would have been the same. By repeating this painful story is not helping you any. You've overcome a great deal and be proud of your accomplishments. I'm sure your program has set rules when it comes to admitting something and asking for forgiveness. However, does it ask you to forgive yourself? I'm just pointing out the obvious. I'm one of your biggest fans that goes back pre-UA-cam channel, when people really didn't know very much about you. I want to be honest with you. I don't believe you have a self-esteem issue. In this video you admitted to how much you love yourself. That contradicts those of us who have poor self-esteem. I think if you "think" you have low self-esteem, it helps you in some way?? If so, carry on. P.S. God loves you because you are IMPERFECT. "God loves to use people who are imperfect to do impossible things" P.S.S. I saw a phenomenal therapist on/off for at least 20 yrs of my life. She had an office in downtown Boston, and a home office in Medford. I happened to live in Medford when I needed her the most. Long story short, she helped me learn about myself and why I react in certain ways.
Love this brother. You’re an OG from SWU road to redemption it sounds like, and I appreciate that. Today my self-esteem is much better than it once was, I know Medford pretty well! Thanks for participating brother hope to see you on my live tomorrow.
Hi Jack 🙂 I think you have a great thing going here and you’re reaching so many people and helping others as well as yourself. For me, it’s not quite the thing I’m looking for or needing so I’m going to bow out. I’ll find the help, I have no doubt. Thank you, for giving all these people an ear and some solid advice. Best wishes for you and your family ❤⭐️🇨🇦
Thank you for the time you’ve spent here, we will be here if you decide to come back!
Your amazing Jack! I truly believe you have got this you won't slip up. Thanks for the shout out!! Another great video , thank you for a real geniune insight into you 😊
Aww thanks Rachel, glad to see you in here again. Thank you for your support.
Jack…. It takes alot for someone to admit to & try to make amends for their faults. Doing what you do & realizing you need to work on yourself everyday is part of what makes you so awesome. You’re really an inspiration to me. I struggle with feelings of inadequacy everyday. This is based on what most people have drilled inside my head since I was a child. Seeing & hearing you gives me inspiration. Hopefully I can control it very soon. As for Sunday, I won’t be able to tune in because of work. Good luck with that & I hope everything goes off without a hitch. I’ll see you next video.
This means a lot to me Steve, thanks so much for being here and the kind words.
Self-reception is an act of Love. We are generally more critical and strict with ourselves. Recognizing mistakes is very important. I see many people having difficulty doing this nowadays, regardless of the error. You are on the right track. Jesus bless You and Your family.
Bless you too Antonio, love having you here.
Jack, it takes a lifetime for most to truly find their self-worth. Mine was shot to hell for a long time (not through addiction, but loss of self-esteem). Now I’m facing a terminal illness and I’ve found a strength I never knew I had. The point is to always explore who you are and to love: yourself, others, nature, without ego.
Couldn’t have said it better myself Tom, always love seeing you in here!
jack - it's so crazy how you're able to hit on a core level. i watched this last night/friday night, and at one point it didn't even feel like i was watching a youtube video, it's like you were having a 1:1 conversation in my living room. your ability to break through the screen with just sincere thoughts and make your audience feel connection is remarkable.
really hope youtube is just a jumping off point for a larger platform for you. i do think there are people out there who need to hear these types of messages coming from a guy like you. the comments show that your audience recognizes it.
(appreciate the shoutout, you're too kind dood 👊) and for those that are in a position to support, it's heartwarming to read both the messages they write to you, and your genuine responses of gratitude (and surprise 🤣) each time 💙
Solo my dude!! Your continued support is on another level and there is no way for me to properly thank you. Just know I love all that you are doing, the help you have been providing in your emails are outstanding as well. Deeply grateful J.
You are an inspiration!❤
Eddie! My man, thank you SO much. This type of support is so incredible and it’s really helping in a way I didn’t think would happen. Blessed and grateful to have you here.
I agree, 12 step programs aren’t the only way to get sober nor are they for everyone. However my 12 step program helped me get sober, helps me r stay sober, helps me function out in the world and has made my life better than I could have dreamed when I was drinking and using. I stay the corse and at 12+ years of sobriety still attend at least 3 meetings a week, at least. The program and the meetings work for me so I’m going to stay the corse, happy to hear you do as well. Hug to you brother.
My bearded brother, the same things work for me and I plan to continue the course. Always love seeing you in here thank you for showing up!
I believe you are helping more than you will ever know or hear about. I think that a lot of us have that selfishness within, but probably cannot bring ourselves to admit to it. It helps hearing you talk about it. Thank you for what you are doing here. Hope you have a wonderful weekend!
Thanks so much Melanie, good to see you here again participating.
Thank you…I needed to hear this! 🙏🏻
You’re doing a fantastic job 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼!
Love to hear it Monica, thanks again for being awesome!
Jack, what a truly epic confessional! You must have a background in the Catholic faith, and I am NOT throwing dumb back handed comments to you or being sarcastic. I loved this video and the depth of your honesty. I would say this proves that you are a good person by "confessing" instead of spending a lifetime of gaslighting your way out of any guilt. Among other good things, this video shows how addiction to dangerous drugs can change (hopefully temporarily) a good and normal person to narcissism to satisfy their desperate cravings. You have overcome this, and I pray you continue to stay on this path.
Thank you so much Adam, love that you see me as I am. Hopefully someone gets something from this as you did.
Thanks
Rachel thank you so much!!
Jack.... There's not a word that you said here today that I cannot relate to. EVERYTHING.
I'm not sure that I like myself that much but along the way I have learned to love myself and that stems from the unconditional love that (despite all the bad stuff that happened to me and I in turn inflicted on others) was gifted to me by truly beautiful people.
I have never envied people their bigger houses, their Bentley's or their bulging bank balances, I envy people for their goodness and ability to love unconditionally. That is why I have an addiction today to be more empathetic, more nurturing and to live a life built on love. Love toward everyman, my animals and everything that is good in this world.
So as always much love to you brother for articulating what so many are feeling and inspiring so many to move toward better things.🍀
Love it Dave! What kind of animals do you have?
@@jackunmasked I have quite a few my man. I take in a lot of rescue animals. I have seven dogs, donkeys, goats (they save me cutting all that grass), chickens and two old rescue horses.! I truly believe that we learn just as much from the four leggers as we do from our own two legged kind. These wise souls have taught me more about compassion, selfishness and unconditional love than I could ever quantify. Much more than I can ever give them.🍀
You are incredible Jack. Truly a beautiful soul. Your honest raw vulnerability will help so many. It would be easy to have a hardened heart - but to show such grace, strength and resilience is so inspiring. We need more of you in the world Jack. You matter. #belikejack #alwaysbeloving
Wow, thank you. This is an amazing comment. Blessed to have you here.
you are very brave. I admire your honesty and your ability to put your life into words.
I appreciate you being here!
You deserve alll the love and support! Your team, family, friends that keep your life balanced so you can do this! Sharing your message. You bring much inspiration. I have began being myself more. I give credit to you. It takes one person sometimes. Thank you Jack! The thing with inspiration is I’m like okay what’s next to make me better? So I can be better for others in my life? I pray more. Mostly for gratitude. Life is tough but a lot of it is how you look at it. And what you can take responsibility for but still be proud of who you are today and what you could bring into their life today. Again your words are helping me. Keep the videos coming ❤
So awesome to hear Jessie, I’m humbled by this. Glad I could help you along a little bit with my video. Blessed to have you here!
Many of us have been abused in many ways, and we have done many mistakes in life. Let's forgive and try to be better souls. You're in the right track, try to keep clean. ❤❤❤
Love this! Thanks so much for being here.
Hey Jack, love ya bro and hope you maintain your path and get to that goal you are reaching for.
Love right back at you Robert!
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊
You are too hard on yourself, Jack. We all carry demons, to some degree and impact, which some people ignore with consequence, and others address as you are so admirably doing. I come from a great Catholic family who all love me but I was a very difficult teenager. I felt like a bad person and behaved that way. I did not like myself and was terrible with my parents and brothers and sister. Fortunately, I did not turn to drugs, but all this manifested itself in bad behavior. As an example, and probably the worst thing I did, to this day haunts me. My father was a naval officer and we were living in France. I had a motorbike which resulted in an accident where I hit a Frenchman whom I almost killed, and the accident was totally my fault. He was in a coma thirty days and almost died. Mercifully, he survived and became physically OK. I showed no empathy or real caring about his situation where all my family and friends were praying for his recovery. I was upset because my motorbike days were over by parental fiat. It was despicable on my part.
During college I started changing and reflected on all of my bad ways, and, fortunately, started recognizing them. In my 20’s I changed through family and friends and started liking the part of me that was good. I apologized to those I had hurt verbally and through actions. I was able to put my demons at bay.
I have had a blessed life and I now know it. With so much suffering in the world God has been very good to me and forgiving. Please stay on your path as the rewards are there. Your decency shows. Your work situation will correct itself. I have been there, too, and I hope my small contribution helps a little. People were good to me in this regard when I was there.
To this day I say a prayer every night about this lovely Frenchman and always ask for forgiveness for the worst thing I ever did. The good rises to the surface if we let it. And you are letting it rise in your case. Lane.
Lane, what an amazingly generous contribution to what I’m doing. You sound like a great man, with God, and I’m so blessed to have you here sharing so candidly. Grateful for your kind words and extreme generosity.
Hey I’m here from swu.. thanks for inviting me here 😊
Thanks for coming, blessed to have you here!
Your beautiful human ❤
Thanks so much Torrey!
I am so moved by your power of self forgiveness.
That means a lot to me Jeanette, took me a very long time to get where I am today.
Jack, God forgives just as soon as you are sorry for your sin. And there is no limit, as long as you're sorry--since He also gives the grace to be sorry. We all are tempted by our past bad habits. But temptation is not a sin. As long as we resist for a greater good, we are earning our way to happiness here and hereafter. Your love makes possible your gratitude to God and to your friends, since all true love is from God. Keep going, you'll get there, my friend. Take care & God bless.
Great comment, love the participation as usual Gandalf!
great video/talk - something I struggle with, is that I know my deepest darkest secrets and misdeeds of course... they don't make me not love myself, or believe that I don't deserve anything. Rather, I tend to see myself in others. For instance, how can I possibly trust people when I know how I, myself am, in terms of being able to harbor so much darkness for so long? How can I ever trust people not to do what I've done? I feel like no matter what happens... I can never really trust people outside my inner most circle because of this. You know... "no new friends"... I dno man - its a hard one. thanks for the video.
It sure is a hard one, and I’m not sure there is any other answer besides taking a chance. But I completely understand where you’re coming from.
@@jackunmasked true. Just so hard to accept sometimes when taking a chance can have such absolutely devastating consequences. Being a father for instance and taking a chance on trusting someone with your child in certain situations is definitely one of the most difficult things I’ve encountered, especially after hearing stories such as your own. Stories like your’s combined with my own experiences make me naturally distrust almost every adult (especially males) around my child. Recent news events have made me even start to distrust adult females around him too.
At the same time I gotta let the kid live. Hardest part of being a father. I’m sure you can relate.
💙
I see you Summer.
Jack I kno you! How??? Jim in Louisville Kentucky here
Not sure brother.
If I want to feel esteem, I must do estimable things. This is a behavior I am not used to because of my addiction and whatever I would do to feed that addiction. The more I practice altruism, the stronger that new neural pathway becomes and the old behavior fades. But it takes practice until it becomes more natural.
Keep it going Witt, I have to practice constantly. You’re in the right place brother. Thank you for being here.
A W E S O M E. One commented "epic confessional" DITTO
I'm glad I'm old. Exhausted. Sad to say I did not find the self love self forgiveness you are modeling. Barely tolerate myself, & that's progress.
The power greater..., is impersonal with me. Not for the life of me... I do remember decades ago in a mtg, an old-timer saying "Y'know, when ya don't forgive yourself you're making too much of yourself" Now that is something. Hating oneself is narcissistic. When I am most productive & loving, I am unselfconscious, kinda unaware of Me, just in a state of action.
I can't get behind deserving anything. Wait a minute. Since I core believe I deserve pain/deprivation/annihilation, maybe God is active in my life shielding me from those dreadful outcomes. Hey! I am grateful
Great perception you have, I love the participation!
Forgiveness=repentance
Yes sir!
I may be wrong, but I believe your birthday is in August (as is mine). Happy 40th Birthday Jack! 🎂🎈🎉🎁
So much has happened in 40 yrs........the good and the bad. You've matured greatly and now you have a voice and a channel from which you can help others.
I'm no shrink, but you have to forgive yourself. J's death was not because of you and you didn't know exactly what was happening. Also, had you not been on that phone, the result would have been the same. By repeating this painful story is not helping you any. You've overcome a great deal and be proud of your accomplishments. I'm sure your program has set rules when it comes to admitting something and asking for forgiveness. However, does it ask you to forgive yourself? I'm just pointing out the obvious. I'm one of your biggest fans that goes back pre-UA-cam channel, when people really didn't know very much about you.
I want to be honest with you. I don't believe you have a self-esteem issue. In this video you admitted to how much you love yourself. That contradicts those of us who have poor self-esteem. I think if you "think" you have low self-esteem, it helps you in some way?? If so, carry on.
P.S. God loves you because you are IMPERFECT. "God loves to use people who are imperfect to do impossible things"
P.S.S. I saw a phenomenal therapist on/off for at least 20 yrs of my life. She had an office in downtown Boston, and a home office in Medford. I happened to live in Medford when I needed her the most. Long story short, she helped me learn about myself and why I react in certain ways.
Love this brother. You’re an OG from SWU road to redemption it sounds like, and I appreciate that. Today my self-esteem is much better than it once was, I know Medford pretty well! Thanks for participating brother hope to see you on my live tomorrow.
@@jackunmasked Yes, I was 8 or 9 months younger when I watched/listened to the (amazing) SWU. You touched me so much then.