6 Ways to Stop Self Sabotaging Your Own Success

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  • Опубліковано 16 лип 2015
  • In the journey to success, we often talk ourselves out of what we are capable of doing! Learn more about this internal conflict and the irrational beliefs that you may be holding that are holding you back!
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  • @Lifeislive347
    @Lifeislive347 11 місяців тому +11

    1. Fear of failure (not just trying to change or do new things)
    2. Fear of success
    3. Not believe in yourself
    4. I don’t deserve success or this job or this woman/man or this car or something else that I what like to integrate into my life, maybe to taste it for a while.
    5. I want to fit in, I don’t want to be different as I truely am.
    6. perfection is fear of shame or be not enough
    7. Don‘t change your circumstances and friendships.

    • @empress9857
      @empress9857 6 місяців тому

      It’s number 1 for meh. 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @HealingED
    @HealingED 2 роки тому +11

    "Just because they're shooting at you, dosent mean they shot you"

  • @Neongreenravoe
    @Neongreenravoe 4 роки тому +73

    Perfectionism was something I’ve always struggled with and I’m finally breaking free from it. Thank you for this word Pastor TD Jakes

    • @tubailey2459
      @tubailey2459 3 роки тому +5

      Byron Hyde Same, Here. Everything he’s saying about perfectionism is the TRUTH

    • @specialh8646
      @specialh8646 3 роки тому +3

      Me too...but I decided to kill it before it kills me...enough is enough

    • @darnellhill1875
      @darnellhill1875 2 роки тому +1

      lol ok

    • @keiphasjoshua6210
      @keiphasjoshua6210 2 роки тому +1

      I wish we could talk...bcos this shit is killing me

    • @Adrienne.Michelle91
      @Adrienne.Michelle91 10 місяців тому

      Same. I didn't even know I was a perfectionist until somebody pointed it out to me

  • @kellyofficer2771
    @kellyofficer2771 4 роки тому +75

    I've spent my life sabotaging my career, my education, my standard of living. I know I do it and don't know why! I see a pattern but not until afterwards. I feel my potential is abundant but my self sabotage hides it. I have excuse after excuse to the point of hopelesness.

    • @clairekariuki8547
      @clairekariuki8547 3 роки тому +3

      I also give myself excuses a lot

    • @outroseok
      @outroseok 3 роки тому +1

      I'm in the same boat....

    • @nimatuibrahim7478
      @nimatuibrahim7478 3 роки тому +1

      You are not alone in this, Sister
      You just described me😭

    • @Jesusisking273
      @Jesusisking273 2 роки тому +1

      You are not alone I do the same thing but at least you recognize it. When you can see it you can change it @kelly officer

    • @mlfitness67
      @mlfitness67 2 роки тому

      Lord that sounds like me

  • @C-rol
    @C-rol 5 років тому +54

    My brain needed to hear this

  • @kehonan
    @kehonan 2 роки тому +4

    I don't go to church anymore but his words are beyond true and I needed to hear this, thank you for your wise words sir.

  • @rubym3915
    @rubym3915 3 роки тому +11

    I was asking Divine to send this message - perfectly timed and ingested. I give myself permission to succeed

  • @prepperspray5931
    @prepperspray5931 5 років тому +18

    My self-sabotaging comes in the form of substance abuse and promiscuity when I begin to reach my goals. It has taken me a lifetime to realize I don't feel deserving because of all the lousy, hurtful things I have done to other people, most of which are dead by now. It makes no sense but I can't seem to stop this thinking/behavior. It feels as if it has taken on a life of its own.

    • @NasciParaAdorar7
      @NasciParaAdorar7 4 роки тому +3

      I'm sorry! You should se e a psychologist to help you out of that cicle.

    • @jessicasaak735
      @jessicasaak735 Рік тому

      If you have asked God to forgive you, BELIEVE you are FORGIVEN. I pray that the feelings of regret and all the other negative thoughts have been lifted from you.

  • @denisef7414
    @denisef7414 6 років тому +35

    Thank you for uploading this gem! Thanks to this man for his true, amazing words!

    • @j.v.lauren635
      @j.v.lauren635 3 роки тому +1

      This is from starting at 18:40 min into T. D. Jakes sermon on leadership ua-cam.com/video/37e9yeGKrrg/v-deo.html

    • @itoilinks
      @itoilinks 3 роки тому

      Amen!

  • @analives13
    @analives13 6 років тому +33

    I'm going to be secretly gifted by staying home :) this is common...

  • @esotericebony6787
    @esotericebony6787 Рік тому +1

    Just came to the realization that I've been doing this to myself my whole life. Stops now!

  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 5 років тому +13

    "Chronic underachiever" so true.....

  • @elisalozano4862
    @elisalozano4862 6 місяців тому +1

    This person is encouraging me to believe in myself ❤

  • @fbisono66
    @fbisono66 5 років тому +8

    That is the key, “ what people think of you “

  • @GraceTruth29
    @GraceTruth29 3 роки тому +8

    Thank you Pastor for this message. How much the devil has stolen from me because I did not love and believe in myself and believe the truths of God about me. I always thought I was less than anyone, the very bottom. This ends now. I am a NEW CREATION and my LORD IS JESUS CHRIST. The old patterns only have power if I give them power. I am not a slave to any old thought patterns or substance. I am a slave only to Jesus and I am called to success, peace and love in Jesus. I will seek Your will and be successful in following it through. Blessings to everyone and much success in your lives in Jesus' name! The devil is a liar!

  • @YoutubeYusra
    @YoutubeYusra 4 роки тому +23

    It's 2020 and self-sabotage is still an important topic to address! I just dropped a youtube video on my own journey through self-sabotage and limiting beliefs.

    • @kalabafunga5878
      @kalabafunga5878 Рік тому

      Its now 2022🤚🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
      i needed this

  • @yomommasbehind5651
    @yomommasbehind5651 5 років тому +23

    It's true. I was always worried about trying to fit in but we live in a narcissistic society and we'll never fit in. Screw it! Better be myself. I've been alienated by my relatives first because I wasn't good enough for them and they trained me to self loathe. And we always surrender to peer pressure. This words made me change my perspective...

    • @rianavokshi
      @rianavokshi 4 роки тому +1

      Narcissistic Society it’s growing on same speed as technology but I have faith on Q

    • @kanethompson708
      @kanethompson708 3 роки тому +1

      Same here

  • @blacksugar7773
    @blacksugar7773 3 роки тому +3

    Beautiful Word. Thank you, I needed to hear this because without realization and action the cycle will continue. God bless everyone, and I hope you all find healing .

  • @MrsSuziInspirational
    @MrsSuziInspirational Місяць тому

    So true all words relate to me amen tomorrow will watch fully

  • @Colliibrii
    @Colliibrii 6 років тому +7

    THANK YOUUUU TD Jakes.
    OMG sorry for the capital letters but you've made may day greater. Blessings.

  • @jesus1stmylawislove
    @jesus1stmylawislove 3 місяці тому

    Wow . I now understand that perfectionism is the root of SELF - sabotage ! There's a human never able to be "perfect" so we perfectly make us unable ..to do anything "imperfect" at all . Called us all out. this was loud right ?! ©👑🕊️

    • @jesus1stmylawislove
      @jesus1stmylawislove 3 місяці тому

      ALSO: that's why i stopped sleeping . started 'sleeping' on gifts i thought not worthy enough to give , attention 24/7 to, since i'm not as perfect as i want me to be. i'm too discouraged to be completely awake/ aware to acknowlage what i already have as Human .in a way of i only work half - hearted for my work . Damaging anything that looks like a Way for putting my imperfect Self out .

  • @dewaynes9472
    @dewaynes9472 2 роки тому +1

    I just listening to this summer, and I just want to thank you so much for it... It gave me clarity and understanding of myself, that led me to a greater understanding of why my life has been so backward confusing. God bless to you

  • @ebonystrother6020
    @ebonystrother6020 Рік тому +1

    This is so good 2023

  • @mck5549
    @mck5549 2 роки тому +2

    The best part is : secretely talented - I am gonna sing at home!!!

  • @FrancescoGranieri
    @FrancescoGranieri 5 років тому +8

    What a fantastic speaker, and accurate message...

  • @sarahnduta5639
    @sarahnduta5639 2 роки тому +2

    This was my eye opening.

  • @latrecelockett4930
    @latrecelockett4930 2 місяці тому

    I believe saying affirmation to overcome limiting beliefs can help

  • @michellejacobs145
    @michellejacobs145 5 років тому +1

    I really needed to hear this today. Thank you x

  • @oneloveoneheart9075
    @oneloveoneheart9075 4 роки тому +1

    I needed this, thank you so much ♥️🙏🏾

  • @theelaveaux
    @theelaveaux 2 роки тому +1

    Whew how I needed this!

  • @fleurbarrett4826
    @fleurbarrett4826 11 місяців тому

    Thank you Thank you and bless you for your wise words ❤

  • @srishtishrivastava6810
    @srishtishrivastava6810 6 років тому +6

    Such amazing words..!! Truly admire the man 😀

  • @genamorris50
    @genamorris50 5 років тому +3

    Thank you, this is so encouraging

  • @shanecarmen8144
    @shanecarmen8144 2 роки тому +1

    I did not know how much I was psychologically messed up until I watched this

  • @pkkp37
    @pkkp37 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you for being a 'voice' to God's words. 🙏

  • @viktorijakipere6440
    @viktorijakipere6440 4 роки тому +1

    This video got me super inspired and insightful, thanks for your fabulous speach!

  • @jodeedoherty7398
    @jodeedoherty7398 4 роки тому

    Exactly spot on. Thank you

  • @MichaelsPaintingChannel
    @MichaelsPaintingChannel 10 місяців тому +1

    Undeserving.. Amazing 👍

  • @BridgesPhillip
    @BridgesPhillip 3 роки тому +3

    I needed to hear this today

  • @sonyabuford5358
    @sonyabuford5358 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks I needed to hear this

  • @yolandavenable2900
    @yolandavenable2900 2 роки тому

    Whoa!! All of this is awesome! That "we" will get you every time if you let it!

  • @anitacherney5826
    @anitacherney5826 2 роки тому

    This is so true and so appropriate.

  • @max_endourance
    @max_endourance 3 роки тому

    Hallelujah!

  • @shalishathomas2312
    @shalishathomas2312 6 років тому +1

    Amen very good advice💲

  • @lucykaumba943
    @lucykaumba943 2 роки тому +1

    My breakthrough right here 10 th may,2022

  • @popsolo810
    @popsolo810 2 роки тому

    This has really blessed me thank you

  • @munobaron2023
    @munobaron2023 9 місяців тому +2

    Is there a way to get the full tape? I believe the complete tape would have solutions to the behaviors he talked about

  • @emmareid-chalmers4827
    @emmareid-chalmers4827 4 роки тому

    Thank you 🙏

  • @itoilinks
    @itoilinks 3 роки тому

    WOOW, so GOOOD!!!

  • @RonDAvilar
    @RonDAvilar 2 місяці тому

    I love this!

  • @jamiceroberts801
    @jamiceroberts801 4 роки тому

    Excellent message

  • @BADALICE
    @BADALICE 2 роки тому

    Thank you.

  • @ericakristene
    @ericakristene 5 років тому

    Great video!!!

  • @fareszxc
    @fareszxc 2 роки тому

    God Bless You

  • @aariyahsymone4162
    @aariyahsymone4162 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this word I wish I got here sooner

  • @krr74
    @krr74 3 роки тому

    Wow. I feel this

  • @outroseok
    @outroseok 3 роки тому +5

    I wish I watched this earlier... seems a bit late now, might have just sabotaged another job. :(

    • @outroseok
      @outroseok 2 роки тому +1

      @@himynameisandri thank you!! it's been 7 months since this and now I'm at a job I genuinely enjoy and it's walking distance from my house so that's a plus. feeling blessed!!

  • @acpgiga
    @acpgiga 3 роки тому

    Progress! Thank you...

  • @BarbiKvisz
    @BarbiKvisz 3 роки тому

    I love this 🙌🙌🙌

  • @laco24
    @laco24 6 років тому +1

    Wow, this is good.

  • @WiseCheese587
    @WiseCheese587 4 роки тому

    Many lessons here.

  • @changethetimes
    @changethetimes Рік тому +1

    I own a business, it could turn over so so much.. If it wasn't for me.. And it's hard.

  • @pepelopez9301
    @pepelopez9301 Рік тому +2

    But, what if i feel fear of success and fear of fail in the same time? Hmmm

  • @brinas.c.1112
    @brinas.c.1112 2 роки тому

    Hallelujah

  • @temaletilangi3181
    @temaletilangi3181 3 роки тому

    hallelujah

  • @emmaloumaketheworldbetter2482
    @emmaloumaketheworldbetter2482 5 років тому +1

    Amen 🙏

  • @nimatuibrahim7478
    @nimatuibrahim7478 3 роки тому +2

    Please, where can I get the full teaching? This has hit some nerves, I want to listen to all of it.

  • @hlb0111
    @hlb0111 6 років тому +15

    Which sermon is this from? I'd like to buy the whole series.

    • @j.v.lauren635
      @j.v.lauren635 3 роки тому +3

      This is from starting at 18:40 min into T. D. Jakes sermon on leadership ua-cam.com/video/37e9yeGKrrg/v-deo.html

  • @tubailey2459
    @tubailey2459 3 роки тому

    OUCH & THANK YOU

  • @princeosceola9637
    @princeosceola9637 2 роки тому

    Amen

  • @larrycalloway1724
    @larrycalloway1724 3 роки тому

    This message cuts deep

  • @XRWQk94
    @XRWQk94 4 роки тому +3

    I’ve been stuck 20 years cleaning out the trunk. 😪

    • @rubym3915
      @rubym3915 3 роки тому

      One day can change it all- I promise you but I know what stickiness feels like. Dig deep to find why you want to find momentum again - sending love

  • @davidmlang1
    @davidmlang1 3 роки тому

    Wow!!! This is so amazing!!! Thank you

  • @estherpeter4604
    @estherpeter4604 9 місяців тому +1

    Hey! Pls can i get the complete video?

  • @AKY2011
    @AKY2011 2 роки тому

    🙌🏾

  • @MrsSuziInspirational
    @MrsSuziInspirational Місяць тому

  • @nicestuff8755
    @nicestuff8755 Рік тому

    That’s so real

  • @mslikenootha
    @mslikenootha 4 роки тому

    💯

  • @fletchdavidson6079
    @fletchdavidson6079 2 роки тому

    Lord, have mercy.

  • @JohnRumfield1976
    @JohnRumfield1976 3 роки тому

    Oh yes hit the mark

  • @akambasisamercy6158
    @akambasisamercy6158 Рік тому

    Wow

  • @empress9857
    @empress9857 6 місяців тому

    It’s meh starting and not feeling like I can withstand the pressure maintain the challenge or path I decide to take?? That’s what I don’t like feeling the uncomfortableness of that school that’s an example school is one the main one 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @gracedee2607
    @gracedee2607 2 роки тому

    Hellow, kindly share the link for the whole summon. Thank you in advance

  • @Emperor.Penguin.
    @Emperor.Penguin. 2 роки тому

    Good old Bishop TD Jakes.💜

  • @adrewbateman1760
    @adrewbateman1760 2 роки тому

    Ty for this ..may I ask this mans name ?

  • @gpsglobal3024
    @gpsglobal3024 6 років тому

    Oh Lord God

  • @louisruffin6808
    @louisruffin6808 Рік тому

    Today love, tomorrow hate, the next day I don't know, all times I look for love, but only find the foes. I have no place to turn, to find Tru hearts of love, I reach out to be hugged, they only push and shove.

  • @mirahmohamad5596
    @mirahmohamad5596 3 роки тому +2

    Sorry, but i dont really find any ways mentioned to stop self sabotage.. The man, however, did great job on addressing types of self sabotaging.

    • @BarbiKvisz
      @BarbiKvisz 3 роки тому +1

      He mentioned all the mental attitude and thinking that we may be thinking that holds us back and leads us to self sabotage

  • @heartstrings110
    @heartstrings110 Рік тому +1

    What sermon was this from?

  • @loren8917
    @loren8917 4 роки тому +1

    What's the name of the sermon?

  • @rianavokshi
    @rianavokshi 4 роки тому +1

    SPECHLESS ...

  • @carolsz123
    @carolsz123 2 роки тому

    Where is the full video pls

  • @azaniajuicethwala5324
    @azaniajuicethwala5324 4 роки тому

    This mirror

  • @ddmanning20
    @ddmanning20 2 роки тому

    Where is the rest of the sermon?

  • @acharyavivek51
    @acharyavivek51 3 роки тому +3

    I don't want to study and become a scientist or else my father will suck all my money.

  • @DigitalCasm
    @DigitalCasm 3 роки тому

    YEOUCH.

  • @kf7498
    @kf7498 5 років тому +5

    What is the name of the man ? I ought to keep listening him;)

  • @melindanicole1
    @melindanicole1 5 років тому

    2019

  • @user-se8ov2km6d
    @user-se8ov2km6d 7 років тому +2

    who is this man????

    • @j.v.lauren635
      @j.v.lauren635 3 роки тому

      from starting at 18:40 min into T. D. Jakes sermon on leadership ua-cam.com/video/37e9yeGKrrg/v-deo.html

  • @geovannagoico4303
    @geovannagoico4303 9 місяців тому +1

    What’s this pastor name