REAL TALK: How To Support A Spouse Suffering From Mental Illness

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  • Опубліковано 16 лис 2024

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  • @ThePossibilityMom
    @ThePossibilityMom  5 років тому +3

    My husband and I did another conversation like this one 2 years later. Find that one here: ua-cam.com/video/iYnnfbNNEL0/v-deo.html

  • @rubym3915
    @rubym3915 Місяць тому

    Your channel has been extremely helpful. I see so much of my husband and my own experience in what you both are saying. Thank you for sharing your stories of growth and thriving in marriage

  • @relaxation321
    @relaxation321 6 років тому +12

    You're a good wife and you seem like an amazing couple. Thank you so much for sharing your story and helpful tips - definitely going to be utilizing these.. God bless

  • @amandaboges1552
    @amandaboges1552 7 років тому +10

    What a beautiful couple doing such important work.....really well done

  • @solperas3972
    @solperas3972 4 роки тому +3

    such a wonderful testimony. You're such a wonderful wife. I admire you for it.I can relate on how i struggle dealing with my learners w/ disability. It is not easy but yeah you have to have extra patience. and prayer everyday is a great help for you not to be consumed.

  • @tracynguyen2012
    @tracynguyen2012 6 років тому +2

    Thank you Josh & Lisa for sharing this journey through mental illness. I can see so much love that you guys have each other, and I think that love is the one that carries you through this challenging issue.

  • @AthenaSyarifa
    @AthenaSyarifa 3 роки тому +1

    I really appreciate how you guys can talk about this on a platform like youtube, and that only shows how much you guys have gone through together and became stronger together. Me and my boyfriend is still working on things, and I imagined that I would cry a lot talking about the struggles to someone. It's also not easy to talk to friends or families about this, because you know how people might not be able to relate. Thanks a lot for making these videos :)

  • @skionen1781
    @skionen1781 5 років тому +12

    You guy are awesome thanks for sharing I needed this my partner is going through a lot of anxiety and depression. I’m just trying to find some help n insight. My wife is getting therapy. n I’m just looking ways to stay at grounded cause It’s tough and lonely

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  5 років тому +3

      skione n I know. Stay strong and remember why you love her ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @meganphillips7150
    @meganphillips7150 5 років тому +11

    This is so hard for me. My husband suffers from depression and anxiety and goes through these cycles very often. It’s difficult being strong for someone else when I struggle with my physical health. I will consider these tips, but in the end my husband has to put some action into helping himself. I am exhausted.

    • @joshcanning
      @joshcanning 5 років тому +1

      Sorry to hear of your suffering, Megan. You are right that he should put some action into helping himself. I don't know if he would be open to watching this recent conversation Lisa and I had together but it might help open up some topics. ua-cam.com/video/iYnnfbNNEL0/v-deo.html

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  5 років тому +1

      Megan Phillips i hear you are exhausted. What can you do today to get yourself some relief?

  • @nouranasaad6457
    @nouranasaad6457 6 років тому +5

    You both look so kind .. god bless u both 😍

  • @amberworthington87
    @amberworthington87 4 роки тому +4

    I wish my husband would support me and try to learn what I go through. He just tells me to get over it and don't even want to learn about it. It really hurts he doesn't even seem to care about what I go through.

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  4 роки тому +3

      amber Worthington I will tell you as someone who also used to say / think “get over it” to my spouse, mental illness is so complex and so many people (myself included until more recently) do not understand it. It is my hope and prayer that these videos help others understand that mental health is health ❤️❤️❤️

  • @DianneWood2012
    @DianneWood2012 7 років тому +3

    This is fantastic! Thanks so much.

  • @melanoonie2004
    @melanoonie2004 8 місяців тому +1

    Heard you on Hallow. Thank you for sharing your story. I have bipolar depression and also have a large family. Overcoming shame and stigma is so necessary isn’t it?

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  7 місяців тому

      Amen!! Glad you found us on Hallow. We are starting a new channel on this topic by the way at UA-cam.com/@perseveretogether

  • @queenaxie4298
    @queenaxie4298 4 роки тому +2

    My husband off his meds by himself. So far he moved all my stuff in the garage and let me sleep there. He even thinks suicide. He wants to divorce, we got marriage only one and half month. I love him. What should I do and how can I help him? Please give me some advice please. Thanks

  • @Chicken-ev1ln
    @Chicken-ev1ln 5 років тому +2

    Hi i noticed the signs ever since October and then my boyfriend had an episode and didn’t want to talk to anyone. After that he was fine but recently he got triggered by something and told me he wanted to be alone. I’m giving him the space hat he wanted but from time to time sending him messages reminding him to take it his time and that I’ll be here

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  5 років тому

      That sounds like a great strategy. Honestly, people with mental illness (and all of us when we struggle I think) need to be reminded of who we are. So keep being strong!

    • @pigjubby1
      @pigjubby1 4 роки тому +1

      Boyfriend and not a husband? You need to find another person to marry. This will be a huge mistake. It sounds mean, but don't live a life of regret.

  • @conniendoro7645
    @conniendoro7645 3 роки тому +1

    @Lisa Canning I really love the advice you're giving here. It's been helpful. But I have a question-- how can you help them see past their own view of themselves without making them feel trapped? I've had a case where I've tried to help my partner see a different perspective and he shut me down saying that I'm cornering him and trying to reason him out of it. So, how do I help him? It's been a really challenging time for me. 🥺

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  3 роки тому +1

      I hear you. My very best advice is to get your own counselling as it will give you the tools to communicate well. Don't give up hope!!!!

    • @conniendoro7645
      @conniendoro7645 3 роки тому

      @@ThePossibilityMom thank you!

  • @denise_abe
    @denise_abe 3 роки тому +3

    What if they aren’t motivated to get out or have fun to take their mind off the negative thoughts and feelings? Or if they do agree to get out it takes them all day to get ready because of the depression and anxiety, which sometimes affects our plans. It’s very challenging and upsetting.

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  3 роки тому +1

      I know this tension well. I've learned to pick my moments with pushing for plans or social situations, and be flexible with plans.

    • @denise_abe
      @denise_abe 3 роки тому

      @@ThePossibilityMom yes, I’ve learned that early on but it’s still hard. I think it hurts the most when it comes to family events and celebrations. I know he wants to be there but he can’t get himself to go. 🥺

  • @kimandrich3196
    @kimandrich3196 3 роки тому

    Or you could just move to Florida rather than vacationing there every year, Lisa! Great tips! :)

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  3 роки тому

      Funny you should say that... ua-cam.com/video/nPT7JJTM1f0/v-deo.html

    • @kimandrich3196
      @kimandrich3196 3 роки тому +1

      @@ThePossibilityMom Yay! Thanks for linking the story!

  • @carolebrey341
    @carolebrey341 Рік тому

    Thanks
    Very helpful

  • @Mylingn
    @Mylingn 4 роки тому

    What do you do if your spouse experiences depression for the first time and Ive been mentally ill my whole life? Im bipolar and stable atm and I have the energy to support him but Im scared to death that I will crash and not be able to support him the way that hes supported me through the years

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  4 роки тому

      I wish I knew how to speak to that from experience, but I can't. That must be really difficult and scary. My husband, reading this comment, points out that you have endured a lot in dealing with bipolar your whole life, and he has been strong for you. Now it is the other way, but even if you both are struggling at the same time, you have a track record of getting through things. Be as gentle with yourselves and each other as you can. And if you have a faith to rely on, that has been important for us. God gives us grace to endure hard things. If you can, call on him for strength.

    • @Mylingn
      @Mylingn 4 роки тому

      @@ThePossibilityMom Thank you so much for your answer. Ive been watching alot of your videos today and theyve helped me alot. Bless both of you and your family, God is love 🙏

    • @ThePossibilityMom
      @ThePossibilityMom  4 роки тому +1

      @@Mylingn AMEN!! And so glad to hear that they've helped. My husband and I will be praying for you guys for strength to weather this storm. Also I will mention that we often call to mind Roman 8:28 in tough times. God works all things to the good for those who love him. We truly believe that.

  • @andrewgardner1535
    @andrewgardner1535 5 років тому +2

    Thank you

  • @beautifulinsideout5971
    @beautifulinsideout5971 5 років тому

    Hello Lisa i just found your channel and iam subscribe. my boyfriend has anxiety disorder and panic attack. we are been together for almost 2 years but seem like it's very struggling for me very hurt. i really cares of him i want to fix it together but i nearly give up ! could you please send me your email or contact if i can talk to you more about my conditioan right now? iam a bit depress...

    • @lindajohnson9084
      @lindajohnson9084 4 роки тому +1

      You cannot change him. What you can do, I this is what Im learning, you have to turn the other cheek....over and over and over. When there is an episode here, its the same thing over and over and over. Same failures, same mental thoughts, same down self talking...Its sad

    • @beautifulinsideout5971
      @beautifulinsideout5971 4 роки тому +1

      Linda Johnson you right Linda.... what is happen right now sad we are break up. i don't think he want me to help him. it seem he push me away then other day he come to me by saying i'm not even care never asked how him look like. i'm so exhausted to be honest was keep asking but he wouldn't want to even answer then the other day blaming me. before i'm still wanting to know what i should do but right now i'm just let it go. i need to care myself too 😭😭😭😭

    • @mikeymiller818
      @mikeymiller818 4 роки тому +1

      @@beautifulinsideout5971 Hey there. I hope you’re doing okay. I understand that words hurt and how exhausted you must have felt. He is ill and it’s not personal, he cannot control it and I’m sure he struggles with himself being that way to someone he loves. He can’t help it. It’s very difficult, but clear communication and understanding as a couple to talk about your authentic feelings is how this relationship will work. There really is so much hope when things are the hardest and you can’t see the light. Well wishes 🙂

    • @beautifulinsideout5971
      @beautifulinsideout5971 4 роки тому

      @@mikeymiller818 Thank you very much anyway, but it's several months i'm being single now. he asked me to go and i think it's better way for us to be happy. his sister said sorry to me and said i wouldn't be able to handle him and said i deserve better. i'm move on already. cheers 🥂😊❤️