If you want to learn the secrets to attracting the man you want and inspiring his love, devotion and commitment, get my FREE "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and audio training here: helenahartcoaching.com/ This is a clip from an interview that was part of Madeline Charles' Irresistible Woman Series. You can sign up to receive the entire series for FREE here (you'll get my brand-new interview, along with over 20 other trainings and free gifts from top experts!): madelinecharlescoaching.com/helenahart
Too bad it doesn't work the other way around. Dude A: If she belongs to you, she will come to you Dude B: ...NOT! **lmao** Dude A: **lmao** Dude B: Sad pp Dude A: Sad pp Reddit+9gag: *F*
i like to think of it as the man is the icing on the cake of your life. by focusing so much on him and putting energy to him in the mental sense, a lady can fault to analyzing it in her mind. step back, relax and sit is a mantra to follow.
In other words, don’t give up your own life for a man. Don’t take what he does personally unless he’s personally attacking you and pushing you away or talking about being with other women around you then you don’t want to be with someone like that. I really like this video. Men have needs too just like we do. But also be smart. Don’t let anyone play us either. Be the person you want to be with.
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I did not expect you to graze over attachment theory, but I've been working on my inner child traumas to try and get past seeking emotionally unavailable men. You all hit the nail on the head when you mentioned safe, healthy men being boring! I've struggled for so long in finding "normal" boring. But it gave me a different perspective when y'all said to give them a chance. I will consider this moving forward because I am so tired of repeating the same turbulent cycle. Thank you!
You’re welcome, Whitney! These videos should also be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/chFbnKP3blo/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/Smr_BATJ830/v-deo.html.
You’re welcome! These videos should be really helpful if you tend to have relationship anxiety: ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html.
@@nakitagriffith8911 Me too. I just recently acknowledged this. I am at peace when I am not strongly attracted to a man. When I do meet someone I am attracted to, all internal hell breaks loose.
I’d love to hear how this goes for you! I’d try it with the intention that you’re going to see if how a man feels for YOU starts to turn you on (not the other way around). 💗
Just found your channel. I have struggled with fantasies all my life with guys that haven't really made any effort. They're just nice to look at and if they're nice to me whatsoever all hell breaks loose in my fantasy world. My therapist and I have really worked on mindfulness and it's been a game changer. You touched on so many great topics, especially the difference between instant chemistry and real chemistry.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know SO many women can relate. My latest video should also be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you Helena! You also mention the difference between instant chemistry and real chemistry. My whole life I thought just because you had those intense feelings for someone meant that you loved them. This stems back from a teacher I had when I was a teenager at an all-girl school. Nothing happened but I became infatuated with him and that was what love felt like to me: fantasizing, putting him on a pedestal, intense highs, seeing him as a prize etc. This is why whenever an attractive guy shows me attention those subconscious feelings of "love" and "anxious attachment" that pull me in to safety and familiarity come back creeping in. Despite barely knowing these guys. I think it's possible to overcome this but awareness is key. Thank you so much for your videos, I can't wait to share them with my therapist. I've taken so many notes from your videos, they're so good.
@@addicted183 You’re very welcome! I know exactly how that feels, and the good news is it’s totally possible to turn this around (I did it myself and I see the amazing women in my community doing it every day!). These videos should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/sg9WzyYlA64/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/m7GZ5sCVonE/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/A6kNlz-o3UI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/eUXIXVqOt-E/v-deo.html.
Or hes stringing you along, sad to say I've come to this conclusion. I'm just walking away, letting it fizzle , no longer contacting him. If he wants me he knows where I am but up to now, this past couple of weeks is no longer stepping up. I'm not mad, I'm sad but i know I'll be ok
@@HelenaHartCoaching thankyou, I have watched it and its helped. I made a pact with myself last night that I'm walking away. I'm more important and until he realises that I'm never going to have a mutual relationship with him
That just happened to me, 1 1/2 years, and he pulls away. He just sent me a text 'sorry I was leading you on'. I am devastated and heartbroken! But there were other men who all along made it clear they wanted me, but this one was the love of my life...yet took me for granted!
@@lisawentworth6831 so sorry for this. Yes he led me on too. Wanted lots of women and 3somes. I didnt. We havent spoken in 6 weeks and I'm good. I just regret letting people go who wud av treat me right, waiting for him
I can completely relate to this. Started off as friends, no attraction at first until we met in person. Now I am in a committed relationship. He is very caring, loving and sweet. Not like anyone I have dated in the past x
Ladies God sent me this video, answered my questions . I love the positivity. I met a great guy. 3 dates his been the most gentle and respectful guy but he is so busy and it makes a little crazy I’m tempted to put up my walls but I can’t cuz he has shown me respect and treated me like a Queen. I don’t want to be a drama Queen. Lol ❤
I'm currently having feelings for a man and this video really hit the spot all I want is to make the best choices that will keep the spark alive. Thank you so much Helena
Gosh. I’m so bad at mentally obsessing on men. I’ve been single for almost a year and I started obsessively thinking of my ex and my other ex! Lol It’s hard to get out of that funk.
Thanks for sharing your experience here Steph, I know many women can relate! These videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/gjXYdM90bSU/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/XwXmKCDdMu0/v-deo.html.
I’ve been with my partner for over 20 years. Both of us still deal with anxiety in our relationship. I was hoping by now we would have moved on from these feelings.
@@HelenaHartCoaching yes ,spot on what i need to heal and learn. Thank u so much, this video was very helpfull, i feel enlighten and awoken to a New way of seeing why and how❤🙏🤗😘
@@HelenaHartCoaching im very glad i found u😉🤗 the way u word things and explain them, perfection.totally my language , so i just totally get it both within me, and in my head this new way. 💃❤🌹feel on a New path and gonna nail this🤗😍I'll keep watching and learning 😘
You’re very welcome, Nathalia! Here are a couple other videos I recorded with Madeline if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/SDgCypaoGZE/v-deo.html.
@@bhagyashrigundecha3866 Staying present absolutely helps! As a small, simple example, I wear many hats and perform various tasks throughout the day. When I am doing so much as cleaning the toilet, in that moment, I am the toilet-cleaning queen...I put everything I have into that job. And the results? Pure, sparkling and fresh-scented! Why? Because in that moment the only important thing to me is the cleanliness and sanity of that bowl. I carry that approach into everything I do, giving me very little time to drift off and direct energy into the man I am interested in. That excess energy belongs elsewhere. Hope that helps.
Great advice. I completely fell for a person based on what they displayed online...had nothing to do with his looks. I loved what he does..we met..felt like a dream...but following this...things to a awkward shift
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I’ve been chasing the same man for 15 years .. I’m scared if I stop, there will be nothing left. That he’ll leave etc. I suck at playing hard to get . I don’t want to lose him
It’s never about playing hard to get (or “pretending“ anything!) - it’s about not chasing after a man who’s not pursuing you and putting the same amount of effort into the relationship. These videos should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/fMRyfkr2NA4/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
This chemistry that is developing after a time is very common thing if you take your time to really know someone. It was so common to happen and school, uni, work place (when after a while you saw in your colleague someone more than just co worker etc.) just online dating make it impossible and destroy somehow this natural connection between people.
Thanks for sharing, Joanna! My husband and I met online and this kind of deep chemistry developed over time with us too, so it’s definitely possible! 💞
My now ex-husband was one of those guys I wasn’t attracted to initially. We started off as friends but over time as we learned more about each other and how much we have in common, then the attraction grew. In fact, basically all of my past relationships were with men who I didn’t feel any instant attraction to but they grew on me over time. Am I just really that broken where I can’t be successful in any romantic relationship?
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I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, thanks for the suggestion! In the meantime, this one should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/v-deo.html
My ex left me a month ago. Because I was too dependant on him and he couldn't handle it. Which I understand. He says he doesn't want me to keep thinking we'll be together eventually and just focus on myself. My heart's been ripped out but it's also understandable. My question is... If it appears that these emotions are 'normal' to lots of women, how do you naturally turn them off? Instead of feeling upset, observing it and not acting on it? England has gone into lockdown, I feel worse than ever because I now can't reach out to friends/do things I enjoy :(
Sorry to hear you just went through this. I’d actually encourage you to honor and embrace all of your feelings. When we stuff these emotions down, that’s typically when they pop up and sabotage us by causing us to act OUT of them. Hope that helps clarify it! ❤️
Omg this is me all over. Thanks for this. I pushed someone close to me away. He asked for some space and I effed up. Not too bad. But I think he wants even more space. We are transitioning from lovers to friends. It's been so tough. He has been very very supportive and we do value, care and love each other. I need to back off let him move on through his own pain. He had been there for me so long that I've been unconsciously unaware of the damage I kept doing. 😔 it's a long story. But all the same he means everything to me and I'm going to do my inner work. Let go. But still have hope and faith we can come back to our great rare connection. We just can't be lovers.
I have just come through this. It is extremely difficult to change from lovers to just friends. Because you have a very deep connection it will never be a "normal" friendship. Good luck, I thought I could do it but it ended up hurting too much. Have not seen him for 6 weeks now. I miss him like anything as we are so good together.
@@janinetozer3123 the thing is I haven't seen him in person for like 7 months only because if COVID. Which made it harder to transition. However we have constant phone calls and talking logical steps to move on. But I wasn't doing as well as I should of been. I was putting too much emotional strain on our connection. Unconsciously of course. I pretty much used up all his patience and him wanting to move on(it was hard for him too) but I unconsciously abused his ears with my negivative emotions which I layed on him over and over 😔
OMW .. just what i needed but it's so funny and peculiar because i know this already but do it anyway knowing this doesn't work, why why whyyy do keep doing this..tracking a connection is like taking a wrecking ball to a potential relativionship.. it's like i can't help myself 😤😤
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many women can relate! These videos should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html
OMG I think I did mess my relationship with this person by making assumptions and feeling anxious about this connection.I was so in love with him.He just pulled away within a week.I miss him but I messed up
I wouldn’t beat yourself up over this! This video should be helpful for future reference (or even just to feel better now): ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html
You’re welcome! 💜 These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/-SE8Bp2nOFI/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/gjXYdM90bSU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/XwXmKCDdMu0/v-deo.html.
I met a guy. We had great conversations and facetime. And he would call, text and facetime. We only talked for a week. He planned a date for us. I had to cancel due to work. I communicated with him and suggested another day when I was off. He replied "ok" but.. it's been 4 days and haven't heard from him since then. I haven't reached out either. Thoughts?
@@love7loyalty-MHA yeah. It’s not a game. Men can be insecure and second guess themselves too. If you feel a connection and think he’s a good person that you’d like to see, there no harm in messaging him. He doesn’t need to do ALL the work. He will on the date (get to know you further, pay etc). Being canceled on sucks even if it’s work related and genuine.
Thanks for the great suggestion! If you can give me a few more details that would be helpful - do you mean when you feel attached to the wrong kind of men, or situations where the relationship doesn’t work out (or something else entirely)?
@@HelenaHartCoaching for example : if the person is married and they claim that they love you but keep coming and going.. becomes unavailable and mostly emotionally unavailable..once doesn't know what is the future of relationship.. the person doens't seem to be toxic but more of a victim and one tend to stick by with no commitment
In that case, I’d recommend watching these videos and moving on ASAP (let me know if the videos resonate with you, I have others I can recommend as well): ua-cam.com/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/v-deo.html
How long should you talk to your inner child in order for you to heal. One week, one month? I don't want to attend therapy, therapy just make me worse, I retrauma myself by talking about these things all over again
I’m told all the time I’m very handsome. My nickname is scary handsome. I’m funny I’m friendly I’m outgoing. I’m not boring. Girls give me all the signs and they have boyfriends. I’m there for practice for when they go home to their boyfriends. I can’t get a date. Maybe I’m too picky.
Yes, I’d observe what a man is actually doing (for example, is his energy coming towards you consistently and is he progressing the relationship?) - that will help you determine this.
Three months ago he ended the relationship. He was a very honest and open guy. Last time we called he said that he is not looking for a relationship and that we shouldn't be in contact for a while. Its been two months now and he hasnt shown any signs of any sort. I think I'm in a good place emotionally and in my single life but I keep on wondering if I should reach out and see if there is still a chance. But I keep on thinking that he was the one that put the distance, would it be stupid of me to reach out, especially since I have not heard anything?
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I am 67 he is 38. He chased me for 9 months but he had a woman so I said no then she died. Have been with him since January but I am still a secret bc of her death.what do you think we have a great time
Hi Janine, I talk a little bit about that towards the end of this video (there are some good ideas in the comments section of it too): ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html
Totally understand the feminine energy but geez.. So we just keep ourselves busy . So what would be a normal time span to just see when he responds again?
Hi Nancy, even the way you phrased this question it’s obvious that your energy is very focused on him - I wouldn’t even look at it that way. Instead, once you respond, I’d practice basically forgetting about it until he shows up again (and of course, keeping your energy open to men who’s energy IS coming towards you consistently). Hope that helps! 💕
It basically means analyzing a man’s every move, hyper-focusing on him, trying to “get” him to like you more, obsessing or thinking about him constantly (even when he’s not right in front of you). Hope that clarifies it! 💕
It sounds like it would be difficult to have a long-term relationship with someone like that, but you have to get in touch with what feels good to YOU. 💜
Helena - what if you keep randomly seeing the same guy you went out on dates with but haven't went out on a date with him in almost a year? Sometimes we speak, sometimes not. I see him away from where him and I both live. FATE?
I agree. I am experiencing that now, my feelings are so screwed up for this guy. And he is so cold and unavailable. I've really put myself through the wringer with this one. Can''t believe I let it happen again. I feel so stupid. So glad I've found these videos to learn from and to find out I am not the only one who goes through this. Makes the pain much easier to bear. I thought I was the only one.
No yet I have been seen him for maybe 2 months at the beginning he will text like at the end of the day and same with me I work a lot and sometimes when I am tired I text the next day
Her name is Madeline Charles - her information in the description of this video, including a free series she’s hosting that I’m going to be a part of! Here are a couple more videos I’ve recorded with her: ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/SDgCypaoGZE/v-deo.html.
If you want to learn the secrets to attracting the man you want and inspiring his love, devotion and commitment, get my FREE "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and audio training here: helenahartcoaching.com/
This is a clip from an interview that was part of Madeline Charles' Irresistible Woman Series. You can sign up to receive the entire series for FREE here (you'll get my brand-new interview, along with over 20 other trainings and free gifts from top experts!): madelinecharlescoaching.com/helenahart
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Thanks for sharing your insights here! 🧡
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Too bad it doesn't work the other way around.
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i like to think of it as the man is the icing on the cake of your life. by focusing so much on him and putting energy to him in the mental sense, a lady can fault to analyzing it in her mind. step back, relax and sit is a mantra to follow.
I like what you said here Diane, thanks for sharing your insights! 💖
@@HelenaHartCoaching madam i am in great delimma. Thanks for your videos. I have been watching it since last year.
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In other words, don’t give up your own life for a man. Don’t take what he does personally unless he’s personally attacking you and pushing you away or talking about being with other women around you then you don’t want to be with someone like that. I really like this video. Men have needs too just like we do. But also be smart. Don’t let anyone play us either. Be the person you want to be with.
Thanks for sharing your insights and takeaways here! These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/ndlJEVTOm4c/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/-kFTMribmm4/v-deo.html.
I did not expect you to graze over attachment theory, but I've been working on my inner child traumas to try and get past seeking emotionally unavailable men. You all hit the nail on the head when you mentioned safe, healthy men being boring! I've struggled for so long in finding "normal" boring. But it gave me a different perspective when y'all said to give them a chance. I will consider this moving forward because I am so tired of repeating the same turbulent cycle. Thank you!
You’re welcome, Whitney! These videos should also be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/chFbnKP3blo/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/Smr_BATJ830/v-deo.html.
I AM more anxious when I'm in a relationship! Thank you for touching up on that.
Me too!! It makes it feel hard
You’re welcome! These videos should be really helpful if you tend to have relationship anxiety: ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html.
That's me. I'm so happy when I don't have a love interest. I'm ALL nerves when I'm in love
@@nakitagriffith8911 Me too. I just recently acknowledged this. I am at peace when I am not strongly attracted to a man. When I do meet someone I am attracted to, all internal hell breaks loose.
feminine energy is really powerful
I want to practice it on a guy who's not my type so I can enjoy it
I’d love to hear how this goes for you! I’d try it with the intention that you’re going to see if how a man feels for YOU starts to turn you on (not the other way around). 💗
Just found your channel. I have struggled with fantasies all my life with guys that haven't really made any effort. They're just nice to look at and if they're nice to me whatsoever all hell breaks loose in my fantasy world. My therapist and I have really worked on mindfulness and it's been a game changer. You touched on so many great topics, especially the difference between instant chemistry and real chemistry.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know SO many women can relate. My latest video should also be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you Helena! You also mention the difference between instant chemistry and real chemistry. My whole life I thought just because you had those intense feelings for someone meant that you loved them. This stems back from a teacher I had when I was a teenager at an all-girl school. Nothing happened but I became infatuated with him and that was what love felt like to me: fantasizing, putting him on a pedestal, intense highs, seeing him as a prize etc. This is why whenever an attractive guy shows me attention those subconscious feelings of "love" and "anxious attachment" that pull me in to safety and familiarity come back creeping in. Despite barely knowing these guys. I think it's possible to overcome this but awareness is key. Thank you so much for your videos, I can't wait to share them with my therapist. I've taken so many notes from your videos, they're so good.
@@addicted183 You’re very welcome! I know exactly how that feels, and the good news is it’s totally possible to turn this around (I did it myself and I see the amazing women in my community doing it every day!). These videos should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/sg9WzyYlA64/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/m7GZ5sCVonE/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/A6kNlz-o3UI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/eUXIXVqOt-E/v-deo.html.
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you Helena, I've been binge watching your videos for the last two days! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Or hes stringing you along, sad to say I've come to this conclusion. I'm just walking away, letting it fizzle , no longer contacting him. If he wants me he knows where I am but up to now, this past couple of weeks is no longer stepping up. I'm not mad, I'm sad but i know I'll be ok
This video might be helpful for you in terms of letting go and moving on: ua-cam.com/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching thankyou, I have watched it and its helped. I made a pact with myself last night that I'm walking away. I'm more important and until he realises that I'm never going to have a mutual relationship with him
You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear that! ❤️
That just happened to me, 1 1/2 years, and he pulls away. He just sent me a text 'sorry I was leading you on'. I am devastated and heartbroken! But there were other men who all along made it clear they wanted me, but this one was the love of my life...yet took me for granted!
@@lisawentworth6831 so sorry for this. Yes he led me on too. Wanted lots of women and 3somes. I didnt. We havent spoken in 6 weeks and I'm good. I just regret letting people go who wud av treat me right, waiting for him
I can completely relate to this. Started off as friends, no attraction at first until we met in person. Now I am in a committed relationship. He is very caring, loving and sweet. Not like anyone I have dated in the past x
I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for sharing your experience here! ❤️
Ladies God sent me this video, answered my questions . I love the positivity. I met a great guy. 3 dates his been the most gentle and respectful guy but he is so busy and it makes a little crazy I’m tempted to put up my walls but I can’t cuz he has shown me respect and treated me like a Queen. I don’t want to be a drama Queen. Lol ❤
Thanks for sharing your experience here! This video might also be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/-SE8Bp2nOFI/v-deo.html
I'm currently having feelings for a man and this video really hit the spot all I want is to make the best choices that will keep the spark alive. Thank you so much Helena
You’re welcome, Arianna! This video should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html
Gosh. I’m so bad at mentally obsessing on men. I’ve been single for almost a year and I started obsessively thinking of my ex and my other ex! Lol
It’s hard to get out of that funk.
Thanks for sharing your experience here Steph, I know many women can relate! These videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/gjXYdM90bSU/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/XwXmKCDdMu0/v-deo.html.
I've had a guy friend for 8 years. Just friends. We're feeling a little chemistry,lately. Wish me luck. Haha
Good luck, I’d love to hear how everything goes! 💕
@@HelenaHartCoaching will do
Good luck my love xx I know how you feel
I thought my three years was long. 8! Sending you vibes:)
Keep him as a friend.
I’ve been with my partner for over 20 years. Both of us still deal with anxiety in our relationship. I was hoping by now we would have moved on from these feelings.
Hi Vanessa, these videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/gjXYdM90bSU/v-deo.html.
That soulmate atraction because of old patterns hit me right at home. Thank u, i just had an aha moment, and needed to see that 🥳😍💓
You’re welcome, I’m glad that resonated with you! My latest livestream might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/22psSdgBj4g/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching yes ,spot on what i need to heal and learn. Thank u so much, this video was very helpfull, i feel enlighten and awoken to a New way of seeing why and how❤🙏🤗😘
I’m so happy to hear that! 💗
@@HelenaHartCoaching im very glad i found u😉🤗 the way u word things and explain them, perfection.totally my language , so i just totally get it both within me, and in my head this new way. 💃❤🌹feel on a New path and gonna nail this🤗😍I'll keep watching and learning 😘
@@tovebjrsvik4964 Thank you! The video I’m going to publish tomorrow should be really helpful for you as well! 💝
I love all of you ❤️❤️❤️ you never have to change who you are . I love you no matter what you are or what you believe.
Thanks for the positivity! 💖
You both are so beautiful and give off so much lovely feminine energy. Thank you for being out there and share your knowledge. Love from Australia ❤️
You’re very welcome, Nathalia! Here are a couple other videos I recorded with Madeline if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/SDgCypaoGZE/v-deo.html.
This top is so lovely on you Helena. Great insights as always. These help so much !
Thank you, I’m glad this was helpful! ❤️
In other words, live in the moment 😉
Will it help to stay present and how
@@bhagyashrigundecha3866 Staying present absolutely helps!
As a small, simple example, I wear many hats and perform various tasks throughout the day. When I am doing so much as cleaning the toilet, in that moment, I am the toilet-cleaning queen...I put everything I have into that job. And the results? Pure, sparkling and fresh-scented! Why? Because in that moment the only important thing to me is the cleanliness and sanity of that bowl.
I carry that approach into everything I do, giving me very little time to drift off and direct energy into the man I am interested in. That excess energy belongs elsewhere.
Hope that helps.
@@flooredjustfloored wow .. well said. Love 💞 that !!!
Great advice.
I completely fell for a person based on what they displayed online...had nothing to do with his looks. I loved what he does..we met..felt like a dream...but following this...things to a awkward shift
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Kerry. These videos might be helpful for future reference: ua-cam.com/video/xy6ld4SDwKE/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/_jARxknc160/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/x8yKaWNdq7g/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/eLiiLy78_Ak/v-deo.html.
I’ve been chasing the same man for 15 years .. I’m scared if I stop, there will be nothing left. That he’ll leave etc. I suck at playing hard to get . I don’t want to lose him
It’s never about playing hard to get (or “pretending“ anything!) - it’s about not chasing after a man who’s not pursuing you and putting the same amount of effort into the relationship. These videos should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/fMRyfkr2NA4/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
wow single focused makes so much sense!!
I’m glad this resonated with you! 💞
This chemistry that is developing after a time is very common thing if you take your time to really know someone. It was so common to happen and school, uni, work place (when after a while you saw in your colleague someone more than just co worker etc.) just online dating make it impossible and destroy somehow this natural connection between people.
Thanks for sharing, Joanna! My husband and I met online and this kind of deep chemistry developed over time with us too, so it’s definitely possible! 💞
My now ex-husband was one of those guys I wasn’t attracted to initially. We started off as friends but over time as we learned more about each other and how much we have in common, then the attraction grew. In fact, basically all of my past relationships were with men who I didn’t feel any instant attraction to but they grew on me over time. Am I just really that broken where I can’t be successful in any romantic relationship?
Thanks for sharing your experience here - you’re definitely not broken! ❤️
Omg thank God … this was what I was doing lol .. this video is so helpful ❤
This video might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/-SE8Bp2nOFI/v-deo.html
Hi Helena I totLy agree men are irresistible in emotions and vulnerability
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Kavita! 💖
@@HelenaHartCoaching ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This topic really is what I need these days...thank you so much.
You’re welcome! These videos might also be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/-kFTMribmm4/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/m7GZ5sCVonE/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/gjXYdM90bSU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/A6kNlz-o3UI/v-deo.html.
Oh Helena I need that! I like that series and I need to tuned in, be observer of what he does!
I’m glad this resonated with you! This video should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/m7GZ5sCVonE/v-deo.html
oh wow....👍 love it ❤️❤️ can u pls make some more videos on the role of our subconscious mind in our relationship?
I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, thanks for the suggestion! In the meantime, this one should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/v-deo.html
My ex left me a month ago. Because I was too dependant on him and he couldn't handle it. Which I understand. He says he doesn't want me to keep thinking we'll be together eventually and just focus on myself.
My heart's been ripped out but it's also understandable. My question is... If it appears that these emotions are 'normal' to lots of women, how do you naturally turn them off? Instead of feeling upset, observing it and not acting on it?
England has gone into lockdown, I feel worse than ever because I now can't reach out to friends/do things I enjoy :(
Sorry to hear you just went through this. I’d actually encourage you to honor and embrace all of your feelings. When we stuff these emotions down, that’s typically when they pop up and sabotage us by causing us to act OUT of them. Hope that helps clarify it! ❤️
Omg this is me all over. Thanks for this. I pushed someone close to me away. He asked for some space and I effed up. Not too bad. But I think he wants even more space. We are transitioning from lovers to friends. It's been so tough. He has been very very supportive and we do value, care and love each other. I need to back off let him move on through his own pain. He had been there for me so long that I've been unconsciously unaware of the damage I kept doing. 😔 it's a long story. But all the same he means everything to me and I'm going to do my inner work. Let go. But still have hope and faith we can come back to our great rare connection. We just can't be lovers.
im in the same situation. and im doing the same thing. letting go. giving him space. but at the same time I still have hope for us.
I have just come through this. It is extremely difficult to change from lovers to just friends. Because you have a very deep connection it will never be a "normal" friendship. Good luck, I thought I could do it but it ended up hurting too much. Have not seen him for 6 weeks now. I miss him like anything as we are so good together.
@@janinetozer3123 the thing is I haven't seen him in person for like 7 months only because if COVID. Which made it harder to transition. However we have constant phone calls and talking logical steps to move on. But I wasn't doing as well as I should of been. I was putting too much emotional strain on our connection. Unconsciously of course. I pretty much used up all his patience and him wanting to move on(it was hard for him too) but I unconsciously abused his ears with my negivative emotions which I layed on him over and over 😔
This video might be helpful if he asked for space: ua-cam.com/video/VEkz-OSVDbo/v-deo.html
OMW .. just what i needed but it's so funny and peculiar because i know this already but do it anyway knowing this doesn't work, why why whyyy do keep doing this..tracking a connection is like taking a wrecking ball to a potential relativionship.. it's like i can't help myself 😤😤
I feel you, Amanda. It's so frustrating.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many women can relate! These videos should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html
You’re not alone in this, Amanda! I do the same .... and I’m an educated & intellectual woman and know I’m doing it, but still do!!!! 😂
OMG I think I did mess my relationship with this person by making assumptions and feeling anxious about this connection.I was so in love with him.He just pulled away within a week.I miss him but I messed up
I wouldn’t beat yourself up over this! This video should be helpful for future reference (or even just to feel better now): ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html
Love your videos. Will you have a live chat soon? Have so much questions. :)
Thanks Linda! I’ll see if I can schedule one sometime during the month of November. 💜
🙏 Thankyou, Helena ❣️🙏
You’re welcome! 💜 These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/-SE8Bp2nOFI/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/gjXYdM90bSU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/XwXmKCDdMu0/v-deo.html.
I met a guy. We had great conversations and facetime. And he would call, text and facetime. We only talked for a week. He planned a date for us. I had to cancel due to work. I communicated with him and suggested another day when I was off. He replied "ok" but.. it's been 4 days and haven't heard from him since then. I haven't reached out either. Thoughts?
Since you canceled it, I would reach out again to him in a friendly manner
@@SK-no2pp oh wow! Even though I already suggested another day when I cancelled?
@@love7loyalty-MHA yeah. It’s not a game. Men can be insecure and second guess themselves too. If you feel a connection and think he’s a good person that you’d like to see, there no harm in messaging him. He doesn’t need to do ALL the work. He will on the date (get to know you further, pay etc). Being canceled on sucks even if it’s work related and genuine.
@@SK-no2pp wow, ok. Thank you so much
@@love7loyalty-MHA you’re welcome, give him an opening, and then you can sit back and be in your feminine energy
Can I request you to make one video on attachments we develop for relationships which aren't practically feasible and only give pain ?
Thanks for the great suggestion! If you can give me a few more details that would be helpful - do you mean when you feel attached to the wrong kind of men, or situations where the relationship doesn’t work out (or something else entirely)?
@@HelenaHartCoaching for example : if the person is married and they claim that they love you but keep coming and going.. becomes unavailable and mostly emotionally unavailable..once doesn't know what is the future of relationship.. the person doens't seem to be toxic but more of a victim and one tend to stick by with no commitment
@@parinitasood3046 Thanks for the clarification! One more question - are you married TO this man or is he married to someone else?
@@HelenaHartCoaching he is married to someone else
In that case, I’d recommend watching these videos and moving on ASAP (let me know if the videos resonate with you, I have others I can recommend as well): ua-cam.com/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/v-deo.html
How long should you talk to your inner child in order for you to heal. One week, one month? I don't want to attend therapy, therapy just make me worse, I retrauma myself by talking about these things all over again
I had fun with Micheal O' then the intimacy started and now everything slowed down, We are both busy all the time.
Yes I get what you were saying about sub consciousness !! Wow !!
I’m glad that resonated with you, April! 💞
So clear! Thank you
You’re welcome! 💕
I’m told all the time I’m very handsome. My nickname is scary handsome. I’m funny I’m friendly I’m outgoing. I’m not boring. Girls give me all the signs and they have boyfriends. I’m there for practice for when they go home to their boyfriends. I can’t get a date.
Maybe I’m too picky.
Love this episode! it really resonates with me
Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💗
Well. I am just going to continue on and go on dates..😁.. Omg. I get so impatient on the game playing
Hi Nancy, you won’t find any “games“ on my channel - all of this has to be 100% authentic in order to get permanent results. 💜
How do I know if I have a fantasy relationship?
If it’s not grounded in reality.
Yes, I’d observe what a man is actually doing (for example, is his energy coming towards you consistently and is he progressing the relationship?) - that will help you determine this.
If you are asking yourself, most likely not
Three months ago he ended the relationship. He was a very honest and open guy. Last time we called he said that he is not looking for a relationship and that we shouldn't be in contact for a while. Its been two months now and he hasnt shown any signs of any sort. I think I'm in a good place emotionally and in my single life but I keep on wondering if I should reach out and see if there is still a chance. But I keep on thinking that he was the one that put the distance, would it be stupid of me to reach out, especially since I have not heard anything?
It sounds like he told you as clearly as he possibly could that he’s not interested in a relationship. I would believe him and move on. 💜
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I am 67 he is 38. He chased me for 9 months but he had a woman so I said no then she died. Have been with him since January but I am still a secret bc of her death.what do you think we have a great time
What is leaning forward and leaning back???
This short video should help give you some clarity: ua-cam.com/video/fzd-xbRShvU/v-deo.html
Great Advice. Totally Resonates.
Thank you, I’m glad this resonated with you! 💚
@@HelenaHartCoaching me too 🙂. Keep up the good work.
How can you have an exciting life during a pandemic?
Hi Janine, I talk a little bit about that towards the end of this video (there are some good ideas in the comments section of it too): ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html
Totally understand the feminine energy but geez.. So we just keep ourselves busy . So what would be a normal time span to just see when he responds again?
Hi Nancy, even the way you phrased this question it’s obvious that your energy is very focused on him - I wouldn’t even look at it that way. Instead, once you respond, I’d practice basically forgetting about it until he shows up again (and of course, keeping your energy open to men who’s energy IS coming towards you consistently). Hope that helps! 💕
Helena, what if we are in a relationship but he takes days to text back and only sees me once a week?
@@mellead8727 If you don't live together yet I wouldn't say you are in relationship yet. You are just dating.
Chasing mentally? How can this happened?
It basically means analyzing a man’s every move, hyper-focusing on him, trying to “get” him to like you more, obsessing or thinking about him constantly (even when he’s not right in front of you). Hope that clarifies it! 💕
What happens when his mood is affected by you? I dated an older, insecure man. He would be upset if a friend (of the male type) would contact me.
It sounds like it would be difficult to have a long-term relationship with someone like that, but you have to get in touch with what feels good to YOU. 💜
Helena - what if you keep randomly seeing the same guy you went out on dates with but haven't went out on a date with him in almost a year? Sometimes we speak, sometimes not. I see him away from where him and I both live. FATE?
I wouldn’t read into it unless he’s actively pursuing you and showing you with his ACTIONS that he’s interested and wants to move things forward. 💜
You are amazing 💙
Thank you so much, Natali! ❤️
Great video thanks ♥️
You’re welcome, Lynda! 💕
Yes yes yes!
I’m glad this resonated with you! 💞
A lot of men enjoy being cruel
I agree. I am experiencing that now, my feelings are so screwed up for this guy. And he is so cold and unavailable. I've really put myself through the wringer with this one. Can''t believe I let it happen again. I feel so stupid. So glad I've found these videos to learn from and to find out I am not the only one who goes through this. Makes the pain much easier to bear. I thought I was the only one.
Kind of needed this reminder today.
I’m glad this came at the right time for you! 💕
Thanks henna hart
You’re welcome! 💕
But happens if I don't heard from him for 5 days what should i text or I should wait more time or what to say?
Hi Silvia, is this a man you’re in an exclusive relationship with?
No yet I have been seen him for maybe 2 months at the beginning he will text like at the end of the day and same with me I work a lot and sometimes when I am tired I text the next day
This is my first time i go out with someone from a dating site.
Update he did reach out to me on Thanksgiving day to wish me a good Thanksgiving and say hi
@@silviavega8259 Make sure to keep your energy open to other men who are pursuing you consistently until you’re know for sure that he’s serious. 💜
Listening now woohh🤩
Hope it helps! 💕
Whats the name off the other lady
Her name is Madeline Charles - her information in the description of this video, including a free series she’s hosting that I’m going to be a part of! Here are a couple more videos I’ve recorded with her: ua-cam.com/video/-fmaR8gbZng/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/SDgCypaoGZE/v-deo.html.
How to know if our partner is really cheating us or it's just thought in ur head.. Plz guide
These videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/Nw1smRqzd6E/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/u0nNzdkAU_0/v-deo.html.
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you so much ❤❤
@@bhagyashrigundecha3866 You’re welcome! 💜
You are incredible beautiful. 😍