This is the first interview i've seen for her book where the interviewer has been extremely empathetic, respectful, and genuinely interested in her story rather than fishing for "hot headlines" about her Nick days- really well done
You should watch the Financial Diet interview. She was in the same room, just two feet from the interviewer in that one, and the woman who interviewed her was extremely nice, empathetic, and very much on the same level as Jennette and Jennette seemed totally comfortable and at ease. It’s a great interview.
Hats off the interviewer! His questions were excellently crafted. It allows Jeannette to dig deep on her responses and really enable her to convey the heart of the matter. He also allows her to complete her thought process and answer the questions completely while maintaining the natural conversational nature of the interview. --- Often overlooked are brilliant interviewers like this man.
Well said. Even by the 1st few questions he had Jeanette at ease and willing to talk. It's becoming rare also which is a shame.. There's a real skill to it.
The abuse she experienced is usually treated as a shameful secret, but actually is very common. Her book is a cathartic read for anyone who grew up in a similar home, and an honest glimpse into a hidden world for everyone else that was raised in a healthier environment. She deserves all the attention and praise this book is getting.
I was so overjoyed to learn my daughter could not find Jennette's book anywhere because it meant that it's a BEST SELLER!! My daughter isn't giving up though. She makes her rounds to all the book stores and even knows when a couple of the stores will be getting their orders. Lol I hope she gets it soon. She's 19 and grew up with ICARLY and SAM & CAT. And, wants to read it, but mostly my daughter wants to support Jennette.
I grew up in a narcissistic household too almost all of her experiences my mom did to me as well and I'm slightly younger than her, I want to get the book...but I am afraid it is going to mess me up so bad when I read it.
I’ve watched numerous interviews and podcasts Jennette has been on and this BY FAR was the best. I love how he gave her the space to create her own narrative by using open ended questions and not putting the words in her mouth like I’ve seen many others do
@@ikmedialuna honestly felt! I think Mayim personally identified a bit too much and then projected. Even though Jennette said in the interview that she agreed, a paramount aspect of her book was how she spent so much of her life not having a voice. Did you see the minimalists podcast? I actually had to stop watching bc they wouldn't let her speak!
I'm just 9 minutes in, but I have to stop and say that this interviewer is doing so incredibly well. Thoughtful, respectful, caring, choosing his words carefully in recognition that it's a human being who's been through a lot that he's questioning. Warms my heart. And Jennette McCurdy is wonderful. That is all. Okay, lemme go finish watching this. EDIT: So I just got to the end of the interview and Jennette's closing words to the interviewer completely sums it up, "I so appreciate your approach to what you do." Yup. Agreed. And thank you Jennette for sharing with such integrity, and for maintaining your boundaries as it relates to the direction in which your interviews go. Bless up.
The interviewer does a really good job here. He's genuinely interested without being overly dramatic or emotional. He's sympathetic without being condescending or sounding like he pities her. He gives her space to talk but still directs the interview. Great job!
Poor Jeanette. It's truly sad how she had to go through such trauma. I'm honestly shocked that this happened to her. I never thought in a million years that her character on the show was entertaining but struggling with something behind close doors! Her mother was a true monster! The fact that her mother forced her to do and wear what she wanted was truly dark. Even though her time on Nickelodeon was memorable, I'm so glad she's doing fine now and has decided to move on to better things, and that she continues to live her life happily. She deserves better.
yeah she even sexually abused her too her mom was a horrible person and i just feel incredibly sorry for jennette but i'm so glad she's healing now and able to live her best life
You have no clue how many of us have these Monster Mommies. We may not be a public figure but our experience of abuse is also truly horrific. I applaud this young woman (don’t know her or her acting) but she is truly a thriver, she’s transcended the abuse-not that it ever goes away entirely but it does get different. What an exceptional person and a great interviewer as well!
This was such a wonderful interview! I love how you talked to her like a human being who you wanted to learn more about. All of the mainstream interviews I see with her are reporters trying to trick her into saying something that can be misinterpreted or trying to ask about things she isn’t comfortable speaking about. 10/10 great job!
Listening to her book ATM . Im from Ireland and growing up in the 70s and 80s so many children of that time married, had children, stayed in jobs they hated, relationships that were toxic and went the direction their families wanted them to go purely because of wanting to keep them happy, not to rock the boat. Many even joined religious orders and took their anger and frustrations out in communities and children all under the dark cloak of "don't talk about what's really going on" let's not admit that this is just all so wrong. Those children whose lives were directed by others happiness, not letting the family down are now miserable, in addition or divorced adults or both with damaged children and so the chain continues. Hopefully books like this will help break toxic family chains and give vision to an often not spoken about abuse that happens too often. Great book 📚
Honestly I think we should talk more about parents who shower their kids until late age. I feel like it's really not talked about and it should be! And I hope some people will now see this interview and learn that it's WRONG, and that they shouldn't go through this. So proud of her!
It’s called Infantilizing and Cluster B Personality Disordered mommy dearests roll back and forth between demanding we be a child one minute and an adult the next. This is just one of their tactics. IMO, they should be neutered/spayed if they don’t seek and actively participate in treatment. We’d have far fewer abusive parents in this world and far safer kids. Forget “stranger danger:” The most dangerous place for a child is in their home with these kinds of parents.
I was bathed by my mom social worker and stepdad until I was like 13 myself, and my mom would let me change downstairs until I was about that age, my mom was had bpd like personality, she could seem like she love you 1 moment hate the next, she banged her head against a closet door repeatedly, she would threaten to kill herself, she was together with men who abused us, she would threaten to leave and never come back, like very toxic stuff for a kid to have to witness, I still suffer from great deal of trauma scars, it's horrible stuff.
@@grandmastermario3695 im so sorry that you experienced this abuse. you are so strong and brave for sharing your story, and so strong for choosing to keep going despite the pain. i know it is the hardest thing to endure. i hope you know how valuable you are, and i hope you know that you are loved. i love you stranger!
I'm so glad this was the interview I fell on when searching about Jennette and her book. Really brilliant questions, lovely interviewer, asked some really important and different questions to the usual. I have so much respect for people like Jennette as well. I'm so happy she seems to be healing from all of this and has found success with her book. I feel relieved that we can witness this version of her as it could have turned out very differently.
Her touching on the absolution of sin for those who die in society is very relevant. You can talk about the bad things someone has done, even if they are dead.
The way around 10:30 where she compares how thinking back in the day how her and her mom’s anorexic behavior was like a “Parent Trap” bonding montage…. And not really realizing how dark and unhealthy it was until later…Wow. I already wanted to read her book but I’m definitely picking up a copy today after that.
The interviewer I must say encompasses so much empathy, genuine curiosity, and just all around thoughtfulness through this whole interview. I truly enjoyed this entire interview.
I also feel that the interviewer had a lot of respect and understanding towards Jenette and it was lovely to see how comfortable she was opening up and sharing with him
What unsettles me is as kids watching the show we had no idea of her suffering. We watched the show, loved it and laugh at it thinking nothing more ! probably dreaming of being her or Miranda not realizing that just because someone is famous or successful/talented doesn't mean they have the perfect life and aren't experiencing abuse.
That is so true----I've read so many biographies from famous actor/actresses over the years telling about what life was like being famous or being the child of someone famous, and how difficult it was dealing with fame and how it could mess up one's life in the worst way, particularly if they hadn't been taught how to deal with it and not let it define them.
You know at the time I remember being really obsessed with Macaulay Culkin, who had at that point, recently quit acting. I remember hearing about the growing collection of what he'd gone through and watching Sonny With A Chance and iCarly and thinking "Maybe, someone here is suffering like that" And now 13 years later, I listen to Holy Fvck, and watch these interviews and recognize that wow oh my god a lot of kids are suffering all the time. And I was literally one of them!
My Son's an I grew up watching her. We still Love her Dearly. All 3 of us battle with Anxiety. Yet I believe most do these days. I am looking forward to purchasing the book for us to read. Congratulations Miss McCurdy! Proud of you.
What a great interview. It felt so sincere and touching from both parts, and I feel that the questions asked were just right for what Jennette might wanted to share. I feel so sad but happy for her, she was a great part of my childhood and I'm glad she found peace within writing this book.
I remember when I first seen Jennette on a zoey 101 episode, I was younger than her and thought she was so beautiful I kept watching the episode over and over again, I’m so glad she’s finding peace and speaking out now
I am grateful for people like her sharing their mental health struggles. They look more human and real, easier to connect with rather than put them on a pedestal. And the most important thing is SHE IS RAISING AWARENESS!!!
I'm definitely in agreement with the comments regarding this interviewer. I wish more would take a lesson from his play book. It's not often that interviewers actually let questions be thoroughly answered without interrupting or just plain cutting them off and even act bored talking to the subject as though it's such a chore to be doing the interview in the first place. The way he does this interview is quite inspiring.
just wow.....so much she said resonated so much, from feeling bad about walking away from a fruitless job that you think you should feel grateful for to the conflicting feelings around grieving an abusive mom. This book has been everything to me, it's a mirror image of my childhood, and reading her journey and how she processed things has helped me look deeper at my journey as well and feel not so alone in it. Thank you for this Jennette
It is so heartwarming to see Jennette happy and in such a good place in her life now. Opening up to the world about her past hardships and experiences was extremely brave of her and could not have been easy. I am so proud of her!
She doesn't look happy to me. She appears to be a skeleton under big clothes. Bet she'll blame that eating disorder on her mother too, even though the poor woman is dead. I can't believe she sits there smiling and trying to look pretty while discussing how happy she is that her mom died. She's mentally disturbed and it probably has nothing to do with her mother!
She would be an amazing therapist even psychotherapy! Her energy is so soothing but I know it’s all the healing work she’s done on herself too. she’s amazing 🦋
This interview was fantastic I really enjoyed the fact that both Jeanette and interviewer were able to talk about mental health and disorders in such a matter of fact way from their own personal perspectives ❤️
I pray for her healing. Reliving this to promote her book has definitely taken a toll on her. Glad she's shining light on such a sensitive subject. Father's are often vilified, but mothers can be just as bad if not worse. Beautiful to see her standing tall in her truth.
Almost done with the book, and you can tell the interview read it. Great questions, he didn't just ask questions where you could find the answer if you read it. and Jeanette is so thoughtful and entertaining. Thanks for this!
I love how Jennette comments on the nuance of the questions and thanks the interviewer before answering. I have been watching a lot of her interviews and I really admire the grace with which she approaches these difficult topics. Her book was brilliant, can't wait to see what's in store for her future!
This interview was so well done. Really thoughtful and profound questions. Jeannette’s responses were so insightful. I appreciated the fact that you were genuinely interested in her story and paid attention to the memoir.
i use to say that to myself growing up...the day she died i could say it out loud...and i did. 'she can't hurt me anymore.' i know how the young woman felt! now that she has said it out loud her life will get easier & better with time...
I really like Jeannette but her recent Instagram posts she looks thinner than she ever was before. I just hope she is still doing well in recovery. She seems to say she is but it is worrisome how much weight she’s lost. I love her podcasts and respect her so much.
@@edp3202 It depends on how you conceptualize “recovery.” Sure, it’ll be a struggle but if she keeps learning as she ages (and I’m sure she will) it’ll get different. I’ve always felt such compassion for people who struggle with eating disorders: Unlike alcohol or drugs they *have to* let that food lion out of the cage at least 3 times a day! Whew, such respect for everyone suffering with an ED who gets into recovery.
I love how the host crafted the questions. going into this I was expecting little bits of insensitivity and a lack of knowledge on sensitivity for these subject, but this host asks very good questions for expanding on feelings and her point of view instead letting her give some really good answers :). I also love how calm and slow he ask the question. makes the interview feel really respectful for the topic.
I'm so happy she knows she not alone anymore and that she's telling her story so others know their not alone I understand beyond word thank you and Goodluck
I love that Jennette said that she’s happy that people still watch her on Nickelodeon it’s great to see that she’s happy that people like to watch her on Sam and Cat and iCarly even though she didn’t want to do the reboot, it’s great that she did the right thing of retired from acting. I read her book and listen to her narrated, and it makes total sense of what she went through and it’s so sad. I can definitely understand why her mom forced her to do acting I met her along time ago back in 2011.
A few days ago, I didn't know who Jennette is. I had never seen her on TV. I read her book, and it really resonated on many levels. I have great respect for her. Thanks for this interview.
My heart really aches for Jenette. That book is so well written in that you really get the full picture, even though the lens of her younger self. I hope that she continues to heal and do what she wants to in life, after a lifetime of being told what to do x
It's sad that a lot of people actually live their dream through their kids and most of the time the children are miserable but the parents never see it
i think some parents do see it, but they shove it down and ignore it because they get so much joy and euphoria from living vicariously through their child
These kinds of mommy dearests see us as nothing more than extensions of themselves. We are more than invalidated: We, as unique human beings in our own right don’t exist in their world. We enrage them because we were never given our “scripts” so inevitably we’re never enough, never good enough and an unredeemable failure as a child and later as adults. Of course, the problem is always us according to mommy dearest. Apparently we failed to “child” correctly. /s
That or they do and don't care because they want that Hollywood money. I already know my mother would've fed me to the wolves if it meant she was getting thousands of dollars.
Absolutely agree with everyone commenting on how great this interviewer is and I want to add that he was so respectful with her not wanting to answer any questions about Dan Schneider. I’ve seen so many other interviews where people have pushed to get her to talk about it and I love how he immediately moved on when it was clear it wasn’t a topic she wanted to touch on. Well done Tom Power
I wish I was as gracious and articulate when it comes to describing my narcissistic mother. Such strength and resilience this woman has. I hope and pray she finds peace, true lasting peace, in Jesus Christ. Praying for you, dear Jeannette.
If you liked her book, I suggest reading The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls and Chanel Bonfire by Wendy Lawless. Both are memoirs about women who grew up with similar mothers to Jeanette McCurdy.
I'm about half way through the book and it's been a really great read. I don't know if she's covered it in her book, but I really wonder about her family and what happened after her mother passed away. I imagine a lot of people were strongly affected by her mother and while her passing may have eased some tensions, her mother also seemed like the glue that kept everyone and everything together through force of willpower alone. I can imagine the relief but also wonder what challenges everyone in her family had to face personally and together after her mother had passed. I also think that some of us that may have been attention starved by our parents may have played the same role as Jennette did when she was young. How many of us wanted to make mommy or daddy proud and what would we have done to earn their appreciation or avoid their scorn. The interview was nice, but it really just covered most of the things in the book, so I was a little disappointed that there wasn't much new information. The two of them calorie restricting together really reminds me of junkies hanging out with other junkies. Not meaning anything disrespectful with that comparison other than that you want to be with people who understand and support your addiction to both help you feed that addiction and to feel normal/accepted for it.
I read the book entirely and the death of her mom, also relief so many other people. She never 'glued' the family lol. She was a monster who terrorizes everyone's around. She (the monster, I mean, mom) actually pull apart the entire family
@@ikmedialuna Thanks for your comment. Perhaps my analogy other the mother being glue wasn't the best to use. I just meant, that she kept them all together to have to deal with her. So while she was alive, they all were glued to her (attentive), but without that, did they feel freedom, or did they miss having something there due to all the negative psychological consequences of her existence? Cheers!
@@nicholascowling7052 Absolutely. It’s always the sickest, most twisted individual in the family who demands everyone dance attendance on their whims, walk on eggshells but if they’re able to, get OUT ASAP. These mommy dearests do NOT a get better with age.
I wonder if she's reached out to like, Amanda Bynes or any of the other Nickelodeon alumni to just....let them know they're not alone. Actually, I hope Amanda Bynes is seeing Jenette speak out and I hope it helps her heal too.
What a wonderful interview! I think I love her even more now!!! Definitely love the truth that's just pouring out. I can literally feel her trauma being released by doing this!!! Wow this takes balls!!!! I too had a similar experience with both my parents. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable in order to heal Jeannette!!! This touched me so much. Thank you. Thank you for telling the world four story and sharing what helped you heal. Truly inspiring!!! Ps, DV Survivor
The interview was very well executed; both parties involved were on the same page and they meshed well. It gave a lot of room for Mccurdy to sort out her responses and still chime in with banter. Also the fact that both used CBT to help process things is such a great and validating moment. How many interviewers can relate to an aspect of recovery to the person they're interviewing? They've connected on a more emotional level and gives more validation for those who consider CBT bc look, it can be talked about normally! It's a weird thing to say but my favorite question was, in regards to Mccurdy's therapy, asking "when" she decided to look for help. What was it that made her want to recovery? It's a good question to ask. Thank you for such an understanding and fairly therapeutic interview. I hope you and Mccurdy do end up doing thr shirts idea and we can see them on your next session!
Tom is in a league of his own as an interviewer. He creates a safe environment and always comes to the table with researched, thoughtful questions. This was a great interview and an amazing story by Jennette!
Intelligent, respectful, understanding conversation. I love to see it. Thank you Janette for being open about your experience so others can relate to a not uncommon experience.
I remember watching Icarus and all those other shows when I was younger and would think those actors must be having the time of their life. It’s crazy to now know what they were going through.
One of the best interview questions I think I’ve ever seen in my entire life. Great approach and great conversation no one cut each other off or felt uncomfortable!
Wow i learned so much listening to this interview. For starters the interviewer did a great job with the questions & creating a safe space. It’s also interesting to hear how she navigated having an eating disorder while playing a character who loved food. I loved iCarly growing up so to hear some of the behind stories you just never know. I also loved how she talked about self doubt with her decision making & how she knew the choices she made was for the best. I still struggle with self doubt & I appreciated hearing this
When Jennette talked about how finding humor in the trauma doesn't discredit her past self, it reminded me of something Ms. Pat frequently says: "If you can laugh at it, that means you have control of it." This seems like something that is getting lost in the mental health conversation these days. Obviously there is a time and place for humor on sensitive topics, but finding a way to laugh can be very cathartic and healing as well.
@samischism-yeess, another Ms. Pat fan! I agree with you entirely. This young lady is not someone I’m familiar with but this interview and interviewer were excellent. I’m sure MANY of us know what it’s like to have a “mother” of this ilk. Thanks for posting!
This is the first interview i've seen for her book where the interviewer has been extremely empathetic, respectful, and genuinely interested in her story rather than fishing for "hot headlines" about her Nick days- really well done
Iced coffee hour was a mess, I now hate those guys
I was thinking the same thing.
I agree! Such a great interview. Lots of space to breathe
You should watch the Financial Diet interview. She was in the same room, just two feet from the interviewer in that one, and the woman who interviewed her was extremely nice, empathetic, and very much on the same level as Jennette and Jennette seemed totally comfortable and at ease. It’s a great interview.
@@crescentfreshbret I loved that interview and I love Chelsea!
Hats off the interviewer! His questions were excellently crafted. It allows Jeannette to dig deep on her responses and really enable her to convey the heart of the matter. He also allows her to complete her thought process and answer the questions completely while maintaining the natural conversational nature of the interview. --- Often overlooked are brilliant interviewers like this man.
Well said. Even by the 1st few questions he had Jeanette at ease and willing to talk. It's becoming rare also which is a shame.. There's a real skill to it.
Right! It’s so admirable to see an interviewer actually doing a good job
Yes he was great!
I was so happy to see that Jennette was on q because Tom always has the best questions.
I thought the same thing
jennette is so extremely well-spoken, i'm so happy she's getting recognition for the projects she is truly proud of.
The abuse she experienced is usually treated as a shameful secret, but actually is very common. Her book is a cathartic read for anyone who grew up in a similar home, and an honest glimpse into a hidden world for everyone else that was raised in a healthier environment. She deserves all the attention and praise this book is getting.
After reading the book, it was even worse than all the rumors
The book is worse? Or
I was so overjoyed to learn my daughter could not find Jennette's book anywhere because it meant that it's a BEST SELLER!!
My daughter isn't giving up though. She makes her rounds to all the book stores and even knows when a couple of the stores will be getting their orders. Lol
I hope she gets it soon. She's 19 and grew up with ICARLY and SAM & CAT. And, wants to read it, but mostly my daughter wants to support Jennette.
@@CherrrrBear how? I don’t mind being spoiled
I grew up in a narcissistic household too almost all of her experiences my mom did to me as well and I'm slightly younger than her, I want to get the book...but I am afraid it is going to mess me up so bad when I read it.
I’ve watched numerous interviews and podcasts Jennette has been on and this BY FAR was the best. I love how he gave her the space to create her own narrative by using open ended questions and not putting the words in her mouth like I’ve seen many others do
Yes!! I love Miayim Balik, but she wouldn't shut up!! Was annoying
@@ikmedialuna honestly felt! I think Mayim personally identified a bit too much and then projected. Even though Jennette said in the interview that she agreed, a paramount aspect of her book was how she spent so much of her life not having a voice. Did you see the minimalists podcast? I actually had to stop watching bc they wouldn't let her speak!
Drew Barrymore did a good job of interviewing her where it felt more like a conversation.
could listen to jennette talk for hours, she’s so well spoken and i love the way she puts stuff into perspective
I listened to the audiobook, so I literally DID listen to her talk for hours. lol
listen to her podcast! it’s good as well!!!
her podcast is called empty inside
so much respect for her coming out and doing this book x it was hard listen to on audio but well done x
The audible for this book was excellent!
I'm just 9 minutes in, but I have to stop and say that this interviewer is doing so incredibly well. Thoughtful, respectful, caring, choosing his words carefully in recognition that it's a human being who's been through a lot that he's questioning. Warms my heart. And Jennette McCurdy is wonderful. That is all. Okay, lemme go finish watching this.
EDIT: So I just got to the end of the interview and Jennette's closing words to the interviewer completely sums it up, "I so appreciate your approach to what you do." Yup. Agreed. And thank you Jennette for sharing with such integrity, and for maintaining your boundaries as it relates to the direction in which your interviews go. Bless up.
She is someone you can tell has REALLY done the work. The light at the end of the therapy tunnel is total acceptance and understanding ❤❤
She’s an excellent conversationalist and every single one of her fans will always love her
I like how he uses humor and says that he’s a big panic attack guy. It means that he can empathize with her and her mental health issues.
The interviewer does a really good job here. He's genuinely interested without being overly dramatic or emotional. He's sympathetic without being condescending or sounding like he pities her. He gives her space to talk but still directs the interview. Great job!
Poor Jeanette. It's truly sad how she had to go through such trauma. I'm honestly shocked that this happened to her. I never thought in a million years that her character on the show was entertaining but struggling with something behind close doors! Her mother was a true monster! The fact that her mother forced her to do and wear what she wanted was truly dark. Even though her time on Nickelodeon was memorable, I'm so glad she's doing fine now and has decided to move on to better things, and that she continues to live her life happily. She deserves better.
yeah she even sexually abused her too her mom was a horrible person and i just feel incredibly sorry for jennette but i'm so glad she's healing now and able to live her best life
@@maimunaali3072 yeah not to mention that she was violated behind the scenes by the creator of the show. Sad story🙁
She also lied to Jeannette and her brothers about who their real dad was. Every time I thought she couldn’t get more evil she did!!
@@mirandataylor6385 yup
You have no clue how many of us have these Monster Mommies. We may not be a public figure but our experience of abuse is also truly horrific. I applaud this young woman (don’t know her or her acting) but she is truly a thriver, she’s transcended the abuse-not that it ever goes away entirely but it does get different. What an exceptional person and a great interviewer as well!
This was such a wonderful interview! I love how you talked to her like a human being who you wanted to learn more about. All of the mainstream interviews I see with her are reporters trying to trick her into saying something that can be misinterpreted or trying to ask about things she isn’t comfortable speaking about. 10/10 great job!
Fantastic interview, we’re listening Jennette we hear you. I’m glad you’re healing.
Listening to her book ATM . Im from Ireland and growing up in the 70s and 80s so many children of that time married, had children, stayed in jobs they hated, relationships that were toxic and went the direction their families wanted them to go purely because of wanting to keep them happy, not to rock the boat. Many even joined religious orders and took their anger and frustrations out in communities and children all under the dark cloak of "don't talk about what's really going on" let's not admit that this is just all so wrong. Those children whose lives were directed by others happiness, not letting the family down are now miserable, in addition or divorced adults or both with damaged children and so the chain continues. Hopefully books like this will help break toxic family chains and give vision to an often not spoken about abuse that happens too often. Great book 📚
Props to the Interviewer; Asked all the right questions, knew when to back away, and gave the right energies and tones. Very Impressed.
Honestly I think we should talk more about parents who shower their kids until late age. I feel like it's really not talked about and it should be!
And I hope some people will now see this interview and learn that it's WRONG, and that they shouldn't go through this.
So proud of her!
It’s called Infantilizing and Cluster B Personality Disordered mommy dearests roll back and forth between demanding we be a child one minute and an adult the next. This is just one of their tactics. IMO, they should be neutered/spayed if they don’t seek and actively participate in treatment. We’d have far fewer abusive parents in this world and far safer kids. Forget “stranger danger:” The most dangerous place for a child is in their home with these kinds of parents.
I was bathed by my mom social worker and stepdad until I was like 13 myself, and my mom would let me change downstairs until I was about that age, my mom was had bpd like personality, she could seem like she love you 1 moment hate the next, she banged her head against a closet door repeatedly, she would threaten to kill herself, she was together with men who abused us, she would threaten to leave and never come back, like very toxic stuff for a kid to have to witness, I still suffer from great deal of trauma scars, it's horrible stuff.
@@grandmastermario3695 im so sorry that you experienced this abuse. you are so strong and brave for sharing your story, and so strong for choosing to keep going despite the pain. i know it is the hardest thing to endure. i hope you know how valuable you are, and i hope you know that you are loved. i love you stranger!
I’m usually not an audiobook person but her voice and writing style made her audiobook interesting and soo easy to fly through.
He did a great and very personal caring interview
I’m glad people are opening more conversations about children dealing with a parents like Jennette’s mother.
Yes much needed conversation
I'm so glad this was the interview I fell on when searching about Jennette and her book. Really brilliant questions, lovely interviewer, asked some really important and different questions to the usual. I have so much respect for people like Jennette as well. I'm so happy she seems to be healing from all of this and has found success with her book. I feel relieved that we can witness this version of her as it could have turned out very differently.
Her touching on the absolution of sin for those who die in society is very relevant. You can talk about the bad things someone has done, even if they are dead.
The way around 10:30 where she compares how thinking back in the day how her and her mom’s anorexic behavior was like a “Parent Trap” bonding montage…. And not really realizing how dark and unhealthy it was until later…Wow. I already wanted to read her book but I’m definitely picking up a copy today after that.
The interviewer I must say encompasses so much empathy, genuine curiosity, and just all around thoughtfulness through this whole interview. I truly enjoyed this entire interview.
Absolutely the best interview with Jennette, period. Y'all's chemistry, your interview skills, her lovely soul.... Perfect, just perfect.
the title of her book is actually so great even not knowing her story, it conveys a message that only people going through it can understand
I also feel that the interviewer had a lot of respect and understanding towards Jenette and it was lovely to see how comfortable she was opening up and sharing with him
What unsettles me is as kids watching the show we had no idea of her suffering. We watched the show, loved it and laugh at it thinking nothing more ! probably dreaming of being her or Miranda not realizing that just because someone is famous or successful/talented doesn't mean they have the perfect life and aren't experiencing abuse.
That is so true----I've read so many biographies from famous actor/actresses over the years telling about what life was like being famous or being the child of someone famous, and how difficult it was dealing with fame and how it could mess up one's life in the worst way, particularly if they hadn't been taught how to deal with it and not let it define them.
You know at the time I remember being really obsessed with Macaulay Culkin, who had at that point, recently quit acting. I remember hearing about the growing collection of what he'd gone through and watching Sonny With A Chance and iCarly and thinking "Maybe, someone here is suffering like that"
And now 13 years later, I listen to Holy Fvck, and watch these interviews and recognize that wow oh my god a lot of kids are suffering all the time. And I was literally one of them!
My Son's an I grew up watching her. We still Love her Dearly. All 3 of us battle with Anxiety. Yet I believe most do these days. I am looking forward to purchasing the book for us to read. Congratulations Miss McCurdy! Proud of you.
It’s incredible and sad too.
What a great interview. It felt so sincere and touching from both parts, and I feel that the questions asked were just right for what Jennette might wanted to share.
I feel so sad but happy for her, she was a great part of my childhood and I'm glad she found peace within writing this book.
I love how well spoken she is and how clearly she can describe complex feelings.
Oh this is definitely the best interview I've seen with her. Great questions, asking about the real stuff without being invasive
I remember when I first seen Jennette on a zoey 101 episode, I was younger than her and thought she was so beautiful I kept watching the episode over and over again, I’m so glad she’s finding peace and speaking out now
I am grateful for people like her sharing their mental health struggles. They look more human and real, easier to connect with rather than put them on a pedestal. And the most important thing is SHE IS RAISING AWARENESS!!!
I'm definitely in agreement with the comments regarding this interviewer. I wish more would take a lesson from his play book. It's not often that interviewers actually let questions be thoroughly answered without interrupting or just plain cutting them off and even act bored talking to the subject as though it's such a chore to be doing the interview in the first place. The way he does this interview is quite inspiring.
just wow.....so much she said resonated so much, from feeling bad about walking away from a fruitless job that you think you should feel grateful for to the conflicting feelings around grieving an abusive mom. This book has been everything to me, it's a mirror image of my childhood, and reading her journey and how she processed things has helped me look deeper at my journey as well and feel not so alone in it. Thank you for this Jennette
It is so heartwarming to see Jennette happy and in such a good place in her life now. Opening up to the world about her past hardships and experiences was extremely brave of her and could not have been easy. I am so proud of her!
She doesn't look happy to me. She appears to be a skeleton under big clothes. Bet she'll blame that eating disorder on her mother too, even though the poor woman is dead. I can't believe she sits there smiling and trying to look pretty while discussing how happy she is that her mom died. She's mentally disturbed and it probably has nothing to do with her mother!
She would be an amazing therapist even psychotherapy! Her energy is so soothing but I know it’s all the healing work she’s done on herself too. she’s amazing 🦋
The best interview I've come across so far! Most people can't be quiet or seem too hyped because their fans. I appreciate his calmness
This interview was fantastic I really enjoyed the fact that both Jeanette and interviewer were able to talk about mental health and disorders in such a matter of fact way from their own personal perspectives ❤️
I pray for her healing. Reliving this to promote her book has definitely taken a toll on her. Glad she's shining light on such a sensitive subject. Father's are often vilified, but mothers can be just as bad if not worse. Beautiful to see her standing tall in her truth.
Almost done with the book, and you can tell the interview read it. Great questions, he didn't just ask questions where you could find the answer if you read it. and Jeanette is so thoughtful and entertaining. Thanks for this!
I love how Jennette comments on the nuance of the questions and thanks the interviewer before answering. I have been watching a lot of her interviews and I really admire the grace with which she approaches these difficult topics. Her book was brilliant, can't wait to see what's in store for her future!
Literally loved the book and love this guy! So sensitive and respectful but also deep and significant in the way he asks questions
What an incredible interview. Beautiful conversation on an outstanding memoir.
This interview was so well done. Really thoughtful and profound questions. Jeannette’s responses were so insightful. I appreciated the fact that you were genuinely interested in her story and paid attention to the memoir.
I love the mutual respect in this interview
i use to say that to myself growing up...the day she died i could say it out loud...and i did. 'she can't hurt me anymore.' i know how the young woman felt! now that she has said it out loud her life will get easier & better with time...
I really like Jeannette but her recent Instagram posts she looks thinner than she ever was before. I just hope she is still doing well in recovery. She seems to say she is but it is worrisome how much weight she’s lost. I love her podcasts and respect her so much.
I noticed that too. Recovery is not a straight line. Body image issue can be such a lifetime battle
I have a hunch her anorexia, bulimia, and exercise control will be a lifelong struggle. I don't think she'll ever recover from it.
@@edp3202 It depends on how you conceptualize “recovery.” Sure, it’ll be a struggle but if she keeps learning as she ages (and I’m sure she will) it’ll get different.
I’ve always felt such compassion for people who struggle with eating disorders: Unlike alcohol or drugs they *have to* let that food lion out of the cage at least 3 times a day! Whew, such respect for everyone suffering with an ED who gets into recovery.
As someone who also has an abusive and narcissistic mother, this is the most beautifully empathic interview I've seen with Jennette. Hats off to you!
I love how the host crafted the questions. going into this I was expecting little bits of insensitivity and a lack of knowledge on sensitivity for these subject, but this host asks very good questions for expanding on feelings and her point of view instead letting her give some really good answers :). I also love how calm and slow he ask the question. makes the interview feel really respectful for the topic.
Tom Power is an excellent interviewer! both him and jennette are so well-spoken. it was like i was watching two friends catching up, lol
You are helping so many people heal 🙏🏻💙. Here’s to your healing as well.
I'm so happy she knows she not alone anymore and that she's telling her story so others know their not alone I understand beyond word thank you and Goodluck
this was a lovely interview. felt very humanizing. no judgment, just two people talking and empathising.
I love that Jennette said that she’s happy that people still watch her on Nickelodeon it’s great to see that she’s happy that people like to watch her on Sam and Cat and iCarly even though she didn’t want to do the reboot, it’s great that she did the right thing of retired from acting. I read her book and listen to her narrated, and it makes total sense of what she went through and it’s so sad. I can definitely understand why her mom forced her to do acting I met her along time ago back in 2011.
A few days ago, I didn't know who Jennette is. I had never seen her on TV. I read her book, and it really resonated on many levels. I have great respect for her. Thanks for this interview.
Amazing interview Tom!! He really listens, unlike a lot of these that I've seen
My heart really aches for Jenette. That book is so well written in that you really get the full picture, even though the lens of her younger self. I hope that she continues to heal and do what she wants to in life, after a lifetime of being told what to do x
My girl deserves the world gotta love her ❤️🥺
It's sad that a lot of people actually live their dream through their kids and most of the time the children are miserable but the parents never see it
I know it’s absolutely awful.
i think some parents do see it, but they shove it down and ignore it because they get so much joy and euphoria from living vicariously through their child
These kinds of mommy dearests see us as nothing more than extensions of themselves. We are more than invalidated: We, as unique human beings in our own right don’t exist in their world. We enrage them because we were never given our “scripts” so inevitably we’re never enough, never good enough and an unredeemable failure as a child and later as adults. Of course, the problem is always us according to mommy dearest. Apparently we failed to “child” correctly. /s
It’s actually insane to me and I don’t get it
That or they do and don't care because they want that Hollywood money. I already know my mother would've fed me to the wolves if it meant she was getting thousands of dollars.
Wow, that was better than any other interview I’ve seen.
Absolutely agree with everyone commenting on how great this interviewer is and I want to add that he was so respectful with her not wanting to answer any questions about Dan Schneider. I’ve seen so many other interviews where people have pushed to get her to talk about it and I love how he immediately moved on when it was clear it wasn’t a topic she wanted to touch on. Well done Tom Power
I've appreciated hearing that grief can be simple. Thank you for this episode ❤️
I related to this book so much. Jennette has continued to inspire me all thru my teens and into my late 20s even now
I wish I was as gracious and articulate when it comes to describing my narcissistic mother. Such strength and resilience this woman has. I hope and pray she finds peace, true lasting peace, in Jesus Christ. Praying for you, dear Jeannette.
what an amazing interview and interviewer. Standing ovation to both
Honestly she puts it well the feeling of loving a parent but also seeing how they're abusive. Most ppl just don't understand that duality
She’s so likable.
I was stunned the first time I heard Jennettes story
I think that you needed so much the help and support of your father, have a good day!
If you liked her book, I suggest reading The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls and Chanel Bonfire by Wendy Lawless.
Both are memoirs about women who grew up with similar mothers to Jeanette McCurdy.
I'm about half way through the book and it's been a really great read. I don't know if she's covered it in her book, but I really wonder about her family and what happened after her mother passed away. I imagine a lot of people were strongly affected by her mother and while her passing may have eased some tensions, her mother also seemed like the glue that kept everyone and everything together through force of willpower alone. I can imagine the relief but also wonder what challenges everyone in her family had to face personally and together after her mother had passed. I also think that some of us that may have been attention starved by our parents may have played the same role as Jennette did when she was young. How many of us wanted to make mommy or daddy proud and what would we have done to earn their appreciation or avoid their scorn. The interview was nice, but it really just covered most of the things in the book, so I was a little disappointed that there wasn't much new information. The two of them calorie restricting together really reminds me of junkies hanging out with other junkies. Not meaning anything disrespectful with that comparison other than that you want to be with people who understand and support your addiction to both help you feed that addiction and to feel normal/accepted for it.
I read the book entirely and the death of her mom, also relief so many other people. She never 'glued' the family lol. She was a monster who terrorizes everyone's around.
She (the monster, I mean, mom) actually pull apart the entire family
@@ikmedialuna Thanks for your comment. Perhaps my analogy other the mother being glue wasn't the best to use. I just meant, that she kept them all together to have to deal with her. So while she was alive, they all were glued to her (attentive), but without that, did they feel freedom, or did they miss having something there due to all the negative psychological consequences of her existence? Cheers!
She doesn’t quite get into it but there was a huge plot twist regarding their father.
@@mirandataylor6385 Oh! Haven't reached that yet... >< Now I want to get back to reading to find out. hehehe. Thanks for the comment!~
@@nicholascowling7052 Absolutely. It’s always the sickest, most twisted individual in the family who demands everyone dance attendance on their whims, walk on eggshells but if they’re able to, get OUT ASAP. These mommy dearests do NOT a get better with age.
I wonder if she's reached out to like, Amanda Bynes or any of the other Nickelodeon alumni to just....let them know they're not alone. Actually, I hope Amanda Bynes is seeing Jenette speak out and I hope it helps her heal too.
My favorite interview so far. Just wonderful. The interviewer questions is wonderful!
Just ordered her book. Godspeed her healing and the same to her former coworkers. ❤
What a wonderful interview! I think I love her even more now!!! Definitely love the truth that's just pouring out. I can literally feel her trauma being released by doing this!!! Wow this takes balls!!!! I too had a similar experience with both my parents. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable in order to heal Jeannette!!! This touched me so much. Thank you. Thank you for telling the world four story and sharing what helped you heal. Truly inspiring!!!
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DV Survivor
She speaks so thoughtfully and beautifully that I feel compelled to get her book!
I hope u got it its an amazing read
The interview was very well executed; both parties involved were on the same page and they meshed well. It gave a lot of room for Mccurdy to sort out her responses and still chime in with banter. Also the fact that both used CBT to help process things is such a great and validating moment. How many interviewers can relate to an aspect of recovery to the person they're interviewing? They've connected on a more emotional level and gives more validation for those who consider CBT bc look, it can be talked about normally!
It's a weird thing to say but my favorite question was, in regards to Mccurdy's therapy, asking "when" she decided to look for help. What was it that made her want to recovery? It's a good question to ask.
Thank you for such an understanding and fairly therapeutic interview. I hope you and Mccurdy do end up doing thr shirts idea and we can see them on your next session!
Tom is in a league of his own as an interviewer. He creates a safe environment and always comes to the table with researched, thoughtful questions.
This was a great interview and an amazing story by Jennette!
Intelligent, respectful, understanding conversation. I love to see it. Thank you Janette for being open about your experience so others can relate to a not uncommon experience.
How could a mother encourage their child to be anorexic. I struggled with it when I was a teen and I would never want that for my child.
Shes such a sweetheart I bought the book instantly and the receptionist at my moms cancer center had a copy on her desk lol
This interview is simply perfect 🤍 well spoken, thoughtful, real. I connected with this alot. We truly are all one. Sending Love 💗
gosh you can tell she loved the questions in this interview
Best interview I’ve seen of her and her book. Very well done. Excellent questions. So good
She would be such a great mom if she ever decides to become one ❤️
Great interview, in depth but respectfully done.
What an excellent interviewer. I wish this could have been longer
Such a brilliant interview 💗
I remember watching Icarus and all those other shows when I was younger and would think those actors must be having the time of their life. It’s crazy to now know what they were going through.
Great interview! I love how respectful the interviewer is. He really hears her and moves on when necessary.
This guys approach was so respectful. Lovely interview. :3
I might even pick up the book at some point.
There is a healing aspect of talking about things that happened. I hope in writing her book she finds healing
Bless her heart
One of the best interview questions I think I’ve ever seen in my entire life. Great approach and great conversation no one cut each other off or felt uncomfortable!
Wow i learned so much listening to this interview. For starters the interviewer did a great job with the questions & creating a safe space. It’s also interesting to hear how she navigated having an eating disorder while playing a character who loved food. I loved iCarly growing up so to hear some of the behind stories you just never know. I also loved how she talked about self doubt with her decision making & how she knew the choices she made was for the best. I still struggle with self doubt & I appreciated hearing this
Out of every show dan schneider was a part of there was at least one actress that had problems. Dont forget about amanda bynes
When Jennette talked about how finding humor in the trauma doesn't discredit her past self, it reminded me of something Ms. Pat frequently says: "If you can laugh at it, that means you have control of it." This seems like something that is getting lost in the mental health conversation these days. Obviously there is a time and place for humor on sensitive topics, but finding a way to laugh can be very cathartic and healing as well.
@samischism-yeess, another Ms. Pat fan! I agree with you entirely. This young lady is not someone I’m familiar with but this interview and interviewer were excellent. I’m sure MANY of us know what it’s like to have a “mother” of this ilk. Thanks for posting!
“Grief can be simple.” Wow!!!!