What a lovely video 💕 I‘m from Italy and having my first (unplanned) girl in May, and I‘m terrified of maybe not being able to pursue that sense of balance between caregiving and selfcare. What I find helpful in your video is the way you seem to be able to regulate your nervous system. It has a calming effect of my own nervous system as I listen to your voice. Thank you for sharing this content 🙏
@@spacecowsart2054 Isn’t it equally soooo terrifying and exciting at the same time? 🥹 I too got pregnant unexpectedly and was so unsure of what life was going to look like post-baby. I could have never imagined that it would be like this! It’s so beautiful, hard of course, at times, but I feel more like myself than I ever have. I feel like that par is not reflected often when talking about motherhood, which I hope to reflect more in our little reflection of life. Regulating your nervous system should have been on my list of things to learn/do hahaha. Thank you so much for your comment and love! I’m glad I could share this with you! And hi neighbour, we’re in Croatia!!
@ Absolutely love it! My partner is from here, and before us even meeting I always mentioned how wonderful it would be to have kids here since it’s amazingly safe! We’re in Split and he is from here, I’m so happy with the freedom she’ll have growing up since it’s a pretty big town yet small community (everyone knows eachother) 🥹
Hey girl!! I appreciate your video:) I am 30 weeks pregnant with my first kiddo and I'm excited but also extremely nervous as self-care has always been difficult for me. I hope that I'm able to commit to myself and prioritize me for not only my sake but for my son and my family!
Hi beautiful! Thank you for your comment, I so appreciate it 🥹 You are doing so amazing. I remember being in your exact position, worried and excited. Honestly, having our sweet girl was life changing for me, in the BEST way possible. I am more committed to myself, my purpose and truly being present in all the moments. You are going to be wonderful, the fact that you’re contemplating this means you’re very self aware, and your family will thrive because of it. If at any time you feel like you need advice or you have worries you’d like to speak on feel free to message me privately as well! ❤️ We all need a village.
Those blue lines on the front of the diaper tell you where the tabs should fasten. If they don’t reach that line, it means baby is ready for the next size diaper!😊❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Have you tried the bumco bum brush it's a applicator for rash cream and sunscreen it's silicone so it wipes off with a wipe and it keeps it off fingers and from under nails❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
@@REFUGEBOOKGIVEAWAY I haven’t! Are you loving it? I tend to just swipe away and somehow never have leftover cream under my nails 😂 some kind of witchcraft
I mean this with the upmost respect but putting yourself first in order to not lose yourself in motherhood is not being realistic ; not very helpful . I know what you mean is to make sure to take care of yourself but when you have a newborn baby it is the most important thing to provide care for that vulnerable life. So if I choose between feeding my baby or taking a shower. The shower can wait and the ideas that seem important on that personal looks basis is not important, what’s important is how I show up as a mother not as a thing to self actualise and start some strange thoughts on how to avoid taking to being a mother and have a content baby that’s happy. I honestly could not survive letting my baby cry to go take a bubble bath or read a book., makeup etc . I meditate but I do that while breastfeeding. Growth spurts are time intensive and there’s literally no way to have it all something’s gotta give and if you look too perfect I gotta ask where’s that nanny lol because most mums sacrifice. A mothers sacrifice is beautiful thing and I feel like encouraging selfishness is actually very damaging to all women.
@@lorelwebber6435 Hi love! Every baby is different, and every mom is different. I definitely created this video solely based off of my own experience (obviously hahaha). For me, putting myself first in order to be a better mother has definitely been possible. I take my baby with me while I shower (put her in her bouncer in the bathroom), she watches me as I get ready (which I do to feel good about myself), I take her with me on solo coffee dates (for my mental health). I would never suggest leaving baby to cry as you shower, I’m suggesting including them in the activity of taking care of yourself (as it seems you do as well! Breastfeeding and meditating!). I don’t have a nanny and honestly am not comfortable having anyone else take care of our baby, so this is from a solo experience. Selfishness to me is necessary. I KNOW I am a better mom through being selfish, WITHOUT sacrificing my baby’s health and wellbeing. I don’t believe I have sacrificed anything really while having baby, I don’t do some things I used to before becoming a mom, but none of that has been a sacrifice to me. I adore this new way of life and its hardships! Again, our experiences can co-exist whilst being completely unique and their own! You do what is best for you and your sweet baby. No one else can tell you what that is. Trust yourself, your intuition, your inner guidance. I am sending endless love to both you and your baby ❤️ And thank you for your comment ☺️
What a lovely video 💕 I‘m from Italy and having my first (unplanned) girl in May, and I‘m terrified of maybe not being able to pursue that sense of balance between caregiving and selfcare. What I find helpful in your video is the way you seem to be able to regulate your nervous system. It has a calming effect of my own nervous system as I listen to your voice. Thank you for sharing this content 🙏
Also what you say are really good points, but the way you speak is especially lovely
@@spacecowsart2054 Isn’t it equally soooo terrifying and exciting at the same time? 🥹 I too got pregnant unexpectedly and was so unsure of what life was going to look like post-baby. I could have never imagined that it would be like this! It’s so beautiful, hard of course, at times, but I feel more like myself than I ever have. I feel like that par is not reflected often when talking about motherhood, which I hope to reflect more in our little reflection of life. Regulating your nervous system should have been on my list of things to learn/do hahaha. Thank you so much for your comment and love! I’m glad I could share this with you! And hi neighbour, we’re in Croatia!!
@@nyshasere no way such a small world! I used to go to Croatia every summer, such a gorgeous place 😍 you like it there to raise a child?
@ Absolutely love it! My partner is from here, and before us even meeting I always mentioned how wonderful it would be to have kids here since it’s amazingly safe! We’re in Split and he is from here, I’m so happy with the freedom she’ll have growing up since it’s a pretty big town yet small community (everyone knows eachother) 🥹
@ awww so lovely!! I‘m glad to hear!! Yes Croatia is pretty safe, this area of Italy is too. We are blessed 🥰
Hey girl!! I appreciate your video:) I am 30 weeks pregnant with my first kiddo and I'm excited but also extremely nervous as self-care has always been difficult for me. I hope that I'm able to commit to myself and prioritize me for not only my sake but for my son and my family!
Hi beautiful! Thank you for your comment, I so appreciate it 🥹 You are doing so amazing. I remember being in your exact position, worried and excited. Honestly, having our sweet girl was life changing for me, in the BEST way possible. I am more committed to myself, my purpose and truly being present in all the moments. You are going to be wonderful, the fact that you’re contemplating this means you’re very self aware, and your family will thrive because of it. If at any time you feel like you need advice or you have worries you’d like to speak on feel free to message me privately as well! ❤️ We all need a village.
@nyshasere thank you! Yes, we do!!
Those blue lines on the front of the diaper tell you where the tabs should fasten. If they don’t reach that line, it means baby is ready for the next size diaper!😊❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Have you tried the bumco bum brush it's a applicator for rash cream and sunscreen it's silicone so it wipes off with a wipe and it keeps it off fingers and from under nails❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
@@REFUGEBOOKGIVEAWAY I haven’t! Are you loving it? I tend to just swipe away and somehow never have leftover cream under my nails 😂 some kind of witchcraft
@@nyshasere its very good for in public to
@@nyshasere it wipes off with a wipe
@@nyshasere it's on Amazon
If you don't do self care how can you have energy to give the baby self care
@@REFUGEBOOKGIVEAWAY Exactly! We need to take care of ourselves so we can take care of baby 🥹🤍
I mean this with the upmost respect but putting yourself first in order to not lose yourself in motherhood is not being realistic ; not very helpful . I know what you mean is to make sure to take care of yourself but when you have a newborn baby it is the most important thing to provide care for that vulnerable life. So if I choose between feeding my baby or taking a shower. The shower can wait and the ideas that seem important on that personal looks basis is not important, what’s important is how I show up as a mother not as a thing to self actualise and start some strange thoughts on how to avoid taking to being a mother and have a content baby that’s happy. I honestly could not survive letting my baby cry to go take a bubble bath or read a book., makeup etc . I meditate but I do that while breastfeeding. Growth spurts are time intensive and there’s literally no way to have it all something’s gotta give and if you look too perfect I gotta ask where’s that nanny lol because most mums sacrifice. A mothers sacrifice is beautiful thing and I feel like encouraging selfishness is actually very damaging to all women.
@@lorelwebber6435 Hi love! Every baby is different, and every mom is different. I definitely created this video solely based off of my own experience (obviously hahaha). For me, putting myself first in order to be a better mother has definitely been possible. I take my baby with me while I shower (put her in her bouncer in the bathroom), she watches me as I get ready (which I do to feel good about myself), I take her with me on solo coffee dates (for my mental health). I would never suggest leaving baby to cry as you shower, I’m suggesting including them in the activity of taking care of yourself (as it seems you do as well! Breastfeeding and meditating!). I don’t have a nanny and honestly am not comfortable having anyone else take care of our baby, so this is from a solo experience. Selfishness to me is necessary. I KNOW I am a better mom through being selfish, WITHOUT sacrificing my baby’s health and wellbeing. I don’t believe I have sacrificed anything really while having baby, I don’t do some things I used to before becoming a mom, but none of that has been a sacrifice to me. I adore this new way of life and its hardships! Again, our experiences can co-exist whilst being completely unique and their own! You do what is best for you and your sweet baby. No one else can tell you what that is. Trust yourself, your intuition, your inner guidance. I am sending endless love to both you and your baby ❤️ And thank you for your comment ☺️