My uncle loved a woman who was #4 of the 5 he mentioned and he didn’t marry her knowing she was too self absorbed. He chose a much better woman as a wife who takes good care of his son, him and the home. Very humble, pious and kind woman.
Allah please have mercy on me, I married a women with all these traits, she said her ex husband was better than me, and how she lost the love of her life and would go back and marry him if she had the chance while we were arguing. I stayed and destroyed myself being with her. It's time I let her go.
I feel sorry for you my brother. You probably had red flags before but ignored them from the love in your heart. This world is a cruel place. I hope you find your happiness in sha allah. If you're from Yorkshire drop me a message. We will go out and find someone more suitable for you 😂
the best solution: marry the one with the correct aqeedah. the one who follows the quran and sunnah properly. the one who knows the rights of her husband and have knowledge or she'll accept what's from authentic sources. meaning, she'll be a learner. vice versa for sisters choosing a man.
Ask people who know her, e.g. family, friends, teachers, etc. always make mashwara with people who will have your best interest in mind. May Allah Ta’ala make it easy for us all in sha Allah
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May Allah the almighty bless, guide, and protect him, and grant him long life with good health, full of blessings and increase him in taqwa, and knowledge and give him children who will be more Allah fearing and more knowledgeable than him.
Salamun alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakathuh, But in Islam we are not supposed to observe like that yes. How would one know abt this? Usually in Islam if we like someone we send a proposal through our family member but how can one guess while fixing abt these qualities. One can only observe these after marriage.
@@deltaechomusicnh555 my father has already told everyone of her good character, how she never complained and how patience she was, secondly non of these characteristics are of people who do it closed door, women complains out in open not closed door. And shame on you on doubting and making a slander statement about a good woman like my mom, that also tells me which kind of characteristics you have.
But subhanaLah!! what to do if I discover that she is like this once married...? How could I've known it before married? is there a method? JazakumuLah al khayr
You get an idea about how she will be by looking at their parents, and their close knit. But you obviously don't get the full picture until you marry. So make Dua!
But how can one know if she has these characteristics before marriage? Only maybe the overly talkative trait will be visible before settling in. The other 4 is a gamble. Sure you can ask subtle and leading questions to get a read on her, but people always show their best side when dealing with new people.
So what are 5 kinds of traits that muslim women should avoid when looking for a spouse. Saying men should be good to their women folk it's not enough. Please go into detail and state the 5..
@@amatulfulani6390Thanks for bringing out logic. Many naive people, have this belief that western women are all bad and eastern women are good. That’s not how life works. It’s a person to person thing.
@@betterme-h1t yes some shyness is good, but i’m talking about the extreme level. Where people can’t even order food on a drive thru or wont connect with others because they are afraid to meet new people or who are too afraid to raise their voices and defend themselves when someone does them bad. They get nervous and have mental breakdown just by thinking about it. That level cannot be good And yes there are those people that exist
As Salamu Alaykum which is why the brother mentioned at 2:30 (around) as long as it doesn’t go out of the norm, because that is what makes women women.
By norm I think the brother means the sisters do have these characteristics but as long as they’re discipled and fear Allah then it should be fine so they can control them and actually appreciate what they have and look after the home and not fall into sin because of the nature
Like for example the brother said women love beauty (and men love looking at it) but what is extreme and what you should avoid is that they get so preoccupied that they forget their family and first and foremost Allah which is what the brother in short said
But how can one know if she has these characteristics before marriage? Only maybe the overly talkative trait will be visible before settling in. The other 4 is a gamble. Sure you can ask subtle and leading questions to get a read on her, but people always show their best side when dealing with new people.
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My uncle loved a woman who was #4 of the 5 he mentioned and he didn’t marry her knowing she was too self absorbed. He chose a much better woman as a wife who takes good care of his son, him and the home. Very humble, pious and kind woman.
Allah please have mercy on me, I married a women with all these traits, she said her ex husband was better than me, and how she lost the love of her life and would go back and marry him if she had the chance while we were arguing. I stayed and destroyed myself being with her. It's time I let her go.
May Allaah grant you ease and grant you the best of wives. Aameen.
Let her go if you tried everything according to the sunnah…dont let her destroy your life…Allah and his messenger are more important than her.
100% may Allah guide us
You lost your mind and didn’t respect yourself. That ex husband was desecrating her insides. You are nothing for her.
I feel sorry for you my brother. You probably had red flags before but ignored them from the love in your heart. This world is a cruel place. I hope you find your happiness in sha allah. If you're from Yorkshire drop me a message. We will go out and find someone more suitable for you 😂
the best solution: marry the one with the correct aqeedah. the one who follows the quran and sunnah properly. the one who knows the rights of her husband and have knowledge or she'll accept what's from authentic sources. meaning, she'll be a learner. vice versa for sisters choosing a man.
Alhamdulillah
Mashallah nice teaching
SubhanahAllah
Excellent naseeha'
Jazakallah Khair 💚
وأنت فجزاك الله خيراً
جزاكم الله خيرا وبارك الله فيكم
02:18 OMG! Thank you for also saying this.
💯 No one is perfect!
How you suppose to know before you’re married to them ?? I don’t even get this.
Same question, I imagine these traits don't come out by simply talking before nikah. How do we find out if she has one of those traits?
@@M.Nimaynb I don’t understand either, makes no sense in my opinion. You find out people traits after you get married.
Ask people who know her, e.g. family, friends, teachers, etc. always make mashwara with people who will have your best interest in mind. May Allah Ta’ala make it easy for us all in sha Allah
Maybe it's advising early signs to leave before kids come in the picture?
Easy, marry someone religious
You find and know of all these types of woman after marriage not before. You can’t avoid things about someone that you don’t know of yet.
There are signs when the proper questions are asked beforehand
Easy, marry a woman who is religious
Not true….we lack discovery skills
@@UncleSaif any tips on how to uncover these types of woman
@@Soyodithere is someone who explained some tips, top of the comments
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It's actually sad. If you do not like it, just don't comment. I don't know why people have to bring down the Ustadh for narrating Ahadith.
I thought according to hadith it's better to speak only when absolutely important and useful and good and therefore #5 should be as absent as possible
Is Abu hameed alghaali asha’ari
May Allah the almighty bless, guide, and protect him, and grant him long life with good health, full of blessings and increase him in taqwa, and knowledge and give him children who will be more Allah fearing and more knowledgeable than him.
Sir
But how you may become familiar with such girls before marriage..
😂😂😂whatever rocks yr boat brother
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He's right tho
Maashaallaah ustadh
What can I do if I am in a bad marriage by marrying the wrong woman and also have children with her? My marriage is hell.
Stop listening to this guy
May Allah make it easy for you, the prophet said overlook her bad traits, maybe Allah has placed some kheyr in what you dislike.
@@KK-by1ms why?
How long you been married for?
@@Mohmeetsworld 4 years
Right bro thanks
Assalaam Alaikum Shaik. But how do we know her qualities like these before marriage. 😊
A brother has mentioned in the comments section, that may help
Salamun alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakathuh,
But in Islam we are not supposed to observe like that yes. How would one know abt this? Usually in Islam if we like someone we send a proposal through our family member but how can one guess while fixing abt these qualities. One can only observe these after marriage.
What if these habits are in a man ?
Any transgressing attributes in a gender is an alarm. Ustadh has spoken about men many times as well.
Really pls share @@authenticislamreminders
all humans arent the same so it makes sense that all their marriages arenr the same either.
That’s not an excuse for having bad character. The sheikh is saying don’t go overboard.
😂
Alhamdulillah my mom had non of these, she was the best of the best.
How would you know? Only your farther knows behind closed doors.
@@deltaechomusicnh555 my father has already told everyone of her good character, how she never complained and how patience she was, secondly non of these characteristics are of people who do it closed door, women complains out in open not closed door. And shame on you on doubting and making a slander statement about a good woman like my mom, that also tells me which kind of characteristics you have.
@@deltaechomusicnh555You're out of touch there, friend. A child grows up with her parents and doesn't know who they are?
May Allah grant her firdaws!
But we can all agree that the best women ever lived were Sayidna Mariam (Mary A.S.) and Khadija (R.A). My opinion!
@@bramkayser3194 Ameen. Indeed they are among best women and may Allah make women like us follow them in this world, Ameen.
But subhanaLah!! what to do if I discover that she is like this once married...? How could I've known it before married? is there a method? JazakumuLah al khayr
You get an idea about how she will be by looking at their parents, and their close knit. But you obviously don't get the full picture until you marry. So make Dua!
You don’t-but you now know that if you catch one of these traits beforehand, it is a red flag
ask around about her
ask her family , friends etc
And also the woman who married to their smartphone, on their phone too much!!!
But how can one know if she has these characteristics before marriage?
Only maybe the overly talkative trait will be visible before settling in. The other 4 is a gamble. Sure you can ask subtle and leading questions to get a read on her, but people always show their best side when dealing with new people.
You can ask her relatives and family members how she regularly behaves
How can one even find this out before marriage brother?
You can't find all these qualities before marriage akhi. Just make Dua, and look at the family to judge the person.
Do we have a 5 kinds of men you shouldn't marry as well?
Probably on a toxic feminists page. Look there.
The rights of both genders is very different. Men are supposed to be the best with their womenfolk.
So what are 5 kinds of traits that muslim women should avoid when looking for a spouse. Saying men should be good to their women folk it's not enough. Please go into detail and state the 5..
Are they?@@authenticislamreminders
@Diamond-Essence of course if I don't get an answer to a straight forward question here, rather a reply laced with bigotry .
These five traits sound like every Westernised woman.
Wrong. That’s a generalization. People have diverse personalities regardless of what part of the world they are in. It’s not a Western/Eastern thing.
@@amatulfulani6390Thanks for bringing out logic. Many naive people, have this belief that western women are all bad and eastern women are good. That’s not how life works. It’s a person to person thing.
Therapy
jazakAllah
How to know that this woman is such problems?? You
𝗺𝗲𝗻????
What about men?
@authenticislamreminders types of men
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I don't want any dunia just hijrah and focus on diin with my kids lol
How about a loud and/or foul mouthed woman? Or an extremely introverted/shy woman.
I think brothers should watch out for those too
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with an extremely shy person. I’m fact that’s great. The prophet said shyness is from eman
@@betterme-h1t yes some shyness is good, but i’m talking about the extreme level. Where people can’t even order food on a drive thru or wont connect with others because they are afraid to meet new people or who are too afraid to raise their voices and defend themselves when someone does them bad. They get nervous and have mental breakdown just by thinking about it. That level cannot be good
And yes there are those people that exist
shy wmn are the bst. they will imrpove after marriage.
@@Kuzon13 I see what you mean.
@@Kuzon13 What you're talking about is not shyness. That's social anxiety
Aztaghfirullah!!!!!!!
All women have all these charecteristics 😭
As Salamu Alaykum which is why the brother mentioned at 2:30 (around) as long as it doesn’t go out of the norm, because that is what makes women women.
By norm I think the brother means the sisters do have these characteristics but as long as they’re discipled and fear Allah then it should be fine so they can control them and actually appreciate what they have and look after the home and not fall into sin because of the nature
Like for example the brother said women love beauty (and men love looking at it) but what is extreme and what you should avoid is that they get so preoccupied that they forget their family and first and foremost Allah which is what the brother in short said
However the brother did say if the marriage is good then keep it, keep in mind both sides have to be good. The man and the woman
Untrue
But how can one know if she has these characteristics before marriage?
Only maybe the overly talkative trait will be visible before settling in. The other 4 is a gamble. Sure you can ask subtle and leading questions to get a read on her, but people always show their best side when dealing with new people.