I have a question on step 4. Could it also be possible that the ex sees you with others, takes it at face value, and thinks you've moved on and so won't try again? Also, if you're not reaching out, how would the ex know you're dating? Grapevine? Is this workable when dealing with someone on the spectrum? Step 5 laid out: 1. Stay positive, upbeat, and friendly, so that even the smallest interactions are enjoyable. Stay away from heavy topics. 2. Stay cool, no matter what happens. 3. Be confident in your self-worth. You have a history together. Share some details about what has happened since you talked. 4. Make some mystery and intrigue about what you've been doing. 5. Don't be too available/pushover. Make sure your ex knows you have other things in life, not just him or her. 6. Flirt and build sexual tension.
Your ex will only really miss you if there is something to miss. i.e: you're enjoying your life and moving on, possibly having other women seeing your value. Yes, through grapevine and/or social media which you can leverage to your advantage. It's something I discussed here: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html The more genuine you're healing and enjoying life without your ex, the more naturally this will fall into place. Hire me as your coach so I can help guide your actions every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Good luck!
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Hey brad...my boyfriend broke up with me because I lashed out in the heat of the moment...but I have always been a calm person..this was the first time..but he left for that...he insulted me many times before and after our relationship...I forgot and forgave everything and kept him important....but the one time I lashed out he left me....I want to make everything right...i apologized to him and currently in no contact...he still wears the ring and bracelet I gave him and still keeping my photos in his phone....is there a chance that he realises everything and come back to me...I'm currently in no contact.....I have always been a calm person and that was the reason he started to like me in the first place...but no one is perfect right...I also have my times of ups and downs....will he come back to me.....
Give yourselves time to take a breather first. It looks like he's shocked by your reaction (when you lashed out) and reacted in the worst possible way. As to your chances, I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. However, do keep in mind that each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Yeah they were dumb... They always said I treated them better than anyone else ever has . They said a lot how they needed me every day. I was there everything. Then they just dumped me over the phone and NOT in person. And didn't want to work on stuff. I'm so heartbroken 💔 they blocked me on everything except Instagram.
Really sorry to hear that. Did you chase initially? What happened? Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Shes never getting back with me... unfortunately i was the one that messed it up. I tried to fight for my relationship AGAIN!! But she refused. So im working on myself. I'm not even messaging her.
Good! Looks like you're getting yourself back on track irrespective of whether you do end up together again or not. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Do limited contact instead and keep any conversation you have strictly work-related, especially the first 30 days after the breakup. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
*HERE IS A GOOD ONE BELOW* I broke up with my ex because they physically assaulted me. After leaving the house, my ex's windows were smashed. When I returned several days later, my ex called the police and falsely accused me of smashing the windows, which led to my arrest. However, the charges were dropped by the authorities. Should i contact my ex first?
In this case wait for your ex to contact you first but consider moving on from this. Loss of trust and violence, these are toxic traits present in your relationship and if you two get back together, chances are you two will follow the same pattern. Might be best to consider cutting your losses and find someone more suitable, yeah? Good luck!
Brad my name is chris.my girlfriend of 9 months broke up with me three weeks ago..i lied to her for a bunch of months..iam Absolutely destroyed..can i get her back?
Hey, Chris! I take it she found out about the lies? Do your best to apologize but then give her the space to process what happened and forgive you accordingly, if she can. Forcing things will only lead to disaster so it's important to get ahold of yourself, yeah? As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
If your ex left you then they clearly don't want you in their life so why would you start communicating with them makes no sense and it's disrespect getting them to talk to you if they don't want to. No contact period should only end when they contact you first they left you so its their job to reach out not yours and by you reaching out first your also easing their pain of missing you
Honestly true, tbh the more you fight back on their decision. The more they push you away. Even if its indirect contact. She/he will always try to find a way to disrespect you if you try to contact them. Trust. If if you are being respectful in your contact, they will purposely take it as a sign of disrespect and sens disrespect back in tenfold. So if anything. Let go, and move on to someone else, and make them regret leaving you by investing into yourself, and upgrading your value. Because the perfect bf, and when they come back. Don't be bitter, be forgiving and make them feel guilty for all they did against you. Don't attack them. Let their guilt eat them from the inside out. Make them feel like garbage by exposing their ugly side to them and say that if they hadn't done this this and this you would have gave them positive things. Again, attack their actions and what they had full control over. Make them hate themselves not you.
I broke up with my ex because they physically assaulted me. After leaving the house, my ex's windows were smashed. When I returned several days later, my ex called the police and falsely accused me of smashing the windows, which led to my arrest. However, the charges were dropped by the authorities. Should i contact my ex first?
@davidallahgod3217 NO, no one supports an abusive relationship. Most breakups are lack of communication and lack of attraction. If you're abuse take time to heal & love yourself. Let that Ex go
In my many years of coaching, I say everyone has different reasons for doing so, but a lot of the clients I've coached wanted to try to give it one last shot so they can move on without regrets or wondering about the what-ifs, particularly if it was a significant relationship to them. And no, I never forced anyone to talk to an ex which is why I often suggest to employ the 30-day no contact rule right away because I find some, if not most people resort to begging/pleading/negotiating a breakup which is the worst move as mentioned on this vid.
My ex broke up with me on July 3 and then text me on July 5. Wanted to know if I could hang out and then he said maybe I’ll come down sometime I don’t know. I’m not sure what to think about this because usually when a guy breaks up with me they’re done they’re done. They don’t contact me ever again.
Get my coaching program if you're wanting to try something but hesitant if it's a good idea or not or need overall guidance on what to do and for me to take a closer look whether or not there's still a real chance you can get your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but also take the free quiz to see what your chances are for yourself, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hi brad Me &my gf brekup around 10months back i tried alot to convince her but it not worked ..she is in another relation but now she is regerting with that decision ..and also she is refusing me to contacting her 2 dys before i met her we went for drive and cafe she her action towrds me is feel she is still loving me ..she is touching my hand she pinching me luaghing with me and i gifted a dress for her ..aftr meet up she messaged sorry for all she donno wht to do…she said that she can feel now me… Now she is calling me but something missing in our conversation .. can u help me please
If she's already regretting her decision, then wait for her action to follow suit. That's something she can only do for herself and her own life. If she meant what she said and if you play your cards right, then it's highly likely you'll get back together. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/v-deo.html Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see more progress with your ex but still feel somewhat stagnated, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ua-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/v-deo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I hear you. The first two weeks of a breakup are the most devastating. Try to stay calm and know that you're not alone. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
Your video makes complete sense. Well done! Best part - if the ex doesn’t come back - you’re a better person for someone else
Thanks for your kind words. Feel free to check out my other vids for more tips!
I have a question on step 4. Could it also be possible that the ex sees you with others, takes it at face value, and thinks you've moved on and so won't try again? Also, if you're not reaching out, how would the ex know you're dating? Grapevine?
Is this workable when dealing with someone on the spectrum?
Step 5 laid out:
1. Stay positive, upbeat, and friendly, so that even the smallest interactions are enjoyable. Stay away from heavy topics.
2. Stay cool, no matter what happens.
3. Be confident in your self-worth. You have a history together. Share some details about what has happened since you talked.
4. Make some mystery and intrigue about what you've been doing.
5. Don't be too available/pushover. Make sure your ex knows you have other things in life, not just him or her.
6. Flirt and build sexual tension.
Your ex will only really miss you if there is something to miss. i.e: you're enjoying your life and moving on, possibly having other women seeing your value. Yes, through grapevine and/or social media which you can leverage to your advantage. It's something I discussed here: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html The more genuine you're healing and enjoying life without your ex, the more naturally this will fall into place. Hire me as your coach so I can help guide your actions every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Good luck!
don't get back together and safe yourself some time
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Hey brad...my boyfriend broke up with me because I lashed out in the heat of the moment...but I have always been a calm person..this was the first time..but he left for that...he insulted me many times before and after our relationship...I forgot and forgave everything and kept him important....but the one time I lashed out he left me....I want to make everything right...i apologized to him and currently in no contact...he still wears the ring and bracelet I gave him and still keeping my photos in his phone....is there a chance that he realises everything and come back to me...I'm currently in no contact.....I have always been a calm person and that was the reason he started to like me in the first place...but no one is perfect right...I also have my times of ups and downs....will he come back to me.....
Give yourselves time to take a breather first. It looks like he's shocked by your reaction (when you lashed out) and reacted in the worst possible way. As to your chances, I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. However, do keep in mind that each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Yeah they were dumb... They always said I treated them better than anyone else ever has . They said a lot how they needed me every day. I was there everything. Then they just dumped me over the phone and NOT in person. And didn't want to work on stuff. I'm so heartbroken 💔 they blocked me on everything except Instagram.
Really sorry to hear that. Did you chase initially? What happened? Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Same here this happened at the same point last year.However it happened again this year she's already started to reach out for minute reasons
I don't feel as heavy as I did last time
Shes never getting back with me... unfortunately i was the one that messed it up. I tried to fight for my relationship AGAIN!! But she refused. So im working on myself. I'm not even messaging her.
Good! Looks like you're getting yourself back on track irrespective of whether you do end up together again or not. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
I work with my ex. Its a situation i have yet to find a video on.
Do limited contact instead and keep any conversation you have strictly work-related, especially the first 30 days after the breakup. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
What if you don't contact them? They always reach out and I respond?
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
*HERE IS A GOOD ONE BELOW*
I broke up with my ex because they physically assaulted me. After leaving the house, my ex's windows were smashed. When I returned several days later, my ex called the police and falsely accused me of smashing the windows, which led to my arrest. However, the charges were dropped by the authorities.
Should i contact my ex first?
In this case wait for your ex to contact you first but consider moving on from this. Loss of trust and violence, these are toxic traits present in your relationship and if you two get back together, chances are you two will follow the same pattern. Might be best to consider cutting your losses and find someone more suitable, yeah? Good luck!
Brad my name is chris.my girlfriend of 9 months broke up with me three weeks ago..i lied to her for a bunch of months..iam Absolutely destroyed..can i get her back?
Hey, Chris! I take it she found out about the lies? Do your best to apologize but then give her the space to process what happened and forgive you accordingly, if she can. Forcing things will only lead to disaster so it's important to get ahold of yourself, yeah? As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
If your ex left you then they clearly don't want you in their life so why would you start communicating with them makes no sense and it's disrespect getting them to talk to you if they don't want to. No contact period should only end when they contact you first they left you so its their job to reach out not yours and by you reaching out first your also easing their pain of missing you
Honestly true, tbh the more you fight back on their decision. The more they push you away. Even if its indirect contact. She/he will always try to find a way to disrespect you if you try to contact them. Trust. If if you are being respectful in your contact, they will purposely take it as a sign of disrespect and sens disrespect back in tenfold. So if anything. Let go, and move on to someone else, and make them regret leaving you by investing into yourself, and upgrading your value. Because the perfect bf, and when they come back. Don't be bitter, be forgiving and make them feel guilty for all they did against you. Don't attack them. Let their guilt eat them from the inside out. Make them feel like garbage by exposing their ugly side to them and say that if they hadn't done this this and this you would have gave them positive things. Again, attack their actions and what they had full control over. Make them hate themselves not you.
I broke up with my ex because they physically assaulted me. After leaving the house, my ex's windows were smashed. When I returned several days later, my ex called the police and falsely accused me of smashing the windows, which led to my arrest. However, the charges were dropped by the authorities.
Should i contact my ex first?
@davidallahgod3217 NO, no one supports an abusive relationship. Most breakups are lack of communication and lack of attraction. If you're abuse take time to heal & love yourself. Let that Ex go
In my many years of coaching, I say everyone has different reasons for doing so, but a lot of the clients I've coached wanted to try to give it one last shot so they can move on without regrets or wondering about the what-ifs, particularly if it was a significant relationship to them. And no, I never forced anyone to talk to an ex which is why I often suggest to employ the 30-day no contact rule right away because I find some, if not most people resort to begging/pleading/negotiating a breakup which is the worst move as mentioned on this vid.
My ex broke up with me on July 3 and then text me on July 5. Wanted to know if I could hang out and then he said maybe I’ll come down sometime I don’t know. I’m not sure what to think about this because usually when a guy breaks up with me they’re done they’re done. They don’t contact me ever again.
What if you have broken up 4 months ago, is it necessary for coaching, how highly successful is that? Been in no contact for 2 months
Get my coaching program if you're wanting to try something but hesitant if it's a good idea or not or need overall guidance on what to do and for me to take a closer look whether or not there's still a real chance you can get your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but also take the free quiz to see what your chances are for yourself, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hi brad
Me &my gf brekup around 10months back i tried alot to convince her but it not worked ..she is in another relation but now she is regerting with that decision ..and also she is refusing me to contacting her 2 dys before i met her we went for drive and cafe she her action towrds me is feel she is still loving me ..she is touching my hand she pinching me luaghing with me and i gifted a dress for her ..aftr meet up she messaged sorry for all she donno wht to do…she said that she can feel now me…
Now she is calling me but something missing in our conversation .. can u help me please
If she's already regretting her decision, then wait for her action to follow suit. That's something she can only do for herself and her own life. If she meant what she said and if you play your cards right, then it's highly likely you'll get back together. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/v-deo.html Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see more progress with your ex but still feel somewhat stagnated, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
5 months now😢
Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ua-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/v-deo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I am dying..but my nc hapoen on may 27
Stay strong my ex soon to be left me may 13th hope the best for you good luck
I hear you. The first two weeks of a breakup are the most devastating. Try to stay calm and know that you're not alone. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
How about a 4th chance lol
LoL
Haha
An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!