Sooooooo condescending. I wrote a comment before the interview ended, and now I’m a bit disgusted. I think she handled herself nicely and was very polite. It’s like now Kojo has a superiority complex. Repeating that she does not listen was sooooo rude. She answered the question. Just because she didn’t answer the way the almighty know it all Kojo wanted her to answer she doesn’t listen? She said earlier in the interview that she didn’t even remember getting into it with Justin. We can see she had multiple people coming at her. We only saw a few seconds on their interactions (while she was going at it with multiple people at the same time). Why are you so stuck on Justin? She said she was drunk, hungry, tired and felt attacked. What answer did he want from her? I didn’t even like her until this interview. You attacked her again just because you feel like you know more than her. I am highly disappointed in the way this was handled. This know it all attitude has to go….. don’t let the people in the live comments ruin you.
Oh my ....I hope Kojo watches the last 30mins back and learn from this. It was time to move on and he was antagonizing her because he was stuck on his perspective and not listening. She handled it well.
Looks Kojo too was tired and hungry being up from 3am to 5am. 😂😂😂 In all seriousness I feel like he didn’t expect it to be this easy with her so he tried to push her a little bit. Listen woman clearly said she has a light and dark side that she embraces so what was the point.
Kojo, you were very argumenative and ridiculed Alexis like she was a child. Stop overnalayzing the behavior of others; learn how to be non bias when interviewing.
Kojo was influenced by the negative behavior that Alexis exhibited on the show. I still think that she's a beautiful intelligent young woman. However, Alexis should've eliminated herself once she realized that the show was scripting her in a bad light.
We can agree to disagree. I will agree that Alexis needs to handle herself better when faced with conflict or when feeling attacked. In my opinion, Kojo wanted to push her buttons to see how she would react emotionally. The interview was conducted like an interrogation towards the last 30 minutes.
Kojo was right on with this woman, and recognized her BS, and illogical answers. She was the one who was argumentative. If Kojo said blue she said red. Silly.
Now, I can't sit here and hold Alexis accountable and not the interviewer Kojo. The interviewer sets the tone and should remain poised. I honestly didn't expect transparency from Alexis because she works in sales; most individuals in that industry have a bad habit of fast talking and ommitting the facts. Kojo should've moved on to the next topic because he was literally beating a dead horse; his irriation with Alexis was very noticeable, lol.
Professional therapists undergo years of education, training, and supervised practice to acquire the skills necessary to help others effectively.There is also a system to hold the people in this practice accountable. Without this background, an individual might give advice that is ineffective or even harmful. Participants on this show might not be prepared for the emotional impact of discussing deep personal issues, especially in a public forum where the audience is rude and icky and here to watch the downfalls of others. Without proper support structures in place, this type of UA-cam therapy could be harmful. The interaction where he wanted the lady to say accountability in his way was an example. It’s one thing to ask discovery questions but he wanted to label things and I’m not sure why the people who follow him aren’t able to see that this takes a certain level of skill and understanding on when to pause…he didn’t have that pause. I hope that he's trying to attract the people who are into gossip to his show in a unique way to share godly principles ...
I totally agree. I love watching Kojo. However, as a clinician this very sentiment is often on my mind and sometimes the diagnosing and therapizing makes it a bit difficult to watch. 🥺
@@Sdotwillyumsyes, when Jay said on a live few days ago that what Alexis had is a mental health issue and she kept on that point… I was just like 🥴🥴. How do you know….you don’t know this woman and you’re speaking so boldly on a public platform.. it becomes cringey sometimes
While Kojo, like most effective TV interviewers, utilize the same skills & engage in similar conversations as therapists, he isn’t a therapist. TV interviewers must be great listeners, ask good questions, & know how to digest & analyze the responses of the interviewees. Most importantly, he must know his audience, read their questions, & provide them with most of the information they want.
When driving in fog I was informed not to use bright lights, because it blurry to your vision. Turn don't the introspection of your guest. Underlined guests. Treat them as such. Love watching tho. If they answer dig in I guess on the guest.
I agree with Alexis. When someone is HEATED, you have to give them their space and not overcrowd them. When too many get involved , it can make the situation more volatile.
May I offer another critique coming from a place of goodheartedness: To me, You and your Super panel can come off as a bit "Superior" at times and less loving and more Judgy. I watched early on when you used to have Maria S. and others on and I didn't feel that way when I watched back then. I enjoyed viewing it more then than I do now. I tend to switch off or not view it in its entirety nowadays. Maybe you can switch the format or panelists from time to time, drop the word super, add more personal anecdotes or even a little humor. Take a poll of your viewing audience to see how they feel I might be an outlier.
Now this is a WORD. I thought I was the only one that noticed the MASSIVE judgemental vibe from the panel. ESPECIALLY CWAY specifically against Single people with children.
I agree wholeheartedly. Thus the reason why I unsubscribed sometime ago...Then I had to reflect... what or whom made me feel that they were above anyone else and it was that lady C-way. OH MY. Its like they rubbed off on Koj, cuz he was not like that at first. I actually miss the other panelist from the UK. The lady with the gap was super dope. But yea I agree 100% with every word u typed @caprixo.
As a Psychologist and Psychotherapist in the UK, this is not an accurate description of therapy. The therapists role is to provide the individual with unconditional positive regard (unwavering acceptance) and provide a supportive and stable frame to contain the individuals feelings in safety. Alexis’ reflections at the end were thought provoking but not able to be received at this point. I pray the Holy Spirit may bring it back to one’s remembrance in due course.
Indeed it is not therapy, it is an interview, however, many commenters were likening it to therapy. Research suggests that Black people are least likely to attend therapy but are over represented in the psychiatric system so it was pertinent to make the distinction so not to further deter our people from receiving the help they need. I pray your therapeutic journey provides you with all you require in your process of becoming. God bless
I’ve been watching Kojo’s interviews for a while, and they are becoming hard to watch. It’s seems that he’s becoming more arrogant. Before it felt like he was trying to understand people’s point of view, but now it feels like he wants to drive his points. It’s like he’s learning how to become a therapist and now he knows more than everyone else. I understand that some of these people may be delusional, crazy, unaccountable, etc. however, watching you get combative with them is very uncomfortable to watch. It’s like he wants them to admit whatever, and he’ll keep pushing them to say whatever he wants them to say. The audience isn’t stupid, we often see what he sees, he doesn’t need to do this. Also, CWay, whom I used to love, is also getting soooo negative in the comments ( also when she’s live commenting on other bloggers interviews). It’s becoming too much. Before I wound watch a panel without CWay, I still probably wouldn’t, but the live comments are just so mean. It’s like they are becoming bullies. I’m still going to try to support. I put your videos that I don’t care to watch on at night to fall asleep to just so you can get the spin (because I do like y’all, especially Sean). I miss “humble” Kojo, this “gotcha” Kojo is not very nice.
Thank you... I thought it was just me tripping. That lady C-way is wayyy to much. Like she thinks she is IT. Man she comes off very abrasive and a know-it-all. Honey I have my doctorate as well. + all that astrology (non-fact-based) talk is too much at times. Its a turn off.
After listening to her explanation of the situation, and knowing how things are cut out, it makes sense 💯. I agree that Justin nor Laron had any business addressing her in that way. When a person feels threatened or cornered, they absolutely come out swinging.
I’m not this huge Alexis fan. However, I 100% can see where she’s coming from with her explanation of her behavior at the reunion. I watched and immediately said that it was super disappointing to see Justin doing Meika’s bidding…sure, he was seated but his words and tone were bordering on aggressive/provocative and I TOTALLY get how that along with being surrounded with bodies and shouting and hands flailing, she came out swinging. I can say as a woman who’s never had a physical altercation in my life, it’s not that difficult to fathom her behavior in that moment.
I'm glad somebody said it. I don't condone her behavior she should have removed herself. BUT Justin was initially aggressive. I don't like when men call themselves checking women. He definitely did too much initially. I believe she felt bullied in that moment and it triggered her.
@@filmadcamp1512yes it was, he was saying she can’t calm down and move on. Alexis keeps yelling and then says she gonna jump on meeka then it got louder etc
@@krystala17 These women are so weird. They acknowledge her behavior was hella wrong but mad that Justin checked her. Justin is a teacher and she was acting like a petulant child so he probably reverted to how he deals with his students.
I loved her in this interview! She held her own and her responses were authentic. Kojo was going overboard asking her to explain why she said people were standing over her when she already explained it previously. She said we didn’t get to see that and that should’ve been the end of it. But great interview!
Facts! And he initially pissed me off when he kept having her repeat the facts of the girls recording her then the guy giving her a call and detailing exactly what she said. He tries to be such a therapist yet could grasp that, making her repeat it several times as if she was going to say something differently
Kojo, I really enjoyed this interview with Alexis. I commend her for being so open and sharing her background and experiences on the show. I always find your perspectives to be eye opening for so many reasons. As a supporter of yours who is rooting for you, and as someone who is on a journey to becoming a licensed social worker, I can agree with Alexis’ friend with the “therapist” question. I can tell you educate yourself well but what I find is missing is knowing when to move on. Some people are not ready or have not had enough of a reason in their lives to dig as deep as you want to go. A seasoned licensed professional would have pivoted a few times during this interview or switched up techniques. You cannot force someone to see or grow beyond where they are. You have to meet them where they are, or you can quickly lose trust, or credibility in their eyes. Most people struggle opening up in a safe environment meant to encourage the discussion of challenging topics such as in a therapist’s office, let a lone an interview on the internet where we know there is no protection against hateful comments or antagonists. That can actually be more harmful to someone who may already be struggling, and it can create more hostility. Again as a supporter and viewer I enjoy watching these interviews and I want to see more of the RTL cast members come on and share because I do find your style to be helpful to your community, but you would have to build that trust not just with them when you interview but even in all the Super Panels and other commentary. Saying this with love and I hope it’s received that way❤
KOJO!!! PLSSSSSS, she agrees with you in that she embarrassed herself. She could have handled it better- she days this over and over again. You are the one not listening!!
I agree with Alexis at the end she did take accountability I don’t know what Kojo was looking for. She said that the way she handled it was wrong meaning that her aggressiveness was the wrong way to have handled the situation. At first Justin was seated and then he got up when she turned to speak with Meika. So he did get up and I think when Kojo was asking the question she went to that. A lot was happening and I think for her to remember all of it when she was that angry is not fair. There were too many men around her and as a woman that’s intimidating even if they were trying to get her to leave.
The best historically? I need to watch again then. Lol. This interview felt the most different from any interview he has done b/c he just kept poking. The best has been Aries or Lee from last season for me.
Kojo.. Appreciate your interviews, but yea bro.. Alexis said it right , You are looking deeper into things that are at its bottom.. Respect her answer and move on bro..
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Unearthing and forcing people to revisit childhood trauma and connect with their actions, is a very dangerous hill to climb without giving people the necessary resources to support them with dealing with the trauma they just unearthed is dangerous. This is the work of a therapist. I have commented this before someone will one day get hurt or hurt themselves. I would suggest not forcing therapy on people and tapping on people's childhood therapy when you are not licensed to handle such things.
How many different times and in how many different ways can she take accountability? Kojo was poking the bear with this interview, and I didn't like his approach. She said she really felt that way, and she handled it poorly because of the alcohol. NOW WHAT? She said that EVERYTHING she did was NOT A REPRESENTATION OF WHO SHE IS WITHOUT ALCOHOL. He is beating a dead horse. As an interviewer know when to fall back.
I don't think he was trying to get her to be accountable for anything. He was just saying that what she took accountability for didn't happen the way she's saying it happened.
@@hope4me847he wasn't telling her to be accountable for anything, while telling her she wasn't being accountable for her actions. Doesn't made sense. Furthermore, she spoke on what actually happened not what we saw. What we see is not real. She spoke about the edits and how the make things look. She spoke on reality while all the views can speak on is perception
@@o2kute1 She also said she didn't remember all that happened, and that she was blackout drunk. According to what we saw Justing didn't stand up over her, and she said he did. When Kojo corrected her, she admitted he was right. So... she should have more info than we do, but she's still not being accountable for what actually happened. I cut up cause I was drunk is not accountability. I was responding to people standing up over me, isn't accountability. She wasn't taking accountability, and he wasn't requiring that she should. I think Kojo's point was that she didn't have to be accountable for anything, but what she is saying she's accountable for wasn't what took place that evening. Also, not apologizing to the people she acted up in front of is not accountability. Of course others might have been wrong in that moment, but she still is responsible for her actions & reactions.
As a (former) therapist, since we, apparently, have to state our credentials, I have to disagree with some of the comments I’ve seen. Kojo may not be a professional, but he is often spot on with his analysis of people. It rubs people the wrong way because they’re in denial and/or lack self-awareness and are afraid to be real with themselves. The only thing, with this interview that I will say could have been done differently, was that he could/should have moved on when Alexis was not open to hearing his perspective. Sometimes you just have to let people see for themselves, and allow the self-reflection and healing to occur on their own time. You can show someone, but you cannot make them see. ❤
Sometimes tough love reveals harsh truths and how we react to situations reveals that there's a deeper issue that is beyond apology. We heard the apology and changed behavior should be the next step.... ✌🏾
Alexis question was point on. Kojo youre not a therapist and trying to hyperanalyze people as if you are can be a huge turn off. Just stay in your lane as a blogger...vlogger...youtube personality...podcaster
No Kojo, you were refusing to listen to her. She clearly said multiple times she should not have behaved in that manner. Yet you kept bullying her saying she wasn't being accountable. She kept saying she handled it wrong. That means her actions. Why were you not understanding her. At that point, it seems as if your desire to give her ALL the smoke got in the way
Alexis did a great job answering the questions and sharing her views based on her experiences. But Kojo, who is not a trained professional, acted like one during the interviews. As someone who has been to therapy and is an experienced healthcare provider, I was a bit uncomfortable watching this interview and others. Interviewers should avoid projecting their experiences and trauma onto others, use the right approach, and ask the right questions. This way, the interviewee feels safe and not judged, and the interviewer can get the information they need to conduct a proper assessment. Kojo, It would also be great if you become familiar with the term "countertransference" because it blocks the ability to understand the person fully and can cause frustration, as shown by Alexis and many of Kojo's recent guests on the show.
Bro is weird always trying to diagnose someone and their childhood/past. The channel wasn’t always like this. Hes gone a little too far off the tracks.
You hit the nail on the head here ! I like watching Kojo but it does get tiring when he diagnoses people without even knowing the full story . He also has these sassy moments when the interviewee isn’t saying what he wants them to say. this interview is similar to when he had an interview with Kayla from ready to love Miami . Overly agressive and sassy for no reason ! Kojo, don’t let the growth of your channel get to your head
That was a great interview! I gotta admit I was really feeling her on why she reacted the way that she did. When you're on an island by yourself and they're all ganging up on you during the season and at the reunion it's hard to keep your composure. I love how she didn't double down when it came to her defending herself. I agree with her that the only people she owes an apology to are those who are important to her.
Kojo i heard you but you beat a dead dead horse. Learn to stop once you explain your thoughts She would have understand after the live interview. Don't school these people. It is condescending. Humble back off!!! These are your guest and use emotional intelligence.
I LOVE her . She’s no nonsense stood on business stood up for herself and she’s too real for this reality bs . I love her perspective and I agree about the over analyzing piece with Kojo . He does a bit much at times . Can’t tell people what they experienced . Especially off of an edited show.
She did mention multiple times that she takes accountability for her bad behaviour. She just didn't say it the way that others would've wanted her to say it.
Yes, I agree! She's clear about who she is. I appreciate her candor. I appreciated the perspective she shared. We do not know the full scope of what happened.
Kojo at times ur guest don’t have to agree with ur point. Alexis took accountability but you wanted her to say specific things you want to hear.. she apologized so let it be
@@LittleBlackBook91 She's providing feedback, you're being slightly defensive here by responding w/ a question. Some guests have agreed or said it was a different take to think about.
lol at Kojo asking her to take accountability the whole end of the interview and then refusing to take any himself at the very end and getting defensive. Come on Kojo, you can do better too. No need to get defensive.
thanks @Kojo, I appreciate your openess to feedback here. I would look at the 3:16:35 /around the time she’s saying could you see room for growth around being a little less harsh and instead of taking a pause to consider this you say « I could only go off what you give me » imo that was a bit defensive.
Kojo you and your SuperPanelists can show signs of defense when you guys are critiqued, (Jai not so much). I've been watching your show for years and I have seen some improvements with all of you but as humans, there is a defensiveness at times. To answer your question: You had a passive-aggressive tone in response to Alexis at the end of the interview and your Debrief today was defensive in nature.
Kojo owes Alexis an apology. He is doing too much and dragging her just like the cast did. He wasn’t there. He doesn’t know everything that happened so he can’t make judgments. How many ways does he want her to apologize?
He won’t see it . Him and his capers. He’s too busy stuck in his viewpoint and role as a “therapist” to see anything wrong with what he did . A bit condescending . Has a bit of a superiority complex. IMO and on this channel seems like you can’t have one if it doesn’t align with his views. Again IMO , respectfully.
I disagree! Alexis cannot come on the show and not get questioned on her behavior. She dances around the accountability issue the whole interview. It doesn’t matter what we saw, her aggression was not fake and I doubt this was a one moment deal. You just don’t show that much aggression out of nowhere.
I really don’t understand why what she said and how she apologized and explained the circumstances behind how she expressed herself wasn’t acceptable for Kojo. That last part was frustrating because she explained herself many times over and none of it was satisfactory to Kojo it seems. Trying to get a deep emotional revelation from a three hour session of the first interview that will be publicly released is a bit much. She gave what she gave and it was clear she was content with her truth and that was all she was willing to give.
@@Yespls888 I didn't see that at all. She did not avoid any questions and answered the SAME question about 6 times!! He was badgering and she didn't take the bait.
We are watching what they want us to see to “entertain”us and to gain views. Can we employ common sense? Or are we so desperately running from our own reality that we cannot recognize real from fake? She isn’t the first person who has said this. And if we are keeping it real… many are giving life to the drama they were looking to create. They did a good job. She started off talking about the reunion with accountability… what exactly are you looking for? We are getting a snap shot of a 12 hr reunion 🤯 Seems like you are fighting for her to submit to what you believe as if absolute truth rest in you? You are looking for evidence of what you already believe. I agree that he over analyzes many things. The truth unfolds... You don’t have to force it. Asking if he is in alignment with his beliefs was super on point.
Alexis admitted to having too much to drink because production provided very little food but plenty of alcohol. She said she was embarrassed when she looked back at the show but she doesn’t regret the things she said, just the way she said them. She apologized to her parents. Very long interview. The only women she liked on the show were Vanessa and Lelynn (sorry if that’s not her name).
Alexis didn’t give sexual energy to Jonathan but he still took advantage of a situation and made her uncomfortable. That alone disproves her comment abt “men give u what u give them“; these things do happen …wmn don’t always need to be giving off spicy/sexual energy to men for men to take it there with them. If anything, some men will be spicy/sexual with u to see how far the woman will let them go - she doesn’t necessarily have to have been flirtatious/sexual/spicy with him first.
Listening to this interview it provided a great deal of insight. Honestly, I think a lot of what Alexis said was relatable. It gave me a different perspective about her. One thing is crystal clear, there was so much more that happen off camera than on camera.
I totally feel the production of RTL has gone too far, and at this point are doing a disservice to this show, it’s participants and those of us who have been following the show…i noticed the decline especially following the Discovery Channel increasing it’s percentage of ownership of OWN, once they started enacting their changes in the lineup, etc . I can sympathize with what Alexis went through …. Also, why do i feel unsettled after watching this interview ? I pray that Alexis is blessed with peace moving forward.
Production clearly didn’t provide enough food and too much liquor. Why did they have liquor? I wonder if all reality shows have a bar? Even so, she had a choice. She could’ve had water as I noticed others did.
It has been said in past season reunions that production provides a small amount of food but plenty of liquor and have the participants on set for long hours
I think that’s the been the norm for this show in general for awhile. It likely was a slight contributing factor but definitely not totally to blame for this . Personal responsibility in this extreme of a response still has to be there .
For everyone in the comments--every person has rage and anger inside everyone does. Also everyone has some past trauma could be from childhood or from a specific event that happened to them. No one should be antagonized for showing up a certain especially when they have been poked and prodded. If she needs to be apologizing and embarassed then so does everyone who was in the chat putting her down and trying to take the things Kojo was asking her and turning them into some pretty bad judgement and scrutiny. I love RTL and I love the panels discussing their perspective but if any of them were on the chopping block they would feel the same way. I can’t sit here and enjoy someone antagonizing a person whether I liked the way they appeared on RTL or not. It’s disgusting and it’s not covering our black women…..it’s just not. What if she were your sister, your friend, relative, etc.??
Alexis made her point truthfully. Stop digging the more when you did not see entire filming. There was a totally wrong perception of Alexis. People are trying to trip her up again. Stop saying aggressive to a female. Sir you are upsetting her the more picking it apart the more even after she took accountability. She confessed. What more do you want. This is not right. God would forgive after a confession.
@@LittleBlackBook91 Simply put, I believe an apology to Alexis is warranted for forming a perception of her based on a limited series, publicly sharing these beliefs, and then engaging with her on your show without acknowledging her perspective. It seems that your approach was more about offering therapy to Alexis rather than conducting an interview. The distinction lies in whether you aim to shape a person's self-perception according to your views or to let them express their identity and beliefs. While I understand you're not a therapist and don't claim to be one, these are my reflections. I encourage you to listen with a spirit of empathy and understanding.
You should apologize for not listening to her. She took responsibility to what she did. Justin actually got really loud with her. Where's his accountability? He was yelling, she was yelling. Who's wrong???
Kojo was definitely not objective in the last 20 -25 minutes of this interview. Alexis took accountability for how she behaved and he still wanted to nitpick and make her relieved more more. It was both insensitive and unobjective. And he kept being like “well I watched it.” Dude, you saw the same edited stuff that the public saw, and she keeps telling you that you don’t know the whole story.
This is the first time I disagreed with Kojo’s approach. The last 30 minutes or so were unproductive. You were the one not listening Kojo. She took accountability but she’s not apologetic and that’s okay.
New to this channel. Caught the teaser clip of the interview with Alexis while scrolling and decided to watch. It started off good, but eventually, things went awkwardly left and downhill fast. Just my opinion, but I thought the interview (3 hours) was unnecessarily way too long, and the over-analyzing, long drawn-out questions became too cringy/clinical at times to watch. It felt like I was watching an old rerun tv show of Dr. Phil. Kudos to Alexis who stood her ground in answering these questions authentically and with poise. I don't condone her actions at the reunion, but under the circumstances, I do understand.
I’ve liked her from the beginning and I stand by it. She handled this a lot better than I could have. I love how she challenged him at the end but I don’t think he was picking up what she was putting down, unfortunately.
He definitely was picking up what she was putting down , which is why he responded the way he did . It’s what’s the manosphere (ie internet) calls “standing your frame “
Kojo… she was INTOXICATED & saw red!! She feels how she feels good, bad, or indifferent. And you feel how you feel. She’s an adult not a child, so stop trying to make her do or feel how you think she should. Smh!! This is not her everyday life & she doesn’t go around being this way which she explained already. This was her experience and no one can tell her anything different, especially when you weren’t there.
We can tell you're not a therapist, that was her point. She held her composure here cause i dont know if i could have behaved as civily as she did with this line of questioning. Not to mention, the smirks, about her not being open to others viewpoint when he himself isnt very open. I can clearly blame some of her behavior on the alcohol cause the tone ans tenor of this interview was garbage.
Has anyone had a child/children and they truly showed you who they are shortly after being born or within the first couple of years?(If that long) Stubborn, adventurous, passive, compliant, defiant, sensitive, anxious, daredevil, determined, curious, introverted, extroverted, calm, have a temper, bold, and the list goes on and on. We all have different personality traits. We all have areas that we need to work on and lessons to be learned. Some may have a hot temper, but others may need to be pushed to speak up for themselves. We are all on our own journey to grow in whatever area we need to grow in. No one is perfect, God knew what he was doing. Some will get it and others will go to the grave the same way they came here. In my opinion it's not always childhood trauma or a bad upbringing that causes us to be who we are as adults. My heart goes out to those who did go through trauma, or grew up in unfavorable conditions, because yes that will affect us as adults if not healed. Even with that, have you seen where one sibling will be motivated by it to do better and another sibling is 60 and still can't get over it? That's because you are handling it according to who you are. I'm not condoning her behavior on the show, but I'm sure she was one who did not take any mess from others when she was a toddler. Lol. A toddler can snatch a toy from another toddler and they will cry, take it from another and they will bite you. All three children have completely different temperaments. Just like she said, it's not a direct reflection on how she was raised. Sounds like she has a beautiful support system around her.
Im going to tell you just like this... Anybody accuse me of using drugs, knowing I havent touched a drug (outside of drinking socially).. Sober, or not, you are going to get BIG ENERGY from me. Alexis, I understand. PERIOD. Laron a sassy one for that.
I have a lot of respect for Alexis after this interview. Yes, she behaved badly and embarrassed herself. She apologized and now she can move on. Some of the other girls were mean, and messy too.
You can't ask close-ended or leading questions and then be surprised that people are calling you judgmental. I thought the interviewing style would've improved by now. ➡Solutions: Have a set of questions written down and prepared, the questions need to be open-ended and allow the interviewee to explain their experience and address a single point at a time. The icing on the cake would be to have a lesson that you want your audience to take away from watching the interview.
Was disappointed in the way you bullied this woman. Shame on you! Only made eye contact with her when you were talking to her. Refused to give her eye contact. Accused her of being aggressive. Meanwhile, you're passive-aggressive. Smh
I certainly have mixed feelings about Alexis but I absolutely love her deep connection to understanding all the parts that make her who she is. I'm in therapy and have only just started touching on that. The ending of the discussion was a little uncomfortable for me. Her personal critique easily fenced into the realm of attack but then moved back to critique because, in my view, Kojo gave her time- something the show does not have. Maybe this is part of the reason for various social fractures with this group??? Either way, another lovely interview, Kojo. Wishing Alexis the best and Kojo continued success.
From the start she said she watched prior videos and thought about where she would travel. You could tell that she watched prior interviews & thought when she gave that little prepared speech of her perfect childhood that was going to throw off his roots / tree analysis. But later she exposed herself talking about her southern upbringing and how children should be seen but not heard & how nobody’s interested in listening to a talkative 10 year old, stay in a child’s place. That’s why at the end she was questioning his qualifications. She couldn’t believe that a self proclaimed “Mississippi pimp” got read like that. 😂😅
I think it's important to accept and hold space for the perspective that some people may not know what their traumas are, especially if they are small and they don't see them as trauma. 🤔
About to listen to this interview, I really did not appreciate the way that the people on the show handled Alexis at the reunion and I can't wait to get the context. I don't condone her behaviour but the way she was mishandled on so many levels at the reunion was absolutely, 100% unacceptable.
The live chat pissed me off when they went to only letting members comment cause some of the comments were to outlandish and divisive. Some werent even paying attention and just were flip flopping at any given moment. I like Alexis , she participated in a show even though the participants werent the best choices and she made the best of it and learned from this lesson…
Love Kojo! This was one was disappointing though - I don't think he was attacking her but the lack of grace (by saying certain things and not others) is telling. I'm reminded of Zadia. On her season she did some crazy stuff (both on the show and during the reunion) but on when she came on for her interview with Kojo - she was not held to the fire like Alexis was here. He didn't come across as the level headed, warm but fair way he usually does and you can see the shift in Alexis in the interview too. First she was weirdly warm then she was just defensive and annoyed. I don't condone her actions at the reunion (very wild) but this (interview) felt, I dunno - unkind?
I said this. The energy def shifted. I understood the annoyance. I felt like in the beginning she expressed how people box her in based on how they perceive her or her looks. This interview just didn't flow. It became an obligation to just answer or finish.
Trying to address something deeper when someone is not ready to go deeper may not be the best approach. I think Alexis went as deep as she could and it should have been left at that.
Kojo, Alexis stated @ the beginning of this conversation, she operates in her light and dark energy. She's brave enough to admit it. There's a saying, "An angry person, and a drunk person tells their truth." I believe she's apologized and taken accountability.
Thank you Alexis, just take care of yourself titi. That’s exactly what Justin did , he had no business telling her to shut the F up, stop running your mouth. That was because Alexis told Meka she didn’t respect her. I am totally disappointed in production. I think when the recording came up and you found out you didn’t really have a deeper connection you should have left on your own. That’s exactly what Lylain did. Kojo thank you for staying up that late. It was a great interview. Now, I too feel like you over analyze. Sometimes it comes off as antagonizing and not just from this one instance.
The game at the reunion was, WE ARE GOING TO READ A QUOTE... YOU TELL US WHO YOU THINK SAID IT. In that moment, Laron wasn't calling you a snake. He was saying that he thinks that it was you that said that about him. Am i the only one that paid attention?
I think the point is at that point for Laron to even mention her and snake altogether was him poking at her. And she finally had it. Don’t lose the context that Laron created this whole narrative around her that wasn’t true or at the very least highly exaggerated
@@Radiance230 she has made more than a few comments that lead me to believe that she didn't understand the game. That's all I was speaking on. I didn't lose context on anything. Laron IS a snake imo. I was speaking on the game, that is all.
@@Bria_WattsI don’t think it’s about her understanding a game is the point She heard her name mentioned in the same sentence as snake from Laron and she responded.
@@Radiance230 you can't tell ME what it's about for ME. I don't even think she's wrong for going off on him. You're responding to my comment that I made about something I noticed. Please leave me alone respectfully lol
I don’t believe production providing alcohol and not supplying enough ‘edible’ food should’ve been a factor in why she was inconsolable or uncontrollable. Alexis chose to drink alcohol for hours and on an empty stomach. There was no accountability for the fact that she chose to drink, no one made her. Anyone who watched the reunion from beginning to end could see she was already turnt-a little too turnt. And her choosing to drink all day was not going to be conducive to an already heightened tense reunion.
Am I crazy because it sounded like Alexis did take accountability but Kojo was actually being argumentative. I feel like she got annoyed after awhile. And I’m not even a big Alexis fan but the last part of the interview was hard to listen to because of Kojo…not Alexis
Amazing real talk!! RWG once again brings the light of understanding of how we are God's workmanship created for his good pleasure! Discerning why I was drawn to RTL interviews by LBB from the beginning! We are brothers and sisters in Christ. Keep up the great work! There's more in store for you!🙏🙏
Although some of Alexis' behavior at the reunion was wrong, she made an EXCELLENT point regarding how Bloggers over analyze cast members from different shows. I've watched some of the panels opinions and they're as if they personally know these people. I'm thinking, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? You guys judge people from shows that you obviously know are edited for entertainment but run with the narrative as if it's the gospel truth. And then when someone tries to explain their side, you hardly hear what they have to say because your mind is already made up about that person based off the edited shows that you watch. Again, you don't personally know these people so stop making harsh judgements about them as if you do. I'm so glad Alexis brought this up because it needed to be addressed across the board with these panelists. Alot of them have their own personal skeletons that they're dealing with but it takes the attention off of them and put it on others. That's my view and I'm sticking to it!!!
After seeing Alexis, Jonathan, Laron, & other RTL cast members become drunk & out-of-control each season, the RTL team should see the need to serve less alcohol & more food to minimize the potential for verbal, sexual, or physical abuse & lawsuits.
Read one of the comments saying that Alexis mentioned they provided little food and plenty alcohol. It seems it was intentional so as to cause a ruckus. I dislike the direction the show has taken. Even Tommy has checked out and seems like he's there for the pay check. The first 2 seasons seemed legit like they were looking for love and I believe the show had ratings. Now they just look like they looking for drama
@@therantingshop7423They shouldn’t wait until after someone has become seriously ill or injured or someone files a lawsuit against them before they make changes.
@@gagoangwemoroka7993Most of the cast members from almost all of the seasons of RTL have had the same complaints. It’s almost inhuman for them to do that to them.
I feel like Laron is a plant. They put him there to stir the pot and cause drama for the show. Sounds like Alexis was on the receiving end of that drama a lot and she finally snapped. I don’t blame her.
Also she is right she experienced it and we cannot tell her what she experienced. I believe that Laron was in her face because at one point in the shot which was edited (because in the next shot Laron was shown sitting down with his suit jacket on), Laron had his suit jacket off walking from her. So Laron was in her face and Meika was making comments because she was alsready making comments when it wasn’t her segment. And then for Justin to say shut the f up and stop talking she would have felt ganged up on. Not saying her reaction and aggressiveness was right and she has control over her emotions but it is understandable that she got angry.
Exactly! And like she said, if someone is backing her into a corner she’s gonna come out swinging! As she should! She was being ganged up on and handled it the best way she knew how in that moment.
Was the cast forced to drink alcohol? Sounds like an excuse to me. What happened to self control??? So tired of people running away from accountability.
Sounds like she answered the questions as best she could. She said how she felt in the moment while heavily inebriated honestly and acknowledged she could have done it differently.
Unfortunately this takes away from Kojo being able to analyze a situation because the situations are fake and manipulated. They are cut up and you can only rely on what the guest are saying because we aren’t seeing the full story
I have a lot of mixed feellings about rhis interview. The beginning was very insightful and at times relatable but at the end she kind of unraveled . The covering of Johnathan, lack of accountability and the fact she couldn't see the correlation of her experience to Koshea . It was interesting.
Kojo, I love your show…but this was like you trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. I cringed at your delivery. Honestly, I’ve been cringing this whole season with comments you and the panelists have made, especially last weekend’s. It’s too much. Grace, kindness, compassion, empathy, was few far and in between. Will’s call in and now Alexis’ interview, man, I’m not going to lie, it made me tear up. A lot of our comments are out of concern. You and the panel can be very harsh at times and it’s painful. Sometimes I have to take a break from your discussions. You all speak quite often of the dark arts/hearts (I’m not sure which it is) but I would love to hear more and see more light shine through. ❤
Well Alexis, if you are going to blame your behavior on alcohol that does not equate accountability. And you saying you handled the situation wrong is not taking accountability. You actually have to admit the act without blaming everyone else !!! You have some growing up to do. All the best !
Sooooooo condescending. I wrote a comment before the interview ended, and now I’m a bit disgusted. I think she handled herself nicely and was very polite. It’s like now Kojo has a superiority complex. Repeating that she does not listen was sooooo rude. She answered the question. Just because she didn’t answer the way the almighty know it all Kojo wanted her to answer she doesn’t listen? She said earlier in the interview that she didn’t even remember getting into it with Justin. We can see she had multiple people coming at her. We only saw a few seconds on their interactions (while she was going at it with multiple people at the same time). Why are you so stuck on Justin? She said she was drunk, hungry, tired and felt attacked. What answer did he want from her? I didn’t even like her until this interview. You attacked her again just because you feel like you know more than her. I am highly disappointed in the way this was handled. This know it all attitude has to go….. don’t let the people in the live comments ruin you.
You better preach
He also steals content from Married for 10 Years
I agree!
Oh my ....I hope Kojo watches the last 30mins back and learn from this. It was time to move on and he was antagonizing her because he was stuck on his perspective and not listening. She handled it well.
Looks Kojo too was tired and hungry being up from 3am to 5am. 😂😂😂
In all seriousness I feel like he didn’t expect it to be this easy with her so he tried to push her a little bit. Listen woman clearly said she has a light and dark side that she embraces so what was the point.
I completely agree. You could clearly see what was going on and it was uncomfortable to watch.
Omg I agree!!!!
I agree. She was quite clear.
This is her problem trying to find a Boris Kojoe. Good luck
Kojo, you were very argumenative and ridiculed Alexis like she was a child. Stop overnalayzing the behavior of others; learn how to be non bias when interviewing.
Kojo was influenced by the negative behavior that Alexis exhibited on the show. I still think that she's a beautiful intelligent young woman. However, Alexis should've eliminated herself once she realized that the show was scripting her in a bad light.
We can agree to disagree. I will agree that Alexis needs to handle herself better when faced with conflict or when feeling attacked. In my opinion, Kojo wanted to push her buttons to see how she would react emotionally. The interview was conducted like an interrogation towards the last 30 minutes.
Kojo was right on with this woman, and recognized her BS, and illogical answers. She was the one who was argumentative. If Kojo said blue she said red. Silly.
Now, I can't sit here and hold Alexis accountable and not the interviewer Kojo. The interviewer sets the tone and should remain poised. I honestly didn't expect transparency from Alexis because she works in sales; most individuals in that industry have a bad habit of fast talking and ommitting the facts.
Kojo should've moved on to the next topic because he was literally beating a dead horse; his irriation with Alexis was very noticeable, lol.
@@amberdelaney4240it's literally what he does. The person can admit it and the horse is still beaten.
Professional therapists undergo years of education, training, and supervised practice to acquire the skills necessary to help others effectively.There is also a system to hold the people in this practice accountable. Without this background, an individual might give advice that is ineffective or even harmful. Participants on this show might not be prepared for the emotional impact of discussing deep personal issues, especially in a public forum where the audience is rude and icky and here to watch the downfalls of others. Without proper support structures in place, this type of UA-cam therapy could be harmful.
The interaction where he wanted the lady to say accountability in his way was an example. It’s one thing to ask discovery questions but he wanted to label things and I’m not sure why the people who follow him aren’t able to see that this takes a certain level of skill and understanding on when to pause…he didn’t have that pause. I hope that he's trying to attract the people who are into gossip to his show in a unique way to share godly principles ...
I totally agree. I love watching Kojo. However, as a clinician this very sentiment is often on my mind and sometimes the diagnosing and therapizing makes it a bit difficult to watch. 🥺
@@Sdotwillyumsyes, when Jay said on a live few days ago that what Alexis had is a mental health issue and she kept on that point… I was just like 🥴🥴. How do you know….you don’t know this woman and you’re speaking so boldly on a public platform.. it becomes cringey sometimes
While Kojo, like most effective TV interviewers, utilize the same skills & engage in similar conversations as therapists, he isn’t a therapist. TV interviewers must be great listeners, ask good questions, & know how to digest & analyze the responses of the interviewees. Most importantly, he must know his audience, read their questions, & provide them with most of the information they want.
When driving in fog I was informed not to use bright lights, because it blurry to your vision. Turn don't the introspection of your guest. Underlined guests. Treat them as such. Love watching tho. If they answer dig in I guess on the guest.
@@donaldwhitaker That’s a great analogy.
She took accountability kojo.
Oh my God.
Leave the woman alone.
LORD.
I agree with Alexis. When someone is HEATED, you have to give them their space and not overcrowd them. When too many get involved , it can make the situation more volatile.
May I offer another critique coming from a place of goodheartedness: To me, You and your Super panel can come off as a bit "Superior" at times and less loving and more Judgy. I watched early on when you used to have Maria S. and others on and I didn't feel that way when I watched back then. I enjoyed viewing it more then than I do now. I tend to switch off or not view it in its entirety nowadays. Maybe you can switch the format or panelists from time to time, drop the word super, add more personal anecdotes or even a little humor. Take a poll of your viewing audience to see how they feel I might be an outlier.
Now this is a WORD. I thought I was the only one that noticed the MASSIVE judgemental vibe from the panel. ESPECIALLY CWAY specifically against Single people with children.
Me too. When certain people start talking I turn it off.
I agree wholeheartedly. Thus the reason why I unsubscribed sometime ago...Then I had to reflect... what or whom made me feel that they were above anyone else and it was that lady C-way. OH MY. Its like they rubbed off on Koj, cuz he was not like that at first. I actually miss the other panelist from the UK. The lady with the gap was super dope. But yea I agree 100% with every word u typed @caprixo.
As a Psychologist and Psychotherapist in the UK, this is not an accurate description of therapy. The therapists role is to provide the individual with unconditional positive regard (unwavering acceptance) and provide a supportive and stable frame to contain the individuals feelings in safety. Alexis’ reflections at the end were thought provoking but not able to be received at this point. I pray the Holy Spirit may bring it back to one’s remembrance in due course.
And that’s why it is not therapy. I’m in therapy and I don’t practice what therapist produce. That’s not my job lol
Indeed it is not therapy, it is an interview, however, many commenters were likening it to therapy. Research suggests that Black people are least likely to attend therapy but are over represented in the psychiatric system so it was pertinent to make the distinction so not to further deter our people from receiving the help they need. I pray your therapeutic journey provides you with all you require in your process of becoming. God bless
I’ve been watching Kojo’s interviews for a while, and they are becoming hard to watch. It’s seems that he’s becoming more arrogant. Before it felt like he was trying to understand people’s point of view, but now it feels like he wants to drive his points. It’s like he’s learning how to become a therapist and now he knows more than everyone else. I understand that some of these people may be delusional, crazy, unaccountable, etc. however, watching you get combative with them is very uncomfortable to watch. It’s like he wants them to admit whatever, and he’ll keep pushing them to say whatever he wants them to say. The audience isn’t stupid, we often see what he sees, he doesn’t need to do this. Also, CWay, whom I used to love, is also getting soooo negative in the comments ( also when she’s live commenting on other bloggers interviews). It’s becoming too much. Before I wound watch a panel without CWay, I still probably wouldn’t, but the live comments are just so mean. It’s like they are becoming bullies. I’m still going to try to support. I put your videos that I don’t care to watch on at night to fall asleep to just so you can get the spin (because I do like y’all, especially Sean). I miss “humble” Kojo, this “gotcha” Kojo is not very nice.
I agree with everything you said 💯
I agree with everything you said and feel the same way.
Facts
Thank you... I thought it was just me tripping. That lady C-way is wayyy to much. Like she thinks she is IT. Man she comes off very abrasive and a know-it-all. Honey I have my doctorate as well. + all that astrology (non-fact-based) talk is too much at times. Its a turn off.
After listening to her explanation of the situation, and knowing how things are cut out, it makes sense 💯. I agree that Justin nor Laron had any business addressing her in that way. When a person feels threatened or cornered, they absolutely come out swinging.
LBB sit on the bench and heal, this wasn't it. Stop trying to make everyone's story so traumatic please
I’m not this huge Alexis fan. However, I 100% can see where she’s coming from with her explanation of her behavior at the reunion. I watched and immediately said that it was super disappointing to see Justin doing Meika’s bidding…sure, he was seated but his words and tone were bordering on aggressive/provocative and I TOTALLY get how that along with being surrounded with bodies and shouting and hands flailing, she came out swinging. I can say as a woman who’s never had a physical altercation in my life, it’s not that difficult to fathom her behavior in that moment.
Agreed. Justin added fuel to the fire instead of helping to calm things down.
I'm glad somebody said it. I don't condone her behavior she should have removed herself. BUT Justin was initially aggressive. I don't like when men call themselves checking women. He definitely did too much initially. I believe she felt bullied in that moment and it triggered her.
Wasn't hers aggressive and provocative. Because she was screaming in his ear.
@@filmadcamp1512yes it was, he was saying she can’t calm down and move on. Alexis keeps yelling and then says she gonna jump on meeka then it got louder etc
@@krystala17 These women are so weird. They acknowledge her behavior was hella wrong but mad that Justin checked her. Justin is a teacher and she was acting like a petulant child so he probably reverted to how he deals with his students.
I loved her in this interview! She held her own and her responses were authentic. Kojo was going overboard asking her to explain why she said people were standing over her when she already explained it previously. She said we didn’t get to see that and that should’ve been the end of it. But great interview!
Facts! And he initially pissed me off when he kept having her repeat the facts of the girls recording her then the guy giving her a call and detailing exactly what she said. He tries to be such a therapist yet could grasp that, making her repeat it several times as if she was going to say something differently
Do you think her explanation gave the answer though?
Kojo, I really enjoyed this interview with Alexis. I commend her for being so open and sharing her background and experiences on the show. I always find your perspectives to be eye opening for so many reasons. As a supporter of yours who is rooting for you, and as someone who is on a journey to becoming a licensed social worker, I can agree with Alexis’ friend with the “therapist” question. I can tell you educate yourself well but what I find is missing is knowing when to move on. Some people are not ready or have not had enough of a reason in their lives to dig as deep as you want to go. A seasoned licensed professional would have pivoted a few times during this interview or switched up techniques. You cannot force someone to see or grow beyond where they are. You have to meet them where they are, or you can quickly lose trust, or credibility in their eyes. Most people struggle opening up in a safe environment meant to encourage the discussion of challenging topics such as in a therapist’s office, let a lone an interview on the internet where we know there is no protection against hateful comments or antagonists. That can actually be more harmful to someone who may already be struggling, and it can create more hostility. Again as a supporter and viewer I enjoy watching these interviews and I want to see more of the RTL cast members come on and share because I do find your style to be helpful to your community, but you would have to build that trust not just with them when you interview but even in all the Super Panels and other commentary. Saying this with love and I hope it’s received that way❤
KOJO!!! PLSSSSSS, she agrees with you in that she embarrassed herself. She could have handled it better- she days this over and over again. You are the one not listening!!
I agree with Alexis at the end she did take accountability I don’t know what Kojo was looking for. She said that the way she handled it was wrong meaning that her aggressiveness was the wrong way to have handled the situation. At first Justin was seated and then he got up when she turned to speak with Meika. So he did get up and I think when Kojo was asking the question she went to that. A lot was happening and I think for her to remember all of it when she was that angry is not fair. There were too many men around her and as a woman that’s intimidating even if they were trying to get her to leave.
Not to mention her drunkenness played a role in her inability to remember certain things
Yes, she took accountability for her actions.
Absolutely agree with you.
Great interview with Alexis! She’s incredibly articulate and authentic. This was perhaps the best among all the cast historically.💜🙏🏾💜
The best historically? I need to watch again then. Lol. This interview felt the most different from any interview he has done b/c he just kept poking. The best has been Aries or Lee from last season for me.
Watch seasons 1,2 and 3. ❤
Y'all are GASSING her!!!! 😂😂😂 Like how Sway? 😂 But chile, I guess
Kojo stop it. Not everyone has underlying issues.
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Yeah most of us do though. 😂 Self included...Alexis comes off angry and defensive (at least to some of us)
Kojo.. Appreciate your interviews, but yea bro.. Alexis said it right , You are looking deeper into things that are at its bottom.. Respect her answer and move on bro..
I agree with her about the fight. None of the men were telling Laron to stop talking and everyone kind of jumped her
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Most definitely. I was wondering why the chat switched & I've never seen that happen on the interviews before.
Unearthing and forcing people to revisit childhood trauma and connect with their actions, is a very dangerous hill to climb without giving people the necessary resources to support them with dealing with the trauma they just unearthed is dangerous. This is the work of a therapist. I have commented this before someone will one day get hurt or hurt themselves. I would suggest not forcing therapy on people and tapping on people's childhood therapy when you are not licensed to handle such things.
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How many different times and in how many different ways can she take accountability? Kojo was poking the bear with this interview, and I didn't like his approach. She said she really felt that way, and she handled it poorly because of the alcohol. NOW WHAT? She said that EVERYTHING she did was NOT A REPRESENTATION OF WHO SHE IS WITHOUT ALCOHOL. He is beating a dead horse. As an interviewer know when to fall back.
I don't think he was trying to get her to be accountable for anything. He was just saying that what she took accountability for didn't happen the way she's saying it happened.
hope you nailed it....that is exactly what my words actually said.
@@hope4me847he wasn't telling her to be accountable for anything, while telling her she wasn't being accountable for her actions. Doesn't made sense. Furthermore, she spoke on what actually happened not what we saw. What we see is not real. She spoke about the edits and how the make things look. She spoke on reality while all the views can speak on is perception
@@o2kute1 She also said she didn't remember all that happened, and that she was blackout drunk. According to what we saw Justing didn't stand up over her, and she said he did. When Kojo corrected her, she admitted he was right. So... she should have more info than we do, but she's still not being accountable for what actually happened. I cut up cause I was drunk is not accountability. I was responding to people standing up over me, isn't accountability. She wasn't taking accountability, and he wasn't requiring that she should. I think Kojo's point was that she didn't have to be accountable for anything, but what she is saying she's accountable for wasn't what took place that evening. Also, not apologizing to the people she acted up in front of is not accountability. Of course others might have been wrong in that moment, but she still is responsible for her actions & reactions.
@hope4me847 perfectly said. There in lies exactly what needed to be said
As a (former) therapist, since we, apparently, have to state our credentials, I have to disagree with some of the comments I’ve seen. Kojo may not be a professional, but he is often spot on with his analysis of people. It rubs people the wrong way because they’re in denial and/or lack self-awareness and are afraid to be real with themselves. The only thing, with this interview that I will say could have been done differently, was that he could/should have moved on when Alexis was not open to hearing his perspective. Sometimes you just have to let people see for themselves, and allow the self-reflection and healing to occur on their own time. You can show someone, but you cannot make them see. ❤
Thank u for this perspective much appreciated honestly
@@LittleBlackBook91 Of course 😊 If you ever consider a profession in any type of counseling, I think you’d be good at it. Honestly. Take care ❤️
“You can show someone , but you can’t force them to see” … replacing this for the horse and water analogy 🫶🏽
Sometimes tough love reveals harsh truths and how we react to situations reveals that there's a deeper issue that is beyond apology. We heard the apology and changed behavior should be the next step.... ✌🏾
The way she was unbothered and professionally gathered him @ the end 😅😮💨😮💨 👏
Alexis question was point on. Kojo youre not a therapist and trying to hyperanalyze people as if you are can be a huge turn off. Just stay in your lane as a blogger...vlogger...youtube personality...podcaster
Are you a male?
No Kojo, you were refusing to listen to her. She clearly said multiple times she should not have behaved in that manner. Yet you kept bullying her saying she wasn't being accountable. She kept saying she handled it wrong. That means her actions. Why were you not understanding her. At that point, it seems as if your desire to give her ALL the smoke got in the way
Alexis did a great job answering the questions and sharing her views based on her experiences. But Kojo, who is not a trained professional, acted like one during the interviews. As someone who has been to therapy and is an experienced healthcare provider, I was a bit uncomfortable watching this interview and others.
Interviewers should avoid projecting their experiences and trauma onto others, use the right approach, and ask the right questions. This way, the interviewee feels safe and not judged, and the interviewer can get the information they need to conduct a proper assessment. Kojo, It would also be great if you become familiar with the term "countertransference" because it blocks the ability to understand the person fully and can cause frustration, as shown by Alexis and many of Kojo's recent guests on the show.
Lord! LBB done got on my damn nerves! How many ways do she have explain that she took accountability. She is human and we all have moments. Damn!
Bro is weird always trying to diagnose someone and their childhood/past. The channel wasn’t always like this. Hes gone a little too far off the tracks.
He kept trying to dig and dig. He spent too much time there & her energy shifted. She was annoyed.
@@BeautyNBrains86yeah i mean there’s no need to have a whole hour and a half about someone’s past. Just get to the show
You hit the nail on the head here ! I like watching Kojo but it does get tiring when he diagnoses people without even knowing the full story . He also has these sassy moments when the interviewee isn’t saying what he wants them to say. this interview is similar to when he had an interview with Kayla from ready to love Miami . Overly agressive and sassy for no reason ! Kojo, don’t let the growth of your channel get to your head
@@BeautyNBrains86 yes, even I was annoyed!
He's right on the majority of the time. He's gifted.
WELL DONE MS. ALEXIS I REALLY ENJOYED HEARING YOU!!💞💞
That was a great interview! I gotta admit I was really feeling her on why she reacted the way that she did. When you're on an island by yourself and they're all ganging up on you during the season and at the reunion it's hard to keep your composure. I love how she didn't double down when it came to her defending herself. I agree with her that the only people she owes an apology to are those who are important to her.
No it's not just those important to her but anyone she lied on, accused or verbally threatened for no reason.
Thanks Alexis for sharing your perspective. You filled in a lot of missing information from a production perspective.
Kojo i heard you but you beat a dead dead horse. Learn to stop once you explain your thoughts She would have understand after the live interview. Don't school these people. It is condescending. Humble back off!!! These are your guest and use emotional intelligence.
I LOVE her . She’s no nonsense stood on business stood up for herself and she’s too real for this reality bs . I love her perspective and I agree about the over analyzing piece with Kojo . He does a bit much at times . Can’t tell people what they experienced . Especially off of an edited show.
Where’s the accountability on her disgusting reunion behaviour though we are here blaming KoJo really ???
She did mention multiple times that she takes accountability for her bad behaviour. She just didn't say it the way that others would've wanted her to say it.
I absolutely agree with you.
Yes, I agree! She's clear about who she is. I appreciate her candor. I appreciated the perspective she shared. We do not know the full scope of what happened.
@JayyAAAA Right!
Kojo at times ur guest don’t have to agree with ur point. Alexis took accountability but you wanted her to say specific things you want to hear.. she apologized so let it be
when have my guests ever agreed with me?
@@LittleBlackBook91 She's providing feedback, you're being slightly defensive here by responding w/ a question. Some guests have agreed or said it was a different take to think about.
lol at Kojo asking her to take accountability the whole end of the interview and then refusing to take any himself at the very end and getting defensive. Come on Kojo, you can do better too. No need to get defensive.
im always open to growing where was I defensive?
thanks @Kojo, I appreciate your openess to feedback here. I would look at the 3:16:35 /around the time she’s saying could you see room for growth around being a little less harsh and instead of taking a pause to consider this you say « I could only go off what you give me » imo that was a bit defensive.
Kojo you and your SuperPanelists can show signs of defense when you guys are critiqued, (Jai not so much). I've been watching your show for years and I have seen some improvements with all of you but as humans, there is a defensiveness at times. To answer your question: You had a passive-aggressive tone in response to Alexis at the end of the interview and your Debrief today was defensive in nature.
I hear that a bit more open when going on judgement
Listen, I was like are we living in an alternate universe.
Kojo owes Alexis an apology. He is doing too much and dragging her just like the cast did. He wasn’t there. He doesn’t know everything that happened so he can’t make judgments. How many ways does he want her to apologize?
What judgement did I make?
He won’t see it . Him and his capers. He’s too busy stuck in his viewpoint and role as a “therapist” to see anything wrong with what he did . A bit condescending . Has a bit of a superiority complex. IMO and on this channel seems like you can’t have one if it doesn’t align with his views. Again IMO , respectfully.
I disagree! Alexis cannot come on the show and not get questioned on her behavior. She dances around the accountability issue the whole interview. It doesn’t matter what we saw, her aggression was not fake and I doubt this was a one moment deal. You just don’t show that much aggression out of nowhere.
@@kO-qy9cy I feel the same way
@@kO-qy9cyabsolutely. He won’t see it. Too much arrogance and pride.
This man is weird af. Idk who he thinks he is…but this ain’t it.
Great job dealing with him Alexis.
I really don’t understand why what she said and how she apologized and explained the circumstances behind how she expressed herself wasn’t acceptable for Kojo. That last part was frustrating because she explained herself many times over and none of it was satisfactory to Kojo it seems. Trying to get a deep emotional revelation from a three hour session of the first interview that will be publicly released is a bit much. She gave what she gave and it was clear she was content with her truth and that was all she was willing to give.
She knew that you were not a therapist!! 🤣
And I believe he KNOWS that she knew but Kojo is smart and didn't fall for the bait. She was trying to be slick though.
@@Yespls888 I didn't see that at all. She did not avoid any questions and answered the SAME question about 6 times!! He was badgering and she didn't take the bait.
We are watching what they want us to see to “entertain”us and to gain views.
Can we employ common sense? Or are we so desperately running from our own reality that we cannot recognize real from fake?
She isn’t the first person who has said this.
And if we are keeping it real… many are giving life to the drama they were looking to create. They did a good job.
She started off talking about the reunion with accountability… what exactly are you looking for? We are getting a snap shot of a 12 hr reunion 🤯
Seems like you are fighting for her to submit to what you believe as if absolute truth rest in you? You are looking for evidence of what you already believe.
I agree that he over analyzes many things. The truth unfolds... You don’t have to force it. Asking if he is in alignment with his beliefs was super on point.
Yes , you articulated this perfectly. Very impressive lol great job.
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Alexis admitted to having too much to drink because production provided very little food but plenty of alcohol. She said she was embarrassed when she looked back at the show but she doesn’t regret the things she said, just the way she said them. She apologized to her parents. Very long interview. The only women she liked on the show were Vanessa and Lelynn (sorry if that’s not her name).
Thanks for the cliffnotes lol.
Production provided alcohol and that means for her to OVERINDULGE?! Now whose fault is that?! SMH
@@Magique88888 You’re welcome. 😂
Alexis didn’t give sexual energy to Jonathan but he still took advantage of a situation and made her uncomfortable. That alone disproves her comment abt “men give u what u give them“; these things do happen …wmn don’t always need to be giving off spicy/sexual energy to men for men to take it there with them. If anything, some men will be spicy/sexual with u to see how far the woman will let them go - she doesn’t necessarily have to have been flirtatious/sexual/spicy with him first.
Listening to this interview it provided a great deal of insight. Honestly, I think a lot of what Alexis said was relatable. It gave me a different perspective about her. One thing is crystal clear, there was so much more that happen off camera than on camera.
I totally feel the production of RTL has gone too far, and at this point are doing a disservice to this show, it’s participants and those of us who have been following the show…i noticed the decline especially following the Discovery Channel increasing it’s percentage of ownership of OWN, once they started enacting their changes in the lineup, etc . I can sympathize with what Alexis went through …. Also, why do i feel unsettled after watching this interview ? I pray that Alexis is blessed with peace moving forward.
Production clearly didn’t provide enough food and too much liquor. Why did they have liquor? I wonder if all reality shows have a bar? Even so, she had a choice. She could’ve had water as I noticed others did.
It has been said in past season reunions that production provides a small amount of food but plenty of liquor and have the participants on set for long hours
I think that’s the been the norm for this show in general for awhile. It likely was a slight contributing factor but definitely not totally to blame for this . Personal responsibility in this extreme of a response still has to be there .
For everyone in the comments--every person has rage and anger inside everyone does.
Also everyone has some past trauma could be from childhood or from a specific event that happened to them. No one should be antagonized for showing up a certain especially when they have been poked and prodded.
If she needs to be apologizing and embarassed then so does everyone who was in the chat putting her down and trying to take the things Kojo was asking her and turning them into some pretty bad judgement and scrutiny.
I love RTL and I love the panels discussing their perspective but if any of them were on the chopping block they would feel the same way. I can’t sit here and enjoy someone antagonizing a person whether I liked the way they appeared on RTL or not. It’s disgusting and it’s not covering our black women…..it’s just not. What if she were your sister, your friend, relative, etc.??
Agree with you. Very well said.
Alexis made her point truthfully. Stop digging the more when you did not see entire filming. There was a totally wrong perception of Alexis. People are trying to trip her up again. Stop saying aggressive to a female. Sir you are upsetting her the more picking it apart the more even after she took accountability. She confessed. What more do you want. This is not right. God would forgive after a confession.
Kojo owes Alexis an apology. Or at least to acknowledge his limited view (in my opinion). Humility is important in every industry.
what would you like me to apologise for?
@@LittleBlackBook91 Simply put, I believe an apology to Alexis is warranted for forming a perception of her based on a limited series, publicly sharing these beliefs, and then engaging with her on your show without acknowledging her perspective.
It seems that your approach was more about offering therapy to Alexis rather than conducting an interview. The distinction lies in whether you aim to shape a person's self-perception according to your views or to let them express their identity and beliefs. While I understand you're not a therapist and don't claim to be one, these are my reflections. I encourage you to listen with a spirit of empathy and understanding.
@@revolutionaryLov3J YEAP!!!
You should apologize for not listening to her. She took responsibility to what she did. Justin actually got really loud with her. Where's his accountability? He was yelling, she was yelling. Who's wrong???
@@rhondadover8052 Justin was out of line.. They gained up on Alexis..
The whole reality show +alcohol -food is definitely intentional and becoming sad at this point.
Kojo was definitely not objective in the last 20 -25 minutes of this interview. Alexis took accountability for how she behaved and he still wanted to nitpick and make her relieved more more. It was both insensitive and unobjective. And he kept being like “well I watched it.” Dude, you saw the same edited stuff that the public saw, and she keeps telling you that you don’t know the whole story.
This is the first time I disagreed with Kojo’s approach. The last 30 minutes or so were unproductive. You were the one not listening Kojo. She took accountability but she’s not apologetic and that’s okay.
New to this channel. Caught the teaser clip of the interview with Alexis while scrolling and decided to watch. It started off good, but eventually, things went awkwardly left and downhill fast. Just my opinion, but I thought the interview (3 hours) was unnecessarily way too long, and the over-analyzing, long drawn-out questions became too cringy/clinical at times to watch. It felt like I was watching an old rerun tv show of Dr. Phil. Kudos to Alexis who stood her ground in answering these questions authentically and with poise. I don't condone her actions at the reunion, but under the circumstances, I do understand.
Alexis is so pretty
I’ve liked her from the beginning and I stand by it. She handled this a lot better than I could have. I love how she challenged him at the end but I don’t think he was picking up what she was putting down, unfortunately.
He definitely was picking up what she was putting down , which is why he responded the way he did . It’s what’s the manosphere (ie internet) calls “standing your frame “
@@Practitionher interesting.
You want an answer from her Kojo… But she gave it to you already🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Kojo… she was INTOXICATED & saw red!! She feels how she feels good, bad, or indifferent. And you feel how you feel. She’s an adult not a child, so stop trying to make her do or feel how you think she should. Smh!! This is not her everyday life & she doesn’t go around being this way which she explained already. This was her experience and no one can tell her anything different, especially when you weren’t there.
Intoxicated is not an excuse for that behavior. And if that’s what you’re blaming then maybe she should be in AA or something.
Thank you for coming on Alexis. You’re beautiful
yeah, Kojo did too much!!
We can tell you're not a therapist, that was her point. She held her composure here cause i dont know if i could have behaved as civily as she did with this line of questioning. Not to mention, the smirks, about her not being open to others viewpoint when he himself isnt very open.
I can clearly blame some of her behavior on the alcohol cause the tone ans tenor of this interview was garbage.
Has anyone had a child/children and they truly showed you who they are shortly after being born or within the first couple of years?(If that long) Stubborn, adventurous, passive, compliant, defiant, sensitive, anxious, daredevil, determined, curious, introverted, extroverted, calm, have a temper, bold, and the list goes on and on. We all have different personality traits. We all have areas that we need to work on and lessons to be learned. Some may have a hot temper, but others may need to be pushed to speak up for themselves. We are all on our own journey to grow in whatever area we need to grow in. No one is perfect, God knew what he was doing. Some will get it and others will go to the grave the same way they came here.
In my opinion it's not always childhood trauma or a bad upbringing that causes us to be who we are as adults.
My heart goes out to those who did go through trauma, or grew up in unfavorable conditions, because yes that will affect us as adults if not healed. Even with that, have you seen where one sibling will be motivated by it to do better and another sibling is 60 and still can't get over it? That's because you are handling it according to who you are. I'm not condoning her behavior on the show, but I'm sure she was one who did not take any mess from others when she was a toddler. Lol. A toddler can snatch a toy from another toddler and they will cry, take it from another and they will bite you. All three children have completely different temperaments. Just like she said, it's not a direct reflection on how she was raised. Sounds like she has a beautiful support system around her.
You my friend gets the platinum level award for best comment!!!!!!! LOVED IT
@@mrs.conscious Thank you!
Im going to tell you just like this... Anybody accuse me of using drugs, knowing I havent touched a drug (outside of drinking socially).. Sober, or not, you are going to get BIG ENERGY from me. Alexis, I understand. PERIOD. Laron a sassy one for that.
I have a lot of respect for Alexis after this interview. Yes, she behaved badly and embarrassed herself. She apologized and now she can move on. Some of the other girls were mean, and messy too.
So the response to someone accusing you of being on drugs is acting like you’re on drugs?
TEAM ALEXIS🎉🎉
You can't ask close-ended or leading questions and then be surprised that people are calling you judgmental. I thought the interviewing style would've improved by now. ➡Solutions: Have a set of questions written down and prepared, the questions need to be open-ended and allow the interviewee to explain their experience and address a single point at a time. The icing on the cake would be to have a lesson that you want your audience to take away from watching the interview.
Was disappointed in the way you bullied this woman. Shame on you! Only made eye contact with her when you were talking to her. Refused to give her eye contact. Accused her of being aggressive. Meanwhile, you're passive-aggressive. Smh
I certainly have mixed feelings about Alexis but I absolutely love her deep connection to understanding all the parts that make her who she is. I'm in therapy and have only just started touching on that.
The ending of the discussion was a little uncomfortable for me. Her personal critique easily fenced into the realm of attack but then moved back to critique because, in my view, Kojo gave her time- something the show does not have. Maybe this is part of the reason for various social fractures with this group??? Either way, another lovely interview, Kojo. Wishing Alexis the best and Kojo continued success.
From the start she said she watched prior videos and thought about where she would travel. You could tell that she watched prior interviews & thought when she gave that little prepared speech of her perfect childhood that was going to throw off his roots / tree analysis. But later she exposed herself talking about her southern upbringing and how children should be seen but not heard & how nobody’s interested in listening to a talkative 10 year old, stay in a child’s place. That’s why at the end she was questioning his qualifications. She couldn’t believe that a self proclaimed “Mississippi pimp” got read like that. 😂😅
Listen those who have ears are really hearing u nailed it
Exactly!!! Well said!!!
I think it's important to accept and hold space for the perspective that some people may not know what their traumas are, especially if they are small and they don't see them as trauma. 🤔
About to listen to this interview, I really did not appreciate the way that the people on the show handled Alexis at the reunion and I can't wait to get the context. I don't condone her behaviour but the way she was mishandled on so many levels at the reunion was absolutely, 100% unacceptable.
The live chat pissed me off when they went to only letting members comment cause some of the comments were to outlandish and divisive. Some werent even paying attention and just were flip flopping at any given moment. I like Alexis , she participated in a show even though the participants werent the best choices and she made the best of it and learned from this lesson…
Totally agree
I agree. It was definitely follow the leader in the comments.
Love Kojo! This was one was disappointing though - I don't think he was attacking her but the lack of grace (by saying certain things and not others) is telling. I'm reminded of Zadia. On her season she did some crazy stuff (both on the show and during the reunion) but on when she came on for her interview with Kojo - she was not held to the fire like Alexis was here. He didn't come across as the level headed, warm but fair way he usually does and you can see the shift in Alexis in the interview too. First she was weirdly warm then she was just defensive and annoyed. I don't condone her actions at the reunion (very wild) but this (interview) felt, I dunno - unkind?
I said this. The energy def shifted. I understood the annoyance. I felt like in the beginning she expressed how people box her in based on how they perceive her or her looks. This interview just didn't flow. It became an obligation to just answer or finish.
Alexis won most folks over with this interview. Kojo wanted this one on one to be a get Alexis moment and it backfired
Trying to address something deeper when someone is not ready to go deeper may not be the best approach. I think Alexis went as deep as she could and it should have been left at that.
Kojo WTH were you talking about in the last 20 minutes or so of this interview
Kojo, Alexis stated @ the beginning of this conversation, she operates in her light and dark energy. She's brave enough to admit it.
There's a saying, "An angry person, and a drunk person tells their truth."
I believe she's apologized and taken accountability.
Thank you Alexis, just take care of yourself titi. That’s exactly what Justin did , he had no business telling her to shut the F up, stop running your mouth. That was because Alexis told Meka she didn’t respect her.
I am totally disappointed in production.
I think when the recording came up and you found out you didn’t really have a deeper connection you should have left on your own. That’s exactly what Lylain did.
Kojo thank you for staying up that late. It was a great interview.
Now, I too feel like you over analyze. Sometimes it comes off as antagonizing and not just from this one instance.
I hate ppl who quote the bible on one hand and behave opposite in the real world.
Can someone give me the cliff notes? Dang, why are these interviews hours long? This could’ve been 30min tops
This sounds like there was a lot of drama started because of these group chats. Lesson learned for future cast members.
Season 9 and they still say "If I would have known it would be a production for entertainment" 😂😂😂
Kojo thank her for being on the show and drop it.
The game at the reunion was, WE ARE GOING TO READ A QUOTE... YOU TELL US WHO YOU THINK SAID IT. In that moment, Laron wasn't calling you a snake. He was saying that he thinks that it was you that said that about him. Am i the only one that paid attention?
I think the point is at that point for Laron to even mention her and snake altogether was him poking at her. And she finally had it.
Don’t lose the context that Laron created this whole narrative around her that wasn’t true or at the very least highly exaggerated
@@Radiance230 she has made more than a few comments that lead me to believe that she didn't understand the game. That's all I was speaking on. I didn't lose context on anything. Laron IS a snake imo. I was speaking on the game, that is all.
@@Bria_WattsI don’t think it’s about her understanding a game is the point
She heard her name mentioned in the same sentence as snake from Laron and she responded.
@@Radiance230 you can't tell ME what it's about for ME. I don't even think she's wrong for going off on him. You're responding to my comment that I made about something I noticed. Please leave me alone respectfully lol
Ive been clarifying that to people as well. Alexis went off on LaRon for no reason because he was trying to guess who said it.
I don’t believe production providing alcohol and not supplying enough ‘edible’ food should’ve been a factor in why she was inconsolable or uncontrollable. Alexis chose to drink alcohol for hours and on an empty stomach. There was no accountability for the fact that she chose to drink, no one made her. Anyone who watched the reunion from beginning to end could see she was already turnt-a little too turnt. And her choosing to drink all day was not going to be conducive to an already heightened tense reunion.
Exactly, she had excuses
@@natashatwine7818
Right, full accountability shows ownership in your actions. It is not blaming your actions on someone or something else.
Am I crazy because it sounded like Alexis did take accountability but Kojo was actually being argumentative. I feel like she got annoyed after awhile. And I’m not even a big Alexis fan but the last part of the interview was hard to listen to because of Kojo…not Alexis
Amazing real talk!! RWG once again brings the light of understanding of how we are God's workmanship created for his good pleasure! Discerning why I was drawn to RTL interviews by LBB from the beginning! We are brothers and sisters in Christ. Keep up the great work! There's more in store for you!🙏🙏
Although some of Alexis' behavior at the reunion was wrong, she made an EXCELLENT point regarding how Bloggers over analyze cast members from different shows. I've watched some of the panels opinions and they're as if they personally know these people. I'm thinking, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? You guys judge people from shows that you obviously know are edited for entertainment but run with the narrative as if it's the gospel truth. And then when someone tries to explain their side, you hardly hear what they have to say because your mind is already made up about that person based off the edited shows that you watch. Again, you don't personally know these people so stop making harsh judgements about them as if you do. I'm so glad Alexis brought this up because it needed to be addressed across the board with these panelists. Alot of them have their own personal skeletons that they're dealing with but it takes the attention off of them and put it on others. That's my view and I'm sticking to it!!!
After seeing Alexis, Jonathan, Laron, & other RTL cast members become drunk & out-of-control each season, the RTL team should see the need to serve less alcohol & more food to minimize the potential for verbal, sexual, or physical abuse & lawsuits.
They want this outcome
Read one of the comments saying that Alexis mentioned they provided little food and plenty alcohol. It seems it was intentional so as to cause a ruckus. I dislike the direction the show has taken. Even Tommy has checked out and seems like he's there for the pay check. The first 2 seasons seemed legit like they were looking for love and I believe the show had ratings. Now they just look like they looking for drama
@@gagoangwemoroka7993🙏
@@therantingshop7423They shouldn’t wait until after someone has become seriously ill or injured or someone files a lawsuit against them before they make changes.
@@gagoangwemoroka7993Most of the cast members from almost all of the seasons of RTL have had the same complaints. It’s almost inhuman for them to do that to them.
I feel like Laron is a plant. They put him there to stir the pot and cause drama for the show.
Sounds like Alexis was on the receiving end of that drama a lot and she finally snapped. I don’t blame her.
Also she is right she experienced it and we cannot tell her what she experienced. I believe that Laron was in her face because at one point in the shot which was edited (because in the next shot Laron was shown sitting down with his suit jacket on), Laron had his suit jacket off walking from her. So Laron was in her face and Meika was making comments because she was alsready making comments when it wasn’t her segment. And then for Justin to say shut the f up and stop talking she would have felt ganged up on. Not saying her reaction and aggressiveness was right and she has control over her emotions but it is understandable that she got angry.
Oh please! The girl is UNHINGED!!!!!! Stop making excuses for people like this!
Exactly! And like she said, if someone is backing her into a corner she’s gonna come out swinging! As she should! She was being ganged up on and handled it the best way she knew how in that moment.
Was the cast forced to drink alcohol? Sounds like an excuse to me. What happened to self control??? So tired of people running away from accountability.
Sounds like she answered the questions as best she could. She said how she felt in the moment while heavily inebriated honestly and acknowledged she could have done it differently.
Kojo ….. you were annoying on this interview 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 lfr🤷🏾♀️
Laron decided to have beef with Alexis because of the beef between Alexis and Ko. Laron moves like a female. 🙄
Laron behaves like Laron. Leave women (females) outta this.
Unfortunately this takes away from Kojo being able to analyze a situation because the situations are fake and manipulated. They are cut up and you can only rely on what the guest are saying because we aren’t seeing the full story
What is Kojo looking for? Has he never wanted to fight someone?? Damn. It is what it is.
I have a lot of mixed feellings about rhis interview. The beginning was very insightful and at times relatable but at the end she kind of unraveled . The covering of Johnathan, lack of accountability and the fact she couldn't see the correlation of her experience to Koshea . It was interesting.
I read my Bible and I hope God can respect my dark side dont belong in the same convo. Christians lets get it together ❤
Great Interview! I’m team Alexis❤ was Messy Meika in the chat ?🤔😂😂😂
Alexis said, I was drunk af and pissed!!!! Thats why she took it to that aggressive behavior. Shes also said...I said what I said!! 😂😂
Kojo, I love your show…but this was like you trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. I cringed at your delivery. Honestly, I’ve been cringing this whole season with comments you and the panelists have made, especially last weekend’s. It’s too much. Grace, kindness, compassion, empathy, was few far and in between. Will’s call in and now Alexis’ interview, man, I’m not going to lie, it made me tear up. A lot of our comments are out of concern. You and the panel can be very harsh at times and it’s painful. Sometimes I have to take a break from your discussions. You all speak quite often of the dark arts/hearts (I’m not sure which it is) but I would love to hear more and see more light shine through. ❤
Well Alexis, if you are going to blame your behavior on alcohol that does not equate accountability. And you saying you handled the situation wrong is not taking accountability. You actually have to admit the act without blaming everyone else !!! You have some growing up to do. All the best !