SELF CARE ADVICE FOR MEN OF ALL AGES | HEALTH & WELLBEING FOR CHAPS!
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- Опубліковано 5 сер 2024
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In this video your host discusses the many facets that modern chaps need to ensure are adequately addressed in their lives to ensure that they are well cared for to deal with the rigours of daily life.
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Ash sir , once again thank you for trying to build men up instead of down. So many negativity and violence in the world . Your videos bring me and many other chaps peace and well being. Cheers and continue serving Your fellow men as a knight 🥃
My pleasure sir.
Here, here.
That's a good summary
Such an antidote to all the 'toxic masculinity' nonsense thrown our way. A breath of fresh air. In the open air. Love the 'Chap Cave'. Just listening to your voice lowers my blood pressure. 👏👏💪
Toxic masculinity is toxic to you too- it’s the whole “men don’t cry, pussy. Sleep with a hundred women or you’re gay”.
That’s toxic masculinity.
Healed masculinity is where you have a .. idk. Are a person.
#healedmasculinity
Staying mentally engaged is a big one. Cultivate hobbies and interests outside of work. I honestly think most men don't know what to do with themselves, particularly after retirement, and just end up dying of boredom.
I absolutely agree. Keeping the mind engaged is vital to health at any age.
I think the social element, for me anyway, is very important. Having a young family these days I dont get out much, but at least twice a year I make a point of having an afternoon into evening out with one of my best friends. Things will be talked about that you dont want to speak to the wife about, grievances can be ventiláted, any issues at home can be talked about etc (whilst watching a game or two of football and partaking in some refreshments). Afterwards I always feel much more relaxed for a few weeks. The social stuff is really important for mental wellbeing...
Sounds like a great way to decompress and cleanse the spleen.
Upvoted for "ventilated grievances". What a beautiful turn of phrase!
Not only shift work but more and more companies want you to be flexible for them and work whenever they need you in their needed time which takes away all your personal life. Almost none of my former coworkers made it to retirement and the few that did died within a few years later after poisoning themselves with smoke, alcohol and who knows what else due to extreme stress. Nr 1 cause of death by far cancer. Remember we for them are not human beings but numbers... Social security numbers. Sad.
I'm happy for me it's over. It's a new life that I'm living.
Companies that insist that you be available whenever do that because staff members allow them to do that. Provide unquestionable value to your position and you’ll be able to create hours that are acceptable to both sides.
@@barrysmith8193 sadly not in these times. They answer (like my former company) that you are here freewillingly. If you don't like it you may leave. They can hire plenty of jobless people ready to get the job.
What you said about shifts and sleep is so true. I worked shifts at Heathrow Airport for years. I became quite unwell in the end. I gave it up 3 or 4 years ago and I can honestly say that I have seldom felt better. I now enjoy a regular bedtime regime and it transformed my life for the better.
I’m with you there brother. I now that feeling so well.
Shift work is an interesting point of discussion. Research over 22 years demonstrates that those who work shift work for more 5 years, on average were 11% more likely to die younger
than those who do not work shift work
Thanks for this Ash. Great stuff, as ever. I have always brought my son up to be a gentleman. However, now more than ever, the notion of 'gentlemanhood' is more under siege than it has ever been, and from all sides.
I take sad note of the following: "The leading cause of death for males aged 35 to 49 years changed from IHD [Ischaemic Heart Disease] between 2001 and 2010, to suicide and injury or poisoning of undetermined intent from 2011 to 2015, to accidental poisoning in more recent years.
Suicide and injury or poisoning of undetermined intent was the leading cause of death for both males and females aged 20 to 34 years in the UK, for all years observed. Males had over three times the number of deaths from suicide compared with females for each year observed in this age group. In 2018, there were 1,233 male deaths from suicide and injury or poisoning of undetermined intent (27.1% of total male deaths for those aged 20 to 34 years) and 353 female deaths from suicide and injury or poisoning of undetermined intent (16.7% of total female deaths for those aged 20 to 34 years)." Source: ONS.
I think that the strongest thing that we need to emphasise is that being a gentleman comes from within and is not imposed from outside. Nothing can take it from you: not losing your wife, children, job, health. It is like a precious flower which you must cultivate every day. Thank you for helping in this process Ash.
Outstanding sentiment and the facts are clear. As a parent of a young man i am acutely aware of the challenges of raising a gentleman in this era of falling social responsibility and subjugated values.
I place my faith in the next generation, with careful guidance and support, the next generation may be the best yet.
Shocking. But not surprising, I’m sorry to say. Thank you for this reply.
I am a 3 tour Vietnam combat veteran with VA diagnosed chronic PTSD. In addition to my regular VA counseling …..for my body I have changed my dietary approach to eliminate all inflammatory and processed foods, and I ride my mountain bike for 30 minutes at 3:30 in the morning. For my mind I have incorporated a daily routine of supportive mindsets. The Chaps Guide is at the top of my list and I watch daily without exception. This recipe has done wonders for me and I thank you Ash for being a constructive part of my life’s plan. Keep up the great contributions. I stand and salute you.
I am so pleased to be of some benefit to your life journey sir. It is my absolute pleasure. Best wishes, Ash
For fitness and mental health don't underestimate plain old walking. After i got out of college I was in between jobs so I would go down to the local lake every day and fish. I made a study of it, drawing out a map of the lake and marking where I caught fish, etc. It was rather difficult trudging around it in heavy rubber boots but one day I looked down and noticed I had a six pack!
Years later I had two little Scotty dogs who met me at the door every day wanting to go on a walk. I would be exhausted but couldn't say no. I lived across from a college campus and it really was a beautiful walk. As tired as I was before the walk I always felt better afterward. Walking not only keeps you fit but is great for your mental health too. If you want to get in shape get a little dog who demands a walk every day...lol
Great work compiling this Ash.
Much appreciate
After getting a copy of Chap magazine through the post today , I have come to the conclusion your videos are more informative, and more concise.
I think they could do much worse than have you as editor, or at least have you write a article in the magazine four times a year.
Well done , with your latest video.
I enjoy The Chap too. It has become less engrossing in recent years, something of a parody of its former self. But still a fairly decent read.
Chewing raw parsley removes the smell of garlic from ones breath 👍
"Spending all that money to get hands that look like a griffin's talons, sometimes." -I just about fell off my chair laughing, mate.
But you're absolutely right, Ash, many men do virtually nothing to take care of their face, their hair, or their hands, and the truth of the matter is that women notice all these things.
And safeguarding one's mental health through reading, taking up a hobby, getting some fresh air and daily exercise, through something as simple as walking, is of paramount importance.
It's also extremely important to cultivate the company of a group of friends. I join a group of English gentlemen for coffee and croissants every morning as part of my daily walk downtown.
One thing I might add here is that men should be wearing sunglasses to protect their eyes against UV light whether it's during the height of summer, or a bright winter day when there's a lot of glare off snow and ice.
Thank you for saying how bad old oil and grease is for your body, my Brother is a farmer and a mechanic, old oil can give you goodpasture syndrome, which causes your body to make antibodies that attack the lungs and kidneys,
Thanks for this little video essay on self care!
It's supremely important but if you browse the topic here (id est youtube) you'll find a ton of machismo based toxic approaches to it along with the more rational ones.
Mind you I also did not truly care enough until I almost lost my life to... well a lorry not giving a s*** if there was anyone on the zebra crossing, and as a consequence I had to re-evaluate a couple of things in my life and the general lookout I held.
Especially in light of some of the broken things in my body from and in consequence I really *had* to start to take more care.
But I also started to dress well in this context, why should I not look my best every day? Might be dead on the morrow - not in a negative, pessimistic way, it's not scary, Ive been on the edge of existence for minutes and it was an interesting experience ;) but why not take care and do whatever possible to the best possible and acceptable? Not going nuts and pushing myself towards unrealistic goals, just doing what can be achieved and what's worth the effort.
Hand care- oh hand care - *thank you* for pointing this out, it's often regarded as effeminate but my work (orthopaedic shoemaker) requires at least some basic hand care and all kinds of different gloves and certainly some protection for the skin at the days start and some care after work - working with leather and heat and chemicals all day has thought me about the importance of hand care quite effectively. ;)
I really like the fact that you mention (well not explicitly, but it's pretty clear you understand this) to key to all of this: it's all the same essentially, everything is interconnectedand if you start at one point, in my experience, you'll be almost automatically drawn into taking more and more care of more and more fields and so it comes together, took me a couple of years certainly.
=> addendum:
One of my greatest moment of enjoyment are going to the barbers and get my hair and beard done- especially if you are a beard wearing gent it's thoroughly enjoyable and it just looks better than I ever managed myself.
Best regards and enjoy your stay!
Raoul G. Kunz
Hi Ash, you have hit upon some really good point of self care. I would like to add one topic to a persons well being, your feet. I have never gone cheap when it comes to footwear, being on my feet all day everyday in the US Army has taught me that. Also keeping your feet dry and clean make all the difference between a great day and a bad day. Thanks for all the good advise.
Excellent point. If your feet are compromised you cannot do much of anything. As I have aged I increasingly appreciate the value of good shoes and boots.
Tristan, I agree wholeheartedly. Good shoes or boots and a good bed. For those who drive for a living a good comfortable vehicle is the third point of this triangle for me.
My exercise is, for various reasons, restricted to walking and a dog is great for getting you out walking, I'm 66 and walk anything up to 12 miles at a time with my dog, more usually 3-4 miles at a time 2 or 3 times a day. Dogs can be great help with depression, mine helps with my PTSD and I know other PTSD sufferers who say the same.
In fact I know people who say they wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for their dog.
As always, I appreciate your take on life and take the advice to heart! Keep up the great content👊🥃!
Arrrr.yes…. We too believe..with respect to the networking and personal effort that you put into life… what goes around …comes around …
Many of the larger police and fire departments in the US now have people who specialize in PTSD. If you have come into a violent situation or a major fire, there is always PTSD. It is not something to ignore and can be treated. Departments with such personnel find that officers come to highly value them.
Bravo to those departments.
Great tips!
Hi Ash, I absolutely love a day at the spa, a little swim, some relaxing in the hot tub / sauna all topped off a massage. Then onto a nice afternoon tea somewhere with my good lady wife.
Gay
@@user-om5el5tn5k classy 🙄
Richard so glad to hear others have this interest. Sounds like a great day out to be fair.
@@TheLycan238 it's a grand day out, also a great way t get to spend some time with my good lady.
@@richallan001 agreed. As someone who prefers a slightly slower pace of life than many these days I can say the benefits to me of this lifestyle have been wonderful.
Wonderful list of tips, Sir! And may I say your cabin looks very cozy.
Your employer was marvelous in having everyone see a psychiatrist twice a year. Seeing a therapist is not a cause for shame or insufficiency as it was with earlier generations.
And dental hygiene is also critical. Ignore it and you can wind up with gum disease which can require surgery.
A wonderful video, Ash.
Good stuff, bravo.
Great advice - thank you.
I'd like to share a few points that I've learned on my life journey so far . . .
Regarding your advice on protecting yourself from the sun - don't forget your eyes. Wear sunglasses. Not just when its a cloudless sunny day, but in all bright conditions. Those UV rays are not just harmful to your skin.
And with reference to your point on physical well-being, I'd like to pass on some advice from a colleague of mine who is of a similar age to myself - fifty seven - and which I've not heard anywhere else.
He is a regular gym-goer, and his goal at the gym is not to build muscle or improve cardio-vascular capacity, but to maintain mobility and balance as he gets older.
We can't take for granted that the things we can do now - like climbing stairs or simply getting out of a chair - we will be able to do in later life if we just neglect our muscles and joints.
So true. My father is 91 and very chipper. I put his mobility down to his fitness and knowledge gleaned from his time as an army physical training instructor. Invest in your health now - it is better than any pension plan.
Solid advice once again! It's rather a shame that one of our heroes, Ian Fleming, did not heed the good advice of friends and his Harley Street health care providers for at least a decade before his untimely death! Listen to the messages your body is sending you because you only live once and not 'twice' as the Japanese poet 'Basho' proclaimed !
Fine advice for us chaps Ash. Keep up the good work my friend.
Take it from a skin cancer survivor, sun screen is no joke. To all chaps out there....use it. Life is more fragile than we think.
Ohh this was much needed.. thank you 🙏
Such great advice Ash! Thank you 🙏
Excellent video, sir. I found it very useful and enjoyed the video. Thanks very much, Sir.
Thank you very much for all your videos, Sir.
I would like to make an observation, if I may: fluoride is neuro-toxic, toothpastes should be without fluoride.
Best wishes!
Thanks for the kind and useful advice. Needed a little encouragement been feeling a little melancholy as of late. Cheers Ron
Bedankt
Great stuff Ash all this might seem bloody obvious but sometimes we all need reminding about the basics which are so important
Appreciate your advice
Greetings from Hong Kong 🇭🇰 still a great place even with the recent changes
Great content as always Ash, very diverse content that’s important for men…thank you. I agree with all your points, one question - I also use moisturisers etc, do you think it’s too much to use an after shave balm after shaving and then a moisturiser on top of it?
Another tip as part of mental health that works for me is visualisation. Many times as you say life can be tough and feels like we are far away from our ideal positions….visualisation and affirmations are important, so we mentally picture our ideals and affirm them. I believe we attract situations in the dark room of our mind (just like where pictures are produced….in dark rooms). Every morning I wake up and thank God for being blessed favoured, knowing the right doors will open for me 🙏🏻
Excellent point sit. Picture the end goal and strive towards it!
Your skin will let you know if you are over moisturising. If the product does not absorb readily and the skin feels greasy. That is an indication that you may be applying too much product
Great point about visualisation. Good enough for the SAS, good enough for me.
Al
We were offered counselling after the Lockerbie air disaster,but it never materialised,after two days in the makeshift mortuary, I wonder if it would have helped me.
Counselling may still offer an improved outcome for you, if you feel that damage was caused in a traumatic incident. Different people process things at different speeds. I saw many hideous things in my career, things that will haunt me to my dying day - but my sessions with the counsellor were beneficial, even if it was just an opportunity to talk it through with a non-judgemental ear. Give it some thought.
@@TheChapsGuide Cheers Ash👍
The very best version of…Ashley Jones MBE 😊
Hello, Ash; great advice! I’ve been a tobacco smoker for well over three decades (pipe, cigars, cigarettes) and am looking to quit - or at least, significantly moderate - the habit. If I may ask: did you ever smoke, and if so, for how long? Any tips from personal experience on kicking the habit?
I have never been a smoker, so unfortunately have only limited advice to offer. My mother was a smoker from early adulthood and gave up the habit in her 50s using raw willpower.
These days there are many medical assistance options that can really help, but a profound desire to quit is still the starting point. If you are ready to rid yourself of tobacco, I suggest the next step would be a chat with your pharmacist.
Good luck I wish you a speedy success.
The Chap's Guide - Sound advice, Ash. Thanks very much for kindly taking the time to reply, and for your good wishes.
Hello Ash
After your video above about pea coat, i m interested to purchase one. Kindly recommend brands/models or websites for the pea coat purchase? Thank you.
Cheers
Kelvin
Hi Ash. My name is “Safwan”. I’m 21 years old from France 🇫🇷 . I have a question. Which is considered more chap like, “Khaki pants or jeans”? Which of the two is more formal or classic and which is considered more fashionable. I have always wore Jeans in my teenage years, but as I grow old I’m being encouraged by my peers to switch to Khakis. Which of the two do you prefer and are there brands you prefer over others.
Chinos (khaki) trousers are my go-to choice for most events. I stopped wearing denim jeans a few years ago and have found the chino to be extremely versatile in daily life.
But there’s a Ferrari that use diesel 🤣 F12 TDF
My favorite morning routine 🧖♀️
1 : Rise and Shine.
2 : Shower/ Teeth
. 3: Hour exercise, Shower, Suanna, Steam, Finally cold shower
4: shave
5 : head to work fresher than 99% of co workers.
6: Shower/ Teeth before bed.
I sometimes shower 3-4 times a day sometimes at home sometimes at my
Health club. (Bay Club San Diego) gorgeous club/lounge.
I dont layer cologne but pro tip.
True Fit and Hill Clubman + Polo Green. Most compliments ive ever gotten lasts 8+ hours. Apply conservatively.