8 Relatable AuDHD Struggles
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- Опубліковано 13 вер 2024
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I got an ADHD diagnosis a few months ago, and the more and more I learn and hear life experiences from autistic people, ADHDers, and AuDHDers..... I'm starting to suspect I'm an AuDHDer.
1) Organizing - Tends to fall in the category of simpler things I JUST CANT activate on doing. I get really frustrated when stuff isnt where I put them. Now when I AM able to activate on those tasks I 110% get distracted, stop half way through... and it forever becomes a tomorrow thing.
2) Interrupt people - Has always been a problem for me, getting excited to share something is totally a part of that for me. Wasn't able to control it I had to work REALLY hard to not do it in every conversation, but I definitely still do it.
3) Getting random stuff I'll never use - I do that too just with different stuff than you. I've done it with Steam games, cause I also use videogames as a coping strategy. I also get a new idea how to "fix" the executive dysfunction I've dealt with and I stop using them. I also occasionally get hyper-fixations on things that require physical objects.... everything from aquariums for fish and live plants, to guitars and modifying all the parts of them, to art supplies, to building computers. I tend to get a BUNCH of stuff from those fixations and really go hard on them for awhile and then they just kind of sit there. The aquariums are nice those cause they can be really relaxing to to just watch.
4) Forgetting sentences - This definitely happened to me a lot as a kid, I've developed some coping techniques as I've gotten older.
5) Stories - In high school I was ALWAYS made fun of for my run-on chaotic stories. I have to really focus on this in professional settings as an adult.
6) Multi-tasking/conversations - I do this too. It causes me to mishear people. I had a boss in an office setting that used to tell me to slow down cause I was three steps ahead of everyone. I dunno I was just kind of multi-threaded thinking in my brain while I was talking.
7) Sudden lack of interest - Yes happens all the time to me on a wide range of things. I also fixate on certain foods.
8) Master skills vs basic chores - This is a huge huge one for me. And has been extremely disruptive for me, it ends up spiraling in to a self-fulfilling prophecy of can't do chores, get sensory overload from undone chores, undone chores become clutter, clutter is over whelming, can't do any chores to resolve clutter, clutter turns in to piles and pile of clothes, trash, hobbie stuff, anything really..... This was a major factor in derailing a great career for myself.
You covered a lot of the ones I would share I just experience them slightly differently, but here are any I can think of -
1) Quite often I do this thing I guess you could call website hopping. I'll check one email, check a news website, check my second email, check another news site, check the first email, check the first news website, check my second email, check the second news site... I end up doing this when I'm not able to activate on tasks my ADHD is telling me to do. I first became aware of it at university when I was in a computer lab between classes. Someone I knew was seeing what I'm doing and they were like "WTF are you doing"
2) Kind of related to sudden lack of interest, but definitely different - Is what falls in a category Freeze and Flight response to tasks. One of the most disruptive times this has happened to me was in my first year of college, which this led to me failing out. I would get ready for class have everything i needed a whatever classes i had that day and I would go to class, navigate to the class in the building, and freeze at the threshold on the class. I'd stand there for a few minutes trying to convince myself to go in, the freeze. Then I would with great shame go and hide in the university book store to avoid anyone that may know I should be in class. This happens with LOTS of things for me. Exercise, which I enjoy and know plenty about so those aren't hurdles, just leaving the house, going to therapy (thank god for telehealth now), starting an art project... I'd get all the supplies or digital stuff I needed ready and I'd be starting the art.... and I just can't do it anymore.
Brilliant molly 😂❤️
Yep, same, i do usually cook the food though. The new hobbies & skill thing, the novelty/newness of it gives the most dopamine, learning about the thing gives the dopamine, doing the things not quite as much.
Thank you ...we are so darn similar in these experiences & I so much appreciate you sharing.
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Really well described
So true about the notebooks and constantly interrupting!!
The interrupting is my worst🫣
@@MollysADHDMayhemyeah was notebooks now it's paper
I can relate to numbers 2, 3 (when I have to write reports or self assessments I struggle to put things in sentences or how to phrase them), 4 and 5 (my stories start in the middle, I will add details, jump back and forth, decide that some extra story is needed for the story I am telling).
Another trait I have is being super enthousiastic and trying new things/agreeing to do something, and when the time comes I am dreading to do it and I will try to find excuses to not do it/get out of it.
Sheeeeesh… 😮 I’ve never felt so… _described_ 😂 I’ve long suspected it wasn’t just ADHD after I got professionally diagnosed last year, I consider myself “self-diagnosed with autism” and this made me a whole lot more sure because I struggle with most if not all of these things. The notebook one made me laugh out loud because I was about to say “oh… no, I don’t think I do that”…until I remembered the 7 or 8 notebooks I decluttered recently after I bought my iPad Mini & Apple Pencil…only now to have countless customized (and rather empty) notebooks in the Goodnotes app! 🤣🙌 Yet another amazing video Molly, wish I could subscribe so many more times because people need what you give through this channel ❤
Thankyou❤️
1. Good question. I don't reorganize things very often. But if I do I think I usually finish them. I remember reorganizing my child's room's layout multiple times, moving my bed and cupboards around because I was bored by the look of my room. I do have some unfinished projects though, and of course a lot of unfinished ideas (I recently looked into a folder named "ideas archive". It contains 47 subfolders! And these are just the ones I've "archived"). When it comes to chores I get interrupted by my thoughts to an extend where I forget what I need to do next and I start pacing until I come back to reality like: "Wait, why am I here? Who turned on auto pilot?"
2. I don't think I interrupt people a lot, but I don't understand why. I do have a lot of thoughts when people talk to me but they usually never come out. Is it the autism or some anxiety? I don't know.
3. Yes! But it's because I love notebooks. There are so many that look sooo gorgeous. I've also started two bullet journals but yeah, I'm not using them anymore. Mainly because I've switched over to digital alternatives (Todoist for todos, a text file for dairy and what I call "event logs", and a spreadsheet to keep track of things I refill in a kind of regular pattern - e.g. dishwasher salt and rinse aid - to predict when the next refill is about to happen).
4. YES! Not only when I'm talking to other people, it also happens when I'm having an inner monologue or when I'm trying to bring my thoughts on the screen or paper. I suddenly go completely blank and forget who I even am.
5. Similar to point 2, hard to say because I don't talk much. But maybe you can tell from my writing. Maybe sometimes the part in me that keeps everything in order stops operating or something. I mean I can write a lot and if I read over it again I often see that I could rewrite it to make it a lot shorter and easier to understand. But the most important question here is: why not talk about quantum physics? What's your favorite boson? :'D
6. Yes, I'm just very non-talkative unless it's about an interesting topic, then my urge to talk feels like an inflating balloon inside myself. Also, my favorite color depends on the context but it's either purple, red, or teal.
7. Hm, usually when I buy ingredients I actually cook them... Oh, wait, I still have some unused pizza flour. Nevermind. :D I also do this a lot with vegetables and yoghurt for cereal. Once I really wanted to try an avocado because I've never tasted them. It got bad in the end. ripvocado o7
8. Yes, can relate! A tutorial video about something I'll never gonna do? Here! Here I am! Sign me up, please! I need to get up in 5 hours? Even better!
9. Hi! _o/ 🙃
I love notebooks too🤣
Oh Jesus yeah the notebooks 🤣🤣🤣 I don't know why each time I buy a new one I expect it's going to solve everything, my nest is littered with them each having only a few lines written like some glorified wish list lol
Yes to everything, well almost I can’t even organise myself until the shit pile gets to big and messy then I will try and organise but it’s a struggle as my brain gets distracted easily and I get bored. I always upset people by interrupting their conversations, especially in interviews when I am nervous, I can’t stop myself talking over people. Yes I am a genius, always know stuff without knowing it, it like just appears in my head totally freaks me out. Buying stuff I don’t need or use.
Ohhh the nervous talking always gets the better of me to!🫣
Hi Molly hope you're well yes I relate to a lot of these things throughout my life always forgetting what I'm going to say to people it does my head in very very forgetful terrible working memory but got a good long-term memory remember everything from years ago keep up the videos molly they're always brilliant
Was hyperfocusing on a game and forgot to come here, But I made it to the video. I always have problems organizing, Forgetting clothes in dryer after 3 days of leaving them there, I say random things to people even if its rude or doesn't make any sense and interrupt them (As I forget how to spell interrupt as I'm typing and had to google it because I was listening to your video and typing at the same time) I spent too much money on caffeine and food. Awesome Video!
Thankyou for watching! I can relate on the spending too much money on caffeine!🫣
I relate to everything you mentioned-especially learning something one considers to be genuinely interesting with proficiency while struggling to complete simple tasks. Languages come to mind as while they are not easy to learn, I possess gifts that make the process of learning them easier for me. I really adore learning new words and the etymology of words in general too.
Fun Fact: did you know that Anglo-Saxon (Old English), Anglo-Norman (French), Latin and Old Norse greatly influenced English? The more you know! 😊
Thankyou for that fun fact! I didn’t know that so I appreciate it ❤️
You're welcome! 🤗
Not just notebooks, journals, and books, but also coloring books... That I NEVER color in! And calendars and planners. SMH
Yep do all this!!😊😊 and I repeat what I'm saying alot lol, like you lol xx😂
You do get the issues across well Molly, thanks!
I finally gave in and bought a small teleprompter because the editing time of my videos got waaayy to long because I forget what to say, what I already said…yeah. 😅😅😅
I relate to nearly all of the things you said. ❤❤
Edit: we have an interest-based brain and we have executive dysfunction, so if a task doesn’t give us any dopamine, we just can’t do it. It’s too much pushing ourselves and it’s too overwhelming.
I’m going to look into one of those! Thankyou xx
@@MollysADHDMayhem Of course! 🙏🏻🫶🏻I have a very cheap one where you can clip in your phone or a tablet, you don’t even have to use it as a full blown teleprompter with an entire script, you can also just display your notes. (I have the desview T3 )
Yeah.. audhd and done all the things.
Totally relatable. But how do you know you have autism and ADHD. I got my diagnose for ADHD last november.. but really recognize a lot.
I was diagnosed with both :)
Haha I had to stop the video half way through just to say YES YES and YES I can relate! (I did watch the whole video though)
Piles of stuff everywhere, not being able to finish things I start. Story of my life
Interrupting🫢 I can’t stop it
Notebooks! How I fall for this every time. I have so many notebooks. I love notebooks but wow I never fill them with words and ideas(and I have too many ideas), they don’t get out of my head most of the time
And I forget
I also forget how many notebooks and books I already have 🙄
I have my talents and love learning and mastering new things, but..
I am pretty sure I’m never going to master cooking for myself, putting laundry away in a proper way, cleaning out of my suitcase after a trip or traveling, showering (I absolutely hate showering it’s the absolute worst, I do it cause I hate being dirty but it’s so exhausting and I dread my next shower before I’m finished showering), washing the floors, keeping on top of housework and basic self care. I am 35. It’s so tiring and overwhelming.
And you have to do these things over and over, it’s never finished and it’s always SUCH A HUGE STRUGGLE. 🤯
You are not alone.