You are on point ! Ive been in therapy for 25 yrs because of my relationship with my mom. Bottom line for me with any relationship, you need to part of a positive solution for me, if you’re part of the problem I can not have you in my life . Im done with toxic relationships!!!!
It’s very brave and cathartic reliving your formative years and sharing some of the unpleasantness that you experienced because of your parents tumultuous relationship. I commend you for sharing. I completely understand and know the experience of having a roller coaster of a relationship with Mom. I have a similar situation and my mom never seems to think that she has done anything wrong. her defense is that she’s done everything in her children’s best interest. I seem to think that she’s a bit selfish & hurtful but hey, what do I know, right? It’s really a shame when parents don’t participate in active listening, and can’t put their pride aside to listen to what their children have to say. Your experiences were very real and so is your pain as an adult. I don’t know your whole story, but as I said, I can relate. I wish you all the healing and mending that is possible. Congratulations on working a little but more everyday towards being the best version of yourself possible! I hope to see more of you on HGTV. From the start, I always thought you were the star of the show. HGTV has many shows, but very few of them actually have good designers or flip artists. You happen to be both and I hope they recognize it & that you’re able to bank on that!
@@jennifergenta2383you have to get help processing it as an adult though. And two, recognize that a child’s “version” of situations or reasons why things happened are often inaccurate because they’re a child and do not possess the ability to process adult situations, nor should they. I say all this to say this: when you’re a kid and you don’t want to go to a parent’s house because they have rules and punishments, that’s typical child behavior. The problem is when as that child gets older they remain stuck on “you wouldn’t let me do what I want” instead of realizing that parent was looking out for your best interest. Know that I’m not talking about abusive parents and she didn’t indicate any of her parents abused her or her siblings. This whole thing made me cry.
Mina, watching the first 2 episodes of Good Bones New Beginnings, I felt something was awry. In your lake house episode, when none of your family was in it and then you and Tad weren’t in Karen’s episode, I was like what is going on. Then I replayed both of them and really watched expressions and listened carefully to word choices and I knew there is something going on between Mina and Karen and Tad. I surmised that Karen and Tad were upset at your decision to sell HQ and District Co and scale back. I thought yeah that must be it because you all seemed so close. But I also said but How would that cause them to not even speak to each other? So I went to Google and found the articles talking about what happened at the end of last season. It broke my heart. Seriously. I actually am still sitting here with my jaw dropped. Here is what I’m going to leave here with: Mina you are blessed with gifts and talents that obviously came naturally from your mom. Good Bones may be titled because of the bones of houses. But you can also say “good blood” because renovating is in your blood. Creativity is in your blood and it came from Mom. No matter what has happened, you’ve got 2 kids and she is their grandma. With all the step parents you can ever have, we only have 1 mom and 1 dad. If something were to tragically happen to Karen and you have not resolved whatever issues you two are having, you will regret it the rest of your life. I have watched a few people do what it seems is happening here, saying well I’m waiting on the other to do something before I do anything. Please don’t wait. Be vulnerable, don’t let fear of rejection stop you. Same goes for your siblings. You may not think so right now because you have Steve and your children and you think that’s all you need. I’m telling you from watching others go through h this, nothing can compensate for the space Karen occupies in your being. I think so much of you Mina. You don’t know me and I’m sure there are fans out there that say crazy things. That’s not me. I’m just telling you that as long as there is breath in your body, you have a chance to be the hero and take steps to heal your family. From where I sit, it starts with you. Trust me. Please at least try because like I said, if anything happens to any of them, especially Karen and Tad, and you haven’t reconciled, you will have a regret you may not ever be able to therapy away. Saying all of this in concern for all of you. 🙏🏾
You are on point ! Ive been in therapy for 25 yrs because of my relationship with my mom. Bottom line for me with any relationship,
you need to part of a positive solution for me, if you’re part of the problem I can not have you in my life . Im done with toxic relationships!!!!
Very honest and refreshing
I have so loved your show. You have been incredible.
It’s very brave and cathartic reliving your formative years and sharing some of the unpleasantness that you experienced because of your parents tumultuous relationship. I commend you for sharing. I completely understand and know the experience of having a roller coaster of a relationship with Mom. I have a similar situation and my mom never seems to think that she has done anything wrong. her defense is that she’s done everything in her children’s best interest. I seem to think that she’s a bit selfish & hurtful but hey, what do I know, right? It’s really a shame when parents don’t participate in active listening, and can’t put their pride aside to listen to what their children have to say. Your experiences were very real and so is your pain as an adult. I don’t know your whole story, but as I said, I can relate. I wish you all the healing and mending that is possible. Congratulations on working a little but more everyday towards being the best version of yourself possible! I hope to see more of you on HGTV. From the start, I always thought you were the star of the show. HGTV has many shows, but very few of them actually have good designers or flip artists. You happen to be both and I hope they recognize it & that you’re able to bank on that!
I would love to hear Karen’s view of the early years.
Childrens perspective of the situations are so important .
Its what lives inside of them forever
Im one of those children.
@@jennifergenta2383you have to get help processing it as an adult though. And two, recognize that a child’s “version” of situations or reasons why things happened are often inaccurate because they’re a child and do not possess the ability to process adult situations, nor should they.
I say all this to say this: when you’re a kid and you don’t want to go to a parent’s house because they have rules and punishments, that’s typical child behavior. The problem is when as that child gets older they remain stuck on “you wouldn’t let me do what I want” instead of realizing that parent was looking out for your best interest. Know that I’m not talking about abusive parents and she didn’t indicate any of her parents abused her or her siblings.
This whole thing made me cry.
Mina, watching the first 2 episodes of Good Bones New Beginnings, I felt something was awry. In your lake house episode, when none of your family was in it and then you and Tad weren’t in Karen’s episode, I was like what is going on. Then I replayed both of them and really watched expressions and listened carefully to word choices and I knew there is something going on between Mina and Karen and Tad.
I surmised that Karen and Tad were upset at your decision to sell HQ and District Co and scale back. I thought yeah that must be it because you all seemed so close. But I also said but How would that cause them to not even speak to each other? So I went to Google and found the articles talking about what happened at the end of last season. It broke my heart. Seriously. I actually am still sitting here with my jaw dropped.
Here is what I’m going to leave here with: Mina you are blessed with gifts and talents that obviously came naturally from your mom. Good Bones may be titled because of the bones of houses. But you can also say “good blood” because renovating is in your blood. Creativity is in your blood and it came from Mom. No matter what has happened, you’ve got 2 kids and she is their grandma. With all the step parents you can ever have, we only have 1 mom and 1 dad. If something were to tragically happen to Karen and you have not resolved whatever issues you two are having, you will regret it the rest of your life.
I have watched a few people do what it seems is happening here, saying well I’m waiting on the other to do something before I do anything. Please don’t wait. Be vulnerable, don’t let fear of rejection stop you. Same goes for your siblings. You may not think so right now because you have Steve and your children and you think that’s all you need. I’m telling you from watching others go through h this, nothing can compensate for the space Karen occupies in your being. I think so much of you Mina. You don’t know me and I’m sure there are fans out there that say crazy things. That’s not me. I’m just telling you that as long as there is breath in your body, you have a chance to be the hero and take steps to heal your family. From where I sit, it starts with you. Trust me. Please at least try because like I said, if anything happens to any of them, especially Karen and Tad, and you haven’t reconciled, you will have a regret you may not ever be able to therapy away. Saying all of this in concern for all of you. 🙏🏾
Keep speaking your truth. I idealized you in a way probably just because you had a TV show. I assumed way too much and I feel for you.
Mina pray about your situation.
Today you really drank, I can tell.
I'm glad I didn't know all this before. It's ruined the last season knowing how much you can't stand your family. I think your head got too big.
Or you’re just jealous and need to be mean. I don’t hear that anywhere in this podcast. Just someone speaking there truth.