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Very useful 🔥

What do you recommend for kiddos who have advanced past this book? I hope to find something similar, but further along in concepts.

One of the best uploads I have seen about the subject

I mean be better than than, or

Myself,my three son and my grandson who made us realize why we're the way we are. Thanks for explaining it more.

For a gifted preschooler, it's worth checking out the Right Start book "Activities for the AL Abacus." It presents a sequence of activities for teaching the concepts in the Right Start way. The difference is that it's not scheduled out into individual lessons, so you aren't facing a bunch of spiral review. You can just work through the activities in more of a mastery approach at your child's own speed. It also doesn't require as many manipulatives.

Like speaking a language that's not your native language when speaking with people. That resonated.

thank you!

I was identified as gifted as a child, and I am just now (re)discovering what that actually meant. As a child, it meant I was constantly a let-down for my family and teachers. As an adult it helps me understand why I have heard things like "you are a lot; you are too much; you are too intense; calm down; why do you care so much?; you overthink things; you make things too complicated; your solutions are unrealistic," etc my entire life. While internally, I have always wondered, "Why are other folks not more empathetic, self-aware, precise, focused on doing things well, obsessed with fairness?" etc. Finding folks like you on UA-cam is cathartic. It is validating to know that we are not alone in having this different way of experiencing human cognition. It is also fun to find random people on UA-cam that share mannerisms (gesticulation, very expressive face, fast speech) that are part of what the people in my life find unique about my way of expressing myself and my presence. It feels like more evidence that this really is a neurodiversity because I am finding a lot of us are very similar in our internal experience as well as how we present socially when we stop masking and show our true selves.

15 minutes for the 2 year old. 1 hour for the 4 year old.

Thank you. Counting sheep doesn't work. I tell myself stories too.

I am in the 'High Average' range of intelligence, so far from being gifted.

This video hit home so fucking hard. The thoughts about death when I was around 5 were so troubling. Thank you for this :)

I can’t do news anymore, either. A waste of mental space during these little years with my kids. Because I’m constantly analyzing any issue, getting irritated at stupid policies, etc, I just had to cut the hand off. I never thought I had ADHD till I was a stay at home mom. The house was constantly a mess till I’d actually think about it, and try to get into routine. I was researching ADHD, and realized, most of my problems with the mundane things probably rather stem from giftedness. I guess I could potentially have ADHD, but I think I’m just too engrossed in thinking about philosophical notions and theology to care that much I have 7 loads of laundry to put away. 😂 who knows.

That’s why I said…not doing photography for money ever again. 😂 Does Q-tip addiction count?

Well this one is for you in the ASD community 31 per cent of them have high IQ. In other words only 2 per cent of the community are gifted and nearly a third of them have ASD. Get yourself evaluated for autism spectrum. Not having social interaction is one of the markers, then communication problems, finally restrictive interest.

time to follow you i also have a kid that just turned 5 year a couple of days ago, he is very into math (on a level similar to 10-11 year olds) , space (seems to be a common theme), tought himself to speak english by the age of 3, and as you say very emotional, when he uses the ipad he never consumes "dumb content" but are always on educational videos trying to learn new things.

Hard relate to most of it, especially the existential crises and feelings of meaninglessness. I feel like it is currently a lot more trendy to just call giftedness "autism", which makes everyone think it is great to be diagnosed with it, and is harmful to the people who actually are autistic.

I don't know if I'm gifted, but I relate a lot to most of the things you share, specially the existential part, the intensity of the emotions... Thank you so much for sharing :)

This is 100%! I grew up feeling very Alien, I was always called a genius or gifted because I was doing things far beyond my age in electronics and art, yet I felt this dreaded feeling I wasn't good enough because I didn't feel myself like the others or fitting into the social norms.. Then about 10 years ago I got tested and found I was highly gifted, I still feel I'm broken in a sense but hearing videos like this help me to feel like I'm not alone. I did have a community of gifted people and I felt so connected to them, but we are so few.. Thanks so much for this!! I'm also like you where I found other ways than getting addicted to drugs or anything like that. but when I'm stressed I will overindulge in these things just as much. Luckily my wife is very good at keeping up with my thoughts and I feel she also fits the gifted category

I (33, male) found out I am gifted last week (although I feel rather dumb and incompetent). All my life I tried to figure out how the mind and consciousness work, and became a Jungian therapist in the process, unable to establish myself as a professional for fear of stepping into the sphere of conventional society. Now, I would like to ask for support and reflections on some issues I experience acutely. My desire is to be heard and understood, and not feel so lonely in all this: The issues: I struggle with having to explain myself a lot. It's like people just don't grasp what I am trying to say, even though I am spelling things out as clearly as I can. It's like I have to translate a million nuanced reasonings, background, influences and impacts into a pre-packaged block of meat. Only, they rarely get the 'meat'; staring at me rather emptily and uncomprehending. I can't get over how I feel like, even when I downsize my message to a 'bite', it just doesn't land. I also struggle with setting boundaries, and communicating them on an appropriate level. I feel like I reject someone utterly when I am overstimulated and want to get away from them completely. But, because of social conventions, I cannot state the boundary, or express how I am really feeling. Party because I don't want to be seen as a party-pooper, partly because I don't want to hurt the other person, partly because I dare not express my needs and desires for fear of retaliation or abandonment, and partly because I feel like I would break the social atmosphere, and enter into an awkward, mismatched vibe. And example: Yesterday, I went to the sauna with two friends whom I had not seen in a while as a birthday occasion. One guy, who I know to be hyperactive and demanding, simply would not stop making noises, jokes, etc. The sauna is like a silent prayer to me, and I treasure the reverent atmosphere. However, these two were making constant jokes, riffing off of each other, and being rather profane (as opposed to the Sacred). Since I am struggling with long-covid, my energy reserve is limited, and I tend to get overstimulated swifter than most people. My issue here was that I could not find the courage to just say: "listen, I want to enjoy the sauna in silence, and I cannot bear more overstimulation, because it gives me stress and anxiety". Instead, I stated a couple of boundaries (particularly inside the sauna's) and hoped that the sauna itself would relax me. However, I just froze over, and got more stressed. I felt like I could not possibly set the boundary as deep as I felt I wanted to, namely entirely; I did not want to be around them AT ALL. I felt like this would be an existential rejection on my part, where I would reject them (this one friend in particular) on a fundamental, existential level. I felt like I was not part of the social interactions, and that when I would interrupt that, there would only be awkwardness and disconnection, or rejection of me and my needs. The result was that I got more and more stressed, and rejected my own feelings. Also, when someone tells me something, responds to what I'm saying, or asks me a question, I shut down because there are three things that I want to say immediately and at the same time. Like the bandwidth of my communication doesn't allow a highway on my 'single lane'. I then feel stupid when people don't understand when I downsize my message, and order them into sequential steps. People so rarely get the big picture. Sometimes a person makes a statement that is so distorted and twisted that I freeze up, feeling the acute urgency to 'untangle' the presumptions and ideas behind said statement, only to let the moment slip by and feel blocked. This happens particularly when I am being gaslighted by my mother, who doesn't understand me, and tries to help me by flat out commanding me to do things, which I obviously have all thought about and am working on. This makes me feel like I am not seen for who I am and what I can and can't do, and makes me feel unworthy and misunderstood. Often, when this happens, I freeze up and consider whether I am an asshole or if I am simply misinterpreting it, or being triggered without cause; in other words, if there is something wrong with me, or that I miss something. I don't dare to outright set a boundary and tell her (and others) that I think she/they is/are wrong, out of fear of rejection or being exposed as a weirdo, bigot or moron. One of my biggest anxieties is that I am unworthy because I am not intelligent enough. I simply feel rather stupid a lot of the time, and, at the same time, I feel like a monstrously overqualified, unrecognized genius, feeling the despair of not living up to my potential, and wasting away with chronic illness after a life of anxious overcompensation that's led to burnout and depression. Having to pretend like I am dumb, adapting to social conventions, being misunderstood, misjudged and attacked verbally, as well as physically by my mother when I was a child, has made me feel exhausted, unnerved, and desperate. 'Never-again will I adapt, nevermore will I sacrifice my soul!', I scream internally, the pressure inside pushing against the corporeal limitations of my being, and yet - and yet - I collapse, I cringe time and time again; I freeze, I scream against these bars around my heart and mind. I am lost. I feel alone. 'No one gets me', I sigh once more; silence sets in, a silence of a broken man; gutted, grieving. I hurt myself tremendously when I shut myself down, try to fit it, swallow my words or feelings and adapt to an unseen convention of social interactions, and I want to learn how to navigate, if not overcome, these issues.

Okay wow I relate to this video so, so much. You vocalized the cons perfectly.

I’ve never felt so seen as I have in the first 4 minutes 🥹

Very well described.

I have been slapped around with the 'gifted' label all my life. When I was very young, I could draw, I was good in school (all subjects except PE), and I was constantly told, 'Oh, you're so smart, everything just comes easily for you.' That is an unbelievably toxic thing to say to a child. My ego and my expectations went through the roof because of it. The subsequent hazing and verbal bludgeoning I got from the other kids was confusing and terrifying. As an adult, I knew I was special, but I was totally lost because I didn't know how to access any of it. I recognize every point in your list as something I have personal experience with. Over the last 15 years I have finally gotten myself together, but it's been a hard road. Giftedness is something we give to the world and the people around us. For ourselves, we simply learn survival.

The Dragonmasters series did that for my son at 6! We started the first one and we took turns reading. And then he realized “wait I can read without you?” And DEVOURED the rest of the series. I had to limit him to one a day because I had just bought the whole series thinking it would take some time.

I’ve never taken an IQ test, but I can relate to many of the challenges associated with being gifted. However, one thing I struggle with is learning quickly. I tend to overcomplicate topics, which causes me to lose sight of the simplicity, especially in subjects like math. In primary school, teachers would explain things in a straightforward way, but I found their methods too shallow, which made me feel like I didn’t really understand, leading to poor results. At university, I learned to simplify my thinking, which helped, but I still need time to fully grasp topics. I often require more background information to connect the dots and feel confident in my understanding, which results in longer learning curves. While this process allows me to know more details than my peers, the fast pace of school doesn’t always give me the time I need to delve deeper into subjects. So, it makes me wonder whether my learning style and approach still fit the profile of giftedness, despite these challenges..

what do you mean by gifted? Born in to wealtjy familay?

My son is also likely gifted. We have kept our formal schooling pretty light thus far (though we are going year round as it keeps us in a better routine). He is nearly 5 and I'm considering this year "kindergarten." We are currently doing 1st grade Singapore math and 1st grade language arts/literature from Masterbooks and spend about 30 minutes a day schooling, though he also spends a lot of time throughout the day reading books as well. We've done science here and there but his homeschool co-op is doing science this semester so I don't worry about doing it at home.

Sarcasm flies pretty well on Twitch. You just have to invoke an Athens once in a while. Personally I’ll enjoy the occasional canned joke, but there’s nothing like a topical improvised joke. I also like subtler jokes. Part of it is that modern media are constantly screaming for attention, but I also just like the idea of buried treasure. It might be anywhere, waiting to be discovered by someone observant enough. Maybe it will never be found. Maybe you’re revisiting material after a few years, and you see a deeper layer you were never aware of. That air of mystique is very intriguing.

I experienced that so many times. I always hide myself (mask), eating unhealthy things that make me nervous about getting cancer again, just to be perceived as normal, or because I'm misunderstood, or I again talked about 'boring' things all the time, I supposedly have ' so much energy'. I guess they're right, but it's difficult not to. Or when I think movies are illogical, I ll loose my attention, or when I get on my old friends nerves when they're watching a movie and I'm reading beside them, and tell them new facts, what I read in their mum's anatomy lexicon at halv twelve pm. and they don't care at that time. My mum didn't even knew that she too had it, that her masking wasn't the norm, she thought everybody feels it that way but nobody talks about it. Wich is weird because why would she then need to mask? And she also always takes responsibility for everyone else, like she's a project manager which she is not, but she gets the projects done and she is never happy with herself. You're listing all the things that happened to her or me one way or another. That's the first time I watch such a good UA-cam video. I had brain cancer in the cerebellum and thus had some atrophy but my brain reorganised itself in 8 weeks and the surgeons haven't seen that before as well. So I guess the plasticity or the gifted brains ability to cope made me not as damaged as I otherwise could have been. I was paralized and had paranthesis in the right side of the face and it all disappeared (only the ear is deaf, that's all the bad). I'm beeing extremely aware of carcinogens, toxins in food and therefore beeing very self restricted and anxious, that's maybe one of the downsides and of course I'm never proud as you described it. 😂 I'm pursuing two degrees, finished one and keep on with the other one, but I read so many books and want to learn so many other things that I almost can't do my degree as good as I could If I would have so high standards. So even if I'm aware, it's almost a little like a curse as well. I calculated to have read approx 520000 pages and know the sigma value is above average but I still feel amazingly empty and stupid. Why is this perfectionism feeling so strong? (very aware of that it may seem braggy or narcissistic in the comments, but you'll understand me I'm sure. ) I loved alcohol the first time I tried it, as well as smoking, and quit it immediately because I knew I loved it way too much. But when I was introduced to coffee I didn't thought of it beeing addictive now ever since I'm a little coffee junkie

I’m so sorry about the gross comments. No one deserves that!

Will you do an update on how things are going?

Based on my raw IQ score, I am not considered gifted....however, I do share many of the qualities of gifted people and score in the lower range of genius in 2 subsets of IQ. Yes, exactly. When I meet somebody who is at my IQ level or higher, it does indeed feel like meeting a fellow native speaker of my language. I get so excited and engage in sone serious verbal diarrhea, bouncing from one engaging topic to another. 😊

Thanks for another great in depth honest review!

I’d love to hear some content on the way that crisis or adversity affects a gifted adult. So why is it that gifted people ‘seem’ to have less resilience to difficult events than non gifted people. Why would we be so existentially thrown from a challenging event or threat? And what can we do to stabilise ourselves and cope better?

The issue I have had is that because I am somewhat well spoken, people don't always take me seriously when I tell them that I am struggling with my mental health. The feedback I have received at times was incredulous. "For a depressed person you sure do explain things well." "For somebody who's having such a hard time, you really don't sound like it when you talk."

Yep my son can self regulated very well!!

My son uses vocabulary most adults do t use. And he always uses the words in the correct way. I think he can articulate better than I do.

You also learn to expect success by virtue of natural talent alone, without having to struggle for it. This becomes a problem later in life

ASD, ADHD, AuDHD, Aspi, and perhaps a few more sounds definitely more scarry than just "Gifted", right? But please, let's be hones, between ourselves, there is so much overlap of the traits that only fear can be an excuse. And is it any good excuse? Yes, the scary "D" is really scary but it is put there or by so-called neurotipical or our traitors. Let's hold the ground, research, prove the theory, and show that we all are GIFTED!!! Sounds like another chapter of the revolution: Liberté, égalité, fraternité! 😊

You are doing exactly what I did with my son when he was your child's age. I haven't tested him but quite possible he is in gifted category..

Thank you so much for your honest review.

With my 8 yo, fortunately that “big picture thinking,” helps her keep perspective. Teachers become more critical of social mistakes the better you “blend in,” but we remember daily that she isn’t there for her teachers. The more successful you become at social interactions, the more invisible that work is, especially new teachers. It is an inverse reward system: most humans derive benefits from social success, where socially-challenged individuals are punished for their success with ever increasing scrutiny, criticism, and demands to do better in the form of increased workload. Humans respond to reward instead of punishment as a general rule. Punishments for success are demoralizing and depressing. She may be gifted, but she may as well be playing an away game with jet lag.

I love this soooo much! I love how engaged you are with your kiddos & how active you are in their learning! My sound is 3 now but I started when he 2 as well because he was very much ready & he still loves it!