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Oh, so here you are trying Sonic. This renders my previous reply in the other video somewhat less useful. ... never seen a Sonic with indoor seating.

A major point regarding this interaction, is how you approached I feel. The guy was really solid, and they seemed genuine and kind, unlike many. I feel just if you start off by cracking a joke or something, and then create a little raport by introducing yourself to them all or individually briefly, and give a tiny bit of info, it helps with people getting an idea of who you are quickly. A major part which throws people off is not having much context, seeing some nerves or apprehension or just an awkward air around the situation compounded by not having any idea who you are. The more you can broach that in a few quick gestures of just being confident and giving a little context, it gets rid of a certain awkward or apprehensive energy, which really travels far into causing some issue or barrier and making people question or look at it as weird. I dont think that joining whole groups unless having a raport with someone within already, is a good way of making friends, but hanging out inconsequentially a little, if you really hit it off, is calm, and you may find or make a friend of one or a few of them. You can definitely make a good connection and chill with people killing some time. But really making that first bit feel natural, and breaking the ice for people so that they dont have that burden you put on them, when you approached, is a major part. Honestly, the reinforcement of practice and feeling natural in the moment is a massive part of it. So really, practicing and dealing with uncomfortable sensations whilst doing so at first is a major aspect. Being self conscious is really a killer of your natural charisma. Being in tune and confident radiates, but it needs some practice. I feel that "this tune is sick! what you think of.... Mind if I join a second, im .... what are youre guys names?" with some space for replies is a way better approach. But got to go for it and sink and burn than never broach or try. Just dont let it get you down and keep away. Just try to find a variety of places which meeting new people is more natural and commonplace, and go there to practice. Meeting people where they go expecting to meet others and to create rapport is the best grounds to practice. Otherwise, its only a small interaction. It has no lasting consequence as those people seemed kind, and anyhow have no impact on your life going forward, and even if so only in how you choose to dwell and import that feeling forward in your head, if you let it stifle you. So just don't. Live and learn. Try again, being out of touch and feeling lonely is really something which puts more pressure on you, so you ought to give yourself some perseverance and calm down and simplify it, try to get less in your head with self consciousness. Body language is key too, smiling at people and just trying to make a small deliberate happy thought and expectation before engaging or going out.

You'll find your circle of friends these things take time. It takes time to develop a loyalty between people in a group, but once it's formed, you're all in for the most part. Definitely will not happen right away, specifically with forming a circle of friends. Finding one is even difficult.

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again!!!

Pulitzer prize worthy.

the how do i make friends noo😓😓😓

them being stoned deffo wasnt a good beginner test for an anxiety riddled feller :(

Brutal sht ngl

what you did with the piece of paper is exactly how unsolicited advice makes me feel

funny guy over here

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It's how she dropped the can at [11:30] while talking about being impulsive 💎

you have to be acting 😅

WOW LOLL thanks for sharing mama, I found myself in a similar place socially recently, having a lot of social anxiety and I'm 32! Currently working through it, if anything has any niche advice please share

You kinda look like the Asian version of sean o pry

I noticed the way you are talking to yourself, you are incredibly honest with yourself. You are truly seeking something. You are truly lost, and you cannot find anything without being lost. Hence you are stuttering, changing sentences you've just said repeatedly. I believe like everything, there is a time to think and reflect, and act. If I have the privilige of suggesting you something, I suggest skew even more towards trying. You have tried one time, then talked in this video. Next time make it 2-3 attempts. Triangulate your experiences, which will get you a lot more thinking points. I can't help but send you this sketchy, slimy internet help/made up scenario, but if I were to overhear you talking in this video, there would be no way for me to not try to initiate communication/friendship with you. You are real, which is all one must be. Hence, you are interesting as heck. I know I can bounce every type of topic off you and get some great insight, once you come off of your great, dreadful nervousness and you can talk without your peripheral vision going dark :D. I love that even you are hurting for a friend, you are still having a stance against internet friendships too. Just know that you will overcome these. People like you always do. Your older self will be more proud of these videos. To anyone reading this, I am sorry if I gave you a headache with my writing skills. I cannot write easy on the eye paragraphs in my native tongue Türkish either.

get a PC, use VR chat.

Your subconscious is urging you to find a partner, which is the inevitable result of finding a friend group. It'll be fun, they said.

I get the feeling of wanting friends, Maybe join the military? Lol😭 Or js be in a place where you kind of need to have forced interaction with people n maybe you'll find who's a good fit.

ok dude

I made friends through boxing and I was never even into it but so many differenct communities to interact with outside your normal setting.

Go to a bunch of Meetup events. This type of interaction is appropriate there.

There are going to be people you can approach and others you can't and you probably need to be able to pick up on that beforehand. I think trusting your instincts is typically going to help with this but experience will also factor in. As a side note, I really appreciate your candidness and am grateful that you shared this to the world. You're a genuine sweetheart and should be proud of yourself for identifying a problem in your life and taking action. For what it's worth, I would absolutely be your friend. I think your character is worthy of friendship and when you do find friends, they will be very lucky to have you. Keep up the effort. Subbed. ❤

the can drop at 11:36 💀💀💀💀 smooooth move

I also have grown to hate what the internet is doing to more and more of us. The digital reality is a trap and should be pulled from and brought into the physical world like that friend group was doing instead of sucking us in.

i would have been your friend. you can approach random people. youre very sweet dont stop being you please

What equipment do you use for your videos?

ew, gross

find a hobby you like and thatll be the quickest way to find more people like you. Like nerdy shit find a card shop, place to play dnd or whatever and see if you can join a game. Like sports find some local sports leagues for adults. FIND A HOBBY THOUGH for real.

No one wants a weird woke groomer around them

I give you props for putting this out there. Going to be blunt - you seem like the kind of person that many people would be happy to know after spending time slowly getting to know you through some shared experience (work, school etc. etc.) People who can just randomly interject and be accepted into a friend group in real time are usually physically/conventionally attractive and/or charismatic people. Your butch aesthetic/identity whatever you wanna call it coupled with your "eccentricity" is going to be an auto dismissal for a lot of people. Not saying it's right or wrong. That's just the way it is. You can bitch about how everyone else should be nicer and more accepting etc, but at the end of day, people aren't looking to accommodate, in any fashion, the people that they don't see value in i.e the people that can do something for them. If you got a complete fucking style rehaul and learned to be slightly less cringy, you would have much better probability of getting into these random groups. On the other hand, you could consider moving or going to some place that is more of a lgbtq demographic. You have a good level of introspection and self-awareness and analysis in retrospect. This is really good. Also start using sunscreen.

The point about not being able to just approach a random group of people got me thinking…First about how you are meant to ever find your group without approaching a random group but I see the light; They must associate you with them first, accept you as one of them in some capacity, wether it be through attending the same course or skating in the same park, you are clearly already alike. With music taste this is not so much the case because people may enjoy it for different reasons and see a different message. When you are already part of their general people they are more likely to accept you further ❤

That guy actually gave you pretty good advice, although they could've just been chill and let you sit with them

Honestly, this was kind of hilarious. The title is hilarious, the thumbnail is hilarious, but the feelings you felt were not hilarious. I can understand if you feel it's hard to make friends again. I guess you need to ask yourself if you want to make friends or what kind of friendship you're looking for. Either way, you're funny, whether you realize it or not. Which is funny that you mention the Andy Kaufman bit. Also very well spoken.

If i were you i would find cool places or events you enjoy and just go and spend time there since it is fine you can be there, sooner or later people might show interest in you or you can show interest in people. For me for example i love dogs so if i visit or live somewhere new i will hang out at a dog park or volunteer at a shelter, make friends that way, or via skating or magic the gathering go do stuff you enjoy solo and find someone else who is solo or 1-2 and try and approach them authentically and openly as you the person. If you are comfy bantering and chatting to people online before meeting them irl myself and some friends who are on the spectrum and more introverted found bumble bff to be a good way to chat to people and if you enjoy the conversation you can figure out some hang out, activity or meeting that you would both enjoy. I think maybe if you had just opened with "Hi I'm new here and don't know anyone i love Kendrick. Kind of awkward but i can't remember how to make friends any advice for me or how did you guys meet and get to know each other?". Then thank them and head off after that question. Might made the existing existing interaction less awkward and more authentic without the weird Kendrick drop one liner opener and mentioning the youtuber thing straight away. Based on the stuff you mention about the Kaufman special and your attempt trying and salvage it by spinning away from being a person trying to make friends into your youtuber/artist persona trying to make content. It feels maybe like you aren't really comfortable being yourself around people which is probably something to work on. Decide ahead of time if you are approaching a situation as you the person or your youtuber persona and don't try and mix the two up too much that you blur the lines.

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Alot of times we find friends when we are not looking. But if your anxious to find friends you will find the wrong type of friends... "Honestly, there's no such thing as friends, only associates" Love yourself!!!

nice hair

Question. When can one use 🤪?

thank you shasa

really good video

what you have to do is collect the cat hair until you can make a voodoo doll of the cat and pet it nicely while you’re away. I swear this works

I wish i had a friend like you 😊😢

Lmao 😊🤣

I like that you exist

Thank you for educating us about this strange and unusual and insane condition you don't have!

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Change the mullet Bruce lee once told his student to buy newer clothes and act your age because he was young 28 year ole man dressing like a 40 year old. New place new you it’s simple.

This video is so precious and actually articulates something I think many (and myself) struggle to say aloud. You should be proud you shared this. As someone that's also made conscience efforts to make friends recently, I found some things that work for me personally. Attentive listening and really expressing enthusiasm towards others. Not necessarily flattery, but being open about why a person's company is enjoyable or why you found them interesting has been great for helping me carry conversation and draw connections. I think having a genuine positive energy, vulnerability, and interest in people helps others to feel comfortable enough to let their walls down. You showed just that in this video and so many already relate to you. I dont think anyone can avoid bad timing leading to awkward moments, but if you keep trying after the introspection youve shown, Im sure youll have plenty of new friends soon!

Pre-internet or anti-Internet cities are the way to go. People are still meeting IRL & are super friendly. Havana was good before unfortunately it went to crap. Asuncion, Yerevan, and El Nido are the way to go for making friends. Sorry that group was mean but it's kinda par for East Coast.