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Stuart Motola
United States
Приєднався 13 лип 2011
Stuart Motola is a men's relationship coach who offers guys concrete strategies for how to get unstuck in relationship. With over 15 years working with thousands of men on their relationships and personal growth, Stuart utilizes a unique system that breaks the patterns that keep men tied up in frustrating relationships. Unlike many therapists and couples counselors, who can frustrate guys with excessive talking, Stuart focuses on explicit action. His unique process offers each man a clear and direct roadmap of progress to create lasting positive results.
Work With Anger Before It Destroys Your Marriage
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Do you experience anger in your marriage or relationship?
Does anger impact how you feel with your wife or partner?
Maybe you fear feeling your anger in your marriage?
Anger is an emotion. Anger is an important emotion. If you stuff it down or vent on your wife or partner, anger will destroy your marriage.
What if you could experience your anger at your wife or partner in a productive way?
In this 2 minute video, discover how to move through the charge of your anger to use anger productively in your marriage or relationship.
To get more content like this, subscribe to my UA-cam channel at ua-cam.com/users/stuartmotola
To talk with me confidentially about your relationship, fill out the form at www.stuartmotola.com/email-me/
Get concrete relationship tools to create the marriage or relationship you want at the Men's Relationship Tools weekly zoom call at www.mensrelationshiptools.com
To join your 1st call for free, email info@stuartmotola.com
Do you experience anger in your marriage or relationship?
Does anger impact how you feel with your wife or partner?
Maybe you fear feeling your anger in your marriage?
Anger is an emotion. Anger is an important emotion. If you stuff it down or vent on your wife or partner, anger will destroy your marriage.
What if you could experience your anger at your wife or partner in a productive way?
In this 2 minute video, discover how to move through the charge of your anger to use anger productively in your marriage or relationship.
To get more content like this, subscribe to my UA-cam channel at ua-cam.com/users/stuartmotola
To talk with me confidentially about your relationship, fill out the form at www.stuartmotola.com/email-me/
Get concrete relationship tools to create the marriage or relationship you want at the Men's Relationship Tools weekly zoom call at www.mensrelationshiptools.com
To join your 1st call for free, email info@stuartmotola.com
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She Uses Sex As A Weapon
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Why Your Wife No Longer Wants To Have Sex
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Why Your Wife No Longer Wants To Have Sex
Don't get married...if you want to keep having sex on the regular. As long as you are not married she still feels like she has to give you sex regularly in order to keep you. Once you get married, you surrender your leverage and she loses her motivation to please you with sex because she has you. If you end up having kids, it gets even worse because that gives her even more leverage in being able to keep you without having to please you with sex. Modern women do not see sex as a required part of their marriage commitment, but they do require men to be sexually be faithful to them, even when withhold sex on the regular.
The moment your wife abuses you verbally, divorce her!
That rule about co-workers is offered so often but so flawed. No stranger can have sex with me either. No stranger can barrow my car or walk in my house. And they can't ask a personal question and emotion is basically a no go at all at work. I could go on! This is silly. Not apples to apples. To claim that because I won't accept a heated argument with a co worker that means all arguments between couples that isn't professional is now abuse is down right preposterous. Horrible advice!
Men cant lead.
We are not required to have scx, ever. Even in marriage
Thank you for this talk as a woman, a really need to hear this. Men cannot explain the meaning of sex to their wives so they just start complaining. Which does nothing. Thank you so much for explaining this to men and women 🙏
Have any of you men thought of the possibility that YOU are the reason she does not want sex with you?
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Women are physically incapable of not talking. And what is their favorite thing to talk about? THEMSELVES!
When she uses sex as a weapon, use your anger as a weapon
Absolutely not!😆 Was married 23 years. 13 of them no sex. Once a year under protest from her was a lot. It was a total waste of my life. I cut her off from any money, began selling off classic cars and equipment and turning all the cash into Bitcoin because at time nobody including courts had any idea what it was or how to find it. Bitcoin was $400 at the time. I began not paying mortgage on 1.8 million dollar home that was almost completely financed. Began stashing over $10,000 a month into Bitcoin, gold and silver. This continued for about 4 years until home was in final stages of foreclosure. Now there was nothing left for her to take. She was cheating anyway and thankfully left. Court ruled me indigent and she got nothing. She told judge I had gold and silver buried all over our property. I responded that it sounds more like a scene from Pirates of the Caribbean 😆! Gold and silver can’t be accounted for or confiscated. And bitcoin was beyond anyone’s understanding at the time. By the time of the divorce Bitcoin was worth $20,000 and I was already a true millionaire all cash and zero debt quietly. I moved into a warehouse till divorce was finalized saying I was homeless. She got nothing. I even took the child support money which totaled $30,000 at $1,000 a month till my daughter was 18 and invested it in Bitcoin instead of paying all to ex at once. Instead I paid her direct deposit of $250 a week knowing that if I paid $250 a week she would never be able to save it or ever add up to anything substantial. However, my daughter already had her own bank card that I would keep filled as needed and at much more then $1,000 a month. When support was finally paid off timely, the original $30,000 became over $185,000! I still hold all my Bitcoin to this day now $107,000. Her life to this day is a nightmare. I own several homes around the country. Several classic cars, motorcycles and many other toys. Never get married. Never allow a women to withhold sex or weaponize it. Simply leave.
Its funny how noone corrects the women... why do they have the right to say "all we want is sex" who the fuck do they think they are a Queen?
The number one reasons include a mix of the fact that many women like control, manipulate, have the emotional maturity of a teenager, think rhat they are equal to or better than men, move the goalposts and can't live up to their own standards.
You talk too much. Women are not logical. Tell her she can be part of your sex life or a spectator after you kick her ass to the curb.
This isn't a simp post. If a couple is having alot of sx during the bf/gf phase and she's on birth control and becomes asxual after marriage? It could be because off the pill hormones change back to normal. She actually changes physically and simply may not be as attracted to you as previously. There are documented cases of this phenomenon. If there is a correlation between stopping the pill and desire that could very well be part of or all of the answer.
Stuarot, you have good points, but your advice....ha ha ha ha ha. too funny. you should have been born a woman. ha ha ha ha.
Nobody has the right to impose celibacy on another human being. Nobody.
Stop asking and work on yourself. Who wants to have sex with someone who does not want them? Your self respect is more important than sex.
Women use worda as weapons....all as they open their mouth
I think ots defective brain....no hare but i took care of sick female s....amd i know them before andafter the head trauma
New Orleans resident here.....the bourbon street crazy guy..was being robbed by 2 ex wives..with law courts
I've never thought about this before, but something my wife often reflects on is how safe she feels in the relationship. I've thought about this a lot, but not considered this from the perspective of a nervous system.
Glad it resonated. Thanks for chiming in. To learn more about this nervous system dynamic, join mensrelationshiptools.com/
This is so on point.
Thanks for the word. We need to retrain her into requests.
hes an aashole .thats why i stopped having sex.. instead of him trying to change hes demanding sex. fuck the horse he came on and the bish hes cheating with. this sets a woman up for abuse..women dont drop your guard down .make him change and treat you better. you are not a machine. .
If you're not your true self get out of your marriage and be alone. Marriage means serving each other. Tell her what you need and make a date night. Quality time and physical bpom shakalaka. Avoidance and not talking means zero sex AND Quality time.
Yes, step in. :) Create your relationship.
She sure does because you’re at war with her. She lays down the arms with her personal trainer or her boss.
I've been back and forth with myself for a while. Finally moving out this weekend. Wife cheated and its all dead now. Wanted to stay because of statistics but they see how things have changed between me and her and it's hurting them more seeing us like that than it would for us to thrive apart. I made it clear to them that nothing will change as far as us being their parents. I'll still come see them everyday and being active in their lives if not more. I'll just lay my head somewhere else at night.
Great job taking care of yourself and knowing what you want to model for your kids. If you need support during this challenging time, let me know. I have a great weekly call you can join at www.stuartmotola.com/mensrelationshiptools/
I am bildo I approve this message don’t do it
Ha ha. Good one, brother.
@ yea I’m getting out this marriage I loved the woman even though the marriage was forced
Hey Stu what is the best way to handle constant nit picking by my wife. Whether its not putting the dishes in the dishwasher correctly or if I leave a crumb on the kitchen counter I feel like I am being put in front of a firing squad.
@@johnlant1730 set healthy boundaries which means you won’t be an object of her neurotic perfectionism. Could say more but need to know more. Consider joining one of my men’s calls for free. Reply for info. A lot of guys deal with this kind of stuff. You’re not alone.
Its sounds great,,,the word of the day is,,,menopause,,,and the pussy and the lack of Enthusiasm ,,,bye for now,,,
Smart men don't marry enough said I lived 14 years of marriage the last years were sexless and loveless. I learned the hard way and yes I learned I will not marry or live with a woman again. I am happy alone and love being in solitude doing my own thing nowdays. I have not dated since 2020 and just turned 40 life is so much simpler. If by some chance I meet someone I will be smarter this go around no marriage or moving in and no hard simping.
Watching this on loud while I stare at my wife....wish me luck!
My wife dont stop complain when she arrive home. Im a bit drained of pacience.
Heard. Practice "hey sweetie, I'm no longer taking complaints but I'm happy to hear constructive requests."
I think some people are just broken and they seek out people aren't and decent to take advantage. My fieance came from a sexless abusive relationships. He showed me their communications and she was deranged. He told me she would cry during sex like bawling which i find as a woman so manipulative. No woman is opening her legs to cry.
My Wife is getting more and more...VERBALLY - ENRANGED...the older She is getting I can be calling out to her..... "'Jennifer? Can you help me please, sweetie?"' Then, she will respond really Harshly like,,,,""WHAT DO YOU WANT !!! I AM RESTING !!! Or...I might spill some Food on the Floor on accident, her response will be... "'I JUST CLEANED THE FLOOR YOU'RE KILLING ME,, STEVE !!!''' 😡 ------------------------------------ When I first Married her, she had the most GENTLEST SPIRIT ever back in May of 2000 But Today?? Half the time I am Afraid to call out to her Cause I know she will be VERBALLY Harsh to me for No reason whatsoever 😣
Time to say, "I won't accept your harshness anymore. If you want kindness, give it. Start now, love. It's a practice. I've enabled your harshness. Not doing it anymore. And I love you. "
I dont agree, some women may be needy because their significant other actually doesnot value her, does not show love, and a case i had with my exhusband for 4 years i felt him so far away, that made me needy, So i think if an honest woman is needy ,. that is the man, failing on the amount he puts into the relationship
Nope. I disagree. It's one thing to be needy. It's another thing to have needs and maturely advocate for them. The latter has you in your power. The former keeps you a victim. Stand up for yourself with love for self and other.
I repeat their words back to them, it forces them to hear what they are saying.
Right on. How's that working?
Listen to this idiot, brother?
A 5 minute plea falls on deaf ears... go out and get a mistress or h👀ker oh and stop paying the bills 😂
An annoying old guy said this same thing to his adult son who was talking about his troubled marriage while both father and son were munching ravenously on beef jerky.
beautiful spot, beautiful words, beautiful you
Great video!!
Thanks for watching. What did you like best?
Ive never been married. A ex of mine tried to pull the “you’re not getting anything because I’m mad at you,” I laughed in her face and answered that I can get sex anytime anywhere then I laughed and walked away. When I came back later guess who was lying naked in bed? Don’t depend on a woman for your needs, always be in a position to excersize options.
Love it. Stay in your power!!!
98 % of all women over the age of 40 will do anything to avoid sex with their significant other -- their men !!! So single guys if you marry that hot woman thinking you will have an good sex life, then think again. Women deserve an academy award for making believe they enjoy sex and intimacy before marriage but on the day you get married, is the end of your sex life !!! You have been warned !!!
Your sexual satisfaction does not depend on your partner. Your videos are disgusting. Your basically telling people that wives have the obligation to sexually satisfy their partners. This is completely and utterly sick.
Not interesting in your attacks. Wives have an obligation to sexually satisfy their partners is not what I said, but your inference. Constructive feedback with specifics based on what I actually said is welcome.
I'm sorry but, why exactly do you think that MEN have to lead? There's no such thing as a partner leading in a relationship. There should be mutual effort, as a team. This is sexist and misogynist.
Men may lead at times. Women may lead at other times. Empowered women know this. Victimized women do not. And I have empathy for victimized women. They've put up with a lot culturally for a long long time. But replicating victimization will not get them what they want.
@@stuartmotolaThe trust is broken, sir. We're really not inclined to ever accept men trying to lead anything. There's no leader in a relationship
Tell her you did not sign up for celibacy when you married her. No matter how painful initially, get rid of her. I have been putting up with a similar situation for 40 years. I stayed because of the kids. After 15 years she said you need to "hire out". That is the only way I could stay in a situation with little/no affection. Now I am too damn old to do anything else.
Your first sentence won't get you far. Be curious ("tell me more, love") vs be right will get you closer to what you want.
@@stuartmotola You sound like psyco babble.
Just checking out this channel See how it goes.
Man you sound so Simp! You just get your woman and tell her you need some bootie.
I got fed up with being told it always the wrong time, so 8 years ago I decided to see how long it would take her to tell me it WAS the right time. Well, 8 years later and I'm still waiting. In 2 years my daughter is 16 and then I'm done. The Mrs can spend the rest of her life in a sad, lonely existence because frankly I feel like I've been shit on from a great height especially as if I went out and cheated, I'd get shit for it. Dating sites are full of women who "hate liars and cheats", which I guess means they've been cheated on. Well you know what ladies? Perhaps you should have been affectionnate/tactile and opened your legs. You deserve what you got.
Perhaps you could file for divorce AND arrange for a cat to be delivered the same day as the papers!
@@davebrucher5550 Already got a cat ;-) She was laid out on my car roof the other day. First time I've had a pussy on top for years!
I understand where he’s coming from but my experience is this will not work