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Glad you found the channel too. Thanks for your comment and welcome. :)

Thanks for the feedback and for stopping by the channel.

Thanks for the encouragement Caron. :)

Thanks and Thanks for stopping by the channel.

froze my eggs.

@@sondersisterhood BTW, I wasn't mocking you ma'am. I have empathy for your situation. I was just surprised how many times you said the phrase in such a short amount of time.

I wasn't trying to be snarky. I meant it as funny. Hard over text to convey.

ah, forgot to close the loop on that. The dealer had a shuttle and they let me bring Gavin along. :). Thanks for stopping by the channel.

Aww thank you for the encouragement and glad you are finding value in the channel. Hope the retirement transition is going ok and LOVE your mindset of building the life you want. There are some really good channels popping up in women over 50 living the life that feels authentic to them. Silver and Solo (solo and I don't think has kids) and A Beautiful Life Sage (married with grown kids) are two that I watch.

Sounds like self protection, which is understandable, and yet still painful in different ways. Happy to try to assist with finding a therapist or groups in your area if you think that would be helpful. I also have a video on places to start to find a therapist from way way back in the early days.

@@sondersisterhood I would love that, thank you. Im at the point where I've given up in this lifetime and hoping it will happen in my next. I know these are harmful thoughts but it's hard to get rid of them sometimes

@@stephaniespalatin6193 Here are some places to start- for support groups Childless Collective and World Childless Week also has a resource page. In terms of where to find a therapist here are some places to start- your primary care doctor- they may even have a therapist in the clinic, Sonder Mind is also a place that has a fairly efficient process for finding a therapist and they are in quite a few states if you are US based. Lifestance is another group practice that is in many states. If you are out of the US. Gateway Women, Childless Collective, and World Childless Week have resource pages for other countries as well as US. I know this can be an annoying response but I do know it to be true from my own feelings- it can and does get better even. Sending you hope and positive vibes.

Thanks for always being so supportive Caron. :)

Sending you love back. Sorry you've been going through this. If and when you are ready the Childless Collective is an online community that has lots of different support for a variety of different paths of childlessness. She puts on annual summits and things too.

Thanks for the inspiration. I enjoy your videos. :)

@@sondersisterhood 💕. Likewise!

The unknown is the hard part, especially when aging without kids isn't often shown. What I try to tell myself when this anxiety hits is that kids doesn't mean you have supports and cultivating friendships seems to be important. From what I see, friendships and not kids seem to be the best predictor of supports in older age. :).

yes, definitely not planned. :)

Thanks! :)

Back at ya. :)

They ALWAYS ask if they can give him one, I rarely ask for one. Occasionally I say yes because he deserves it and it brings me joy watching him. :). Thanks for stopping by the channel.

I noticed u said used to. Is ur fur baby no longer with u or do u just not give him pup cups anymore? 🥺

They are for me too and I'm finally at a place where I'm thinking of new dreams. Takes time to get there but I'm looking forward to things again. Thanks for stopping by the channel.

I married a woman from Thailand 20 years ago. Best decision

I'm not a doctor however, they do a lot of blood tests and ultrasounds prior to starting the process to see where things are at. They say the earlier the better to freeze them as quality and quantity can diminish as someone gets older. I'm not aware of or can't remember a cut off regarding age in terms of freezing them but the clinic I froze them at won't use them past age of 46. that is how I remember it. Good luck with your decision.

That sounds like a great balance. :)

Same boat as you, I am currently 43 and my friends kids are starting to get older

my 40s have definitely been easier than my 30s when it comes that. As the kids are getting older on them their stress just seems so high.

I've heard of that as well. I don't think that is for me either. I've accepted not having kids and now. I think I like my life this way. Thanks for stopping by the channel and for sharing.

Thank you! So far I am having fun. Subscribed to yours as well. Love the font on the banner of your page.

@@sondersisterhood Thank you so much. Take care.

Yay! Happy 500th subscriber. Thanks for stopping by the channel.

Thanks for sharing a bit of your story and for stopping by the channel.

I had 2 friends who were very much in love but she couldn't have kids and both knew this going in. Pretty sad he finally decided he wanted kids. She was my friend, but I don't know all the details. I assume he didn't want to use a surrogate . I'm male, 67 now, married 2x, couple live in partners and I never had kids by choice because of US divorce laws. Seemed to me a man can father kids, but not "have" kids. Learned this at the age of 11 or 12 watching the TV movie "Divorce American Style". And as a teenager I heard of 2 men ending their life after losing their kids in divorce. Seemed too risky. But now at 67 I may have found a way. Crazy as it sounds women in other countries are thrilled to marry an old dude like me and have kids. SE Asian women for example like our genes. White skin and big noses. They hit this nose thing hard and often. Many cite actors and models in their country being mostly mixed race. Current Miss Universe Philippines is mixed and Filipinos are seriously into beauty pageants. Pretty strange. And of course they like that we can provide. My future wife will be set for her lifetime financially and our kids thru college. Kids will be dual citizen and language. I'll have more time to spend with my kids than my Dad ever had as he was working to provide. I have a lot more to teach my kids and I think the environment is better for raising kids. Away from the spoiling kids US environment. And most importantly I have more rights to my kids in SE Asian countries. In PH for example divorce is not allowed so there's never any custody issues. Parents have to work it out. We'll see. Might change my mind once I move there. But for now I'm glad I didn't have kids in my 20's, 30's and definitely not in my 40's and 50's in the US. I had a blast. But now I watch videos of men like me with their kids and wives in SE Asia and see all the love and fun they're having. Seeing their kids having many first experiences everyday. It's a simple life. Could be nice as I age out to be surrounded by my kids. I know many old Americans complain they don't get to see their kids or grandkids enough.

For some reason people want to problem solve vs just listen. children aren't the only path to love.

Thank you for sharing and I'm glad you found the channel as well. :).

Chasing Chads. Normal men are not good enough

@@marcK599. i have never chased anyone i had a mostly successful 16-year marriage and relationship and was happily polyamorous for 10 years after dated a long-time friend who I didn't know wasn't treating his disorders and since then have gone back to casual dating I am in therapy and had a moment of reflection on a youtube video but you are right normal men don't cut it I have always dated and married dynamic men and that is what I require and I don't always get it right and neither do you

I agree that there are worst things. I don't mind being single as much. It can be fun most of the time, it is how others react that I find the hardest. I relate re background checks. I always feel slightly more comfortable when I know the person has a job in which they have to pass a background check. :). Thanks for stopping by the channel.

Underrated comment. Ladies should really listen and heed this. If I could go back even 1 decade what ai would change is I would give 0 men the time of day and definitely not a date. Not worth the financial losses or emotional nightmares..... a cat or a dog is such a superior option. And yes, just get a few toys and it's ok. It's not the same but.... Bare Minimum Effort is the best deal from.any single man rn and it's just Not OK. It's been somehow normalized that women do Everything for them like mommy used to and srsly fuck that.

@@TimesUp8888excuses

Being a man kind of cool no toys needed. There is no general case for women and sex. Maybe 20% love sex and can't get enough. 20% never want sex. 60% maybe in the take it or leave it box. Seems dating sites have evolved into a pool of mostly married people (both genders), people with impossible standards, scammers and people with problems (bored, boring, wanting to be entertained, no idea how to have a relationship, etc...). At this point a solid person isn't going to get on an app or just get lost in the sea of crap. At least in the US. However, there has been something interesting happening on US dating apps at least for US men. Foreign women are registering as being in some US city. I'm old as dirt and I was getting messages from very young attractive foreign women. I ignored these for months because obvious scam right? Then I messaged one back. We video chatted and I spent the whole time trying to spot the scam. 28, very attractive, very intelligent, nice car, owned 2 nice rentals in a resort city. Perfect English Brazilian woman. She got tired of me trying to spot the scam and that was that. Then Filipina doing the same. They were all honest in their profile where they were actually located. Just wanted to get in front of US men. Money is of course the main attraction, but that's true worldwide. The next attraction, and they say it's the main thing and this could be true, is they think US men are kind and respectful. They complain about their local men mostly for cheating and treating them badly. So there still is a use for dating apps. I'm moving to SE Asia next year partly to find a wife. It will just be nice to get out of this gender war in the US where no side is winning. BTW, American women can do the same. Men in many other countries would be thrilled to marry an American woman. I know 2 American women married to men in other countries (PH and Thailand). They seem very happy. In many countries the people do not want green cards or to come to the US. So you'd have to move to their country. Would have to accept a man making much less money than you. Probably under 5'8". But they're there and it's legit. Obviously you have to be careful...very careful.

Snap, although I am single by choice and there are so many creeps out there. I also used to background check everyone on dating apps when I used to use them. Nearly every man was married and I would get some real odd balls. Having a UA-cam channel means I get the occasional weirdo stalker. They just seem to think they are entitled to ask for your favours or have the right to send you messages full of innuendo. Nothing more likely to make me want to stay single than all that drama!

Thank you! I like the topic and I'm having fun learning something new.

Yes he is....and he knows it. :)

Me too! My experience is once you start to say it people will start to acknowledge they are as well to you. Thanks for stopping by the channel.

You make a choice to be childless. It is up to you to course correct.

That's what I'm talking about. :). Thanks for stopping by the channel.

So that is my biggest worry about my dog. I will cry just thinking about it and he is still young. I'm sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine how hard it is to go through.

Not laughing at all. Thanks for sharing and for stopping by the channel.

I had rats as pets all through my childhood, my dad felt dogs and cats were too restricting and time consuming, but I loved my rats, just keep in mind if you are prone to sickness, you will infect your rats and it could be terminal.

@@HobbesCat i just never kept them in my bedroom:) that solved maany issues. i kept them in my big bath where i had a window also. and every visit in the bath a couple of times per day way pet-time. so you have never excuses that you today "havent had time". :)

@@MrJulka11 100%!!! we kept ours in the living room, and being a child (who is new to germs, right?) getting sick was a common occurrence. Whenever I'd get sick and get an antibiotic, like amoxicillin for example, my dad would crush up an amoxicillin and put it in the rats water bottle. I can't tell you how many rats that must have saved. Very cool you are coming into rat ownership as an adult, I'm so glad you are able to find comfort in them like I did. :)

@@HobbesCat aaalways check carefully before giving animals medication. our medics can be very toxic to mammals etc and we cannot predict yet, it is too complicated and unprecise yet! dont do it and never recommend without professional expertise.

I'm glad things worked out for you with your adoption. I think it is possible to having a fulfilling life without kids if for some reason it doesn't happen and I'm happy that you that you have your son in your life. :) Thanks for stopping by the channel.

I read somewhere that after a certain ago living solo and no kids increases happiness. I agree that kids can come with a list of other stressors. Thanks for stopping by the channel and sharing.

I agree. Child free and absolutely NO regrets. Never had any desire to have kids. Best decision I ever made.

@@bevanbuckwheatshea5520 😃Thanks for stopping by the channel.

Pets are definitely a big commitment and not for everyone. Cats are definitely less work. Meeting people is hard and I just try to remind myself that it is hard for everyone and most adults are wanting new friends.

lol. Smooth.... that ain't sexy bro. Thanks for stopping by the channel.

I'm not sure why that happens. I also think some people meet the "wrong one" and it appears like the right one from the outside. Sending you positive thoughts.

@@Areutherehello sounds like you have been through a lot. I hope the channel can provide some comfort. 💕

Thanks for sharing, and I agree you will get there. Thanks for stopping by the channel.

Thanks for stopping by the channel.

Thanks for stopping by the channel.

Good luck to you! Thanks for stopping by the channel and for the encouragement.