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I was about to write I talk to Jesus, as my Favourite song, and u just said ❤ UV meanwhile was said to be about alkoholism... Isn't it? Great great video orherwise, anxoius atachment styled turned secure, age 36, going through some shit and dramatic break up 4 years age, psychotherapeuted, healed, turned nurse, and worked on pediatic and now psychiatric ward for Children and adolescents! ❤ my personality and identity is finally authentic

:) sorry im commenting so many times, im just glad its over, would hope someone smiles with me No more nightmare hellscape, just peace, and Claire, i just want to say that I'm here to support you, idk why i felt like saying that but, im so glad, im so happy that i guess i was compelled to say that, im here now, thats think why i named my project Novice Shelter, cause i guess we are gonna figure it out along the journey, a place for the novice to rest

the most generic answer for favorite Lana del Rey song would be Brooklyn baby, ik, ik, i would stay away from Lana's music for the same reason that this video was made, but i remember playing that song on my guitar when i was like fourteen which was like 10 years ago When i hear the word needy, i think of Needy Lesnicki i could probably do a better video essay on this topic, no offence Claire, love your videos, but i actually lived this shit Since i lived limerent Episodes i feel like it would be appropriate for me to talk about my own experiences on this UA-cam video, i was actually writing a book on this but it never happened since i was still in the same pattern that i was in at the time and couldn't really give advice to those who went trough the same thing that i was going trough, I'm gonna have to start from the very beginning which shares alot about me and my personal life which sucks but here we go, so guess i gonna say my name is Jonathan, i come from immigrant Parents and i was always shy and awkward as a kid and this is relevant to the point since i guess since my parents where always working i never really had a good relationship with my parents, like i would rarely see my Dad, anyways i grew up Christian, Protestant which i kind of rare i would say for people from Latin America, it more common in Central America which is where my family is from and i promise this has to be relevant to the point because as Christian we are taught to lean on God for everything or at least this was the i was raised by my mother, that " God has all the solutions" which eventually lead to the Deconstruction of my Faith (I'm not a Christian anymore) i guess when you try to lean on god that much i probably affects the way you perceive the world and you start looking for a savior, someone to lean on even if at a subconscious level like the way that i was experiencing like maybe i never truly became independent from my "mommy" because god must have become that person to lean on and rely on or at least that how it was in the past, i was very skeptical though of the whole notion of this being something psychological since i fell into limerence at first glance, when i first saw her, it was that buzz, it was deer in the headlights, it was very easy to believe that it was something supernatural at one point because of the way that Iris made me feel, at one point i believed that it was twin flames, even until now as i was watching this video with Claire, i realized that it all didn't fit in the mold that she was describing, I'm not stupid, i know that not evidence of twin flames but i can help but realize and think how unique my situation was and how alone i was at times with that problem that i became as years went by since i first layed eyes on my LO (limerent object) but yeah i guess i was convinced that it was love at first sight. My LO came from a broken home, with her divorced abusive father that she never saw or heard from again, to her mother that passed away from cancer, i couldn't do anything but pity the girl, that what in the end i really wanted, was to be there for her but this was the source of her shattered personality that made the nightmare hellscape of my experience as a limerent, because she was very unavailable and only had me around to fulfill the validation that she needed like the air she breaths, there was never any true partnership between me and her, so i met her five years (I'm turning 25 next month btw) before me got back in contact, since we both left the faith, when i met her she wasn't a serious Christian and she was kind of off, i guess even then i knew she was no good, but years went by and that hit of a drug keep gnawing at me and i couldn't help but seek her out like the limerence turned into physical pain at one point , and with all the fantasy that my neurodivergent brain, that at the time i didn't know i was on the spectrum, was filling in the gaps, where we would travel the world with me as a musician, since I'm a lifelong musician since grew up playing Guitar at church and she's my one and only excusive girl and my future wife, it was an intoxicating drug that fantasy was. i would try to move on since the first time we met 5 years before i got back in contact with her, and the way that went down was that i would also most spam her DMs since i has a i think what they call a ghost account that i had since i didn't want to be on social media, then we dated for like six months and that was like most of what Claire describes in this video that if she would pull away from me being too needy, i would freak out, my favorite drug was being taken away from me, Until she got tired of the situation, Just Ghost and then block after i would stop, which everybody know that ghosting is a pretty low move and that's why i was upset with her, so much that i told her " its ok, I'm gonna be a rockstar, I'm gonna meet tons of people" for the low and scummy behavior known as ghosting This video got it right that you have to create your own sense of self worth, despite my limerence or in more correct term the limerent episode i was going trough, even if my neurodivergence was feeding it more, there still was that lack of self love, that now in these past couple of months that have gone by i can finally say that i love myself, when at some point in my life that would probably make me cringe, now when the whole world seem to fall apart and nobody is there, i know that i care about myself, at least a little bit more now and very true leave the victimhood mindset EDIT: i even sold my Jazzmaster guitar because of that B*tch, WTF For Danae, Forever ago LMAO haha

This was so interesting. I don't know Lana del Rey's music but it was such a well explained view into her and other people's views and behaviours. Thanks for the video. A few of the points resonated with me too.

as a lana fan, thank you so much for this

"This my excavation and today is Qumran Everything that happens is from now on This is pouring rain This is paralyzed I keep throwing it down two-hundred at a time It's hard to find it when you knew it When your money's gone And you're drunk as hell On your back with your racks as the stacks are your load In the back and the racks and the stacks of your load In the back with your racks and you're un-stacking your load Well I've been twisting to the sun I needed to replace The fountain in the front yard is rusted out All my love was down In a frozen ground There's a black crow sitting across from me His wiry legs are crossed He is dangling my keys, he even fakes a toss Whatever could it be That has brought me to this loss? On your back with your racks as the stacks are your load In the back and the racks and the stacks of your load In the back with your racks and you're un-stacking your load This is not the sound of a new man or crispy realization It's the sound of the unlocking and the lift away Your love will be Safe with me" your right Claire, the past is over, not only was it trauma, but also Nuerodivergence which was making it worse, its over now but that is how i found out i was on the spectrum from the years of being in limerence

I can't thank you enough 🙏🏽 this explains alot of my behavior 😢

I like Beach House. Their songs definitely have that anxious attachment style. A lot of their music sounds like an impressionist painting to me.

At both 3 minutes in and 30 minutes in, my girl claire acknowledges how both obsessive and dismissive attraction styles are linked in that in order to maintain the dual spectrum, we need to fight eachother. Glad you're making videos while i work construction

My favourite LDR album is Honeymoon ❤

This is really a great video

I love lots of Lana, but yeah, Ultraviolence is one. Thank you for this video it was great

I would love to hear your thoughts on Lolita. As well as Lana Del Rey's influence on the romanticisation of Lolita and the resulting Americana Coquette fashion trend, which stems from the overt romanticisation of the 1997 film "Lolita" and Lana Del Rey's songs. There's also plenty to say about Lolita and Lana Del Rey. Nabakov crafted Lolita in such a way that Humbert's creepiness was heightened by his belief that he is doing a noble thing and that his desire is justified. Similarly, as I see how you interpret Lana Del Rey's lyrics on this specific topic, her fantasies and delusions about the love she receives and the love she yearns for might lead the listener to want the same for themselves without realising the consequences. Like Humbert, you were drawn to the elegance of her words, which build a wonderful utopia. You can sense the impending peril, but the music is simply too wonderful. In some ways, the romance in Lana Del Rey's lyrics, contrasted with the reality she is avoiding, resembles Humbert's literary style. At least if we confine the comparison to Lolita. Also, seeing phrases in Lolita that Lana Del Rey had mentioned in her music made me very happy because I enjoy both Nabakov's and Lana Del Rey's work.

This video made me realize that I emotionally grew up with Lana. When I started listening to her my favourites were def "You Can Be the Boss" (unreleased) and "Off to the Races" and "Diet Mountain Dew". And it changes through the seasons, but now it's probably "13 Beaches", "In My Feelings" and "Mariners Apartment Complex", "Paris, Texas" and "Tough".

I don't think Contra was implying that GCs take their orders from conservative men: more that their movent is being used by conservative men in service of a goal that is more likely to benefit the conservative men than the GCs themselves (already there has been some fracturing of the GC- Conservative alliance - outside of some trans issues the two parties are at heavy ideological odds with each other ). I do think that it is important to point out that most of the actual rights violations and instances of violence faced by the trans community are not at the hands of GCs but at the hands of legislators and male sex buyers. This is why the focus on JKR by the trans movement is such a problem: she is famous enough that her brand benefits from controversy and her critics can very easily fall into the trap of coming off as unhinged to the average person.

Such a good video! Top to bottom!!

The world of fashion and beauty used to be dominated by the gay male gaze and the rise of the internet lead to the male gaze having a more pronounced influence. This is a problem because most straight men do not have an understanding of beauty beyond the amplification of sex appeal or an unsophisticated adherence to rules (big boobs = good, big nose = bad). The world activism has also been de-fanged to horrendous effects: note how the concept of gender affirmation has given plastic surgery immunity from criticism this despite it being built on actual misogyny ( boob jobs) and racism (rhinoplasty).

i pray everyday for Jeremy not being an avoidant that doesn't want to grow 🙏🙏

Love this. You’re incredible

This is exactly what I needed to see thank you

Love this

Excellent analysis, AMAZING interpretations and transitions. Love love the content, will be back for more :)

”Getting rid of the victim mindset” only leads to victim blaming, wich is abuse in itself. The cure is never to hide the symptom but to treat the root cause: lack of genuine compassion to the victims, including self compassion. I blamed myself for years and ”accepted responsibility for everything. Called it tough love. That only broke me further. Only self compassion and compassion for other people being abused had made me stronger, happier, better person.

many things u said was great, the analysis of lyrics and so on, but the thing u said about woke culture..it’s not about “being victim” it’s about criticism towards nowadays systemic issues. understanding and acknowledgement systems of oppression ≠ victim mindset there is many objective stuff which ruins THE LIFES of minorities and sitting and saying that they just need to fix their “victim mindset” is ignorant and basically shows luck of empathy

perfect analysis!!! My fav album is Ultraviolence but my fav song....Maybe, Ride, but I love all the lyrics of Lana's song! I think every girl could find herself in one of them. This is the power of Lana's music. Even someone who couldn't want to be like that, sometimes in their life path, they could be in those kind of feelings, situations or mindsets. Even the strongest person should fall in love so deeply to be overwhelmed by that. this is my humble opinion. I love your video. Thanks so so much💞

I have the same art book

I don't like her, especially after the z10ist thing, BUT ultraviolence is about how substance abuse can feel like, and is like an abusive relationship, and vice versa.

Great topic and you nailed it! Subscribed! ❤

my favorite lana song is Flipside and album is Ultraviolence as well :))

It’s very crazy how one goes through this journey of unfucking yourself. To experience limerence, and being so weirdly spoken for in Lana’s art, has led me to analyze how my anxious attachment style has been present in many of my relationships. Is good to draw healthy limits and not indulge in the need for others.

This video is how I found out I have an anxious attachment style 😭😔 damn the limerence part really got me cuz I related so hard

I am almost 20 minutes in but this is a great video and I am huge Lana Del Rey fan

Disgusting

I can’t relate to Lana’s desperation…. 💅

Thank you so much for sharing.

My fav song is Norman fucking Rockwell from Norman fucking Rockwell 😭

I have an anxious avoidant attachment style (basically a mix of the two. For me I lean toward anxious but once things get too intimate emotionally or otherwise I clam up). Ive done a lot of processing regarding attachment styles and relationships but I feel like I’m consistently having shortlived romantic (1-3 dates) or limerent relationships with friends. I feel like I’ve tried everything to find the right balance, but I really haven’t been able to figure out what I’m doing wrong. Although I think part of it may be neurodivergence and not understanding social cues? But this happens with other nd people too. If anyone has any advice on how to figure out where I’m going wrong I would appreciate it❤

so what you’re telling me is i have a very high chance of getting into a really bad relationship 😂😂

This was so sweet!!!

Very interesting video!! My favourite album is Norman Fucking Rockwell

I clung to your every word and didn't want it end and am going to re listen while I work

I never really liked Lana's music but for some reason, when you discussed it, I found myself realizing aspects of myself that I didn't know I also have that is similar to Lana...

This is one of the best analysis of Lana's music I hav ever seen. You have done proper research for this. And I subscribed as soon as I finished the video

Wow! So helpful to see this from outside. The dysfunction is so clear! Living in the rescue/ healing fantasy...suicidality then revenge. I've been on this ride. It's hard to see it clearly when your wound is screaming to be cared for. Thank you for this breakdown...helpful for my break through.

Thank you for this video! Really interesting, I'll come back to it. I don't really know much about Lana, but I grew up with anxious attachment and apparently limerance, and I always love to hear psychology discussed through art

I got a dui, but luckily I didn’t have to pay any fines. I did pay court fees which were 100 dollars and I had a PO. The judge sealed my record and I beat the dmv hearing so I have a clean driving record. I got lucky thank god But DONT DRINK AND DRIVE!!

This video felt like a slap in the face. I always found comfort in Lana’s music during my past relationships bc it described exactly what i was going through. Still one of my favorite artists till this day but her music will no longer be my personal story when it comes to love and relationships 😅

Well this video was a little too illuminating honestly. 😅😅That's why I love her music so much I guess.

That’s just art it’s not real psychological stuff nor real life

It's interesting watching this as someone healing from an avoidant attachment style, I was always terrified to trust anyone as much as an anxious does, though sadly many times I crossed my own boundaries to take care of my partners, since if not doing so, I felt terrible guilt. Leaving an anxious or even just setting boundaries with them can feel like abandoning a child and the guilt and internal warfare that has always arose in me was a lot to deal with, but now I'm dating a (mostly) secure guy and it's still not easy to communicate my boundaries but I'm getting better at it, and his understanding and appreciation for it helps a lot. I wish you guys strength with healing, whichever side you're on, we're all just trying to feel worthy of love.