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I just wanted to send a little bit of encouragement. If the Airforce is something that you desire and the desire hasn't gone away after your recent offer. Re-apply!! I know that you're trying to look out for your relationship but speaking from personal experience. When we compromise ourselves (dreams, morals, ambitions) for other people we are usually the ones that lose out in the end and have to start all over again. Please spend some time thinking about 'what you want'. If you hadn't got a girlfriend would you have taken the Airforce offer? If so, you have your answer! (Re-apply!) Relationships are meant to build one another up, iron sharpens iron. Find someone who will support you in your dreams as you are in hers! Seperate to that - jobs that have quite an independent solo role are great for people with high functioning anxiety. Because you are left to your own devices/diary. For example, instead of being a Nurse on a hospital ward where there were huge groups of people in leadership around me. I became a Community Nurse and visited patients in their home and managed the days visits myself with just a one a day check in with colleagues. In essence people with high functioning anxiety work better in 'independent roles' where they are left to manage whatever it is they are in charge of and not watched all the time like in an office for example or in a group setting everyday because it gets tiring having to socialise everyday and make small talk!. You will figure it out :)

My advice to you would be to find a job where you don’t supervise other people. If you have social anxiety and you have a whole team reporting to you and they are running to you with arguments and complaints about each other, and then some of them get angry with you when they don’t get their way, and then you have people that aren’t performing or even showing up and you have to address it with them, you could become overwhelmed. I’ve been there. So, I guess I’m talking about your construction mgmt interests. Managing people is so hard. There’s always going to be some problem people and if you have anxiety dealing with people, it could be really tough. Once you get over the initial anxiety of getting a job, you will start to feel comfortable there.

Hey Andy!! Always a pleasure to hear from you! Thinking of you! Sounds like you have some stress in your life. In my view you need a break, take some time off for yourself. Your videos are so helpful and caring! You are one of my favorite people! I hope that you find the life of your dreams! -Jack

It's really good to hear from you again, thought you'd never upload, but saw the notifications. Wishing you the best.

Just keep pushing and try again. There are always opportunities and chances everywhere. Whether you are 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, millions of people have found their thing at different ages and different stages, because they kept trying. Also, sometimes it is okay to let go of people or take a break if you want to pursue something. It's okay, you might continue to be friends, you might reconnect later, as friends or romantically. Stay grinding and don't forget to put yourself first sometimes. Wish you well. ❤

Nice hearing from you, man. I watch your videos since you have posted your first one. I live with social anxiety as well and I understand how hard it is to live a life where you are the main character and have to find out who you are, what you like and have the courage to chase those things. It's hard to face the challenges to have a happy and healthy life, even harder when family and friends don't support you. I know how it feels to think about everything nonstop, and always questioning and doubting yourself. What helped me was understanding that no one is as good as we think they are, and that's fine, we don't have to pressure ourselves to be the best in what we do, we just have to try to give our best everyday. Anyways, don't give up. Good luck on the airforce or whatever you choose to do. Prioritize what YOU want, not what others think it's best for you. Time flies and your dreams don't go away, you just have less time to achieve it. Greetings form Brazil

If you see this comment at some time, I'd just like to say that I hope you're doing well and that your videos have been very relatable and insightful for me so cheers for that, it's greatly appreciated.

I can relate to what you’re saying about lack of friends and group, feeling lost and alone. I’m 39 now. It can get easier. What helped me over the years, knowing There’s nothing wrong with you, allow yourself to feel a little lonely, don’t fight it. If you fight it it’s worse. Keeping yourself busy, have your week planned, doing a lot hobbies both with people and yourself and join groups. But doing them and just enjoying the company of others and not worrying if you make friends with them outside the hobbies, just enjoying different peoples company in different hobby/church groups and let it be that. I used to feel bad I couldn’t make a friend from a hobby group to hang out with but I learnt that most of the time I just needed to be in that group and that was enough. Maybe being introverted isn’t all that bad, maybe this is who you are and you only need to be in a room with people and not necessary talk a lot and maybe just share a little bit? Finding that balance about who you really are and accepting that and making small changes to the person you want to be. At your age you are finding yourself a lot and when we often see people happy we want to be like them but as you get older you realise your not far off who you really want to be or the life you need to be happy. Keeping talking to god and it’s ok if you feel lonely. People would often tell me I shouldn’t feel lonely. Accepting you’re a little lonely rather than fight it is a lot easier.

SAME BRO❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ BUT WE’LL MAKE IT

It’s good you went back to school. I have social anxiety but I went back to school and it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. I just had in my mind that I have to make more money so I can take care of myself because the only one who will take care of you is you.

Read everything you can about anxiety, knowledge is empowering I’d do online classes, zoom. And don’t worry about not talking, some people view it as stoic. Just say, “yea I don’t read out loud.” Sometimes you just have to say the hell with it, I am who I am.

God bless you Andy!!!!

I love your video/ updates just wish it was more consistent. Hoping you are well 🙏 ❤

You are normal

Jesus is really helpful for this.. try going to church … helped me a lot ; you need spiritual connection.

We all find our purpose and our chosen family eventually. Whether it takes 2 years or 20 years. It is never too late for anyone. As long as you keep putting yourself out there, you'll find it.

Same situation here brother. Wat to do, all i can do is cry in my bedroom. Am also 25

Marry a psychiatrist.

How you doing bro?

You look so much bettetr now. Wishing you continued progress. Lovely, lovely, lovely to see!

I've watched all of your videos, completely all the way through. I would be curious what your true ambition is? I believe you have potential. I have contacted you before, but I don't want to waste your time. I think your choice of going into the Air Force is a good one, and for all the right reasons, but I don't believe it fits your best career option and may actually slow you down to achieving what you want in life. To be great you've got to think that you are the best and of course have someone that stands behind you and supports you. Your family doesn't see the treasure they have in you, so that's why you're held back. You know how to contact me but before you do you need to see my whole story. Take care and best regards.

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Therapy is the right key 🔑 for everything G. 😇😇😇. You’re “doing the right thing.” I’ll be your true friend.

🫂🫂🫂🤗🤗🤗. I binge watched all of your videos and families are supposed to be a source of happiness, NOT A vacuum cleaner that sucks it out of anyone. I think your parents is doing what was probably done to them. They could’ve have been raised by a generation of people who were very cold, hardworking, didn’t talk about feelings or emotions, barked at or raised in the saying, “do as I say, NOT as I do, and do not speak we don’t want to hear from you.” All of this stuff that was likely done to them, they’re passing it down to you because they just don’t know any better. I strongly hope that you keep living your life to the fullest and doing your hobbies, that way you’ll prove your parents wrong and spend less time with them. You can set some healthy boundaries with them so that way you won’t get trampled on like a doormat and stairs. Have a good 1 and I wish you the very best of luck 🤟🏾🤟🏾🤘🏾🤘🏾✌🏾✌🏾🍀🙏🏾.

3:50 Avoidance brings short-term relief but long-term breeds the anxiety - you have to face the fear, slowly but surely. Easier said than done, I know! Maybe start doing some public reading with your parents or siblings, if supportive? Thanks for sharing your experiences 🙂

It's a pity you don't play a collective sport, i think us the best way to beat social anxiaty

Tengo 40, y también lo mío era el deporte, pero en la secundaria me empezó a pasar lo mismo que este pibe

Andy, you are not presenting a pity party. You made a bold move in moving out. Your home circumstances have been most unfortunate. Yet, you are no longer willing to wallow in the mud. You realize that there are better ways to live and progress. Your story is of a young man who is willing to make the moves to find a better, positive & productive life. Go Andy!

Growing up in a home with toxic, emotionally unavailable parents, I realized that they were never going to change. So, I quit talking to a brick wall. I accepted that fact that my folks would never be the supportive communicators which I saw in TV families and even worse in the families of my peers. Thus I understand how painful such alienation is to you. To keep going to McDonalds to order steak and vegetables is fruitless; those will never be served. Similarly, to keep asking your parents to guide you with interest is fruitless. You are showing growth by going to a gym and meeting a girl whom you took on a date. That detail shows that you are a person whom another finds of worth. Thus, I see goodness in your future apart from parents who are incapable of doing their job.

Andy, I am rejoicing for your update definitely shows growth. While a collegian, you could benefit from the counseling services your school offers. Help is available if you desire to go that route. You're doing a commendable job of moving forward.

I can relate to your pain caused by ineffective, toxic parents. I chose a college 250 miles away from my home to escape the destruction they were causing me. After graduation, I moved even farther away. I surrounded myself with people who were positive, caring & had their acts together. I learned how to live life on my own terms, make my own decisions, & find success. I am thankful for the good people who have helped me along life's journey. Andy, it is possible for you to move own & make a great life for yourself. A guy who expresses himself as well as you do, and has good insight into the problems of his family, has the potential to make the improvement you desire.

I appreciate what it takes to expose this issue on this medium. I believe I have been silently suffering from this issue for 40 years, Now I can work on repairing myself.

I’m 20. I literally feel like I’m talking here. I know exactly what you are going through. I’m in the exact same situation.

It didn't happen that way for me, but I think it could have. Maybe I just got lucky, real lucky. Found my treasure. But I'm curious, if you were surrounded by people that let you be yourself and did not shun you for who you are. You know, people who are genuinely interested in your best interest. What are you looking for in a friend or sweetheart? Give it a try, I'm all ears. Thanks for your post. Note, I don't think social media is the way, because people are not sincere. Take care.

6:05 and 6:47 you nailed it for me, the one thing that killed my mech eng dream is the presentations

3:25 is me too. I absolutely cannot read in front of people, and it sucks because reading has always been a big strength of mine. I can’t even speak over my breathing, I can tell the few times I’ve had to read in front of my coworkers they looked at me like something was wrong.

Hi Andy, so glad that you reached out and got some therapy to cope with life situations and that is helping you. Be strong and keep moving forward. Someday, hopefully soon, your situation will get better.

Andy, do you have any brothers or sisters that you can reach out to for help? Can see your pain in this video and can see you are hurting. Did you ever trying reaching out for some sort of therapy to help you deal with this. Andy you speak and communicate well and you have so much to offer, hope everything works out for you.

Hey Andy, glad to see that you were able to enroll in college. With joining the Air Force, you may be able to continue your education there and use the benefits they provide for continued education.

Wow, great video Andy. Really enjoy listening to your story. You are not alone out there, we all experience this sense of having no friends. Even if you have friends but see them rarely it makes you think you have none. I myself have experienced this as well. Keep your head up young man, you'll find people like yourself and you'll never be alone.

Hey Andy! Thanks for activating comments! Love your wonderful encouragement and your amazing devotion to people! What kind of internship are you doing? What are you studying in college? I think your ambitions to join the Air Force is so awesome Andy! You help me out so much as I understand with social anxiety that we are not alone! I am here for you Andy for any kind of emotional support! I did send you a friend request on Facebook. I am on Facebook most often and we could chat on there if you are interested. You are a very special and super cool dude! Thank you for sharing these experiences!- Jack

Whatever that you eventually doing later on, i hope nothing but the best my friend

"Sooner or later everyone encounters stressful life experiences, but HSPs react more to such stimulation. If you see this reaction as part of some basic flaw, you intensify the stress already present in any life crisis. This deeper processing of subtle details causes you to consider the past or future more. You "just know" how things got to be the way they are or how they are going to turn out. It can be wrong, but your intuition is right often enough that HSPs tend to be visionaries, more conscientious, cautious and wise people. It is important not to confuse arousal with fear. And often we think that our arousal is due to fear. We do not realize that our heart may be pounding from the sheer effort of processing extra stimulation. I really suggest trying to view it as neutral. HSPs must spend far more time trying to invent solutions to human problems just because they are more sensitive to hunger, cold, insecurity, exhaustion, and illness. Since most non-HSPs do not seem to enjoy thinking about such things, they assume we must be unhappy doing all that pondering. Spend enough time putting yourself out there in the world - your sensitivity is not something to be feared. Carl Jung believed that when highly sensitive patients has experienced a trauma, they had been unusually affected and so developed a neurosis. Preferring toughness, the culture sees our trait as something difficult to live with, something to be cured. HSPs differ mainly in their sensitive processing of subtle stimuli. This is your most basic quality." The Highly Sensitive Person, Elaine N. Aron

Hey. Good to see you again!.Stay strong, your doing great 🤠👍

you’re such a great speaker and seem like a very nice person likable humble sincere you expressing your loneliness to the world is wildly Brave if you can do this you can do all the things your anxious about your very good looking too maybe join a local sports team for friends and community you are young these problems will pass you’ve already proven you’ve got courage now. go have some fun you deserve it we’re pulling for you !

I am reminded of what Diane Nguyen said in an episode of Bojack Horseman: "....the only thing you can do is be good to the people in your life, and to keep your heart open." That can be applied to what you're feeling now in regards to social anxiety. I understand that the trauma won't be easy to overcome, but I have hope that you will find your own tactic to eliminate the issue. Maybe you can try watching some speeches or Ted Talks from different people and studying how they present themselves? Maybe they can inspire you. Just a suggestion. I would also suggest in the meantime to use this solitary time with no friends to cultivate a life rich with experiences. Focus on your health especially. As others have said, you are not alone because there are thousands of others just like you. I wish you well and look forward to your future progress.

Comments are turned off again on your new video. Anyway, you look good, you seem pretty confident. Best of luck my guy! You got this! 💪

Hi Brother Andy! Jack here. Sup?! I couldn't post on your most recent video so I have added it here: Been thinking about you! Checking in to see how you are doing? Andy, I appreciate beyond measure the help and support that you give in your You Tube videos! It really helps me to understand that you are I are not alone in dealing with social anxiety. But at the same time, it shows how social anxiety can effect us in different ways. It sounds like you are doing so well! That is so cool! I love your sensitivity, empathy, and compassion, in helping others like me! You are so kind, supportive, and encouraging. It sounds like going to the gym is providing great stress relief for you! How is that working out? Do you have a specific program regiment that you follow at the gym? That is awesome that you are going to school for your second year, and are pursuing your dream of joining the air force.! I have gotten into ASMR meditation! It has done wonders in helping me sleep and dealing with stress! You should go to UA-cam, and search for ASMR (any topic that you would like!) from music to whispering, to massages, and philosophical thought all with super soft tingly voices! How is your living situation? I hope that whether you are living alone or with your parents, or a roommate that they are treating with with kindness, respect, and fairness. Relationships are so hard Andy for people with Social Anxiety Disorders! I am always afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing and I just freeze up talking to people or going out and leaving the house, because when doing that, I lose my sense of control. And I need to be in control of my environment to relive stress and the pain that comes with stress and anxiety. What are you studying in school? Education can be a very painful nightmarish struggle for many people, as can work. It can just get to the point where you just get tired of being a robot for people, and you just want to be free! I hope that if you are going to work or school that you are happy and comfortable with what you are doing! What are you doing for your internship? I am here for you Andy, if you ever want to talk about any good or bad things.Thank you for the your UA-cam stories and your cool responses. You are one of the good ones! You can always shoot me a Facebook PM, if you would rather choose to talk privately. Peace, Jack

You are worth it, my friend. You are intelligent and handsome. You have everything to offer the world.

You know why you get support on here? Because you deserve it.