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What Does Secure Attachment Look Like?

23:31

Helping My Partner Understand My Trauma

23:17

Supporting Your Partner's Attachment Style When Things Are Good

23:39

Couple Goal Setting

22:43

How To Manage A Flashback When It Is Happening

23:56

Healing Inner Conflict

All of us have internal conflicts. But trauma can heighten those conflicts to a point where we prevent our own healing for fear of being retraumatized. In this episode we take a look at one of the main conflict for attachment trauma - the need for protection versus the need for connection. We break down this conflict and walk through ways to lessen it's impact on our inner world as well as our relationships.

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4 Ways That Limit Healing Your Trauma

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Join in us in this episode where we explore 4 ways the individuals with trauma actually limit their ability to heal. By using these 4 methods traumatized individuals block their ability to create new experiences in their relationships that allow them to have the new, healing kind of responses from their partner. Do you use any of the methods that limit your healing?

23:31

What Does Secure Attachment Look Like?

Переглядів 714 днів тому

Join us in this episode where we explore what secure attachment looks like from 5 different relationship angles: The need for closeness and intimacy versus the need for separateness and independence, the ability to communicate needs and feelings, as well as understand the needs and feelings of your partner, style of responding to conflict, the lends through which we view ourselves and our partn...

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Helping My Partner Understand My Trauma

Переглядів 2221 день тому

Join us in this episode where we discuss ways to help a partner understand the impact of trauma. Some couples have one partner in which they have suffered some attachment or relational trauma from the past. Helping your partner understand how it impacts the relationship as well as the individual can benefit the them by create a greater space in which they can provide empathy and validation when...

Supporting Your Partner's Attachment Style When Things Are Good

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Supporting Your Partner's Attachment Style When Things Are Good

Переглядів 9Місяць тому

Join us in this episode as requested by a listener, on how to support your partner's attachment style when not in a cycle, but rather when things are good and both partner's are feeling connected. We talk about 4 things each partner can do to support the other's attachment style in good times. We usually focus on when things are bad and how to make them better. I love this topic because it turn...

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Couple Goal Setting

Переглядів 10Місяць тому

Join us in this episode as we walk through a process to help couple set goals. This is something I encourage all my couples do at the beginning of each year. It forces them to align their values with their goals and get on the same page. This is not your typical resolutions that quickly fade away as the year moves on, but rather it is a reflective process that helps couple grow together!

How To Manage A Flashback When It Is Happening

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How To Manage A Flashback When It Is Happening

Переглядів 54Місяць тому

Join us in this episode when we discuss how to manage a flashback. We detail the signs of a flashback and how it may emerge within you, such as visuals, emotions, or auditory sounds. We also discuss the 3 types of flashbacks and the most common to relational trauma. We go a step further and lay out 5 steps of how to handle a flashback when it is happening, and then 2 additional steps to underst...

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How Deescalating Cycles Builds Trust

Переглядів 59Місяць тому

Join us in this episode where we discussed the role cycles play in our most important relationship. Cycles break down trust. They trigger our trauma and keep us stuck in our defensiveness which reinforces negative messages. By deescalating negative cycles we can rebuild trust, which helps us move into our vulnerability which increases the sense of emotional safety. Taking the risk to be vulnera...

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Resolving The Imaginary Fight

Переглядів 36Місяць тому

Join us in this episode where we learn how to resolve the imaginary fight. This is something that all of us deal with in our relationships, and those with past trauma can increase the frequency of this phenomenon. The imaginary fight stems from two sources, our attachment relationships, and our psychological mechanism to project our fears and needs onto our partner. Join us as we dive in to lea...

2 Obstacles to Overcome in Affair Recovery

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2 Obstacles to Overcome in Affair Recovery

Переглядів 42 місяці тому

Join us in this episode where we sit in the therapy room together and explore 2 different, yet challenging obstacles couples face in affair recovery. The two obstacles are roles that each partner can fall into as they recover from an affair. The first role is the detective/policing role, which is often assumed by the offending partner. The other role is the good behavior/performance role that t...

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5 Ways To Cultivate Gratefulness

Переглядів 52 місяці тому

Join us in this episode when we learn 5 ways to cultivate gratefulness. Being grateful for the people and things in our lives helps reduce stress and anxiety, raises self-esteem, and benefits resilience. Taking time to appreciate how we are the benefactors of what we have beyond what we have earned helps us create reverence for our lives and can help shift our perspectives from our traumas.

Surviving Versus Thriving In Your Relationship

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Surviving Versus Thriving In Your Relationship

Переглядів 92 місяці тому

Join us in this episode where we discuss a couple that is thriving versus a couple that is surviving and the necessary elements for both. I break down what I look for when I see a couple to understand where they are in their relationship on the surviving versus thriving continuum. Step into the therapist seat and join me as we discover the important aspects of a healthy thriving relationship ve...

Here It Comes Again: Dealing with Anniversary Dates

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Here It Comes Again: Dealing with Anniversary Dates

Переглядів 12 місяці тому

Join us in this episode where we discuss trauma anniversary dates. These are dates that stand out as significant to the trauma survivor as the date their world changed. It could be when they learned of an affair, or the death of a loved one. Either way, anticipating the anniversary dates gives the trauma survivor a unique ability to empower themselves to create a plan that will meet their need ...

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Mutual Influence in Relationships

Переглядів 123 місяці тому

Join us in this episode where we break down mutual influence in relationships. We define what it is, explore it's complexities and how to increase influence on your partner, and we discuss the difference between influence and manipulation or control. Download our FREE Couples Workbook: ⁠www.traumafreerelationship.com/pl/2147999609⁠

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Healing Abandonment Trauma

Переглядів 213 місяці тому

Join us in this episode where we breakdown abandonment trauma and the way it plays out in your relationships. We discuss the root causes of abandonment trauma, it's signs and symptoms, and of course how to help heal. If you have ever felt like someone you love is constantly going to leave you, then you can't miss this episode! Download our FREE Couples workbook: ⁠www.traumafreerelationship.com/...