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Ephesians 2:8-9 tells you how you are saved !

Do not call this overprotection. My whole life I was accused of being “overprotectived”. This is about control. Not protection. The mother excuses and justifies their actions by calling it protection. Society and outside observers label it as coddling. I was protected the way a cat protects a mouse and sexually abused while being labeled a momma’s boy. Very invalidating and inaccurate to call it overprotective.

💢Enmeshment sucks‼️

Thank you sooo much! Yes, I confirm everything. In fact I was used to tell my mother: look, I'm not your husband! and on top of that, I'm a female.

amen brother

lol christ was against religion😂😂 ..lol what they say is true only a weak catholic becomes a protestant, got saved? more like got brainwashed🤣🤣😂😂

YOU HAVE JUMPED FROM ONE MYTHOLOGY TO ANOTHER MYTHOLOGY, AND YOU GOT SAVED! POOR SOUL! IGNORANCE HAS NO LIMITS.

Another example of "Protestantism gets weak Catholics, while Catholics gets strong and informed Protestants" Movies like "The Conclave" are fiction stories and you get your facts from that? IF you haven't watched The Da Vinci Code or Angels and Demons (Tom Hanks), maybe you may want to get your facts from those movies, too. If you're honest in studying Catholicism, try searching Scott Hahn or Sam Shamoun. These people are former Prostestants or "born again" that left where you are now.

You are "saved" because? Faith alone is dead. There's a lot of your contentions that are unbounded. Hope you find your way back one day.

What a joke you are terrible at explaining things. You sound like your still lost.

Humiliation by the parent is very real when trying to differentiate from them. I never came across a video that would mention that. Thank you.

Every Christian should read the Bible daily

You are free to choose what you believe and which church you want to join - it is your life and decision. But if I were you I would listen to both sides on the issue you raised, that is, on salvation. Below are few points to consider whether what you believe now is scriptural or not. 1. Scripture says God saves us or we are saved by grace through faith (Eph. 2:8) AND through sanctification (2 Th. 2:13). Salvation, according to Scripture, is a process and is not by faith alone. 2. How to be saved is stated clearly and consistently in both OT and NT. What makes us deserve hell is our sins. Scripture says the soul that sins shall die (Eze. 18:4) and death is the wages of sin (Rom. 6:23). Death here refers to hell, not physical death - nobody died physically after sinning. According to Scripture it is righteousness that delivers from death (Pro. 10:2, 11:4). “Whoever is steadfast in righteousness will live” (Pro. 11:19). “In the path of righteousness is life, and in its pathway there is no death” (Pro. 12:28). Jesus said in Mat. 25:46 that the righteous shall go to eternal life. We do not and cannot become righteous by our own effort but we are made righteous through Christ as it is written in Rom. 5:19. 3. Faith is counted as righteousness (Rom. 4:3) but through doing what is right we are also made righteous as it is written in 1 John 3:7. In Gen. 15:6 what was counted (Hebrew חָשַׁב, Strong H2803) to Abraham for righteousness is faith. But what was counted (the same חָשַׁב) for righteousness to Phinehas in Psalms 106:31 was not faith but what he did as described in verse 30 (in more detail in Num. 25:7-8). When Christ said that the righteous will go to eternal life (Mat. 25:46), their righteousness comes from what they did (Mat. 25:34-35). Again they can do those righteous acts only by grace. 4. According to Scripture we lose righteousness through sinning. Eze. 33:13 says: “Though I say to the righteous that he shall surely live, yet if he trusts in his righteousness and does injustice, none of his righteous deeds shall be remembered, but in his injustice that he has done he shall die." What this verse says was affirmed in Heb. 10:26-27: “For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a fearful expectation of judgment, and a fury of fire that will consume the adversaries.” 5. Since we cannot avoid sinning, even after having faith what we must do in that situation is stated in Eze. 33:14-16: "Again, though I say to the wicked, ‘You shall surely die,’ yet if he turns from his sin and does what is just and right, if the wicked restores the pledge, gives back what he has taken by robbery, and walks in the statutes of life, not doing injustice, he shall surely live; he shall not die. None of the sins that he has committed shall be remembered against him. He has done what is just and right; he shall surely live." What must do are (1) turning from sin (Repenting) AND (2) doing what is just and right before we can be back to life. The latter is known as temporal punishment in Catholic teaching, from which we have penance. 6. In John 3:5 Jesus said you must be born again through WATER AND SPIRIT. Here Jesus refers to Baptism through which we receive forgiveness of sins (Acts. 2:38). 7. The movie "Conclave" is fiction and caricature, no difference than that of Dan Brown "Da Vinci Code" where Jesus was depicted to be married with Mary Magdalene and they had descendants who survive even until today but lived in secrecy as they were hunted down by the Catholic Church.

Have been sexually assualted by my family memeber should i tell it to my mum?😢😢

what is the overlap between enmeshment and Munchausen-by-proxy?

Awesome Insight! 🙏💜

You became a Christian when you were baptized as a little baby.

you left the CHURCH the one body of Christ established. you are on your own bruh and your 10 percent Asking price Pastor. Man made Opinion 😊

You said it yourself: “I didn’t really know much about it” How can you leave something you don’t know anything about? What if that something you left was the truth? You didn’t become a Christian 10 years ago. You have been a Christian since your parents had you baptized. Not sure which denomination you ended up with but you can be sure you will never find the fullness of the Christian faith there. Praying for your conversion. God bless.

Poorly formed catholics become protestant and well informed protestants become catholic

there was nothing here about Catholicism. my personal opinion is that denominations dont matter, being a Christian first and foremost does.

Beautiful testimony. Thank you for sharing

The mom still wants to play"House" with the adult child

I know a 28 year old male who has terrible toxic emeshment problems with his mom. He once said to me " why do I neeed a girlfriend when I got my mom". 😮😮😮 WTF. That is creepy!!!

Thank you for this ❤

Important thank you

Hi Jomy, if you could also share the link to the document you just shared here, would be helpful to learn more. Thank you.

Very informative, thank you for bringing this up. It is helpful to know why we are like this, please make another video to help self so we can overstep this. Thank you.

I would have liked to have heard a little more explanation on how the poly vagal theory ties together with growing up in parental enmeshment.

My mother definately suffers from victim mentality. My father is a workaholic and extremely emotionally absent/distant when it comes to family life. I've managed to overcome the enmeshment, but my older brother.is definately enmeshed with my mother. He has never married, is now 58 years old and has recently moved back home to care for our mother who has become ill with cancer. It's truly quite sad!

Independence should be the goal…

Please make a detail video on correct parenting so it would help so many parents who are knowingly unknowingly overprotecting.

Which one is best or is it situational?

Thank you Jomy for this video, definitely new knowledge.

My ex MIL was enmeshed with her son. She would call on Sat mornings at 8:30 am for nonsense, just in case we might get romantic. Sick, sick family. She is sick and he is too.

Very good ! ... Those are 5 top symptoms alright ! The selfishness shown by the parent to the child is huge, and is so wrong ! Very damaging !

Hi - are you a therapist or a psychiatry student? It would be great if you could state your credentials and have them verified. You have good information, so if you can be verified, UA-cam will put a banner on all your videos that say what you creds are.

Thanks for the upload on this topic feel like I'm in a imeshed relationship with my father who's very narcissistic & hypocritical .

How do you get to to the green best state? It would be great to get new video with this topic!

Hello! Really great work. Do you have any videos about healing from enmeshment - or talking about the healing part more ?

Wow, I wasn’t expecting to get hit with this analysis this morning. Will take some time to process it. Thanks for sharing.

I can so relate to what you are saying.For 30 years I am married to a man who had enmeshed relationship with his mother. She had 9 kids and said my husband is her ' favourite child'.She completely controlled and manipulated him all her life...despised me and our son...feigned illness to get his attention and asked him to come running to her at the drop of the hat whenever she wanted.Had firm control on his finances. After her passing away that place was taken by husband 's sister...Now sister controls his life, emotionally blackmails him,gives him validation for his wrong behaviour and in return he gives her validation and monetary help. Needless to mention,my family life has been hell.My husband shows extreme narcissistic behaviour.Justifies each and every action of his by blame shifting.Refuses to get therapy. thanks for this video.Could you help regarding how can I make him realise how he is being used in these enmeshed relationships,that has totally ruined our own family life?

Thank you Jomy

Parents can be like "I have the right to eat you up because you are my toy" --shameless boundary destruction.

This content is incredibly helpful and useful, you did a fantastic job explaining this. Thank you !

This is one of the best explanations of enmeshment/ dissociation that I have watched on UA-cam.

Allergies. Mothers like to handicap their boys with allergies so they never participate in competitive sports and are terrorized by peanuts and ambient air. It stops them from group/vacation activities like sailing, scuba diving, hiking. I wouldn't be surprised if they suffer panic attacks and have trouble flying. The best part is, no woman dreams of a husband crippled with allergies and anxieties so mommy will never be replaced.

Is there always a sexual component in enmeshment?

My life story

I don't know what's wrong with my mother, but she's certainly somewhere on the "Cluster B" spectrum. I have always been enmeshed with her (went no contact 3 months ago), but when I was with her, it was always an imbalanced relationship. I was still always less than her and needed to be obedient without question -- or she would break into a rage. So I always just shut down. Your videos are very well done. Thank you for your insight!