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I find that many cleaning systems, like Clean Mama and Fly Lady, often seem more suited to more active households with young children. When I try them, I often lose interest because they include tasks that feel like busy work. However, I do love the idea of using whiteboards around the house!

Great tracking ideas. Thank you. I was just thinking that a bingo card might work and if you fill out a line you get a prize you have one hardest habit you’re trying to get done be in the middle and if you get an /or an x or | through the hardest habit, you get a double prize … or something along those lines. :). Thanks for the inspiration ❤😊

I’ve learned that if I read or listen to audio books, I will zone out. But the best way I can read anything is by reading along WHILE listening to the audio book (at a faster speed). It’s the same with podcasts - I can’t just listen to podcasts. I have to see the people talking and engaging with each other to stay focus on it (like yours on here). So for anyone here struggling with either, try both at the same time. Funny story: I use to work in a bookstore for years and would occasionally play audiobooks when I was working alone, often at 1.5 or 2x speed. Sometimes customers would come up and ask me how I can listen to it at double speed and understand. I looked at them almost dumbfounded: I wanted to ask how can they listen to that at the painfully slow normal speed. 😂

I have lost countless opportunities & self destructed because I'm literally afraid of a phone call! This is on point.

Another thing, Cleaning out your car is a great way to get ready for summer. And hitting it regularly to prevent the build up from summer activities. And restocking summer bags after outings so you are ready for the next one. I know ours can get messy quickly. That is on a to do list of mine.

Yeah. I am not. Structure person. I have at least one kid that is. Actually probably two. I am a free spirit that likes adventure. But i have a husband that is very much routine and habit based. So navigating my needs for freedom and adventure while balancing house hold needs or expectations and respecting children with different energy and structure needs is a challenge. I know we need days here to rest but i also have some set event days taht things will be happening on a weekly basis. So certain days will be more laid back. Or some children may need to rest while others use their energy. We all need more movement and time outside this year. We have food sensitivities so usualy packing food and having a bag ready to go or in the car with summer items like swim suits, pool floaty, towels water shoes and extra set of clothes per person and a pair of flip flops. We love exloring creeks so having those thinsg and some nets or buckets on hand are a must. And the extra clotehs because we have been covered in mud or water more times then i can count because if there is water. My kids will get soaked. No matter what. And a picnic blanket. Snacks and water are a must so i usualy have a bag with water bottles teady to go and toss ice packs in there before we head out. And always have snacks or pack a lunch. Oh and I try to have sunscreen and bug spray with us always! We always need it. I will keep in my bag of towels and swim stuff. Sometimes I will have extra somewhere in the car that stays.

I hate the heat too!!! I am not made for the sun. Summer is my least favorite season. I like the fun but i am not great out in direct sunlight. I have gotten heat sickness and had to see nurse at amusement park. I also get car sick. And packing for vacation is always a stressful dread for me. So I usualy dont look forward to vacations.

I love belt bags.... I rock it like a fanny pack. Started in 2020 before they were cool and now i use it all the time instead of a purse. Hands free which is great. I had a small kiddo when i had started so in that made chasing him around great. Cant leave my purse somewhere accidentally. And it is nice that i cant carry around too much.

I call this thing my “depression accessible shower”. While in the warm shower, I first brush my teeth. Then I use face soap to wash my face. Teeth first cause the face wash washes the stuff off around my mouth. Face next cause if I get face soap in my hair, I can wash it out. I have a cup high up in my shower that holds my toothbrush and toothpaste. Wash hair and body normally. It sounds unhygienic, doing it all in the same place at once. But brushing my teeth in the shower while I shower means brushing my teeth at all. Washing my face in the shower means I am washing my face at all. If I didn’t, I simply wouldn’t brush or wash my face. These are more so tips for problems with motivation. If you already DONT do these things (brush your teeth, wash your face, etc), then this really helps you finally take back a bit of that hygiene. You only have to motivate yourself to get into the shower. Everything else just happens. Instead of having to motivate yourself to get in the shower, and then also clean your face, but soap gets in your hair now, and also needing to spend time to brush your teeth, etc etc.

Personally I don't like weighted blankets. I don't like the feeling of being enclosed.

Hope your trip is going well/ or did go well depending on when you went. 😊

Congratulations on 800 subscribers! I always like to learn how people plan their days...

My planner, Think Time, uses sketch noting. Changed my life!

* in reference time my other comment. believe this is the one I am referring to. She ( the minimal mom) has some other meal/ kitchen focused vidoes. She also dod a more recent one about thinking about what kind of restaurant your kitchen is right now in this srason of life. I liked that one a lot. ua-cam.com/video/31ZfV3IzqJs/v-deo.htmlsi=UjSRm9iq5N6cs_Un

The minimal mom had a great meal planning video. It was very simple and she had a list of go to meals/ ingredients to make those. I thought it was very ADHD friendly.

Congratulations 🎉

Where can I find part 1 & 2 ?

I found you because UA-cam recommended one of your videos. One tip... People will click off a video if it doesn't get to the point at the start . You didn't start talking about the topic until 9 minutes in. Another tip is to use titles that people actually search for. I don't think many people are going to search for "nomophobia"

I think for me, the Nomophobia might be from two things: (1) anxiety of not being reachable in an emergency (especially with no landline at home) but mostly (2) pure ADHD boredom, especially surrounding waiting, meetings at work, and eating. I’ve always had to watch or read something while eating. When I was a kid it was reading the cereal box or the local newspaper; older it was reading books, now it shifted to social media on the phone. To like just sit there and eat, it’s painfully boring. Working on knitting (easy projects) during work meetings (where appropriate) has helped me quite a bit there; I can actually pay attention while knitting :D.

St. Charles, Mo or St. Charles, Il? I've been to the yarn/knitting shop in St. Charles, MO.

I would love to see a review of the Anti Planner for adhd, looks very interesting

Keep on shining. I enjoy your videos and find it very helpful.

I’ve always been surprised that you didn’t have more subscribers when your advice and strategies are more down to earth & everyday help, not geared specifically towards “working professionals.” But I’m so glad you’re gaining more subscribers now! UA-cam algorithms are really questionable at times 😂 but I’m glad one of your videos showed up in my feed 9 months ago, and I’m thankful for your membership platform as well! Please don’t let RSD rear its ugly head and keep doing what you do and you being you! 😊

I do appreciate the work you do

Oh wow. This is it! Toolkit for my brain. I love this

Really interesting process, thank you for sharing it! I struggle with plans like this because I find that nearly every day something will change (I'm ill, a new priority comes up, I overrun my time slots, etc.) and I need to spend a bunch of time re-planning, and/or I get annoyed with myself for not achieving what I said I would. I find this so frustrating that I end up not doing the planning in the first place because it feels like a waste of time. I think it works out ok, I have a more flexible system which still helps me get stuff done - but if you have had similar problems and have strategies for dealing with them, I'd be interested to hear them!

Have you heard of the Lumie alarm clock? It basically acts as a lamp. At night it gradually dims before turning off, and in the morning it gradually brightens to wake you up with warm, soft light.

This visualizing sounds a lot like the scripting method, I just found this type of planning in September it’s called planner perfect, very sparkly

I love the lord of the rings movies. I have never tried reading the books. I feel like maybe i could do an audio book maybe. I did buy the trilogy for my daughter. Actually it has The Hobbit with it too. She hasnt read it. She does read a lot of novels for school though novels are not my strong point. I think they only novel ever read completely was probably of mice and Men and that was only because I had to read it a second time for summer school. 😂

This is such a helpful segment! Thanks Patty!

i also like to clean the tub so it's shiny, because the thought of a grimy bathtub makes me cringe

that whole comment about a vacation + disaster = adventure sounds like our honeymoon. Laugh about it now and it was pretty great at the same time even with the disaster that started it. (delayed flight got us four seats by ourselves in the back for the super long trip over)

I put a years vertical calendar in mine for all my doctors appointments, t put a big monthly calendar for all the stuff I need to remember yearly, And this year I decided to do what I call my 30 day challenge, every 30 days I have a new challenge Jan I got my craft room straightened up, this month I’m resetting my garden next month I’m going to go threw my Christmas decorations and thin them out so I’ll have 12 challenges this year and get the things I have been putting off I work on them for 20 minutes a day

I would really like to hear more about putting together a P.O.M.

Dear Patty, thank you for all your kind suggestions and tips. Your videos are so fascinating and supportive, thank you for what you do! This body doubling idea in particular it's awesome! :D It is true that having someone just "there" may offer impressive encouragement. I have already experimented the power of this practice, both in person and virtually, for years, yet I didn't know it had a name and was something that you could even find online partners for! I'm amazed to learn that what might help us may be something so small... I am thinking of maybe writing you an email to get into specifics, because UA-cam comments don't allow much conversation and here I have to type on a tablet or smartphone which is uncomfortable, but maybe you are busy and a long email wouldn't work any better, so let me know what you think about this.

New subscriber here! Loved hearing your 24 in 24! One of my 24 for 24 (I haven't made a full list yet) is to go with my family up into the Arch. I have lived here almost all of my life and I have only been up in it once in my 30's.

Dear Patty, most of the times I like to just listen to your videos and give a glance whenever you are showing something: you have a great voice and provide clear informations, so it is usually enough to just HEAR your voice. However sometimes we need to SEE in details, like in this video where you show the different planner layouts. That's when I find an issue! The video is surrounded by a BLACK RECTANGLE that occupies half of the screen. Even if I try to enlarge the view on a big display, I still cannot see any of the important details, because the video itself takes less then 50% of the size of any screen. That's a shame, because you provide so many good ideas! :) Maybe this occurs only in your older uploads (I have not yet seen the 2024 format!), it's just something I have noticed and maybe you can take into consideration, if you find it useful. In general, I'm sure you will talk again of planners and other items that we need to see, so maybe you could get closer to the camera or even shoot overhead to show the details (you can you take a look at any "plan with me" video, to get what I mean) :D

The office looks really nice! You did a good job, with reorganizing and decluttering. I love those projects, the can change the atmosphere of a place, give us peace of mind, even if we do them only in a drawer, corner or small area. Even more when it's a whole room! The year reflection and intentions (23 for 2023...) sound interesting but kind of too much, for me. I prefer to give my energy to HABIT CHANGE, because I find habits can be tiny and still have huge impact, and they are not binded to January but can be started whenever! Small habits allow more freedom and involve less fear of failure, in my eyes ;)

Dear Patty, I find your videos + podcasts very stimulating and useful. This one in particular is great for me! The metaphor of the big rocks and small pebbles in the jar never quite made sense to me, but I couldn't figure out why. I believed that I could do ALL the infinite possibilities my mind suggest and wouln't understand why those infinite rocks didnt fit in my time jar! This leads to suffering: when I see that I cannot get EVERYTHING done, I judge myself, always feel overwhelmed and struggle in the efforts to find the systems and strategies to make things fit, and never get there... Ambition, imagination and time blindness create a perfect storm. Now I see that we have just to change perspective, to see reality with more clarity. It's going to be a process, understanding the art of decision making and really choosing what's realistic for our human condition. Thank you for your help in looking at things differently :)

Congrats on this first milestone! I'm curious about the time it takes, from start to finish, each video. You mentioned around 3 hours. How do you divide this time? You have a planning part, the notes and bullet points, setting of equipment (?), filming, etc How long does the steps take?

Wow! I have never heard before of the term "Revenge Bedtime Procrastination" but I immediately know what that's like. In fact I used to do this, out of frustration, for years, rationalizing a justification to sleep very little at night. It was a strategy to escape my life, when I felt I could not manage it. Thankfully, since then, I have learned to prioritise better habits :) It's fascinanting to see how some things that felt unique to us, were actually common tendencies and even have names and shared traits. That makes us feel not so isolated in our "strange ways".

Showering is one of those mundane tasks that can become a gift of self care, if we only put a little more intention into it. In winter I like to turn on a small heater in the bathroom just a few minutes before I take a shower, so it's all cozy when I undress. We can also get music in the background, with a bluetooth speaker sitting on the sink (that's stimulating or relaxing depending on the playlist we choose) . I also would like to try scented candles... I have noticed it's also crucial the TIME OF THE DAY: if I shower in the morning I usually arrive late at the office and I also feel too "relaxed" to work... for me shower needs to happen after dinner, so then I sleep wonderfully and in the morning is one less thing to do! Most of all, it seems a good idea to just make a habit of it, little by little, discovering what works for us and what we like best.

I appreciate your suggestions in this video, about being fully ourselves. It's sad that sometimes we sacrifice our autenticity in order to fit in. We want to make other people comfortable but it's not a favour to them or to us, to put on a mask because it's hard to maintain an artificial image and the relationship becomes uncomfortable in the end. I think that being vulnerable shows courage! If we can accept that we are ok even if we are not "perfect", we experience real freedom; in fact, when we are ourselves completely, we can finally find friends and people who love us just like we are, flaws and all, and we can relax into our human imperfection :)

The home page is cute and nicely done! I have seen the mini pom and was a nice way to refresh my memory, even though could be nicer with some images/icons to help the reading. May I suggest your staff to check for any part that may look "old" and update them? For example I red the PDF of favourite things and found that the list starts with pack of 50 face masks (we don't want to go back in time...) or in the second to last post in the blog, the title is "2022-adhd-friendly-favorite-things-revealed" but we would expect a 2023 version. I know you have lot of good quality content and that you always update UA-cam, but your site does not reflect the good work, in my opinion. I hope you find this helpful :)

It's very true that what we tolerate requires a lot of energy...And all the D strategy is effective, but the difficulty, for me, is really start: even if I have all the path and resources laid out, it's a challenge. I don't ever feel ready to overcome the first hurdle, and I tell myself that I don't have the energy to even start. It's like at the same time I know I can do it, but I don't let myself do it..."if I don't try I will not fail" kind of mentality, plays a role even it's irrational and damaging in the long run.

I am watching all your videos from oldest to newest and I find useful suggestions, again and again. I also appreciate your language very much! "consider if"... "just notice"... "explore".. "see if you want to try". Where did you learn this way of expressing your thoughts? (I am not from an English speaking country, so it's not the words that strike me but the compassion that filters through)

Interesting... I had no idea that phone conversations were a challenge for other people too! That's reassuring. It has surely a psychological root, as you said "there are no do over" so maybe perfectionism plays a role here.

This is an excellent suggestion. We can overwhelm ourselves with big expectations and especially around the new year with impossible resolutions. I knew small habits from BJ Fogg author of "Tiny Habits" published in 2019. I see that "Mini Habits" by Stephen Guise was prior to that, published in 2013. I may research if they are the same idea in different package or if they really differ in some ways.

I love this video. It seems that your weekly planning routine is similar to David Allen's "Weekly Review",a key component in Gtd System, and your tips are excellent. Could you please talk in more depth about the course SEEING MY TIME by Marydee Sklar? Maybe make a specific video or series around that workshop and what you learned? Time management is the biggest struggle for many!

I think we have more success if we make our own planner: we can choose the size that works for us, the best binding, paper and then design our own layouts. That's what I have been doing for +5 years with a super simple 2 rings notebook... I can experiment the best fit for me, incorporate new systems, add or remove sections, without spending huge amounts on premaid planners that are always a compromise. (also the bullet journal has many good ideas to try and UA-cam has the best teachers !)