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This might be the most important video I have seen this year

I'm so tired of being unloved

Thank you, I needed this message. Btw.. I love your beautiful hair!

Great video

The ting about the ex, so true and about the friends.

damn shouldve watchd this sooner. We were fting almost everyday for 3 weeks, she even cut off everybody after 1 week to focus on building the connection we had. But in the process I shouldv'e picked up how much she mentioned her ex. Cause after 3.5 weeks of constantly fting even a irl date, she couldn't be with me because of her previous relationship and how her past traumas are making her unable to get into a relationship now. HUGE POINT when it comes to watching out for when the mention their ex a lot. Ig I was used and she realized she couldn't get over him, note, they were together for 9 months and just broke up 4 months ago. She even sent me vids of them together, there's no way she was over him.(Even tho she kept saying she was)

As soon as I heard point 4 I realized this advice is mostly for straight people. In the wlw community so many people are friends with their ex. I actually see it as a positive if you can still hang out and do not hate each other.

Hello, I don't understand much of this, but thank you.😊

So basically, never date single parents. Can't say I disagree lmao

This is great! I feel so awkward and is so hard for me to express in the context of relationships. I want to love and be in a partnership but I struggle with avoidance because I have been in recovery for the last 4 years from narc abuse, so my need for boundaries is a bit strong. I want to learn to express boundaries without pushing people that I like away or hurting feelings. I have been very shut off and acted friendly and detached out of self preservation but is not really helping 😅

Thank you for giving examples of how to better handle situations. Some other videos I have watched just give you theory and what to avoid without giving you the actual words to say instead. I definitely learned a few things from this video.

U gave me a clear explanation ❤ u unlocked 🔓 certain things frm my mind. Thanks

Thank you so much for sharing!!! Those are so true that i also had those experiences and at that time I believed wat those guys said 😢 even though I sometimes still suck in again now, but since I started to work on my own, recognizing the red flags quicker and be brave to walk away if the communication can’t work, this is so important for our mental health 🥹🧡

You're the best friend every girl needs 😢❤

I want to date you! We would be very compatible,has nothing to do with aesthetics, it’s very much impossible to meet someone that feels the same way on human behavior and acts accordingly. Kidding…well a little 😉

I am in a "talking stage" with 3 women right now. Each woman is in a "talking stage" with multiple men. Promiscuity is fantastic for mental health! ! ! I have never been happier!

My gf 😢seem like she never care about me she never initiate text or call me first unless I do, when we video call, she always need to call her mom or her friends or her brother and said she will call back but she didn’t , when we go out, she always calling on her phone , but when I’m not with her she never text me anything, sometime she only text me when she need to go out buy something or fixed something if not she won’t appear 😢

Leaving this note here so that I can remember to come back and watch this again when I need it

5:00 is scary

Make sure they find you attractive first, if not then anything you do will have minuscule affect

1. Take off the rose-colored glasses 2. Look for signs that they are selfish or bragging - authentic people will take a genuine interest in you - they will be an active listener 3. Smothering or obsessive - calling or constant texting contact - want to see you everyday - if they are prematurely trying to integrate themselves into your family or friend group - if they are trying to latch onto you too soon - it’s shows signs of control and toxic dependency - you need time and space to step back and genuinely reflect on how your interactions have been going so far - allow a healthy amount of mystery - and time to breathe and develop over time 4. If they mention their ex on your date - or at any point early on - especially unprovoked - you didn’t ask - even if they are bitter about their ex - if they describe themselves as a victim - this means that they are still not healed and still hung up on the past - avoid seeing someone who had a recent breakup - sooner than 6 or 7 months - if they are still friends with their ex, that bond will inevitably cause issues down the line - there is still some emotional tie that they are not willing to let go of - 5. Make note of who their friends are - what you permit - you promote - values and behaviors that you agree with - the people they choose to be around will have a direct impact on their behavior - where they go on the weekend - who they interact with - how they treat other people - and how they treat themselves - this person will put their best face on in the beginning and noting their friends will help give you insight into who they most likely really are 6. Observe them in a high stress situation - you never truly know a person until you’ve seen them angry or stressed - this may take a while because they are showing their best side to you - do they have road rage - are they jealous - do they act childish or immature when you are having a disagreement -

right now ive been talking to this girl for almost a month and she is hot/cold and doesn't seem much interested in me at times lmao but she's also an only child and had mentioned that she has only child syndrome ;/ should I run?

No the early stage red flags are camouflage as red hearts smh......

Tip about the ex. Totally agree

very helpful & articulated in the best way. thank you.

J

Good info. Keep up the good work, Lanz!

This is an excellent video! Great advice. I just subscribed and can't wait for more content. Have a nice day!

She said “they saw your text” I’m dying hahahaha love it

Podcast???? Please!!!!

Girl you are so SMART ugh I love your videos thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!! Love, a single 27 yr old woman protecting her energyyyy thx to your tips

Push n pull sooo tired I give my world for crumbs. No more I walked and blocked for good. 🙏 thank you for this 😢💕

Great video! Coming from a household that doesn’t communicate well I am learning at the age of 41 to use these skills to effectively communicate to my husband, kids, and family that love and feel safe with. Thank you for giving me the language that I desperately need ❤

Thank you Liz that is my first time listening to your video ❤

I can see parts of this video applying to me and other parts applying to my gf. 3:26 - I let things foster in my head too much. It seems to lead to a distance that grows where there’s a disconnection. We’re not intimate that much and I think it’s a direct reflection of our communication too.

The weird thing is he wants to hangout everyday and has already introduced me to his family and integrated me into his friend group but he doesn’t know if he wants to be official yet and he needs time

IDK i dont think this is how men are an how men be see the thing is it that men will be men an woman will be woman a woman dont know how men are you have to know this about men see you got men thats grown up an they don't have time for bullshit an they not with the bullshit men are looking for a mature woman thats have a grown up mindset are the woman dont put in any effort they are good for nothing they dont want to be 50/50 an they dont want to meet the men half way on nothing they want men to stress them self out making them happ but they dont want to do the same they want everything to be about them an not make thing about no one eles they want to be on top of the word an would not want no one else to be there either they want men to do everything an they think they dont have to its not men thats the problem its the woman thats the problem that create they own hell

Your advice was good except for the ex part, because of co-parenting.

Love this. Thank you!

If and until we are real, good enough women, we should not prefer a stupid film to a live huMan being calljng. Unless we are gemming ourselves, we should not behave, pretend and demand being seen as a gem. That is not automatic, but has to be practised and/or transformed from what ever traumatized and poor upbringing we got. Please don't encourage bad female behaviour and attitudes, those destroy men's view of and treatment of us serious, real but struggling women.

Thank you

If he did it to her I’ll be the next. He is the one who don’t respect himself

Thank you for this. I feel so isolated and feel like I have no one to talk to. This meant a lot

Self Love is important 💕

Good Advice

I agree! Birds of a feather 🪶 flock together!! Be careful ladies! I’m taking notes 🗣️🗣️💯‼️

What I find to be the BIGGEST turn off is when you're talking to a brand new guy on the phone, and they dont ask me ANY questions about myself! Ugh!!! I always ask guys questions about themselves, because I'm naturally a "curious" person.... I may let it go for 1 or 2 phone conversations, but I definitely pick up on it, like- does the guy even CARE about learning more about me??? 😣 So frustrating!!!

Act like it’s the norm is solid advice😂

Wow wow wow. Thank you so much this was so helpful. I feel like i need help being able to communicate my needs. I often feel too shy, but im pretty sure thats a trauma response to when i was never able to/blamed for expressing my needs as a child. Ive been healing lately. Youve definitely helped me. Thamk you and God bless you Lanz! Im subscribing ❤

Red flags.... nose rings