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so it was limerence all along huh. i always found myself grieving over what could have been and the potential of made up relationships and fantasies in my head. this gives me some peace of mind, at least, to know that i wasn't just spiraling by myself. after all, shadows can no longer hide in the darkness once the light is shine on them. thank you for this video, you explain this concept so well.

Thank you for naming what I’m feeling. I have a friend who I never told how I really felt. I’ve known them 16 years but we never got as close as I wanted to. I got married but never stopped thinking about this person. I had an open and honest conversation with my husband about this. He’s considering letting me have a closer relationship with this friend. I just need to tell this other person how I feel even if they reject me. Which will most likely be the reality…it might set me free.

I'm in a limerent parasocial situation with respect to you * - * <3 lol, sorry. Great content. Love that an academic psychologist is talking about these subjects online

But... the whole world is just a projection....

Can you speak on orphan hood?

bottom line: are you willing to face yourself?

This is awesome. Please make more ❤❤

Lilly said seven times during the interview that she loved what she is doing , it’s something she was dreaming of, clearly for me she was trying to convince herself that what she is doing is good, and not that she didn’t hit bottom and needs some psychiatrically help.

This was all so well put together and explained. I suffer from limerence for years and even with therapy it's hard to get this controlled and solved

The music with vocals during the intro and you explaining at the same time was too much for my brain 😂

❤ thank you for educational content and your inteligence in this stupid times. 🎉❤

I liked this video but I thought you could have done a more through job explaining why she should have felt shame, since so much of the video hinges on that. Especially important in a conversation about sex imo.

I am quite speechless about this "Challenge". Never thought that it´s physically and mentally possible to throw away all of your humanity to have sex with 100 men and ultimately objectifiying yourself. Even more terrible that her parents are a part of her Team. Sick world.

You remind me of Ella Purnell 😊

Thanks for sharing your STORY. Stories are super valuable because they relate to experience and experience is how we come to true understanding. The academic aspect is interesting and all, but a story is more powerful :) Thanks!

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Thank you for the video! You bring a fresh view on limerence that I don’t really see anywhere else Question: is limerence often about connecting to one’s own creativity? Because I recently realised that it has always been that way for me

Thanks so much. Your content is really good and helpful

your work are so helpfull, thanks a lot!!! Especiallly the short videos with insights in between🙏🏻🌻

Very thorough

Nice work !

This video helped a lot

Love is choice, not only a feeling

This is such an eye opener.

she expolited herself, the whole things was gross

Good video, thank you

Can you be friends/ is it advisable to be friends with LO?

Phillips should've been educated on the fact that men can sexualize all women, men that resemble women, children and animals. Men that cannot control their violent urges also have problems controlling their sexual urges. Why do some people want to procreate to raise self destructive children?

She exploits herself and she also exploits all these men who are taking part in this "challenge". She turns herself into an object and she objectifies the men. It's a losing "game" for everybody.

Thank you for your video, "Shy predator and willy prey" what an accurate quote! I found my wife having an affair with a married person over a year ago. In the beginning I thought it was just because she was bored with our married life for 18years but her reactions later showed clear signs that she was in a state of limerence. The LO was a married person and has a long track record of affairs and even a kid outside his marriage (according to my wife), it was obvious that she was just a prey being trapped and manipulated, while he was a predator rather than a lover, but in her eyes the LO was her soulmate and in her mind I was only a hollow body sharing the same bed with her. Everyday she would come home after work without paying much attention to me and our daughter, she'd be glued to her phone chatting with the LO even in the bathroom and in bed, she created excuses to date the LO after work or in another city without even thinking about my feelings I thought she was infatuated and gone crazy. At one point she wanted a divorce but somehow stopped by reality, because cost of living independently in a big city is for forbidding, and the LO used to promise her "buying a new apartment" was revoked as soon as he learnt that she has to move out of my house. Eventually the LO disappeared voluntarily leaving my wife in depression, for about 3-4 months her daily routine after work would be posting sad love songs or shedding tears in bed from time to time. Recently she told me that she's totally recovered from the experience and started to initiate intimacy but deep down I can still feel the insecurity in her and the hot and cold behaviors from time to time.. Since my wife has had a traumatic childhood experience I chose to forgive her and carry on with our lives, but I would like to know how long this limerence would last, is she ever going to recover, is there a way as a spouse can help her heal and walk out of the limerence?

had a very powerful underwater dream with large animals appearing both in and out of the water perhaps representing unconscious and semi-conscious instincts. I also recall meeting a gentleman called The Ambassador in a dream once. I think he was a figure from the collective unconscious bridging the collective unconscious with my personal unconscious

Great content, so much food for thought🤔😊

There are lessons to learn from everyone's experiences, and we all go through trauma that affects our lives. Thanks for this great vid!

I have encountered this and only recently came to the realisation that this is what you are describing, I never knew it had a term, thank you so much

As a psychology student, this video amazing and full of usefull, helpfull and important info. Thanks for the video, keep up w this wonderfull work! 🩷

There is a suggestion related to your UA-cam logo, in my opinion it doesnt suit, it looks like a hospital's UA-cam channel.

Thank you for the video. I saw it right when I really needed it. I've been holding onto someone for far too long. I'm the only one hurting because of it.

Thank you. Your sharing is so beautiful. It reminds me at the stages of reconnecting that A.H. Almaas discribes in "The Point of Existence". The experience of melancoly right before the emptiness or void and before the part of our essence that was repressed to the unconscious reemerges.

There is so much we can learn from live if we just know how to keep asking and learning from what we observe. Thank you for doing this analyis. Its so valuable in this current culture. 🙏

I would like to mention that I think through most of the interview she was lying and trying to rationalize the situation to herself out loud. When she said she was okay with having casual sex or that she enjoyed it, you can tell she’s lying.

I see prejudice. As a former s** worker: what causes PTSD the most is stigma. I embrace she's doing it in the open, it's a way of asking for support; talking with the interviewer, being exposed to judgement, but also to potential support from the public. Sex work happen, it seems like people haven't visited a pron site ever, or walked in a "dusty" neighborhood before. People is scandalized and naive, they're super concerned in the distance, condoning it from the distance. Yes, it's risky what's she's doing. Is she prepared for acknowledging what she deserves in life? No, she isn't. Not yet. What if we pave the way for her, and people like her, to discover it?

The very fact that "feminism" today seems to be forced to include the "freedom to choose" something like s3x slavery and selling out our intimacy for a cheap buck on OF is a tragic disservice to female empowerment and liberation. The only people empowered by us "choosing" something like this, are men. And I insist on putting "choosing" in quotes, because in reality it's often poverty and lack of real opportunities that fuels the p0rn and OF industries. This shift to "take advantage of men objectifying women by objectifying ourselves" has started when we've included the GTQ+ in our feminist fights. After all, trans mtf and gay people are the most of the s3x "workers" if you don't consider women, so makes sense for them to want to "destigmatize" it - but it's just more self inflicted mysoginy on US. We should not sacrifice women to appease them. I said what I said.

She exploited those men.

Thank you for making this.

I absolutely love the symbolism you've used in this text(The puzzle/the two monkeys embracing in the snow), it really touches on a deep level! Very beautiful and profound text, thank you for sharing

I see it allready sitting in the car: why I am still single, I am ready to settle down now crocotiers cry cry cyr I dont understand why

First word comes into my mind before you said it: " openminded"

This is such a subjective concept because love is such a variable thing! To explain the human need to be loved is so complex and I am not convinced that Limerence is an actual disposition! Psychoanalising love is so difficult! because everyone is unique and different!! I have cPTSD and have recently relived a repressed trauma from my childhood! This has turned my whole existence upside down! You question everything and wonder if you would have chosen the life you are in!

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