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Mary Francis
Приєднався 16 жов 2010
Providing Videos and Information for people who have lost a loved one or someone close to them.
Successful Grieving
What is successful grieving? For me it’s understanding that grief isn’t about getting over your loss, it’s about learning to live with it. It’s about knowing that we may experience anger, depression and denial, or we may not. That embracing your story of grief doesn’t remove your suffering, but it does remove the fear that you’re not doing it right.
You should be free to observe your feelings, day by day, without shame or judgement. Without trying to fit them into a theory that others follow. Don’t judge your mourning, but instead let love flow back into your heart as you honour your memories. There is relief when we realize that there is nothing wrong with us. We are not depressed or crazy - we are grieving widows.
It’s natural to try to keep our memories alive in order to keep them with us. My husband died and I mourned. That’s part of my life so why be quiet about it?
You should be free to observe your feelings, day by day, without shame or judgement. Without trying to fit them into a theory that others follow. Don’t judge your mourning, but instead let love flow back into your heart as you honour your memories. There is relief when we realize that there is nothing wrong with us. We are not depressed or crazy - we are grieving widows.
It’s natural to try to keep our memories alive in order to keep them with us. My husband died and I mourned. That’s part of my life so why be quiet about it?
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Loneliness
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Your quiet home is a constant reminder that your loved one is gone - really gone. The silence can be crushing and you may find it hard to concentrate. No one wants to be lonely, but that’s just where you are at this time of your life and there is no denying it. So, take this time for some self-discovery of what you want, because you need to find that balance between being with others and being ...
Difficult People
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If they talk down to you, are condescending or sarcastic, don't get defensive and don't take it personal. To do so is letting them take control. Draw attention to the way they are treating you, but don't get hostile. Try to understand why they are acting the way they are. Sometimes difficult people simple want to be listened to, they don't want help or advice.
Understanding Our Moods
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Many widows believe that their bad moods result from factors outside of their control. You need to understand your moods, and although they may be influenced by external events, that doesn't mean they are beyond your control. I don't believe that we should try to be happy all the time, or be in "total" control of our moods. That is a perfectionistic trap and just isn't realistic. There are time...
Temptation To Quit
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When times are hard the temptation to quit is part of our human nature, but widows are stronger than that. When you feel tempted to quit, you need to say "I refuse to give up". Widows who are determined and diligent have learned how to make it through their personal grief, to see the light at the end of grieving. You may not want to keep going, you may want to find a place to hide, but don't qu...
Speak Your Memories
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Speak your memories - a memory might not have been so funny at the time it actually occurred, but this is where you can craft it into a really good story, a story that can be given as a gift to your family and friends. Speak your memories, tell your stories, be kind to both yourself and your man. Memories told in stories show that you can laugh at yourself and that your memories will not be lost.
Take Time For You
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You are worth the "time for you", life is worth all that it takes: one idea, one choice, one step, one act of kindness are all enough to start a chain reaction of caring that changes your world. When we are grieving it seems like other people have it all together and like everyone's life is better than ours. But that's not true! There's still so much for you to live for.
Frustrated Widow
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Are you a frustrated widow? It becomes so easy to dwell on what you could have done, what others did or did not do, and why you feel so alone. The feelings of frustration, of not knowing what to do next, having no sense of control and feeling guilty because your still here and yet they are gone - does this all sound familiar to you?
Don't Grieve Without Support
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We were married but now we are single and our lives are forever changed. It helps to get support from other widows and professional counselors. If you are having trouble than support groups can do two things for you. First it gives you a chance to listen to others that are grieving. You pick up on their feelings and it helps in your own recovery to hear their opinions and experiences. Second, y...
Little Bits of Joy
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Bits of joy are hard to come by, and not what widows are expecting in their lives. But, there will come a time when bits of joy will break through into the darkness of your life. When was the last time you felt real joy - that pure tingle of pure delight? Joy is more than contentment, it’s a feeling so vast it almost overwhelms us with gee. I know you may be fighting against “joy” as it doesn’t...
Interview Grief Counselor
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How Do I Interview a Grief Counselor? You need to feel comfortable with any Grief Counselor that you’re considering hiring. Ask lots of questions in your search to find someone that fits your own life style. Pick the questions that you want to ask and the responses should help you assess whether he or she is a good fit for you. This list is a great way to locate a person or an organization that...
Loneliness - You Are Not Alone
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There are broken hearts and wounded widows everywhere, you are not alone in your grief. Some are healing and moving forward, some are still in shock and some are stuck in their grief and anger. As a widow you will encounter many lonely times, times when you feel like you’re the only person on the face of the earth. For me it was so strange to go from a house with a husband to a life alone. I kn...
Sex The Forbidden Topic
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It doesn’t matter how old we are - sex is the forbidden topic that no one wants to bring it up. Most of us widows are still interested in sex, but are scared of dating and how we will react emotionally. A widow often finds that sex can be a stumbling block when starting another relationship. After years with a spouse our sexual life gets comfortable, and it certainly takes us out of our comfort...
Love Yourself First
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If the center of your love is in your spouse and he dies, the center is suddenly removed and that is what makes our grieving so painful. We may end up feeling unloved and spend time looking for another love immediately to heal our wound. Many confuse sex and love, so in the beginning it is wiser to go easy on love relationships. Invest in friendships until you have healed and learned to love yo...
Fresh Goals and Being Teachable
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I recommend the book “The Wealthy Barber Returns” by David Chilton. It’s all a reach for me, but this book made sense and had me laughing as I read it. I love this quote from the book “Recognize that charge cards are the great enabler of our addiction to spending and don’t always carry one with you.” What - it’s that easy! Just leave the cards at home, I love it. Maybe right now you can’t see h...
Tips from Holiday and Special Occasion Guide, page 16
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Tips from Holiday and Special Occasion Guide, page 16
Lossed my husband in January ,42yrs together, sleep not good, food nope, lonely and have sad days , 🇨🇦😭💔🙏
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I feel so completely alone. even around other widows except for financially, I am so relieved. I was in a domestic violence relationship and could not leave due to a chronic medical condition. Most of my family members had died and I did not have anyone else to help in my care. His mom now helps with my care when I need it. I can still hear him yelling at me about another woman he found to help while I was ill, she can help doing things around here that you can’t do, she is everything your not. Yep, Interesting, he had not yet seen the chronic vomiting I had been experiencing. then one night I had a” episode” I would vomit and could not stop. I mean 7 to 8 times in a 1/2 hour. Sorry if that is To much info. He looked at me and said oh my gosh, we are getting you to the hospital. I said, this is what I have been dealing with, he said, I am sorry, I have been at work when this happens. No wonder you could not parent or do things around the house. I am sorry. If only that were the end of the abuse. I went to close out an account at the bank after he died. The woman there said she needed a moment when I called and said he had died and I needed to come in and close the account. When u was there she kept telling me how well she knew him, she said, I knew him really well. I don’t even want to imagine how well really well is. Praise Be to God he understands and with therapy and His Grace, I will get through this. I just feel so alone. Other widows are so sad and grieving loss. I just don’t feel that way.
A widower wasn't a fun ordeal i can't believe the issues
I miss my dear husband so much and wish i could hear his voice again
Like Is Not Enough When It Comes To You !!! Your Channel Needs " A Love Button " ❤❤❤ !!!
My husband has been gone 15 years. Matter of fact, today Oct 2 would of been his 71st birthday party. I believe a persons grief is directly related to the kind of marriage they had, not the number of years they were married. I adored my husband every minute of every day and I miss him today as I did the day he died.
Excellent! I am sharing my stories. I am not holding back. Your video helped me know I am healing. A short video with a lot of nuggets. TY.
My husband’s name was Donnie too.
Self Pity is Self Abuse
I have had people to tell me all these things. My husband passed a year ago. The one truthful thing someone had told me is it doesn't get easier. Her husband has been gone 13 years. 😢
Thank you, Mary. Many valid points and encouragements.
Hey how are you 👋❤🎉
Check out the Swedenborg podcast! Many episodes on spiritual marriage! Best help for me
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Everyday with you would be a happy ending. It's all about the special vibes I get from you
This Woman is World Class Gorgeous.Eye Candy.Fantastic.Perfect.Stunning.A True Goddess
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So what is the ring on your ring finger in this video....... since it is nun of my business as a man i assume you are remarried of wearing a ring to communicate you are not interested in dating. ,,,,,,,
@@CraftyRoseDentalinstructor. Just a new ring I bought myself. Not remarried, but even if I choose to remarry in the future it doesn’t change the fact that it’s a widows personal choice to do what she wants with her wedding rings.
Hi, you spoke my mind and heart. I lost my beloved, beautiful, and young better-half in Feb, this year. It is very hard to say something about the situation I have undergone....
I'm 54 and I want to date a widow of my age or more. How can I find one?
Being a widow doesn't bother me..hè died when we were apart 😊
how bout being a widower
Hello
Widows are probably the happiest people on planet Earth. No more old ugly husband to worry about or care for. Now you get to have fun with any man you like.
There's this older coworker of mine and i don't know if she is into me. She might be like 60 but she's aging nicely actually. Everytime she sees me, she kinda gets excited and wants a hug. I noticed she always rejects my handshakes and instead walks straight towards me for a damn hug instead. No joke. She did all this when she wasn't widowed. Now that she is, one time I was minding my own business and tried to ignore her when she kept calling my name, asking me to go up to her. I tried to walk away and there she went again coming towards me and this time she ran her hand all over my ab area after wrapping me in her arms.. no lies. and I was thinking "whoa lady! chill! " Haha!..Matter of fact, one time another coworker told me that woman was talking about me, saying at one point "Ooh that body.." I don't know what goes on in her mind or what are her possible intentions
I dated an older Widow. Treated her like a Queen. She loved expensive dinners and trips. (And I gave them to her) And then she LEFT after a year. I hope the new guy she is seeing now .... treats her like she treated me. That would be a "Just Punishment" And this is why Men today are opening their eyes. ua-cam.com/video/64Buu1DBALE/v-deo.html
Whoa! That might be a warning for me. There's this older widow coworker of mine and i don't know if she is into me. She might be like 60 but she's aging nicely actually. Everytime she sees me, she kinda gets excited and wants a hug. I noticed she always rejects my handshakes and instead walks straight towards me for a damn hug. All that behind her husband's back. No joke. Lmao.. But now that he recently passed away, one day I was minding my own business and tried to ignore the woman when she kept calling me to go up to her as she was feet away . I wanted to walk away and there she went again coming towards me and this time she ran her hand all over my ab area after wrapping me in her arms.. no lies. and I was thinking "whoa wtf lady?" lmao... I regret not doing vice versa but on the "behind" to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Lol However, in a way I feel she could be just playing mind games and perhaps even do me wrong exactly the way it happened to you, man.
I don't know why .... but Women need to feel a power over a Man (and there are good Women out there I'm sure) but there are a certain percentage of users. I would keep it to a bare minimum - keep it out of work environment. What if: You decided to go out for drinks - What if it got hot and heavy ? What if now .... after sex....she decides she OWNS you? What if she knows people at work and could make your life miserable? I would be careful at work. And then it could turn into a great relationship. I would pray about it before I did anything.
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@@risky1 Dang, that totally hit home, bro. You're right, I should take precautions, especially if she involves the workplace like you say. I'll check that clip for sure. Thanks for your response!
Many people imagine that there is a fixed timescale as regards grief and bereavement, ie: 3 months, things are still very raw but not quite as raw. 6 months and maybe there's a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel. 9 months, things are looking up. 12 months, the sunrise of optimism. 18 months, everythihg is back to normal! No, it's nothing like that. It's an unknown void and almost 40 years on I'm still in it.
It’s only been five weeks, it’s very difficult going forward and your advice about staying away from negative people is first on my list. Thank you
Thank you i just lost my wife on May 1 2024 not sure what to do she was 56 im 60 never had sex with anyone else
Every woman is a abused one way or another but they still take the benifits of the provider so that’s the give and take of marriage
Very interesting program
Enjoy life as you can no age limit for love and sex as long your body can do it
Thank you so much, recently lost my husband 2 months ago. Your words of wisdom are surely appreciated.
Very sensitive topic, specially in alone time
Thank you mary..its been 4 yrs since lost my husband and it's so hard everyday to keep going and snap out of moods...appreciate your vedeo's reminds me im not alone..God bless
“ you are not the only person who has problems”
Omg! What a horrible thing to say to someone who is grieving! I think that’s the worst one I have ever heard!
My name is Ron my late wife's name was Nancy , we were married 50 years. I lost her last year 2023 . I have to say it has been hard most days . I try to keep busy , but seems so strange not having with me😢 any anymore .
Hello
Nice topic❤
Hi Mary nice to meet you, you looks very awesome ❤
Thank you your so right 😢
I just lost my beautiful wife she was 56 I'm 60 years old thank you so much it's been very hard she passed away may1 2024 my name Robert healey my wife name Danielle rose healey I she will be missed we had 4 beautiful kids together
Hello Robert
The best comment I heard from a friend was, "I can't imagine what you went through." And I could tell it came from the heart.
i did experienced.later on i found younger couples
Hello
Need a serious widow to marry
O will always ne married to my husband , only difference is he is up there and I am here,
Who likes younger men
Just take one day at a time from someone who has never experienced the loss of a spouse.
Learning to help myself...I know my skills etc. If I can do it, I will. If I need to call for help, I have resources I can contact. I have come far. TY, Mary.