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I have overtly pulled nothing but black men and rejected every single one because they weren’t my style when it came to how they presented. They had not spoken a word to me before deciding that my “good girl” appearance and body was something they wanted to access and potentially manipulate. I have seen and met some fine looking black men. But if red flags and people whose moms dress them are the only ones coming up to me, I’m it doesn’t automatically say anything about what race or ethnicity of men I accept. Every single person ends up surprised that I have a backbone and dignity and have not allowed older black men to brainwash me into thinking that as a black woman I owe them my body and labor. A Korean-American guy asked me out once and I think there have been white men interested in me but too scared to ask me out. I’ve chatted with an Indian guy until I decided to stop tolerating the red flags I had chosen to ignore unlike those in black men because I did not make that automatic connection having never interacted with an Indian man before. Black men have traumatized me. White men too but less so. I am willing to date people that don’t retraumatize me. I will dress how I want, tuck my hair if it’s in the way momentarily, speak however I feel like speaking. Any man, any at all who tries to police what I do or make side-eye comments because of their own insecurities and misogynoir and overall anti-Blackness is not worth my time. I hope other black women can realize the same and clock the unique ways in which black men in particular will try to “humble” you.

It remains my favourite series but S2E6 is a good place to leave it.

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Your white sky daddy will not save you.

😂😂😂😂the hair behind your ear

I'm screaming, "now everyone knows my friends are white" I felt this. I'm sound white because my parents had the means to send me to private school? If you're jealous, just say that 🤷🏾‍♀️

When it comes to dating, go where you're celebrated. If that means a white man, so be it. If it's an Asian man, so be it.

The new growth middle part braids tucked behind d the ear… this describes me to a T even BEFORE I knew of this trend…

I don't know why but I like white accent. As black guy I would prefer black girl with white accent than a white girl 😂😂 I don't know why is that 😂

😂 this was hilarious. It's OK, be yourself, as a fellow white washed black girl, I can relate.

And now Turner Smith is divorced, so is she ugly again??? Men don't make you attractive. YOU are attractive regardless if a man is with you or not.

Jamaican in the U.S. and I must say this is I 😂

I had a realization as of recently. Men who are darker skinned than I am give me the most attention as opposed to men of my skin tone or lighter. Growing up I felt unwanted by black guys and I had a phase where I only liked white guys because of it. I found that they (white guys) were not outright malicious with degrading comments unlike the black guys I was around. This is a widely held experience for most women between medium to darker skin tones. By now we as black women should be doing better. I think some black women are not aware of how damaging their comments are or are so blinded by the standards imparted on them. Telling someone they "act white" because they don't do their edges or wear long nails or participate in certain trends is not okay. There needs to be a level of mutual respect and understanding that traits do not define your race and race is just a social construct. Moreover, being of a certain race or skin tone should not make you more desirable and the Black community as a whole needs to learn that. I'm glad you had this conversation because it was needed. Jokes have deeper meanings- to end with a quote I once heard: What is joke to one, is death to another.

I grew up in the northern California and there weren’t many black kids in my elementary or high school. Our school district only had two 7th & 8th grade schools so it was the most black girls I’d ever been around at that time. I was really excited but quickly disappointed when most of them called me white washed. It was the Avril Lavigne, Good charlotte era and I dressed the part. I knew that and being semi reserved is what made them say those things. I told my dad and he said “if you’re proud to be black you can never be white washed” and I always was. Fast forward to my adult hood when my mental illnesses got much worse, mainly due to domestic violence within my family committed against me. When my brother beat my ass and I wanted to call the police, my family said that was white people shit. When I started therapy, they said it was white people shit. Any time I did anything they didn’t like, I was white washed and stuck up. It’s sad that we weaponize that against each other. I’ll forever be more hurt by my family saying it than people who dont know me like that. It never tainted my feelings about black women or black people as a whole, but it is a huge fucking problem and I’m glad you’re speaking on this.

Black women go where you are loved and appreciated.

I feel in love with my wife because she is amazing.

That is the name. It’s in the UK isn’t it?

This is very unrelated to the topic but I absolutely love this makeup on you. I am inspired, unfortunately I don’t have products to quite achieve this but I love it.

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I love your red outfit, where did you get it?!?

My man HATES when I straighten my hair. Absolutely hates it lol So I just want y’all to know, these men do exist lol They are real and they are amazing

At least in the usa, most dark-skinned women are with black men. Most black women in general date black men.

The way my jaw dropped when you came out acting like with those scrunchies on and a plaid skirt and I was wearing the exact same thing at work today 😭😭😭😭😭 then you go on to say we wear our hair in natural styles and are low maintenance and don't wearing makeup and I'm sitting here with locs and only eyeliner and eyebrow pencils to my name 💀 💀 💀 💀 💀 💀 I feel like I was truly being READ I did not realize that I was doing these things to attract white man oh my God 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Growing up i was into anime, manga and kpop, thought i was never called white washed i was called weird. Just recently I had a friend ask me why i think black people especially girls are into K-pop, because she found out an interesting phenomenon. So I said, well the same reason who’re girls are into it, cause its new, fun and exciting

You need way more subscribers girl. Your audio quality is great, your makeup looks are immaculate and your commentary is well thought out and relatable! Glad I discovered you <3 can I talk about your makeup again it’s so good.

Those are the most horrible TikToks. You can't just be in a relationship without making it about his race?

Lol in conclusion: black women please ignore the hate, focus on yourselves and continue to live your best lives💜

Listen up, black women. Before you start thinking you’ve reached some sort of pinnacle in society by being “desired” by white men, think about this. Did any of the slave masters have sex with black women (consensual, rape, whatever)? *Yes* ! Do you think he respected her and saw her as equal to white women or himself? ()If you answered ‘yes’ to that, then stop reading right here)) He could screw you *back then* and be racist and (though you don’t want even consider the possibility) *the same can also be true today* . Having sex with you, yet despising (or feeling superior) your race in general *aren’t* mutually exclusive. Both *can* be true. Here are a few of the real measures of whether he does or *can* love you…. 1. What’s his relationship and attitude towards black men? 2. What’s his thoughts about the overall socioeconomic conditions of black people (mostly systemic or mostly self-inflicted? He’ll lean heavily one way or another). 3. What’s his sociopolitical leanings (conservative, liberal, mixed, neutral)? 4. Has he brought you around his family multiple times? Are they “comfortable” in your presence? Keep in mind white supremacy is *DEEPLY* ingrained into the heart of America (everywhere) and white men in particular have to fight *hard* against this ingrained mindset to truly respect black people - and that doesn’t happen as often as you might think. And many of them who do cross that color line often do “revert to full white” in the relationship - it’s just a matter of what will trigger it (criticism from his family/friends, tired of the s@x, politics, meting your “real” black family members 😂😂😂). It don’t take much. DJVlad, Bill Maher, Gary Owen are some names that immediately come to mind………but you go ahead and enjoy that “ride on the other side” while you can.

I was married for 12yrs and I never… not got asked if my husband was white. I either got told I look like I only date white guys or that they aren’t used to a young black man wanting to marry, but I’ve also never known one that didn’t want to marry me 🤷🏾‍♀️

Can I just say one thing as a white guy? Ladies. Black ladies. If you are going to date a white man, pleeease do me a favor and do NOT start trying to conform in weird ways. I mean weird shit like wearing colored contacts and using makeup to lighten your skin and dying your hair platinum blonde to try and fit in. The one and only black woman I ever dated I loved because of how natuarlly secure in herself she was. I loved her natural curly hair. I loved that she was secure in her dark complexion and her sense of dress (she was haitian). If he tries to pressure you in that way, cut it off immediately. If he can not accept the fact that you are black, then you dont want to be with him anyway.

The music at 8:30 HURT please balance your audio levels!! Great video otherwise

Ngl, I lose so much respect for any POC that is critical of interracial relationships. It’s fine if you don’t want something for yourself, but being a bitch to someone because their partner happens to be white isn’t a good look. It just screams insecurity.

Through a certain aesthetic BW have subtle visual social cues that WM catch and BM don’t. I actually don’t think it’s that deep because you can definitely tell when a WW only dates BW. You change your cues aka switch up the aesthetic and so does your dating pool demographic.

This Sista is VERY Attractive! I like Women of all races, but I'm very partial to Black Women.

Bro I locked Lipglosss video away in my subconscious especially when it hit Twitter. That situation got so bad

African american / caribbean british / African men have been successfully dating and marrying women of different races for decades . Its about time the women got on the bus and dated outside their race too. Good luck girls .

I feel this deep.

🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥺It’s so sad not to be understood

who cares what race someone wants to date?

That name is so beautiful

I have never felt so represented in my life😭

I've been told I'm whitewashed - I " speak in a white voice " - majority of people I hang out with are white -the way I act - because I like books 🙃

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💜I'm a black woman with AUTISM

As a young white person from a VERY rural white town (think donald trump signs on half the houses), THANK YOU and all other POC video essayists (specifically who talk about race and racism) for making stuff like this so accessible and easy to learn about. It helps me understand and unlearn a lot of biases I might not have even realized I had.