@@TalesBeyondHorizons I have some experience in south east asian women and thailand is the trickiest, try vietnam and phillipines instead but they can be tricky as well. good luck to ya!
@wtzan, But what do you think was the game plan of the bf or husband? Did he enjoy the jealousy of someone being attracted to his woman? But why let her go visit him then? That would seem like taking the game pretty far. I've been in a similar situation where the girl I went to visit was not interested in me at all until her neighbor friend and I started going out together at night. It was then when she started to show a lot more interest in me and we started to even have sex. I wonder what would have happened if he had left her and went out to have some fun in Pattaya for a few hours?
@aitp Many years ago I met a woman when we were both traveling. This was long before cell phones and online dating. We wrote letters back and forth for a while and then when I went to visit her, it went the same way. I left asap. I often thought it was just weird. Maybe she met someone between the time of our last letters and when I got there. I didn't give it too much thought and just moved on.
You Shouldn't be too hard on yourself, this happens to a lot of men. This is one of the risks of online/LDR relationships. Sometimes the chemistry doesn't translate into real life. Also, many girls on online dating platforms are not looking for a serious relationship, but to ease boredom, get attention and boost their online following.
Wouldve told her to leave in the middle of the second day. If my girlfriend didnt do anything that meant affection at the airport then she better be good the rest of the day or else shes gone
My guess is that she wasn't attracted to you hence the coldness. Although people can be shy but they won't be cold and ignorant usually if they really are into you. Then again, I have never met a Thai girl.
Bottom line, when you were online, she was in love with being in love. When she saw you, that crashed and burned. I'm sorry for your pain, but this is the real world.
I've found a few thai girls can be cold hearted..in the situation u can do two things, bail out quickly or flash the cash , most are money mad. I feel sorry for the guy. I think i would have left her , no point with that type of cold heart
A few user errors here I think, maybe tips for next time. 1. Very few women like when you tell them "oh, I want to be your boyfriend, I want to do this that" especially after a few days. 2. She was very likely shy, meeting someone that is open online and shy in real life is hard, but you need to keep the energy up. 3. Don't ask for permission to do things, do them, don't take this the wrong way, I'm not saying against her will, I'm saying it doesn't work like in the west, don't ask if you can watch a movie in the same bed, just scoop her up, plonk her in bed and put on a movie 4. Don't assume you will have bedroom fun just because you booked her some flight and a hotel, be a gentleman, come on dude. 5. Any where but the west, you will be paying for everything as the guy, expect nothing less. Don't get taken for a ride, but know that you will be the one paying, trips, hotels, food, for her family when you go out together, clothes, everything.
Yeah you should have cut that off immediately. Definitely don’t tell her your feelings. It was obvious she didn’t care. Should have sent her home and enjoyed your vacation.
Sorry to hear it. I have not had such an experience myself. The shyness isn't unusual and burying herself in her phone when she's feeling shy. But at least it wasn't a scam. I think you learned a valuable lesson here. Being lonely or overly emotional are not great traits for making good decisions, especially when it comes to love and relationships. There's also a big difference between falling in love and being in love. Falling in love is just emotions of longing and desire having a chance of being fulfilled and is actually just a form of self consciousness and anxiety that wants to be relieved by clear gestures of interest from the desired person. It's a real rollercoaster where we load of the significance of the other's behavior. Even though these feelings are natural, their quite dangerous for decision making and feeling pain. It's best to try and stay relaxed and not have expectations. That way, if someone matches you, great. And if not, there's no pain between how it really is versus how you wanted or hoped it would be. Keep trying. There are many women that would love to have your affection and devotion, that are just looking for a good man. Most that I meet are actually. Good luck brother.
I experienced the exact same story. Met on Thaifriendly. Messaged for several days. We met in Bangkok and had 3 great dinner dates. She was a nurse. Had her own car. Made plans to go to Phuket together in 3 months. 1 room 2 beds. All lovey girlfriend boyfriend chats for 3 months. Then she turned cold as soon as I returned. Went to Phuket. Got the cold shoulder the whole time. I didn’t last 3 days like this guy. She freaked out when I wouldn’t wear a shirt to bed and she was so snippy, I said F it. Later found out she started dating a rich guy from Kuwait who was closer to her age before our trip.
This guy was worried about the red flags with a bar girl and then he suggest going to pattaya for holiday with a girl he meet online? Major facepalm!! 555555
On-line dating is a slippery slope. The longer you communicate via phone, VC or text can create a stronger attachment to each other. But there is always the chance that the woman may not be attracted to you or versa vica. Shyness could be a possibility but typically that's an obstacle that should sort itself out over time. I've experience times in Indonesia where I meet a young lady, take her out for meals and eventually have an opportunity to sleep with her and find out I was disappointed and it not work out. Happens in America as well! Don't give up and make sure you profile the person very specifically. Age, Religion, where they grew up (City or Province), kids, single or separated or divorced, education etc.... Be picky and setup your profile to show who you are and make sure they are somewhat picky in their choice. It takes time, but I think this is the most important first step to a chance of a successful relationship.
If I was online dating, the rule would be just a couple of texts back and forth and then a definite requirement for a meeting in person. Just a simple, no risk, coffee. You can tell if it's going to work right then and there (or if the girl is even real for that matter). First red flag....they make an excuse for not being able to meet.
It’s amazing to me how these western men fall so easily. They don’t protect their emotions and tolerate situations like this. Learning the hard way is what happens sometimes. Good luck
online dating for AESAN countries is never a good idea unless the person is within the country. If i were you, i would just travel to Thailand and go to bkk or pattaya for first time instead of putting all of the eggs in one basket.
You came to Thailand from Malaysia, and you mention it like it was such a big deal - 1.5 hour of flight?... Dude, I departed from Europe and visited Thailand, just for a girl! Ha ha ha!
@@TalesBeyondHorizons She tricked me - she was married... And now, 19 months later, I live here, I have bought a condo, I make use of Retirement Visa and Thailand is my home.
I made some pretty stupid decisions with thaifriendly girls, lost some money but learned a lot from the mistakes. Glad i wasn’t in love so letting her go was not a heartbreak for me. Met my condo neighbor on TF, too. What a funny coincidence. She is now my maid helping me with my condo and we became friends
I woud say at thaifriendly in pattaya are at least 97 % of the girls freelance girls and in bangkok for shure more then 90% so the girls are only interested in St or Lt.
Look at it this way. You didn't spend a lot of money on her and had a vacation in Thailand. Next time don't be so desperate. Take your time and trust your instincts.
Dude if you weren't video chatting with her online for awhile then it's on you. Forget texting. You gotta jump to video quick. She didn't owe you anything. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. There are plenty of good single Thai women but you got to put in some effort. At the end of the day she just wasn't into you. Just move on and consider it a learning experience.
when you were online you were actually talking with her boyfriend or husband for all you know
Thats what i thought reading it.
@@TalesBeyondHorizons I have some experience in south east asian women and thailand is the trickiest, try vietnam and phillipines instead but they can be tricky as well. good luck to ya!
Or her translator friend. 🤣🤣
@wtzan, But what do you think was the game plan of the bf or husband? Did he enjoy the jealousy of someone being attracted to his woman? But why let her go visit him then? That would seem like taking the game pretty far. I've been in a similar situation where the girl I went to visit was not interested in me at all until her neighbor friend and I started going out together at night. It was then when she started to show a lot more interest in me and we started to even have sex. I wonder what would have happened if he had left her and went out to have some fun in Pattaya for a few hours?
Don't be surprised because these ladyboys there are convincing asf
Don't make long term plans with someone you never met. She would of been out after day one.
Looks like Ploy wanted someone more exciting, not a love sick puppy. Should’ve manned up and made a move on her on the first day.🙄
Not the first time I've heard a story like this, everything awesome online then as cold as ice once they meet in person. Very strange.
@aitp Many years ago I met a woman when we were both traveling. This was long before cell phones and online dating. We wrote letters back and forth for a while and then when I went to visit her, it went the same way. I left asap. I often thought it was just weird. Maybe she met someone between the time of our last letters and when I got there. I didn't give it too much thought and just moved on.
You Shouldn't be too hard on yourself, this happens to a lot of men. This is one of the risks of online/LDR relationships. Sometimes the chemistry doesn't translate into real life. Also, many girls on online dating platforms are not looking for a serious relationship, but to ease boredom, get attention and boost their online following.
Wouldve told her to leave in the middle of the second day. If my girlfriend didnt do anything that meant affection at the airport then she better be good the rest of the day or else shes gone
Thanks for the story. I like this one.
My guess is that she wasn't attracted to you hence the coldness. Although people can be shy but they won't be cold and ignorant usually if they really are into you. Then again, I have never met a Thai girl.
Just more reasons to not do any online meeting or dating. Leave the internet and apps if u wanna meet a real person.
THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR STORY. YOU LUCKY SHE DID NOT SCREW YOU MORE FINANCIALLY AND EMOTIONALY BLACK MAIL.
Bottom line, when you were online, she was in love with being in love. When she saw you, that crashed and burned. I'm sorry for your pain, but this is the real world.
I've found a few thai girls can be cold hearted..in the situation u can do two things, bail out quickly or flash the cash , most are money mad. I feel sorry for the guy. I think i would have left her , no point with that type of cold heart
A few user errors here I think, maybe tips for next time.
1. Very few women like when you tell them "oh, I want to be your boyfriend, I want to do this that" especially after a few days.
2. She was very likely shy, meeting someone that is open online and shy in real life is hard, but you need to keep the energy up.
3. Don't ask for permission to do things, do them, don't take this the wrong way, I'm not saying against her will, I'm saying it doesn't work like in the west, don't ask if you can watch a movie in the same bed, just scoop her up, plonk her in bed and put on a movie
4. Don't assume you will have bedroom fun just because you booked her some flight and a hotel, be a gentleman, come on dude.
5. Any where but the west, you will be paying for everything as the guy, expect nothing less. Don't get taken for a ride, but know that you will be the one paying, trips, hotels, food, for her family when you go out together, clothes, everything.
love your stories bro, keep them coming ✌✌
Yeah you should have cut that off immediately. Definitely don’t tell her your feelings. It was obvious she didn’t care. Should have sent her home and enjoyed your vacation.
Sorry to hear it. I have not had such an experience myself. The shyness isn't unusual and burying herself in her phone when she's feeling shy. But at least it wasn't a scam. I think you learned a valuable lesson here. Being lonely or overly emotional are not great traits for making good decisions, especially when it comes to love and relationships. There's also a big difference between falling in love and being in love. Falling in love is just emotions of longing and desire having a chance of being fulfilled and is actually just a form of self consciousness and anxiety that wants to be relieved by clear gestures of interest from the desired person. It's a real rollercoaster where we load of the significance of the other's behavior. Even though these feelings are natural, their quite dangerous for decision making and feeling pain. It's best to try and stay relaxed and not have expectations. That way, if someone matches you, great. And if not, there's no pain between how it really is versus how you wanted or hoped it would be. Keep trying. There are many women that would love to have your affection and devotion, that are just looking for a good man. Most that I meet are actually. Good luck brother.
Typical mood thai lady .sorry for that experience.i would told her leave after first day 😅.keep it rollin
I experienced the exact same story. Met on Thaifriendly. Messaged for several days. We met in Bangkok and had 3 great dinner dates. She was a nurse. Had her own car. Made plans to go to Phuket together in 3 months. 1 room 2 beds. All lovey girlfriend boyfriend chats for 3 months. Then she turned cold as soon as I returned. Went to Phuket. Got the cold shoulder the whole time. I didn’t last 3 days like this guy. She freaked out when I wouldn’t wear a shirt to bed and she was so snippy, I said F it. Later found out she started dating a rich guy from Kuwait who was closer to her age before our trip.
I'd have been gone after the firsy day.
never buy a thai woman flowers too early 😆
This guy was worried about the red flags with a bar girl and then he suggest going to pattaya for holiday with a girl he meet online? Major facepalm!! 555555
I've been rejected by average girls and had 10's throw themselves at me. It's just chemistry and you need to be in person for that.
On-line dating is a slippery slope. The longer you communicate via phone, VC or text can create a stronger attachment to each other. But there is always the chance that the woman may not be attracted to you or versa vica. Shyness could be a possibility but typically that's an obstacle that should sort itself out over time. I've experience times in Indonesia where I meet a young lady, take her out for meals and eventually have an opportunity to sleep with her and find out I was disappointed and it not work out. Happens in America as well!
Don't give up and make sure you profile the person very specifically. Age, Religion, where they grew up (City or Province), kids, single or separated or divorced, education etc.... Be picky and setup your profile to show who you are and make sure they are somewhat picky in their choice. It takes time, but I think this is the most important first step to a chance of a successful relationship.
At least she did not try to fleece you for money, be glad of that.
If I was online dating, the rule would be just a couple of texts back and forth and then a definite requirement for a meeting in person. Just a simple, no risk, coffee. You can tell if it's going to work right then and there (or if the girl is even real for that matter). First red flag....they make an excuse for not being able to meet.
thank you so much for the video .. i love them all ❤
Glad you like them!
Online dating is horrible. Huge risk. Mostly bad experiences rather than good ones. So many scams. Don’t do it.
Very well said Madam 🤲🏻🌹
When going for first time , line up two to three! Sometime the one you are in contact with may not even show up.
It’s amazing to me how these western men fall so easily. They don’t protect their emotions and tolerate situations like this. Learning the hard way is what happens sometimes. Good luck
online dating for AESAN countries is never a good idea unless the person is within the country. If i were you, i would just travel to Thailand and go to bkk or pattaya for first time instead of putting all of the eggs in one basket.
You came to Thailand from Malaysia, and you mention it like it was such a big deal - 1.5 hour of flight?...
Dude, I departed from Europe and visited Thailand, just for a girl! Ha ha ha!
Damn lol. How did it go?
@@TalesBeyondHorizons She tricked me - she was married... And now, 19 months later, I live here, I have bought a condo, I make use of Retirement Visa and Thailand is my home.
Bitter sweet ending then? Glad it’s working out for you though and you’re happy 👍
try a 27-30 hour travel for USA. should have seen her body online before coming.
I made some pretty stupid decisions with thaifriendly girls, lost some money but learned a lot from the mistakes. Glad i wasn’t in love so letting her go was not a heartbreak for me. Met my condo neighbor on TF, too. What a funny coincidence. She is now my maid helping me with my condo and we became friends
Tell you this ! Its all over the word the same man .
I woud say at thaifriendly in pattaya are at least 97 % of the girls freelance girls and in bangkok for shure more then 90% so the girls are only interested in St or Lt.
Look at it this way. You didn't spend a lot of money on her and had a vacation in Thailand. Next time don't be so desperate. Take your time and trust your instincts.
Dude if you weren't video chatting with her online for awhile then it's on you. Forget texting. You gotta jump to video quick. She didn't owe you anything. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. There are plenty of good single Thai women but you got to put in some effort. At the end of the day she just wasn't into you. Just move on and consider it a learning experience.
Grow some balls and create some boundaries and rules. These guys are way too simpy and emotional.
Keep looking you will find love.
Poor guy
Why not try the Philippines.😊