Should You Change for your Partner? feat. Jeannie Mai Full | Lovers and Friends Ep. 4
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- Опубліковано 24 тра 2024
- Should you change who you are in order to keep the lover you wanna be with? If your first reaction is "Hell to the No!" well...you're not alone. In this episode Shan interviews Emmy award-winning producer and host Jeannie Mai, who talks about how her marriage to Young Jeezy transformed her in ways that just didn’t surprise her, it also shocked the world! We also explore whether or not Shan regrets the changes she made for love with a revealing dialogue between her husband Jared and her sister Lauren.
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I so appreciate you, Jeannie Mai, for saying that you desire to learn your husband's culture and other cultures that you live around for your daughter and yourself. I too feel that way. I can honestly appreciate people in interracial relationships viewing this as important, because so many people do not! Love you both!
I agree.... this needs to be a conversation
This is what is missing in the kind of gross conversation about "submissiveness" that seems to come up over and over again in podcasts. Submissiveness is not a character trait. It is a natural ease and calm that comes with two people who are compatible and choose to be the best person they can be in service of their relationship. Both people soften and grow and change if they care enough about the other person.
Beautifully said...
Lol
She said, it’s a responsibility as an American to learn and “understand” other races and cultures. She gets it. Evolved and mature..this is wisdom.
It’s OK TO CHANGE YOUR MIND HUMANS. Thank you Jeannie❤
For me change is not that bad as long as the change is a positive and it doesn't go against your morals and ethics. I don't call it change I call it Evolve. Jeanie's definition is evolving to me. For me it's not a negative thing. For me it means I gave it careful thought which came from a mature place and made the best choice for me whether it's adding to my life, or not. I'm making my choices being fully present instead of straight off of emotion or ego. I loved his quote. I think it needs to be on a mug or a t-shirt.
I adore Jeannie Mai and always have.
She is genuinely a good person and I watched her "evolve" exactly like she said. I watched her glow up as a single woman and fall in love with a man who changed her world.
She showed me how good of a dude Jeezy is.
How grown man he is.
She deserves it all.
I'm super happy for her
ADORE🙄
@@not-even-german4892 I said what I said.
Jeannie always comes dressed like royalty ❤️✨🤩
Completely agree..❤️
@@peterssister421 ❤️
please stop the banner that appears every 2 mins, so distracting. Loved the episode tho
Anything to make YOU happy.
That banner was annoying.
@@melissaortiz7274lol what?
Very 🙄
After a while I clocked off and just listened instead of watched 😑, guess its a good ploy to get me into the podcast or to listen more 🤨🤔
Jeannie always gets so deep, she has a way with words that is beautiful 💕🌹❤️🥺.
Why my algorithm so messy😩
mine too, this channel does not show in my feed😂
Same 😩🤣
😂😂😂
I was thinking the same thing
Mine too! Like why is this on my home page? UA-cam messy AF😂
Who's back after the divorce filing 👀👀👀👀
👀 I came to learn
I didn’t know about this video existing until the divorce… it never fails the supposed feminine and submissive admits to being masculine and dominant sipping slowwww …. Ouch! Never been a fan of Jeanie or anyone on the show. My Schadenfreude has been activated!
ME! 🙋🏾♀️ Did you go back to the episode with Jazzy, who talked about being submissive to her "boyfriend" now baby daddy Cam Newton? She is pregnant, which will make her the 3rd "baby mama" and her baby will be number 8. No ring in sight. Not even trying to wife her but she's submissive. 🤦🏾♀️
M here
UA-cam being messy and pushing it to recommended 👀
You mantioned that Jared has a wait to point out bad behaviour without making you feel like a bad person. I wish if you could expand on that in future episodes. Could you give us an example, a roleplay of a fictional situation. I think it's a valuable skill which a lot of people struggle with and would like to learn and integrate in their relationship. I think it would be really valuable for us to see how it's done, how to open that discussion while staying connected and not triggering out partner.
It’s truly refreshing how honest and unapologetic you are in speaking your truth. Thanks for sharing this with us.
Amazing video request: “How to Put Your Partner in Their Place Without Provoking Their Ego”
For me in my relationships over the years, this has been truly difficult for me. I often resort to guilt tripping or yelling because I have a trigger from childhood of not feeling heard. Conflict resolution is such a must in relationship and to learn how to navigate would be a lifesaver! Thanks so much, Shan, for your insightful and thought provoking content as usual! This was a engaging conversation ❤
For me I have found over the years that tone makes a whole lot of difference
@@washimafeese5594 absolutely tone and delivery
Watching this makes me even more sad that Jeezy filed for divorce. It seems like he didn’t try
Agree. I don’t think he ever wanted the marriage.
I kinda don’t blame him. Don’t pretend to be submissive then when you finally get him you turn into the dragon lady with attitude. She tricked him
@@user-do1qf8rm7b but does submissive mean you don’t stand up for yourself or set out your expectations?
When men say they want a submissive wife do they just want someone who does everything they say and never speaks up for themselves
This conversation is about prioritizing self love and acceptance over societal expectations to procreate and assume specific gender/sex/status roles that can (potentially) block you on your own path to personal understanding, growth and fullfilment. So many people have been pressured to become a less than evolved version of themselves especially when where who what they are at the present moment serves others at the detriment of themselves. Therefore changing in a relationship, that is, being encouraged to improve/expand your self concept becomes the goal especially when you are partnered with someone who is just as invested in their own actualisation as well as your own, for the now and the future together or apart.
What an eye opening, beautiful conversation 💛 Something I have felt insecure about in my own relationship is how much my partner has changed since we have been together, especially since having our daughter. I had always felt like I was asking too much and should just love him where he is at... and I did love him then but I’m in awe and in love with the version of him that he has become. Witnessing a change in him inspires me to be a different version of myself. We are closer because of the changes we have made. I can feel the love between us growing and evolving and becoming deeper than it ever was before.
This is a collab I didn't know I needed
❤️❤️❤️
Thank you, Shan. You’re so needed and really enjoyed this episode
Society has to realize not everyone thinks the same or wants the same things in life
+... At the same time
Great conversation ladies. I enjoyed every bit of it!👏👏❤❤
This was one of my favourite episodes
I loved these conversations! Thank you so much for holding space to share your vulnerability and perspectives with us. I truly appreciate it! ❤
Thanks for this video, it was really helpful.
The two of you together is so much fun to see! You just see each other!!
I need a deep dive from a therapist on why her marriage didn’t end up successful at the end … after all the changes she made etc.
This sounded like a real relationship so it’s hitting me hard. So sad. But baby Monaco is so adorable! Definitely will be worth everything at the end of the day!
Unless you talk to HER therapist, I don’t think anyone can tell you. 😅 Jeannie is an open book, though. She will eventually share some details. It might take awhile, but she will share.
They have both evolved and love themselves and are pouring into themselves. This is not bad. It's just they both have to love themselves 1st before they can love one another. It's a journey.❤
Because she really didn’t change in my opinion. She is a straight narcissist in my opinion! Not the mention a lie 🤥
Wow😍.... I'm always amazed about how Shan is super good with using and choosing the right words... Just wow
Great conversations🔥🔥 between Queens😍😍. This topic hit home❤️.
Real talk. Nice guys. Keep putting this kind of talk out there
I absolutely loved this topic around growth and change in the relationship.
Thank you both for diving in.
This episode was beautiful and insightful. I loved hearing this side. Thank you
Great explanations! Especially in a world that can often shine an ugly light and give a bad connotation to changing that is absolutely necessary when in a relationship.
I really loved this episode. I took down a lot of notes as it helped me understand myself better with my husband. ❤
I’m living for this. I admire & am a total simp for you both 😂🙌🏽
Wow!!! This was amazing!!! Been a fan of JM!❤
This is so real and beautiful!!! Be true to yourself!!! I love your program!!!!
Great conversation!
I loved this conversation!!
I loved this so much!!! 😍
Great interview and great people!
Love this interview Jeannie has changed so much ❤️
I subbed cause I love your vibe!!! Yesss sis I wish you much more success and elevation!!! 🙌🏾🖤👑💫
I really like the part about basking in the afterness! Have the same issue with my partner sometimes -- but when I show appreciation it changes the dynamic! ;) thx for this
I really love this episode
Your sister needs her own pod, wow!!! gems
Thank you for this whole topic being discussed in a way I have never seen and REALLY needed. I am so grateful. I feel sooooo seen rn.
I loved this conversation!!!
Jeanie was so authentic in this interview and transparent I love it❤ dope interview 🔥
It’s great that partnership or friendship makes you find your flaws and wanting to be better and grow, even if the relationship doesn’t work at end you improved as person and it’s AWESOME
This is extremely relatable. I relate to Jeannie so so much. From the evolution and want to be better in my relationship to the not wanting to have children- especially with the wrong person. I’ve sometimes been made to feel bad that I don’t want kids, but I’ve never been pressured thus far!
Wow Jeanne is so self aware of herself in my past relationship I also was bad tempered hotheaded, but I noticed that that was a defense mechanism because of the respect that I was getting in that relationship, so I mirrored back what I got and return now in my current relationship. I know that he is my soulmate because I am allowed to be vulnerable. Allowed to let my guard down allow to be myself so he brings the best out of me.
Fabulous talk, love Jeannie!
Great interview.
Loved both conversations…I have found lately that I too have been so hell bent on being “independent” and not changing my plans or actions in fear of the credit being given to connections and relationships I have around me. I’ve been stuck in a rut, Wilting instead of growing terrified of change and people perceiving me to be weak or codependent. I really needed to hear what Jeannie especially had to say!! 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽love the pod Shan 🥰
THIS!!! You worded it perfectly.
I loved this conversation. It is about finding people who can see the best and the worst. Exploring the revolutions or evolutions of each other and growing. Self actualization! With each other. Grow together or grow apart. I have that with friends and partners.
Shan, you seriously inspire me to communicate so openly and honest with people in my life.Thank you.
Keep up the important work.
Great episode, I was just wondering what Jeannie was up to these days. I love the conversation
It’s one thing to say something and to actively do it requires time. We all have had our traumas and it takes time to heal and to make the necessary changes. We need people who can be patient with us.
Some people dont have patience and understanding or compassion. Love is supposed to be patient and kind. It's quite sad what's happened to her.
idk why but for some reason I just wanted to cry watching.. it's just really emotional to experience someone in alignment.. maybe not "evolved" but aligned with your purpose for sure and not only that I really do feel I'm in that space now. It's my turn and I am being intentional.. and I am sure that's why my emotions are being triggered because it's so me
Careful not too take the fact that your partner is self-aware for granted. They are likely tired of explaining themselves to you while you sit and wait for the subtitle to come from them. Hope this helps someone
This was a great episode that’s it that’s all
I don't know how I found this but I'm happy I did!
Yesss change is good when it’s healthy! Agreee
I think it’s a good thing to change in a relationship. for someone and for yourself and I think sometimes being with someone will show you things about yourself that you’ve never seen before and that’s worth changing. Both sides!
I love their relationship. Jeannie and Jeezy look so happy together and their baby is adorable 😊
This didn’t age well
Jeanie had blue hair and she was the first person who i saw embracing herself on 'how do i look". Keep going malove
i loved it omg
Thank you for sharing. I have decided to let love change me. Thank you for the help. One of your episodes from your podcast helped me let go of an unhealthy relationship. Thanks for sharing your perspective. Many blessings.
I loved this
I love Jeanie Mai!!!! Love you! ❤❤❤❤
This is such a beautiful conversation, thank you to the both of you!!!
7:51 I’m officially a fan sis, you are invited to the cook out 😂
Love this ❤❤❤
Jeannie always comes dressed like royalty ❤️✨🤩
Who’s here after being in Mel’s Patreon!??
We need an emoji 😂👩🏾⚖️
@@applejackzo 😂😂that’s a good one!! 👩🏾⚖️👩🏾⚖️👩🏾⚖️
I love hearing Jeanie's side of this relationship and Shan is right it is a bit like Jay and Bey. Also Shan looks so beautiful in this episode the makeup is one point with the floral dress
I love the way you ended this episode! The conversation between you, Jared and Lauren was so beautiful! I resonate with the right romantic love enhancing other relationships for the better and sometimes leading you to realize that some people aren’t meant to continue the journey with you
Love this ep 🫶🏽
I like it but I don't like how the episode gets abruptly cut. :(
I am lagit obsessed w this podcast 💯... N I'm soooo down w that s.e.t to girlll! Lol Iv never shared anything like this to social media n felt like this explains so much what I'm searching for... I had 2 t.y for speaking my ❤️ into words and articulating it better than I ever could LOL
I Love Me Some Jeanie Mai!! 😆💚✨
I'm changing positively because of this relationship I'm in but I'm feeling like growing apart from them every step I take forward 🥺 ... it's scary cause I love them
Man that ending was nice 🥲
i loved this wow
Loved this convo! ❤
The visual editing on this podcast was very distracting though.
agreed
She’s SO CUTE I love her
This was a great episode. Jeannie is really giving out a lot of game, ladies when you respect a man you will grow in some of the toughest areas that you resisted or didn’t even acknowledge before
Emphasis on the word respect! So true.
It seems like it was more performative than anything else.
Jeannie Mai - awesome interview 👏🏽🫶🏽
Sit back and let good. There’s a reason our minds and body’s close up and open up to certain situations and people.
Love Jeannie !!! Always have always will !!!!
Thumbs up 10 mins in ❤
I believe the best types of love change you for the better. Growing in love for God and in love for myself has changed me tremendously. Inevitably for partnerships we will change as well. The problem that comes in is when the tweaks are not improving how you show up for yourself and the world. If the changes you’re being encouraged to make are genuinely harmful to you (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually) and not just to your ego I think it one may not last and two it shouldn’t be done. People will manipulate you if you allow them. But not everyone has evil intentions behind their requests.
True love and a healthy partner will hold up a mirror in front of you and vice versa
Everyone is a mirror to you, healthy or not.
You only can truly change for YOU.
JeAnnie LOML😭😭💗💗. Such an incredible duo🫶🏼
I love you Jeanie Mai💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛
The real!!!!!! Love you jeannie mai lol 😆 🙌🏻
I knew the moment she started dating him that she would change her mind. Jeezy is masculine and the only way that relationship would work is if she eased into her feminine. He changed that for her ! Freddy could never . She is totally different now and you can’t tell me that her husband didn’t cause this 💞. I loveeee this for her
Love love lovvvvvvve 💗
💛❤️🩹💛For you; you are a courageous person and good host. The few times I've had to enjoy listening to you talk, about important topics and in context and its educational. It has the potential to heal to those who dare listen.🖤🖤Something that is rare, that is pure, honest, and wholistically good & wise. Keep up the great work.❤💔❤(Relationships are a difficult topic to cover already as it is, because in doing so one has to remember that circumstances and phenomenon that arise or fall with such thought is usual central to a belief).I know yearn to believe in you now. .Good day beautiful😊😊😊
Changing your behaviors/habits is not the same as changing your personhood. If that doesn't make sense you don't know who you are. I personally believe people CANNOT change WHO they are but we all learn and adapt to the ups, downs and differences of life and environment.