Name It to Tame It: How to Process Emotions 1/30
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When we don't know what we're feeling, we tend to be reactive and impulsive in ways that mess up our life. When our emotions are vague, nebulous, unexplored sensations - when we feel something, but we don’t know what it is or we aren’t sure where it comes from - we have little power to change it. You can learn how to manage emotions by learning how to talk about them. The simple skill of "Name it to Tame it" as Daniel Siegal calls it.
In this video, the first of 30 skills in my Emotion Processing course, you’re going to learn how to get better at feeling by getting better at naming your emotions.
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I'm So Grateful You Are Making These Videos Available On UA-cam, As Not Everyone Is Able To Afford Therapy, Or Has Access To It. You Kindness Will Surely Make A Big Difference To The Lives Of Thousands Of People! Particularly In These Times, Where Many Are In Need Of Mental Health Support. THANK YOU, YOU Are A Blessing! 😇🌻💜💫 Ginni, From New Zealand.
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Thank you very much.
Really helpful for me as I don't have access for a Therapist to personally meet with him/her
I agree, what a kind person Thankyou So Much 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Very much the same here.Thank you and kindly grateful to the access to understand my emotions better and that of my 9 year old daughter's who has ODD, Autism and social anxiety. It can be a very complicated relationship of control and manipulation, you are a great starting point to learn my own emotional processes so am better equipped to deal with her anger and frustrations. Congratulations on the birth of your super new edition. PS. Ginni I am moving from the UK to NZ very soon, happy living X
I eat. ( stuffing down emotions)
Sleep. ( avoiding difficult emotions)
I pick an argument. ( reinforcing the feeling of isolation and unworthiness)
I isolate. ( not wanting to burden others or not being able to trust that I can receive help)
I numb out by dissociating or engaging in mindless social media scrolling)
I ignore/avoid pleasurable activities. ( maladaptively managing anxiety,boredom,shame,loneliness, sadness, fear - feelings of unworthiness)
Thank you so much for this.
Hang in there, Lindsay. I feel you.
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Blessings and hugs
@@treehugger7844 you r not alone 💕
i love this comment im going to write it down, thanks =D
I do 1 and 2.
This needs to be added to most curriculums at school. I don't understand why this is not being taught. We need to put much more emphasis on physical health at school as well as emotional health. This is a wonderful course. Thank you for posting it. I am going through it with all the effort and and diligence I have.
You are so right.
I've had basic psychology at least three times (different schools and education levels), none of them taught this. There were only a couple of interesting useful topics, like conflict resolution. The rest was personality tests and group tasks/games. Felt more like team building or maybe training interpersonal skills.
And regarding physical health I have no idea why first aid and proper nutrition still isn't being taught in schools. My 26 year old friend though pizza is a healthy meal :D
they won't do that they'd rather ban books that teach about black history and queer ideologies
I've noticed that the power structures of society have no interest in empowering people. Much more convenient to blame us instead.
"When we're not sure what we're feeling but we know that it's uncomfortable, we tend to act in ways that are impulsive and self defeating."
*Entire life flashes before eyes*
Literally, I just stopped the video her and was like just wow
JESUS CHRIST I'm feeling it now. Holy crow.
Yes.
Yes, that's what I did.
Literally same
Naming my buzzing emotions was so hard. I could only describe it as a stuffy humid windless doldrums. After a few weeks shuffling through an emotion wheel I realised why it was so hard, it was because I grew up in a house hold where any emotion or uncooperative behaviour was just called "a bad/garbage attitude" or "what would your future mother in law/husband think about this behavior."
Very insightful. Your comment helped me too. Thankyou.
Sending love. Just because I feel you as someone also grew up in a toxic patriarchy system.
Oh, I've heard the husband line as well...
What would your future mother-in-law think? That is a really strange thing to say...
I was married to a man who wasn’t very emotional and early in the relationship would get upset when I cried, so I learned not to. We were married for 13 years. Two years ago I divorced him because I met someone who made me feel again. The last two years has been an emotional roller coaster as I have let all those feeling finally come back out with a wonderful man by my side who embraces my “seasons” of emotions (as he calls them).
Naming an emotion is such a powerful skill.
This is sarah😵💫i’m feeling very sarah😵💫 today
sarah😵💫 is back !!!!
One iv not yet mastered 😢
I struggle mainly with intense intrusive, irrational feelings of guilt, especially towards the people I love. I tend to ruminate and obsess over those feelings and associated thoughts (that I'm a bad, selfish person) and this leads to feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, sadness, despair... I'm working on forgiving and accepting myself the way I am, but it is quite hard given the fact I've been criticising, judging and hating myself for as long as I can remember.
I’ve learned more watching your videos than I ever have in actual one on one therapy! Thank you so much for this free resource for those of us who are struggling emotionally and financially. You are one awesome and smart lady! Praying that God blesses you richly!
Thanks Amanda, God blesses me every day, I'm so grateful to be able to share his bounty
@@TherapyinaNutshell Wow, you reflect God's kindness and generosity. May He continue to pour more blessing into your lives
The world would be paradise if people behave your way!
What an awesome thing to think about - I processed stress when I had a high paying job by skipping dinner and going straight to bed until the next day and when it was time to work. It got worse and worse because I didn’t have time and energy to make good, nutritious meals for myself and wanted to save money and didn’t want to eat out. Hope this comment helps you conquer the algorithm.
You have no idea how helpful these videos are. I’ve been seriously struggling with my emotions and learning to deal with my trauma and how to cope with my emotions. This video brought tears of joy to my eyes. I finally feel like I’m taking a step in the right direction
A few decades ago I hit upon the thought exercise of removing emotional triggers from a "coat closet", shaking the "coat on a hanger" out to see if that was why I was anxious, angry or sad because I often feel emotions without knowing what triggered it. If that wasn't the one, I put it back and pulled out another. It works fairly well. I usually know what I'm feeling it the why and what to do with it that stumps me.
Thank you so much for this series and making it available for everyone during these tough times. Thank you ❤️
You are so welcome!
Awesome I found the first one in the series 🤗 if possible please could you create a separate playlist in your channel for the series only? It’s really hard to find them on your channel and on UA-cam. Thank you so much for your generosity making these available, they are amazingly helpful.
Also you might not realize the music at the beginning of the videos is louder than your voice and it’s hard to hear what you’re saying. It’s great that it stops fairly early on 🤣 just some friendly feedback
Thanks for being here for us with all of your videos. Your insights are amazing, and give me hope. Thank you for sharing your gifts so generously.
@@TherapyinaNutshell where can get the emtions check in sheet??? The link doesnt work
I can't believe such a great course is on UA-cam for free!
Thank you very much for your amazing generosity!
i was doing well w managing my anxiety but this day in particular was rough for me. this video really helped me to take a step back and process my thoughts and emotions. im gonna go get my journal now. thank you so much 💕
awesome!
I can't express how much I needed this right now. Thank you so much for your efforts.
Me too. We are gonna get through it 🙏
Starting this today. 1st May 2023. Will keep you updated on how it goes and what I experience
First week in I downloaded an app called Daylio to track how I feel every 3 hours from 9am till 9pm. I feel like using an app is more handy than having to take physical notes during the day. So after checking in with my emotions during this week was challenging at times, but I felt amazing benefits already after 2 days. I felt more grounded and self confident because identifying and naming the emotions kept me from ignoring them, numbing or getting stuck in my head. Also I was finding myself being more present and happy. If you would have told me a week ago how different I would feel now from something as simple as naming my emotions, I would have dismissed the idea as foolish. So now I am rlly looking forward to the following weeks!
Thank you for all of your videos. I have PTSD and OCD. So, panic and anxiety is a big part of my day and OCD makes it even more tricky. It got to the point that I can't work and therapy is very expensive. So, when you are struggling mentally and can't work you can't afford treatment and I am sure this helps others in the same position. Thank you for posting these videos.
I hope so, thanks!
I just left a job due to anxiety caused by lack of confidence. I can so relate with you. I thought I am the only one who had to leave the job due to anxiety. I feel like a coward sometimes who could not face the fear of people around. Your message has comforted me. Thanks
I have been on an extended sick leave for the past few months because of my anxiety. You are definetely not alone :)
What I do: sleep, eat, distract myself with youtube and memes, self isolate, vent to a friend or in my journal, do something creative, maybe do grounding exercises, meditation, yoga, go for a walk, and rarely - engage in self destructive behaviors
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I feel... procrastinative 😂 I feel amused, creative, aware!
I'm so grateful I found you and that you're providing this for free on UA-cam. This feels so helpful, and we're just getting started. Thank you so so so so much!
Better late than never:
1. I sit at my computer and play a game or turn on the tv. (Ignoring the emotions)
This bottles the emotions and teaches my brain that as long as i dont feel them now, its fine.
Also, your videos have been a lifeline for me. Ive been struggling with feelings of anxiety for about 2 weeks now (2 years ago it was 4-6 months). Youre videos and guides have helped me find that i have made alot of unconcious habits to avoiding my emotions and feelings of self-dislike (i felt hate was too strong of a word). Though your videos can not fully replace an actual theorpist, it is definenetly a step out of this dark loop. Thanks you from the bottom of my heart.❤
Hello. How are your results with handling emotions one month later?
Nothing wrong with the McDonald's PlayPlace without the kids😆
Seriously your videos help so much, thank you!!
Glad you like them!
So true! When I finally understood that my main issue is anxiety, it made a huge difference. I really didn’t understand that’s what was happening to me.
Love your name :)
I know what it usbut it still gets me
I first learned name it to tame it from my VA therapist. Priceless skill. I adapted it and invented identify to simplify. I’m sure there’s millions who thought of it first. Great videos!
A trillion thanks, Emma
*Awesome. Excited to go through all 30!*
I feel so happy that you feel inspired to help us/me/everybody. I am getting a ton from this video and look forward to the series. Thank you! You are helping thousands or more. Thanks again!
Going through the course a second time! I love it so much, my life has improved since I started it! I have so many notes lol thanks for helping me 💕
I’ve only watched a few of your videos so far, but I can tell the content is invaluable. Thank you for taking the time to create something that is giving me (and I’m sure many others) the ability to do better and feel better. I feel a sense of relief. ❤️
Hi Emma, I wanted to express how thankful I am for this series. I’ve been watching a ton of your videos over the last few months and they’ve helped me a lot with the how-tos and detailed steps for the coping methods and processing my therapist has been teaching me. The way you explain everything so clearly has been a huge support to the work I’ve been doing with my therapist. Also thank you to betterhelp for helping to fund the series! Wishing you the best!
you make healing so accesible! thank you from the bottom of my heart!❤️
Yes. Naming the emotions helps a lot!
Thank you so much for putting this amazing material out there for free, you're the best 💗
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! Exactly what I was talking with my friend about today.
I’ve been doing this for a couple of weeks and it’s already making a big difference
Oh Im so glad I found these videos, thank you so much for sharing this
I’m in the middle of a grieving process and it’s been a struggle to say the least, these videos are helping a lot
Thank you so much for teaching people these skills! For people like myself, who are growth-minded but cannot afford therapy, this is a lifesaver. I’ve worked on the issues of narcissistic abuse, codependency, and boundaries for the last four years. Now it is time for me to work on processing my emotions, as feeling my feelings was pretty much stamped out of me as a child. I am so excited to see where I will be at the end of this course! Thank you again from the bottom of my heart! Greetings from SoCal!
Emma, you are amazing! Thank you for providing us with free resources; these help tremendously. Keep fighting the good fight ❤️ We truly appreciate all your hard work.
JUST had an upsetting episode right before this and there you were... I felt angry, upset, and anxious to the point I cried and separated myself from the person that did it to me so I could calm myself down. You really helped me with your videos. Thank you!!!
You are so calm and little aggressive, really soothing.
God bless u for doing this series! Just watching this video alone has already given me so much hope & anticipation! Thank u so so so much 💖
This is amazing content. I work with emotional eaters and I do find that they have a hard time putting a name on a feeling or emotion. I"m going to share this video with my clients and encourage them to follow your suggestions for processing. Thanks for such great work Emma!
I agree 100% . Emma you are an ANGEL...SO GRATEFUL 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this Series. ♥ It helps me to know i can do something by myself from home besides therapy to help me getting better. Sometimes i feel so confused where to start and what i should work on and having literal numbers i can follow step by step gives me a feeling of security an control. Thank you ♥
Thank you so much for providing all these supportive videos! Xx
I'm looking forward to the next episode, just hearing Your voice is already a great therapy, thank you so much :))
There's just something about the way you describe things and the techniques that you're using that really resonate with me I'm glad that I stumbled on to this
This is so generous ! Thank you so much ❤️
From the bottom of my heart thank you so much. Your videos simply feel like a lifeline.
I love that phrase, "name it to tame it" and I think the ideas here are very helpful, thanks!
thanks Rachael
I'm soo grateful for you Mrs Emma! I thank almighty God that you make these types of videos.
You are amazing for doing this! Thank you for blessing us in this way!! 💚💜❤️🧡
This is so phenomenally powerful and helpful. Thank you for posting this playlist
I'm new to this channel but I'm already very thankful for you putting these courses out as well as making them free I'm already learning so much from you this is exactly what I needed to hear!!!
How wonderful that you have taken your time to help other people and post all these videos. ❤❤❤ thank you so much
Thank you so much for taking the time to do these very helpful videos. You are greatly appreciated. ❣
I too am so thankful that you are sharing your therapeutic knowledge onUA-cam for all to access. It is a blessing for me. I’ve learned more from watching a few of your videos than the years of counseling I’ve had. I started a notebook/journal to take notes from the great wisdom you so generously share!!!! Thank you!!!!!
I have been miserable and depressed for days. I had final’s for the last couple of weeks and just went full binge and depression mode. I felt like I couldn’t get out. I will tell you after watching just two videos I feel SO much better. Thank you❤️
Thank you for sharing.
I just discovered that I need to deal with my emotions. I have been emotionally detached for years and it has hindered me from living life in a healthy way mentally, physically and relationally.
I'm so grateful to the Lord for bringing me to this place in my life so I can learn and apply what I'm learning to become the person He intended for me to be.
I'm so grateful for this series. These are things I didn't learn growing up and I'm hoping to set my children up for a healthier mental state since I know they are going to have some major hurdles.
Thank you so very much for putting your videos out for free.
I'm hoping through watching your videos, I'm hoping to find out if I allow myself to cry, will I be able to stop.
I'm hoping through your videos to finally figure out a way to acknowledge stress panic and depression and find a way to cope with it.
Thank you again for helping so many people you're a blessing.🥰
Thank you for uploading this. I studied psychology but we were taught only the theories of emotions & other psychology topics but not how to process our own. I really needed this. Thank you
Thank you very much for all these videos. These are hard times in the world and I feel I’m more fragile and need to work on myself to get in a better mindset. People around me (home and work) are not their usual self and emotions are running high. The world needs more people like you. I’m from 🇨🇦
Hey Dr, i just wanted to send you my love and gratitude for all the work you do here on you tube, you have helped me understand so much and exorcise pretty heavy patterns that tormented me for long time. I love you and Hope God keeps Blessing you with wisdom and health and all that you deserve.
I tend to think that thoughts are emotions even though I am aware of the fact that they are not. I was aware for quite some time that I am rationalizing my emotions but only now do I feel like I actually understood how to name emotions properly. Only just starting with this, I feel like going to therapy hasn’t had enough “practical” things I can do like this video taught me. Wish me luck and I wish all of you luck and positive changes as well ❤
It takes a very special person to offer a course like this free. Beyond grateful! Thank you!
I'm using this to help me get out of my funk! 💖 You are now my official online therapist! God bless you for doing this!
Makes perfect sense. I stumbled upon a video featuring a guy who was going through the same thing as I am, and I immediately felt `OK, thank god I'm not the only one going through this....' Knowing or hearing of others experiencing what you are can be `reassuring' in a manner of speaking...
Thank you do much! You are so helpful. I probably read or heard many things you discussed but you have a wonderful way explaining that is easy to understand.🙏
Glad it was helpful!
This channel has been the answer to my prayers. God bless. ✝️❤️
Thank you a million times ober for this course... you are a life saver 😊
I love your videos 💖 navigating through the nhs feels impossible and never ending I keep relapsing sometimes it feels private is the only way but very expensive I can’t win . Your videos have helped me to help me my self and now I can’t wait to get started on this course 🙌🏻
I honestly just got benefit from watching your videos this morning. I Was stuck in anger, sadness, regret about my childhood, but I realize some treatment is generational and not intended. Thank you for everything, you are a lovely lovely person. You remind me of my daughter. By the way, I could not teach my children how to process their emotions because I never learned exactly, but I always allowed my children to be themselves, and I honored their existence. Thank you for everything.
Just wanted to say thankyou again because this course is so what I need
God bless you for sharing this and making it free! I'm already benefiting so much from taking notes. Best of luck everyone! Let's create a healing world!
I feel grateful! For having access to such a great resource at the tip of my fingers. Thank you so much, this is very helpful.
I'm happy i found this channel, i really needed it at this point in my life
Emma, your videos have been such a incredible help for me. Coming back to working as a psychologist/therapist after 20 years of working as a lawyer/in the corporate world... I felt out of depth working with clients again. Your videos have been such a help in both upskilling myself, giving me so many tools to use with my clients, as well as being able to explain concepts to clients. So thank you so much for sharing so generously 🙏❤️
You worked as lawyer for 20 years and become psychologist, you inspired me, because I am a practicing lawyer, I don't like my job, studying law was interesting but when come to practice it doesn't suits me. So after watching her vedio , I am interested in psychology and wanted to help people who are suffering. I am interested in becoming a therapist.
@@nima4719 one of my reasons was after reading The Tools by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels. In the book barry talks about how he was also a pretty successful lawyer and then he came to a place in his life where he was looking for significance, and he decided to go back to school to become a therapist. And how his life changed as a result of it.
You are amazing!! What a godsend this series is. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Thank you, i am so grateful for your generosity. This is life changing! .
Thank you for this series! 🥰
Stop. Ur gonna make me so healthy that I'll assend to heaven before my time lol!
I feel joy at making that funny :)
Thank you for providing these videos! I am grateful and learning so much!
Thank you so much for this incredible course. Finally, I can learn to process my emotion instead of bottling them up. At this moment, I'm very much in need of this course. I has been 3-4 yrs since I felt lasting peace within me.
This is so true! When I felt moody, sensitive, annoyed by the world, then looked at the calendar and realized, "oh! It's PMS. Okay. No big deal." It didn't change how I felt, but it changed the things I said to myself about it! And the things I chose to do--because rather than pushing it down or taking it out on anyone, I chose things to support myself in those circumstances. :-)
So well articulated. Thanks for breaking it down the behaviour and corresponding thought process. It makes things so clear understand
Thank you so much for making this course available for free.
You're very welcome!
I tend to overeat or just go to sleep to avoid overthinking. I feel frustrated, confused and overwhelmed. I believe that when I learn to process my emotions in a healthier way I will feel much more in control and take control of my life.
I needed this so much today! Thank you Emma.
Thank you for making these videos free for starving artist like me who can’t afford a therapist! Thank you so much! I love your personality too :)
Thank you so much for those videos that you do. It's so helpful ! it gives energy to stand up again, and to start working. I feel grateful right now !
This is awesome! I look forward to the rest of the series.
Totally awesome. Thank you!!! I'm so glad you explained the problem with the english language (it's not only English that has this problem, by the way), and that I shouldn't say that I AM my emotion. I will start paying daily attention to my emotions, and I'm so excited!
Thank you for making these and sharing them!
Wow. I've already had so many "aha moments" just from the intro vid and first 5 minutes of this video. Thank you for this series. 😌
I am so relieved to have found your UA-cam channel. Thank you 😌
Wow!! I feel grateful that I stumbled on this UA-cam video series. So helpful during these times! Thank you
thanks Rachel :)
Good job putting the "I feel" statement into practice already!
Thank you for sharing your expertise with us all. It has helped me and I'm grateful! ♥
In the past I'd resort to drinking to deal with my emotions and pain and it got me an addiction to alcohol. I am now two years sober, with the help of professionals. I have learned a lot about myself and how I respond to what I feel, but I am not there yet, I still have a lot to learn. I still tend to escape and avoid. Today I stumbled upon these video's of 'How to process your emotions' and I just want to say thank you!! I will be resorting to this and journaling to help me in my journey.
Por vos y Dr Tracey comenzaré a estudiar psicología. Gracias, sus canales son maravillos, son dos bellas personas.