hey guys! i thought i would leave a pinned comment on my thoughts since the final aired yesterday and i wrote and filmed this video two weeks beforehand. as you guys can probably guess, i was very disappointed that gemma and luca were the runners up, luca's behaviour (towards tasha and gemma) has been absolutely awful, but I also remember that a lot of Love Island viewers are young people who can't really recognise misogynistic behaviour and bullying, and Facebook mums who somehow think Luca is a nice guy. i was really glad to see dami treat the girls around him a lot better in the last couple of weeks, i want to make it clear that in no way did i think that dami was ever equal to luca when it came to picking on tasha (hence why i spoke about luca a lot more in this video than dami), i just wanted to clear that up incase anyone thinks that i think dami and luca equally bullied tasha, luca behaved FAR worse and did not make any improvements to his behaviour (if anything, his behaviour got worse!). also this video did get age restr*cted and dem*netised for around six hours yesterday, and although youtube took the age restr*ction off and m*netised it once i had appealed it, the damage has unfortunately already been done and this video is no longer being pushed or suggested the same way my other ones are, so i would really appreciate any likes and comments :) thank you for all of the ongoing support and love on my channel, jordan x
I always thought that Luca's behaviour with Gemma was a little possessive especially when he got mad at Gemma for talking to Gemma and got annoyed in a lot of the challenges. It just seems to be a thing that won't last in the real world as obviously Gemma is going to want live her own life away from him sometimes. Also how everyone dog piled on Tasha for no reason made me very sad but I did think it was cute how supportive Andrew was of her disability.
i wish gemma stood her ground more and said something like 'it's not my fault that he fancies me and thus took every gesture of mine as an invitation to father my children'
What’s makes it even dumber him thinking he has a chance is based on HIS THOUGHTS not a thing Gemma said - he just thought he was hot enough to interest her that was it🙄
the fact that the producers seem deadset on keeping luca in the show, despite all of his disgusting behaviour makes it so difficult to watch this year to be honest
The irony of Luca always criticizing Tasha for being so emotional, is that he is arguably the most emotional guy there. He is easily defensive, jealous, annoyed, quick to anger etc. He, like a lot of people only perceive emotions as just crying. Luca's issue with Tasha is bizarre. He projects a lot onto Andrew and his relationship with Tasha. Even very early on when Tasha was talking to Jacques when he first came in. Andrew said he didn't care but Luca was the one that kept pushing. Telling him that he should have a problem with Tasha, if he were him he would be mad and that Andrew is lying if he said he wasn't upset with her. Luca believes his feelings should be everyone else's feelings. If Andrew isn't upset with Tasha, then well he should be. If he wouldn't be upset about being in the bottom 3, then Tasha shouldn't be and she needs to stop crying. It's an odd pattern of behavior I've noticed.
Not to mention (spoilers for last nights episode) he threw a full fit about being seen as incompatible by other islanders, even after a couple who got votes from EVERYONE took it on the chin and moved on. all pissy about “who voted for us???” when it was everybody but tasha and andrew, who were also at risk because luca and gemma were the only ones to doubt them at this point (and who luca was absolutely giddy to see in the bottom with him). i don’t get why he was so fussed, he got what he came for, right? he found love???
Also he critiqued her for being upset about being in the bottom, then in the final week he grilled Dami & Indiyah for voting him in the bottom. He was super emotional, but he just expresses it in a different way. Tasha is sensitive and prone to crying, whereas he is short tempered and tends to get heated and argue.
I didn't realise a symptom of ADHD was misogyny?! I literally have ADHD, and wasn't diagnosed until I was 23, yes, it can make it hard to recognise emotions at times, my my god it doesn't make you a twat or mean you don't know to apologise to someone when you've hurt them.
Yeah, I have adhd and was diagnosed this year at 26, and I didn't know that a symptom was being a completely socially unaware, thinks-women-are-a-magical-unicorn-species dingbat 🤣 Guess I have a lot to learn still!
That was really weird, 1. ADHD doesn't mean your this misogynistic twat that can't read emotion and also doesn't know how to apologize when you have clearly hurt someone. 2. Even if it did, it's not an excuse, it's a reason. Mental health is and was never an excuse for destructive behavior. 3. There was soon much misinformation there half of the symptoms weren't even listed as symptoms in websites
yep. i'm glad he addressed that when he got out and owned up to his own problematic attitudes. (not caping for jacques by any means, but it was refreshing to see a solid apology & promise to reflect on his behaviour, rather than the usual blameshifting/'sorry you felt that way' type apology)
I keep thinking about how Tasha hasn't done anything nearly as bad as Toby from last season did and yet everyone loves Toby and hates Tasha?? Like what??
I actually really respected that Tasha was trying to take things slow and it was just so glaringly obvious that the guys were insecure / had bruised egos that she wasn’t willing to pine after them and throw herself at them like some girls in previous seasons. I found the girls to be so much more enjoyable this season and they seemed to have genuine care / friendships w each other, while the men, as always but especially this season, were intolerable
not only did the boys bully Tasha, they also bullied Ekin-Su for a good few weeks until it became clear that she wouldn't take it like Tasha (not saying either reaction is better but people just respond differently). This season has been so hard to watch not only for the bullying but also the horrible double standard - I really hope the producers take everyone's comments on board and take it forward for future series... I doubt they will though
Genuinely the scariest part of this all is the way that a lot of men agree with this behaviour. I work in an all male team at work apart from my manager and the boys who are age 19-27 are all like no Luca and Jacques are lads ahaha when I’ve been horrified. It got to the point where when I was expressing how disgusted I was and how I thought it was mysoginistic and I was faced with similar behaviour as seen on the show. Such as telling me I was being dramatic and that it’s just normal lad behaviour. It is terrifying that men in these years are so comfortable with borderline light incel culture and how the misogyny is just tapering into everyday life and non romantic relationships.
agreed and unfortunately I think the boys at your work are correct in saying it’s normal lad behaviour, but more so that it’s normalised behaviour. It’s scarier that this behaviour has become acceptable and commonplace and integrated even though it is misogynistic, shows how deep the patriarchy runs :( I hope things are ok at work
Watch them act surprised that more and more women now prefer to either divorce or stay single. Also the same type of men that would be crying about feminism and how it’s anti-men. If misandry and misogyny switched places, they would not survive.
Lol why mention the part about ur older bf at the end as if a man’s opinion validates it? Anyway older men are worst he prob is just scared of losing his young trophy so is going along w ur feminism lol
I totally agree about Luca’s school bully energy!! I’ve always disliked him from the start because he reminded me of boys you went to school with that thought they were hilarious, which is rich that he judges Tasha for how she feels about being in the bottom 3 times bc you just KNOW, like a little school boy, that being liked and the popular boy in the cohort is his complex!!
i felt sooo bad for the casa amor girls it was honestly so disgusting to see the boy used them to blow off some steam and fulfil the sexual urges they had and couldn't act on bc the og girls didn't want to...
and the casa girls were put in a position of having to just accept it so they could get into the main villa, the power imbalance was just terrifying to watch
I also think we need to talk about uncomfortable age gaps more. Like, Davide, a 27 year old man, chooses a 19 year old Gemma 🤢 I'm glad nothing really happened between them
@@sethuzothe6372 I think you mean Jacques not Luca. And Jordan said in the video that the timeline seems to suggest Gemma being 16/17 when they started dating so she wouldn't have been a minor in the UK (still gross though imo).
@@em_si legally, a minor is a person under 18 in the UK. But yes as you point out, being literally at the AOC doesn't make sexual advances from older people ok.
As someone with ADHD, the whole thing from Jaqcues family really pissed me off, there was a lot of misinformation spread around and people further damaging how adhd is perceived by society. I'm glad he's recognised where the problems lie and is taking responsibility.
The decision to bring Adam Collard back after his history felt extremely careless by the producers. They chose to bring someone back who had previously shown toxic, misogynistic, and even abusive behaviour while on the show in order to create more drama at the expense of the safety and mental health of the female contestants. Felt like safeguarding went out the window this season
and say what you will about paige, i feel for her as she'd already endured weeks of misogyny from jacques, only to get swept up by adam's undeniably powerful charm. i'm glad her mum expressed her concerns, and i'm glad she seems to have a good support system behind her
@@bogantellectual her mum was completely out of order "expressing her concerns" while telling her daughter that she preferred her with jacques, a man who treated her like shit on a near-constant basis. on top of her dad failing to show any reassurance, i don't think her support system is anywhere near as good as it should be
The fact that all of this was true *and* Adam barely even registers on the Richter scale for misogyny this season is the real proof of how bad this season is for misogynistic bullying- when *Adam Collard* is one of your “well-behaved boys”, you have a problem
but do you not think that people can change, adam hasn’t shown any misogynistic behaviour this season, and he’s recognised how wrong his behaviour was.
Luca was a walking red flag from day 1. The only reason he bullied Tasha was bc she rejected him for Andrew and his silly little ego couldn’t handle it. He was also the reason why Tasha and Andrew started falling out. He pushed this narrative that Tasha was some cheating harlot and eventually Andrew caved. Tbh I don’t think Andrew cared that much that Tasha wanted to get to know other islanders, especially since she was always very respectful about it. He only started getting upset bc Luca was pushing him to feel a certain way about it. Luca is defiantly one the worst male contestants to ever appear on the show.
Andrew made himself look like a fool and did so at her expense. Even when he was in the middle of being fed a narrative by the boys and she'd come see him to figure out what the dirty looks are about he'd still reassure her that he didn't have a problem w her getting to know newcomers... So you're right about him not caring that much until the guys got in his ear - or if he did he never shared that w her so idk why ppl thought she was acting when she seemed confused back then. The only reason the guys shook their heads at that recoupling was bc Andrew was puffing his chest talking about "i'm not a mug out there i'm not gonna be one in here" etc. all that just to still pick her. All it took - during these conversations but *especially* during Casa Amor - was enough people saying the same thing and he did things Tasha never did a 10th of. Yet she got more heat for actions that got misrepresented at best and they tried to retroactively use those actions to justify his. Dami had some gall, Luca was mad projecting and poorly so, and even the few comments by Jacques were out of pocket coming from him. I really really could keep going but you get it
After the way Luca approached Tasha while she's crying, I know he'd absolutely be the type to say to someone in a bad spot: "there's worse in the world, stop complaining"
Imo it’s not really fair to judge anyone on what goes on the villa. It’s not reality and it’s not an everyday situation. They’re locked in a villa with zero contact with the outside world and no idea what time it even is. I’m not condoning any behaviours btw, I’m just saying I think the public can be a little too quick to jump on their high horses and act like they’ve never done anything wrong before.
I've never watched it . The only time I watched it was when it was first ever aired with celebrities Callum best , Bianca Gascoigne etc ..and that was messy enough 🙄🤦♀️. But I don't have the patience for these love island series.
@@gemstar7286 as its gone on its kinda got more misogynist because the men use certain situations as "allowed to cheat" due to past seasons. Kind of like they're learning that bad behaviour is acceptable on the show
Liam has done serious damage to British reality TV. imagine being called out for cheating on national TV, winning and being able to date her afterwards
@@ikejohnshimbilinga5177 bruh literally not even what's happening bestie was excusing misogyny w adhd to be excused which is not oppression olympics also who tf still uses that term post the intellectual darkweb boom 😭😭
Love Island re-inforces my fear of "can I talk to this guy in a nice and friendly way? Or if I do, will he get the wrong idea and think I'm flirting and think I was leading him on if I tell him otherwise?"
Same I stopped watching around the Jacques, And Luca/Dami bullying Tash. There were some episodes where I’d finish it sobbing for the female population.
I don't understand why Love Island is still popular,I've never watched it . It looks like a load of rubbish 🗑️. Why don't they do something different for a change , and stop putting the same Barbie & ken dolls on the show. Why don't they put more mature adults past the age of 30 on who look more like average people .
I swear when Luca and dami would talk to Tasha I just wanted to be in there just to literally verbally DRESS THEM DOWN bc my girl was just crying trying to explain and prove her relationship to these IRRELEVANT boys who felt they were owed a place in another persons relationship
Honestly, I've loved Tasha the whole time. If you think you like someone, you need to get to know them. Her getting to know other people at the start, imo, shows that she is trying to actually get to know people, not just breeze through the villa. Luca making fun of her for being emotion is so rude, when he gets mad and storms off at every moment. Tasha has opened up about being bullied, so I could imagine that knowing people don't like her, could be upsetting. I understand why people used to not like her, but I also think that she was very much bullied by people in the villa (luca.) Also, having a cochlear implant can take a lot out of a person. There is a constant buzzing/humming noise and it is so hard to pick up on tone, so I can see how she gets tired and just starts to cry at the end of the day.
Luca is terrifying- I can't believe the producers are determined to keep him in and are not doing anything about the misogynist behaviour, misogyny isn't entertainment, even worse his sister running his instagram seems determined to defend him and act like it's editing and we're all bullies for calling him out, I hope when he gets out he gets a stern talking to and Gemma runs as soon as she realises we don't like him It's also interesting that the producers are trying so hard to make them seem like a popular couple, think he's in for a shock when he gets out and realises how many people aren't supportive of the relationship and the fact he got ofcom complaints
The fact that they tried to give Luca and Jacques favourable edits and they *still* look like POS is stunning tbh I don’t see him and Gemma lasting on the outside, I think her “my mum’ll have to approve” line was her giving herself an out. Then again, her family let her date a 20/21 year old when she was doing her A-levels so. maybe they don’t have the best radar lmao
i think one of the reasons why luca may bully tasha is because tasha actually decided not to couple up with him in the first week or so and decided to stay with andrew instead and to luca he felt a little bit embarrassed and possible emasculated by tasha not choosing him and he probably thought that he could get anybody he wanted but tasha followed her heart and this hurt him and so he felt that he needed to humilate her "as much" as she had to him, like you said highlighting his insecurities
As an Aussie who lived in the UK for a while, I have to say I was shocked by the way a lot of men behaved in relation to myself and my friends. I had never been touched or crowded out in a threatening way before I lived in the UK. I was actually most shocked by the fact that in all of these scenarios, the men involved were with friends and none of their friends, in any instance, pulled their friends up. Not even when I was being physically crowded and having my hair pulled (yes, really).
Yeah sadly when you get touched in the club people will say, "You went to a club, what did you expect?" And in my experience guys never hold their friends accountable :/ It's very rare. I definitely haven't heard about men in Australia being physically aggressive like this. But I have heard of the language being misogynistic, however. Like some Aussie women take issue with being called missus by their partner when he's just with his guy friends? And a lot of guys will crack jokes at the expense of a woman they don't know well but expect for it to be received positively because it's banter.
I'm spanish but lived in the UK for a long while, and dated English guys and these mysogynists double standards came as a strong shock to me because in my culture this behaviour is not as common. I remember a guy I was dating classifying girls he'd sleep with constantly as "easy", but then him being so "easy" himself that a girl he didn't know could straight kiss him and he would sleep with her. None of his mates ever labelled him as easy, but as a "fuckboy', but the girls were "easy". This annoyed the shit out of me tbf. Love your content Jordan 🔥
!! & even in the start when davide first entered the villa & had a chat w all the girls, it showed him speaking to 3 of them & not indiyah or amber. throughout this show it shows poc girls to be ‘2nd choice islanders’ in a way & not even in the competition w the others idk
@@mx9416 i also found it weird that the black people were almost always coupled up with other black people, amber/dami and indiyah/ikenna at the start and even in casa indiyah and dami coupled up with deji and summer
I think, as a suicide attempt survivor, any time someone tells me to #BeKind when I've correctly identified emotionally abusive behaviour in a public figure, I have the right to tell them to fuck off.
I think the be kind thing controversy you were talking about can be clearly shown with Hugo Hammond, a lot of people are telling victims not to come out about how he’s treated them because it’s affecting his mental health, however he never thought about his victims mental health when he was treating them how he did
If we "be kind" to everyone constantly, how are we supposed to call out gross behaviour? How are people supposed to be accountable for THEIR own behaviour. It's such a cop out.
It's so funny how men with huge egos take pride in being "tough" and "thick skinned" yet constantly whine about women not handing them everything they want and fall apart at any criticisms. Own your crappy behavior, sincerely apologize, then you have a right to complain about people being mean on the internet (aside from threats, those are never okay). The patriarchy is eating itself.
I’ve seen so many people claim that Luca’s been given a “bad edit” and that’s there is 23 more hours in a day that we don’t see of him. This may be true, and I can’t claim to know much about how TV editing works, but the way I see it, the fact that Luca has demonstrated misogynistic behaviour wouldn’t change by seeing more of him. We have seen the way he has spoken to Tasha and Gemma, and unless the producers are literally editing his words, that is enough for me to see evidence of misogyny. Yes maybe he has some more likeable traits that have been edited out, but the bottom line is he has still demonstrated misogyny and bullying. We have seen it for ourselves. I’m sick of the UK public denying or supporting misogyny. It’s a bit of a different example but it reminds of how in Strictly, confident young women are always voted the least, even when they are incredibly good at dancing (see: Maisie Smith, Alexandra Burke, etc) whilst men that have half their ability are never in the bottom two.
The “we only see 1 hour” argument actually goes against these people’s points - the producers were so strapped for material that made him look like a decent guy that they had to leave in the red flags which they thought might be the least objectionable.
Interesting! I have a severely ADHD friend and he has been taught as an adult how to treat women. Sadly, he didn't learn or know there was any other way to exist until he was taught by being 'cancelled' by our small community. Hope that one day subtle sexism and Man's historical power over women will be taught in schools. Sucks that so many men do not know and won't know unless they get a huge wake up call!
@@venusindior2787 it's a myth that men don't know. They know and they don't care. Their disrespectful behaviour towards women is calculated and premeditated
honestly the fact that the producers picked that meaningless clip with billy and gemma just shows that theyre using the insecurity and lack of masculinity amongst the boys for arguments and food for the viewer
I absolutely hate the movie night episode. Hated it last year and hated it this year. It just seems so lazy that the producers have to force drama by manipulating certain situations and showing contestants videos with little to no context. I didn’t fully understand why Luca was fuming at Gemma since she didn’t actually do anything wrong, but at the same time I can understand that he feels insecure either a new partner and he’s being shown videos with no context. We’ve all been insecure about something or someone before, the difference is we didn’t have 30 cameras following our every move while being locked in a villa with no contact with anyone besides the people you live with.
I have never seen such group of glaring red flags til this season. Every male contestant was soo deeply misogynistic that I genuinely don't care who wins. Not a single episode went by where I didn't scream out that all the women should just run!
this is why i’ve never watched love island and never will. it’s truly a representation of some of the worst types of people in the U.K. (aka rich people, influencers, image obsessed, silver spoons etc) i choose not to be around them irl, why on earth would i want to watch footage of them for fun?
One of the big issues with love Island this year for me is how evident it is that the producers have had WAAYYY too much involvement. The show is evidently becoming more of a badly scripted drama series, as opposed to the fun reality show it used to be. The producers seem dead set on forcing certain “moments” instead of just letting them play out naturally. One moment that stood out for me is when Dami recoupled after Casa and said “summer isn’t over, it’s just begun”….you could immediately tell that line had came straight out of a meeting room somewhere and they probably filmed it like 6 times before they were happy with it. Another one that stood out was the weird recouplings from Casa. Dami, Indiyah, (maybe Tasha & Andrew). All seemingly in compatible couples in the villa but all randomly deciding to recouple, only to show virtually no interest in their new partners when they get back to the villa, and then return to their pre-casa couples. Almost as if the decision to recouple weren’t entirely theirs.
Agreed. + The separate boys and girls chat they have every morning where they talk about how slept, if any of them had any sexual activity through the night and then what they're gonna spend the next day doing is so obviously forced. + The public (aside from last night) never actually getting to chose which couple gets sent home. The public vote for who's in the bottom 2/3 but the couple who actually gets dumped is always left to the other islanders. The producers knows the islanders are just gonna choose to save the couple who's been on the show the longest because they're closer mates. It's obvious and boring.
She had a really good video about love island and the earlier seasons and how it was much more unfiltered but also worse for the contestants and their mental health and how the previous contestants and host killed themselves and all the like dark side stuff of it, i think thats why its more scripted
Just started but your analysis as always is 👩🍳💋! Love island is problematic in its own complicated way. This season has really proved how vicious the public is when given drama, while simultaneously being angered at episodes with no drama. There is no way to please audiences, which can be frustrating for producers
I have ADHD and struggle so much with public figures blaming their bad behaviour on having it. There’s a difference between struggling to regulate emotions and just being a bit of a shit person
honestly i disliked luca from episode one when his first comments to paige were about sex positions. it gave me red flags because he's just met her, why is he instantly asking her sexual things? a part of me also wonders if one of the reasons luca hates tasha so much is because she rejected him in favor of andrew in the first week (injuring his massively inflated ego, esp since it seems like he thinks andrew is the weak link of the boys). i definitely agree that he only picks on the people he thinks won't fight back, very icky behavior. he's been very hard to watch.
I don't want to dismiss the value of this video by saying this: but I love hearing you talk about the love island drama in the beginning SO MUCH! I feel like I'm hearing all the good high school drama from my big sister!
The movie night was so horrible to watch. The switch in attitudes the boys displayed between their clips and the girls was extremely uncomfortable as a viewer. I am sure Luca was asked to apologise to Tasha after, and I wouldn't call Dami's monologue an apology as he basically told Tasha she shouldn't be upset cause he didn't want her to be upset...couldn't even must a sorry. Dami's reaction to Summer standing up for herself was terrible, and Jacques' outburst at Paige (where Billy stayed to try keep him cool) was horrible too. The season has been ruined by the imposing behaviour these boys have displayed throughout, and I hope young girls watching recognise these are not actions to put up with.
i love how the producers solution to all people mad about the misogyny we’re seeing is by forcing the men to start doing shit for the girls LMFAO no way they just out of nowhere had the idea to start pampering these girls with massages, spa days, special brunches… 💀
I have to disagree with what was said at 15:09, it is outright misogynistic, just the more covert benevolent sexism that fuels it. Yes, some people may prefer having partners that are quieter; however, based on Jacques hostile sexism throughout his stay it makes sense that the more insidious benevolent sexism would come out when he said he liked her more because she’s “quieter”.
I always thought he preferred Cheyanne over Mollie because Cheyenne’s seemingly more quiet demure is an opportunity for Jacques to manipulate. In his eyes, Mollie is perceived as a girl who would talk back to him and not take any of his crap, whereas Cheyanne wouldn’t talk back and let him get away with his behaviour. I’m not saying Cheyanne is actually like this because we didn’t see much of her, but that’s how I interpreted Jacques’ attitude towards Mollie and Cheyanne
i loved gemma she was so much more mature than the other islanders despite being the youngest and her confidence to shut down ppl she wanted nothing to do with him
i'm not from the UK or watch love island, so the lack of introduction to the contestants (with pictures/videos of them) made this a hard video to follow (because it was a lot of names listed and then maybe a few clips). its a very interesting subject and you do tell it very well! i just needed more visual guidance. :)
me too it feels like when your sibling comes back from college and is telling you all the drama but you literally don't know anything or anyone they're talking about😭
@@jordanatheresa i have the same problem but honestly even just a flow chart of who's coupling up with who while you're saying it would've been massively helpful!!
Let's not forget how the boys were laughing after seeing coco and tasha crying and obviously feeling so upset because of andrew, and the fact that he kept feeding them lies and bs all time. They ( the boys) even defended andrew and kept excusing his behavior. but would always call a girl " fake" for just TALKING to another boy.. like the double standards actually made me sick.
Watching the family episode it is clear to me more than ever that the producers stepped in with Luca and Dami. Luca straight up asked his parents about his behaviour with Tash. Clearly sees this as a defining moment of his season.
So I watched this season while it was airing but I’m just watching this video for the first time, and it’s bringing back all the memories of how upset the mistreatment of Tasha made me!! As someone who struggles with vulnerability and committing, I related a lot with Tasha in the beginning of the season. She received so much hate for simply not catching real feelings for Andrew as quickly as he did for her. It seemed so unfair to me!! Tasha stan for life!!
I have been watching this season of love island and have found it increasingly triggering to watch to be honest. I just finished my first year at uni, and got into a friendship group that was 5 men and 3 women (myself included). At first everything was great, but things started slipping slowly, with one guy in particular constantly criticising and demonising me and my female friends for our actions under the guise of sticking up for his 'boys'. My friend was evil for kissing someone who wasn't her boyfriend after he got her blackout drunk and initiated it. Most especially, two of our friends are dating, and when men hit on the girl in that relationship she is placed to be at fault for wearing revealing clothing/ 'being flirty' even though the idea of disloyalty clearly makes her super uncomfortable. My experience of being targeted by this misogynistic bullying has been slightly different as I am not dating within my friendship group, but it's definitely still there. I get shut down and talked over in conversations with them, and when I took issue with the ringleader referring to potential girlfriends in an objectifying way I was apparently being sensitive and not getting the joke. They antagonised me for a friends sexual assault regardless of the fact I was sexually assulted by the same man and had no idea what was happening until the day after. They call me out for being in a society that has 'problematic' people (not really, and I don't agree or condone these people's opinions), and then take part in toxic rugby and lad culture excusing the bigotry of their own friends. And when I have tried to talk to the less culpable men they push the narrative that I'm sensitive and overreacting. Unfortunately I'm the only girl in our group that seems to be bothered to call them out, henceforth I am the target. What love island had made me realise is that although I have recently swept my own friends behaviour under the rug, I and my female friends deserve better. Seeing the targeting that people like tasha and ekin especially go through makes me angry because I understand how it feels to be ganged up on by toxic bullying men. I think that the issue is that men live in an echo chamber; the 'good' ones never hold their fellows accountable, and the bad ones only look for judgement from each other. In order to create a better environment for women we need to actively show in media and just generally that this aggravated misogyny is not something to be accepted.
another manipulation from Jax was when he wrote that message, it was soooo manipulative to write a 'love letter' to keep a lady that you've purposefully mistreated
The fact that I didn’t question the way the boys were acting towards the girls until others pointed it out makes me realise how accepted it is by society, thank you for the awesome vid, always love when you bring a new one out! Xx
Bringing it back to the lack of friendships this season, I really felt this whenever Luca, Dami or Jacques would act terribly in front of the girls they coupled up with. Gemma and Tasha are 'great friends' and yet Gemma would sit by while Luca was awful to her? In no way is his behaviour her responsibility, but I would have loved for the other girls to hold them accountable for their actions. Even when Dami called Summer fake and told her to shut up, Indiyah just laid on the daybed next to him like it was nothing... I'm not sure if it's different in the UK compared to Australia, but I really felt like there was no solidarity between the women when it came to calling out toxic behaviour
i have a theory that the reason why luca hates tasha so much is because she literally pied him in the first week. he started grafting to tasha first before gemma and when she chose andrew he's been so salty to her ever since. Its obvious hes just bitter and jealous
I also think it's hypocritical how Luca picks on Tasha for being upset about being in the bottom of the public vote, while he himself got very angry later on when the other islanders voted for him and Gemma as one of the least compatible couples
As someone who had to make the decision to stop watching Love Island, specifically because of Dami and Luca (specifically Luca’s) behaviour and how triggering it was for me, I hope that both sides of their pillows are always warm and that their spoons always bend when they eat ice cream ☺️
The villain edit paige is getting is also so garbage. The amount of hate she got for being mistreated by Jacques and taking him back when eventually all the girls did the same is crazy.
She is the one who is playing the “pick me girl” too. I hated the way she got so much hate for being mistreated by Jacques but it was revealed that she treated other girls shitty. That’s fucked up:( ps: all the girls deserve better than these dirty boys but Paige is not the nicest person.
@@roccobogi154 The thing is, all those girls said when they left the villa they were friends with Paige. Coco only heard some stuff second hand and never said Paige bullied her and Nathalia brought up a comment (which in my opinion didn’t sound mean) that she thought could possibly be passive aggressive from Paige’s side since she left the island and seen all the comments about her. A lot of the same girls think Luca didn’t bully Tasha and are defending him 🤷🏻♀️
@@treasanealon6141 Islanders usually close ranks when they come out - they know that the best PR move for them to come out looking (vaguely) classy is to keep everything as private as possible, otherwise they’ll just look like clout chasers. Paige was quite rude to and about Danica/Nathalia, which we were able to see on screen, and she’s generally been a bit “eye-rolly” at Ekin-Su and at other girls at various points. That said, Paige also gets a massive and very disproportionate amount of hate, specifically because she *didn’t* either take Jacques back “properly” or leave when he left.
21:23 'For reference Billy is the man dressed up as a wetherspoon plate.' AHH this made me almost spit my drink out laughing. Love Island as a show relies on heteronormativity and in the UK that often means lad culture/ chasing birds I.e. women and seeing them as trophies. :(
there is such a hypocritical part to the be kind movement. it only ever extends to toxic people on the show, and people that say it will gladly make a post on a forum saying how much that they dislike a contestant.
As much as I enjoyed aspects of this season (particularly Ekinde and Tandrew) I can’t shift the feeling of frustration I have due to all the misogyny never being called out by the girls in the villa. I was constantly yearning for the girls to call out the boys, have each other’s backs and give the boys a thorough dressing down over their behaviour and it just never happened! I would be yelling at my screen like “are you mad? You deserve better than this shitty treatment from him!” And I can’t help feeling like these boys just got to shit on the girls and then walk away with zero consequences and it’s left me fuming. Also as a fellow fringe girl I understand the struggle but don’t worry you look gorgeous!
Another aspect of the whole bekind situation which a lot of people for some reason are not realising is the fact that in the end of the day these people are fully grown adults who have chosen to put themselves in the harsh spotlight of media, fully aware of the consequences that will arise from it. If you know you have bad mental health and that critisism for your own actions will cause a further dent in it, be kind to yourself and avoid finding love on a bloody tv show where you will be forced to face words and abuse from people online. If you aren't adult enough to realise that the internet is a cruel place with every type of opinion from all across the country, then you aren't adult enough to be blasted right into the middle of it all. It's sad how I realise this and am younger than all the contestants on the show AND I have ADHD which makes it even better 😭
I've reallt struggled to get back into Love Island after this season, and I didn't realise why until you talked about how hard it was to get through the Love Island omnibus. I think this season burned me out on Love Island 'cause it was so hard to see these beautiful, smart, accomplished women be treated so horribly. They''d call out the guys' behaviour and the guys would just gang up on them
My thing was always that how Luca treated Tasha and everyone else and how happy he got when they were upset should be a signal to Gemma that if they ever have a conflict he will treat her the exact same way. I like the giant smile on his face when something upset someone was disgusting. She hast to know that if that's the kind of person he is he'll treat her the exact same way
You and your bf doing the Love Island ad is pure poetry 👌 ✨️ (I don't watch LI but have been following the commentary on misogyny and very here for your take.)
I've never tuned into Love Island and it's purely because I hate promoting 'disposable relationships' and horrendous behaviour. I find it so wrong so I'm excited to hear all your thoughts about this haha
The fact that this behaviour is so normalised and what we "should expect" when dating is concerning. A lot of people model this behaviour without realising.
@@scienceplease6845 Helps what? I just wanted to add to your comment 😅 I’m a woman myself, and this is also one of the reasons why I decided to stay single. So I’m perfectly aware of why other women do that too haha
Have I watched this season of Love Island? No. Have I finished any season of Love Island? No. Am I watching this video and getting extremely invested in people I've never heard of? Absolutely.
Ive been eating UPPPPP the love island video essays and im not even britsh😭😭 broey deschanel also has an amazing video essay on love island and the psicology behind surveilled flirtation that i highly highly recommend!!
George, the boy who shared a bed w Ekin Su in Casa, actually came out and said that nothing actually happened in bed and that it was just the producers trying to make some drama.
am absolutely living for this love island analysis as a fellow brit, and side note that’s not a messy fringe you look fit as you always do ??? not fair
living in ireland, so many young guys act like this. completely disrespect women and their girlfriends but get so in their feelings whenever they feel slighted in any way.
Honestly davide is worse than luca and dami but nobody ever calls him out. He gets away with murder bc funny italian man. The way he treats his girlfriend is AWFUL and he's just as shitty to the other girls
Wait, what did he do? I only watch this show through commentary channels, and besides going for 19 y.o he didn’t seem too bad (toxic obviously, but nothing extreme for that show)
I really don't think Davide is worse than Luca and Dami, like he just says that he doesn't really trust Ekin-Su which is reasonable based on the way their situation has played out. He definitely hasn't stuck his nose in other people's business and bullied people the way Luca has
Nah I fully disagree I don't see how Davide could be conceived as worse than Luca? He got angry once/twice but quite justifiably the way Ekin was, but I think they were the strongest couple for most the season.
I’m literally 2 minutes in right now while on the treadmill and I can’t get over how good your hair color looks on you. You’re hair color evolution is chef’s kiss bb
didn’t luca’s head turn for ekin-su? I remember him making constant sexual remarks about her to the other boys and in the confession room/beach hut. Probably why he hated her so much when she rejected him 😭
I'm just surprised that people even expected better from the producers and the show. The entire show itself is based on toxic relationships, misogyny and insecurity. I understand going into this show knowing it's going to be a dumpster fire but actually holding the creators to any form of standard is insane! Great job on the video btw, super interesting!
i feel like both young male and female friend groups have this mentality of putting each other first and sticking up for each other as a way to avoid the vulnerabilities that come with relationships. however, when they meet an s/o they care for, girls usually drop this type of thinking and focus on their partner while the boys still cling to their friends' validation.
I dont watch love island at all (like not even once) but this was so entertaining to watch. The way you said “now that I’ve given you a back story” with hope, even-though i forgot everything about it in 0.2 milliseconds was HELLA FUNNY
hey guys! i thought i would leave a pinned comment on my thoughts since the final aired yesterday and i wrote and filmed this video two weeks beforehand.
as you guys can probably guess, i was very disappointed that gemma and luca were the runners up, luca's behaviour (towards tasha and gemma) has been absolutely awful, but I also remember that a lot of Love Island viewers are young people who can't really recognise misogynistic behaviour and bullying, and Facebook mums who somehow think Luca is a nice guy.
i was really glad to see dami treat the girls around him a lot better in the last couple of weeks, i want to make it clear that in no way did i think that dami was ever equal to luca when it came to picking on tasha (hence why i spoke about luca a lot more in this video than dami), i just wanted to clear that up incase anyone thinks that i think dami and luca equally bullied tasha, luca behaved FAR worse and did not make any improvements to his behaviour (if anything, his behaviour got worse!).
also this video did get age restr*cted and dem*netised for around six hours yesterday, and although youtube took the age restr*ction off and m*netised it once i had appealed it, the damage has unfortunately already been done and this video is no longer being pushed or suggested the same way my other ones are, so i would really appreciate any likes and comments :)
thank you for all of the ongoing support and love on my channel,
jordan x
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I always thought that Luca's behaviour with Gemma was a little possessive especially when he got mad at Gemma for talking to Gemma and got annoyed in a lot of the challenges. It just seems to be a thing that won't last in the real world as obviously Gemma is going to want live her own life away from him sometimes. Also how everyone dog piled on Tasha for no reason made me very sad but I did think it was cute how supportive Andrew was of her disability.
the gemma and billy situation was the definition of "not flirting, she's literally just pretty and talking"
omg this
oh absolutely
i wish gemma stood her ground more and said something like 'it's not my fault that he fancies me and thus took every gesture of mine as an invitation to father my children'
exactly oh my god
Yeah, I don’t know what he expects Gemma to do. Being nice and gently letting a guy know you’re not interested is always the best way.
"you don't try unless you think you've got a chance" literally the other day a man on the tube kept asking for my number after I told him I was gay
(for the record, I said "I like women" and omitted that I also like guys but HE DIDN'T KNOW THAT!)
Tara, nooo!
What’s makes it even dumber him thinking he has a chance is based on HIS THOUGHTS not a thing Gemma said - he just thought he was hot enough to interest her that was it🙄
I couldn’t count on both hands the number of men who have kept trying after I repeatedly told them no
THIS!! Men will deffo try even if you’ve rejected them multiple times
ok but Luca is a prime example of "men getting away with calling women Too Emotional by successfully rebranding anger as Not An Emotion"
the fact that the producers seem deadset on keeping luca in the show, despite all of his disgusting behaviour makes it so difficult to watch this year to be honest
So true, he brings nothing positive to the villa at all
the producers probably try to one up each other who’s the most vile person they can bring into the show
Ikr, I was literally screaming at the TV tonight ☹
they literally keep bending the rules to keep him in idgi !!!!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
The irony of Luca always criticizing Tasha for being so emotional, is that he is arguably the most emotional guy there. He is easily defensive, jealous, annoyed, quick to anger etc. He, like a lot of people only perceive emotions as just crying.
Luca's issue with Tasha is bizarre. He projects a lot onto Andrew and his relationship with Tasha. Even very early on when Tasha was talking to Jacques when he first came in. Andrew said he didn't care but Luca was the one that kept pushing. Telling him that he should have a problem with Tasha, if he were him he would be mad and that Andrew is lying if he said he wasn't upset with her. Luca believes his feelings should be everyone else's feelings. If Andrew isn't upset with Tasha, then well he should be. If he wouldn't be upset about being in the bottom 3, then Tasha shouldn't be and she needs to stop crying. It's an odd pattern of behavior I've noticed.
so TRUE !!!! he is easily the most emotionally unstable person in there
he is such a bully i cant stand him
Not to mention (spoilers for last nights episode) he threw a full fit about being seen as incompatible by other islanders, even after a couple who got votes from EVERYONE took it on the chin and moved on. all pissy about “who voted for us???” when it was everybody but tasha and andrew, who were also at risk because luca and gemma were the only ones to doubt them at this point (and who luca was absolutely giddy to see in the bottom with him). i don’t get why he was so fussed, he got what he came for, right? he found love???
exactly !! he is so strange
Also he critiqued her for being upset about being in the bottom, then in the final week he grilled Dami & Indiyah for voting him in the bottom. He was super emotional, but he just expresses it in a different way. Tasha is sensitive and prone to crying, whereas he is short tempered and tends to get heated and argue.
i think that a reason luca hates tasha is because she chose andrew over him at the start and his ego couldnt take it.
also she is vulnerable
I didn't realise a symptom of ADHD was misogyny?! I literally have ADHD, and wasn't diagnosed until I was 23, yes, it can make it hard to recognise emotions at times, my my god it doesn't make you a twat or mean you don't know to apologise to someone when you've hurt them.
Yeah, I have adhd and was diagnosed this year at 26, and I didn't know that a symptom was being a completely socially unaware, thinks-women-are-a-magical-unicorn-species dingbat 🤣 Guess I have a lot to learn still!
The way his family cited “lack of empathy” being part of ADHD is so so damaging honestly
That was really weird, 1. ADHD doesn't mean your this misogynistic twat that can't read emotion and also doesn't know how to apologize when you have clearly hurt someone. 2. Even if it did, it's not an excuse, it's a reason. Mental health is and was never an excuse for destructive behavior. 3. There was soon much misinformation there half of the symptoms weren't even listed as symptoms in websites
this is the thing. surely something like adhd would only heighten something that was already there!
yep. i'm glad he addressed that when he got out and owned up to his own problematic attitudes. (not caping for jacques by any means, but it was refreshing to see a solid apology & promise to reflect on his behaviour, rather than the usual blameshifting/'sorry you felt that way' type apology)
Tasha didn't do anything half as bad the whole season as the boys did in Casa Amor alone 😂
I keep thinking about how Tasha hasn't done anything nearly as bad as Toby from last season did and yet everyone loves Toby and hates Tasha?? Like what??
I actually really respected that Tasha was trying to take things slow and it was just so glaringly obvious that the guys were insecure / had bruised egos that she wasn’t willing to pine after them and throw herself at them like some girls in previous seasons. I found the girls to be so much more enjoyable this season and they seemed to have genuine care / friendships w each other, while the men, as always but especially this season, were intolerable
@@charlotte-hills I didn't think about that!! Toby and Chloe even managed to come second!!
she literally JUST had conversations like holy shit
not only did the boys bully Tasha, they also bullied Ekin-Su for a good few weeks until it became clear that she wouldn't take it like Tasha (not saying either reaction is better but people just respond differently). This season has been so hard to watch not only for the bullying but also the horrible double standard - I really hope the producers take everyone's comments on board and take it forward for future series... I doubt they will though
Let's not forget the way Luca treated Danica like she had a disease
Genuinely the scariest part of this all is the way that a lot of men agree with this behaviour. I work in an all male team at work apart from my manager and the boys who are age 19-27 are all like no Luca and Jacques are lads ahaha when I’ve been horrified. It got to the point where when I was expressing how disgusted I was and how I thought it was mysoginistic and I was faced with similar behaviour as seen on the show. Such as telling me I was being dramatic and that it’s just normal lad behaviour. It is terrifying that men in these years are so comfortable with borderline light incel culture and how the misogyny is just tapering into everyday life and non romantic relationships.
agreed and unfortunately I think the boys at your work are correct in saying it’s normal lad behaviour, but more so that it’s normalised behaviour. It’s scarier that this behaviour has become acceptable and commonplace and integrated even though it is misogynistic, shows how deep the patriarchy runs :( I hope things are ok at work
Watch them act surprised that more and more women now prefer to either divorce or stay single.
Also the same type of men that would be crying about feminism and how it’s anti-men. If misandry and misogyny switched places, they would not survive.
they stupid and we girls need to cancel them! :Dd
Lol why mention the part about ur older bf at the end as if a man’s opinion validates it? Anyway older men are worst he prob is just scared of losing his young trophy so is going along w ur feminism lol
exactly !! sm guys adore these men which is so odd
I totally agree about Luca’s school bully energy!! I’ve always disliked him from the start because he reminded me of boys you went to school with that thought they were hilarious, which is rich that he judges Tasha for how she feels about being in the bottom 3 times bc you just KNOW, like a little school boy, that being liked and the popular boy in the cohort is his complex!!
wasn't he exposed for being a school bully 😳
@@zharak843 omg was he!
@@alexcarlson4344 yeah on tiktok he made the girl so miserable she left school :(
Also so typical that Tasha having disability is jot supported by Luca aka bully thanks for talking about this girls means a lot
He gives off a vibe that he would call people slurs at the back of the school bus in year 11 😬😭😭
i felt sooo bad for the casa amor girls it was honestly so disgusting to see the boy used them to blow off some steam and fulfil the sexual urges they had and couldn't act on bc the og girls didn't want to...
and the casa girls were put in a position of having to just accept it so they could get into the main villa, the power imbalance was just terrifying to watch
Yikes on trikes!
Same
I also think we need to talk about uncomfortable age gaps more. Like, Davide, a 27 year old man, chooses a 19 year old Gemma 🤢 I'm glad nothing really happened between them
i think luca dated gemma while she was a minor
yess makes me very uncomfortable
@@sethuzothe6372 I think you mean Jacques not Luca. And Jordan said in the video that the timeline seems to suggest Gemma being 16/17 when they started dating so she wouldn't have been a minor in the UK (still gross though imo).
like WHAT was that 😭
@@em_si legally, a minor is a person under 18 in the UK. But yes as you point out, being literally at the AOC doesn't make sexual advances from older people ok.
As someone with ADHD, the whole thing from Jaqcues family really pissed me off, there was a lot of misinformation spread around and people further damaging how adhd is perceived by society. I'm glad he's recognised where the problems lie and is taking responsibility.
yes i think he did the right thing for sure
ngl I do respect Jacques for saying it's not an excuse. Most people would say it is.
The decision to bring Adam Collard back after his history felt extremely careless by the producers. They chose to bring someone back who had previously shown toxic, misogynistic, and even abusive behaviour while on the show in order to create more drama at the expense of the safety and mental health of the female contestants. Felt like safeguarding went out the window this season
deffo
and say what you will about paige, i feel for her as she'd already endured weeks of misogyny from jacques, only to get swept up by adam's undeniably powerful charm. i'm glad her mum expressed her concerns, and i'm glad she seems to have a good support system behind her
@@bogantellectual her mum was completely out of order "expressing her concerns" while telling her daughter that she preferred her with jacques, a man who treated her like shit on a near-constant basis. on top of her dad failing to show any reassurance, i don't think her support system is anywhere near as good as it should be
The fact that all of this was true *and* Adam barely even registers on the Richter scale for misogyny this season is the real proof of how bad this season is for misogynistic bullying- when *Adam Collard* is one of your “well-behaved boys”, you have a problem
but do you not think that people can change, adam hasn’t shown any misogynistic behaviour this season, and he’s recognised how wrong his behaviour was.
Luca was a walking red flag from day 1. The only reason he bullied Tasha was bc she rejected him for Andrew and his silly little ego couldn’t handle it. He was also the reason why Tasha and Andrew started falling out. He pushed this narrative that Tasha was some cheating harlot and eventually Andrew caved. Tbh I don’t think Andrew cared that much that Tasha wanted to get to know other islanders, especially since she was always very respectful about it. He only started getting upset bc Luca was pushing him to feel a certain way about it. Luca is defiantly one the worst male contestants to ever appear on the show.
exactly
Andrew made himself look like a fool and did so at her expense. Even when he was in the middle of being fed a narrative by the boys and she'd come see him to figure out what the dirty looks are about he'd still reassure her that he didn't have a problem w her getting to know newcomers... So you're right about him not caring that much until the guys got in his ear - or if he did he never shared that w her so idk why ppl thought she was acting when she seemed confused back then. The only reason the guys shook their heads at that recoupling was bc Andrew was puffing his chest talking about "i'm not a mug out there i'm not gonna be one in here" etc. all that just to still pick her. All it took - during these conversations but *especially* during Casa Amor - was enough people saying the same thing and he did things Tasha never did a 10th of. Yet she got more heat for actions that got misrepresented at best and they tried to retroactively use those actions to justify his. Dami had some gall, Luca was mad projecting and poorly so, and even the few comments by Jacques were out of pocket coming from him. I really really could keep going but you get it
After the way Luca approached Tasha while she's crying, I know he'd absolutely be the type to say to someone in a bad spot: "there's worse in the world, stop complaining"
Imo it’s not really fair to judge anyone on what goes on the villa. It’s not reality and it’s not an everyday situation. They’re locked in a villa with zero contact with the outside world and no idea what time it even is.
I’m not condoning any behaviours btw, I’m just saying I think the public can be a little too quick to jump on their high horses and act like they’ve never done anything wrong before.
I watch so many reality shows and honestly love island is a special brand of misogyny.
I've never watched it . The only time I watched it was when it was first ever aired with celebrities Callum best , Bianca Gascoigne etc ..and that was messy enough 🙄🤦♀️. But I don't have the patience for these love island series.
@@gemstar7286 as its gone on its kinda got more misogynist because the men use certain situations as "allowed to cheat" due to past seasons. Kind of like they're learning that bad behaviour is acceptable on the show
Liam has done serious damage to British reality TV. imagine being called out for cheating on national TV, winning and being able to date her afterwards
I agree
As someone with ADHD it doesn’t make you a misogynist 💀
I was diagnosed in 5th grade and I hate the fact that people are using the mental illness to excuse misogyny? Like leave us alone plz
You can be smart enough to become aware of the emotional state of others that you are causing them
Oppression Olympics😂😂😂
@@ikejohnshimbilinga5177 bruh literally not even what's happening bestie was excusing misogyny w adhd to be excused which is not oppression olympics also who tf still uses that term post the intellectual darkweb boom 😭😭
Love Island re-inforces my fear of "can I talk to this guy in a nice and friendly way? Or if I do, will he get the wrong idea and think I'm flirting and think I was leading him on if I tell him otherwise?"
I have the same problem, when I approach guys, will they think 'is she trying to come onto me'.
@@icravedeath.1200
Why would you approach a man to talk unless it’s flirting, 99.9999% of guys don’t talk to girls they don’t want to sleep with
I stopped watching this season even though i was obsessed with it. It's so painful to watch the girls get mistreated and bullied constantly
Same I stopped watching around the Jacques, And Luca/Dami bullying Tash. There were some episodes where I’d finish it sobbing for the female population.
Same!!!
i literally got angrier every episode
I don't understand why Love Island is still popular,I've never watched it . It looks like a load of rubbish 🗑️. Why don't they do something different for a change , and stop putting the same Barbie & ken dolls on the show. Why don't they put more mature adults past the age of 30 on who look more like average people .
I swear when Luca and dami would talk to Tasha I just wanted to be in there just to literally verbally DRESS THEM DOWN bc my girl was just crying trying to explain and prove her relationship to these IRRELEVANT boys who felt they were owed a place in another persons relationship
Ikr its so horrible how tasha was treated
Honestly, I've loved Tasha the whole time. If you think you like someone, you need to get to know them. Her getting to know other people at the start, imo, shows that she is trying to actually get to know people, not just breeze through the villa.
Luca making fun of her for being emotion is so rude, when he gets mad and storms off at every moment. Tasha has opened up about being bullied, so I could imagine that knowing people don't like her, could be upsetting. I understand why people used to not like her, but I also think that she was very much bullied by people in the villa (luca.) Also, having a cochlear implant can take a lot out of a person. There is a constant buzzing/humming noise and it is so hard to pick up on tone, so I can see how she gets tired and just starts to cry at the end of the day.
exactly !! she is lovely
Really agree with this!! All the hate she got was so unjustified
Luca is terrifying- I can't believe the producers are determined to keep him in and are not doing anything about the misogynist behaviour, misogyny isn't entertainment, even worse his sister running his instagram seems determined to defend him and act like it's editing and we're all bullies for calling him out, I hope when he gets out he gets a stern talking to and Gemma runs as soon as she realises we don't like him
It's also interesting that the producers are trying so hard to make them seem like a popular couple, think he's in for a shock when he gets out and realises how many people aren't supportive of the relationship and the fact he got ofcom complaints
The fact that they tried to give Luca and Jacques favourable edits and they *still* look like POS is stunning tbh
I don’t see him and Gemma lasting on the outside, I think her “my mum’ll have to approve” line was her giving herself an out. Then again, her family let her date a 20/21 year old when she was doing her A-levels so. maybe they don’t have the best radar lmao
i think one of the reasons why luca may bully tasha is because tasha actually decided not to couple up with him in the first week or so and decided to stay with andrew instead and to luca he felt a little bit embarrassed and possible emasculated by tasha not choosing him and he probably thought that he could get anybody he wanted but tasha followed her heart and this hurt him and so he felt that he needed to humilate her "as much" as she had to him, like you said highlighting his insecurities
As an Aussie who lived in the UK for a while, I have to say I was shocked by the way a lot of men behaved in relation to myself and my friends. I had never been touched or crowded out in a threatening way before I lived in the UK. I was actually most shocked by the fact that in all of these scenarios, the men involved were with friends and none of their friends, in any instance, pulled their friends up. Not even when I was being physically crowded and having my hair pulled (yes, really).
Yeah sadly when you get touched in the club people will say, "You went to a club, what did you expect?" And in my experience guys never hold their friends accountable :/ It's very rare.
I definitely haven't heard about men in Australia being physically aggressive like this. But I have heard of the language being misogynistic, however. Like some Aussie women take issue with being called missus by their partner when he's just with his guy friends? And a lot of guys will crack jokes at the expense of a woman they don't know well but expect for it to be received positively because it's banter.
sadly men here don't grow out of the immature "lad" sexist behaviour until they're at least 30!
@@mooominpapa Can confirm. You're expected to just brush it off because it's part of our "laid back, take-a-joke" culture
What part of Australia do you live in, asking for a friend?
I'm spanish but lived in the UK for a long while, and dated English guys and these mysogynists double standards came as a strong shock to me because in my culture this behaviour is not as common. I remember a guy I was dating classifying girls he'd sleep with constantly as "easy", but then him being so "easy" himself that a girl he didn't know could straight kiss him and he would sleep with her. None of his mates ever labelled him as easy, but as a "fuckboy', but the girls were "easy". This annoyed the shit out of me tbf.
Love your content Jordan 🔥
Its WAY different for guys
being a black girl watching the show is painful lol
ever only have 1/2 black girls and they rarely get attention but will be the fittest one 😭
!! & even in the start when davide first entered the villa & had a chat w all the girls, it showed him speaking to 3 of them & not indiyah or amber. throughout this show it shows poc girls to be ‘2nd choice islanders’ in a way & not even in the competition w the others idk
@@mx9416 i also found it weird that the black people were almost always coupled up with other black people, amber/dami and indiyah/ikenna at the start and even in casa indiyah and dami coupled up with deji and summer
Ikr it's not fair it's like they're just here for having woc so love island isn't rasist 😭
you should check out the current season of love island usa!! The cast is so much more diverse and the energy in the villa is lovely :)
I’m a simple person, I see my queen I click
You’re the cringe
Ekin Su is an absolute gold mine of entertainment!! I hope she has a long lived and healthy career after this!
If you and Mina Le did a collab commentary video once I would fangirl so hard 😭💕
no no i would literally die!! 😭😭
i love them both!!!!
@@iwouldgiveyouthemoon_ JORDAN LIKED FSKSKS EVERYBODY STAY CALM 🤯🤯🤯
PLEASEEE
Not only would I die I would be deceased pass out and give them both a week of my pay (ok probs not but)
I think, as a suicide attempt survivor, any time someone tells me to #BeKind when I've correctly identified emotionally abusive behaviour in a public figure, I have the right to tell them to fuck off.
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I think the be kind thing controversy you were talking about can be clearly shown with Hugo Hammond, a lot of people are telling victims not to come out about how he’s treated them because it’s affecting his mental health, however he never thought about his victims mental health when he was treating them how he did
If we "be kind" to everyone constantly, how are we supposed to call out gross behaviour? How are people supposed to be accountable for THEIR own behaviour. It's such a cop out.
It's so funny how men with huge egos take pride in being "tough" and "thick skinned" yet constantly whine about women not handing them everything they want and fall apart at any criticisms. Own your crappy behavior, sincerely apologize, then you have a right to complain about people being mean on the internet (aside from threats, those are never okay). The patriarchy is eating itself.
I’ve seen so many people claim that Luca’s been given a “bad edit” and that’s there is 23 more hours in a day that we don’t see of him. This may be true, and I can’t claim to know much about how TV editing works, but the way I see it, the fact that Luca has demonstrated misogynistic behaviour wouldn’t change by seeing more of him. We have seen the way he has spoken to Tasha and Gemma, and unless the producers are literally editing his words, that is enough for me to see evidence of misogyny. Yes maybe he has some more likeable traits that have been edited out, but the bottom line is he has still demonstrated misogyny and bullying. We have seen it for ourselves. I’m sick of the UK public denying or supporting misogyny. It’s a bit of a different example but it reminds of how in Strictly, confident young women are always voted the least, even when they are incredibly good at dancing (see: Maisie Smith, Alexandra Burke, etc) whilst men that have half their ability are never in the bottom two.
The “we only see 1 hour” argument actually goes against these people’s points - the producers were so strapped for material that made him look like a decent guy that they had to leave in the red flags which they thought might be the least objectionable.
Wooow ADHD must be the new excuse for controlling/manipulative behaviour. Shane from Love is Blind said the same thing after the show aired....
Literally my friend was diagnosed so I understand how it can affect people but you can’t use it as an excuse for everything
Interesting! I have a severely ADHD friend and he has been taught as an adult how to treat women. Sadly, he didn't learn or know there was any other way to exist until he was taught by being 'cancelled' by our small community. Hope that one day subtle sexism and Man's historical power over women will be taught in schools. Sucks that so many men do not know and won't know unless they get a huge wake up call!
@@venusindior2787 it's a myth that men don't know. They know and they don't care. Their disrespectful behaviour towards women is calculated and premeditated
honestly the fact that the producers picked that meaningless clip with billy and gemma just shows that theyre using the insecurity and lack of masculinity amongst the boys for arguments and food for the viewer
I absolutely hate the movie night episode. Hated it last year and hated it this year. It just seems so lazy that the producers have to force drama by manipulating certain situations and showing contestants videos with little to no context.
I didn’t fully understand why Luca was fuming at Gemma since she didn’t actually do anything wrong, but at the same time I can understand that he feels insecure either a new partner and he’s being shown videos with no context. We’ve all been insecure about something or someone before, the difference is we didn’t have 30 cameras following our every move while being locked in a villa with no contact with anyone besides the people you live with.
I think they used that clip cos there's literally nothing else that Gemma has done that could be portrayed as being wrong towards Luca
grateful for this recap bc I’ve sadly fallen off and missed this season!
Honestly you didn't miss much. This season was really difficult to watch and made me really sad for Tasha :(
I have never seen such group of glaring red flags til this season. Every male contestant was soo deeply misogynistic that I genuinely don't care who wins. Not a single episode went by where I didn't scream out that all the women should just run!
this is why i’ve never watched love island and never will. it’s truly a representation of some of the worst types of people in the U.K. (aka rich people, influencers, image obsessed, silver spoons etc) i choose not to be around them irl, why on earth would i want to watch footage of them for fun?
One of the big issues with love Island this year for me is how evident it is that the producers have had WAAYYY too much involvement. The show is evidently becoming more of a badly scripted drama series, as opposed to the fun reality show it used to be. The producers seem dead set on forcing certain “moments” instead of just letting them play out naturally. One moment that stood out for me is when Dami recoupled after Casa and said “summer isn’t over, it’s just begun”….you could immediately tell that line had came straight out of a meeting room somewhere and they probably filmed it like 6 times before they were happy with it.
Another one that stood out was the weird recouplings from Casa. Dami, Indiyah, (maybe Tasha & Andrew). All seemingly in compatible couples in the villa but all randomly deciding to recouple, only to show virtually no interest in their new partners when they get back to the villa, and then return to their pre-casa couples. Almost as if the decision to recouple weren’t entirely theirs.
Agreed.
+ The separate boys and girls chat they have every morning where they talk about how slept, if any of them had any sexual activity through the night and then what they're gonna spend the next day doing is so obviously forced.
+ The public (aside from last night) never actually getting to chose which couple gets sent home. The public vote for who's in the bottom 2/3 but the couple who actually gets dumped is always left to the other islanders. The producers knows the islanders are just gonna choose to save the couple who's been on the show the longest because they're closer mates. It's obvious and boring.
All the reality shows are scripted af 🤦♀️🤣🙄, I've never been a love island fan . I don't have the patience to sit through it 🗑️.
She had a really good video about love island and the earlier seasons and how it was much more unfiltered but also worse for the contestants and their mental health and how the previous contestants and host killed themselves and all the like dark side stuff of it, i think thats why its more scripted
Just started but your analysis as always is 👩🍳💋! Love island is problematic in its own complicated way. This season has really proved how vicious the public is when given drama, while simultaneously being angered at episodes with no drama. There is no way to please audiences, which can be frustrating for producers
I have ADHD and struggle so much with public figures blaming their bad behaviour on having it. There’s a difference between struggling to regulate emotions and just being a bit of a shit person
Dami's comment "It's one rule for the guys and one rule for the girls"
Shows how misogynist he is.
I just want to protect Indiya from him.
honestly i disliked luca from episode one when his first comments to paige were about sex positions. it gave me red flags because he's just met her, why is he instantly asking her sexual things? a part of me also wonders if one of the reasons luca hates tasha so much is because she rejected him in favor of andrew in the first week (injuring his massively inflated ego, esp since it seems like he thinks andrew is the weak link of the boys). i definitely agree that he only picks on the people he thinks won't fight back, very icky behavior. he's been very hard to watch.
i genuinely cannot stand him
I don't want to dismiss the value of this video by saying this: but I love hearing you talk about the love island drama in the beginning SO MUCH! I feel like I'm hearing all the good high school drama from my big sister!
The movie night was so horrible to watch. The switch in attitudes the boys displayed between their clips and the girls was extremely uncomfortable as a viewer. I am sure Luca was asked to apologise to Tasha after, and I wouldn't call Dami's monologue an apology as he basically told Tasha she shouldn't be upset cause he didn't want her to be upset...couldn't even must a sorry. Dami's reaction to Summer standing up for herself was terrible, and Jacques' outburst at Paige (where Billy stayed to try keep him cool) was horrible too. The season has been ruined by the imposing behaviour these boys have displayed throughout, and I hope young girls watching recognise these are not actions to put up with.
i love how the producers solution to all people mad about the misogyny we’re seeing is by forcing the men to start doing shit for the girls LMFAO no way they just out of nowhere had the idea to start pampering these girls with massages, spa days, special brunches… 💀
I have to disagree with what was said at 15:09, it is outright misogynistic, just the more covert benevolent sexism that fuels it.
Yes, some people may prefer having partners that are quieter; however, based on Jacques hostile sexism throughout his stay it makes sense that the more insidious benevolent sexism would come out when he said he liked her more because she’s “quieter”.
exactly !
I always thought he preferred Cheyanne over Mollie because Cheyenne’s seemingly more quiet demure is an opportunity for Jacques to manipulate. In his eyes, Mollie is perceived as a girl who would talk back to him and not take any of his crap, whereas Cheyanne wouldn’t talk back and let him get away with his behaviour.
I’m not saying Cheyanne is actually like this because we didn’t see much of her, but that’s how I interpreted Jacques’ attitude towards Mollie and Cheyanne
i loved gemma she was so much more mature than the other islanders despite being the youngest and her confidence to shut down ppl she wanted nothing to do with him
Can we pls have Tasha win so she can get financial compensation for being mercilessly bullied for two months
She’s said she’s going to donate her half of the money if she wins to a deaf children’s charity 💕
@@lolablake9196 a whole video essay on her getting bullied and she’s supporting the deaf.. icon ✨💕🥳
@@nolan-zs5mc not sure if you know but she is also deaf!
Lucca having a go at Tasha when she was full on crying really wound me up.
i'm not from the UK or watch love island, so the lack of introduction to the contestants (with pictures/videos of them) made this a hard video to follow (because it was a lot of names listed and then maybe a few clips). its a very interesting subject and you do tell it very well! i just needed more visual guidance. :)
I'm from the UK and don't watch this. And honestly had no idea what anything or was
glad i wasn't the only one. Usually when a video has a lot of people/names involved and people look really similar it can be hard to keep up.
me too it feels like when your sibling comes back from college and is telling you all the drama but you literally don't know anything or anyone they're talking about😭
ah i’m sorry about this !! i’ll try and use more visual aid next time i just have to be careful cause of copyright xx
@@jordanatheresa i have the same problem but honestly even just a flow chart of who's coupling up with who while you're saying it would've been massively helpful!!
Let's not forget how the boys were laughing after seeing coco and tasha crying and obviously feeling so upset because of andrew, and the fact that he kept feeding them lies and bs all time.
They ( the boys) even defended andrew and kept excusing his behavior. but would always call a girl " fake" for just TALKING to another boy.. like the double standards actually made me sick.
Thank you!!! The boys these season are so unhinged!!! It made it hard to watch.
dami telling summer to shut up will NEVER leave my mind how was anything her fault
You just know that Luca's sister enables his behaviour.
Her comment gives such pickme energy
Luca and Jacques’ families both gave big “🥺 don’t pick on our baby” energy.
@@rosieo5875 lollll😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣
Back when we needed her most
Yessss and not to mention Luca’s treatment of Danica, who hardly had any time in there before needing to recouple, choosing him!
Watching the family episode it is clear to me more than ever that the producers stepped in with Luca and Dami. Luca straight up asked his parents about his behaviour with Tash. Clearly sees this as a defining moment of his season.
So I watched this season while it was airing but I’m just watching this video for the first time, and it’s bringing back all the memories of how upset the mistreatment of Tasha made me!! As someone who struggles with vulnerability and committing, I related a lot with Tasha in the beginning of the season. She received so much hate for simply not catching real feelings for Andrew as quickly as he did for her. It seemed so unfair to me!! Tasha stan for life!!
I have been watching this season of love island and have found it increasingly triggering to watch to be honest. I just finished my first year at uni, and got into a friendship group that was 5 men and 3 women (myself included). At first everything was great, but things started slipping slowly, with one guy in particular constantly criticising and demonising me and my female friends for our actions under the guise of sticking up for his 'boys'. My friend was evil for kissing someone who wasn't her boyfriend after he got her blackout drunk and initiated it. Most especially, two of our friends are dating, and when men hit on the girl in that relationship she is placed to be at fault for wearing revealing clothing/ 'being flirty' even though the idea of disloyalty clearly makes her super uncomfortable.
My experience of being targeted by this misogynistic bullying has been slightly different as I am not dating within my friendship group, but it's definitely still there. I get shut down and talked over in conversations with them, and when I took issue with the ringleader referring to potential girlfriends in an objectifying way I was apparently being sensitive and not getting the joke. They antagonised me for a friends sexual assault regardless of the fact I was sexually assulted by the same man and had no idea what was happening until the day after. They call me out for being in a society that has 'problematic' people (not really, and I don't agree or condone these people's opinions), and then take part in toxic rugby and lad culture excusing the bigotry of their own friends. And when I have tried to talk to the less culpable men they push the narrative that I'm sensitive and overreacting. Unfortunately I'm the only girl in our group that seems to be bothered to call them out, henceforth I am the target.
What love island had made me realise is that although I have recently swept my own friends behaviour under the rug, I and my female friends deserve better. Seeing the targeting that people like tasha and ekin especially go through makes me angry because I understand how it feels to be ganged up on by toxic bullying men. I think that the issue is that men live in an echo chamber; the 'good' ones never hold their fellows accountable, and the bad ones only look for judgement from each other. In order to create a better environment for women we need to actively show in media and just generally that this aggravated misogyny is not something to be accepted.
“Your a liar, actress” this season was so funny aswell omg
The worst part about Luca’s behaviour is that he won’t change, Gemma will stay with him and the public voted them second. Just gross
i’m so in love with this hair on you x
frr
another manipulation from Jax was when he wrote that message, it was soooo manipulative to write a 'love letter' to keep a lady that you've purposefully mistreated
That hair colour really suits you! I never watch this show but I find it so interesting when u analyse our society lol
The fact that I didn’t question the way the boys were acting towards the girls until others pointed it out makes me realise how accepted it is by society, thank you for the awesome vid, always love when you bring a new one out! Xx
THANK YOU for making this - you've managed to eloquently vocalise every thought i've had this season
I have been waiting for this one!! This season has been really uncomfortable to watch
Bringing it back to the lack of friendships this season, I really felt this whenever Luca, Dami or Jacques would act terribly in front of the girls they coupled up with. Gemma and Tasha are 'great friends' and yet Gemma would sit by while Luca was awful to her? In no way is his behaviour her responsibility, but I would have loved for the other girls to hold them accountable for their actions. Even when Dami called Summer fake and told her to shut up, Indiyah just laid on the daybed next to him like it was nothing... I'm not sure if it's different in the UK compared to Australia, but I really felt like there was no solidarity between the women when it came to calling out toxic behaviour
i have a theory that the reason why luca hates tasha so much is because she literally pied him in the first week. he started grafting to tasha first before gemma and when she chose andrew he's been so salty to her ever since. Its obvious hes just bitter and jealous
I also think it's hypocritical how Luca picks on Tasha for being upset about being in the bottom of the public vote, while he himself got very angry later on when the other islanders voted for him and Gemma as one of the least compatible couples
As someone who had to make the decision to stop watching Love Island, specifically because of Dami and Luca (specifically Luca’s) behaviour and how triggering it was for me, I hope that both sides of their pillows are always warm and that their spoons always bend when they eat ice cream ☺️
I have been waiting WEEKS for you to do a video on this. THANK YOU JORDAN!
The villain edit paige is getting is also so garbage. The amount of hate she got for being mistreated by Jacques and taking him back when eventually all the girls did the same is crazy.
I feel so bad for her, I just hope she leaves him. I love the support girls are giving her.
She is the one who is playing the “pick me girl” too. I hated the way she got so much hate for being mistreated by Jacques but it was revealed that she treated other girls shitty. That’s fucked up:( ps: all the girls deserve better than these dirty boys but Paige is not the nicest person.
@@roccobogi154 The thing is, all those girls said when they left the villa they were friends with Paige.
Coco only heard some stuff second hand and never said Paige bullied her and Nathalia brought up a comment (which in my opinion didn’t sound mean) that she thought could possibly be passive aggressive from Paige’s side since she left the island and seen all the comments about her.
A lot of the same girls think Luca didn’t bully Tasha and are defending him 🤷🏻♀️
@@treasanealon6141 on the show though her attitude towards danica was gross. It was on TV!
@@treasanealon6141 Islanders usually close ranks when they come out - they know that the best PR move for them to come out looking (vaguely) classy is to keep everything as private as possible, otherwise they’ll just look like clout chasers. Paige was quite rude to and about Danica/Nathalia, which we were able to see on screen, and she’s generally been a bit “eye-rolly” at Ekin-Su and at other girls at various points.
That said, Paige also gets a massive and very disproportionate amount of hate, specifically because she *didn’t* either take Jacques back “properly” or leave when he left.
21:23 'For reference Billy is the man dressed up as a wetherspoon plate.' AHH this made me almost spit my drink out laughing. Love Island as a show relies on heteronormativity and in the UK that often means lad culture/ chasing birds I.e. women and seeing them as trophies. :(
there is such a hypocritical part to the be kind movement. it only ever extends to toxic people on the show, and people that say it will gladly make a post on a forum saying how much that they dislike a contestant.
As much as I enjoyed aspects of this season (particularly Ekinde and Tandrew) I can’t shift the feeling of frustration I have due to all the misogyny never being called out by the girls in the villa. I was constantly yearning for the girls to call out the boys, have each other’s backs and give the boys a thorough dressing down over their behaviour and it just never happened! I would be yelling at my screen like “are you mad? You deserve better than this shitty treatment from him!” And I can’t help feeling like these boys just got to shit on the girls and then walk away with zero consequences and it’s left me fuming. Also as a fellow fringe girl I understand the struggle but don’t worry you look gorgeous!
Another aspect of the whole bekind situation which a lot of people for some reason are not realising is the fact that in the end of the day these people are fully grown adults who have chosen to put themselves in the harsh spotlight of media, fully aware of the consequences that will arise from it. If you know you have bad mental health and that critisism for your own actions will cause a further dent in it, be kind to yourself and avoid finding love on a bloody tv show where you will be forced to face words and abuse from people online. If you aren't adult enough to realise that the internet is a cruel place with every type of opinion from all across the country, then you aren't adult enough to be blasted right into the middle of it all. It's sad how I realise this and am younger than all the contestants on the show AND I have ADHD which makes it even better 😭
man this is better thought out than any of my school essays 💀
It's not cool to blame the victim
I've reallt struggled to get back into Love Island after this season, and I didn't realise why until you talked about how hard it was to get through the Love Island omnibus.
I think this season burned me out on Love Island 'cause it was so hard to see these beautiful, smart, accomplished women be treated so horribly. They''d call out the guys' behaviour and the guys would just gang up on them
My thing was always that how Luca treated Tasha and everyone else and how happy he got when they were upset should be a signal to Gemma that if they ever have a conflict he will treat her the exact same way. I like the giant smile on his face when something upset someone was disgusting. She hast to know that if that's the kind of person he is he'll treat her the exact same way
luca is such a hypocrite saying that if he was in that position he wouldn’t care yet in tonight’s episode he literally exploded 😭
You and your bf doing the Love Island ad is pure poetry 👌 ✨️
(I don't watch LI but have been following the commentary on misogyny and very here for your take.)
I've never tuned into Love Island and it's purely because I hate promoting 'disposable relationships' and horrendous behaviour. I find it so wrong so I'm excited to hear all your thoughts about this haha
I only watch it through commentary channels
The fact that this behaviour is so normalised and what we "should expect" when dating is concerning. A lot of people model this behaviour without realising.
@@scienceplease6845 That’s why so many women decide to stay single now
@@bekcha4170 yes because women are aware of that behaviour and don't want to be on the receiving end. Hope this helps.
@@scienceplease6845 Helps what? I just wanted to add to your comment 😅 I’m a woman myself, and this is also one of the reasons why I decided to stay single. So I’m perfectly aware of why other women do that too haha
the intro montage ending w the guy pulling up his shirt and smiling is hilarious to me and you can’t tell me otjerwise
Have I watched this season of Love Island? No. Have I finished any season of Love Island? No. Am I watching this video and getting extremely invested in people I've never heard of? Absolutely.
Ive been eating UPPPPP the love island video essays and im not even britsh😭😭 broey deschanel also has an amazing video essay on love island and the psicology behind surveilled flirtation that i highly highly recommend!!
George, the boy who shared a bed w Ekin Su in Casa, actually came out and said that nothing actually happened in bed and that it was just the producers trying to make some drama.
am absolutely living for this love island analysis as a fellow brit, and side note that’s not a messy fringe you look fit as you always do ??? not fair
living in ireland, so many young guys act like this. completely disrespect women and their girlfriends but get so in their feelings whenever they feel slighted in any way.
Honestly davide is worse than luca and dami but nobody ever calls him out. He gets away with murder bc funny italian man. The way he treats his girlfriend is AWFUL and he's just as shitty to the other girls
Wait, what did he do? I only watch this show through commentary channels, and besides going for 19 y.o he didn’t seem too bad (toxic obviously, but nothing extreme for that show)
I'm probably forgetting some things but could you provide some examples? All I remember from early season Davide is the "you're a liar, an actress"
Murder??
I really don't think Davide is worse than Luca and Dami, like he just says that he doesn't really trust Ekin-Su which is reasonable based on the way their situation has played out. He definitely hasn't stuck his nose in other people's business and bullied people the way Luca has
Nah I fully disagree I don't see how Davide could be conceived as worse than Luca? He got angry once/twice but quite justifiably the way Ekin was, but I think they were the strongest couple for most the season.
I don't even watch this show but I love your commentary
this year has actually been so hard to watch at times, I wonder how the cast will respond when they get out
I’m literally 2 minutes in right now while on the treadmill and I can’t get over how good your hair color looks on you. You’re hair color evolution is chef’s kiss bb
“Man dressed as a Wetherspoons plate” 😂 SO accurate 😂
didn’t luca’s head turn for ekin-su? I remember him making constant sexual remarks about her to the other boys and in the confession room/beach hut. Probably why he hated her so much when she rejected him 😭
I'm just surprised that people even expected better from the producers and the show. The entire show itself is based on toxic relationships, misogyny and insecurity. I understand going into this show knowing it's going to be a dumpster fire but actually holding the creators to any form of standard is insane!
Great job on the video btw, super interesting!
i feel like both young male and female friend groups have this mentality of putting each other first and sticking up for each other as a way to avoid the vulnerabilities that come with relationships. however, when they meet an s/o they care for, girls usually drop this type of thinking and focus on their partner while the boys still cling to their friends' validation.
Thats such a good definition I hadn't heard before but I feel like I have seen that in my lifetime
I dont watch love island at all (like not even once) but this was so entertaining to watch. The way you said “now that I’ve given you a back story” with hope, even-though i forgot everything about it in 0.2 milliseconds was HELLA FUNNY